WEBVTT - Mark & Alyssa Share Silence After Table Service

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<v Speaker 1>Marcus in the morning, and we're back with second date

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<v Speaker 1>update and Mark is patiently waiting to get on the air. Mark,

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<v Speaker 1>good morning, Good morning, hey man. So let me see

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<v Speaker 1>if I can help you out. I want to hear

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<v Speaker 1>about this date. Her name is Alyssa, is that right?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, and you.

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<v Speaker 1>Guys met online and then was in San Jose. So

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<v Speaker 1>run me through it. What'd you do on your first date?

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<v Speaker 1>Because I understand she has ghosted, so let's talk about it.

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<v Speaker 4>So, yeah, like you said, we went on our first

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<v Speaker 4>date in San Jose. You know, we went out for

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<v Speaker 4>drinks and turned into appetizers and then you know, I

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<v Speaker 4>thought everything was going good. You know, she was sharp

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<v Speaker 4>and funny and like really direct, which I kind of like, right.

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<v Speaker 4>I was genuinely surprised, honestly when she just stopped texting

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<v Speaker 4>me the next day, stop responding altogether.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so like nothing, not a slow place. She's just gone.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well, we're going to call her, obviously, and we

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<v Speaker 1>will have you on mute so you can listen in,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'll ask her about the date.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay. Well, ultimately I want to get you a second date.

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<v Speaker 3>That's the goal.

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<v Speaker 1>It's Marcus in the morning and middle of second date

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<v Speaker 1>update as always when we do. At this time, Mark

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<v Speaker 1>is holding Mark, go ahead and mute your phone, just

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<v Speaker 1>a reminder because we're about to call a listen and

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<v Speaker 1>see what's up.

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<v Speaker 4>Muting that.

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<v Speaker 3>There we go, poor Mark, I'd ghosted on. Let see

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<v Speaker 3>if we can get some answers. Here we go. Hello, Hi,

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<v Speaker 3>is this is this Alyssa?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes?

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<v Speaker 3>This is her Melissa Marcus calling from start one on

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<v Speaker 3>one three. Good morning, How are you?

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<v Speaker 2>Good morning? Oh my goodness? I I listen to your

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<v Speaker 2>show every single morning. Oh my gosh, I can bet

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<v Speaker 2>you I know what this is about.

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<v Speaker 3>Tell me, Okay, is.

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<v Speaker 2>Mark on the line? Please please tell me because he

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<v Speaker 2>that second day up?

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<v Speaker 3>It is your favorite and you couldn't wait to get on.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh my gosh, okay, okay, Mark?

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<v Speaker 4>Are you there?

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<v Speaker 2>Right?

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<v Speaker 4>Mark?

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<v Speaker 3>Go ahead?

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<v Speaker 4>I am here.

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<v Speaker 3>All right, we're all here and we know why we're here.

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<v Speaker 4>So listen.

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<v Speaker 3>Did you ghost on your date with over here?

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<v Speaker 2>I most definitely did, and I would love to explain why.

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<v Speaker 3>Please? So should I sit down?

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<v Speaker 4>Wait?

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe maybe takes Maybe maybe you should too? Mark?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay or okay?

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<v Speaker 2>So you know the date? Like he's like, we're going fine,

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<v Speaker 2>until I got up to go to the bathroom. And

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<v Speaker 2>when I came back, Mark was sitting at the bar

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<v Speaker 2>scrolling on his phone. And I didn't think much of this.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, okay, whatever, we all do that. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>super comment. But then I liked and I was realized

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<v Speaker 2>that he was clearly looking at Tender and I looked

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<v Speaker 2>closer and then saw that he was like Hinju was

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<v Speaker 2>on his phone too.

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<v Speaker 3>Mark, were you scrolling two dating apps whilst on your date?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean she was in the bathroom, so it's not like,

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<v Speaker 4>you know, we were sitting down and I was ignoring

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<v Speaker 4>her and scrolling on Tinder or anything. She went to

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<v Speaker 4>the bathroom and I just pulled out my phone. That's

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<v Speaker 4>what people do.

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<v Speaker 2>No, No, they're dating apps. You were on a date,

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<v Speaker 2>You were not. You're looking at notimptations or messages. You

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<v Speaker 2>were like full on scrolling. And I was only gone

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<v Speaker 2>for like two minutes.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, you went to the bathroom, so the date was

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<v Speaker 4>on pause and I pulled out my phone. I wasn't

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<v Speaker 4>on the date at that time. I was sitting there

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<v Speaker 4>by myself. Should I not look at my phone and

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<v Speaker 4>just sit there with my hands folded waiting for you

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<v Speaker 4>to come out from the bathroom. I'm not allowed to

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<v Speaker 4>look at my phone.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but doesn't that kind of take you away from

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<v Speaker 1>your current situation?

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<v Speaker 3>Like robs you the ability to be present.

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<v Speaker 4>I was present the entire time that she was there.

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<v Speaker 4>She was not there, she was in the bathroom. Should

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<v Speaker 4>she not use the bathroom so that she could be

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<v Speaker 4>present during the whole date? Like, this is not making

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<v Speaker 4>sense to me. I don't get it. What's the issue?

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<v Speaker 3>Apparently, Alyssa, you shouldn't have gone to the bathroom.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, excuse me. I so, like, what were you doing?

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<v Speaker 2>Just just you just want to keep your options open.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, nowadays you gotta savor every moment type of deal.

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<v Speaker 4>You gotta keep up with the times, and you never

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<v Speaker 4>know what's going to happen. So yeah, you gotta maximize

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<v Speaker 4>your time. Everybody does it.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely Everyone does not do that, and if they do,

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<v Speaker 2>they're bad at dating. I don't care if you've seeing

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<v Speaker 2>other people. I care that you couldn't give me one

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<v Speaker 2>interrupted drink without checking for upgrades.

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't mean to offend you.

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<v Speaker 2>You're not offending me. You're disqualifying yourself.

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<v Speaker 4>I thought we had chemistry to be honest with you.

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<v Speaker 3>Was there chemistry Alyssa like, could we do this again?

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<v Speaker 3>We've got a little bit more self awareness here. Would

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<v Speaker 3>you be into a second date at all?

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely? Not? Okay, but thank you for letting me say

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<v Speaker 2>this out loud.

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<v Speaker 1>Sure, hang on, hang on, you gotta stay present. If

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<v Speaker 1>the lady's in the vicinity, I can't anyway. Second date

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<v Speaker 1>update after seven o'clock and then nine o'clock. You've got

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<v Speaker 1>the podcast as always. You can binge listen over the

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<v Speaker 1>weekend to some previous calls on the iHeartRadio app. Go

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<v Speaker 1>search out Marcus in the morning. Second Date Update