Speaker 1: It's Marcus in the morning and we've got second date update.
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Speaker 2: Trevor, you there, Hey, Marcus, Yeah, I'm here.
Speaker 1: Hey man, good morning. Let's talk about your date because
Speaker 1: I know. So what we're gonna do is we're gonna
Speaker 1: try to get her on the phone. I understand she's ghosted.
Speaker 1: Let's try to figure some things out, but roll it
Speaker 1: out for me. So you met at Lisa online, and
Speaker 1: then what did you guys do?
Speaker 2: We decided to meet up for the first time. Just
Speaker 2: got some dinner in Walnut Creek. Okay, everything felt great.
Speaker 2: You know, we conversed really well. There were a lot
Speaker 2: of jokes, lots of laughing, and nothing felt like wrong.
Speaker 2: Everything felt natural, nothing forced kind of a thing. Would
Speaker 2: you guys talk about a bunch of stuff? Really talked
Speaker 2: about our work, travel. I mean we were talking for a while,
Speaker 2: like nearly like we were there nearly two hours.
Speaker 1: I'm waiting for that one person to say to me, Oh,
Speaker 1: you know, politics, religion, the husu.
Speaker 2: Nothing too divisive the first day, you know, you.
Speaker 1: Know, mostly mostly about our exes.
Speaker 2: No, it was all natural stuff. Yeah, sure, okay, it
Speaker 2: was a good time. Yeah, nothing inappropriate to I mean,
Speaker 2: it ended well, Like I said, it was like two hours.
Speaker 2: It ended with a we should definitely do this again
Speaker 2: sometime soon. Yeah, we hugged. You know, I tried to
Speaker 2: reach out the next day even and I haven't heard
Speaker 2: anything from her in a while.
Speaker 3: Now.
Speaker 1: How many times have you reached out like like a couple,
Speaker 1: couple like I would, I would give it some space,
Speaker 1: you know.
Speaker 2: I reached out the next day and then gave it
Speaker 2: another day to text again. Okay, I think it's it's
Speaker 2: been like three or four times at this point.
Speaker 1: And well, let me call options. So we're going to
Speaker 1: call at least and figure out why she ghosted. Go
Speaker 1: ahead and meet your phone so you can listen in.
Speaker 1: Here we go. Hello, Hi, is this Elase?
Speaker 3: Hi?
Speaker 1: At least it's Marcus calling from Star one three? How
Speaker 1: are you?
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, Hi, Hey, surprise.
Speaker 1: Hey girl, surprise. We're doing we're doing second date update
Speaker 1: right now? Do you do you listen to the show?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, I love this show. It's great. I never
Speaker 3: thought i'd be honest though.
Speaker 1: Right here we are, Should I bring Trevor on now
Speaker 1: or later?
Speaker 3: I'd be oh, right, Trevor, Trevor you there? Yep?
Speaker 2: The hair market?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 3: Good.
Speaker 1: I figured since she listens every morning, we might as well.
Speaker 1: You know, So Trevor's feeling ghosted. Doug you a lot.
Speaker 1: We were pretty convinced. We listened to me. He was
Speaker 1: pretty convinced you're gonna get a second date. And I'm
Speaker 1: wondering if you ghosted, and if so, did he do
Speaker 1: something wrong?
Speaker 3: Well? The actual date was great.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: I liked Trevor. I do.
Speaker 1: He's right that you can talk to him directly. It's fine.
Speaker 1: I'll be right here.
Speaker 3: Okay, that's awkward.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry.
Speaker 3: Okay, So, Trevor, you're a great guy. You're really funny,
Speaker 3: You're really easy to talk to. There weren't any red
Speaker 3: flag until the very end, when the check came. The
Speaker 3: server had asked how we want to handle it, and
Speaker 3: you immediately said let's split it. And you know, normally
Speaker 3: that wouldn't be a big deal. But this is a
Speaker 3: first date. We met online. You know, I had only
Speaker 3: ordered an appetizer and water, where you had a lot
Speaker 3: more food and like cocktails and desserts, And I just
Speaker 3: was wondering if you might catch on to the fact
Speaker 3: that you had so much more and you're asking me
Speaker 3: to split the bill, which is like paying for all
Speaker 3: of your stuff.
Speaker 1: Did you say anything like in the moment?
Speaker 3: No, I didn't because for the same reason I haven't responded,
Speaker 3: Like I didn't want to make a scene. I wanted
Speaker 3: to keep the vibe normal. I mean, I really did
Speaker 3: have fun, but you know, but internally it just changed
Speaker 3: everything for me. Okay, here's the thing. I always order
Speaker 3: light on the first date. This is like on purpose
Speaker 3: because it's my way of checking self awareness, Like I
Speaker 3: have to protect myself online dating's rough. You know, it's
Speaker 3: not about money. It's just I want to see if
Speaker 3: a guy notices the imbalance without being told.
Speaker 1: Wait, I'm lost.
Speaker 2: What notices the imbalance?
Speaker 3: Like a test?
Speaker 2: So like, is that what this was?
Speaker 3: If it's not a test, it's like a filter. It's
Speaker 3: like something I have to do to weed out the
Speaker 3: guys who don't pay attention, Like paying attention is really
Speaker 3: important to me.
Speaker 2: What you're describing, in my eyes at least, is literally
Speaker 2: a test, And I don't even think that's fair since
Speaker 2: you didn't even say anything. It's not fair to me
Speaker 2: that I didn't know I was taking this test if
Speaker 2: you don't communicate it.
Speaker 3: I didn't want to have to say anything. I was
Speaker 3: hoping you'd be able to read the situation and figure
Speaker 3: it out to address it.
Speaker 2: Just be an adult and use your words and communicate.
Speaker 3: Look, I am trying to be an adult here. I
Speaker 3: tried to not make a scene and keep everything normal,
Speaker 3: and I just know what I want, and it's not
Speaker 3: someone like you who can't read what the room. This
Speaker 3: is not a game.
Speaker 2: It certainly seems like a game, but what you're describing
Speaker 2: is a game that you're trying to play with me
Speaker 2: and who knows however many other guys you're playing it with. Okay,
Speaker 2: you know what. I didn't realize this was a situation.
Speaker 3: Look, I'm just trying to find a guy, and I
Speaker 3: expect the same.
Speaker 1: This is devolving quick.
Speaker 2: Clearly we haven't even gotten to the fact that you
Speaker 2: ghosted me. But clearly you're too high maintenance for me,
Speaker 2: So i'm out.
Speaker 3: Oh you're clearly it's not a match.
Speaker 1: Okay, then why are we here? Hang on, you guys,
Speaker 1: hang on?
Speaker 2: Wow, all right.
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