Speaker 1: Shannon is going to bring something up here right now
Speaker 1: that I wonder if any other people can relate to.
Speaker 1: And it involves your friendships. What's going on?
Speaker 2: I feel like I am in a lobsided friendship. And
Speaker 2: what I mean by that is I Tonight, I'm going
Speaker 2: to have dinner. Wes and I are going to have
Speaker 2: dinner with our favorite friends, Justin and doctor Matt. You've
Speaker 2: heard me talk about them before. They're the ones that
Speaker 2: throw a party for their stairs, Yes, when their stairs called.
Speaker 2: I love them. So dinner is tonight. Justin is a chef,
Speaker 2: so the food is always beyond incredible. Matt is the
Speaker 2: host of hosts. He's always making sure that the decor
Speaker 2: is on point, and like, are your feet cold? I
Speaker 2: can get you a pair of slippers, Like they're just
Speaker 2: They're just the best. And I always feel so lucky
Speaker 2: and so very spoiled when we go over to their house. Well,
Speaker 2: I told Wes last night as we were kind of
Speaker 2: going through a weekend, I'm like, I feel like this
Speaker 2: friendship is kind of lobsided because we have never, I
Speaker 2: think ever ever had them over to our house, not
Speaker 2: even for drinks or apps. And part of it is
Speaker 2: I think I'm self conscious because I don't cook at all.
Speaker 3: Really.
Speaker 2: I mean, I can make basics, but I would be
Speaker 2: so nervous to cook for Justin a chef, like a
Speaker 2: great chef. But like, we've never had them over, and
Speaker 2: so I'm like, it's always them having us. They always
Speaker 2: want to invite us over, which is so awesome, but
Speaker 2: I feel kind of bad. And I'll always bring something
Speaker 2: like you know this mojo. I'll always bring wine or champagne.
Speaker 2: They love champagne. I always bring champagne when we go.
Speaker 2: But I'm like, that still doesn't feel equal to me,
Speaker 2: not but it has to know. But this has been
Speaker 2: years of this, and they especially love Wes. So like
Speaker 2: I've known Justin, for God since before my kids were born,
Speaker 2: so I've known him for a long time. But now
Speaker 2: that like, I'm married to Wes and they love Wes.
Speaker 2: Wes and I have gone over to their house like
Speaker 2: a dozen times, but we've never hit them over to ours.
Speaker 1: Do you think they look at you guys as leeches?
Speaker 4: Well, they're the.
Speaker 2: One always inviting.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I wish I would Justin and Matt ever sit
Speaker 1: there on the couch on a Saturday night. They had
Speaker 1: no plans and go be nice. If West and Shannon
Speaker 1: inviting us over tonight.
Speaker 2: Like I have to invite them over at some point because.
Speaker 1: You're doing carry out.
Speaker 2: I guess we could do carry out and they probably
Speaker 2: wouldn't care. It's more me getting anxiety over it.
Speaker 1: Do any listeners have this lopsided friendships where they're always
Speaker 1: uh doing the entertaining and their friends are always the takers. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're the givers.
Speaker 3: It never helps people in my spot j G and
Speaker 3: John say yeah, pretty much the taker.
Speaker 1: J G.
Speaker 3: Well, I feel like there are certain roles within your
Speaker 3: friend group, Like you have friends who are the hosters
Speaker 3: and they throw the party. I played a role of,
Speaker 3: you know, bringing energy in the playlist. That's where often
Speaker 3: do they need the energy in the playoffs? It all works.
Speaker 1: Together, Yeah, it works together.
Speaker 3: Johnson, we JJ got the spot and he might do
Speaker 3: to fool everybody pretty much, bring a bottle. I'm bringing
Speaker 3: the vibes in the they buy you drive. That's like that.
Speaker 1: Can I tell you what is anxiety filled? We're going
Speaker 1: to dial Will they answer the phone?
Speaker 2: Justin we can?
Speaker 5: All right?
Speaker 1: Again, I'm an awkward phone dialer, So just so you know.
Speaker 2: That I have to say no, I would love to.
Speaker 1: I do want. I do want to have them on.
Speaker 1: And I'm going to tell you the biggest reason I
Speaker 1: want to have him on because I want to discuss
Speaker 1: why Lydia is Lydia. You're trying to dial on somebody's line.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was just calling a texter.
Speaker 1: Sorry, Okay, No. For some reason though, in the phone
Speaker 1: system here, if I pick a line to dial on
Speaker 1: and Lydia chooses it in the other room, it overrides me.
Speaker 1: So I have a I have a reason to bring
Speaker 1: this up. He's already in our system. I like it.
Speaker 1: Justin's already and Shannon's friend Justin, Hi, Justin? How are you?
Speaker 5: Hi?
Speaker 1: Good? I was wondering what your plans are this weekend, Shannon,
Speaker 1: and we are coming over. What are we cooking? Justin?
Speaker 1: Do you feel like this is an unfair friendship, like
Speaker 1: an unbalanced, lopsided friendship that you.
Speaker 2: Always have us over and you cook these beautiful meals,
Speaker 2: but we've never had you over. I love we love entertaining,
Speaker 2: So you know what, you would also not want to
Speaker 2: eat my food?
Speaker 5: I don't know. I wouldn't mind.
Speaker 1: In all fairness, this is what the man does too. Right,
Speaker 1: isn't it? Isn't there? You're an incredible an amazing show, Justin.
Speaker 5: Can I tell you we have a good menu playing
Speaker 5: for tonight?
Speaker 1: What is the what is the plant? We're gonna have
Speaker 1: lamb chops.
Speaker 5: Who've got grilled sausage and then some polenta. What is
Speaker 5: he's it's like grids.
Speaker 1: It looks like it looks it looks like you're eating
Speaker 1: you know, it's it's I always feel like when I
Speaker 1: when I see the planta there, I get all excited
Speaker 1: and I'm like, it's mashed potatoes. Unfortunately it's not mashed potatoes.
Speaker 1: Can I, Justin? Can I bring something up that I
Speaker 1: think that there's a struggle in most people's relationships and
Speaker 1: there's a commonality to this. Having gay friends is tough
Speaker 1: because gay friends are very giving, they are very they
Speaker 1: are very talented, and they do things over the top,
Speaker 1: and unfortunately the heterosexuals don't necessarily do a very good
Speaker 1: job of that. I just want you to know, and
Speaker 1: so so there becomes a little bit of a problem
Speaker 1: with this, like it does. It's anxiety filled if you have,
Speaker 1: you know, friends that are guests.
Speaker 2: Even Justin is so good about dropping off like he'll
Speaker 2: make He does homemade candies and homemade like pastries and breads,
Speaker 2: and he'll be like, are you home, knock, knock, I'm
Speaker 2: coming by to drop off some stuff. How many times
Speaker 2: do I even invite you in? Sometimes I'm like, oh,
Speaker 2: my god, is a mask? The dogs kids are so
Speaker 2: I just talked to them on my front porch.
Speaker 1: Yep, that is so funny. So I never think, by
Speaker 1: the way, if I'm having a party of flowers, but
Speaker 1: gay gay men and gay women think of flowers, were going.
Speaker 2: To like natal arrangements and candles and flowers.
Speaker 1: Something different to the house. Yeah, you need to have
Speaker 1: a party and show us.
Speaker 3: Noah, I don't. Ja might come over tomorrow though, before
Speaker 3: our event. Oh really, bring flowers. Just the two of
Speaker 3: you guys appropriate, only the two of us have the event.
Speaker 1: You guys are they're doing an event together tomorrow, justin
Speaker 1: to lend itself more to the fact that they're affing. Well,
Speaker 1: we didn't book ourselves. Where are you guys at tomorrow?
Speaker 1: We're gonna be at Greek.
Speaker 3: Town Open it up, Open it up, and we'll be
Speaker 3: out there having a good time.
Speaker 1: And you're gonna meet beforehand for what to like prep
Speaker 1: your night toil to carpool you live closer in town
Speaker 1: than Oh my god, that's this is By the way,
Speaker 1: I would like to war the roses you see where
Speaker 1: we'll send a dozen free roses here. Hold on a second, justin,
Speaker 1: We got some listeners here that want to comment on
Speaker 1: Shannon being a bad friend to you. You and Matt.
Speaker 1: What's up? Andrea? How you doing good? What's going on?
Speaker 3: Good?
Speaker 6: I just I.
Speaker 4: Don't agree that it's a gay friend thing versus a
Speaker 4: heterosexual person saying. I think some people just love to
Speaker 4: serve and it's like their favorite thing to do. I
Speaker 4: love hosting people and having them over.
Speaker 1: And they never.
Speaker 4: Think, oh my friends suck because they don't do the
Speaker 4: same something I like.
Speaker 1: To do it. So you never judge them on the
Speaker 1: fact that they're they're mooching off of you.
Speaker 4: No, no, because it's my favorite thing to do. I
Speaker 4: have people over, serve them food and drink, and I
Speaker 4: love to cook and some people and that.
Speaker 1: I'd be honest with you though, I would bet though
Speaker 1: majority of people would have it in the back of
Speaker 1: their mind of are they ever going to invite us out?
Speaker 1: You know what I mean?
Speaker 2: We go out like we'll go out to dinner a lot.
Speaker 1: Who pays?
Speaker 2: When you go on, Justin, who pays? Do we split it.
Speaker 6: Back?
Speaker 5: And I think we kind of, you know, sneaks.
Speaker 1: It because that's a good way to get back. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like that's a really good way to give back. What's
Speaker 1: going on, Carrie? How you doing good? Martin? I'm doing great.
Speaker 1: I just wanted to say to Shannon, the easiest solution
Speaker 1: is just to have a pizza night and invite them
Speaker 1: all everyone.
Speaker 7: Easy.
Speaker 2: Easy, Like this man is making lamb chops and I'm
Speaker 2: going to be like, we're heaving a pizza night.
Speaker 1: Find a nice place with something different, you know, just
Speaker 1: make sure you install the brick oven first.
Speaker 5: Wait, Shandon, that was what of our options today? We
Speaker 5: were going to make pizza because we had one of
Speaker 5: those Uoni ovens.
Speaker 1: Of course. Hey, by the way, Justin, Chelsea and I
Speaker 1: are great people to be friends, and they're free tonight
Speaker 1: and we might have some people over on Saturday night
Speaker 1: if you guys would like to join us, but maybe
Speaker 1: cancel on on your prior plans. What's up, Hannah?
Speaker 2: Hi, good morning everyone, Good morning.
Speaker 6: I wanted to call because I'm also the hosting friend
Speaker 6: and when I host, like I've smoked a brisket before,
Speaker 6: I've made like a brave ragou. I like do for cash.
Speaker 6: I make everything from scratch. And I do it for
Speaker 6: two reasons. One because, like I'm Latina, we spread love
Speaker 6: and community through food. In the second one, I love
Speaker 6: curating how I get my compliment So it's like, I
Speaker 6: don't know, it's like a dopamine hit whenever someone says
Speaker 6: my food.
Speaker 1: Is so good. So that's why I love sharing.
Speaker 6: But the vibes in the community, I think it's awesome.
Speaker 1: That is honestly, that sounds wonderful. What are you doing tonight? Okay,
Speaker 1: we'll be right over. We'll be over at seven o'clock.
Speaker 1: I like. I like friends also that invite you over
Speaker 1: at an earlier hour. That's the other bad thing with
Speaker 1: having friends who are gay. They like to they like
Speaker 1: to entertain at eight o'clock at night. This man, this
Speaker 1: man is in a coma at eight o'clock at night.
Speaker 1: What time is are they inviting you over at?
Speaker 2: What time?
Speaker 6: Is it?
Speaker 2: Seven?
Speaker 6: Seven? Yeah?
Speaker 5: But no, we normally eat at like nine.
Speaker 1: Christ Caldian wedding. This is crazy, that's unbelievable. You know
Speaker 1: that She's not gonna be able to digest that food
Speaker 1: the next day. It's gonna be bad. She's gonna go
Speaker 1: You're gonna go to bed with a full stomach, with
Speaker 1: a full stomach, AVI, what's going on? AVI? Hey, what's up?
Speaker 1: Hi buddy? Say hi to Justin Shannon's friend Justin. They
Speaker 1: just didn't.
Speaker 7: So I'm literally the always the one making plans for
Speaker 7: our group chat, Like I'm the only one messaging in
Speaker 7: there like, hey, what are you guys doing this weekend?
Speaker 7: Let's do something.
Speaker 1: Let's do something for fourth of July.
Speaker 7: Always nobody ever message, And then when we plan, it's
Speaker 7: either it happens or don't.
Speaker 2: You have to do a little experiment and just go
Speaker 2: silent and not plan anything for a couple of weeks.
Speaker 1: We all have.
Speaker 7: So for four to July, we've had something planning. We'll
Speaker 7: all going camping, and we had everything planning, had to budget,
Speaker 7: everything planned out.
Speaker 1: And then everybody went sound. So I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: I'll go silent.
Speaker 7: I went silent, and me and my family we went
Speaker 7: on to do something ourselves.
Speaker 1: Okay, you know what that is. Uh, it's tough in
Speaker 1: a couple's friendship like this. It seems like it's easier.
Speaker 1: But if you are the friend group and you have that,
Speaker 1: then it comes across like nobody's participating. So hey, justin
Speaker 1: real quick, I'm gonna and we'll let you go because
Speaker 1: I know that we've taken a ton of your time.
Speaker 1: If Shannon shows up with in candy grapes tonight, she
Speaker 1: got the idea from somebody else on the show.
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, it'll be your appetizer, A great way to
Speaker 3: start through. Yeah, nothing says Nothing says like lamb chops
Speaker 3: and cotton Caney grapes.
Speaker 1: Will you guys, Will you guys also take a picture
Speaker 1: of their staircase, because I know he talked about Justin
Speaker 1: and Matt's staircase.
Speaker 2: I will take a picture of a.
Speaker 1: Yeah please, all right, we'll have dinner on the staircase,
Speaker 1: and I would like a picture for the the Graham
Speaker 1: of your lamb chops. Okay, we'll talk to you later.
Speaker 1: See you, Justin, take car