1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:05,200 Speaker 1: Okay, Grace was texting me during the show, as you know, 2 00:00:05,320 --> 00:00:08,760 Speaker 1: she's all for this band. She thinks I'm being very 3 00:00:08,840 --> 00:00:13,160 Speaker 1: naive and arguing this on free speech grounds, saying you 4 00:00:13,240 --> 00:00:17,640 Speaker 1: have no idea. These are corporate child molesters. These are 5 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:22,040 Speaker 1: predators that are running these social media platforms and they 6 00:00:22,040 --> 00:00:25,319 Speaker 1: are praying on our children. That's almost a verbatim what 7 00:00:25,480 --> 00:00:28,120 Speaker 1: she texted me maybe half an hour ago. And then 8 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:30,880 Speaker 1: she says to me, but let me guess your sister 9 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:35,800 Speaker 1: probably agrees with you. Well, right on, cue, this is 10 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:39,520 Speaker 1: what my sister texted me maybe about ooh, I would 11 00:00:39,520 --> 00:00:45,360 Speaker 1: say five minutes ago. Jeff, I am definitely not for 12 00:00:45,440 --> 00:00:49,480 Speaker 1: this social media ban. Social media can be a very 13 00:00:49,600 --> 00:00:54,720 Speaker 1: useful tool if used properly. Parents should control that, not 14 00:00:55,240 --> 00:01:00,200 Speaker 1: the government. The problem is not social media, but it 15 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:04,920 Speaker 1: is the breakdown of the nuclear family and getting religion 16 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 1: out of the schools. I am more afraid of what 17 00:01:09,680 --> 00:01:13,200 Speaker 1: is being taught to my kids in school, and even 18 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:20,240 Speaker 1: more so now in college, than what's happening on social media. Interesting, 19 00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:24,319 Speaker 1: both my two nephews, Andrew and Matthew, are now going 20 00:01:24,360 --> 00:01:28,160 Speaker 1: to college. They're both at the University of Arizona, SO 21 00:01:28,480 --> 00:01:31,880 Speaker 1: and Yeah, there's a big Marxist push. Both of them 22 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:36,479 Speaker 1: are saying, Jeff, it's class after class. It's pure Communist 23 00:01:36,680 --> 00:01:43,000 Speaker 1: Marxist anti American indoctrination. You can't run from it. But anyway, 24 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:47,840 Speaker 1: let that go. Six one seven two six six sixty 25 00:01:47,880 --> 00:01:51,400 Speaker 1: eight sixty eight is the number. Okay, let's go to 26 00:01:52,720 --> 00:01:58,120 Speaker 1: Mary in Woburn. Thanks for holding Marie, my bad Marie 27 00:01:58,320 --> 00:02:03,400 Speaker 1: in Woburn. Thanks for Marie, and welcome, Hi Jess. 28 00:02:03,440 --> 00:02:07,640 Speaker 2: Thanks for taking my call Maureen. But that's okay, Marine man. 29 00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:10,440 Speaker 2: I called my daughter this morning because I know that 30 00:02:10,480 --> 00:02:13,760 Speaker 2: their phones are linked. I have two granddaughters. They're fourteen. 31 00:02:13,760 --> 00:02:15,359 Speaker 2: They were about twelve and a half. They each got 32 00:02:15,360 --> 00:02:18,720 Speaker 2: an iPhone for Christmas, but they had the providers set 33 00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:22,560 Speaker 2: it up so their phones were linked to the kids' phones. 34 00:02:22,919 --> 00:02:25,520 Speaker 2: So my son in law was linked to one of 35 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:28,720 Speaker 2: the phones, my daughter was linked to the other phone, 36 00:02:29,160 --> 00:02:31,720 Speaker 2: so they if the kids tried to download an app, 37 00:02:32,160 --> 00:02:34,960 Speaker 2: they would get a notification to accept it or deny it. 38 00:02:35,720 --> 00:02:38,160 Speaker 2: And she was like, she was funny on the phone. 39 00:02:38,160 --> 00:02:40,240 Speaker 2: She was like when they first got them, she was like, 40 00:02:40,280 --> 00:02:43,560 Speaker 2: every ten minutes, no no, no, no no. And she 41 00:02:43,720 --> 00:02:48,320 Speaker 2: said that if they're on their phones. They can go 42 00:02:48,360 --> 00:02:50,240 Speaker 2: in and they can see how long they're spending on 43 00:02:50,280 --> 00:02:52,280 Speaker 2: the phone, and they can see exactly what they're doing 44 00:02:52,320 --> 00:02:54,800 Speaker 2: on the phone. So I'm with you. I wouldn't give 45 00:02:54,800 --> 00:02:57,120 Speaker 2: the federal government this. I mean, it's up to the parents. 46 00:02:57,120 --> 00:02:59,839 Speaker 2: And if parents do that, you know what I mean. 47 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:03,639 Speaker 2: So it's done through family sharing or something. Like I said, 48 00:03:03,680 --> 00:03:05,040 Speaker 2: I didn't get a chance. I had a few more 49 00:03:05,120 --> 00:03:08,960 Speaker 2: questions for her, but she had to go. But you know, 50 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:11,840 Speaker 2: Grace could be linked to Ava, You could be linked 51 00:03:11,840 --> 00:03:14,720 Speaker 2: to Ashton. They try to download something, you get a 52 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:17,200 Speaker 2: notification that's exactly what we have. 53 00:03:17,720 --> 00:03:21,560 Speaker 1: That's exactly marine, That's exactly what we have. It's on 54 00:03:21,639 --> 00:03:24,680 Speaker 1: Grace's phone. Grace monitors them more. I mean I always 55 00:03:24,720 --> 00:03:27,320 Speaker 1: ask them, I talk to them, but Grace is on 56 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:31,520 Speaker 1: them like a hawk, like a hawk, so and that's 57 00:03:31,560 --> 00:03:33,960 Speaker 1: what she has. So she and the kids complain. I mean, 58 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 1: just to be clear, the kids aren't happy about it. 59 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:40,480 Speaker 1: But I don't care. Grace and I like, I don't care. 60 00:03:40,720 --> 00:03:44,320 Speaker 1: It's either this or nothing. They can pick. But you know, Ava, 61 00:03:44,440 --> 00:03:48,040 Speaker 1: especially Ava, grumbling all the time. You know, her friends 62 00:03:48,080 --> 00:03:51,840 Speaker 1: don't have this. I don't care. So, like you know 63 00:03:51,920 --> 00:03:54,080 Speaker 1: she's going to me. You know, Momy knows everything that 64 00:03:54,160 --> 00:03:58,000 Speaker 1: I'm downloading. I'm like, yeah, and well, let's not fear. 65 00:03:58,120 --> 00:04:01,480 Speaker 1: What about my privacy? As long as you're in my house, 66 00:04:01,520 --> 00:04:03,440 Speaker 1: That's what I told her. As long as you're in 67 00:04:03,480 --> 00:04:08,680 Speaker 1: you're in my house, you don't have privacy. Do you understand? Now, 68 00:04:08,720 --> 00:04:10,360 Speaker 1: when you get your own house, you can have all 69 00:04:10,360 --> 00:04:16,440 Speaker 1: the privacy in the world. So that's what look to me. 70 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:20,400 Speaker 1: I always believe this. If you're a parent, you need 71 00:04:20,440 --> 00:04:24,160 Speaker 1: to know what your children are doing at all times, 72 00:04:24,720 --> 00:04:28,200 Speaker 1: not just on social media, for everything, because it's the 73 00:04:28,200 --> 00:04:33,120 Speaker 1: world we live in. Mermine. Look, my parents would let me. 74 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:36,880 Speaker 1: I would be biking for miles, I would play at 75 00:04:36,880 --> 00:04:40,440 Speaker 1: the park. My parents would say, you know whatever, let's 76 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:43,719 Speaker 1: say it's a Saturday, eleven o'clock. I did my chores, 77 00:04:44,000 --> 00:04:47,520 Speaker 1: all right, Jeff be home by supper. Just go go 78 00:04:47,600 --> 00:04:50,080 Speaker 1: with your friends, go play. Let's go play. Come back 79 00:04:50,080 --> 00:04:54,640 Speaker 1: at five. It was a different time. You know, you 80 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:57,320 Speaker 1: didn't have sex predators everywhere. I mean I could you know. 81 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:01,120 Speaker 1: The laws were much tough. You had law and order, 82 00:05:01,600 --> 00:05:03,919 Speaker 1: you know, they were they were tough on criminals. It 83 00:05:04,040 --> 00:05:07,840 Speaker 1: was just such a different time. And everybody did it. 84 00:05:07,920 --> 00:05:11,520 Speaker 1: In a sense, it was safe. So, you know, we 85 00:05:11,640 --> 00:05:14,479 Speaker 1: played on our bikes, we played baseball, we played football. 86 00:05:14,520 --> 00:05:17,320 Speaker 1: We were at the park all day, you know, and 87 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:19,520 Speaker 1: my parents were like, yeah, that's what kids do. They 88 00:05:19,560 --> 00:05:24,960 Speaker 1: go play. Now, forget it. You gotta seriously, you got 89 00:05:24,960 --> 00:05:29,640 Speaker 1: to watch everything, everything that goes on. And look, I 90 00:05:29,640 --> 00:05:33,360 Speaker 1: can just tell you this. I wouldn't It wouldn't even 91 00:05:33,520 --> 00:05:37,800 Speaker 1: enter my mind at any age, never mind at the 92 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:41,480 Speaker 1: age of eight, to tell my father to go blank 93 00:05:41,560 --> 00:05:49,000 Speaker 1: off he killed me. It just wouldn't happen. Just to 94 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:51,680 Speaker 1: see it here, I'll just give you another example. Marine, 95 00:05:51,720 --> 00:05:55,440 Speaker 1: I promise I'm gonna come back to you. Long story short. 96 00:05:55,760 --> 00:05:58,920 Speaker 1: Grace was tired, had a long day. She said, Jeff, 97 00:05:59,360 --> 00:06:01,560 Speaker 1: get something for us to have dinner. I don't want 98 00:06:01,560 --> 00:06:05,360 Speaker 1: to cook tonight. Okay. The kids, daddy, daddy, daddy, Chipotle. 99 00:06:05,520 --> 00:06:08,760 Speaker 1: They love Chipotle. Okay, So I end up going to Chipotle. 100 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:11,640 Speaker 1: Ava is with me. We're getting the orders for all 101 00:06:11,680 --> 00:06:14,240 Speaker 1: of us, and then we're gonna take it back home. Now, 102 00:06:14,360 --> 00:06:17,160 Speaker 1: let me tell you this is something I've noticed now 103 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:22,160 Speaker 1: it's been about five years. It's all teenagers that are 104 00:06:22,200 --> 00:06:25,480 Speaker 1: working at Chipotle. That's not what's new. I don't know 105 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:29,840 Speaker 1: if there's no manager or the manager doesn't care. But 106 00:06:30,040 --> 00:06:32,600 Speaker 1: I'm for the first not first time for five years now, 107 00:06:32,600 --> 00:06:36,920 Speaker 1: but yesterday was really acute. They're throwing food at each 108 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:42,320 Speaker 1: other as they're serving customers the employees, and in a 109 00:06:42,440 --> 00:06:46,280 Speaker 1: joking way, they're telling each other to go f themselves, 110 00:06:46,800 --> 00:06:51,320 Speaker 1: like you know, F you no, no, f you you know, 111 00:06:51,760 --> 00:06:53,480 Speaker 1: but you know, like I'm not in a series, but 112 00:06:53,520 --> 00:06:57,080 Speaker 1: like in a funny way. Joining us now as she 113 00:06:57,640 --> 00:07:02,760 Speaker 1: always does at this time. She is the co founder, CEO, 114 00:07:03,160 --> 00:07:08,120 Speaker 1: and president of Kelly Financial Services, and yes, that is 115 00:07:08,240 --> 00:07:15,320 Speaker 1: her wonderful name, Kelly Kelly Kelly, how are you. 116 00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:20,440 Speaker 3: Good morning, Jeff? I am good. 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Okay, 141 00:09:10,320 --> 00:09:13,800 Speaker 1: Mike and I were just talking about this off air, 142 00:09:14,040 --> 00:09:15,640 Speaker 1: and again, by the way, I always want to thank 143 00:09:15,720 --> 00:09:19,200 Speaker 1: Kelly and Kelly Financial for their incredible support. But we 144 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:22,680 Speaker 1: were just talking about this off air and Mike said, no, 145 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:27,360 Speaker 1: I'm not shocked by this. What I go No, And anyway, 146 00:09:27,440 --> 00:09:30,000 Speaker 1: so I've noticed it now. It's been about a good 147 00:09:30,080 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 1: four or five years. And my point is just this 148 00:09:35,640 --> 00:09:40,720 Speaker 1: social media is reinforcing horrible behavior to the point now 149 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:43,520 Speaker 1: you want to get some food out of Chipotle in 150 00:09:43,559 --> 00:09:46,360 Speaker 1: front of the customers. And I'm just not picking on Chipotle. 151 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:49,080 Speaker 1: I'm just giving you my experience from last night. My 152 00:09:49,200 --> 00:09:52,680 Speaker 1: thirteen year old daughter is there with me, and you 153 00:09:52,760 --> 00:09:56,199 Speaker 1: see the employees. They're not fighting or arguing, they're joking, 154 00:09:56,880 --> 00:10:00,679 Speaker 1: but they think constantly dropping the F bombs, honey. So 155 00:10:00,720 --> 00:10:04,480 Speaker 1: it's like, hey, blank you no, no, Blank, you called 156 00:10:04,520 --> 00:10:10,079 Speaker 1: blank yourself? You know, Hey, where's the effin Sara cream? 157 00:10:10,360 --> 00:10:12,240 Speaker 1: Who took all the effing Sawa cream? 158 00:10:12,440 --> 00:10:12,640 Speaker 4: Oh? 159 00:10:12,679 --> 00:10:19,280 Speaker 1: Ha ha. This is customer service. You never would have 160 00:10:19,320 --> 00:10:24,559 Speaker 1: seen this before. This is something very recent. And because 161 00:10:24,840 --> 00:10:26,960 Speaker 1: I'm telling you, part of it is it's all this 162 00:10:27,040 --> 00:10:31,520 Speaker 1: social media. It's non stop swearing and they think swearing 163 00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:37,920 Speaker 1: is cool and funny. And apparently I'm getting text messages 164 00:10:38,000 --> 00:10:40,079 Speaker 1: Jeff I happened to me at a burger king. Happened 165 00:10:40,080 --> 00:10:42,400 Speaker 1: to me at a McDonald's, happened to me at a Wendy's. 166 00:10:42,840 --> 00:10:45,240 Speaker 1: You know, Mike made an excellent point, Jeff, you won't 167 00:10:45,280 --> 00:10:48,120 Speaker 1: see that at Chick fil A. Say what you want 168 00:10:48,160 --> 00:10:52,840 Speaker 1: about those Christians, that Christian organization, but you go to 169 00:10:52,960 --> 00:10:58,520 Speaker 1: Chick fil A. They are ifeccably polite. Oh you won't 170 00:10:58,520 --> 00:11:01,280 Speaker 1: hear an F bomb when you go there. That is 171 00:11:01,320 --> 00:11:02,880 Speaker 1: that what you got to do? Now? You got to 172 00:11:02,920 --> 00:11:06,400 Speaker 1: go to Chick fil A, you know, when you're ordering 173 00:11:06,440 --> 00:11:08,640 Speaker 1: and not to hear some you know, some potty mouth, 174 00:11:09,160 --> 00:11:14,679 Speaker 1: really vulgarian, and they think it's so cool. Now you're saying, Jeff, 175 00:11:14,679 --> 00:11:17,960 Speaker 1: why does this bother you? Well, A, I don't want 176 00:11:17,960 --> 00:11:22,160 Speaker 1: to be served food with people swearing and using the 177 00:11:22,320 --> 00:11:28,440 Speaker 1: F word? Am I wrong? And then my daughter, who's thirteen, 178 00:11:29,240 --> 00:11:31,520 Speaker 1: I don't want her to think this is cool to 179 00:11:31,600 --> 00:11:35,360 Speaker 1: behave like this, because you know, I'm hoping one day 180 00:11:35,400 --> 00:11:38,199 Speaker 1: she gets her first jobs, I don't know, flipping hamburgers 181 00:11:38,200 --> 00:11:42,120 Speaker 1: at McDonald's or working the cash register at McDonald's. And 182 00:11:42,200 --> 00:11:45,240 Speaker 1: as I told Mike, you know, I'd be very proud 183 00:11:45,280 --> 00:11:47,280 Speaker 1: to go to the McDonald's and say, hey, I'm gonna 184 00:11:47,320 --> 00:11:49,200 Speaker 1: order my big macmeal, but I'm gonna order it from 185 00:11:49,240 --> 00:11:54,079 Speaker 1: my daughter, Kay's first job. And you know, she comes up, Dad, 186 00:11:54,280 --> 00:11:56,840 Speaker 1: can I take your order? And as she's taking my order, 187 00:11:56,920 --> 00:12:01,480 Speaker 1: she's talking to other colleagues, fellow employees. Eh, yeah, you no, no, 188 00:12:02,080 --> 00:12:09,480 Speaker 1: if you go yourself, I said, Mike, you think this 189 00:12:09,520 --> 00:12:11,480 Speaker 1: is going to make Oh I'm so proud as a father, 190 00:12:12,240 --> 00:12:16,319 Speaker 1: look at the mouth on my daughter. So what I'm 191 00:12:16,360 --> 00:12:22,200 Speaker 1: saying is there's peer pressure. There's an example that's being 192 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:27,600 Speaker 1: set where it's just it's so prevalent and a lot 193 00:12:27,640 --> 00:12:30,440 Speaker 1: of it, I'm telling you, is from that cesspool that 194 00:12:30,520 --> 00:12:34,640 Speaker 1: social media. The less time your kids spend on it, 195 00:12:34,679 --> 00:12:39,680 Speaker 1: trust me, the better. Randy in New Hampshire. Thanks for 196 00:12:39,760 --> 00:12:41,559 Speaker 1: holding Randy, and welcome. 197 00:12:42,440 --> 00:12:43,600 Speaker 4: Good morning, Jeff. How are you. 198 00:12:43,800 --> 00:12:45,040 Speaker 1: I'm good? How are you? Randy? 199 00:12:45,600 --> 00:12:45,960 Speaker 5: Good? 200 00:12:46,679 --> 00:12:49,040 Speaker 4: On this one, Jeff, I have to agree with Grace 201 00:12:49,200 --> 00:12:54,079 Speaker 4: as you like to say, one thousand percent. And I'll 202 00:12:54,120 --> 00:12:56,560 Speaker 4: tell you one of the things that we're not talking 203 00:12:56,600 --> 00:13:00,880 Speaker 4: about is peer pressure. And I have no out that 204 00:13:01,040 --> 00:13:05,120 Speaker 4: you and Grace are outstanding parents. But the problem is 205 00:13:05,200 --> 00:13:07,760 Speaker 4: when you take something from your kids that others have 206 00:13:09,280 --> 00:13:12,880 Speaker 4: that is a tremendous amount of pressure. And I will 207 00:13:12,880 --> 00:13:15,800 Speaker 4: tell you from experience. Now, my kids are both in 208 00:13:15,840 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 4: their thirties. Have you know, have children of their own, 209 00:13:19,679 --> 00:13:26,360 Speaker 4: successful careers, great kids, but struggled with one of them 210 00:13:26,679 --> 00:13:28,920 Speaker 4: when and I'm not going to say he or sheiba 211 00:13:28,920 --> 00:13:32,319 Speaker 4: when they're in their teens. And this was before Facebook. 212 00:13:32,480 --> 00:13:37,079 Speaker 4: This was with a social media app called MySpace, and 213 00:13:37,320 --> 00:13:39,840 Speaker 4: we didn't know a lot about it, but we knew 214 00:13:40,120 --> 00:13:44,240 Speaker 4: that it was unfamiliar to us. We were concerned about 215 00:13:44,240 --> 00:13:47,360 Speaker 4: content even then, and we said, no, you're not going 216 00:13:47,400 --> 00:13:53,880 Speaker 4: to have a MySpace account. So they found a way 217 00:13:54,920 --> 00:13:59,960 Speaker 4: and created another account under an alias. And I learned 218 00:14:00,320 --> 00:14:04,640 Speaker 4: this because I created a MySpace account so I could 219 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:10,480 Speaker 4: keep an eye because I suspected that something was going on. Now, 220 00:14:10,480 --> 00:14:12,679 Speaker 4: this was before smartphones and all of that. They had 221 00:14:12,720 --> 00:14:14,760 Speaker 4: to be on a computer, whether they got access to 222 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:17,600 Speaker 4: it at school or at the library, I'm not sure 223 00:14:17,600 --> 00:14:22,360 Speaker 4: friends homes, but you know, it's it's it was all 224 00:14:22,400 --> 00:14:28,240 Speaker 4: because of peer pressure, you know, and that is a 225 00:14:28,400 --> 00:14:35,640 Speaker 4: very very powerful influence on a child. So that's number one. 226 00:14:36,040 --> 00:14:39,760 Speaker 4: Number two. You know, we talked about that that kid 227 00:14:39,800 --> 00:14:43,400 Speaker 4: with the water bottle incident and saying, you know, blank 228 00:14:43,440 --> 00:14:45,400 Speaker 4: off to her mother. 229 00:14:46,760 --> 00:14:46,960 Speaker 5: Now. 230 00:14:47,080 --> 00:14:49,360 Speaker 4: The only thing I have to say to that is, 231 00:14:50,280 --> 00:14:53,400 Speaker 4: imagine if she had, you know, slapped the kid up 232 00:14:53,440 --> 00:14:55,800 Speaker 4: beside the head, or kind of man handled the kid 233 00:14:55,840 --> 00:14:57,480 Speaker 4: and come on, you're coming with me, put him into 234 00:14:57,480 --> 00:14:59,640 Speaker 4: the car, and so on and so forth. Everybody's got 235 00:14:59,680 --> 00:15:02,720 Speaker 4: to sell phone. And that's what parents are concerned about today. 236 00:15:03,520 --> 00:15:07,480 Speaker 4: Parents are concerned about, you know, being called out for 237 00:15:08,560 --> 00:15:12,440 Speaker 4: roughing their kid up a little bit. And that's a 238 00:15:12,520 --> 00:15:16,840 Speaker 4: real uh, that's a real problem in our society. You know, 239 00:15:16,920 --> 00:15:19,280 Speaker 4: I can and parent, you know, the problem is parents 240 00:15:19,400 --> 00:15:23,600 Speaker 4: aren't parents any longer. They're not. They use social media 241 00:15:23,680 --> 00:15:27,640 Speaker 4: and smartphones as a babysitter for their kids. And I 242 00:15:27,680 --> 00:15:32,000 Speaker 4: see it all the time. I work inside of people's homes. 243 00:15:32,080 --> 00:15:35,400 Speaker 4: I have to go inside of people's homes. People aren't 244 00:15:35,440 --> 00:15:40,360 Speaker 4: parenting their kids any longer. There's no discipline. The language 245 00:15:40,360 --> 00:15:43,000 Speaker 4: I hear coming out of kids' mouths towards their parents, 246 00:15:43,600 --> 00:15:49,080 Speaker 4: it's unbelievable. It's unbelievable. Something has to be done, and 247 00:15:49,200 --> 00:15:52,000 Speaker 4: I am one thousand. I don't like the government getting 248 00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:57,280 Speaker 4: involved in anything, but they need to do something about 249 00:15:57,320 --> 00:16:00,200 Speaker 4: this because it's out of control and it's outside the 250 00:16:00,240 --> 00:16:05,640 Speaker 4: parents control. Because most parents don't care. They don't care, 251 00:16:06,920 --> 00:16:07,400 Speaker 4: and it's. 252 00:16:07,600 --> 00:16:10,160 Speaker 1: Randy, let me ask you this. I hear your argument, 253 00:16:10,160 --> 00:16:13,640 Speaker 1: I really do, Randy, let me ask you this. Maybe 254 00:16:13,640 --> 00:16:17,760 Speaker 1: this is too draconian. I don't know, but it'll in 255 00:16:17,840 --> 00:16:21,920 Speaker 1: a way settle both the concerns of both sides. The 256 00:16:22,040 --> 00:16:25,560 Speaker 1: concern on my side or our side, is that this 257 00:16:25,600 --> 00:16:28,360 Speaker 1: is going to open the door to a universal digital 258 00:16:28,440 --> 00:16:31,680 Speaker 1: ID where they can monitor and track us. This is 259 00:16:31,720 --> 00:16:34,840 Speaker 1: their trojan horse, and in some ways we believe it 260 00:16:34,880 --> 00:16:38,960 Speaker 1: violates freedom of speech. Your side, you've articulated it now 261 00:16:39,200 --> 00:16:43,560 Speaker 1: very well, very eloquently. What if we said, instead of 262 00:16:43,680 --> 00:16:47,960 Speaker 1: banning them going on social media, because then they got 263 00:16:48,000 --> 00:16:51,000 Speaker 1: to resign up when they turn sixteen, and that's when 264 00:16:51,000 --> 00:16:54,880 Speaker 1: they're going to start tracking them. Right, we just say, no, 265 00:16:56,200 --> 00:17:01,720 Speaker 1: you can't have a smartphone, an iPhone, whatever it may be, 266 00:17:02,480 --> 00:17:06,680 Speaker 1: until you're sixteen. A law, you know, like the way 267 00:17:06,760 --> 00:17:11,280 Speaker 1: you can't have a gun until you're twenty one or whatever. 268 00:17:11,359 --> 00:17:14,040 Speaker 1: You can't drink until you're twenty one. In other words, 269 00:17:14,320 --> 00:17:18,280 Speaker 1: there's just certain things that a child cannot possess, period, 270 00:17:18,560 --> 00:17:23,159 Speaker 1: full stop. And so until you're sixteen, we are going 271 00:17:23,240 --> 00:17:26,679 Speaker 1: to ban the sale of cell phones, or we're not 272 00:17:26,720 --> 00:17:28,439 Speaker 1: cell phones because you can have a flip phone, but 273 00:17:28,480 --> 00:17:31,960 Speaker 1: I mean the sale of iPhones smartphones, So this way 274 00:17:32,840 --> 00:17:35,919 Speaker 1: they just don't have a phone or sorry, a smartphone 275 00:17:36,040 --> 00:17:39,240 Speaker 1: or an iPhone, so they can there's no way they 276 00:17:39,320 --> 00:17:42,080 Speaker 1: can access anything on social media. 277 00:17:42,280 --> 00:17:42,879 Speaker 5: What say you? 278 00:17:43,200 --> 00:17:45,960 Speaker 1: Is that? Is that something? Am I going too far here? 279 00:17:46,160 --> 00:17:49,359 Speaker 1: Let's say you Randy? Okay, let's go right back to 280 00:17:49,520 --> 00:17:54,040 Speaker 1: Randy in New Hampshire. Randy, what do you say? Is 281 00:17:54,080 --> 00:17:59,639 Speaker 1: maybe the solution here? You can't sell a smartphone or 282 00:17:59,680 --> 00:18:04,640 Speaker 1: an iPhone to anyone under the age of sixteen. It's 283 00:18:04,680 --> 00:18:09,040 Speaker 1: like selling a loaded gun. No, you're sixteen, you can 284 00:18:09,080 --> 00:18:12,720 Speaker 1: get a smartphone. You're twenty one, you can get a gun. 285 00:18:13,320 --> 00:18:20,639 Speaker 4: What say you, Well, it's one source of being able 286 00:18:20,720 --> 00:18:24,679 Speaker 4: to access social media. And by the way, it doesn't 287 00:18:24,720 --> 00:18:27,240 Speaker 4: have to be a kid buying a smartphone. It could 288 00:18:27,240 --> 00:18:31,000 Speaker 4: be a parent, right, So that's what you have to control. 289 00:18:31,160 --> 00:18:34,480 Speaker 4: This is going back to parenting, you know. And I'll 290 00:18:34,560 --> 00:18:37,040 Speaker 4: draw a parallel here and it might seem like I'm 291 00:18:37,040 --> 00:18:40,240 Speaker 4: going off topic, but hear me out. There was a 292 00:18:40,359 --> 00:18:45,440 Speaker 4: day when if a teacher called a parent to school 293 00:18:47,040 --> 00:18:51,600 Speaker 4: because of a issue going on with their kid. Maybe 294 00:18:51,600 --> 00:18:54,240 Speaker 4: they got into a fight on the playground, or maybe 295 00:18:54,240 --> 00:18:57,320 Speaker 4: they or caught cheating, whatever the case might be. It 296 00:18:57,480 --> 00:19:02,560 Speaker 4: used to be, my god, you thought your parents were 297 00:19:02,640 --> 00:19:05,600 Speaker 4: coming to the school to meet with the teacher. You 298 00:19:05,720 --> 00:19:09,480 Speaker 4: knew you were in some serious trouble because that parent 299 00:19:09,560 --> 00:19:12,240 Speaker 4: was going to hold you accountable. Because that was a 300 00:19:12,320 --> 00:19:16,159 Speaker 4: day when parenting was parenting. Now parents go to a 301 00:19:16,200 --> 00:19:18,840 Speaker 4: school and what do they do. They go to the 302 00:19:18,880 --> 00:19:24,359 Speaker 4: defense of their child, over and over and over again. 303 00:19:24,560 --> 00:19:28,560 Speaker 4: You hear about it, Oh that my kid couldn't do that, 304 00:19:28,560 --> 00:19:30,600 Speaker 4: that wasn't my child. You've got to be you know, 305 00:19:30,640 --> 00:19:36,119 Speaker 4: you're you're wrong, You're wrong. It's no different parents are 306 00:19:36,320 --> 00:19:39,480 Speaker 4: going to do for their children because we're in a 307 00:19:39,640 --> 00:19:43,399 Speaker 4: spoiled society and they don't think that their kid's going 308 00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:46,480 Speaker 4: to do anything wrong on social media. They've got control. 309 00:19:46,600 --> 00:19:48,479 Speaker 4: They don't think that they're going to be, you know, 310 00:19:48,680 --> 00:19:52,359 Speaker 4: influenced by anybody. My kids are good, My kids are great, 311 00:19:52,560 --> 00:19:57,359 Speaker 4: no issues. The reason that they don't sell alcohol to 312 00:19:57,920 --> 00:20:01,640 Speaker 4: people under the age of twenty one is they become 313 00:20:02,080 --> 00:20:07,720 Speaker 4: influenced by that and they can't control the influence. They 314 00:20:07,760 --> 00:20:10,359 Speaker 4: don't know when to stop, they don't know what the 315 00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:15,880 Speaker 4: limit is. It's no different than social media. They're being influenced. 316 00:20:16,200 --> 00:20:21,240 Speaker 4: And your caller, who, oh my god, that gentleman's daughter 317 00:20:21,320 --> 00:20:24,800 Speaker 4: who was Ugh, I don't even want to repeat it. 318 00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:25,439 Speaker 4: It's so awful. 319 00:20:25,480 --> 00:20:29,320 Speaker 1: I can't even imagine parents a worst nightmare. No, Randy, look, 320 00:20:29,359 --> 00:20:33,760 Speaker 1: you make excellent points. There's no question. And look, that's 321 00:20:33,760 --> 00:20:36,200 Speaker 1: the one thing Grace and I were instilled in both 322 00:20:36,240 --> 00:20:40,160 Speaker 1: Ashton and Eva. I said, I better not get that call. 323 00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:43,520 Speaker 1: I said, if Grace gets that call or I get 324 00:20:43,520 --> 00:20:46,760 Speaker 1: that call, that I have to come to the school. 325 00:20:47,119 --> 00:20:50,240 Speaker 1: Because the two either one of you is misbehaving, you 326 00:20:50,280 --> 00:20:52,280 Speaker 1: are going to be in so much trouble you'll remember 327 00:20:52,320 --> 00:20:54,560 Speaker 1: for the rest of your life. Now I'm not saying 328 00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:57,640 Speaker 1: they don't get in trouble, but it's minor stuff. It's 329 00:20:57,640 --> 00:21:00,159 Speaker 1: petty stuff. We've never had to be called in. We 330 00:21:00,200 --> 00:21:03,080 Speaker 1: have to get called in for grades or because both 331 00:21:03,080 --> 00:21:06,159 Speaker 1: of them have certain issues in terms of education, and 332 00:21:06,200 --> 00:21:11,720 Speaker 1: they're you know, Eva has add and and Ashton has dyslexia, 333 00:21:11,840 --> 00:21:15,160 Speaker 1: so they have certain issues. Ashon, for example, is really 334 00:21:15,200 --> 00:21:19,080 Speaker 1: struggling with physics. I mean, he's just you know, we've 335 00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:21,720 Speaker 1: got him with tutoring and but still he's having a 336 00:21:21,760 --> 00:21:24,280 Speaker 1: hard time. So yeah, we get called in, but it's 337 00:21:24,320 --> 00:21:28,520 Speaker 1: not for behavioral problems. So and no, you're right, you're 338 00:21:28,560 --> 00:21:31,359 Speaker 1: completely right, because that's the one thing teachers tell us 339 00:21:31,440 --> 00:21:34,159 Speaker 1: over and over again. They go, it used to be 340 00:21:34,280 --> 00:21:36,639 Speaker 1: twenty years ago, twenty five years ago. You know, you 341 00:21:36,760 --> 00:21:40,840 Speaker 1: call the parents in because the child is misbehaving, and Mike, 342 00:21:41,119 --> 00:21:45,120 Speaker 1: you know the child will be petrified. Now, she says, 343 00:21:45,160 --> 00:21:47,679 Speaker 1: all we do is argue with the parents. The parents 344 00:21:47,680 --> 00:21:50,399 Speaker 1: will never admit little Jenny is wrong or little Jimmy 345 00:21:50,480 --> 00:21:54,199 Speaker 1: is wrong, and they go, they're just creating monsters and 346 00:21:54,200 --> 00:21:56,560 Speaker 1: it's making it impossible for us to do our job 347 00:21:56,600 --> 00:22:00,840 Speaker 1: in the classroom. So you're dead on. Really good call, 348 00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:05,439 Speaker 1: very thoughtful call, Randy, Thank you, I appreciate it. Ryan 349 00:22:05,720 --> 00:22:09,040 Speaker 1: in Hingham, thanks for holding Ryan and welcome. 350 00:22:11,280 --> 00:22:11,600 Speaker 5: Yeah. 351 00:22:11,640 --> 00:22:16,439 Speaker 6: Well, the thing is is that I'm thousand percent not 352 00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:21,000 Speaker 6: for the band one. Parents have to be parents. 353 00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:22,480 Speaker 4: What you have to do. 354 00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:24,919 Speaker 6: When I raised my two children, I said, if you're 355 00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:26,639 Speaker 6: on Facebook, you friend me. 356 00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:31,040 Speaker 5: Okay, you're not going on Facebook with what without my protection. 357 00:22:31,640 --> 00:22:36,800 Speaker 5: I am the gatekeeper of my children's mind, okay, period 358 00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:41,720 Speaker 5: and destroy parents have abdicated it. Okay, and doesn't matter 359 00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:44,960 Speaker 5: about the law because they will get around it by 360 00:22:44,960 --> 00:22:49,840 Speaker 5: either going to their older siblings or going over to parents' houses. 361 00:22:50,040 --> 00:22:53,320 Speaker 5: When I was raising my child, I said, you want 362 00:22:53,359 --> 00:22:55,160 Speaker 5: to go over there, not a problem. 363 00:22:55,440 --> 00:22:58,600 Speaker 6: I must meet the parents because not it was a 364 00:22:58,680 --> 00:23:02,600 Speaker 6: Christian school. Are Christians? Not all Christians are the same. 365 00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:05,520 Speaker 5: I want to make sure that they're not watching stuff 366 00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:07,960 Speaker 5: that I don't allow you to watch at home. 367 00:23:08,560 --> 00:23:11,920 Speaker 6: This is a problem. People aren't parenting, they're being friends 368 00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:17,439 Speaker 6: to the child. Okay, No, you have to lay down 369 00:23:17,640 --> 00:23:18,040 Speaker 6: the law. 370 00:23:18,560 --> 00:23:21,399 Speaker 5: They don't know how bad it is out there until 371 00:23:21,440 --> 00:23:24,679 Speaker 5: they get out there and we and we do, and 372 00:23:24,720 --> 00:23:26,280 Speaker 5: it's like I don't get it. 373 00:23:26,560 --> 00:23:28,920 Speaker 6: I don't I don't get it. If you're going to 374 00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:30,240 Speaker 6: have a child, you. 375 00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:32,679 Speaker 5: Better know that you're gonna have to twenty four to 376 00:23:32,680 --> 00:23:35,879 Speaker 5: seven be their gatekeeper period and destroy and if you 377 00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:39,280 Speaker 5: don't want to do it, have them adopted somewhere else. 378 00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:40,600 Speaker 6: Because I'm sick. 379 00:23:40,440 --> 00:23:44,040 Speaker 5: And tired of these people who tell me that no, no, no, no, 380 00:23:44,240 --> 00:23:46,360 Speaker 5: we need to create God rails for them. 381 00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:48,600 Speaker 6: No no, no no, we need the parents to greet 382 00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:49,160 Speaker 6: the God. 383 00:23:49,080 --> 00:23:52,399 Speaker 5: There God wraiales. You stay out of my life, stay 384 00:23:52,440 --> 00:23:54,920 Speaker 5: out of my wallet and stay out of my life. 385 00:23:55,440 --> 00:23:58,399 Speaker 6: Don't let the government do it. They are going to 386 00:23:58,640 --> 00:23:59,719 Speaker 6: use it again. 387 00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:05,359 Speaker 1: I go back to my opening monologue Ryan, where I 388 00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:07,439 Speaker 1: said I had two big regrets in my life in 389 00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:11,879 Speaker 1: terms of public policy positions that I've taken. I said 390 00:24:11,880 --> 00:24:15,160 Speaker 1: one was my support for the Iraq War and to 391 00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:18,760 Speaker 1: the Patriot Act. And this is how they sold both 392 00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:21,280 Speaker 1: both things. But it's part of the Patriot Act that 393 00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:23,679 Speaker 1: it was for our own good. Come on, we just 394 00:24:23,720 --> 00:24:25,920 Speaker 1: want to go after terrorists. Give us the tools to 395 00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:29,800 Speaker 1: go after terrorists, and it all seems so reasonable, and 396 00:24:29,840 --> 00:24:33,600 Speaker 1: then it ended up they weaponized it, perverted it, abused it, 397 00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:37,439 Speaker 1: and now they've been spying on us. I fear the 398 00:24:37,440 --> 00:24:40,360 Speaker 1: same thing. I'm with you, and I love your phrase. 399 00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:43,959 Speaker 1: We are the guardrails. To me, that's what a parent is. 400 00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:48,760 Speaker 1: You're the guard rail, you're the gatekeeper. And look, I 401 00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:51,000 Speaker 1: really want to stress this. I'm not trying to claim 402 00:24:51,040 --> 00:24:54,720 Speaker 1: that we're perfect parents. Were not. Believe me. Okay, you 403 00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:58,080 Speaker 1: learn on the job as a parent, but you're not 404 00:24:58,600 --> 00:25:04,560 Speaker 1: your child's friends and you're not. And it really annoys 405 00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:07,600 Speaker 1: Ashton and Eva because especially Grace, Grace is always I 406 00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:09,280 Speaker 1: don't want to say in their face, but she's in 407 00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:12,800 Speaker 1: their business. You know, who are you going to? No, No, 408 00:25:12,840 --> 00:25:16,400 Speaker 1: I want to meet the parents, you know, always always 409 00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:17,640 Speaker 1: hovering around them.