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Speaker 1: I have some bad news for you. What you guys

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Speaker 1: have been hounding me for a year to take you

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Speaker 1: all to Bennie Hannah. So last week we agreed that

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Speaker 1: Wednesday at noon this week, that we would all go

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Speaker 1: to Bennie han Over in Golden Valley.

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Speaker 2: You brought it up. You brought it up, you said,

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Speaker 2: you know what, I'll finally take you guys.

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Speaker 3: Well we're not going.

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Speaker 2: Why.

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Speaker 3: Well, here's the reason why.

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Speaker 1: Because I have got this belly pain and I've had

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Speaker 1: it for ten twelve years, and last week it was

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Speaker 1: really bad, to the point where I couldn't even sit

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Speaker 1: still because I'd be sitting down and I'd like, I

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Speaker 1: can't sit so I'd have to get up and walk

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Speaker 1: around just to kind of like try to deal with

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Speaker 1: the pain. So I called to make a doctor appointment

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Speaker 1: at the at the the gastro doctor. And guess when

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Speaker 1: the appointment is Wednesday at eleven thirty. Why, that was

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Speaker 1: as soon as they could get me in. They said, okay,

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Speaker 1: Monday morning at eight. I can't be there today at

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Speaker 1: eight o'clock, but I can be there. Don't look so sad, Bailey.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I'm sorry. We've been wanting to go because

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Speaker 2: we've been I think again, we brought this up because

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Speaker 2: you offer to do it then never cast in, and

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Speaker 2: now look at you cashing out like a monk.

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Speaker 3: You know what.

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Speaker 1: I think that you guys should be a little bit

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Speaker 1: more supportive of your friend who could have like some

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Speaker 1: dread disease.

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, you've had belly paint for like twenty years.

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Speaker 4: You're fine. Still, it hasn't done anything to yet yet.

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Speaker 4: You know it fixes belly pain. Benny Hannah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's.

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Speaker 4: Benny Hannah with your wonderful coworker.

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Speaker 3: You know I can't.

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Speaker 1: I've got a health crisis over here, and the three

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Speaker 1: of you are bullying me to take it to Benny Hint.

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Speaker 2: Give me a pen and I'll burst the pain in

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Speaker 2: your belly.

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Speaker 3: It'll be gone to exist.

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Speaker 2: Yeah exactly, I'll burst it and then we'll go to

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Speaker 2: Ben Hannah. I want to go to Betty Hank.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, you'll maybe we'll go another time to cancel

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Speaker 1: my gastro appointment to take you idiots to Benni Hana,

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Speaker 1: but you.

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Speaker 2: Maybe will go another time. You heard it here, Dave

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Speaker 2: canceled on us. We bet last week on who would

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Speaker 2: cancel first. We thought Jenny because she always.

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Speaker 4: Is like, I just will tell you ahead of time

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Speaker 4: if I'm not available. But if I'm available and I

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Speaker 4: commit to something, I stick with my commitments.

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Speaker 2: On somebody you weren't trying to Day was shot at

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Speaker 2: the super Bowl party. You didn't want to go, You

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Speaker 2: didn't have any other.

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Speaker 4: It's not true. I didn't say that. I said that

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Speaker 4: I probably would be going to a different super Bowl party.

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Speaker 2: I just was.

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Speaker 4: Unsure at the time.

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Speaker 2: A Betty Hannah Day, I know you wrote a song

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Speaker 2: about it.

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Speaker 3: Play it what's to the.

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Speaker 5: Tune of It's to the tune of Cocomo by the

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Speaker 5: Beach Boys. Just play play me the karaoke version, and

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Speaker 5: I would really like to sing the song for you

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Speaker 5: to really make you feel bad, to make you feel bad.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and when the doctor's like, you're fine, and that'll

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Speaker 4: be the end of it.

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Speaker 5: And then I want you to revisit this and picture

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Speaker 5: me sad, sad underneath a rain cloud.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I want to take me.

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Speaker 6: Benny Hannah, Oh Mama, com on, pretty Mama, Yum yum,

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Speaker 6: Sweet sack baby.

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Speaker 2: Why don't we go.

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Speaker 5: In Golden Valley.

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Speaker 6: There's a place called Kenny Hanny Hannah, thank you for this.

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Speaker 6: That's where you wanna go, and Dave will pay for

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Speaker 6: it all.

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Speaker 3: It's not gonna happen.

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Speaker 2: Mabe grub onion train, go to choo Chove.

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Speaker 6: We'll be falling in love to the rhythm of the

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Speaker 6: tokyo bend. Down in Bennie Hannah a mership he bachi A.

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Speaker 2: Wanna takey Benny.

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Speaker 6: Hannah, Oh, Mama, com on Brady, Mama.

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Speaker 2: Yummy young sauce, sweet sacke.

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Speaker 6: Maybe why don't we go to Benny Hannah. We'll get

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Speaker 6: there fast and then we'll take it.

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Speaker 2: So we on. Okay, got a second one.

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Speaker 5: Down in Bennie Hannah tepping' yaki theatrics from the Kookie Chef,

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Speaker 5: five Horses and Specials.

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Speaker 3: How long is this song?

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Speaker 2: Willie tell?

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Speaker 6: Our pants are our free contra trimping at Amammy or

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Speaker 6: pan fried Yoza?

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Speaker 2: Hey, I'm easy.

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Speaker 3: That's written up after brevity is the soul of witch.

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Speaker 3: Have you ever heard that phrase before?

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Speaker 2: Cocktails and moonlit?

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 3: Now, you're not even making up words.

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Speaker 6: That dreamy look in our eyes give me that tera

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Speaker 6: yaky contact Hi.

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Speaker 2: Down in Bennie Hannah, immersive Oka.

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Speaker 5: Wanna take you to Bennie Hannah's song Anymore, Ye song

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Speaker 5: is over now?

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Speaker 1: Okay boy, You and Sabrina Carpenter the Songwriting Hall.

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Speaker 3: Of Fame, Ye.

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Speaker 2: Close race.

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Speaker 1: You notice none of those words in the Baile version rhymed.

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Speaker 1: Valley and Hannah do not rhyme. Oh my god, You've

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Speaker 1: got two dates this week on Hinge. If either of

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Speaker 1: these fellows heard this, they're going to cancel.

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Speaker 2: Will be like sign me up, be like.

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Speaker 4: Well, we clearly need to go to Benny Hawk, Betty Hannah,

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Speaker 4: Yeah right.

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Speaker 2: I'm going.

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Speaker 1: Should there will be a dress code for teachers. Now

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Speaker 1: a lot of schools have a dress code of sorts

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Speaker 1: for students, but not necessarily necessarily for teachers, even though

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Speaker 1: many parents think they should. There's a teacher named any

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Speaker 1: She's gone viral and it's getting slammed on social media

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Speaker 1: over how she dresses sexy every day and everybody knows

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Speaker 1: how she dresses because she shows her outfits on TikTok.

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Speaker 1: But her latest little fashioned show has drawn a lot

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Speaker 1: of criticism because she's wearing skin tight black faux leather pants.

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Speaker 1: Some critics say, you know she's wearing club pants at

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Speaker 1: a school and for dressing to look hot for kids.

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Speaker 1: But not all the comments were negative. Some people thought

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Speaker 1: the outfit was harmless, and one pointed out, kids don't

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Speaker 1: care to them, you're an old lady in leather pants. Now,

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Speaker 1: that is not true. That is certainly not true, because

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Speaker 1: when you're in middle school, Missus Trent was hot and

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Speaker 1: all the boys thought Missus Trent was hot, and she

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Speaker 1: like thirteen or fourteen. So I don't know, I mean,

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Speaker 1: I haven't seen her picture of but off the top

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Speaker 1: of my head, I would say wearing tight faux leather

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Speaker 1: to like, you know, look hot for the kids or

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Speaker 1: the other teachers dress a little bit more conservatively.

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Speaker 3: That's just me.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean I agree that, like you should definitely

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Speaker 5: not be wearing skin tight clothes. But I know I've

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Speaker 5: seen a lot of this stuff on TikTok, and like

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Speaker 5: people talk talking about her outfits and like showing pictures her.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. And my thing though, is that she is just kind.

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Speaker 5: Of like a voluptuous woman and that's not necessarily like

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Speaker 5: her fault. So like she could wear a bag and

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Speaker 5: she could still be considered like sexy because she's just

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Speaker 5: got a big button, big boobs, and.

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Speaker 1: A little bitty waist. But she's not wearing a bag.

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Speaker 1: She's wearing skin tight faux leather pants.

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Speaker 2: Right, But I'm thinking, like, can she win at all

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Speaker 2: if she could? I mean, she could wear anything. I

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Speaker 5: Right, We're but they have to wear baggy clothes every

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Speaker 5: day just because you got a bang and bod.

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Speaker 1: The male teacher wear a muscle shirt. I mean, is

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Speaker 1: that okay if a male teacher wears a muscle shirt,

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Speaker 1: a belly shirt.

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Speaker 5: I mean, what if he's just like super jacked in

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Speaker 5: any shirt he wears is a muscle shirt because he's

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Speaker 5: so jacked.

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Speaker 2: That's what. Do you understand what I'm saying?

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Speaker 1: Though I do, Yes, I do. I see what you're saying.

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Speaker 1: But I know, for example, my realtor, he is jacked.

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Speaker 1: And I didn't know he was jacked until I saw

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Speaker 1: him at the gym one time because he always wears

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Speaker 1: Then I see him at the gym and he's wearing, like,

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Speaker 1: damn Jenny, what do you.

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Speaker 4: Think I'm looking at the photo right now, and I

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Speaker 4: think that it's ridiculous that people care. It's the same

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Speaker 4: as wearing skinny jeans in my opinion, which those are

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Speaker 4: appropriate to wear?

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Speaker 2: Is it not?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: But I don't think teachers are wearing skinny jeans to

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Speaker 4: You're a teacher of Texas in because I feel like

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Speaker 4: a lot of millennials have not let go of their

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Speaker 2: I'm sure I wear skinny jeans every day. I'm just

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Speaker 4: I think it's like it's a trend that's gone away

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Speaker 4: I just do not find it to be inappropriate. She's

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Speaker 4: to say that those are like going out to the

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Speaker 4: club pants is hilarious. Those are stylish leather pants.

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Speaker 2: In my opinion, I.

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Speaker 1: Think that if there's one place that you should dress conservatively,

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Speaker 1: number one, it's church. Although I see a lot of

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Speaker 1: people that the church that I go to look like

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Speaker 1: they're going to a fashion show. It's like rich women

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Speaker 1: have people go oh wow, Jill and her family, they're rich.

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Speaker 3: I see that a lot.

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Speaker 1: But I also think that school is one place where

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Speaker 1: if you're gonna dress somewhat conservatively, that would probably be

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Speaker 1: the place if you're a teacher. We have so many teachers.

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Speaker 1: We are number one with teachers. Love to hear what

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Speaker 1: you think. Send me a text at Katie WB one

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Speaker 1: five three nine two one. Here is one right now.

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Speaker 1: It says I work for a school district as a

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Speaker 1: pair of professional us and the teachers both have dress codes.

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Speaker 1: No shorts, snow shirts that show your shoulder.

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Speaker 3: Another one.

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Speaker 1: I can't believe how sloppy teachers dress nowadays. But I

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Speaker 1: was a kid. Teachers always look nice. Drop my kid

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Speaker 1: off every day and watch these teachers walk in. They

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Speaker 1: actually literally have athletic pants on and a sweatshirt. Have

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Speaker 1: a great day. Christy.

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Speaker 4: Have you seeing the photo, Dave.

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Speaker 3: I'm not.

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Speaker 1: I'm representing the portion of the audience that has not

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Speaker 1: seen the photo.

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Speaker 4: I get that but I think if you saw this photo,

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Speaker 4: you would be like cool, she's literally wearing like leather pants.

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Speaker 4: It's not like she's wearing and something that's so inappropriate.

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Speaker 2: Okay're so comfy. We got out Meg on the phone.

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Speaker 7: You think, Meg, Well, that gets super super silly from

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Speaker 8: The pant peter and style, really bow bottoms and big

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Speaker 7: They still exist. And it is a little body shaming.

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Speaker 4: I think we should post a picture of this on

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Speaker 2: Yeah, if I'm looking at the right picture, I don't

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Speaker 2: They wear sweatpants every single day?

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Speaker 5: I'm like, and they're mid drift always showing back in

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Speaker 5: mine and Jenny's day, you could not show your belly,

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Speaker 1: Hi, Kayla. We're talking about this woman who's a teacher.

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Speaker 1: And I haven't seen the picture because I'm representing the

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Speaker 9: I think people need to get over it. I am

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Speaker 1: I'd be like you kids, get pajama pants should not

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Speaker 1: Bailey is going to stir the pot today. Bailey is

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Speaker 3: Give them kids a good whooping.

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Speaker 1: sirrs the pot. Yeah, what do you got today? Your turn?

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Speaker 3: Bailey.

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Speaker 2: O Hey, here's my Bailey stirs the pot.

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Speaker 5: People need to learn some etiquette when it comes to

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Speaker 2: I don't care if you're.

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Speaker 5: Seeing a play, a movie, a stand up comedian. I

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Speaker 2: Speak, Learn you manners.

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Speaker 5: Wow, you're gonna stop unwrapping candy lattice. You get your

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Speaker 5: little crinkle crinkle, crinkle, crinkle crinkle, and that never that

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Speaker 5: candy never opens. Stop unwrapping candy, Stop chewing gum and

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Speaker 5: smacking it and blowing bubbles. Stop leaving your ringer on

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Speaker 5: it's always somebody who has their brightness on twenty seven

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Speaker 5: thousand percent okay, and so everyone can see you on

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Speaker 5: you have to call them out on it. Why aren't

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Speaker 5: That tap foot tapper had three other people around her,

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Speaker 1: Your friend out Keep them accountable.

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Speaker 5: I used to get in trouble all the time with

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Speaker 5: Yeah, where I tell Jenny right before I eat an

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Speaker 5: And usually like if I'm around somebody brand new and

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Speaker 5: Why are you eating in an audience when you're supposed

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Speaker 2: I also paid for these chips. I'm not not watching

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Speaker 1: Calling out you Orphium because they sell pretzels. This I

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: And I used to work at a theater and we

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Speaker 2: And then start rolling around.

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Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, learn some etiquette when you're in an

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Speaker 1: Jenny is the nicest, kindest person on the show. So

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Speaker 4: I thought of mine last night. I put a note

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Speaker 1: A couple of text messages and you're doing this tomorrow

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Speaker 1: Jenny is gonna stir the pot tomorrow. Bailey says this

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Speaker 1: Prince Musical here in the Boomers cough and be obnoxious,

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Speaker 5: No?

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Speaker 3: And the two women behind me who kept.

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Speaker 2: Talking, shut up, do not talk.

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Speaker 3: Carson and I.

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Speaker 2: That just follows you, Dave, because that happened when you

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Speaker 1: It did a little bit, but they were like girls,

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Speaker 3: I dont want to get too far out track here.

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Speaker 2: This text says, I was at a conference. The guide

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Speaker 2: to the left of me.

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Speaker 5: Said yes, uh huh yep to everything the trainer said,

447
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Speaker 5: and to the right someone crinkled chips.

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Speaker 2: Eight hours I almost lost it.

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Speaker 1: Uh, thanks for that, Bailey stirring the pot on KATIEWB. Jenny,

450
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Speaker 1: you got to stir the pod. Yeah, because we switched

451
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Speaker 1: things up a little bit this week because bond gets

452
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Speaker 1: tired of stirring the pot. I stirred the pot on today, Tuesday,

453
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Speaker 1: and I said teachers should be able to spank their kids.

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Speaker 3: Men.

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Speaker 1: That stirred the pot, so the teachers will absolutely agreed,

456
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Speaker 1: and some were just riled up.

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Speaker 2: A lot more people did agree with you.

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Speaker 5: I stard the pot about how people don't know how

459
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Speaker 5: to be a good audience member and have the worst

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Speaker 5: etiquette ever when they're in.

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Speaker 1: An audience, crunching pretzels, wrinkling back.

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Speaker 2: At their phone.

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Speaker 5: And I went to a show yesterday and there were

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Speaker 5: people who were bad audience there.

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Speaker 3: M so, Jenny, Yep, you get to stir the pot today.

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Speaker 4: A great If you're a bride to be, you either

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Speaker 4: get to have a bachelor a party or a bridal shower.

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Speaker 4: You are not allowed to have both. I'm sorry. The

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Speaker 4: amount of money we are spending on the bride side

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Speaker 4: of things is getting out of control. We're doing destination

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Speaker 4: bachelorette parties, We're doing bridal showers where you look at

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Speaker 4: Pinterest to find the most extravagant things to make this

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Speaker 4: bridal shower poppin', and then we're doing the actual wedding,

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Speaker 4: which also could potentially be a destination you never know,

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Speaker 4: and the amount of money that adds up to celebrate

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Speaker 4: this person's love is not worth it for me. Okay,

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Speaker 4: So when you are going to be married, you either

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Speaker 4: get to have one or the other. That is my

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Speaker 4: stir the pot.

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Speaker 3: Today, bachelorette party.

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Speaker 4: Or shower you have both, not both.

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Speaker 1: Now you might disagree with Jenny because maybe you did

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Speaker 1: both and you loved it and your friends all loved it.

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Speaker 1: Do you think their friends pretend to love it because

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Speaker 1: they love you?

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Speaker 4: I think some people really love us stuff. I know

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Speaker 4: Bailey's a big fan of things like that.

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Speaker 2: I like, I mean, I like those things.

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Speaker 5: But the people that I know who have been married,

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Speaker 5: they have done both. But the bridal showers more for

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Speaker 5: their like family, like older family members, right, and then

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Speaker 5: the bachelorette parties for all their friends who want to

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Speaker 5: go out and like get shots.

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Speaker 4: And I get that. And I thought about saying, well, like,

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Speaker 4: if you have like the bachelott party for just friends

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Speaker 4: and bridle shower for family, sure, but I'm sticking to it,

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Speaker 4: you get one of the other. I mean, I went

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Speaker 4: to both for all of those the other and I've

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Speaker 4: gone to both for all of those. And my thing

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Speaker 4: is is I feel like I'm coming off as like

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Speaker 4: a sulcy single woman right now who potentially will never

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Speaker 4: get married. But it truly isn't that. It's the fact

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Speaker 4: that we're spending so much money on and you're getting

504
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Speaker 4: the same things. The same things you get at a

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Speaker 4: bridle shower half the time are like the same things

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Speaker 4: for weddings, maybe not so much anymore because weddings you

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Speaker 4: usually just give money. Now, yeah, but there's a registry

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Speaker 4: for a bridle shower, there's a registry for the wedding.

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Speaker 4: And I think bridle showers are kind of outdated to

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Speaker 4: an extent because those were developed back in the day

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Speaker 4: when you didn't really live with a partner, or if

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Speaker 4: you did, you didn't have much yet, and now people

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Speaker 4: are getting married later. Yeah, So like, I don't know,

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Speaker 4: the men have a bachelor party and they have a

515
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Speaker 4: wedding and that's it, and that's all they have. So

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Speaker 4: why are we having to do.

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Speaker 2: All of it?

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Speaker 1: I'm looking at text messages Jenny, Jenny stirs the pot.

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Speaker 1: I am with you, Jenny. It is so ridiculous. Another one.

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Speaker 1: Women are expected to give so much money to friends

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Speaker 1: who are getting married. They typed in all caps.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it's crazy.

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Speaker 4: It's like, I don't know. I love a good destiny

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Speaker 4: bachelorett party. I do enjoy doing stuff like that because

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Speaker 4: I look at it as like a girl's trip. I

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Speaker 4: look at it as just like a bachelor at party.

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Speaker 4: But it's starting to get out of control. And then

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Speaker 4: like and on top of it, when I get invited

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Speaker 4: to something and I can't make it, I still give

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Speaker 4: money for that thing. Yeah, Like I could not make

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Speaker 4: a bridal shower recently, I still went in on a

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Speaker 4: group present, but I didn't get to thank you for Yeah,

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Speaker 4: probably because I wasn't in attendance for it, But I

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Speaker 4: still gave money for it.

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Speaker 1: Can I read a text message at Katie wb one

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Speaker 1: Jenny spot On, I don't know how things got to

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Speaker 1: that age. In my age, we had lame showers. Another

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Speaker 1: one the showers for old ass aunties and the bachelorette

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Speaker 1: is to drink out of funny looking, funny shaped whoho.

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Speaker 1: Straws signed a twenty twenty six bride who is doing

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Speaker 1: both a lot of comments on this one. Baby showers

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Speaker 1: Jenny first born only or every baby?

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Speaker 4: I think firstborn only, which I thought was what most

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Speaker 4: people stuck with. That's what most of my friends have

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Speaker 4: always done. I haven't seen many people do more than

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Speaker 4: jen us the firstborn. For that, I have not attended

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Speaker 4: anything beyond the firstborn.

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Speaker 5: This text two also says some people do engagement parties too, yes,

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Speaker 5: which is an addition.

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Speaker 3: Don't forget the baby reveal party.

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, the gender reveal party.

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Speaker 4: And gosh, and I don't think I've ever been to

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Speaker 4: a gender reveal party, so like maybe one time. And

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Speaker 4: I don't think I had to bring a present for that,

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Speaker 4: So like, I don't mind that as long as you're

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Speaker 4: not required to like give them a present on coming

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Speaker 4: to that. But yeah, I just I don't know, guys,

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Speaker 4: it's getting ridiculous the amount of money we're spending on friends'

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Speaker 4: weddings because of all of the activities we have to

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Speaker 4: engage in. And I love a good.

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Speaker 2: Engagement party too.

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Speaker 4: Those are super fun, but don't expect me to spend

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Speaker 4: money at that. That is, if you want to have

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Speaker 4: an engagement party to celebrate your love, then you're providing everything.

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Speaker 2: In my opinion, the initial stir what was the.

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Speaker 4: Initial I said that if you are a bride to be,

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Speaker 4: you get to have either a bachelor party or a

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Speaker 4: bridal show, where you do not get to do both

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Speaker 4: because we are spending too much money on weddings nowadays

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Speaker 4: text messages.

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Speaker 1: I agree with you, Jenny. I had to go to

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Speaker 1: Spain for a bachelorette party. Insane next one. My name

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Speaker 1: is Jamie Bride this year getting married next Saturday. I

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Speaker 1: had both. My bridal shower was close friends and family

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Speaker 1: and was walking tacos and margaritas. But my bachelorette party

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Speaker 1: was low key. We went to Wild Bills and did

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Speaker 1: one a one in the afternoon, bingo, then pottery painting

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Speaker 1: and that was it. I think you can have both

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Speaker 1: unless you are doing a huge bachelorette party. So they're

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Speaker 1: kind of like understated, more fun and less expensive.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, someone else does say.

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Speaker 5: I think the real issue is that bachelorette parties are

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Speaker 5: getting way out of hand.

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Speaker 2: Just go to the bar and get wasted like normal people. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: people go out of the country. It is a big

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Speaker 2: old which is cool and I that's what you want.

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Speaker 2: But like Jenny said, then I can't be responsible for.

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Speaker 3: X y Z.

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Speaker 2: Earlier this year I got called cheap of the cheaps

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Speaker 2: gate because we went to a destination wedding and I

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Speaker 2: was like, I don't think I should have to do

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Speaker 2: an expensive gift because I think my girlfriend Alyssa wanted to.

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Speaker 2: And I was like, we're already paying for hotel, resort, flight,

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Speaker 2: et cetera.

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Speaker 3: Do you think it has anything to do with it.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't live in that world. It has anything to

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Speaker 1: do with social media. Like if you're friend Jessica is

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Speaker 1: getting her she's doing her bachelorette party and they're going

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Speaker 1: to Costa Rica and they're all the girls on the

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Speaker 1: beach and they're all wearing the funny straw hats and

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Speaker 1: they got a margarita, and it's like, oh, that's the standard.

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Speaker 1: Do you think that has anything well for the grand

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Speaker 1: But also it's like, well, I can't just like take

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Speaker 1: them out to cowboy Jacks because Jessica went to Costa Rica.

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Speaker 4: I do think that it is kind of that, and

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Speaker 4: you get a lot of ideas for that because of course,

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Speaker 4: when I planned my sister's bachelorett party, I was looking

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Speaker 4: at social media and Pinterest and doing all these extra things,

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Speaker 4: whereas like that didn't used to exist. You would just

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Speaker 4: go to the bar get drunk. Yeah, and that was

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Speaker 4: like the extent was the whole thing. But yes, I

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Speaker 4: do think that there is, Like I'm be honest, Tina

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Speaker 4: on our show, the girls who coordinated her bachelret party

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Speaker 4: this summer, they.

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Speaker 2: Went all out.

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Speaker 4: I mean they got a whole banner that said camp

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Speaker 4: Range on it had the dates, like personalized it. We

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Speaker 4: all had personalized tote bags with like gifts in it.

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Speaker 4: Like it was crazy. And I appreciate everything that they do,

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Speaker 4: but it's like, I don't know if I ever get married,

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Speaker 4: I would love to have a bachelor at party and

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Speaker 4: I do not want to require anyone to do anything

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Speaker 4: besides show up and have a couple of cocktails with me.

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Speaker 4: That's like really all I care about.

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Speaker 5: Yeah right, no, I agree, I agree, And I've gone

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Speaker 5: to a lot of those things and it does. It

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Speaker 5: does suck buying things constantly. And I've been in a

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Speaker 5: lot of weddings too, so like when you're in a wedding,

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Speaker 5: it's even more expensive because then you're expected to show

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Speaker 5: up to all of them.

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 5: Someone with an opinion, ghostbusterailable she was.

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Speaker 1: A woman who said that she had she was a

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Speaker 1: bridesmaid in a wedding that had four, yes, four bachelorette parties.

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Speaker 1: Now here's another text, Jenny, you sound like an old curmudgeon.

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Speaker 1: Get off my damn grass.

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Speaker 4: I would have said this exact same statement ten years

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Speaker 4: ago versus being at thirty five, because even when my

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Speaker 4: sister got married and I was like twenty five or

641
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Speaker 4: twenty six, I was like, this is ridiculous.

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Speaker 2: That we're doing all of this time.

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Speaker 4: So you can you can definitely say I'm an old

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Speaker 4: ger mudgeon, I admitted, but I'm also I'm a frugal bitch.

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Speaker 2: Is when it comes out.

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Speaker 4: And I'm going broken my friend's wedding.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Alex is on the phone giggling. You wanted to

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Speaker 1: talk about just so give me the initial stur Jenny.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that if you're getting married as a bride, you

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Speaker 4: only get a bachelor at party or.

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Speaker 2: A bridal shower, not both. No, Alex, are your thoughts please.

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Speaker 10: A bachelorette party or what I'm sorry.

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Speaker 4: Or a bridal shower.

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Speaker 10: I think if you don't want everyone to go to

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Speaker 10: you know, Costa Rica for your bachelore red party, then

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Speaker 10: you could easily just do both. But when you want

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Speaker 10: people to pay thousands of dollars as one person. That's unacceptable,

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Speaker 10: and that's what today's standard is.

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Speaker 9: That's my bone.

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Speaker 1: No what you have a bone to pick with the

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Speaker 1: wedding industry specifically what I hate it.

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Speaker 10: I've been in several wedding parties. I've also been married

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Speaker 10: myself and married for almost seven years, and I only

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Speaker 10: paid eight thousands for my own wedding. When people want

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Speaker 10: me to pay two thousand for a bachelor red party,

666
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Speaker 10: I think it's unreasonable. But then you're a bad friend

667
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Speaker 10: when you don't want to pay that. Jenny that going

668
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Speaker 10: to the back of our party is like a girl's trip.

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Speaker 10: I love it, get it, But you're there to celebrate

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Speaker 10: one person, which means you're there four another person. Paying

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Speaker 10: thousands of dollars for somebody else to vacation is unacceptable.

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Speaker 4: I agree. And then on top of it, when you're

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Speaker 4: on that vacation, you feel like you have to pay

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Speaker 4: for their drinks the whole time, and it turns into

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Speaker 4: this whole thing.

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Speaker 5: That's the hard part about being in a wedding party,

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Speaker 5: I think, is paying for the bride's drinks and paying

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Speaker 5: for her meals and stuff because you want her to

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Speaker 5: have a good time. And I've been a bridesmaid like

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Speaker 5: five times, and that's.

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Speaker 2: That's a lot.

682
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Speaker 3: That is a lot. Here is a text message.

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Speaker 1: There's somebody you did stir the pot on this one, Jenny.

684
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Speaker 1: This is a text that says, I also hate when

685
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Speaker 1: you got to be at the wedding venue at seven

686
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Speaker 1: am as a bridesmaid, but the wedding's not until six pm.

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Speaker 3: Is that a thing?

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Speaker 11: Well?

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Speaker 4: You usually everyone gets together for mimosas and coffee and stuff,

690
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Speaker 4: and everyone's getting their makeup and hair done together. So yes,

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Speaker 4: usually if you're part of the wedding party, you're there

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Speaker 4: very early to do all that.

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Speaker 2: And a lot of people.

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Speaker 4: Nowadays they do do photos ahead of time before the

695
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Speaker 4: ceremony even takes place, just to get those done with.

696
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Speaker 4: But yeah, I mean it's a full day commitment on

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Speaker 4: top of everything else you commit to as a bridesmaid.

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Speaker 1: What about this is this text says, and I'm just reading,

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Speaker 1: a bridal shower is one hundred percent different than the bachelorette.

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Speaker 1: The bridal showers for your family and your aunt Vivian

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Speaker 1: and your older elderly cousin Sharon to come along. That's

702
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Speaker 1: for the shower. Bachelorette is for your friends to go

703
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Speaker 1: out and wear a funny looking hat and a drink

704
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Speaker 1: out of a funny looking straw. Bachelorette. No bachelorette requires gifts.

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Speaker 4: So it no, you usually play games, you bring like

706
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Speaker 4: underwear that you think represents your personalities, and the bride

707
00:30:43,480 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 4: guesses whose underwear you usually do, end up spending some

708
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Speaker 4: money on that, and then you do buy the bride drinks.

709
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Speaker 4: They should the bride should never have to pay for

710
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Speaker 4: drinks throughout the entire night in my opinion. But yes,

711
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Speaker 4: I would say that they are different. I understand where

712
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Speaker 4: you're coming from. However, friends are getting invited to the

713
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Speaker 4: bridal shower too. Yes, every good friend who I've gone

714
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Speaker 4: to their bachelorette party, I am invited to the bridal

715
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Speaker 4: shower on top of it.

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Speaker 5: Especially if you're in the wedding party. You are going

717
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Speaker 5: to both of Maya lost a friend over this whole thing.

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Speaker 5: Tell us what happened, Hi, Maya.

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Speaker 12: So I actually had a friend who have gotten married

720
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Speaker 12: about like a year year and a half ago, and

721
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Speaker 12: before her, before she had a marriage, she wanted a

722
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Speaker 12: bachelor party. She's like, we're going to Vegas. She's like,

723
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Speaker 12: you're going to be the maid of honor and I

724
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Speaker 12: was like, cool, whatever.

725
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Speaker 10: We'll figure it out.

726
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Speaker 12: She's like, yeah, we'll be expecting to pay five to

727
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Speaker 12: ten thousand dollars for our parties, and I should excuse you,

728
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Speaker 12: right gosh, and you did not. I did not, And

729
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Speaker 12: we're no longer friends. And we were friends from third

730
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Speaker 12: grade all the way up until.

731
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Speaker 4: Oh, no, party you throw on that's gonna cost ten

732
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Speaker 4: thousand dollars.

733
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Speaker 2: The wedding.

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Speaker 3: That's not the wedding.

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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, that's crazy.

736
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Speaker 4: You can actually do Vegas somewhat cheap as a female,

737
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Speaker 4: because usually guys buy your drinks the whole time. You're

738
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Speaker 4: just probably spending money on the hotel. But even like

739
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Speaker 4: the hotel shouldn't cost that much. Gosh, wow, she.

740
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Speaker 2: Really won from you.

741
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Speaker 4: Yeah, you dodged a bullet with that one. I'm sorry

742
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:19,000
Speaker 4: about still send it though. Yeah that's a long one.

743
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Speaker 2: But good for a stay in on all business and

744
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Speaker 2: not spending the money.

745
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Speaker 12: No, yeah, she wasn't getting my money. I got kids.

746
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Speaker 3: Good for you.

747
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Speaker 1: There's so many text messages about this, and we could

748
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Speaker 1: read these for days, but we'll read a couple of

749
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Speaker 1: like highlighted ones about whether a bride should have just

750
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Speaker 1: a bachelorette party or just a shower, but not both.

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Speaker 5: This one kind of has the same sentiment as the

752
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Speaker 5: last caller. I have been in eleven weddings. The amount

753
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Speaker 5: of money I have spent between wedding day, bachelorette party,

754
00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:54,120
Speaker 5: bridal shower is literally someone's annual salary. It is absolutely outrageous. Wow,

755
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Speaker 5: And I totally feel.

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Speaker 3: That why why why do you do it? Though?

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Speaker 1: I mean because somebody, your friends and I get you

758
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Speaker 1: love your friend. It is a you know, it's a

759
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Speaker 1: once in a lifetime event hopefully, and it's a big

760
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Speaker 1: deal and it's a great excuse to go do something memorable.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, is that it's all about? It's a yeah. I

762
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Speaker 5: think it's a it's a great memory to make and everything.

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Speaker 5: It is just expensive, especially for I think for women especially,

764
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Speaker 5: it's expensive. And if it's your friend or your sibling

765
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Speaker 5: or someone in your family who's getting married, you.

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Speaker 2: Feel obligated to go to all of the things.

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Speaker 5: You feel obligated, especially if you're like made of honor

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Speaker 5: to pay for everything you do because you're like, well,

769
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Speaker 5: I've been deemed the best friend so I guess I

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Speaker 5: have to pay for everyone's drinks. Not everyone's, but the wife,

771
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Speaker 5: the brides drinks and things like that.

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Speaker 2: It's just it is exhausting.

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Speaker 5: Or you're just like self deemed the best bridesmaid, so

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Speaker 5: you're paying for everything even if you're not the maid

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Speaker 5: of honor.

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Speaker 13: Right.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so.

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Speaker 1: Many text messages on on this. I appreciate it so much.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: Jay.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we gonna like mix it up with stir in

782
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Speaker 1: the pods. So, Shay, we've been talking about have your

783
00:34:01,760 --> 00:34:03,560
Speaker 1: ears been ringing? We've been talking about.

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Speaker 13: You, Sheila, Yeah, good morning morning.

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Speaker 1: So Shila, was I think it was a couple of

786
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Speaker 1: days ago we heard from a movie, so we got

787
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Speaker 1: to have you tell your story on the radio.

788
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Speaker 3: Sheila.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to take it away or steal your thunder,

790
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:21,520
Speaker 1: but you were done with your marriage. You were out

791
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Speaker 1: the door. Tell me about what happened in the process

792
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Speaker 1: and what's going on now.

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Speaker 11: Okay, Yeah, I was. I was thinking about divorcing my husband.

794
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:37,000
Speaker 11: You know, he's like he's fine, He's he's this kind

795
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Speaker 11: of dull, kind of boring, and I started thinking.

796
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Speaker 14: Like, hmm, what if there was, like, you know, somebody

797
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Speaker 14: else out there that that I was if I was.

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Speaker 11: Single, if I was free, if I was able to

799
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Speaker 11: figure out who i'd want.

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Speaker 12: To be with.

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Speaker 11: Uh, I kind of thought that I would just be

802
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Speaker 11: looking for the same man as my husband.

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Speaker 5: Oh okay, so you're making like a list of like

804
00:35:01,600 --> 00:35:04,680
Speaker 5: qualities that you want in a man or something if

805
00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:07,320
Speaker 5: you ended up leaving him.

806
00:35:07,400 --> 00:35:07,680
Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 14: Yeah, Like you know, if I I would want somebody

808
00:35:12,120 --> 00:35:16,840
Speaker 14: who's like a steady eddy that's my husband, you know,

809
00:35:18,160 --> 00:35:22,040
Speaker 14: I would I would want somebody that's involved with with.

810
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Speaker 10: My son, our son.

811
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Speaker 11: My husband coaches te ball for her son, Like he's

812
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Speaker 11: you know, he's we don't fight, we don't have any

813
00:35:30,320 --> 00:35:34,600
Speaker 11: like financial problems. But I was just like, you know,

814
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Speaker 11: I was thinking about this, and I was like, instead

815
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Speaker 11: of going through all the divorce, if you meet somebody

816
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Speaker 11: that you know kind of checks all the boxes and

817
00:35:42,960 --> 00:35:46,120
Speaker 11: you think, oh, that could work, just think like, maybe

818
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Speaker 11: don't get divorced. Maybe your husband's fine. And you know,

819
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Speaker 11: I think I.

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Speaker 1: Think I get what she's saying. You can just think

821
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Speaker 1: about this one if you broke up, and I want

822
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Speaker 1: you to picture this. If you're married right now and

823
00:35:55,840 --> 00:35:57,520
Speaker 1: maybe you're you know, there's a lot of marriages that

824
00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:00,680
Speaker 1: are okay, there's some that are wonderful, and there's a

825
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:04,000
Speaker 1: lot that are like, we're kind of roommates. Think about

826
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Speaker 1: this if you were single, because I think what she's

827
00:36:06,320 --> 00:36:08,960
Speaker 1: saying is, if you're single and you're like out dating

828
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Speaker 1: again and you met somebody who was like kind of

829
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Speaker 1: like your current partner, would you go like, they're kind

830
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Speaker 1: of a catch. You know, they're they're just different, they're steady, eddy,

831
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Speaker 1: they do you know, they're involved with the kids. But

832
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Speaker 1: you had said you didn't say this now because maybe

833
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Speaker 1: you got shy about it. You said you want a

834
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Speaker 1: guy with a sex drive, but not somebody who wants

835
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Speaker 1: it all the time.

836
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Speaker 3: Yes, okay, all right, So you.

837
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Speaker 1: Want a guy who's like, you don't want a guy

838
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Speaker 1: who doesn't have any kind of a sex drive. But

839
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Speaker 1: you don't want a guy who's like, you know, you

840
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Speaker 1: can't even like bend over the kitchen sink or empty

841
00:36:41,880 --> 00:36:45,200
Speaker 1: the trash without him being like, hey, let's go what So.

842
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Speaker 13: Is that normal that way?

843
00:36:50,360 --> 00:36:52,040
Speaker 1: So he's like, yeah, he has the drive, but not

844
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Speaker 1: all the time. So then you start to realize if

845
00:36:54,320 --> 00:36:56,160
Speaker 1: you were out dating and you met somebody on hinge

846
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Speaker 1: that was a steady Eddy, maybe a little bit dull,

847
00:37:00,200 --> 00:37:02,719
Speaker 1: wasn't you know, like always you know, pestering you for

848
00:37:02,800 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 1: the lovin. You'd be like, this guy's quite a catch.

849
00:37:06,760 --> 00:37:08,800
Speaker 1: Oh wait, that's my husband.

850
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Speaker 2: I already have that.

851
00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:14,440
Speaker 1: But yeah, here comes mister sink over here.

852
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Speaker 2: I just feel I should never be in a thought

853
00:37:17,719 --> 00:37:20,600
Speaker 2: process where I'm like, maybe I should get a divorce,

854
00:37:20,719 --> 00:37:22,239
Speaker 2: because if I get to that point, then I don't

855
00:37:22,239 --> 00:37:23,960
Speaker 2: think there is saving it. I think, you know, if

856
00:37:23,960 --> 00:37:25,760
Speaker 2: you think you should get a divorce, then it should happen.

857
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Speaker 5: Though I really disagree because like there's so many like

858
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Speaker 5: chances when you're even in just a relationship prior to marriage,

859
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Speaker 5: where you're like, is this the one right for me?

860
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Speaker 2: And it's a lot of self sabotage. You said it

861
00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:40,000
Speaker 2: right there before marriage, when you when you marry somebody

862
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Speaker 2: who make vows to commit for better or for worse,

863
00:37:41,920 --> 00:37:43,279
Speaker 2: or Richard for poor, for all those things.

864
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Speaker 4: Yeah, but there's fifty percent divorce rate. I think I

865
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Speaker 4: think it's hard to say. Like us three on the show,

866
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Speaker 4: Dave's been married for a long time. We have never

867
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Speaker 4: been in a super super super long relationship, so I

868
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Speaker 4: don't think we can necessarily relate to someone. I don't

869
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Speaker 4: know how long you've been married, Sheila, but like, if

870
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Speaker 4: you've been in a relationship for fifteen years, like.

871
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Speaker 2: Does it change? Does it?

872
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Speaker 5: Like?

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Speaker 2: Lauren? No, what changes for sure? But I think that

874
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Speaker 2: you made a commitment to be with this person. I'm

875
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Speaker 2: not going to get into a marriage considering that it

876
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Speaker 2: might end one day.

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Speaker 1: I think that is a very that's a commitment to

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Speaker 1: I think if it's a religious ceremony, I think it's

879
00:38:18,600 --> 00:38:22,040
Speaker 1: a commitment to God. I don't think you should commit

880
00:38:22,120 --> 00:38:25,719
Speaker 1: to ten years of a happy marriage and thirty more

881
00:38:25,800 --> 00:38:27,600
Speaker 1: years of being miserable with each other.

882
00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:28,160
Speaker 2: Yeah.

883
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:31,040
Speaker 5: So a lot of people are texting in that this

884
00:38:31,120 --> 00:38:33,359
Speaker 5: is the Pina Colada song, which is what I thought.

885
00:38:33,840 --> 00:38:38,920
Speaker 1: And I never knew that you like Pini by the way, Pena,

886
00:38:40,239 --> 00:38:43,200
Speaker 1: And she said, I never knew that. Part of the

887
00:38:43,239 --> 00:38:45,560
Speaker 1: song was like because he walked into the bar and

888
00:38:45,560 --> 00:38:47,000
Speaker 1: he's like, oh, it's you.

889
00:38:47,320 --> 00:38:49,839
Speaker 5: So the song is that these two people they put

890
00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:52,600
Speaker 5: out like ads because they want to find someone else

891
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:54,320
Speaker 5: outside of their marriage, so they're.

892
00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:54,840
Speaker 2: Looking to cheat.

893
00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:57,520
Speaker 5: But then when they fulfill the ad, they go on

894
00:38:57,560 --> 00:38:59,600
Speaker 5: this date to go and meet this person that was

895
00:39:00,000 --> 00:39:02,360
Speaker 5: fulfilling to add and it's their spouse.

896
00:39:02,440 --> 00:39:03,319
Speaker 3: We that is.

897
00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:05,440
Speaker 1: So you know what, Sheila, you brought up a really

898
00:39:05,440 --> 00:39:07,160
Speaker 1: interesting topic. I wish we had more time to talk

899
00:39:07,160 --> 00:39:08,719
Speaker 1: about it. But thank you because I think it makes

900
00:39:08,800 --> 00:39:12,640
Speaker 1: a lot of people think. But I I gotta say

901
00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:16,839
Speaker 1: that if you really sometimes you know, it's like, man, yeah,

902
00:39:16,880 --> 00:39:19,239
Speaker 1: I have a commitment, but I also don't want to

903
00:39:19,239 --> 00:39:21,840
Speaker 1: commit myself to being bored and lonely and miserable for

904
00:39:21,880 --> 00:39:23,880
Speaker 1: the next thirty years. Sheila, thanks for being on. Have

905
00:39:23,920 --> 00:39:28,160
Speaker 1: a great day, Okay, Yeah, yeah, thank you. We're gonna

906
00:39:28,239 --> 00:39:29,680
Speaker 1: we'll talk about this a little bit more when we

907
00:39:29,680 --> 00:39:31,799
Speaker 1: come back. Somebody says Vaunt is showing his age with

908
00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:35,280
Speaker 1: that answer, and then said it's kind of true. Somebody

909
00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 1: else says, the grass is not always greener. We got

910
00:39:37,680 --> 00:39:39,040
Speaker 1: a lot of response on this one. We got to

911
00:39:39,040 --> 00:39:40,680
Speaker 1: take a break. We'll come back in a second and

912
00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:42,200
Speaker 1: we'll talk more about this in a little bit. On

913
00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:45,880
Speaker 1: kd WB, we talked to a woman a minute ago, Sheila,

914
00:39:45,960 --> 00:39:48,480
Speaker 1: I believe her name was Yeah, really really interesting take

915
00:39:48,520 --> 00:39:51,400
Speaker 1: on divorce because she said, Hey, I've been married for

916
00:39:51,440 --> 00:39:54,600
Speaker 1: a while. My husband's boring. He's like a steady Eddy,

917
00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:57,200
Speaker 1: he coaches t ball. He's you know, a good you

918
00:39:57,239 --> 00:40:01,160
Speaker 1: know husband whatever, He's just boring. And she started to

919
00:40:01,200 --> 00:40:04,560
Speaker 1: go through the divorce and like thinking about divorce and

920
00:40:04,719 --> 00:40:06,960
Speaker 1: working it through in her mind and going out and

921
00:40:07,000 --> 00:40:08,799
Speaker 1: seeing what she could get as far as a new

922
00:40:08,840 --> 00:40:11,640
Speaker 1: partner and meeting people, and the idea is maybe kind

923
00:40:11,640 --> 00:40:14,759
Speaker 1: of exciting to her. So then she started thinking about, God, well,

924
00:40:14,800 --> 00:40:17,680
Speaker 1: what if I met a guy. I really would if

925
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:20,200
Speaker 1: I met a guy that had all those boxes like

926
00:40:20,440 --> 00:40:23,880
Speaker 1: kind of boring and steady, eddy, good with the kids.

927
00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:28,200
Speaker 1: Once I had to have a sex life, but it's

928
00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:32,360
Speaker 1: not crazed about it. And then she realized that's what

929
00:40:32,520 --> 00:40:34,960
Speaker 1: her husband is. So then she said, I am not

930
00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:37,759
Speaker 1: going to get a divorce. So and I thought that

931
00:40:37,800 --> 00:40:40,480
Speaker 1: was really interesting because if you were divorced and single

932
00:40:41,160 --> 00:40:44,359
Speaker 1: and you found somebody who was just like, I mean,

933
00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:50,239
Speaker 1: the good qualities, Yeah, because everybody has except their boorah

934
00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:55,319
Speaker 1: maybe borings not. I'd rather have a boring relationship than

935
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:57,719
Speaker 1: somebody who was full of drama. I had to bail

936
00:40:57,800 --> 00:41:00,560
Speaker 1: them out of prison and take them to Betty and

937
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:00,920
Speaker 1: all that.

938
00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 3: You know.

939
00:41:02,120 --> 00:41:05,400
Speaker 1: I just Okay, So I'm talking to somebody named Angela

940
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:11,520
Speaker 1: and you're kind of in the same boat that she was. Hi, Angela,

941
00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:12,360
Speaker 1: tell me your story.

942
00:41:13,480 --> 00:41:18,239
Speaker 13: Good morning, same boat. I mean I thought of over

943
00:41:18,480 --> 00:41:20,279
Speaker 13: you know, I thought about divorce on and off. It's

944
00:41:20,280 --> 00:41:22,239
Speaker 13: not that I don't love my husband. Of course, I

945
00:41:22,280 --> 00:41:26,040
Speaker 13: love my husband. We've been married over fifteen years. But

946
00:41:26,200 --> 00:41:28,320
Speaker 13: I mean he's kind of an overtime. You know, marriage

947
00:41:28,360 --> 00:41:30,680
Speaker 13: has change, and he just doesn't want to go out.

948
00:41:30,719 --> 00:41:32,360
Speaker 13: He doesn't want to go out to dinner. He doesn't

949
00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:34,480
Speaker 13: want to go do things, you know, like go out

950
00:41:34,480 --> 00:41:37,160
Speaker 13: and dates, you know, little dates. Yeah, so I've just decided.

951
00:41:37,239 --> 00:41:38,840
Speaker 13: I thought about it, you know, I thought about the

952
00:41:38,880 --> 00:41:41,720
Speaker 13: divorce thing, but I mean I trust my husband. Trust

953
00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 13: is hard. I have single friends. The dating world is terrible.

954
00:41:45,560 --> 00:41:47,960
Speaker 13: So I'm just gonna go out. I decided to date myself.

955
00:41:48,040 --> 00:41:50,440
Speaker 13: Like we should normalize being able to go to dinner

956
00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:53,680
Speaker 13: by yourself, go do things by yourself. I deserve to

957
00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:57,360
Speaker 13: be happy. She deserves to be happy. I mean, I

958
00:41:57,400 --> 00:41:59,600
Speaker 13: mean it doesn't like she does not have like she's

959
00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:03,120
Speaker 13: she doesn't hate him or anything. Stay married, take yourself out,

960
00:42:03,160 --> 00:42:06,279
Speaker 13: do a thing for yourself. Nobody's deserved your time more

961
00:42:06,320 --> 00:42:06,840
Speaker 13: than yourself.

962
00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:09,359
Speaker 1: Okay, I like that I like that, Angela. And you've

963
00:42:09,400 --> 00:42:11,440
Speaker 1: been married for fifteen years and you said that, what

964
00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:14,200
Speaker 1: has changed? So he used to want to go out

965
00:42:14,239 --> 00:42:17,560
Speaker 1: to you know, play darts or go dance or go

966
00:42:17,600 --> 00:42:18,440
Speaker 1: to a movie.

967
00:42:18,239 --> 00:42:22,120
Speaker 13: Or what you absolutely, and it just hasn't. He's more

968
00:42:22,160 --> 00:42:24,719
Speaker 13: of a homebody now, which is fine, you know. I

969
00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:27,200
Speaker 13: mean I do, I ask for it every night. No,

970
00:42:27,400 --> 00:42:29,719
Speaker 13: but I mean there's I mean, life just changed. He

971
00:42:29,800 --> 00:42:31,360
Speaker 13: just wants to be a homebody, doesn't want to go

972
00:42:31,400 --> 00:42:33,400
Speaker 13: out on dates, doesn't want to go to you know,

973
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:35,880
Speaker 13: just doesn't want to go to like different sports events

974
00:42:36,000 --> 00:42:38,239
Speaker 13: or like you said, go bowling or go out with

975
00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:40,480
Speaker 13: friends or go play Bengal. He just doesn't want to

976
00:42:40,480 --> 00:42:42,520
Speaker 13: do that. So I'm just I'll do it myself.

977
00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:44,040
Speaker 2: Do it yourself. Why are you happy with that?

978
00:42:44,120 --> 00:42:46,000
Speaker 1: And you don't have to be you know, I think

979
00:42:46,040 --> 00:42:48,480
Speaker 1: you're being really honest, But do you kind of wish

980
00:42:48,640 --> 00:42:52,320
Speaker 1: that it was? Like, Man, I'm kind of looking around

981
00:42:52,400 --> 00:42:54,880
Speaker 1: going I wish I had a partner that wanted to

982
00:42:54,920 --> 00:42:58,279
Speaker 1: go to can Can Wonderland, who wanted to go to

983
00:42:58,400 --> 00:42:59,879
Speaker 1: Nick Universe type of thing.

984
00:43:00,400 --> 00:43:03,360
Speaker 13: I mean, yes and no, but I mean nowadays it's

985
00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 13: hard to find somebody and I mean, I definitely all

986
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:08,960
Speaker 13: the qualities he has. I love everything that he has.

987
00:43:09,280 --> 00:43:11,000
Speaker 13: So I just feel like, if, like she said, if

988
00:43:11,000 --> 00:43:13,279
Speaker 13: I went and found I, I would think about him

989
00:43:13,280 --> 00:43:15,680
Speaker 13: more than anything. I mean, it's hard to trust and

990
00:43:15,719 --> 00:43:18,879
Speaker 13: I you know, and so nobody deserves my time more

991
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:19,120
Speaker 13: than me.

992
00:43:19,400 --> 00:43:19,719
Speaker 9: You know what.

993
00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:22,279
Speaker 1: I love, Angela. I love that attitude. I'm so glad

994
00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:24,120
Speaker 1: that you were able to be on the radio with us.

995
00:43:24,600 --> 00:43:26,600
Speaker 1: Have a great week you take you taking yourself.

996
00:43:26,280 --> 00:43:29,359
Speaker 13: Out this weekend, and you know what, yes, because he's

997
00:43:29,360 --> 00:43:29,839
Speaker 13: going hunting.

998
00:43:32,560 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 2: By the way, you win, you win the Minnesota Accents

999
00:43:34,680 --> 00:43:37,319
Speaker 2: of the Day award, So the body you.

1000
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:39,480
Speaker 3: Have a good day.

1001
00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:41,960
Speaker 2: I'm glad that she's choosing to date herself though, and

1002
00:43:41,960 --> 00:43:44,000
Speaker 2: not go find other people, because I said that the

1003
00:43:44,040 --> 00:43:47,680
Speaker 2: minute divorce or even like going to find somebody else

1004
00:43:47,719 --> 00:43:49,759
Speaker 2: crosses your mind, just do it. Because I feel like

1005
00:43:49,840 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 2: you made a commitment to your partner when you just

1006
00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:54,440
Speaker 2: decided to get married, the thought of going to somebody

1007
00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:55,760
Speaker 2: else shouldn't cross your mind.

1008
00:43:56,840 --> 00:43:58,239
Speaker 3: Oh you got I disagree with me.

1009
00:43:58,320 --> 00:44:02,359
Speaker 1: I think if you're gonna be honest, I think that

1010
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:05,280
Speaker 1: you know, I thought about divorce before. I'm sure Susan

1011
00:44:05,320 --> 00:44:08,400
Speaker 1: has thought about it before, and not for any like

1012
00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:13,200
Speaker 1: wow reason, like wow, you have a gambling problem or whatever,

1013
00:44:13,680 --> 00:44:17,719
Speaker 1: just kind of like you know, yeah, And it's not

1014
00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:20,680
Speaker 1: like we ever like got serious about it. But I

1015
00:44:20,680 --> 00:44:23,560
Speaker 1: think that if every couple is being honest, there's probably

1016
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:26,600
Speaker 1: a part of every couple that's been married for forty

1017
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:31,560
Speaker 1: years where they've at one point said, well, yeah, is

1018
00:44:31,600 --> 00:44:32,640
Speaker 1: this making me happy?

1019
00:44:33,200 --> 00:44:34,960
Speaker 2: I did go ahead, Jenny, I was gonna say.

1020
00:44:34,960 --> 00:44:37,440
Speaker 4: I think that once you get into a longer relationship,

1021
00:44:37,520 --> 00:44:39,480
Speaker 4: you still like really care about your partner, if you

1022
00:44:39,560 --> 00:44:42,200
Speaker 4: chose the right partner. It just is a matter of like,

1023
00:44:42,239 --> 00:44:45,200
Speaker 4: there are certain things every person evolves throughout their life,

1024
00:44:45,200 --> 00:44:47,719
Speaker 4: It's true, and you don't necessarily evolve in the same

1025
00:44:47,719 --> 00:44:48,520
Speaker 4: way as your partner.

1026
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:50,399
Speaker 3: Look at this guy. Yeah, he used to go out.

1027
00:44:50,440 --> 00:44:51,120
Speaker 3: He doesn't go out.

1028
00:44:51,080 --> 00:44:53,600
Speaker 4: Oh, It's like it's like you, there are parts of

1029
00:44:53,640 --> 00:44:55,719
Speaker 4: you that probably question, like is there someone else that

1030
00:44:55,800 --> 00:44:58,160
Speaker 4: fits who I am as a person better?

1031
00:44:58,200 --> 00:45:00,799
Speaker 2: Now? Like the point of though you say, for better,

1032
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:02,960
Speaker 2: for worse, rich for poor, I commit like my life

1033
00:45:03,000 --> 00:45:04,600
Speaker 2: to you. That's the point of marriage. But if you

1034
00:45:04,719 --> 00:45:05,640
Speaker 2: change in a.

1035
00:45:05,600 --> 00:45:09,360
Speaker 5: Way that's not beneficial to like the relationship, then I

1036
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:12,280
Speaker 5: think it's better to get a divorce. But in her case,

1037
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:14,960
Speaker 5: like the person she would be looking for is essentially

1038
00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:16,240
Speaker 5: going to be the same guy anyway.

1039
00:45:16,320 --> 00:45:19,200
Speaker 2: I hear what you're saying, like you should not feel

1040
00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:21,960
Speaker 2: confined right to that person and whatever changes. But again,

1041
00:45:22,040 --> 00:45:25,440
Speaker 2: I just you know, if something happened tomorrow or in

1042
00:45:25,480 --> 00:45:27,960
Speaker 2: twenty years, Alyssa changes, we get married. I don't know.

1043
00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:31,440
Speaker 2: I said, Hey, I'm with you for life. I just

1044
00:45:31,440 --> 00:45:33,360
Speaker 2: think you shouldn't go into a situation of commitment with

1045
00:45:33,360 --> 00:45:35,279
Speaker 2: a notion in the back of your head that I

1046
00:45:35,280 --> 00:45:35,520
Speaker 2: don't know.

1047
00:45:35,640 --> 00:45:38,600
Speaker 4: I don't think you Nobody goes into marriage thinking like

1048
00:45:38,640 --> 00:45:40,440
Speaker 4: someday I'm going to get a divorce. At least I

1049
00:45:40,520 --> 00:45:43,520
Speaker 4: hope they don't, or if you do, then you probably

1050
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:45,240
Speaker 4: know right off the bat that's not the right person

1051
00:45:45,239 --> 00:45:47,280
Speaker 4: for you. Yeah, I just think that it's a naive

1052
00:45:47,320 --> 00:45:51,000
Speaker 4: thing to say that you wouldn't potentially think about someone else.

1053
00:45:51,120 --> 00:45:53,799
Speaker 4: I'm all for working for the relationship. I am all

1054
00:45:53,840 --> 00:45:56,440
Speaker 4: for trying to get through hard times with people, or

1055
00:45:56,480 --> 00:45:58,520
Speaker 4: if you are getting bored in your relationship, I'm all

1056
00:45:58,560 --> 00:46:00,800
Speaker 4: for trying to like figure out what the solution is

1057
00:46:00,920 --> 00:46:03,799
Speaker 4: for that. Yes, but I do think that it would

1058
00:46:03,840 --> 00:46:06,240
Speaker 4: be I don't know. I just think it'd be silly

1059
00:46:06,280 --> 00:46:07,760
Speaker 4: to say that people don't have those thoughts.

1060
00:46:07,760 --> 00:46:08,000
Speaker 2: Though.

1061
00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:09,880
Speaker 1: Well, if you just turned the radio on, we were

1062
00:46:09,880 --> 00:46:12,000
Speaker 1: talking about a woman called in and she said she

1063
00:46:12,040 --> 00:46:14,560
Speaker 1: thought about getting a divorce, but then she fast forward

1064
00:46:14,680 --> 00:46:17,200
Speaker 1: in her mind how it would play out. She would

1065
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:19,279
Speaker 1: go out, try to find a new partner, and if

1066
00:46:19,320 --> 00:46:21,879
Speaker 1: she found somebody who is just like her husband, she'd

1067
00:46:21,880 --> 00:46:24,360
Speaker 1: be like, what a catch. And then she realized that

1068
00:46:24,440 --> 00:46:26,799
Speaker 1: she has what a catch. We had a lot of

1069
00:46:26,840 --> 00:46:30,640
Speaker 1: responses on this one. For example, this one says, I

1070
00:46:30,680 --> 00:46:32,600
Speaker 1: want to say thanks to Angela, who just called in

1071
00:46:32,640 --> 00:46:35,880
Speaker 1: and she said, my husband's boring. So instead of like

1072
00:46:36,040 --> 00:46:38,799
Speaker 1: me staying home at being bored, I take myself out.

1073
00:46:39,000 --> 00:46:41,600
Speaker 1: This text says, thanks Angela. I've been going back and

1074
00:46:41,640 --> 00:46:43,319
Speaker 1: forth on divorce because he doesn't want to go out,

1075
00:46:43,360 --> 00:46:45,440
Speaker 1: and now I'm going to take myself out. That's a

1076
00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:46,440
Speaker 1: great compromise.

1077
00:46:46,560 --> 00:46:49,799
Speaker 5: And I would like to also say on that note, like, yes,

1078
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:52,800
Speaker 5: I'm not married. My last relationship though, was like almost

1079
00:46:52,840 --> 00:46:55,840
Speaker 5: five years, and I was in the same position where

1080
00:46:56,200 --> 00:46:58,239
Speaker 5: it was really great at the beginning, obviously, and then

1081
00:46:58,280 --> 00:47:00,760
Speaker 5: he just didn't want to go out anymore. I continued

1082
00:47:00,800 --> 00:47:03,000
Speaker 5: living my life the way I wanted and he lived

1083
00:47:03,000 --> 00:47:03,800
Speaker 5: his separate life.

1084
00:47:03,840 --> 00:47:05,799
Speaker 2: And I feel like, yes, take yourself out.

1085
00:47:05,840 --> 00:47:08,680
Speaker 5: But if your lives like diverge so fully that you're

1086
00:47:08,719 --> 00:47:10,759
Speaker 5: just living two different lives and kind of ships in

1087
00:47:10,800 --> 00:47:13,600
Speaker 5: the night in your home, then like I would say,

1088
00:47:13,600 --> 00:47:14,200
Speaker 5: get a divorce.

1089
00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:19,600
Speaker 1: Why why commit yourself? I'll give you two thoughts, and

1090
00:47:19,640 --> 00:47:21,840
Speaker 1: I really believe this. You might disagree. If you have

1091
00:47:21,920 --> 00:47:23,840
Speaker 1: to work that hard on a marriage, it ain't a

1092
00:47:23,840 --> 00:47:26,880
Speaker 1: good marriage. Yeah, marriage, You should not have to work

1093
00:47:27,000 --> 00:47:30,479
Speaker 1: that hard on a marriage. If you have to work

1094
00:47:30,520 --> 00:47:32,680
Speaker 1: that hard, marriage does a lot of work. It shouldn't

1095
00:47:32,719 --> 00:47:34,960
Speaker 1: be that much work, or it's not a good marriage.

1096
00:47:35,000 --> 00:47:36,799
Speaker 2: I disagree. I mean, I hope that it doesn't get

1097
00:47:36,840 --> 00:47:39,239
Speaker 2: to that point. But marriage is all about as far

1098
00:47:39,239 --> 00:47:41,520
Speaker 2: as I know, I'm not married, but like sacrifice and

1099
00:47:41,560 --> 00:47:44,239
Speaker 2: deciding to always show up. This other text it says

1100
00:47:44,239 --> 00:47:46,720
Speaker 2: I agree with nowhere is it. Throughout a long marriage,

1101
00:47:46,719 --> 00:47:48,439
Speaker 2: people fall in and out of love all the time.

1102
00:47:48,560 --> 00:47:51,120
Speaker 2: The trick is to make the choice to stay, even

1103
00:47:51,160 --> 00:47:53,440
Speaker 2: during the seasons when the love might feel lost. However,

1104
00:47:53,480 --> 00:47:55,319
Speaker 2: it's normal to start considering the what ifs during those

1105
00:47:55,320 --> 00:47:58,000
Speaker 2: seasons two so to be able to navigate the highs,

1106
00:47:58,040 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 2: the lows, the ups and downs, the peaks and valleys,

1107
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:02,480
Speaker 2: but still get through. I think I think that's true.

1108
00:48:02,520 --> 00:48:04,319
Speaker 1: I mean you fight over like you know, she spent

1109
00:48:04,360 --> 00:48:06,520
Speaker 1: too much money or he bought a new motorcycle without

1110
00:48:06,520 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 1: asking or whatever, then yeah, those are your peaks and valleys.

1111
00:48:10,320 --> 00:48:14,000
Speaker 1: But if everything is like uh ho hum, I don't

1112
00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:16,520
Speaker 1: say I love you, we don't kiss, we don't do this,

1113
00:48:17,480 --> 00:48:19,640
Speaker 1: you pass each other naked in the hallway and you

1114
00:48:19,640 --> 00:48:22,520
Speaker 1: don't even glance at each other, then things start to

1115
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:23,200
Speaker 1: be a problem.