1 00:00:00,480 --> 00:00:04,040 Speaker 1: KFI AM six forty. You're listening to Dean Sharp, The 2 00:00:04,040 --> 00:00:09,080 Speaker 1: House Whisper on demand on the iHeartRadio app. I'm Dean Sharp, 3 00:00:09,160 --> 00:00:13,480 Speaker 1: the house Whisperer, custom home Builder, custom home Designer, and 4 00:00:13,600 --> 00:00:16,439 Speaker 1: every week your guide to better understanding that place where 5 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:19,479 Speaker 1: you live. Every home has a path forward, you know 6 00:00:19,520 --> 00:00:22,440 Speaker 1: what we're all about letting you see it. Once you 7 00:00:22,520 --> 00:00:27,680 Speaker 1: see that path forward, everything changes, Everything changes. A hopeless 8 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:31,960 Speaker 1: situation becomes hopeful. Why because there's a path forward. It's 9 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:35,440 Speaker 1: just that simple, and every home has one. It's just 10 00:00:35,440 --> 00:00:39,879 Speaker 1: a question of are we willing to see it and 11 00:00:39,920 --> 00:00:42,520 Speaker 1: do we take the time to figure it out? And 12 00:00:43,120 --> 00:00:46,880 Speaker 1: that's why we're here every week for you. My thanks 13 00:00:46,920 --> 00:00:50,440 Speaker 1: to all of our callers. This week been fantastic, great calls. 14 00:00:50,520 --> 00:00:53,000 Speaker 1: As per usual, we still have a couple of tickets 15 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:56,040 Speaker 1: to give away to the House Whisper Ghost Tour. Will 16 00:00:56,080 --> 00:00:58,840 Speaker 1: be doing that in just a bit, so you hang tight. 17 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:03,200 Speaker 1: Doing it next weekend as well. So we've got time. 18 00:01:03,280 --> 00:01:05,280 Speaker 1: We've got time. Don't you worry. We're going to get 19 00:01:05,319 --> 00:01:08,400 Speaker 1: you in there. Just try hard enough, you're gonna make it, 20 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:11,800 Speaker 1: my friend. But today, for the remainder of the show, 21 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:14,080 Speaker 1: we're going to continue with what we started with, which 22 00:01:14,120 --> 00:01:19,080 Speaker 1: is our annual House Whisper listener interview, And what that 23 00:01:19,160 --> 00:01:23,319 Speaker 1: basically means is, you know, all of the non home 24 00:01:23,680 --> 00:01:26,399 Speaker 1: and house related questions that we get every year, listener 25 00:01:26,520 --> 00:01:29,160 Speaker 1: questions of a little bit more personal nature, we set 26 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:31,600 Speaker 1: them aside. We don't toss them away, We set them aside. 27 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:34,760 Speaker 1: And now last few years we've decided, you know, we'll 28 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:37,960 Speaker 1: do one show in the fall in which Tina basically 29 00:01:38,000 --> 00:01:41,520 Speaker 1: takes those questions and we do an on air interview 30 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:43,880 Speaker 1: about them. So, without any further ado, let's get back 31 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:46,399 Speaker 1: into it. Tina, Okay? 32 00:01:46,480 --> 00:01:49,480 Speaker 2: Is that how you pronounce your name? By the way, Tina? Tina? 33 00:01:49,840 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 2: Tina tiny tiny Okay, anyway, go it for it. 34 00:01:54,520 --> 00:01:59,240 Speaker 3: Okay, We're going to transition a little bit from just 35 00:01:59,320 --> 00:02:04,360 Speaker 3: our designs to a question that comes from somebody here 36 00:02:04,400 --> 00:02:07,800 Speaker 3: in La County and they asked, how did you go 37 00:02:07,880 --> 00:02:10,519 Speaker 3: from successful designer to radio personnel? 38 00:02:11,120 --> 00:02:11,800 Speaker 2: How did I go? 39 00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:15,359 Speaker 1: Well, whether or not I'm a radio personality is debatable, 40 00:02:15,840 --> 00:02:20,000 Speaker 1: because well, I am a personality among our twelve faithful listeners. 41 00:02:20,880 --> 00:02:23,639 Speaker 1: Apart from that, I don't know. But okay, so how 42 00:02:23,680 --> 00:02:29,760 Speaker 1: did we go? Uh? It's complete? It is completely Robin 43 00:02:29,800 --> 00:02:33,400 Speaker 1: Bertolucci's faults because of me. Well, it actually is sort 44 00:02:33,440 --> 00:02:34,160 Speaker 1: of your fault too. 45 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:35,000 Speaker 2: It is false. 46 00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:39,080 Speaker 1: What do you explain? Okay, because it started with you, 47 00:02:39,160 --> 00:02:41,600 Speaker 1: as I did. It actually started with you, by the way. 48 00:02:41,680 --> 00:02:43,839 Speaker 1: So I'll just lay this as the as the as 49 00:02:43,880 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 1: the prologue to the to the answer here. How many days, 50 00:02:48,680 --> 00:02:50,960 Speaker 1: how many hours? How many times have you and I 51 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:54,720 Speaker 1: in our entire design career woken up in the morning 52 00:02:54,760 --> 00:02:56,680 Speaker 1: and said, you know what, we should turn this successful, 53 00:02:56,840 --> 00:03:01,160 Speaker 1: successful design business into some kind of media thing. Zero hours, 54 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:08,400 Speaker 1: zero time, zero, none whatsoever. Okay, so we never pursued it. 55 00:03:08,480 --> 00:03:11,280 Speaker 1: But then this happened. What happened happened. 56 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:16,080 Speaker 3: I was friends with Robin and we just got to talking. 57 00:03:16,440 --> 00:03:19,760 Speaker 3: And you know, when you grow closer to people than you, 58 00:03:19,760 --> 00:03:22,079 Speaker 3: you know, you invite the spouses. So, you know, we 59 00:03:23,080 --> 00:03:25,840 Speaker 3: she met Dean, I met down. You know, we we 60 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:28,840 Speaker 3: had this great connection, the four of us. They're very 61 00:03:28,919 --> 00:03:32,400 Speaker 3: dear friends, they really are. They've turned into family, really, yes, 62 00:03:32,720 --> 00:03:38,240 Speaker 3: And at some point Robin kind of she got her 63 00:03:38,240 --> 00:03:40,119 Speaker 3: wheels turning, and you can always tell, you can see 64 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 3: that look on her face. 65 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 4: But she approached Dean and she said, oh. 66 00:03:43,360 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 1: By the way, for those who don't know, I just 67 00:03:45,480 --> 00:03:51,840 Speaker 1: realized Robin Bertolucci, the legendary just recently retired program director 68 00:03:51,840 --> 00:03:54,320 Speaker 1: for KFI over the last twenty plus years. 69 00:03:54,640 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 3: An amazing and amazing powerful woman. But she came to 70 00:03:59,360 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 3: Dean one day and said, hey, I wanted to have 71 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:04,720 Speaker 3: breakfast with you, and he thought, oh, she's wanting to 72 00:04:04,760 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 3: get together to talk about some design work that they 73 00:04:07,520 --> 00:04:10,120 Speaker 3: were wanting to have done to our house. And so 74 00:04:10,160 --> 00:04:14,040 Speaker 3: they got together, had breakfast and then okay, well, you know, 75 00:04:14,200 --> 00:04:16,480 Speaker 3: are we talking about this? And she said, oh, no, 76 00:04:17,000 --> 00:04:19,880 Speaker 3: I want to put you on the radio. And he 77 00:04:19,920 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 3: about fell off his chair. 78 00:04:20,920 --> 00:04:22,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, pretty funny, that was the thing. 79 00:04:22,960 --> 00:04:25,240 Speaker 1: So she said yeah, she said no, no, no, no, no, no, 80 00:04:25,760 --> 00:04:27,840 Speaker 1: We're not going to redo the office right now, but 81 00:04:28,240 --> 00:04:30,320 Speaker 1: I think you should be. I think you should have 82 00:04:30,360 --> 00:04:32,760 Speaker 1: a weekend show on the most listened to talk radio 83 00:04:32,760 --> 00:04:33,920 Speaker 1: station in North America. 84 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:34,280 Speaker 4: Yeah. 85 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:37,880 Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh, really, you do what led you 86 00:04:37,920 --> 00:04:42,920 Speaker 1: to that brilliant idea? All my extensive radio experience, which 87 00:04:42,960 --> 00:04:46,320 Speaker 1: at the time was zero, or was it the fact 88 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:49,600 Speaker 1: that I come harping to you, begging you, oh please, 89 00:04:49,680 --> 00:04:52,680 Speaker 1: let's get on the media, which never ever happened ever, 90 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:56,800 Speaker 1: So yeah, no, Robin, she just sensed that it would 91 00:04:56,800 --> 00:04:59,000 Speaker 1: be a great fit. And you remember I was talking 92 00:04:59,040 --> 00:05:01,400 Speaker 1: earlier about the fact that we've spent so much time 93 00:05:01,480 --> 00:05:04,479 Speaker 1: designing a state level stuff and those you know, we 94 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:06,240 Speaker 1: have a very I mean it's you and me. We 95 00:05:06,320 --> 00:05:10,360 Speaker 1: have this very you know, boutique. It's boutique, right, boutique 96 00:05:10,400 --> 00:05:12,800 Speaker 1: meaning it's not a big fris. I never wanted to 97 00:05:12,839 --> 00:05:16,120 Speaker 1: be the chief designer of one hundred little house whispers 98 00:05:16,160 --> 00:05:16,400 Speaker 1: right now. 99 00:05:16,640 --> 00:05:20,800 Speaker 3: That's really important for us to be both involved because 100 00:05:21,800 --> 00:05:23,400 Speaker 3: in many details and. 101 00:05:23,800 --> 00:05:27,000 Speaker 1: Yes, and and you if you take that and place 102 00:05:27,080 --> 00:05:30,799 Speaker 1: that into a state level design project, that's a lot. 103 00:05:30,920 --> 00:05:33,440 Speaker 1: It's you know, the multi year projects, some of them 104 00:05:33,480 --> 00:05:34,280 Speaker 1: it's consuming. 105 00:05:34,680 --> 00:05:35,400 Speaker 2: And uh. 106 00:05:35,440 --> 00:05:39,040 Speaker 1: And yet we've always had this desire to help mainstream 107 00:05:39,120 --> 00:05:42,400 Speaker 1: homeowners and because that's where we live, that's how that's 108 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:44,920 Speaker 1: our actual life. We've designed mansions during the day and 109 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:48,520 Speaker 1: just come home to our little life. And and so, 110 00:05:48,960 --> 00:05:52,520 Speaker 1: you know, Robin could sense that I had a gift 111 00:05:52,960 --> 00:05:57,039 Speaker 1: of some sort for translating difficult concepts into language that 112 00:05:57,080 --> 00:06:01,880 Speaker 1: homeowners could understood, it could understand, and the whole application 113 00:06:02,120 --> 00:06:06,680 Speaker 1: of these architectural and design principles into regular houses because 114 00:06:06,720 --> 00:06:07,200 Speaker 1: it works. 115 00:06:07,360 --> 00:06:09,159 Speaker 2: It works, there's no reason not to. 116 00:06:10,600 --> 00:06:13,559 Speaker 1: And she also knows I'm slightly passionate about it. So 117 00:06:13,600 --> 00:06:16,720 Speaker 1: she came and said, listen, believe me. She's like, you 118 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:21,120 Speaker 1: Whisper Holmes, that's your expertise, I whisper people, that's my expertise. 119 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:24,120 Speaker 1: Trust me, this is the right thing. 120 00:06:24,480 --> 00:06:24,640 Speaker 2: This. 121 00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:28,239 Speaker 3: Yeah, she really appreciated how you could you can explain 122 00:06:28,480 --> 00:06:32,040 Speaker 3: very hard concepts in a way that everybody can really 123 00:06:32,080 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 3: a great teaching ability. 124 00:06:33,760 --> 00:06:35,320 Speaker 1: So she laid it out there and she said, don't 125 00:06:35,360 --> 00:06:38,960 Speaker 1: say no, because this is what we pushed in. 126 00:06:39,279 --> 00:06:41,760 Speaker 2: Yeah. I did. I just because I'm like, why would 127 00:06:41,800 --> 00:06:42,320 Speaker 2: you upset? 128 00:06:42,400 --> 00:06:45,920 Speaker 1: We have a good thing going here, But you know what, 129 00:06:46,400 --> 00:06:50,599 Speaker 1: you know what, it's now, it's now this fully integrated 130 00:06:50,640 --> 00:06:52,760 Speaker 1: part of our life, and we never had to let 131 00:06:52,800 --> 00:06:56,560 Speaker 1: go of design. The fact that what makes the show 132 00:06:56,640 --> 00:06:59,000 Speaker 1: so authentic is the fact that the two are happening. 133 00:06:59,040 --> 00:07:01,720 Speaker 1: That we have the show, but we also still are, 134 00:07:02,200 --> 00:07:07,680 Speaker 1: you know, neck deep in this industry. And it scratched Anich. 135 00:07:08,040 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: It scratched Anich because I always wanted to help spend 136 00:07:10,920 --> 00:07:16,480 Speaker 1: more time working and designing more mainstream things for regular homeowners. 137 00:07:16,480 --> 00:07:20,320 Speaker 1: And not just multimillionaires and things. And Robin's like, listen, 138 00:07:20,360 --> 00:07:22,640 Speaker 1: you're going to help tens of thousands of them every 139 00:07:22,840 --> 00:07:25,240 Speaker 1: fifteen minutes if you do this show. And then that 140 00:07:25,400 --> 00:07:27,240 Speaker 1: like set the hook. I'm like, damn. 141 00:07:26,960 --> 00:07:28,920 Speaker 2: You, you're good. 142 00:07:29,360 --> 00:07:31,920 Speaker 1: So we tried it out and I was terrified, But 143 00:07:32,280 --> 00:07:34,040 Speaker 1: you know what it has turned into. I don't know 144 00:07:34,080 --> 00:07:35,920 Speaker 1: if I've gotten any better at it. Maybe a little 145 00:07:35,920 --> 00:07:39,000 Speaker 1: bit better, but you know what, next year, you know, 146 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 1: it'll be our tenth year doing this kind of stuff. 147 00:07:42,360 --> 00:07:43,720 Speaker 4: I can't believe it already. 148 00:07:43,440 --> 00:07:46,840 Speaker 1: And we still haven't. For one day pursued media. It 149 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:50,400 Speaker 1: just kind of dropped in our lap. But I made 150 00:07:50,560 --> 00:07:55,120 Speaker 1: Robin promise that that she was going to have my 151 00:07:55,200 --> 00:07:57,640 Speaker 1: back and mentor me through it, and she has been. 152 00:07:57,680 --> 00:07:59,880 Speaker 1: She's been my Yoda, she still is to this day. 153 00:08:00,160 --> 00:08:02,520 Speaker 1: So it's all her fault. For those of you who 154 00:08:02,560 --> 00:08:05,200 Speaker 1: disliked the program, those of you just like the program, 155 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:09,000 Speaker 1: why are you listening? It's a beautiful day, Just go outside, 156 00:08:09,040 --> 00:08:11,320 Speaker 1: And for those of you who have enjoyed it over 157 00:08:11,360 --> 00:08:15,720 Speaker 1: the years, it's completely one hundred percent Robin Bertolucci's fault 158 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:17,760 Speaker 1: and Tina's fault for making friends. 159 00:08:17,800 --> 00:08:19,320 Speaker 2: So easily, and there you go. 160 00:08:19,360 --> 00:08:20,760 Speaker 1: All right, we got to go to a break and 161 00:08:20,760 --> 00:08:22,840 Speaker 1: then you can ask you a couple more questions your 162 00:08:22,920 --> 00:08:25,080 Speaker 1: Home with Dean Sharp, the House Whisper. 163 00:08:25,880 --> 00:08:29,200 Speaker 5: You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from 164 00:08:29,280 --> 00:08:30,800 Speaker 5: KFI AM six forty. 165 00:08:31,120 --> 00:08:34,200 Speaker 1: We are doing the House Whisper listener interviews today, which 166 00:08:34,240 --> 00:08:37,280 Speaker 1: basically amounts to listener questions that have come in over 167 00:08:37,320 --> 00:08:39,560 Speaker 1: the past year that are a little bit more on 168 00:08:39,600 --> 00:08:42,600 Speaker 1: the personal and not direct. Oh, I have a question 169 00:08:42,640 --> 00:08:45,480 Speaker 1: about my toilet or about the style of my house 170 00:08:45,559 --> 00:08:49,079 Speaker 1: kind of question. Tina has collected them together and she's 171 00:08:49,320 --> 00:08:52,680 Speaker 1: throwing them at me, and so without any further ado, 172 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:54,400 Speaker 1: let's let's move forward. 173 00:08:55,520 --> 00:08:57,840 Speaker 3: Okay, I'm going to We just talked about, you know, 174 00:08:57,880 --> 00:09:01,400 Speaker 3: how you got onto KFI. So now there was someone said, 175 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:03,440 Speaker 3: what was your favorite thing about being on buy. 176 00:09:04,320 --> 00:09:06,320 Speaker 1: Favorite thing about being on kf I other than the 177 00:09:06,320 --> 00:09:09,280 Speaker 1: fact that it has connected us to so many listeners, 178 00:09:09,320 --> 00:09:11,400 Speaker 1: And like I said, it's scratched this itch. That's a 179 00:09:11,520 --> 00:09:14,800 Speaker 1: very personal, selfish thing that it's scratched this itch to 180 00:09:14,880 --> 00:09:17,840 Speaker 1: really help people. Because so we still work the big 181 00:09:18,360 --> 00:09:23,040 Speaker 1: you know, estate projects, and yet get to help regular 182 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:26,160 Speaker 1: everyday people. Like you and me make their lives better. 183 00:09:26,559 --> 00:09:29,800 Speaker 1: So that is very very special. That has become really 184 00:09:29,840 --> 00:09:31,760 Speaker 1: really meaningful to me, to the point where like, I 185 00:09:31,800 --> 00:09:34,440 Speaker 1: don't want to not do that right, you know, I 186 00:09:34,440 --> 00:09:37,800 Speaker 1: mean enjoy it. For a person who never pursued media, 187 00:09:38,200 --> 00:09:40,600 Speaker 1: I'm like, I like the way that feels. It's good. 188 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:45,720 Speaker 1: It's nice to help people. But as far as KFI goes, honestly, 189 00:09:46,440 --> 00:09:48,920 Speaker 1: it was something I didn't really expect because one of 190 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:50,880 Speaker 1: my hesitations at the beginning was I don't know if 191 00:09:50,920 --> 00:09:53,400 Speaker 1: I want to get into the douchey world of entertainment 192 00:09:53,640 --> 00:09:55,760 Speaker 1: and all of that stuff, because we've heard, you know, 193 00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:56,960 Speaker 1: everybody hears stories. 194 00:09:59,000 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 2: There are just so many gems of people at KFI. 195 00:10:04,880 --> 00:10:05,400 Speaker 4: In this world. 196 00:10:05,640 --> 00:10:07,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, and and and there. 197 00:10:06,960 --> 00:10:10,360 Speaker 4: Were in the media world. 198 00:10:10,400 --> 00:10:14,400 Speaker 1: But you know, but it's the people that I've worked with, 199 00:10:14,559 --> 00:10:17,640 Speaker 1: everybody from Tony who's doing part of our engineering today, 200 00:10:17,880 --> 00:10:21,000 Speaker 1: to uh to well, like I said, Robin who was 201 00:10:21,040 --> 00:10:23,720 Speaker 1: the big boss lady for so long, and just I mean, 202 00:10:24,480 --> 00:10:27,520 Speaker 1: person after person after person. It is not what I expected. 203 00:10:27,760 --> 00:10:30,280 Speaker 1: It's not what I expected. And I'm not saying, by 204 00:10:30,320 --> 00:10:33,920 Speaker 1: the way, that there aren't some douchey characters out there 205 00:10:34,280 --> 00:10:38,440 Speaker 1: I'm telling you that we have run into so many genuinely, 206 00:10:38,600 --> 00:10:39,800 Speaker 1: very very special people. 207 00:10:39,880 --> 00:10:40,440 Speaker 2: We really have. 208 00:10:40,600 --> 00:10:44,560 Speaker 1: It's it has been a great group of people, just 209 00:10:44,640 --> 00:10:45,160 Speaker 1: great people. 210 00:10:45,200 --> 00:10:46,400 Speaker 2: So there you go. It's the people. 211 00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:47,440 Speaker 4: Okay. 212 00:10:47,440 --> 00:10:51,160 Speaker 3: So here's a couple of super personal ones. We're super 213 00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:53,840 Speaker 3: personally know more about you and me. So where did 214 00:10:53,840 --> 00:10:57,680 Speaker 3: you meet the love of your life? Who's that super 215 00:10:57,800 --> 00:10:58,520 Speaker 3: my librador? 216 00:10:58,640 --> 00:11:10,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, well, Shelter, I met Christina renee Sharp ooh online. 217 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:12,400 Speaker 2: Can you believe that. 218 00:11:12,880 --> 00:11:18,600 Speaker 1: In nineteen ninety five, in late late nineteen ninety five, 219 00:11:18,679 --> 00:11:20,880 Speaker 1: it was it's actually about you know what it was 220 00:11:20,920 --> 00:11:23,440 Speaker 1: about this time a year. We're within weeks of it. 221 00:11:23,520 --> 00:11:26,959 Speaker 1: I think it was in November. Technically, in November of 222 00:11:27,080 --> 00:11:32,400 Speaker 1: nineteen ninety five. I was sitting home alone, a little 223 00:11:32,400 --> 00:11:37,920 Speaker 1: distraught and gone through a divorce, a lonely little something. 224 00:11:38,360 --> 00:11:41,559 Speaker 1: And this is ninety five though, Okay, So I had 225 00:11:41,559 --> 00:11:45,720 Speaker 1: a computer at home and a dial up modem, you know, 226 00:11:50,040 --> 00:11:53,760 Speaker 1: and AOL AOL chat rooms and it was an AOL 227 00:11:53,840 --> 00:11:56,320 Speaker 1: chat I just like I was looking around AOL looking 228 00:11:56,360 --> 00:11:56,840 Speaker 1: at And this. 229 00:11:56,840 --> 00:11:59,360 Speaker 3: Was long before I mean, now everybody meets online. This 230 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:02,040 Speaker 3: is a very oh, this was this is way before that. 231 00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:04,400 Speaker 1: And as far as I was, AOL was like, I mean, 232 00:12:04,440 --> 00:12:07,800 Speaker 1: the Internet back then was like these weird static bulletin boards, 233 00:12:07,800 --> 00:12:09,880 Speaker 1: but AOL was like graphic. It was like it was 234 00:12:09,920 --> 00:12:12,360 Speaker 1: like something like it was alive, like there was something 235 00:12:12,400 --> 00:12:16,160 Speaker 1: happening there. So I just dropped into a local chat 236 00:12:16,240 --> 00:12:19,440 Speaker 1: room like so cal Chat eight thousand and eighty seven, 237 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:21,520 Speaker 1: because there were that many of them. It just dropped 238 00:12:21,559 --> 00:12:23,600 Speaker 1: in and I'm just watching people talk. 239 00:12:23,920 --> 00:12:24,600 Speaker 4: And honestly, I. 240 00:12:24,600 --> 00:12:27,520 Speaker 3: Don't even remember how it worked. I don't remember how 241 00:12:27,559 --> 00:12:29,160 Speaker 3: they were like bulletin boards or something. 242 00:12:29,160 --> 00:12:29,720 Speaker 4: I don't even know. 243 00:12:29,880 --> 00:12:32,240 Speaker 2: You kind of just watched the chat roll up the screen. 244 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:32,960 Speaker 2: That's what I remember. 245 00:12:33,000 --> 00:12:35,880 Speaker 1: You just watch like watching text message exactly on a 246 00:12:35,880 --> 00:12:38,240 Speaker 1: computer screen, and it just like it was a group. 247 00:12:38,080 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 4: All these young people that don't know. 248 00:12:39,800 --> 00:12:42,040 Speaker 1: Yes, for you young people, it was like watching a 249 00:12:42,080 --> 00:12:44,640 Speaker 1: group chat. Just watching a group chat in real time, 250 00:12:44,800 --> 00:12:48,520 Speaker 1: I guess. And uh, but but they had this ability. 251 00:12:48,640 --> 00:12:48,880 Speaker 2: You had. 252 00:12:48,920 --> 00:12:52,200 Speaker 1: The ability was you're watching it, if you're looking at 253 00:12:52,200 --> 00:12:54,720 Speaker 1: somebody's comments and you're like, oh, that is interesting, and 254 00:12:54,800 --> 00:12:57,160 Speaker 1: you could select that person and send them a private 255 00:12:57,280 --> 00:12:59,920 Speaker 1: side message, and then you're watching the group chat, and 256 00:13:00,040 --> 00:13:02,920 Speaker 1: you're also like having a private side message on the 257 00:13:02,960 --> 00:13:04,000 Speaker 1: side and. 258 00:13:03,960 --> 00:13:06,320 Speaker 2: I did that too, Princess. I don't even remember. I 259 00:13:06,480 --> 00:13:06,880 Speaker 2: just remember. 260 00:13:07,360 --> 00:13:10,720 Speaker 1: I remember your name started with princess, Princess, and then 261 00:13:10,760 --> 00:13:11,840 Speaker 1: there was a number because. 262 00:13:11,600 --> 00:13:13,040 Speaker 4: You were like John, we have to go to break. 263 00:13:13,160 --> 00:13:17,480 Speaker 1: Oh, all right, what they'll tell you? All right, I'll 264 00:13:17,480 --> 00:13:19,400 Speaker 1: tell you the rest of the story. Yeah, right after 265 00:13:19,440 --> 00:13:21,319 Speaker 1: this your Home with Dean Sharp, the House Whisper. 266 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:25,040 Speaker 5: You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from 267 00:13:25,160 --> 00:13:26,679 Speaker 5: KFI A M six forty. 268 00:13:27,320 --> 00:13:31,640 Speaker 1: All right, well, the interview continues. The House Whisper audience 269 00:13:31,679 --> 00:13:35,120 Speaker 1: interview listener Tina just got where did that come from? 270 00:13:35,280 --> 00:13:39,920 Speaker 1: Some over Instagram? She just got a lovely message. Lovely 271 00:13:40,800 --> 00:13:43,200 Speaker 1: somebody who's never going to listen to us again, because 272 00:13:43,920 --> 00:13:49,480 Speaker 1: I was idiotic and insensitive enough to refer to non 273 00:13:49,559 --> 00:13:54,560 Speaker 1: mansion owners as everyday ordinary people, normal everyday people, as 274 00:13:54,600 --> 00:13:58,720 Speaker 1: if as if that somehow means that you're not extraordinary 275 00:13:58,760 --> 00:14:02,400 Speaker 1: people because you don't know to mansion and so anyway, 276 00:14:02,480 --> 00:14:04,079 Speaker 1: I don't know what to say about that other than 277 00:14:04,480 --> 00:14:09,719 Speaker 1: sorry if you took that the wrong way. But I mean, 278 00:14:09,720 --> 00:14:11,960 Speaker 1: I hope everybody understands, right, I mean, we're in the 279 00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:17,640 Speaker 1: business of customizing any home for anyone, because everybody is 280 00:14:17,679 --> 00:14:22,560 Speaker 1: a unique, extraordinary individual. And so I think you've misunderstood 281 00:14:22,560 --> 00:14:25,320 Speaker 1: me on that part. But that is part of if 282 00:14:25,320 --> 00:14:27,480 Speaker 1: there was a question in there, like what's the most 283 00:14:27,480 --> 00:14:32,200 Speaker 1: annoying part of media? It's constantly being under misunderstood and 284 00:14:33,080 --> 00:14:36,800 Speaker 1: never being able to say any single one sentence without 285 00:14:36,840 --> 00:14:40,200 Speaker 1: somebody out there taking it the wrong way and going 286 00:14:40,240 --> 00:14:41,880 Speaker 1: the wrong Dori. It's just you have to develop a 287 00:14:41,960 --> 00:14:42,800 Speaker 1: kind of a thick skin of it. 288 00:14:42,880 --> 00:14:44,880 Speaker 2: You have to anyway. 289 00:14:46,360 --> 00:14:50,720 Speaker 1: So let's get back to Okay, go ahead, yep, we'll 290 00:14:50,760 --> 00:14:53,960 Speaker 1: just wrap up how we met. Yeah, so we met 291 00:14:54,000 --> 00:14:57,440 Speaker 1: it on AOL in a chat room. We were early 292 00:14:57,480 --> 00:15:01,680 Speaker 1: adopters of that technology long long ago, and we ended 293 00:15:01,760 --> 00:15:04,440 Speaker 1: up having these you know, private side chats over I 294 00:15:04,440 --> 00:15:07,120 Speaker 1: don't know, not just one night, but over a series 295 00:15:07,160 --> 00:15:09,760 Speaker 1: of evenings and so on, and then eventually we're like, well, 296 00:15:09,800 --> 00:15:11,480 Speaker 1: where do you live? Oh my gosh, well I don't 297 00:15:11,520 --> 00:15:13,680 Speaker 1: live very far away. Do you want to meet? 298 00:15:13,880 --> 00:15:14,160 Speaker 2: First? 299 00:15:14,160 --> 00:15:18,280 Speaker 1: We exchange photos via email and promised each other these 300 00:15:18,280 --> 00:15:19,400 Speaker 1: are accurate photos. 301 00:15:19,480 --> 00:15:19,640 Speaker 5: Yeah. 302 00:15:19,680 --> 00:15:21,280 Speaker 3: And the funny thing if we didn't even have the 303 00:15:21,320 --> 00:15:23,520 Speaker 3: technology back then to do what people are doing now 304 00:15:23,560 --> 00:15:25,880 Speaker 3: with AI and no filters, and. 305 00:15:26,480 --> 00:15:29,120 Speaker 1: So we exchanged photos and we're like, okay, this is 306 00:15:29,160 --> 00:15:33,560 Speaker 1: actually a real photo of Fair Fair And then, out 307 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:36,960 Speaker 1: of my fear that you would be vulnerable, I'm like, listen, 308 00:15:37,560 --> 00:15:40,240 Speaker 1: let's just you know, I'm not a serial killer. I'm 309 00:15:40,320 --> 00:15:43,120 Speaker 1: not you know, and let's just meet. Why don't we 310 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:45,240 Speaker 1: just meet for coffee. We meet for coffee. We met 311 00:15:45,240 --> 00:15:47,760 Speaker 1: for coffee at the local mall. Yeah, it was in 312 00:15:47,800 --> 00:15:50,160 Speaker 1: the middle of the day, yes, and. 313 00:15:51,840 --> 00:15:52,240 Speaker 4: The rest. 314 00:15:52,760 --> 00:15:53,480 Speaker 2: What can I tell you? 315 00:15:54,120 --> 00:15:57,920 Speaker 1: She slew me right then and there she smiled, I 316 00:15:58,000 --> 00:16:01,360 Speaker 1: mean honestly, she smiled. I'm like, wow, Wow, what a smile. 317 00:16:02,440 --> 00:16:05,640 Speaker 1: And we just hit it off. We became friends that 318 00:16:05,800 --> 00:16:08,840 Speaker 1: day and we are friends to this day. And that 319 00:16:08,880 --> 00:16:10,520 Speaker 1: was almost thirty years ago. So there you go. 320 00:16:10,560 --> 00:16:17,000 Speaker 3: Okay, next next, Okay, So another little personal one. You 321 00:16:17,040 --> 00:16:20,440 Speaker 3: speak really fondly of your father. What are the greatest 322 00:16:20,520 --> 00:16:21,400 Speaker 3: lessons he taught you? 323 00:16:23,440 --> 00:16:27,080 Speaker 1: Rah, My father was so such a very different person 324 00:16:27,200 --> 00:16:28,720 Speaker 1: than me in personality. 325 00:16:28,800 --> 00:16:30,120 Speaker 2: Outwardly, he was. 326 00:16:32,120 --> 00:16:35,800 Speaker 1: Very quiet, very he was very simple, mid and he 327 00:16:35,920 --> 00:16:43,200 Speaker 1: was like, yeah, midwestern southern farmer, kind of farm boy, 328 00:16:43,280 --> 00:16:49,720 Speaker 1: I should say, heavy equipment operator, blue collar worker. And yeah, 329 00:16:49,760 --> 00:16:52,120 Speaker 1: he just He was just one of those salts of 330 00:16:52,160 --> 00:16:57,200 Speaker 1: the earth, people who didn't stand out, didn't didn't make 331 00:16:58,280 --> 00:17:01,440 Speaker 1: room for himself in a room, just just did put 332 00:17:01,440 --> 00:17:02,520 Speaker 1: his head down and went through it. 333 00:17:02,560 --> 00:17:03,160 Speaker 2: He was older. 334 00:17:03,280 --> 00:17:07,040 Speaker 1: My parents were in there mid to late forties when 335 00:17:07,080 --> 00:17:09,960 Speaker 1: they adopted me out of the hospital. So my father 336 00:17:10,040 --> 00:17:13,359 Speaker 1: actually is the age of my Peers grandfather. My father 337 00:17:13,400 --> 00:17:15,640 Speaker 1: fought in World War Two. He was a World War 338 00:17:15,640 --> 00:17:19,119 Speaker 1: two vet. He was he grew up during the Great Depression. Anyway, 339 00:17:20,560 --> 00:17:23,600 Speaker 1: I have a lot of love and respect for my father. 340 00:17:25,080 --> 00:17:28,520 Speaker 1: What did he teach me? I would say this, you 341 00:17:28,600 --> 00:17:30,680 Speaker 1: know what. We talked about this actually with Vicky the 342 00:17:30,760 --> 00:17:33,720 Speaker 1: other day. I think if I had to boil it down, 343 00:17:34,280 --> 00:17:37,240 Speaker 1: my father taught me that being a man amounted to 344 00:17:37,280 --> 00:17:42,960 Speaker 1: two things, being competent and being kind. And that was it, 345 00:17:43,520 --> 00:17:46,760 Speaker 1: and that was my dad. He was kind and he 346 00:17:46,880 --> 00:17:51,480 Speaker 1: was competent, and so he just kind of ingrained that 347 00:17:51,560 --> 00:17:53,760 Speaker 1: in me. You need to be able to do stuff. 348 00:17:53,800 --> 00:17:56,119 Speaker 1: You need to be able to you know, you know 349 00:17:56,160 --> 00:17:58,080 Speaker 1: that classic kind of like you need to be able 350 00:17:58,119 --> 00:17:59,560 Speaker 1: to fix a flat tire, you need to be able 351 00:17:59,560 --> 00:18:00,920 Speaker 1: to do this, you need to be able to build 352 00:18:00,960 --> 00:18:01,399 Speaker 1: a house. 353 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:04,840 Speaker 2: That kind of stuff. He wanted me to be. 354 00:18:06,480 --> 00:18:12,680 Speaker 1: Competent, and that's how he showed his his masculinity in 355 00:18:13,040 --> 00:18:16,560 Speaker 1: competence and in kindness. He was not the macho guy, 356 00:18:17,320 --> 00:18:20,560 Speaker 1: but man, he was a man. All right, there you go. 357 00:18:21,560 --> 00:18:22,119 Speaker 4: That's lovely. 358 00:18:22,320 --> 00:18:27,359 Speaker 2: Yeah, he's a lovely guy. What else you got there? 359 00:18:28,119 --> 00:18:31,080 Speaker 4: Okay? So did you come from a family of artists? 360 00:18:31,200 --> 00:18:31,280 Speaker 3: No? 361 00:18:32,040 --> 00:18:36,240 Speaker 1: Well no, yeah, I mean biologically you could maybe make 362 00:18:36,280 --> 00:18:39,280 Speaker 1: that argument a little bit more because my mother, my 363 00:18:40,280 --> 00:18:43,680 Speaker 1: biological mother, who I absolutely love and adore and who 364 00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:47,199 Speaker 1: I have a this now ongoing relationship with. Both of 365 00:18:47,200 --> 00:18:52,160 Speaker 1: my adopted parents have passed away long ago. My father, 366 00:18:52,800 --> 00:18:57,680 Speaker 1: you know, yeah, long ago, thirty years plus my biological mother, 367 00:18:57,720 --> 00:19:00,560 Speaker 1: who I rediscovered and who we've had, we've built this 368 00:19:00,640 --> 00:19:03,239 Speaker 1: amazing relationship with. When so when you hear me talk 369 00:19:03,280 --> 00:19:06,679 Speaker 1: about my mom, we're talking about you know, the lovely 370 00:19:06,760 --> 00:19:10,040 Speaker 1: Shelley Uh down in the city of Orange. And so 371 00:19:10,920 --> 00:19:14,679 Speaker 1: she is absolutely a far more artistic and intellectual and 372 00:19:14,760 --> 00:19:17,760 Speaker 1: creative type. And and you know, I owe my genetics 373 00:19:17,800 --> 00:19:22,199 Speaker 1: from her. My sister is super creative and and artsy 374 00:19:22,480 --> 00:19:26,480 Speaker 1: and you know, so it yeah that but not, no, 375 00:19:26,640 --> 00:19:30,320 Speaker 1: not the family I grew up with. No, zero, No, none. 376 00:19:30,560 --> 00:19:32,480 Speaker 1: There was none of that. I was the round peg 377 00:19:32,520 --> 00:19:33,920 Speaker 1: in the square hole there, yeah? 378 00:19:34,280 --> 00:19:36,199 Speaker 2: Or square? Is it square? It's square peg in the 379 00:19:36,240 --> 00:19:36,600 Speaker 2: round hole? 380 00:19:36,680 --> 00:19:39,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, or either way, either way it didn't fit. It 381 00:19:39,520 --> 00:19:41,600 Speaker 4: didn't fit, it didn't work. 382 00:19:42,240 --> 00:19:46,400 Speaker 3: Okay, how do you How do your parents feel about 383 00:19:46,400 --> 00:19:47,560 Speaker 3: where your career has taken? 384 00:19:47,880 --> 00:19:48,160 Speaker 2: Well? 385 00:19:49,440 --> 00:19:54,680 Speaker 1: Yes, again, my my adopted parents just they they never 386 00:19:54,720 --> 00:19:57,920 Speaker 1: got to see where my career. My my dad lived 387 00:19:57,920 --> 00:20:01,280 Speaker 1: long enough to see me because I'm a really good, 388 00:20:01,960 --> 00:20:06,040 Speaker 1: you know, master builder and the beginning of the design 389 00:20:06,119 --> 00:20:10,560 Speaker 1: work on a larger scale. My mom never saw that 390 00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:15,000 Speaker 1: any of that. She passed away way too early. But again, Shelley, 391 00:20:15,440 --> 00:20:20,840 Speaker 1: my biological mother, who is alive and well, and she 392 00:20:21,200 --> 00:20:27,760 Speaker 1: is immensely proud, immensely proud, like crazy proud of where 393 00:20:27,760 --> 00:20:30,560 Speaker 1: things have gone. So that means the world to me. 394 00:20:32,480 --> 00:20:34,160 Speaker 1: You know what, I think we're up against another break, 395 00:20:34,240 --> 00:20:36,000 Speaker 1: So you're gonna have to You're gonna have to gather 396 00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:39,119 Speaker 1: a couple of quickies together so we can wrap up 397 00:20:39,160 --> 00:20:39,480 Speaker 1: the show. 398 00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:41,240 Speaker 2: Everybody go nowhere. 399 00:20:41,800 --> 00:20:44,200 Speaker 1: When we come back, we're gonna give away those other 400 00:20:44,280 --> 00:20:48,560 Speaker 1: two tickets to the ghost Tour and we'll finish up 401 00:20:48,640 --> 00:20:53,320 Speaker 1: this interview. So you stay put much more to come 402 00:20:53,400 --> 00:20:55,400 Speaker 1: your Home with Dean Sharp, the House Whispered. 403 00:20:56,040 --> 00:21:01,520 Speaker 5: You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from KFI. 404 00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:03,560 Speaker 1: Here to remind you that every home deserves great design, 405 00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:06,720 Speaker 1: because every person who lives in a home deserves a 406 00:21:06,840 --> 00:21:11,080 Speaker 1: life that is designed beautifully to the uniqueness that is you. 407 00:21:11,840 --> 00:21:13,840 Speaker 1: Thanks for joining us on the program. Here we are 408 00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:16,199 Speaker 1: nearing the end of another three hours together. Man it 409 00:21:16,280 --> 00:21:19,359 Speaker 1: flies by. Today we're finishing up and we're about to 410 00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:23,440 Speaker 1: finish up our annual House Whisper listener interviews. So many 411 00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:25,880 Speaker 1: questions that Tina didn't get to, but you know, we'll 412 00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:29,280 Speaker 1: just take it in stride and make him. We'll get 413 00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:31,600 Speaker 1: those answers out there eventually. She's got a couple more 414 00:21:31,680 --> 00:21:36,000 Speaker 1: questions for me. But first, before we end, as promised, 415 00:21:36,040 --> 00:21:39,040 Speaker 1: I'm going to give away two more tickets to the 416 00:21:39,080 --> 00:21:42,639 Speaker 1: House Whisper Ghost Tour that's happening Monday night, October twenty 417 00:21:42,680 --> 00:21:45,760 Speaker 1: seventh at the Heritage Museum of Orange County. We're going 418 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:50,280 Speaker 1: to tour through an exclusive VIP House Whisper and Friends 419 00:21:50,520 --> 00:21:54,440 Speaker 1: tour through the historic Kellogg House, built one hundred and 420 00:21:54,440 --> 00:22:02,400 Speaker 1: twenty seven years ago, allegedly haunted also fascinatingaing Lee architecturally 421 00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:05,240 Speaker 1: designed a custom home from eighteen ninety eight. Think about 422 00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:09,159 Speaker 1: that anyway, that's happening October twenty seventh. I'm going to 423 00:22:09,160 --> 00:22:11,680 Speaker 1: give the phone number out one more time, eight three 424 00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:15,680 Speaker 1: three two. Ask Dean eight three three the numeral two. 425 00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:19,600 Speaker 1: Ask Dean eight three three to ask Dean. Nikki is 426 00:22:19,640 --> 00:22:23,000 Speaker 1: standing by the very first call that she picks up 427 00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:27,640 Speaker 1: that works is going to win two of those tickets 428 00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:31,879 Speaker 1: to that event. Go go all right, that's happening, Tina, 429 00:22:32,040 --> 00:22:35,800 Speaker 1: You go ahead, Well there you go. 430 00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:36,280 Speaker 4: Okay. 431 00:22:36,560 --> 00:22:39,440 Speaker 3: So we are coming to the last segment of the show, 432 00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:42,080 Speaker 3: and this is usually a time when you do a 433 00:22:42,119 --> 00:22:46,520 Speaker 3: closing thought, and we've had so many people say how 434 00:22:46,560 --> 00:22:49,919 Speaker 3: much they love your closing thoughts at the end of 435 00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:52,800 Speaker 3: the show, so I thought it would be appropriate to 436 00:22:52,840 --> 00:22:56,520 Speaker 3: ask the question, because we love listening to your closing thoughts. 437 00:22:57,320 --> 00:22:59,760 Speaker 3: What are some of the biggest lessons you've learned personally 438 00:22:59,840 --> 00:23:04,679 Speaker 3: or in did you write each That's huge? Yeah, I know, 439 00:23:04,720 --> 00:23:06,840 Speaker 3: that's huge. That's why this may take the rest of 440 00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:07,360 Speaker 3: the time, but. 441 00:23:07,480 --> 00:23:09,440 Speaker 1: That's why I give a closing thought like every week 442 00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:11,120 Speaker 1: to get all of this stuff out of the way. 443 00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:13,320 Speaker 4: To get it all the rain. But you write these 444 00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:15,159 Speaker 4: each week, these aren't these. 445 00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:19,160 Speaker 3: Aren't Yes, not every week, but sometimes you find quotes 446 00:23:19,280 --> 00:23:21,040 Speaker 3: or something. But for the most part, you sit and 447 00:23:21,080 --> 00:23:23,159 Speaker 3: you sit by your fire pit or you sit in 448 00:23:23,160 --> 00:23:27,320 Speaker 3: front of the fire at early morning and you pour 449 00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:27,760 Speaker 3: out these. 450 00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:30,520 Speaker 1: I just cannot well, I pour out my I just 451 00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:32,280 Speaker 1: try and get my head out there. 452 00:23:32,400 --> 00:23:34,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's all. It's really nice, that's all. And it 453 00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:37,639 Speaker 3: has had some great response people. 454 00:23:37,640 --> 00:23:40,200 Speaker 1: Really, I'm very I'm very fortunate. Again, this goes back 455 00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:42,119 Speaker 1: to Robin that she was open to the idea of 456 00:23:42,119 --> 00:23:44,280 Speaker 1: me actually taking part of the last segment and doing 457 00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:47,760 Speaker 1: that and instead of just giving handing out more house advice. 458 00:23:48,720 --> 00:23:50,680 Speaker 1: And the reason is because the show is called Home, 459 00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:53,600 Speaker 1: and because a house is a house until a life 460 00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:55,720 Speaker 1: is being lived inside of it, and then it's a home. 461 00:23:55,800 --> 00:23:58,480 Speaker 1: And I think the whole the whole reason we're in 462 00:23:58,600 --> 00:24:02,080 Speaker 1: custom home design. That's why you and I decided very 463 00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:05,960 Speaker 1: specifically to do that kind of design, architectural design, and 464 00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:09,560 Speaker 1: that kind of decor and all of that stuff. It's 465 00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:13,400 Speaker 1: because of the lives that because it's because it's ground central, 466 00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:16,400 Speaker 1: it's it's it's it's the holy of holies for where 467 00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:19,760 Speaker 1: people it's it's HQ for where people live their lives. 468 00:24:20,280 --> 00:24:22,919 Speaker 1: You know, it's why we sign off every week. You know, 469 00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:25,640 Speaker 1: go build yourself a beautiful life, and I hope you're 470 00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:28,880 Speaker 1: you know, your home is a part of that. But lessons, 471 00:24:29,000 --> 00:24:31,359 Speaker 1: I mean life lessons. Wow, I mean that's big. 472 00:24:33,320 --> 00:24:33,679 Speaker 2: I don't know. 473 00:24:34,640 --> 00:24:38,800 Speaker 1: Okay. So I have these two tattoos on my forearms 474 00:24:38,840 --> 00:24:40,639 Speaker 1: that have been on there for a while. That's the 475 00:24:40,640 --> 00:24:42,520 Speaker 1: only ink that I have on my body. It was 476 00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:45,960 Speaker 1: a promise I made to my dad before he died 477 00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:49,800 Speaker 1: that I would get a tattoo because he was all 478 00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:53,840 Speaker 1: tatted up from the Navy and all of that kind 479 00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:56,199 Speaker 1: of stuff, you know. But I put it off for 480 00:24:56,240 --> 00:24:59,359 Speaker 1: a long time and I eventually chose these two actually 481 00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:03,399 Speaker 1: designed these and without getting into the detail on it, 482 00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:06,800 Speaker 1: essentially they they've meant different things to me over the years, 483 00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:09,199 Speaker 1: but this is what they have finally settled into me. 484 00:25:09,760 --> 00:25:11,399 Speaker 2: And so you could call these life lessons. 485 00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:16,440 Speaker 1: I live my life by two primary pillars, and that 486 00:25:16,560 --> 00:25:21,720 Speaker 1: is wonder and friendship. So I mean, if you had 487 00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:24,880 Speaker 1: to boil me down at this point at my age, 488 00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:31,520 Speaker 1: it's wonder and friendship. Wonder is this I think humble 489 00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:34,439 Speaker 1: admission of how little you know about the world, about 490 00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:37,280 Speaker 1: how the how much there is to experience in the world, 491 00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:40,280 Speaker 1: how much there is to learn, it keeps you humble. 492 00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:42,880 Speaker 1: I think it keeps you young. I think it makes 493 00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:47,280 Speaker 1: you childlike because because there is just so much. There is, 494 00:25:47,359 --> 00:25:51,240 Speaker 1: literally almost everything there is to know about the universe. 495 00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:54,439 Speaker 1: I do not know, and there's no way that I 496 00:25:54,440 --> 00:25:57,760 Speaker 1: could pull it in in a hundred lifetimes. But I'm 497 00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:00,840 Speaker 1: trying my best to learn as much about it and 498 00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:05,840 Speaker 1: then along the process self discovery, you know. So, I mean, 499 00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:08,000 Speaker 1: if there was one thing that I had to tell somebody, 500 00:26:08,119 --> 00:26:11,439 Speaker 1: you know, in your dying breath, it is know thyself, 501 00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:17,000 Speaker 1: learn about you and figure out who you are. And 502 00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:20,320 Speaker 1: honesty is a huge part of that as well. You know, 503 00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:25,159 Speaker 1: I always say everything meaningful in life has to survive honesty. 504 00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:27,320 Speaker 1: So you got to be honest, you got to keep 505 00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:30,479 Speaker 1: your eyes open, you got to be brutally honest with 506 00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:33,520 Speaker 1: yourself about who you are, about who you want to be, 507 00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:37,600 Speaker 1: about who you can be. And then just taking in 508 00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:40,840 Speaker 1: the world. I think, you know, wonder, a heart full 509 00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:43,679 Speaker 1: of wonder is the key to a real education. I 510 00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:45,800 Speaker 1: think you know, I mean a lot of people go 511 00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:48,640 Speaker 1: through school and they get their degree, but they never 512 00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:52,240 Speaker 1: were learners. They just got their degree. Because you can tell. 513 00:26:52,320 --> 00:26:56,400 Speaker 1: You can tell somebody who's who's driven by the need 514 00:26:56,480 --> 00:26:59,600 Speaker 1: to know and learn things, And I am that if 515 00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:02,080 Speaker 1: I'm nothing thing else. I am driven by the need 516 00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:05,199 Speaker 1: to know and learn and understand stand things more. Not 517 00:27:05,320 --> 00:27:09,439 Speaker 1: because I'm trying to, you know, win at trivial pursuit games. 518 00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:13,679 Speaker 1: It's because I'm just so enamored with the mystery of life. 519 00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:16,000 Speaker 1: I just want to I just want to understand it better. 520 00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:19,080 Speaker 1: And then the other side of that is I don't 521 00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:23,320 Speaker 1: want to do it alone. And so for me, relationships, friendships, 522 00:27:23,560 --> 00:27:26,480 Speaker 1: I live my life. I think the laws of friendship, 523 00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:30,200 Speaker 1: the rules of friendship in which everybody understands. I think 524 00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:34,160 Speaker 1: those are the highest rules. Not marriage, not marital vows, 525 00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:39,240 Speaker 1: not family obligatory promises, not not none of that. I think, 526 00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:44,960 Speaker 1: ultimately adult human beings, that the raw the laws of friendship, 527 00:27:44,960 --> 00:27:49,120 Speaker 1: because friendship is voluntary, so you have to maintain respect 528 00:27:49,680 --> 00:27:52,800 Speaker 1: between friends, you know, because nobody has to be your friend. 529 00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:55,679 Speaker 1: Somebody has to be your child, somebody has to be 530 00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:58,440 Speaker 1: your parents, somebody had you know, your spouse, you put 531 00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:00,480 Speaker 1: it that way, But even between you and me, I 532 00:28:00,520 --> 00:28:04,080 Speaker 1: don't introduce you. I introduce you every week on the show, 533 00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:08,000 Speaker 1: and I never say you're my wife. I say you're 534 00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:09,720 Speaker 1: my best friend in all the world, because that's the 535 00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:13,920 Speaker 1: thing that means the most to me, is friendship. This 536 00:28:14,040 --> 00:28:17,560 Speaker 1: has been Home with Dean Sharp, the House Whisper. Tune 537 00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:20,600 Speaker 1: into the live broadcast on KFI AM six forty every 538 00:28:20,640 --> 00:28:23,800 Speaker 1: Saturday morning from six to eight Pacific time and every 539 00:28:23,880 --> 00:28:27,639 Speaker 1: Sunday morning from nine to noon Pacific time, or anytime 540 00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:30,280 Speaker 1: on demand on the iHeartRadio app.