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Speaker 1: More variety from the two thousands, the nineties, and today

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Speaker 1: it's Star one on one three. It's Marcus back with

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Speaker 1: second date update. We've got our guy, Andrew. Let's just

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Speaker 1: get this thing started. Andrew, you just went on a

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Speaker 1: date with a lady named Sophia, according to my notes?

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Speaker 2: Is this correct? Good morning? First of all, sorry, I'm

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Speaker 2: already locked in. How are you?

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Speaker 3: Hey? Good morning? Hey, I'm all right right. Yeah. I

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Speaker 3: thought it went well. You know, I thought she was thoughtful, intelligent,

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Speaker 3: you know, she asked real questions.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 3: It wasn't just like the usual first date small talk.

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Speaker 3: You know. We talked about deep stuff, you know, family traditions,

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Speaker 3: like favorite meals growing up, like memories we had, and

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Speaker 3: we talked about where we saw ourselves in a few years.

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Speaker 3: You know. It's helped mature. It's like intentional.

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Speaker 1: Okay, this is like the third time this week somebody

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Speaker 1: has described their data as intentional.

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Speaker 2: It's interesting, must be for me, okay, yeah, but she's ghosted.

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Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, it's confusing to me, okay, because I felt

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Speaker 3: like we were two adults figuring out if our lives

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Speaker 3: good line up, you know, and I felt I walked

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Speaker 3: out feeling good, optimistic. I was excited to see her again.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well, this is the part where we call her

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Speaker 1: and I'm going to ask her how she felt about

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Speaker 1: the day. You're going to be on the phone, so

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Speaker 1: I hope you're emotionally ready for this. The first date

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Speaker 1: in this case was dinner. And Andrew, you're still there, right, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm here. Okay, perfect. So we're gonna call Sofia. We're

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Speaker 1: going to try to figure out why she ghosted on you. Okay,

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Speaker 1: here we go, deep breath. You will be able to

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Speaker 1: listen in, so go ahead and meet your phone.

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Speaker 2: Here we go. Hello, Hi, is this Sofia? Who is

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Speaker 2: this Sofia? This is Marcus from Star one one three.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know what that is.

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Speaker 1: Okay, it's a radio morning show and I'm wondering if

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Speaker 1: you might have a second to be on the air

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Speaker 1: with me.

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Speaker 2: To discuss something.

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Speaker 4: Discuss what.

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Speaker 1: So we do a segment on the show called second

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Speaker 1: Date Update, and I got floated your phone number from

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Speaker 1: a guy who listens to our show. His name is Andrew. Said,

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Speaker 1: you guys went on a date. He really enjoyed it,

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Speaker 1: but that you ghosted. What I'm trying to figure out

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Speaker 1: is did my guy do something dumb? I know it's

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Speaker 1: the holidays. Are you just busy or is there another reason?

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Speaker 1: Why are you ducking him?

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Speaker 2: What happened? How can we talk about the date? Is

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Speaker 2: that okay?

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Speaker 4: Uh? Yeah, I guess yeah, let's talk about.

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Speaker 2: It, amaze. So how was it for you?

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Speaker 4: Well, I mean, honestly, in the beginning, it was nice,

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Speaker 4: like he was kind and respectful and he was honestly

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Speaker 4: very very serious about dating, and I was okay with that.

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Speaker 4: But then, you know, kind of like halfway through the meal,

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Speaker 4: it just sort of seemed like he wasn't trying to

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Speaker 4: get to know me anymore, and he was more like

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Speaker 4: planning around me. For instance, like he was talking about

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Speaker 4: a trip we could do a couple months down the line,

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Speaker 4: and then he mentioned a holiday routine that would work

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Speaker 4: for us, and then he even was thinking about like

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Speaker 4: hypothetical grocery scheduling. And don't get me wrong, like it

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Speaker 4: wasn't mean or pushy or anything, but it just felt

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Speaker 4: like a lot like really fast on a first day.

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Speaker 4: And I don't know, there was a moment he looked

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Speaker 4: at me and he actually said, you seem like someone

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Speaker 4: who would really fit into my life and I I

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Speaker 4: mean I said that, yeah, and I love dating with

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Speaker 4: you know, like respect and intention and all of that.

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Speaker 4: I also want something real, but on a first date,

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Speaker 4: I don't know. I just wanted to be about chemistry

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Speaker 4: and you know, curiosity and not h planning.

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Speaker 2: Maybe one extra Vodkasota, you know, or something.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know. I feel bad now, but it's

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Speaker 4: just it's a little too much for me.

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Speaker 2: But other than that nice guy.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, he is a nice guy, but I

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Speaker 4: don't want to be slotted into someone's life blueprint.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: That's just not me.

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Speaker 3: All right.

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Speaker 1: Well, okay, so part of this, Sophia is that Andrew

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Speaker 1: has been listening. He's actually on the line right now

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Speaker 1: listening in. I know it's hard every time.

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Speaker 2: And I've been doing this for almost a decade.

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Speaker 1: Wow, he's just trying to learn it's hard out there,

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Speaker 1: you know, dating and whatnot. So I'm going to bring

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Speaker 1: him on, Andrew. Okay, Andrew, were you in your own head?

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Speaker 1: What's going on? What's really happening?

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Speaker 3: I mean, now that I'm hearing all that bag, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: it came off like a totald weed. Man. I wasn't

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Speaker 3: trying to I just got so nervous. You know, I

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Speaker 3: liked her a lot. I guess, yeah, I guess I was.

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Speaker 3: I was being a little too forward thing king Uh

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Speaker 3: right there.

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Speaker 1: You don't have to refer to when the third person anymore.

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Speaker 1: She's right there. I want you to talk. I want

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Speaker 1: you to look directly at her and talk to her,

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Speaker 1: and I'll just all be over here.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry. I uh, you know, I just I was.

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Speaker 3: I got the nerves, you know, I was getting restless.

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Speaker 3: I thought maybe it would be romantic if I was

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Speaker 3: talking about that kind of stuff. And now in hindsight,

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Speaker 3: you know, hindsight's twenty twenty. Uh No, it made me

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Speaker 3: seem very lame and strange.

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Speaker 4: I guess.

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Speaker 3: I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 4: No, it's okay. Honestly, in the beginning, I did feel

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Speaker 4: like we were really vibing.

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Speaker 1: So I I mean, I feel like we're vibing right now,

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Speaker 1: you guys, I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 3: I feel like that too. I My thing is like,

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Speaker 3: when something's going well, I always find some way to

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Speaker 3: sabotage it. And maybe that is what happened. Uh, you

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Speaker 3: could give me another chance. I swear, I'm a fun guy.

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Speaker 3: I'm spontaneous. You know, I'll go with the flow. We

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Speaker 3: don't have to plan anything out. We could just chill.

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Speaker 1: You know what fixes this issue, Sophia, is when a

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Speaker 1: guy like Andrew, who is just unbridled passion obviously gets

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Speaker 1: a lady in his life that can tell him when

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Speaker 1: he's being dumb.

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Speaker 2: That's what he really needs. I'm just I'm just saying,

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Speaker 2: so can we do a second date?

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Speaker 4: You know what?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: I actually you were very respectful and I appreciated that. So,

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Speaker 4: oh my god, I can overlook this if we can

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Speaker 4: be a little more casual the next time. All right, totally,

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Speaker 4: I'll text you.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I get to ring the cow bell of destiny.

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Speaker 2: You know how exciting this is.

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Speaker 4: Oh, let's go.

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Speaker 2: We have a win. Amazing, all right, you two bush adorable?

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Speaker 2: You guys, hold on.

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Speaker 1: Okay, what a great way to end the week. Second

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Speaker 1: date update