Speaker 1: It's Mojo in the morning show.
Speaker 2: I want to do a holiday topic here since we've
Speaker 2: kind of got the holiday mood going here right now,
Speaker 2: I feel like we need a fireplace here to.
Speaker 1: Kind of Amazon.
Speaker 3: You should anna, we should put it on one of
Speaker 3: these screens in here, like have like a yeah, you
Speaker 3: know how you can have the crackling logs out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I actually do that on my Comcast. I have
Speaker 2: it there, the fake the fake fire there and can
Speaker 2: do that. That's fire too. It is pretty cool. So
Speaker 2: I want to talk about I want to talk about
Speaker 2: the holidays. So last night we uh facetimed with Jacob
Speaker 2: and Chris, Jacob's boyfriend, to get the final word on
Speaker 2: what he's doing for the holidays, and Chelse and I
Speaker 2: got the final word on how our Thanksgiving and Christmas
Speaker 2: is going to be. And I gotta be honest with you,
Speaker 2: I'm kind of bummed about this whole time. And it's
Speaker 2: and then it's not because of Jacob and Chris. I mean, listen,
Speaker 2: Joe and Alyssa also had to make decisions too. So
Speaker 2: our kids are at the age where we have grown
Speaker 2: kids that have grown relationships. Joe is engaged, He's going
Speaker 2: to get married in a year. Jacob and Chris they
Speaker 2: live together in sin No, but they're going to hopefully
Speaker 2: get married sometime. I'd love to see Chris become part
Speaker 2: of our family. He already is right now, but they
Speaker 2: are making decisions on where they're spending the holidays. So
Speaker 2: Thanksgiving and Christmas has always been the time where we
Speaker 2: literally would get together as a family, and we would
Speaker 2: try to keep it to just the five of us,
Speaker 2: and occasionally what I would do is invite a million
Speaker 2: people from the radio stations and join us. But I
Speaker 2: never would really bring Chelsea's family in or my family
Speaker 2: in for holidays. I think we did it a few times,
Speaker 2: and then we decided that it was just going to
Speaker 2: be us because of the kids. We wanted to kind
Speaker 2: of focus on them. And if anybody wanted to come
Speaker 2: or really mess like grandparents and stuff, wanted to come,
Speaker 2: absolutely they can come, but we kind of just focused
Speaker 2: on us. Now we are orphaned. We are orphaned parents
Speaker 2: because Joe and Alissa are going to spend Thanksgiving together
Speaker 2: in Florida. Jacob and Chris are going to join us
Speaker 2: for Thanksgiving or be part of our Thanksgiving here, So
Speaker 2: it's gonna be cool, we get Chris for the first time.
Speaker 1: But because of that, Jacob and Chris.
Speaker 2: Had to make the decision that Christmas They're going to
Speaker 2: spend with Chris's family in.
Speaker 1: The Chicago area.
Speaker 2: Joe and Alissa are going to spend Christmas with us,
Speaker 2: so it didn't match that both of them could match
Speaker 2: at the same time.
Speaker 1: And I think you're not going to have all three
Speaker 1: for any holiday.
Speaker 2: No, and then there's poor Luke who but Luke is
Speaker 2: with us no matter what until he gets done with
Speaker 2: college and gets into a relationship, you know what I mean.
Speaker 4: Would you prefer they both came for one of them
Speaker 4: so everyone could be together.
Speaker 2: I don't know what's better than you know. It's funny, Anna,
Speaker 2: I don't know what is better. I think that honestly,
Speaker 2: I would I probably would rather have it because I
Speaker 2: think what I would do is at that moment then
Speaker 2: I would probably see what Luke wanted to do and
Speaker 2: let him pick whatever he wanted to do for the
Speaker 2: holiday that they couldn't be at.
Speaker 3: I'm telling you it's better how it is now, Do
Speaker 3: you think so? Because I have spent Christmas mornings by
Speaker 3: myself and it's not it's depressing it's so it's very depressed. Really,
Speaker 3: it's very hard because so at least you have you know, one,
Speaker 3: you will you have two. At least you always have
Speaker 3: two the three.
Speaker 2: See, I look at Thanksgiving as a throwaway, but it's Christmas.
Speaker 2: It's a Thanksgiving like Christmas to me because it's about
Speaker 2: you know, it's not just about it's not about Santa
Speaker 2: Claus in our family, it's about, you know, the birth
Speaker 2: of Christ. But I also like the idea that you
Speaker 2: wake up and you get two days because you get
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 1: Thanksgiving is just one day.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 2: But so, and it's funny bring this up because now
Speaker 2: I'm thinking about it, I'm like, maybe it would be
Speaker 2: cool if we could match them up and match them
Speaker 2: on the same time. But I want to ask this question,
Speaker 2: when did you stop spending the holidays together as a family,
Speaker 2: And then at what point is it acceptable to kind
Speaker 2: of like rotate and do this Because I actually said
Speaker 2: to ChEls, I go, you know what, they're both not
Speaker 2: married yet, and I kept and being with my family
Speaker 2: until you and I got married. Yeah, and I think
Speaker 2: that that you know, maybe you still you go to
Speaker 2: each other's families until you get married.
Speaker 1: I know, But they're basically both married, well not really,
Speaker 1: I mean they're fornicating, you know, their long.
Speaker 4: Term relationships engagements.
Speaker 1: But still though, it's like you go to your family,
Speaker 1: the families.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I think things changed in my family when the
Speaker 6: ogs start getting older. Like my aunt Penny and my
Speaker 6: Grandma Roof were the foundation for our families. Both are
Speaker 6: still alive, but they've gotten older and the energy level
Speaker 6: isn't the same as it used to be, so they
Speaker 6: would wrangle everyone up. They would host Thanksgiving would always
Speaker 6: be an Auntie pennyhouse, Christmas would always be at grandma house.
Speaker 6: And at a certain point in time they got older
Speaker 6: and nobody start going.
Speaker 3: I agree with you when both of my grandma's passed away.
Speaker 3: I never met my grandfather's, but when both of my
Speaker 3: grandma's passed away, they were truly the matriarchs that did
Speaker 3: the holidays and kept everybody coming in into town and
Speaker 3: getting together, and you knew, you know, your plans for
Speaker 3: the holidays, and everybody was together always like.
Speaker 1: I want it.
Speaker 2: I've been wanting for the last five years to sell
Speaker 2: our house, and I've always been talked out of it
Speaker 2: by the kids because they're like, you can't sell our
Speaker 2: family house. Where will we spend the holidays? Well, guess
Speaker 2: what where are we going to spend the holiday? And honestly,
Speaker 2: it's at a point I like, I don't want to
Speaker 2: be the be a dick in this whole thing, but
Speaker 2: part of me is like put the for sale sign
Speaker 2: in front of the freaking thing, you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: Because but it gets down and I feel bad for
Speaker 2: Luke because then we called Luke up and we told Luke, hey,
Speaker 2: Jacob's not coming. Should we just then say to Joe
Speaker 2: and Alyssa, Hey, you know you guys stay down in Florida.
Speaker 2: Will just come down to you guys and stuff in.
Speaker 2: Poor Luke's like, I want my house, you know what
Speaker 2: I mean? I want that. I know I'm the baby
Speaker 2: of the family, and I tell you, tell you what, Yeah,
Speaker 2: And you know, traditions and families go through, they evolve,
Speaker 2: and you don't necessarily get a chance to enjoy like
Speaker 2: what you're alt. You know, older siblings got to, like
Speaker 2: my older siblings got to have our family together for
Speaker 2: a longer time than I got, you know, because my
Speaker 2: dad got remarried when I was in high school and
Speaker 2: then sold our family house and.
Speaker 6: I lived with my sisters for high school. And it's
Speaker 6: also like, I feel like Luke doesn't have a say
Speaker 6: so anything. He just has to deal with whatever, but
Speaker 6: everyone else's.
Speaker 2: Decision is Honestly, Chelsea gives him a pretty good say
Speaker 2: so though, well.
Speaker 6: I mean like in terms of will Jacob come in,
Speaker 6: will yes, you know, jokes like he just hasked to
Speaker 6: deal with whatever is.
Speaker 4: Not Everyone wants you to be like the fun one, like, oh,
Speaker 4: you're the one that's there. So all the aunts and
Speaker 4: uncles are like, we all want to talk to you,
Speaker 4: and it's like, oh my god.
Speaker 2: You know what Luke was concerned with. You know, this
Speaker 2: was Luc's biggest concern. He wants to be in Michigan
Speaker 2: for New Year's because he's like.
Speaker 1: I am.
Speaker 2: He goes, I'm not spending New Year's with my parents
Speaker 2: because we were last year we went down to Florida
Speaker 2: right after Christmas and he was like, I am not
Speaker 2: New New Year's and with what's up Charity High.
Speaker 7: So my comment is that I have only one child
Speaker 7: and he is in the army, so I cannot spend
Speaker 7: as many holidays as I would like to do with him,
Speaker 7: especially since he is in Hawaii.
Speaker 2: Oh, although that would be a nice thing. You should
Speaker 2: go to Hawaii.
Speaker 1: How do we get Yeah, we charity.
Speaker 2: First off, thank you for raising a brave young man
Speaker 2: that is serving for our country and we're saluting him.
Speaker 1: But get to Hawaii and go see him. How can
Speaker 1: we get you to Hawaii?
Speaker 8: I do get to go see him for Christmas. We
Speaker 8: are going to travel and spend some base with him.
Speaker 1: So that's good that those circumstances are tough.
Speaker 2: I always feel for the families where dads are mom's
Speaker 2: not home for the holidays because they're serving in our military.
Speaker 1: What's up, Teresa?
Speaker 7: Yes, my dad is eighty nine, my mom is eighty six.
Speaker 9: I have five.
Speaker 8: So at Christmas we have to rent a hall.
Speaker 7: So we can put everybody together.
Speaker 8: There's like ninety seven of us, maybe a little bit more.
Speaker 7: We have those eight foot tables that are just nothing
Speaker 7: but packed with food.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, are you guys Italian?
Speaker 9: Wow?
Speaker 7: No, no, we're not Italian.
Speaker 8: I have to get two turkeys, twenty pound turkeys. Would
Speaker 8: you about forty pounds?
Speaker 7: You have two big hams?
Speaker 2: Teresa, will you take it Chelsea, Luke and I for Christmas?
Speaker 1: That's fine.
Speaker 5: I will.
Speaker 1: Is dinner Oh my god, be careful. Our listeners will
Speaker 1: show us dinner always so early on holiday because you
Speaker 1: want leftovers, I know, but like, like two is really early.
Speaker 1: I see four.
Speaker 2: Maybe Hannah has a thought on this one, Hannah, what's
Speaker 2: your thought?
Speaker 1: Good morning?
Speaker 9: I think that if you're not married, you stay at
Speaker 9: home with your family, Okay, engage maybe, Like I feel
Speaker 9: a little different about maybe Joe because you engaged, But
Speaker 9: if you're not married, and how we me and my
Speaker 9: husband got engaged. I spent Christmas with my family and
Speaker 9: Thanksgiving with mine and he's spent it there. I think
Speaker 9: it it's like that work up for when you do
Speaker 9: get married.
Speaker 1: Then you get there. I agree.
Speaker 9: I just feel like.
Speaker 1: I do you want to be with your future.
Speaker 2: Honestly and honestly I do think that you know that,
Speaker 2: Like I feel bad that Chris is not going to
Speaker 2: be with his parents on Thanksgiving or Alyssa on Christmas,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, Like.
Speaker 1: It's one last one to be from here on out.
Speaker 1: But I think it's one last one. No, you know
Speaker 1: what it's going to end up happening.
Speaker 2: I think I think they're going to have their own
Speaker 2: Christmas and we all will end up going to them
Speaker 2: or something. You know, we'll pick families to go to.
Speaker 6: I don't think you have to wait, though, Like I
Speaker 6: don't think my love should be you know, level of
Speaker 6: love should be determined in a way. Because I've proposed
Speaker 6: to you, you can be in a long term, committed relationship.
Speaker 6: You can identify that this is your person, this is
Speaker 6: who you want to spend those christ happy family time
Speaker 6: moments with. And just because I haven't close you means
Speaker 6: like I can't go with you and spin my family.
Speaker 2: I gotta go to my Well, you've been forn a
Speaker 2: canie with women for your long time, so.
Speaker 1: I gotta do it.
Speaker 2: We're talking about stephan Turkeys. Can I be honest with you?
Speaker 2: You know who's gonna win. Whichever kid ends up going
Speaker 2: and getting pregnant first and having a kid, whoever has
Speaker 2: the first grandkids is going to be the ones that Erica,
Speaker 2: what's up?
Speaker 4: Well?
Speaker 1: God, please know what's going on?
Speaker 7: Erica da Kai Okay?
Speaker 8: Well, two things you had mentioned earlier that Christmas is,
Speaker 8: you know, your favorite holiday, and I agree. I mean,
Speaker 8: I enjoyed Christmas. It's very important, but I think Thanksgiving
Speaker 8: is much better because there's no expectations, meaning you know,
Speaker 8: no gifts, nothing to worry about, but just kind of
Speaker 8: bringing your food. And the other thing I wanted to
Speaker 8: mention is once we had our son, it was really
Speaker 8: hard to juggle all the holidays because he was the
Speaker 8: first grandson on my husband's side. So now what we
Speaker 8: do is we rotate every Thanksgiving. And I come from
Speaker 8: a very large family, his family is small, and then
Speaker 8: every Christmas Eve is at my in law's house, after
Speaker 8: Christmas Day is at my side of the family. It
Speaker 8: was difficult in the beginning, but we're making it work.
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's so there's so many dynamics.
Speaker 1: It's tough.
Speaker 2: I think of my my sisters were really struggled with
Speaker 2: the fact that I have not spent a Christmas with
Speaker 2: them in so many years because I chose where we
Speaker 2: were living in Arizona, and I chose that we were
Speaker 2: going to stay as a family in Arizona, and then
Speaker 2: when we came to Detroit, we stayed in Detroit and
Speaker 2: stuff like that. So I get it, you know, And
Speaker 2: I think, honestly, I think the guy's family always loses out.
Speaker 2: And guess what, I got three boys, So I think
Speaker 2: we are losing.
Speaker 1: What's up, Taylor, Hey, Mojoe, how are you guys? Good?
Speaker 1: Is this Taylor from Light House Sixteriors? This is what's
Speaker 1: going on morning.
Speaker 5: I'm with keV on this one. Right when grandparents get older,
Speaker 5: we lost it and there's too many people, too much
Speaker 5: food to cook. She's like my house anymore. This is
Speaker 5: getting too big, too out of way. So I'm with Kevin. Now,
Speaker 5: that's how my family was.
Speaker 2: It's sad though, that that our grandparents in that generation
Speaker 2: had to keep things together as a family. Like we
Speaker 2: have to be able to step up and do it
Speaker 2: for our families too, Like I think we have to
Speaker 2: demand like as as whatever thirty forty somethings, fifty somethings,
Speaker 2: we have to demand that family is important and where Yeah,
Speaker 2: and we have to be able to say that because
Speaker 2: here's the problem. That generation did it because that's how
Speaker 2: they were raised. The problem is we don't do that
Speaker 2: because we're like, well, you know, we got phones and
Speaker 2: cameras astract.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I was so happy yesterday.
Speaker 6: My cousin Gerard, whose mom is I'm pining at our
Speaker 6: referenced earlier that maintained that things given tradition takes me.
Speaker 6: Yesterday it was like we're having things given at my house,
Speaker 6: just like old time, tell everybody everybody's coming.
Speaker 1: I'm so excited, that's all. I cannot wait.
Speaker 2: And you know what, You're going to give that to
Speaker 2: Josiah and now he's gonna look at that.
Speaker 6: As Josiah's mom text me yesterday said they might get
Speaker 6: a flight to Atlanta to go to things and I
Speaker 6: was gonna bring out m later.
Speaker 1: That so hard crushed me. I feel you. You want
Speaker 1: to take Luke's good