WEBVTT - Ashley Ghosted Ryan in Mountain View

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<v Speaker 1>It's Marcus in the morning. It's second date at daytime,

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<v Speaker 1>quickly reviewing. If you go on a date and you

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<v Speaker 1>get ghosted, you just call me and then we will

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<v Speaker 1>call your date and see what the deal is. Ryan

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<v Speaker 1>is on the phone. Ryan, Good morning, Good morning. Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>mar let's let's talk about your date. So this lady

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<v Speaker 1>Ashley who you met online, roll it out for me, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>what did you guys, what did you do?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>I took her to Castro Street in Mountain View, Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>And I thought that the date went really good. I

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<v Speaker 3>mean like it felt great. It was it was pretty

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<v Speaker 3>easy conversation. She was beautiful. I thought the chemistry was there.

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<v Speaker 3>I knew if I get her to laugh and things

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<v Speaker 3>like that, then that's a good sign. And I think

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<v Speaker 3>we were both laughing a lot at a certain point.

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<v Speaker 1>And the weather's been the weather's been great, and like

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<v Speaker 1>Castro Street is such a fun place to eat.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, absolutely, And I think the atmosphere is really good. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>So I felt super comfortable and yeah, I mean I'm

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<v Speaker 3>kind of going through it in my head and I

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<v Speaker 3>just like I couldn't find a place where I messed

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<v Speaker 3>up or anything like that.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, even at the end, there was a chance

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<v Speaker 2>to I kiss, and I.

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<v Speaker 3>Just didn't do that. I was like, Okay, I'll say

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<v Speaker 3>this for the next date.

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<v Speaker 1>Ryan obviously listening.

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<v Speaker 4>I've been.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been asking, especially dudes for the last couple of weeks.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, tell me where you screwed up. It would

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<v Speaker 1>save us a lot of time. But you can't think

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<v Speaker 1>of anything.

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<v Speaker 3>No, But that's why I was doing it.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like going through all the calculations in my head.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, and she's gone, like gone gone, not like slow playing,

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<v Speaker 1>but gone.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, like totally ghosted. I texted her a little bit

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<v Speaker 3>after and I didn't get a reply.

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<v Speaker 2>I got like that was a great night, and then

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<v Speaker 2>that was it. And then she didn't text me anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, go ahead and meet your phone. We're gonna call

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<v Speaker 1>Ashley and try to figure out why she ghosted on you.

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<v Speaker 1>Here we go. Hello, Hi, is this Ashley?

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<v Speaker 4>This is Ashley.

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<v Speaker 1>It's Marcus calling from Star one on one three.

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<v Speaker 4>How are you a good? Good I listen to you

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<v Speaker 4>guys all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>Love it. Good morning?

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<v Speaker 4>Wait? Hold on, yes, is this second date update? It is?

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<v Speaker 4>Are you calling because of Ryan?

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<v Speaker 3>I am?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh my god, Okay, he's on the line right now, right,

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<v Speaker 4>he's listening.

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<v Speaker 1>He is Ryan.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, okay, Actually, hey.

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<v Speaker 1>So Ashley, did you ghos on on Ryan?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, yeah, yeah, okay, I did, okay because I

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<v Speaker 4>just okay, So honestly, the second I second I saw you, Ryan,

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<v Speaker 4>like the date just I knew it was just not

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<v Speaker 4>gonna play out like it's just it's gonna be probably

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<v Speaker 4>like a friend thing at most happened well because okay,

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<v Speaker 4>I spend an hour or so getting ready, I get

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<v Speaker 4>my hair done, I get like a cute outfit. I

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<v Speaker 4>put in the word like make up my nails, the

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<v Speaker 4>whole thing, like I really put an effort to. It's

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<v Speaker 4>a date, right, and Ryan shows up and he's looking

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<v Speaker 4>like he just like wandered out of a startup breakroom.

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<v Speaker 4>What do you mean, Well, he's like the stretchy hybridtech

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<v Speaker 4>jene pants that were like way too tight, the plain

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<v Speaker 4>white T shirt like the zip up hoody, and then

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<v Speaker 4>the hair, like the damn hair, like I just I

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<v Speaker 4>don't know, it looked like he just got in a

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<v Speaker 4>fight with like some type of animal or like a

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know, it was just it was all over

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<v Speaker 4>the place. It would just it looked honestly looked like

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<v Speaker 4>the wind blew into it like one hundred and twenty

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<v Speaker 4>miles per hour. It was insane. I was like, what

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<v Speaker 4>you look like you just woke up from the bed

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<v Speaker 4>and you were like, hey, what's up? Like it just

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<v Speaker 4>it was bad? Okay, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>Ryan, go ahead, okay, yeah, that that's intentional. Like I

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<v Speaker 2>have to tell you I used texturizing product in my

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<v Speaker 2>hair and then I spent a lot of time actually

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<v Speaker 2>making it look casually messy. This is like a it's

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<v Speaker 2>a I just woke up look, that's actually does this?

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<v Speaker 4>You can't intentionally style your hair to look like you

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<v Speaker 4>overslept and call that fashion. I'm sorry, but that's no girls.

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<v Speaker 2>This is like a relaxed look did yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, Like if you're grabbing coffee on a Sunday morning, cool,

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<v Speaker 4>but not for the first date where you're trying to

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<v Speaker 4>make an impression, you look like you just no. Like

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<v Speaker 4>that's and the worst part about the whole thing is

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<v Speaker 4>that you you kept calling me fancy all night because

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<v Speaker 4>I'm wearing heels, Like what because I dressed up? But

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<v Speaker 4>I looked nice.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean you looked really nice. I just think you

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<v Speaker 2>have you're fancy.

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<v Speaker 3>That's that's why I said it.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I work in tech.

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<v Speaker 4>You know that.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just like I work long hours and it's just

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<v Speaker 2>when you go every single day, it's basically my whole

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<v Speaker 2>at the same type of look cool.

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<v Speaker 4>But this is still a date, like not an emergency

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<v Speaker 4>slack meeting, you know what I mean? Like, I personally

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<v Speaker 4>feel like effort matters, and that shows what type of

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<v Speaker 4>person if you're putting an effort into this date, you know,

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<v Speaker 4>like like you could see a lot from a person

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<v Speaker 4>just even by how they present themselves, especially on the

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<v Speaker 4>first try.

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<v Speaker 1>So if Ryan could you dress up a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>next time, and Ashley if he does, would you be

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<v Speaker 1>interested maybe in a second?

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<v Speaker 4>What? No, Sorry, okay, I'm just not interested.

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<v Speaker 1>Now hang on you guys. Effort matters. That's the quote

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<v Speaker 1>for this morning. Second date update.