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Speaker 1: Time for second date. Update. Let's just get started, bringing

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Speaker 1: Miguel on right now. What's up, Miguel, How you doing, Marcus,

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Speaker 1: I'm good man. I don't want to bust you out.

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Speaker 2: Miguel got ghosted, we might as well, like who hasn't

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Speaker 2: been there, to be honest. So what we're trying to

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Speaker 2: figure out is if we can get this girl Hannah

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Speaker 2: on the phone, if we can get her to agree

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Speaker 2: to a second date. At the very least, we need

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Speaker 2: to close the chapter on this and get.

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Speaker 1: You some answers, right, yeah, no, exactly, I don't even

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Speaker 1: want to put.

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Speaker 2: That in the universe though. Let's go for a second date.

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Speaker 2: So tell me about the first date. I understand you

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Speaker 2: guys met online. Roll it out.

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Speaker 1: How'd it go?

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Speaker 3: It went really well, Like we chatted for a while,

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Speaker 3: she was already smart, and you know, messaging isn't always

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Speaker 3: my favorite thing. We had like the nice report and

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Speaker 3: we met for drinks. Yeah, and like you said, I mean,

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Speaker 3: you know, ghosting is pretty common now, so sure, but

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Speaker 3: this one was a weird one because it just went

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Speaker 3: so well. You know, like, not only was she nice

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Speaker 3: on when we were messaging backwards in person, she was

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Speaker 3: still funny. She was bright, she was really thoughtful. She's

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Speaker 3: one of those girls she's like really listens and then

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Speaker 3: asks follow up questions the way like you know that

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Speaker 3: she's listening, you know what I mean. I felt great.

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Speaker 3: We talked, you know, we talked about like life, work,

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Speaker 3: what it's like dating in your thirties and stuff. Sure,

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Speaker 3: we even touch on politics, and it wasn't even that bad.

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Speaker 3: Like I was like, wow, this is she's super open.

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I thought things were pretty solid. We're both really relaxed,

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Speaker 3: looked like pretty comfortable, and it just felt like one

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Speaker 3: of those things like all right, probably gonna lead to

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Speaker 3: another date.

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Speaker 1: And here we are. All right, well, I'll tell you what.

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Speaker 3: And here we are.

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Speaker 2: Let's call her. Obviously, we're gonna have you muted. You

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Speaker 2: can listen in. I'm gonna give her a shout. I'll

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Speaker 2: ask a couple of questions. We'll see how it went.

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Speaker 2: Okay from her perspective, it's Marcus in the morning. We

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Speaker 2: are doing second date update everybody. So had to Miguel again.

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Speaker 1: What's up, Miguel, How you doing?

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Speaker 3: Guys?

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Speaker 1: Hey man?

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Speaker 2: All right, so we're gonna call Hannah. We're gonna see

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Speaker 2: why she ghosted. I think we've kind of figured she's

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Speaker 2: ghosted on your first date. Let's see if we can

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Speaker 2: get you a second date. Here we go, go ahead and

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Speaker 2: mute your phone. Hello, Hi, I'm looking for Hannah. Please Hannah.

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Speaker 2: This is Marcus from Star one on one three. I

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Speaker 2: do the morning show.

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Speaker 1: How are you wait?

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Speaker 4: What is this?

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Speaker 2: It's a it's it's Star one on one three radio

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Speaker 2: out of out of San Francisco.

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Speaker 1: I don't suppose you listened in the morning.

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Speaker 4: Oh not not usually, this is a radio a radio show.

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Speaker 4: Was calling me right now?

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Speaker 2: Yes, So I do the morning show and every morning

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Speaker 2: we have this situation it's called second Date Update, and

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Speaker 2: we try to bring people together after our first date.

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Speaker 2: So we got floated your phone number by a guy

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Speaker 2: who says that he had a great time with you

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Speaker 2: on a date and he feels like you ghosted and

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Speaker 2: we're just trying to figure some things out. Do you

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Speaker 2: have a moment? Do you mind being on the air

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Speaker 2: and do you mind talking about your date with Miguel?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 1: My god, that's a lot, I know.

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Speaker 4: Hi.

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Speaker 1: Good morning?

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Speaker 4: Oh god? Yeah, do you have exactly sure? Why?

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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Speaker 2: So my guy, I would like to take you out again?

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Speaker 2: Did you ghost?

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Speaker 4: I hate to say yeah, because I think that's kind

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Speaker 4: of but yeah, okay.

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Speaker 1: Can you tell us why?

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Speaker 2: He's just trying to better himself maybe or maybe we

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Speaker 2: could get a second date out of this.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what are your thoughts?

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Speaker 4: What heped?

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Speaker 5: God, you know, pretty much immediately everything was pretty off.

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Speaker 5: I would say from the very beginning of our ourt date,

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Speaker 5: he was like trying to guess what I was going

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Speaker 5: to say next, Like he was actively trying to finish

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Speaker 5: my sentence, like not in a rude way or like

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Speaker 5: aggressive way, but just.

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Speaker 4: Like too confident, you know, like and usually wrong. Like

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Speaker 4: like I'd be saying something and he'd be like, oh,

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Speaker 4: you're about to say that you hate that, and I'm like, no,

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Speaker 4: I actually was going to say that I love that,

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Speaker 4: like let me finish. And it was like he did

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Speaker 4: that so many times where it's like, hey, we're just

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Speaker 4: trying to get to know each other. Stop cutting me

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Speaker 4: off and trying to like finish each other's sandwich, is kid, Like,

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Speaker 4: let me just let me talk. Yeah, it was so

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Speaker 4: that was like off putting, right, And then.

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Speaker 2: I mean maybe he was just nervous stuff.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, oh god, yeah, well, you know when we'd like

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Speaker 4: chatted a little bit before we met in person, and

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Speaker 4: like this was not the same energy at.

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Speaker 1: All, And I.

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Speaker 4: Mean he's not right.

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Speaker 1: I mean he's not wrong.

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Speaker 4: No, But then like as it kept going, like he

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Speaker 4: kept calling everything cute, like like that was cute, and

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Speaker 4: and like pointing like looking around and like pointing at

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Speaker 4: the glassware and being like this is cute. And then

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Speaker 4: I'm like, you know, he's asking me questions on sort

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Speaker 4: of explaining things about my life, and he'll kind of

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Speaker 4: again like interrupt me and be like you're so cute

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Speaker 4: when you explain that, and it's like it didn't it

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Speaker 4: didn't feel playful. It feels like that's like a line

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Speaker 4: he just keeps in his pocket, you know.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so it felt kind of not forced, but but performative.

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Speaker 1: Very were you out at that point?

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Speaker 4: I was kind of out from the beginning, from the

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Speaker 4: finishing my sentences. I'm like trying to read my mind

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Speaker 4: so incorrectly. But then he kept being like, so how

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Speaker 4: I am I doing here? Like is this still fun?

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Speaker 4: Are you still having fun right now?

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Speaker 1: Like we are?

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Speaker 4: We are we vibing right now? Like we are we

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Speaker 4: hitting it off? And it's just like bro like it

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Speaker 4: was reading very insecure.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I get it all right, so let me just

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Speaker 2: let me stop you only because Miguel is actually listening.

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Speaker 2: We're trying to use this as a teachable moment, so

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Speaker 2: he's been listening in and I'd love to bring him

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Speaker 2: on just to just to discuss. Miguel, are you hearing

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Speaker 2: what she's saying? Is it making sense?

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Speaker 3: Not really, because she's saying like it's from the very beginning.

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Speaker 3: She was basically out. But it seemed like we were laughing.

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Speaker 3: And I mean, I just want to kind of address

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Speaker 3: some of the things that she said right, like finishing

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Speaker 3: your sentences. She's taking it like seriously, like super seriously,

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Speaker 3: like uh, it was it's a it was playful like

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Speaker 3: I I'd like to conct you know how. I want

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Speaker 3: to show her I'm listening as much she was showing

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Speaker 3: me she was listening, like I wasn't the only one,

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Speaker 3: you know, cutting each other off. And and and then

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Speaker 3: when I say cute, you know I didn't. She's saying,

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Speaker 3: it's like I don't know, like I'm diminishing her. She

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Speaker 3: said something like that it was just flirting. It's like

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Speaker 3: what I wanted to let her know, like, oh, you know,

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Speaker 3: I'm interested in you also because you're a beautiful girl,

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Speaker 3: like it's cute, like you're dumb or something, You're like

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Speaker 3: some little kids. It's like everything. It wasn't everything. It

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Speaker 3: was like her like she responded, when you say that,

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Speaker 3: that's an iman is how I flirt. And I thought

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Speaker 3: it was like, it's nothing like big or anything.

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Speaker 1: Okay, what about this? Like weird checking in?

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Speaker 4: I like being.

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Speaker 3: Upfront and communicative, and I personally like.

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Speaker 1: Guessing, sure, can of these these weren't the vibes you

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Speaker 1: were looking for.

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Speaker 4: Though, I mean, that's a pretty big simplification of what happened.

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Speaker 4: And I'm all for good, healthy communication too. But it

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Speaker 4: felt like a performance review, not a date. And it

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Speaker 4: didn't feel relaxed or fun. I felt like everything was

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Speaker 4: very like almost like he'd rehearsed this thing in his

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Speaker 4: head before he got here. It was like he was

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Speaker 4: forcing on me this like prescripted gait that he'd gone

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Speaker 4: through in his head. And it was so different than

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Speaker 4: talking to him online.

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Speaker 1: All right, well can we I mean he likes you.

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Speaker 1: Can we try this again? Maybe a second date?

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Speaker 4: It was too needy and it was a big turn

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Speaker 4: off for me, so I'm going to say no.

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Speaker 1: All right, hang on, very quirky second date update