1 00:00:01,280 --> 00:00:07,760 Speaker 1: Welcome to Couples Therapy. Hello, it's Rich and my lovely 2 00:00:08,280 --> 00:00:12,440 Speaker 1: bride Stacy Bara. Hello and happy anniversary. 3 00:00:13,039 --> 00:00:16,520 Speaker 2: Thank you. It is the week of our anniversary, and 4 00:00:16,560 --> 00:00:19,400 Speaker 2: I love that this is the week the podcast falls on. 5 00:00:19,920 --> 00:00:23,400 Speaker 1: Okay, so we're what three years in now as of. 6 00:00:23,840 --> 00:00:26,640 Speaker 2: March fourth, which is this coming week. 7 00:00:27,120 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, your thoughts so far, feelings? 8 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:32,680 Speaker 2: I am as happy as I've ever been. 9 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:36,520 Speaker 1: Is that sarcastic? No, it's real. I have a hard 10 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:39,559 Speaker 1: time figured out sarcasm when people do it, even though 11 00:00:39,600 --> 00:00:40,840 Speaker 1: I am constantly sarcastic. 12 00:00:40,880 --> 00:00:44,880 Speaker 2: That's true. No, I mean that sincerely. I can't believe 13 00:00:45,080 --> 00:00:50,519 Speaker 2: it's like both three years seems short and not short, 14 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:55,080 Speaker 2: but regardless, I don't even care because it's been great. 15 00:00:55,520 --> 00:00:58,240 Speaker 2: So I couldn't be happier. Love you so much. 16 00:00:58,400 --> 00:00:59,880 Speaker 1: What would you change? 17 00:01:00,320 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 2: Literally, nothing come on about our marriage or just in 18 00:01:04,800 --> 00:01:08,119 Speaker 2: general about life in the United States of America. 19 00:01:08,200 --> 00:01:10,800 Speaker 1: Okay, so I guess let me let me ask you this. 20 00:01:10,959 --> 00:01:17,120 Speaker 1: What have you discovered about being married to me now 21 00:01:17,160 --> 00:01:19,720 Speaker 1: that you've been married for three years that maybe you 22 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 1: didn't know before we got married. 23 00:01:22,840 --> 00:01:27,000 Speaker 2: Okay? I first want to say I think that I 24 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:31,120 Speaker 2: knew a lot before we got married, so there's not 25 00:01:31,319 --> 00:01:35,160 Speaker 2: been a whole lot of new discovery. However, a couple 26 00:01:35,240 --> 00:01:39,520 Speaker 2: things I knew you loved audio, I did not know 27 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:42,920 Speaker 2: the extent of which you love audio to the point 28 00:01:42,959 --> 00:01:45,679 Speaker 2: that you geek out, even like when we came in 29 00:01:45,720 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 2: to do this podcast and you're like, look at all 30 00:01:48,760 --> 00:01:52,680 Speaker 2: these microphones, and you were so happy and excited, and 31 00:01:52,680 --> 00:01:53,880 Speaker 2: it's like nobody else cares. 32 00:01:53,960 --> 00:01:55,240 Speaker 1: I think I picked a really good one for you. 33 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:59,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's you're like, look, you've got the Celine Dion microphone. 34 00:01:59,320 --> 00:02:02,960 Speaker 1: I Seline Dion's in the studio. That's what she's singing 35 00:02:03,040 --> 00:02:04,880 Speaker 1: it too well. And it's so when you're you want 36 00:02:04,920 --> 00:02:06,360 Speaker 1: to give me a little bit of it's all coming 37 00:02:06,360 --> 00:02:06,920 Speaker 1: back to me now. 38 00:02:07,040 --> 00:02:12,120 Speaker 2: No, but I'll do if I could turn back Town. 39 00:02:11,480 --> 00:02:14,639 Speaker 1: Since you're doing impressions, Okay, could you do an impression 40 00:02:14,720 --> 00:02:16,080 Speaker 1: of newsman town brokaw. 41 00:02:17,440 --> 00:02:21,919 Speaker 2: Okay, let me get in my zone. Yes, Okay. Gerald 42 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:28,840 Speaker 2: Ford dead today at the senseless age of eighty four. Yeah, 43 00:02:29,080 --> 00:02:31,840 Speaker 2: but that if people probably who aren't our age, don't 44 00:02:31,880 --> 00:02:34,920 Speaker 2: know that was a Saturday Night Live, so it's not 45 00:02:35,040 --> 00:02:35,440 Speaker 2: really this. 46 00:02:35,880 --> 00:02:38,079 Speaker 1: It's funny that you just pop that out of nowhere. 47 00:02:38,560 --> 00:02:41,640 Speaker 2: It's very random. No, but okay, So back to your 48 00:02:41,720 --> 00:02:45,560 Speaker 2: question though. The obsession with audio to the point that 49 00:02:45,639 --> 00:02:48,040 Speaker 2: we'll be like driving to a date and you'll spend 50 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:53,440 Speaker 2: like ten to twelve minutes discussing like microphones and cables 51 00:02:53,680 --> 00:02:56,400 Speaker 2: is I did not know it was quite that deep. 52 00:02:57,600 --> 00:02:59,840 Speaker 2: So that's one thing, and then. 53 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:02,799 Speaker 1: Annoyed my brother my whole life too. Yeah, because I'll 54 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:05,320 Speaker 1: be like Black Sabbath song is cool, but they used 55 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:07,200 Speaker 1: they used thicker strings, and I don't like the pickies 56 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:09,280 Speaker 1: using on that guitar like I could. I don't know why, 57 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:11,399 Speaker 1: but I can hear all that. Yeah, And whenever I've 58 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:14,960 Speaker 1: gone to buy a car, the main thing I'm interested 59 00:03:15,000 --> 00:03:17,120 Speaker 1: in is how does it sound in the car? Because 60 00:03:17,160 --> 00:03:20,079 Speaker 1: I spend a lot of time driving. It doesn't matter 61 00:03:20,120 --> 00:03:22,040 Speaker 1: to take the stock thing. It's like, well, it does 62 00:03:22,160 --> 00:03:24,480 Speaker 1: matter to me. It probably doesn't matter to other people, 63 00:03:24,760 --> 00:03:27,760 Speaker 1: but it matters to me because if I'm hearing something 64 00:03:27,800 --> 00:03:30,800 Speaker 1: and it sounds like garbage, but it could sound amazing, 65 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:34,200 Speaker 1: I wanted to sound amazing. Life's too short for crappy audio. 66 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 2: That is your one of your mottos. That is so true. 67 00:03:37,720 --> 00:03:39,760 Speaker 1: You should hear it the way the entire the artist 68 00:03:39,760 --> 00:03:42,880 Speaker 1: intended it to hear, but it also is a lifelong 69 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:47,240 Speaker 1: pursuit of like changing cables, changing you know, like RCAA 70 00:03:47,240 --> 00:03:50,720 Speaker 1: cables in the back of looking at different you know, turntables. 71 00:03:50,800 --> 00:03:51,560 Speaker 1: Like it's a mess. 72 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:55,160 Speaker 2: It's a hot mess, right, and it's something that occupies 73 00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:57,760 Speaker 2: a lot of your brain space, that's for sure. I'm 74 00:03:57,800 --> 00:04:01,400 Speaker 2: trying to think I've learned more about your love for 75 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:04,840 Speaker 2: for smoked salmon and cottage cheese, like I didn't. I 76 00:04:04,920 --> 00:04:05,560 Speaker 2: didn't know. 77 00:04:05,880 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 1: What up shamrack farms cheese. 78 00:04:07,760 --> 00:04:12,520 Speaker 2: That's right, you love that. And yeah, oh, you know 79 00:04:12,600 --> 00:04:16,960 Speaker 2: what else I've learned, Okay, I've learned about your very 80 00:04:17,160 --> 00:04:24,719 Speaker 2: weird weekend fomo, in that you are so committed during 81 00:04:24,720 --> 00:04:28,240 Speaker 2: the week to go to bed at a very early. 82 00:04:28,080 --> 00:04:31,520 Speaker 1: Time because the show starts at least well I know that. 83 00:04:31,400 --> 00:04:34,160 Speaker 2: And you're very committed to it. But then on the weekend, 84 00:04:34,720 --> 00:04:39,240 Speaker 2: it does not matter how tired you are or how 85 00:04:39,279 --> 00:04:42,480 Speaker 2: tired I am. I'm like, let's go to bed, and 86 00:04:42,520 --> 00:04:45,560 Speaker 2: you're all, no, we must stay up, and it's like, 87 00:04:45,760 --> 00:04:49,120 Speaker 2: but we're tired, and you're and you're like, but no, 88 00:04:49,200 --> 00:04:50,760 Speaker 2: I don't have to get up early in the morning. 89 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:55,479 Speaker 2: So I'm staying up, and it's like, but we're tired, please, like, 90 00:04:55,560 --> 00:04:58,680 Speaker 2: can we not just go to bed? But you insist 91 00:04:58,839 --> 00:05:04,320 Speaker 2: on staying away purely out of fomo because you're afraid 92 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:07,599 Speaker 2: something on the weekend's gonna happen and you're gonna miss out. Yeah, 93 00:05:07,760 --> 00:05:10,000 Speaker 2: totally yeah. And I don't get that because to me, 94 00:05:10,040 --> 00:05:13,000 Speaker 2: it's like, if you're tired, you go nine night and 95 00:05:13,080 --> 00:05:15,880 Speaker 2: you're like, Nope, we're gonna stay up on the off 96 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:18,200 Speaker 2: chance that something may happen. 97 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:19,760 Speaker 1: And it doesn't. It doesn't serve me well because I'm 98 00:05:19,839 --> 00:05:21,800 Speaker 1: like tired and moody anyway, exactly. 99 00:05:21,839 --> 00:05:23,599 Speaker 2: And that's why I'm like, please, can we just go 100 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:23,920 Speaker 2: to bed? 101 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:26,400 Speaker 1: But I think, by nature though I am not a 102 00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:29,520 Speaker 1: morning in person. By nature, I am a night person. 103 00:05:29,920 --> 00:05:32,160 Speaker 1: So I'm already for years, what twenty five years of 104 00:05:32,240 --> 00:05:34,839 Speaker 1: John Jay and Rich Now I've been working against type. 105 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:38,040 Speaker 1: So what is it that what do they call your 106 00:05:38,040 --> 00:05:40,840 Speaker 1: circadian rhythm wants me to be out at night? And 107 00:05:40,880 --> 00:05:43,000 Speaker 1: you know it's really bad. You don't even know how 108 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:44,360 Speaker 1: bad it is, because you know how we go out 109 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 1: to dinner kind of early. Yes, Like let's say we're 110 00:05:46,960 --> 00:05:50,599 Speaker 1: somewhere in downtown Chandler and we're finished at eight. It's 111 00:05:50,600 --> 00:05:52,120 Speaker 1: like I don't want to get in the car and 112 00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:54,320 Speaker 1: go home because things are happening. I see the people 113 00:05:54,640 --> 00:05:56,800 Speaker 1: walking on the streets, I see the lights on inside 114 00:05:56,839 --> 00:05:59,680 Speaker 1: the places, and it's like, these are my people. Especially 115 00:05:59,720 --> 00:06:01,760 Speaker 1: during the week. It's terrible for me. If we go 116 00:06:01,800 --> 00:06:04,200 Speaker 1: out early during the week and when there's a scene 117 00:06:04,240 --> 00:06:07,520 Speaker 1: starting to happen, like in Scottsdale or Gilbert or something 118 00:06:07,520 --> 00:06:09,680 Speaker 1: like that, I'm like, I need these are my people. 119 00:06:09,720 --> 00:06:11,760 Speaker 1: I need to be here. Yeah, it's terrible for me. 120 00:06:12,279 --> 00:06:15,880 Speaker 2: And yet somehow you're able to control it on the weekdays, 121 00:06:15,920 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 2: I guess out of pure discipline, but on the weekends 122 00:06:18,520 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 2: you let it all out. And yeah, and I don't 123 00:06:21,760 --> 00:06:23,560 Speaker 2: want you to because I just want to be in 124 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:26,479 Speaker 2: the bed and go night night. But it is what 125 00:06:26,560 --> 00:06:26,880 Speaker 2: it is. 126 00:06:26,920 --> 00:06:28,520 Speaker 1: And that is what I've discovered about you. 127 00:06:28,800 --> 00:06:31,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, that I like to sleep, that you were. 128 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:34,640 Speaker 1: Really good at sleeping. Yes, you can go to sleep 129 00:06:34,680 --> 00:06:36,239 Speaker 1: fast and you can stay asleep. 130 00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:37,280 Speaker 2: That's true. 131 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:40,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's really It's really nothing that I ever thought about, 132 00:06:40,279 --> 00:06:43,120 Speaker 1: because I feel like when we were dating, I almost 133 00:06:43,320 --> 00:06:46,880 Speaker 1: never tried to find you and didn't find you at all. 134 00:06:46,880 --> 00:06:49,719 Speaker 1: Hours of the morning or an evening, like if I 135 00:06:49,720 --> 00:06:52,360 Speaker 1: sent you a text or something, you usually text me back. 136 00:06:52,720 --> 00:06:56,680 Speaker 1: So I assumed that you, like me, did not sleep much. Oh, 137 00:06:56,800 --> 00:06:58,000 Speaker 1: but you can sleep. 138 00:06:58,200 --> 00:07:02,640 Speaker 2: Oh, it's it's my favorite. Yeah, sleeping is my favorite. 139 00:07:02,720 --> 00:07:04,320 Speaker 1: Yes, And then I think the other thing that I 140 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:07,320 Speaker 1: discovered is how much you don't like to share with people. 141 00:07:07,480 --> 00:07:10,040 Speaker 2: Oh well, but yeah, I think you knew that though. 142 00:07:10,080 --> 00:07:13,040 Speaker 1: And it's not that I don't well, no, because you 143 00:07:13,080 --> 00:07:14,360 Speaker 1: would tell me things. 144 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:16,920 Speaker 2: Oh that's true, but not all. 145 00:07:16,800 --> 00:07:20,120 Speaker 1: The things, right, But you don't tell anybody else anything, 146 00:07:20,680 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 1: Like your own father didn't know that you opened up 147 00:07:23,880 --> 00:07:26,360 Speaker 1: a venue for the first six months that your venue 148 00:07:26,400 --> 00:07:29,200 Speaker 1: was open. True, like you just didn't, Like why didn't 149 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:29,680 Speaker 1: your dad know? 150 00:07:29,880 --> 00:07:33,280 Speaker 2: Eh, yeah, I know. It's it's kind of it's a 151 00:07:33,320 --> 00:07:37,000 Speaker 2: weird thing that I feel like, I don't want to 152 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:38,920 Speaker 2: be an oversharer and I don't. 153 00:07:39,000 --> 00:07:39,840 Speaker 1: You're not an overshore. 154 00:07:40,160 --> 00:07:43,880 Speaker 2: That's true. I'm not, and I don't except on this podcast, 155 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:46,560 Speaker 2: I guess, but you pull it out of me. I 156 00:07:47,120 --> 00:07:50,120 Speaker 2: never want to be like, oh, she is trying to 157 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:51,520 Speaker 2: be the center of attention. 158 00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:54,280 Speaker 1: No, you don't ever do that, not once, not ever. 159 00:07:54,960 --> 00:07:56,960 Speaker 1: And that's probably why you don't have social media. You're 160 00:07:56,960 --> 00:07:59,679 Speaker 1: not gonna post right pictures? Are yourself looking for a compliment? 161 00:08:00,600 --> 00:08:03,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, because I don't like that trait. I don't like 162 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:06,360 Speaker 2: the trade of hey, everyone look at me. I just 163 00:08:06,440 --> 00:08:09,680 Speaker 2: don't like it. I like work hard, put your nose 164 00:08:09,760 --> 00:08:14,920 Speaker 2: to the grindstone, accomplish things, and just do your thing 165 00:08:15,120 --> 00:08:19,320 Speaker 2: without the need to a talk about it, be post 166 00:08:19,360 --> 00:08:23,200 Speaker 2: about it, see get kudos for it. Just do it. 167 00:08:23,680 --> 00:08:26,240 Speaker 2: And that's just kind of how I am. I guess. 168 00:08:26,760 --> 00:08:29,720 Speaker 1: The other thing I don't think I knew about is 169 00:08:30,080 --> 00:08:34,600 Speaker 1: your almost total consumption of all reality TV. 170 00:08:35,600 --> 00:08:39,560 Speaker 2: I love reality because it's like eating delicious French ripes. 171 00:08:39,679 --> 00:08:42,840 Speaker 1: I know you because we would talk about stuff like dramas, 172 00:08:42,880 --> 00:08:45,480 Speaker 1: like we were really into the Killing and we were really. 173 00:08:45,280 --> 00:08:49,160 Speaker 2: Into you know, uh Osar or Oh what's the one? 174 00:08:49,200 --> 00:08:50,720 Speaker 2: I love the Succession? 175 00:08:50,960 --> 00:08:53,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, like those shows you would talk to me about. 176 00:08:54,120 --> 00:08:56,000 Speaker 1: But then when other other people, like some of your 177 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:58,520 Speaker 1: friends would talk to you about did you see the Bachelor? 178 00:08:58,559 --> 00:09:00,600 Speaker 1: Did just the Bachelorette? Did you see Bachelor Island? Did 179 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:04,040 Speaker 1: you see the Traders? Did you see uh Survivor? It 180 00:09:04,160 --> 00:09:07,600 Speaker 1: was a survivor and it's fifty a season. Now, Yeah, 181 00:09:07,640 --> 00:09:09,600 Speaker 1: so what is the best reality show? 182 00:09:09,760 --> 00:09:13,240 Speaker 2: Well, survivor the original and the best, and we're on 183 00:09:13,400 --> 00:09:17,240 Speaker 2: season like you said, fifty and it could not be better. 184 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:18,840 Speaker 1: But you also love the Traders. 185 00:09:18,960 --> 00:09:20,000 Speaker 2: Traders is number two. 186 00:09:20,320 --> 00:09:22,840 Speaker 1: Oh really, that's so that's one into Yeah, what about 187 00:09:22,840 --> 00:09:25,080 Speaker 1: Love is Blind? Because you watch all the Love is blinds. 188 00:09:25,280 --> 00:09:27,480 Speaker 1: You watch Love is Blind Australia, you watch Love is 189 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:28,120 Speaker 1: Blind France. 190 00:09:28,600 --> 00:09:32,240 Speaker 2: Well, I watched Love is Blind, yes, but that's when 191 00:09:32,240 --> 00:09:36,480 Speaker 2: I'm desperate, I watch Love is Blind America, and then 192 00:09:36,520 --> 00:09:39,199 Speaker 2: I watch Love is Blind UK because both of those 193 00:09:39,200 --> 00:09:42,719 Speaker 2: are in English. And then when I'm like looking at 194 00:09:42,760 --> 00:09:46,600 Speaker 2: Netflix and nothing else is on all occasionally indulge in 195 00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:50,240 Speaker 2: and overdubbed Love is Blind. But I don't like it. 196 00:09:50,400 --> 00:09:52,000 Speaker 1: Do you even watch the like, what is that show 197 00:09:52,040 --> 00:09:54,760 Speaker 1: called The Challenge? What's that called the MTV? 198 00:09:55,360 --> 00:09:57,080 Speaker 2: Or yeah, the Challenge? 199 00:09:57,200 --> 00:09:58,840 Speaker 1: Is that going away? Because MTV is going away? 200 00:09:58,880 --> 00:10:01,280 Speaker 2: I know, I don't. I don't know, but now that 201 00:10:01,320 --> 00:10:04,400 Speaker 2: they're streaming, I doubt it'll go away. I think that'll 202 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:11,120 Speaker 2: go on forever as well. I personally like all of 203 00:10:11,200 --> 00:10:14,720 Speaker 2: that type of show. I'm not as big into the 204 00:10:14,840 --> 00:10:17,760 Speaker 2: romance shows like the Love is Blind The only ones 205 00:10:17,840 --> 00:10:23,640 Speaker 2: that I love are the I'm still an original Bachelor 206 00:10:23,679 --> 00:10:28,920 Speaker 2: Bachelorette person, and and I do like Love is Blind 207 00:10:29,679 --> 00:10:35,920 Speaker 2: partly because of how I know Vanessa Lache and she's 208 00:10:36,120 --> 00:10:38,440 Speaker 2: a little bit of my friend and so it's fun 209 00:10:38,440 --> 00:10:41,480 Speaker 2: for me to watch her on that show. And also 210 00:10:41,920 --> 00:10:46,000 Speaker 2: she is sweet and and you know, you know Nick. 211 00:10:46,080 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 2: I think I don't know Nick, but you do from Yeah, Nick, No, 212 00:10:53,880 --> 00:10:58,679 Speaker 2: you know, I'm Vanessa Leche and I'm obviously nick Liche 213 00:10:58,800 --> 00:11:03,760 Speaker 2: obviously that obvious. That's still one of my favorite lines 214 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:05,080 Speaker 2: from an early season. 215 00:11:07,360 --> 00:11:09,760 Speaker 1: That was not just me the internet. I know. 216 00:11:10,040 --> 00:11:11,040 Speaker 2: That was precious. 217 00:11:11,080 --> 00:11:14,840 Speaker 1: Okay, let's do a reality a Stacey Barrow reality show shootout. Okay, 218 00:11:14,880 --> 00:11:16,120 Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you a show, and you tell me 219 00:11:16,160 --> 00:11:21,560 Speaker 1: which one's better. Okay, Okay, Mormon, Why, oh my gosh, that's. 220 00:11:21,480 --> 00:11:24,560 Speaker 2: Number three because it is so trashy and awful, but 221 00:11:24,679 --> 00:11:28,400 Speaker 2: it is like eating French fries dipped in ranch dressing. 222 00:11:28,720 --> 00:11:29,560 Speaker 2: It is so good. 223 00:11:29,800 --> 00:11:31,360 Speaker 1: No wonder you and Peyton get along. That's like her 224 00:11:31,440 --> 00:11:34,960 Speaker 1: jam French fries and ranch. She even likes pizza and ranch. 225 00:11:36,200 --> 00:11:36,440 Speaker 1: You do. 226 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:37,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, Well, Peyton's my girl. 227 00:11:37,880 --> 00:11:42,400 Speaker 1: Yeah she should be. She's cool. Okay, Mormon wives or 228 00:11:43,679 --> 00:11:48,080 Speaker 1: the amazing race Mormon Wives, Mormon Wives, our love is blind. 229 00:11:49,240 --> 00:11:50,560 Speaker 1: Mormon lives are the traders? 230 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:52,760 Speaker 2: Traders? 231 00:11:53,080 --> 00:11:56,319 Speaker 1: Okay? What's the other? The challenge or survivor? 232 00:11:56,760 --> 00:11:59,360 Speaker 2: Well, survivor and you might as well just stop saying 233 00:11:59,360 --> 00:12:01,400 Speaker 2: anything with because it's always going to win. 234 00:12:01,720 --> 00:12:04,760 Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, okay, what about this is the other thing 235 00:12:04,800 --> 00:12:07,680 Speaker 1: I would ask you about? So people don't know that 236 00:12:07,720 --> 00:12:09,600 Speaker 1: you're kind of a foodie. You've kind of introduced me 237 00:12:09,640 --> 00:12:10,840 Speaker 1: to that because you know, I grew up kind of 238 00:12:10,840 --> 00:12:11,920 Speaker 1: you know, whiskey tango. 239 00:12:12,120 --> 00:12:15,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, you love or you think that the cheesecake factory 240 00:12:15,760 --> 00:12:16,240 Speaker 2: is fancy. 241 00:12:16,280 --> 00:12:18,679 Speaker 1: It is fancy. Oh you gotta get dressed up to 242 00:12:18,679 --> 00:12:19,800 Speaker 1: go to the cheesecake factory. 243 00:12:19,880 --> 00:12:21,640 Speaker 2: You can wear shorts and T shirt. 244 00:12:21,760 --> 00:12:23,920 Speaker 1: I never went to the cheesecake factory until I met you, 245 00:12:24,160 --> 00:12:25,880 Speaker 1: I know, and you met Do the. 246 00:12:26,120 --> 00:12:28,320 Speaker 2: Do our friends who listened to the show or to 247 00:12:28,440 --> 00:12:30,559 Speaker 2: the podcast know that you met my mom at the 248 00:12:30,640 --> 00:12:31,400 Speaker 2: cheesecake factory? 249 00:12:31,480 --> 00:12:31,959 Speaker 1: They do not. 250 00:12:32,040 --> 00:12:34,440 Speaker 2: And you were so scared, God rest your soul. Yes, 251 00:12:34,679 --> 00:12:37,199 Speaker 2: And you were so scared because A you were meeting 252 00:12:37,240 --> 00:12:38,880 Speaker 2: her and that it was fancy. 253 00:12:39,240 --> 00:12:42,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, well, meaning your mom was a little scary, but 254 00:12:42,600 --> 00:12:45,000 Speaker 1: the fact that it was at a giant booth and 255 00:12:45,040 --> 00:12:45,880 Speaker 1: the cheesecake factory. 256 00:12:45,880 --> 00:12:47,160 Speaker 2: So that's what was scared, which. 257 00:12:46,960 --> 00:12:48,960 Speaker 1: Is the playground of the money elite. To me, I 258 00:12:49,120 --> 00:12:53,200 Speaker 1: cannot Flora and Missouri. We didn't have one of those. 259 00:12:55,120 --> 00:12:57,760 Speaker 1: We had a Shaky's Pizza and that was questionable. They 260 00:12:57,760 --> 00:12:59,679 Speaker 1: could shut down every now and then. I don't think 261 00:12:59,720 --> 00:13:03,320 Speaker 1: the food was safe. And there was a Chinese place 262 00:13:03,360 --> 00:13:05,440 Speaker 1: that we went to, and then Robertos. That was it. 263 00:13:05,600 --> 00:13:08,560 Speaker 2: Oh my people, I bet Roberto's was it? 264 00:13:08,600 --> 00:13:09,720 Speaker 1: What it's still there? 265 00:13:09,840 --> 00:13:10,680 Speaker 2: What was it? 266 00:13:10,800 --> 00:13:12,520 Speaker 1: Just in the strip mall, a little pizza place. 267 00:13:12,559 --> 00:13:14,360 Speaker 2: A pizza place called Robertos. 268 00:13:14,440 --> 00:13:16,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, but they only had one kind of pizza. I thing, 269 00:13:16,600 --> 00:13:17,040 Speaker 1: just cheese. 270 00:13:17,280 --> 00:13:18,240 Speaker 2: It's terrible. 271 00:13:18,720 --> 00:13:19,280 Speaker 1: Don't say that. 272 00:13:19,320 --> 00:13:23,440 Speaker 2: I mean, if you're listening, Okay, God rest them. 273 00:13:23,600 --> 00:13:25,920 Speaker 1: They were awesome. I think they're still there. I'm pretty 274 00:13:25,960 --> 00:13:27,520 Speaker 1: sure it's I hope they are. They may be the 275 00:13:27,520 --> 00:13:29,800 Speaker 1: only thing in that bombed out strip mall that's still open. 276 00:13:30,000 --> 00:13:32,400 Speaker 2: Hmm. Maybe one that looks like the apocalypse. 277 00:13:32,840 --> 00:13:35,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, well everything in my neighborhood. I've said this on 278 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:39,040 Speaker 1: the show before. It's like they filmed like some apocalypse movie. 279 00:13:39,120 --> 00:13:42,280 Speaker 1: In literally my old neighborhood and they have to change anything. 280 00:13:43,000 --> 00:13:45,760 Speaker 2: Hey, this is perfect. Yeah, look at this. 281 00:13:45,880 --> 00:13:48,760 Speaker 1: There's like, you know, weeds growing out of the actual 282 00:13:48,800 --> 00:13:52,400 Speaker 1: houses because everything's closed everything. It's not like it's like 283 00:13:52,800 --> 00:13:54,720 Speaker 1: it's not like it's the worst neighborhood in the world. 284 00:13:54,760 --> 00:13:58,840 Speaker 1: You could live there. Just nothing's open anymore, you know. Yeah, 285 00:13:59,040 --> 00:14:03,120 Speaker 1: you know when even the cash pay loans and like 286 00:14:03,160 --> 00:14:06,079 Speaker 1: the drug store and the church's fried chicken is closed 287 00:14:06,520 --> 00:14:09,959 Speaker 1: because those were our staples crumbing, then that's a neighborhood 288 00:14:10,000 --> 00:14:13,000 Speaker 1: that has no longer happening. It's just not happening. So 289 00:14:13,400 --> 00:14:14,079 Speaker 1: I just that part. 290 00:14:14,520 --> 00:14:16,920 Speaker 2: You were saying something about me being a foodie though. 291 00:14:17,120 --> 00:14:19,480 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, so you've introduced me to food. So I'm 292 00:14:19,520 --> 00:14:29,520 Speaker 1: wondering about like your favorite dessert. Oh what a good question, hmmm, 293 00:14:29,840 --> 00:14:32,120 Speaker 1: because I haven't really seen you say I don't like 294 00:14:32,200 --> 00:14:35,600 Speaker 1: that to any dessert. Yeah, but you really say, like 295 00:14:35,800 --> 00:14:38,000 Speaker 1: it seems like I've seen you really go for it 296 00:14:38,120 --> 00:14:41,960 Speaker 1: over bread pudding in a good Uh, what's the what's 297 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:43,960 Speaker 1: the one that's got the burnt top thing that. 298 00:14:46,600 --> 00:14:49,360 Speaker 2: I do like a crumbrewle. I think you actually just 299 00:14:49,480 --> 00:14:54,640 Speaker 2: nailed two of my favorites. I really do. Like a 300 00:14:55,040 --> 00:15:03,440 Speaker 2: really delicious bread pudding is so good. And then I 301 00:15:03,520 --> 00:15:05,640 Speaker 2: am a fan and I know a lot of people 302 00:15:05,680 --> 00:15:10,480 Speaker 2: are not, but of a really strong cake. If a 303 00:15:10,600 --> 00:15:15,200 Speaker 2: cake is made just right with a delicious buttercream frosting, 304 00:15:17,120 --> 00:15:19,360 Speaker 2: I just think that's one of the best things ever. 305 00:15:19,840 --> 00:15:22,360 Speaker 1: Speaking of which, because you have your venue that's opened, 306 00:15:22,360 --> 00:15:24,960 Speaker 1: the hazy people want to check it out, and you're 307 00:15:24,960 --> 00:15:26,960 Speaker 1: doing one of your first weddings since you've been open 308 00:15:27,000 --> 00:15:27,560 Speaker 1: this weekend. 309 00:15:27,760 --> 00:15:31,360 Speaker 2: Yes, we've done receptions, but not weddings and receptions. 310 00:15:31,440 --> 00:15:33,440 Speaker 1: They're doing the wedding there. Yeah, they're doing. 311 00:15:33,240 --> 00:15:37,080 Speaker 2: The vows and the reception today. Yes, today, So after 312 00:15:37,120 --> 00:15:37,880 Speaker 2: this I'm heading off. 313 00:15:38,000 --> 00:15:39,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, as soon as we get done here, I hit 314 00:15:39,880 --> 00:15:43,600 Speaker 1: stop and then you go yes. Okay, So, as you've 315 00:15:43,640 --> 00:15:46,840 Speaker 1: been doing those and you're becoming a bit of an expert, 316 00:15:47,080 --> 00:15:49,000 Speaker 1: let me ask you some things that people should do 317 00:15:49,080 --> 00:15:51,160 Speaker 1: for their wedding or shouldn't do for their wedding. Okay, 318 00:15:51,280 --> 00:15:55,840 Speaker 1: so your hot takes on weddings, What is uh, what 319 00:15:56,040 --> 00:15:58,080 Speaker 1: is a good tradition to have and what is a 320 00:15:58,120 --> 00:16:00,680 Speaker 1: bad tradition that is kind of like played out or 321 00:16:00,680 --> 00:16:02,200 Speaker 1: maybe even TACKI for a wedding. 322 00:16:02,960 --> 00:16:07,240 Speaker 2: Oh gosh, well, okay, definitely tacky for a wedding is 323 00:16:07,280 --> 00:16:10,720 Speaker 2: smashing the cake in each other's faces. Don't do that. 324 00:16:10,800 --> 00:16:12,520 Speaker 1: First of all, delicious cake, Why would you do that? 325 00:16:12,800 --> 00:16:16,000 Speaker 2: Well, yeah, you're wasting it and you look a little 326 00:16:16,400 --> 00:16:18,800 Speaker 2: I think tacky when you do that, like just feed 327 00:16:18,840 --> 00:16:19,920 Speaker 2: it to each other gently. 328 00:16:20,160 --> 00:16:21,960 Speaker 1: It's something new or fun that you've heard of that 329 00:16:22,000 --> 00:16:22,800 Speaker 1: people should. 330 00:16:22,520 --> 00:16:28,960 Speaker 2: Try something new or fun. Oh well, oh gosh, Oh 331 00:16:29,440 --> 00:16:33,880 Speaker 2: what about the thing where during at kind of at 332 00:16:33,920 --> 00:16:38,640 Speaker 2: the beginning of the reception, because there's always the pressure 333 00:16:38,680 --> 00:16:41,680 Speaker 2: on the bride and groom to get pictures with everyone, 334 00:16:42,200 --> 00:16:45,240 Speaker 2: you have the DJ play a song, like an upbeat, 335 00:16:45,280 --> 00:16:48,360 Speaker 2: fast song, and the bride and groom run around to 336 00:16:48,440 --> 00:16:52,000 Speaker 2: each table and the photographer follows them and take a 337 00:16:52,040 --> 00:16:53,720 Speaker 2: picture with each table. 338 00:16:53,880 --> 00:16:54,440 Speaker 1: That's pretty great. 339 00:16:54,480 --> 00:16:55,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's a really cool. 340 00:16:55,600 --> 00:16:57,080 Speaker 1: I've seen a few of the weddings with those, and 341 00:16:57,080 --> 00:16:58,160 Speaker 1: those pictures are always fun. 342 00:16:58,280 --> 00:17:01,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, they're fun, it's upbeat. Every one then gets the picture. 343 00:17:01,640 --> 00:17:04,600 Speaker 2: I think that's a really positive thing. I also, I 344 00:17:04,680 --> 00:17:07,600 Speaker 2: know this isn't like a tradition or that new, but 345 00:17:07,720 --> 00:17:13,320 Speaker 2: I'm a big fan of the cute signature cocktail that 346 00:17:13,560 --> 00:17:15,640 Speaker 2: the groom has and the bride has. 347 00:17:15,840 --> 00:17:19,000 Speaker 1: What's a good one for the bride. 348 00:17:18,640 --> 00:17:21,199 Speaker 2: The bride, something that you can Okay, I'm such a 349 00:17:21,240 --> 00:17:23,879 Speaker 2: dork because I'm a word nerd. I love when you 350 00:17:24,080 --> 00:17:26,720 Speaker 2: name it something cute, and so when you can name 351 00:17:26,760 --> 00:17:31,000 Speaker 2: it like the Blushing Bride and the drink is pink 352 00:17:31,320 --> 00:17:35,440 Speaker 2: like today at the one we're doing there's they're doing 353 00:17:35,440 --> 00:17:38,960 Speaker 2: a strawberry lemon cello for the bride. Well, you could 354 00:17:39,080 --> 00:17:42,800 Speaker 2: name that the Blushing Bride because it's pink because of 355 00:17:42,840 --> 00:17:43,400 Speaker 2: the strawberry. 356 00:17:43,400 --> 00:17:44,399 Speaker 1: Okay, what about for a groom? 357 00:17:45,119 --> 00:17:48,159 Speaker 2: The groom should do something kind of like manly, like 358 00:17:48,200 --> 00:17:53,320 Speaker 2: an old fashioned or a Moscow mule and call it. Oh, 359 00:17:53,440 --> 00:17:56,280 Speaker 2: I would call it something like Gentleman's choice. 360 00:17:56,440 --> 00:17:58,600 Speaker 1: Or you know, so you like a signature drink because 361 00:17:58,600 --> 00:18:00,160 Speaker 1: that kind of that lets you know what you're doing 362 00:18:00,200 --> 00:18:02,840 Speaker 1: for alcohol. What about wedding colors? What are your favorite 363 00:18:02,840 --> 00:18:05,200 Speaker 1: wedding colors right now? If you're gonna do a palette, 364 00:18:05,200 --> 00:18:06,200 Speaker 1: that's kind of awesome. 365 00:18:06,560 --> 00:18:10,439 Speaker 2: Wow. Okay, well now see you and audio will go 366 00:18:10,480 --> 00:18:13,200 Speaker 2: on for ten to twelve minutes. Me and colors ten 367 00:18:13,280 --> 00:18:16,640 Speaker 2: to twelve minutes. I know, I love pretty things. I'll 368 00:18:16,720 --> 00:18:19,320 Speaker 2: keep it short. If it were me, I would do 369 00:18:19,480 --> 00:18:23,719 Speaker 2: anything in the What will you know everyone knows that 370 00:18:23,720 --> 00:18:25,719 Speaker 2: that I love a good peachy blush. 371 00:18:25,760 --> 00:18:27,800 Speaker 1: I don't know if everyone knows well, I mean all. 372 00:18:27,760 --> 00:18:30,960 Speaker 2: My friends, is what I met. Like, if my friends 373 00:18:31,000 --> 00:18:33,560 Speaker 2: are listening, they they would have already answered, is what 374 00:18:33,600 --> 00:18:38,600 Speaker 2: I meant. Oh gosh, Yes, people know that I love 375 00:18:38,600 --> 00:18:41,800 Speaker 2: peachy blush. If they know me is my point. But 376 00:18:42,320 --> 00:18:45,199 Speaker 2: what a couple of things I'm excited about. One we 377 00:18:45,280 --> 00:18:49,280 Speaker 2: have a wedding coming up that they're they're doing sort 378 00:18:49,320 --> 00:18:56,200 Speaker 2: of a a really pretty light sage green with an amber, 379 00:18:58,240 --> 00:19:01,640 Speaker 2: and that's really I think. And then the one I'm 380 00:19:02,119 --> 00:19:07,399 Speaker 2: extra excited about that's coming up in March is or 381 00:19:07,520 --> 00:19:11,119 Speaker 2: like later in March, is a sunset wedding color. 382 00:19:11,240 --> 00:19:12,879 Speaker 1: Oh orange. 383 00:19:13,119 --> 00:19:17,240 Speaker 2: It's it's like a it's a peachy orange and sort 384 00:19:17,240 --> 00:19:24,840 Speaker 2: of a purplely magenta and kind of a light orchid. 385 00:19:25,520 --> 00:19:28,120 Speaker 2: And I know it sounds a little hodgepodgy, but when 386 00:19:28,280 --> 00:19:32,320 Speaker 2: I'm putting the palette together, I swear to you it 387 00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:37,840 Speaker 2: is magic, especially when you're doing it at the Hazley 388 00:19:37,920 --> 00:19:42,639 Speaker 2: where are sunsets over the mountains porges. It's just going 389 00:19:42,720 --> 00:19:46,440 Speaker 2: to be stunningly beautiful. So it's like it's like it's 390 00:19:46,520 --> 00:19:50,280 Speaker 2: like an Arizona sunset, which which kind of is an ombree. 391 00:19:49,920 --> 00:19:51,719 Speaker 1: Which are the best sunset right? 392 00:19:51,960 --> 00:19:55,920 Speaker 2: Peachy? Like going from peach to magenta to purple. It's 393 00:19:55,960 --> 00:19:58,200 Speaker 2: just gorgeous. So I'm really excited about the one. 394 00:19:58,400 --> 00:20:02,439 Speaker 1: Is there a color splash in the flowers that matches 395 00:20:02,480 --> 00:20:04,080 Speaker 1: that or something? When you do that, all of. 396 00:20:04,040 --> 00:20:06,879 Speaker 2: Them will match it. Yeah, they'll be like each color 397 00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:08,000 Speaker 2: will be represented. 398 00:20:08,520 --> 00:20:10,960 Speaker 1: That's kind of fun. How long should a wedding ceremony be? 399 00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:16,720 Speaker 2: Well, I think short and sweet is good, so honestly, 400 00:20:17,600 --> 00:20:21,119 Speaker 2: no longer than thirty minutes and preferably twenty. 401 00:20:21,440 --> 00:20:23,320 Speaker 1: And how do you feel about Like, if let's say 402 00:20:23,320 --> 00:20:26,320 Speaker 1: we went back in time three years our anniversary, how 403 00:20:26,320 --> 00:20:29,240 Speaker 1: would you feel about me now using chatchpt to write 404 00:20:29,240 --> 00:20:29,919 Speaker 1: my vows for me? 405 00:20:30,480 --> 00:20:31,280 Speaker 2: I'd be mad at you? 406 00:20:32,440 --> 00:20:35,040 Speaker 1: So could anybody use chatchpt to write their vows? 407 00:20:35,480 --> 00:20:38,560 Speaker 2: I mean, I still I still say no to that. 408 00:20:38,680 --> 00:20:43,720 Speaker 2: Here's the only caveat chat gpt is as good as 409 00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:47,760 Speaker 2: the prompt. In other words, whatever you say to chat 410 00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:51,560 Speaker 2: gpt is how good it's gonna be If all you 411 00:20:51,680 --> 00:20:55,400 Speaker 2: say to it is hey, chat GPT, I'm getting married tomorrow. 412 00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:59,359 Speaker 2: Give me some vows. No way, Jose, that's going to 413 00:20:59,400 --> 00:21:02,760 Speaker 2: be awful. But if you work with it going there. 414 00:21:02,760 --> 00:21:04,560 Speaker 1: Like we met at a you know, a drug store 415 00:21:04,720 --> 00:21:07,119 Speaker 1: and we're fighting over shampoo, right, and you put in 416 00:21:07,119 --> 00:21:09,000 Speaker 1: all that stuff, then it can help you and it. 417 00:21:08,960 --> 00:21:12,639 Speaker 2: Can help you edit me. You wants it, yeah, but 418 00:21:13,080 --> 00:21:16,200 Speaker 2: you have to do the majority of the work. Otherwise 419 00:21:16,240 --> 00:21:18,320 Speaker 2: it's going to be generic. And it's not going to 420 00:21:18,359 --> 00:21:22,520 Speaker 2: be it's just not going to be personal. So unless 421 00:21:22,600 --> 00:21:25,840 Speaker 2: you're unless you're letting it do just the fine tuning 422 00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:29,120 Speaker 2: and the you know, helping you here and there, then 423 00:21:29,200 --> 00:21:32,600 Speaker 2: I say a hard no on that, and I think 424 00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:34,560 Speaker 2: you need to do what I did and what I 425 00:21:34,680 --> 00:21:37,280 Speaker 2: pray you did. Would just do it on our own, 426 00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:38,000 Speaker 2: No I did. 427 00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:40,040 Speaker 1: There was none of that three years ago. That was 428 00:21:40,080 --> 00:21:43,360 Speaker 1: interesting enough. Dates okay, No, I wrote it, Okay, now 429 00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:45,720 Speaker 1: I wrote like four different versions of it. Yeah, and 430 00:21:45,760 --> 00:21:47,800 Speaker 1: then like, oh, this is the one that feels right. 431 00:21:47,880 --> 00:21:49,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, and it was so good. I loved it. 432 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:51,640 Speaker 1: That's why we have it hanging on our wall. Yeah, 433 00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:55,800 Speaker 1: we do, we have our Yeah. I was watching a 434 00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:58,119 Speaker 1: little bit of Taylor Tomlinson's new comedy special last night. 435 00:21:58,200 --> 00:22:01,200 Speaker 1: The very first thing she talks about is she gets 436 00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:04,120 Speaker 1: how people fall in love with the chat GPT since 437 00:22:04,119 --> 00:22:06,359 Speaker 1: it sort of, you know, always kind of butters you 438 00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:08,560 Speaker 1: up at everything. And she's like, I think I'm going 439 00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:10,119 Speaker 1: to be the first one of my friends and family 440 00:22:10,119 --> 00:22:12,840 Speaker 1: that falls in love with the robot, Like bring it 441 00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:17,400 Speaker 1: to dinner and be like, this is not a machine. 442 00:22:18,359 --> 00:22:19,760 Speaker 1: So which one of your friends do you think is 443 00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:20,920 Speaker 1: gonna be the first one to fall in love with 444 00:22:20,960 --> 00:22:23,679 Speaker 1: a robot? You just get the fear of God. 445 00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:25,560 Speaker 2: In your her. I know I do not want to 446 00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:27,080 Speaker 2: answer that. 447 00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:29,440 Speaker 1: Okay, in fact, we can wrap this up that that 448 00:22:29,600 --> 00:22:31,800 Speaker 1: anything else do you want to bring up? No, I 449 00:22:31,800 --> 00:22:32,720 Speaker 1: think the anniversary. 450 00:22:32,920 --> 00:22:35,520 Speaker 2: I just want to say happy anniversary, and thanks for 451 00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:38,640 Speaker 2: making me the happiest lady in the whole wide world. 452 00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:39,560 Speaker 2: And I love you so much. 453 00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:41,600 Speaker 1: I love you too. Look, we ended the podcast the 454 00:22:41,600 --> 00:22:43,760 Speaker 1: way you like to end it with, and I love you. 455 00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:47,760 Speaker 2: That's my favorite, Well, next to sleeping and being right.