Speaker 1: All right, it is Mojo in the morning. I got
Speaker 1: a topic that I want to bring up, and I
Speaker 1: want to ask listeners just to weigh in on this.
Speaker 1: And if you have a question to add to this,
Speaker 1: once you hear me get going, feel free to call in.
Speaker 1: You have an open airways right now. And Lydia, if
Speaker 1: a text call me to nine five five zero zero,
Speaker 1: that means they're on point with what we're talking about here.
Speaker 1: Here's the topic. Is it cheating? All right, let's weigh
Speaker 1: in a little bit here on this one. Is it
Speaker 1: cheating if I let a gay bestie see me naked?
Speaker 2: No, no, she's not even into you.
Speaker 1: What if he's by or she's by?
Speaker 3: I actually want to ask Wes that questions as I'm
Speaker 3: on a group convo right now with my two gay
Speaker 3: besties and.
Speaker 4: Wes absolutely if they buy, if they're oh, if they're by's.
Speaker 3: But that's not what you ask, all right?
Speaker 1: Is it cheating if I have a sex dream about
Speaker 1: another girl or guy depending on.
Speaker 4: Can control your dreams unless you pray for the dream,
Speaker 4: where sometimes I do before I go, you have prayed
Speaker 4: to have a dream, I'd be like Wednes, let me
Speaker 4: have I've be praying for a certain dreams you want,
Speaker 4: so you actually will literally say I want to have
Speaker 4: a dream.
Speaker 1: About blah blah blah.
Speaker 4: Yep, wow, I pray for how long I want to sleep,
Speaker 4: how I want the rest to feel when I wake up?
Speaker 1: That starting these four hours make you feel like forty? Absolutely?
Speaker 1: What about you, Shannon? What do you think on that one?
Speaker 4: Is it?
Speaker 2: I think a dream would ever constitute cheating?
Speaker 1: Agreed? So it's so you're subconscious.
Speaker 2: I just I don't know.
Speaker 3: I dream about stuff that I would never ever want
Speaker 3: to happen.
Speaker 4: Have you ever been conscious in a dream though, like you,
Speaker 4: you had the ability to make decisions even though you
Speaker 4: knew you were in a dream.
Speaker 1: Have you ever had that happen? I don't don't necessarily
Speaker 1: know what you're talking about.
Speaker 4: So I say, say you're in a dream, but you
Speaker 4: have consciousness like you're in a dream. You realize you're
Speaker 4: dreaming that happen. You know that you will wake up,
Speaker 4: So everything that's taken place in the dream is in reality.
Speaker 4: But you're able to make decisions like you're conscious in
Speaker 4: the dream. You never had that? That's list the matrix.
Speaker 1: Usually it's a bad.
Speaker 2: Dream, exactly. Yes, I'm like, this is going to be okay,
Speaker 2: you're going to You're going to wake up.
Speaker 1: Is it cheating? If I let a guy in front
Speaker 1: of me in Lyne at Starbucks pay for my drink,
Speaker 1: you're just a whore? Is that thing?
Speaker 5: Is?
Speaker 1: Our listeners probably agree with you? I mean I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't think it's right. But is it?
Speaker 2: Actually?
Speaker 1: What about drinks out a bar too?
Speaker 2: I wouldn't call that cheating.
Speaker 1: So what's what's cheating?
Speaker 2: Maybe not right?
Speaker 1: It is flirting?
Speaker 6: Cheating flirting, I say absolute.
Speaker 4: So if you know that he's flirting with you by
Speaker 4: buying you a drink, how is that not cheating?
Speaker 2: Well, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Though maybe would be like, oh, that's so kind of you.
Speaker 1: I'm in a relationship. But if you really want to
Speaker 1: if if the guy then says or the you know, like,
Speaker 1: if this is happening, say this happens to my wife
Speaker 1: or whatever, and if the guy says, hey, let's sit
Speaker 1: down and enjoy it together, well absolutely, then then that
Speaker 1: would scare me. But if somebody buys it is basically
Speaker 1: the paid forward right.
Speaker 2: When you first asked it, And that's why I was like, no.
Speaker 1: His intention is flirting with you, and then how about
Speaker 1: if it's in your car where it happens in the
Speaker 1: drive through and then he follows you home. Now I'm
Speaker 1: just kidding, I'm just having that. Is it cheating? If
Speaker 1: I follow my ex on Instagram just to see what
Speaker 1: they're up to, it's not cheating, but it is improper.
Speaker 3: Behavior though, and stop doing it because you're just making
Speaker 3: yourself crazy.
Speaker 4: That's cheating and you like him a little bit? Stih,
Speaker 4: Why is it so definitive for you, Lydia?
Speaker 5: Because I've dated guys who will follow girls on Instagram
Speaker 5: while we're in a relationship, and I think that is
Speaker 5: a choundary and that's cheating.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think it's interesting though that sometimes you just
Speaker 1: want to see if they're doing bad like you want
Speaker 1: to you want that, or you're hoping that they're doing bad,
Speaker 1: like you know, Kevin, praise for good sleep. We pray
Speaker 1: for our access to have. By the way, when Kevin
Speaker 1: says it's not cheating, but it reminded me of it's
Speaker 1: not illegal.
Speaker 2: It's frowned upon, like masturbating on an airplane.
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, that's what it sounded like. OK, this is
Speaker 1: a good one, is it cheating. Oh, this is bad.
Speaker 1: This is bad because is it cheating if I talk
Speaker 1: to a co worker about problems in my relationship?
Speaker 4: No, no, as long as you don't have your your
Speaker 4: penis out.
Speaker 1: But there's a lot of times where you're giving out
Speaker 1: too much information.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you have to be very careful because that can
Speaker 3: snowball very quickly.
Speaker 1: My therapist Dennis thinks it's not proper.
Speaker 2: Agree, is proper not cheating?
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's probably not good for your relationship not cheating.
Speaker 1: It can open door.
Speaker 4: I think that's where it's at because if y'all build
Speaker 4: an emotional connections, y'all, let's go out for drinks and
Speaker 4: talk about our problems and one thing leads to another.
Speaker 1: This next one. And by the way, I want to
Speaker 1: hear some of yours, and you guys ask us your
Speaker 1: questions about is it cheating whatever? Maybe from your personal
Speaker 1: experiences eight four to forur Mojo Live. I thought I
Speaker 1: thought right away would get like calls of people commenting
Speaker 1: on all these ones, because I know you're in your
Speaker 1: car or you're sitting there wherever at work, and you
Speaker 1: got your ear pods and you're like, no, yes, no,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. You're answering these things. This
Speaker 1: last one is a big one, and this one is
Speaker 1: one where I sat there and thought, what will they
Speaker 1: say to this? Is it cheating if I let a
Speaker 1: person drive me home from the bar because I can't
Speaker 1: get an uber? If you have if you're out, if
Speaker 1: you're in a relationship and you're out and you can't
Speaker 1: get an UBER and you let somebody drive you home,
Speaker 1: like somebody that's you know that you would trust to
Speaker 1: drive you home, stranger, stranger, a stranger or or another
Speaker 1: or a guy that maybe you come in contact with,
Speaker 1: or girl you come in contact with. I'm is it
Speaker 1: cheating just to let them drive you home? I'm say no,
Speaker 1: I would have would I'm.
Speaker 3: Going to agree with you, but I have a thought ahead. No,
Speaker 3: I don't think it's cheating. However, I would never do it,
Speaker 3: and Wes would be so upset if I did do that.
Speaker 1: That would be my question.
Speaker 2: Did you try to call me first?
Speaker 4: Like are you reaching out to your spouse before you
Speaker 4: just let the stranger?
Speaker 3: And in the same vein, I would be so upset
Speaker 3: if he got in the car, had some random girls
Speaker 3: and he's intoxicated.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like it would be it would be one of
Speaker 1: those things where if all you pulled into the driveway,
Speaker 1: got out of the car, nothing happened, and then you
Speaker 1: had to save your spouse.
Speaker 2: If I'm questioning you.
Speaker 1: Like, nobody's ever going to believe that nothing didn't happen exactly,
Speaker 1: and it would be weird when you say the next morning, hey,
Speaker 1: you know, so, how'd you get home to say to
Speaker 1: them this is how I got home. I don't know.
Speaker 1: Let's see what Stacy has to say. Stacy, you have
Speaker 1: a question or comment or complaint. What do you got?
Speaker 1: All right?
Speaker 5: Comment?
Speaker 6: Chatting with a coworker about troubles in your marriage that
Speaker 6: leads to cheating leads Yeah.
Speaker 2: That's why I said. It can snowball no fast.
Speaker 1: It can be bad, especially especially if you're not telling
Speaker 1: the truth, you know what I mean, or or or
Speaker 1: over exaggerating stuff. You know what I mean. I can't
Speaker 1: tell you. I cannot tell you how many times I
Speaker 1: have had stories be told to me of guys going, yeah,
Speaker 1: they told their they told their spouses that I was
Speaker 1: like this horrible, horrible person, and then you find out
Speaker 1: that they're having an affair with that person. So that
Speaker 1: has happened before.
Speaker 6: They com miserate together, and it leads one thing to another.
Speaker 6: In my case, Yeah, knocked up.
Speaker 1: Stacy. All these ones that we asked about, obviously that
Speaker 1: was the one that came to mind for you. Any
Speaker 1: of the other ones pinpoint for you, like the you know,
Speaker 1: letting somebody buy you a drink at Starbucks or following
Speaker 1: your acc on Instagram that got Lydia hot.
Speaker 6: Now following on social media, I think that's cheating that
Speaker 6: that also can lead to stuff. But buying a drink,
Speaker 6: buying a simple coffee, that's not a big deal.
Speaker 1: That's a nice gesture. Yeah, what if you guys drink
Speaker 1: out of one straw together?
Speaker 5: Absolutely not, that's gross.
Speaker 1: The social media thing is hey Jennifer, what's up? Hey
Speaker 1: you guys? Good morning, good morning?
Speaker 5: Okay, So is it cheating when you're partner that's the
Speaker 5: coworker of the opposite sex and the weeks the messages.
Speaker 1: Because your phone's a little echoy, what does say?
Speaker 5: Oh sorry? Hold on? So is it cheating when your
Speaker 5: partner is texting a coworker of the to suck and
Speaker 5: delete the messages going on?
Speaker 1: That is a little shady. Did that happen in your
Speaker 1: personal life?
Speaker 5: A lot shady. Uh. Yeah. It was a reason why
Speaker 5: we broke up in October because he was hiding text
Speaker 5: messages deleting them. We were on vacation and she was deleting.
Speaker 5: She was texting him, and he was deleting the messages
Speaker 5: and he was saying he was saying like, oh, it's
Speaker 5: about work, and I said, well, if it's about work,
Speaker 5: and keep the message so I could see it. And
Speaker 5: then he was like, well, it's just because you're crazy,
Speaker 5: and I know you're gonna start an argument.
Speaker 1: When we start calling you crazy. Is when you got
Speaker 1: to realize that there's something going on there.
Speaker 2: And read the deleted messages then oh.
Speaker 1: Yeah, did you know you could read the leader.
Speaker 5: Well, so this was his second time being caught doing this,
Speaker 5: so he learned how to delete from recently deleted.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, I found out.
Speaker 5: I found through his phone records.
Speaker 6: Wore they were engaged.
Speaker 5: We've been together five years, so there's still deep Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: You dumped him.
Speaker 2: I thought you guys broke this is a pattern we did.
Speaker 5: We did break up in our Cobra, but we got
Speaker 5: back together. And yeah, it's been rough, like we've been
Speaker 5: working on it.
Speaker 4: But it's you deserve better, man, I don't know real
Speaker 4: believe meso.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's crazy. You need to hear.
Speaker 3: It'll be tough. It'll be tough in the short term,
Speaker 3: but this is the rest of your life.
Speaker 1: Where are you right now? You at work? It sounds
Speaker 1: like it's loud. Yeah, I wor go talk about this
Speaker 1: to the hottest guy in the office and just have
Speaker 1: an affair with him.
Speaker 5: I work with all females.
Speaker 4: Okay, send me on Instagram. We'll go out after link after.
Speaker 1: Wow. Hang on the lawn, Haley, Haley, what's yours? The cheating?
Speaker 1: If your spouse hugs a coworker of the opposite sex
Speaker 1: because they won't see them for a week they're going
Speaker 1: on vacation, that's hugs. The mojo's cheating.
Speaker 2: Everybody in this room, we hug all of you.
Speaker 1: What what is I I'm kind of wondering what exactly
Speaker 1: is going on? Uh?
Speaker 5: This happened to my friend about a year ago. She
Speaker 5: was just concerned that she basically just didn't want her
Speaker 5: man touching.
Speaker 6: Another female, just touching, you know, being.
Speaker 2: A coworker, you were the eight hours.
Speaker 1: With them a day, so she was being a little parentally.
Speaker 1: How long was the hood. Yeah. How long was the hug?
Speaker 1: Was it more of an embrace?
Speaker 2: Was the rubbing of the back?
Speaker 5: Yeah, it was an embrace.
Speaker 1: Then there's something. There might be something to it. If
Speaker 1: it's lingering, if it's long, and if she's not hugging
Speaker 1: everyone else, only he could exactly, then there's something. Give
Speaker 1: that little slut hooge not good.
Speaker 6: He called him out for it, and there was like
Speaker 6: a little fight, but they he just communicated like it
Speaker 6: wasn't like that.
Speaker 2: She's just a coworker.
Speaker 6: But well the situation of like him not going to
Speaker 6: be there for a week, is this a little weird
Speaker 6: for her?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Just for I'm going to miss you for that's crazy.
Speaker 1: I like that as an excuse. What do they do
Speaker 1: for a living? I want to know where where is
Speaker 1: all this cheating going on?
Speaker 5: They worked at the They worked at a gym, and
Speaker 5: this worker was a trainer, so she was in her sports.
Speaker 2: You missed a lot of details when you first told
Speaker 2: us this story.
Speaker 1: Thank you for the call, Haley, Yeah, no problem. Bye.