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Speaker 1: Ashley and her girlfriend were talking and it was brought up.

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Speaker 1: The question was brought up to the both of them,

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Speaker 1: what's their red flag? And then they started sharing their

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Speaker 1: red flag. We're live on ninety three three fl Z.

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Speaker 1: What was your red flag?

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Speaker 2: My red flag was? I'm controlling, but not in the

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Speaker 2: sense of regulating. It's just like I like to have

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Speaker 2: control over certain things.

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Speaker 1: Now Jed decided to jump in and actually give you

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Speaker 1: a difference, which I said that Ashley is now moving

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Speaker 1: a little quicker than Joe does.

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Speaker 2: We did then I said he's terrible at communicating.

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Speaker 3: They started.

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Speaker 1: You can listen back to that on our free iHeartRadio app.

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Speaker 1: We then said, you know what, let's call my fiance.

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Speaker 1: Listen see, well, what would my red flag be? In

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Speaker 1: eight hundred and four nine ninety three, ninety three if

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Speaker 1: you came with a warning label, what would that warning

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Speaker 1: label say? What would your red flag be? Now, let's

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Speaker 1: see what do you guys think She's going to say?

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Speaker 2: Oh, it's what is Yeah, Jed, what's Joe's red flag?

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Speaker 4: That's gonna I am his guy, but I will be

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Speaker 4: vitally honest with Joe as I am with you, Ashley.

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Speaker 4: I think it's gonna be like Disney Adult Star Wars

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Speaker 4: stuff like or over collecting stuff, collecting junk.

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Speaker 3: It's gonna be one of those. Let's take a little deeper.

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Speaker 3: What else, same thing as you You move a little

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Speaker 3: too fast. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Meanwhile, this guy is like my smoochy poo.

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Speaker 2: Pause no, pause, No, we don't want to hear anymore.

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Speaker 3: Let's see if she picks it. You sharing your radio.

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Speaker 3: We're calling my fiance right now to see what my

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Speaker 3: red flag is. Hello, Hi, we're in the radio. Well,

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Speaker 3: she knows call her from the radio.

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Speaker 1: If I'm calling her for any time between six to ten,

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Speaker 1: she knows what would my red flag be? H.

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Speaker 5: I think you are you are way too over giving.

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Speaker 5: You give too much.

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Speaker 3: I agree that's a good one.

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Speaker 5: You give way too much. Well, to be honest, I

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Speaker 5: don't know, I.

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Speaker 3: Know, I think yeah, well I would agree.

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Speaker 2: I'll double down on that. Yeah, you're way too you extend,

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Speaker 2: you over extend yourself people.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, any anyone too, Like anyone knew that comes

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Speaker 5: in like literally anything like, yeah, that's the red flag, babe, exactly.

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Speaker 2: Do you notice that about yourself, Joe? Because I noticed

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Speaker 2: my controlling. I'm pretty sure Jetie owned up to his communication.

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Speaker 2: Do you know that your people, please, sir ah, it's okay.

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Speaker 3: First up as a minting I s alcohol in office.

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Speaker 1: That I yes, I've not. I've noticed a lot over

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Speaker 1: the last especially month. Yes, but you kind of gotta

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Speaker 1: you know, stumbled to learn.

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Speaker 2: And then you grow during this year. It's all about growth.

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Speaker 2: I'm telling you, once you hit thirty, you're gonna wake

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Speaker 2: up a hold new person.

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Speaker 3: You're like, no, no, no, no, no, Jennifer Gardner a

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Speaker 3: thirteen year old.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I can't wait to Yes, but I am learning,

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Speaker 1: and I do care.

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Speaker 3: I probably do care a little bit too much with

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Speaker 3: other people telling you.

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Speaker 2: Thirty hit, You're like, don't give a red.

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Speaker 1: I'm starting to get to that. Yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't read another red flag. I don't know math.

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Speaker 1: What do you think your red flag is mine?

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Speaker 2: You're still her?

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Speaker 5: Oh, I can tell you immediately, my rbs, my tone, Yes,

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Speaker 5: I mean those are.

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Speaker 3: Would you agree, Joe?

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Speaker 2: Those are red flags?

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Speaker 1: I think as is like she's a fighter, not in

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Speaker 1: the sense of she punches, but like you know, yes,

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Speaker 1: you you had a tough upbringing, and you had people

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Speaker 1: who weren't loyal to you, and you have people who

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Speaker 1: were and I think that you, because of that, are

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Speaker 1: very protected and also you protect those that you're close with. Right,

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Speaker 1: So then, like, for example, if someone wrongs me, you

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Speaker 1: automatically hate them.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes, which I think that's a good trade.

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Speaker 2: That's a good trade.

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Speaker 1: It's not, but I think I have that as like

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Speaker 1: I have an inability to blame the people that I

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Speaker 1: have that are very close to me. I'll just take

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Speaker 1: the blame on myself. I've learned recently that that absolutely

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Speaker 1: burns me as well. And those that I have their back,

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Speaker 1: they just throw me to the curb. But I'm learning,

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Speaker 1: and I'm gonna say no to things, and I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: create a wall, protective wall.

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Speaker 5: Right, that's the right, baby, that's right.

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Speaker 3: Also, I hate myself. That's another red flag, but we

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Speaker 3: can get into that later. Hailey.

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Speaker 1: Oh wait, hold on, I just totally you did what

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Speaker 1: I Hey, babe, I love you.

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Speaker 3: I can't believe I just did that.

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Speaker 1: All right, Hailey, Yes.

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Speaker 3: Hi, what's your red flag?

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Speaker 6: I'm very very interestive.

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Speaker 3: I don't like to give my partner any privacy.

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Speaker 6: I didn't know what's going on at all times.

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Speaker 1: Well, hold on one second, you are kind of like

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Speaker 1: that though you want to know what everything is happening.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm also controlling, just so you are aware. I'm

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Speaker 6: totally fine because I'm really good at doing stuff. So

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Speaker 6: but the intrusive thing I've got nothing to do with,

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Speaker 6: like a distrust.

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Speaker 3: I just need to know. It's like a sickening need

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Speaker 3: to note.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I kind of like I said that,

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Speaker 1: there are positives though to like some of these red flags,

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Speaker 1: like I will say with mine, like I have an

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Speaker 1: immense loyalty to those that I am close with, Like yeah, you,

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Speaker 1: I think you three know it. Like the moment someone

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Speaker 1: kind of even remotely wrong, oh I, And then that's

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Speaker 1: probably another red flag of mine as well as the

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Speaker 1: moment I feel like that it's hard for me. Like

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Speaker 1: one of our bosses, Mark, who is one of my

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Speaker 1: favorite people, like he says, you know, choose happy and

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Speaker 1: let things. He texted me earlier as we say, you

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Speaker 1: letting things roll off your back this week, and I

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Speaker 1: read that and I went no, but I got to

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Speaker 1: that's a good reminder, so let things roll off of

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Speaker 1: your back. I think that's good for the whole show

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Speaker 1: to hear that, and maybe all at Tampa Bay. Brittany,

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Speaker 1: your husband says your red flag is what.

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Speaker 2: He says.

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Speaker 5: I have the issue of saying no to people.

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Speaker 3: I always say yes to everything. Sounds like Joe, I

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Speaker 3: don't want.

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Speaker 2: To let people.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I know, I feel.

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Speaker 1: It, and then I will like lay in bed and

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Speaker 1: be like, oh my god. But you know what I've learned, Brittany,

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Speaker 1: Maybe you realize this too. Trying not to let people

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Speaker 1: down in the end will just let you down, and

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Speaker 1: then the moment it lets you down, it will probably

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Speaker 1: let other people down.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it's the worst. Yeah, well, we'll work on it.

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Speaker 1: Maybe we all We give away so much Walt Disney

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Speaker 1: World tickets, universal studio tickets, cruises like on the Margarita

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Speaker 1: Villet's see cruise.

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Speaker 3: What if we give away therapy? Why have we not

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Speaker 3: given away therapy? We need to like, hey, do need

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Speaker 3: to get to work with something free?

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Speaker 6: Hey, good morning, good morning?

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Speaker 3: What's your red flag?

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Speaker 5: My husband has to say my name to make sure

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Speaker 5: that I'm paying attention to him or else he will

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Speaker 5: tell me something and I will straight.

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Speaker 2: Up hume at him.

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Speaker 3: We've been married a little over a year now. When

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Speaker 3: we first got together, it was a big problem because

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Speaker 3: you'd be in the grocery restore or something and he'd

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Speaker 3: be like, look.

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Speaker 2: Look at this, look at this. Wow, this is so

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Speaker 2: cool talking about it, and I'm just over here, not

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Speaker 2: having any clue that he's't even talking to me.

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Speaker 5: I don't know who else I would think he would

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Speaker 5: be talking to, but I just thought it wasn't me. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: So now now he'll be like, babe, puney breathe, like

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Speaker 5: if I'm really not paying, and then he'll tell me

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Speaker 5: whatever or show me whatever he wants.

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Speaker 6: But I don't.

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Speaker 5: I tried self consciously to fix it. I don't know

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Speaker 5: how to fix it. I don't know how to make

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Speaker 5: myself pay attention all the time. But I don't know.

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Speaker 3: So, but yeah, we've got on a on a good

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Speaker 3: page now