1 00:00:01,360 --> 00:00:04,480 Speaker 1: Broadcasting live across the world right now. 2 00:00:05,400 --> 00:00:06,040 Speaker 2: This is the. 3 00:00:06,080 --> 00:00:08,000 Speaker 1: John Jay and Rich radio program. 4 00:00:08,600 --> 00:00:11,160 Speaker 2: Welcome to another edition of the John Jay and Ridge 5 00:00:11,200 --> 00:00:15,520 Speaker 2: Couples podcast. What you'll be hearing today is Kyle and Fish, 6 00:00:15,800 --> 00:00:20,720 Speaker 2: good old Fish and Kyle back at it again, back 7 00:00:20,720 --> 00:00:24,159 Speaker 2: at it again with the White Fans. So if you 8 00:00:24,560 --> 00:00:27,200 Speaker 2: listened to the show this week, you may have heard 9 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:31,200 Speaker 2: a topic come up where I said that I saw 10 00:00:31,240 --> 00:00:34,839 Speaker 2: a whole new side of Scott and it was invigorating 11 00:00:35,640 --> 00:00:41,680 Speaker 2: and inspiring and just just beautiful. And there were some 12 00:00:41,880 --> 00:00:45,680 Speaker 2: questions asked about you, hun that I couldn't answer, and 13 00:00:45,720 --> 00:00:47,920 Speaker 2: I said, you know what, I think that is a 14 00:00:47,960 --> 00:00:51,360 Speaker 2: great opportunity to dive a little deeper into that in 15 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:58,160 Speaker 2: the podcast. And what I saw in you was when 16 00:00:59,000 --> 00:01:05,080 Speaker 2: Wednesday night you helped coach ADDIE's flag football team, and 17 00:01:05,160 --> 00:01:11,520 Speaker 2: I said, I have never seen you in that way, 18 00:01:12,000 --> 00:01:15,120 Speaker 2: And it was so cool because you were engaging the girls, 19 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:18,840 Speaker 2: You were having fun with them, they were kicking butt 20 00:01:18,920 --> 00:01:20,720 Speaker 2: like they were doing a great job. And I think 21 00:01:20,760 --> 00:01:23,720 Speaker 2: it's because they maybe had the right motivation from you. 22 00:01:24,600 --> 00:01:27,319 Speaker 2: And I've always kind of it's not like it's been 23 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:29,399 Speaker 2: a dream of mine or anything like that to have 24 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:35,360 Speaker 2: you coach the kids' teams? It's a cool thought like. 25 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:38,800 Speaker 2: It's a cool like because I think, as a kid, 26 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:40,679 Speaker 2: it would be kind of cool to have your parents 27 00:01:41,240 --> 00:01:44,080 Speaker 2: coached a team. And so I think about the experience 28 00:01:44,240 --> 00:01:47,640 Speaker 2: of Addie and Easton and their childhoods, and it's our 29 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:50,400 Speaker 2: job to sort of shape them. And there you were, 30 00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:56,880 Speaker 2: you were doing it, and I didn't understand why you've 31 00:01:56,920 --> 00:01:58,880 Speaker 2: always said you would never coach a team. I mean, 32 00:01:58,920 --> 00:02:00,960 Speaker 2: our kids have been on how many team playing teams, 33 00:02:00,960 --> 00:02:05,800 Speaker 2: football teams, baseball teams. I mean, obviously you wouldn't coach dance. 34 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:08,839 Speaker 1: But like you, is that your dream too? 35 00:02:09,040 --> 00:02:12,720 Speaker 2: No? There has always been the question that you fill 36 00:02:12,760 --> 00:02:15,840 Speaker 2: out when you're filling out the form for the team, 37 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 2: are you or willing to coach? And I've always been like, 38 00:02:21,480 --> 00:02:24,200 Speaker 2: you should coach a team, and your answer was absolute no. 39 00:02:24,720 --> 00:02:27,040 Speaker 2: And when I saw you actually coaching the team and 40 00:02:27,080 --> 00:02:34,200 Speaker 2: doing such an amazing job, I wondered to myself, why why? 41 00:02:34,440 --> 00:02:36,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, why I was doing an amazing job. 42 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:40,000 Speaker 2: I feel like you're you've been God has gifted you 43 00:02:40,120 --> 00:02:43,680 Speaker 2: this talent and it's going to waste and I saw 44 00:02:43,720 --> 00:02:46,560 Speaker 2: a little glimmer of it and I just sort of 45 00:02:46,560 --> 00:02:50,799 Speaker 2: feel like, man, it was like the tip of an iceberg. 46 00:02:51,400 --> 00:02:55,280 Speaker 1: Well, sorry that I haven't lived up to being the 47 00:02:55,320 --> 00:02:56,800 Speaker 1: man you want me to be until that. 48 00:02:56,960 --> 00:02:59,320 Speaker 2: No, we don't need to go Okay, we're gonna be. 49 00:02:59,520 --> 00:03:01,320 Speaker 2: We're gonna the victim. I was trying to give you 50 00:03:01,360 --> 00:03:03,799 Speaker 2: a compliment. It was great to see you in that way. 51 00:03:04,760 --> 00:03:10,880 Speaker 1: Well, it's pretty easy. It's pretty easy answer, because I 52 00:03:10,919 --> 00:03:16,080 Speaker 1: think it's important for our children to be able to learn, 53 00:03:17,880 --> 00:03:25,919 Speaker 1: take direction, and understand adversity from someone other than their parent, 54 00:03:26,639 --> 00:03:29,200 Speaker 1: which is the person who's doing it all the time anyways. 55 00:03:30,080 --> 00:03:34,200 Speaker 1: So I think it's good for their growth and for 56 00:03:34,280 --> 00:03:36,800 Speaker 1: them to be able to flap their little wings and 57 00:03:36,880 --> 00:03:45,720 Speaker 1: fly by learning and seeing another adult as a figure 58 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:48,920 Speaker 1: of authority or teaching or so on and so forth. 59 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:52,960 Speaker 1: If it's just me, you're a whole little thing of 60 00:03:53,360 --> 00:03:57,240 Speaker 1: be so fun. If my dad was my football coach, 61 00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:02,000 Speaker 1: well guess what, I'm already their life coach. 62 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:05,320 Speaker 2: Bam, wow, my drop. I think we should stop the 63 00:04:05,320 --> 00:04:06,360 Speaker 2: podcast right here. 64 00:04:08,960 --> 00:04:12,000 Speaker 1: Okay, one, see you next. 65 00:04:12,960 --> 00:04:15,520 Speaker 2: That's a great point. I get that, and I agree 66 00:04:15,600 --> 00:04:18,680 Speaker 2: it is important for them to have different sets of 67 00:04:19,080 --> 00:04:23,040 Speaker 2: authority and influence, but it's not like I'm asking you 68 00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:24,960 Speaker 2: to coach every single one of their teams all the 69 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:27,080 Speaker 2: time better once in a while. 70 00:04:27,160 --> 00:04:30,520 Speaker 1: Wouldn't it be wouldn't I be in a better light 71 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:34,359 Speaker 1: if I came in and was the hero every once 72 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:37,799 Speaker 1: in a while and they had a better taste after 73 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:40,320 Speaker 1: I left, instead of me trying to be the hero 74 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:44,960 Speaker 1: every week or every game. I think it's better. It's 75 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:49,200 Speaker 1: like Dad was really fun at football tonight and I 76 00:04:49,279 --> 00:04:52,240 Speaker 1: really enjoyed that, instead of me trying to be fun 77 00:04:52,360 --> 00:04:53,760 Speaker 1: at football every night. 78 00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:58,960 Speaker 2: I think it's fun all the time. Who wants to 79 00:04:59,000 --> 00:05:02,600 Speaker 2: be fun all the time? Do that? Yeah? I mean, 80 00:05:02,640 --> 00:05:05,080 Speaker 2: did it hurt you even just a little bit when 81 00:05:05,160 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 2: you when Addie asked you are you going to coach again? 82 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 2: And you said no? And she goes, oh, she was disappointed. 83 00:05:12,120 --> 00:05:14,560 Speaker 2: She did I don't remember that, and I quote it. 84 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:16,640 Speaker 1: Was this, oh blocked out. 85 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:18,599 Speaker 2: I put it all into the well now that I've 86 00:05:18,600 --> 00:05:21,920 Speaker 2: put that in your brain, and she had so much 87 00:05:21,960 --> 00:05:24,719 Speaker 2: fun she wanted you to coach again. Doesn't put a 88 00:05:24,720 --> 00:05:26,720 Speaker 2: little dagger right there goes life. 89 00:05:26,720 --> 00:05:29,880 Speaker 1: Coach again. Sometimes we don't always get what we want. Kid, 90 00:05:30,600 --> 00:05:36,480 Speaker 1: Damn bam, see you next month. Folks, enjoy the show. 91 00:05:37,200 --> 00:05:44,720 Speaker 2: So that's that's you. That's you. Okay, well, thank you 92 00:05:44,800 --> 00:05:45,760 Speaker 2: for carrying that up. 93 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:49,719 Speaker 1: I really I also think that it's tough being a 94 00:05:49,760 --> 00:05:53,960 Speaker 1: coach of eleven year olds and eight year olds because 95 00:05:55,320 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 1: the parents are never satisfied. I e myself at what 96 00:05:59,800 --> 00:06:04,760 Speaker 1: the coaches are doing. So I had a great time 97 00:06:04,880 --> 00:06:08,000 Speaker 1: with the kids Wednesday night, and we had fun running 98 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:11,280 Speaker 1: around and laughed and stuff. But were we like getting 99 00:06:11,320 --> 00:06:12,800 Speaker 1: better at football now? 100 00:06:13,080 --> 00:06:13,320 Speaker 2: Yes? 101 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:14,479 Speaker 1: No? 102 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:21,359 Speaker 2: Yes, And here's why. Right now, at eleven years old, 103 00:06:21,680 --> 00:06:26,640 Speaker 2: is the time where kids should be fostering the love 104 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:31,120 Speaker 2: of the game and of course the basics. But you're 105 00:06:31,120 --> 00:06:33,919 Speaker 2: not really I mean unless you're like already in the 106 00:06:33,960 --> 00:06:36,279 Speaker 2: club and you've been playing since five years old. This 107 00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:40,720 Speaker 2: is a rec league, and it's like it's supposed to 108 00:06:40,800 --> 00:06:43,320 Speaker 2: be fun and they're supposed to learn a little bit too. 109 00:06:44,320 --> 00:06:47,000 Speaker 2: So I kind of feel like, yeah, I mean, right now, 110 00:06:47,040 --> 00:06:49,600 Speaker 2: I'd rather her have a great time and learn a 111 00:06:49,640 --> 00:06:52,720 Speaker 2: little bit of football along the way and create and 112 00:06:52,720 --> 00:06:55,719 Speaker 2: foster a love of it. And that's when you get 113 00:06:55,760 --> 00:06:59,320 Speaker 2: the kids that when they're in high school, they have 114 00:06:59,400 --> 00:07:01,960 Speaker 2: a discipline for the game because they've already fostered a 115 00:07:02,040 --> 00:07:02,840 Speaker 2: love for it. 116 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:06,800 Speaker 1: Okay, Well that's one parent's opinion, because I know another 117 00:07:06,920 --> 00:07:11,880 Speaker 1: parent who wants them to learn the exes and oh no, 118 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:16,440 Speaker 1: that wants them to run to space, that wants them 119 00:07:16,520 --> 00:07:21,200 Speaker 1: to have misdirection in the plays, that wants them to 120 00:07:21,320 --> 00:07:29,080 Speaker 1: perfect their timing at eleven years old. You can't please everyone. Bam. 121 00:07:29,360 --> 00:07:35,120 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, stop with the bam bam, No more bam. Uh. Yeah, 122 00:07:35,160 --> 00:07:37,160 Speaker 2: you're right, No, you can't please everyone. And I think 123 00:07:37,160 --> 00:07:39,080 Speaker 2: when you're in that position, so you don't want the 124 00:07:39,120 --> 00:07:43,239 Speaker 2: pressure of being the coach, the pressure, the parental pressure. 125 00:07:43,480 --> 00:07:50,160 Speaker 1: I appreciate the coaches that do it because that's, you know, 126 00:07:50,200 --> 00:07:55,360 Speaker 1: that's a commitment and there's time spent, and it's away 127 00:07:55,400 --> 00:08:01,040 Speaker 1: from work, it's away from family, and so I respect that, 128 00:08:01,720 --> 00:08:04,480 Speaker 1: and I just I just think it's more important for 129 00:08:04,600 --> 00:08:08,920 Speaker 1: our kids to learn from someone else for a little 130 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 1: chunk of time in their little, tiny lives. 131 00:08:11,840 --> 00:08:13,800 Speaker 2: They learn from someone else every day for a big 132 00:08:13,880 --> 00:08:15,840 Speaker 2: chunk of their day, pretty much the entire day. It's 133 00:08:15,880 --> 00:08:16,400 Speaker 2: called school. 134 00:08:16,440 --> 00:08:19,560 Speaker 1: But yes, yeah, but this is another slice of life. 135 00:08:19,640 --> 00:08:21,360 Speaker 2: I need you to be honest. I have a question. 136 00:08:22,320 --> 00:08:25,080 Speaker 2: Was there a little bit of you, just a teeny 137 00:08:25,120 --> 00:08:27,360 Speaker 2: bit and I won't bring this back and try to 138 00:08:27,400 --> 00:08:29,000 Speaker 2: convince you to be the coach, but I need you 139 00:08:29,040 --> 00:08:32,640 Speaker 2: to be honest. Teeny bit of you at all, whilst 140 00:08:32,880 --> 00:08:36,560 Speaker 2: you were coaching, think to yourself, I could do this. 141 00:08:36,720 --> 00:08:38,240 Speaker 2: I could probably do a better job than some of 142 00:08:38,280 --> 00:08:39,679 Speaker 2: the other coaches we've had in the past, because I 143 00:08:39,760 --> 00:08:42,640 Speaker 2: like our coaches right now. But teeny bit of you 144 00:08:42,800 --> 00:08:45,040 Speaker 2: have that thought run through your mind, like, never think 145 00:08:45,040 --> 00:08:45,319 Speaker 2: that I. 146 00:08:45,240 --> 00:08:47,480 Speaker 1: Could do a better job. But I know I could 147 00:08:47,480 --> 00:08:49,040 Speaker 1: do it. I know I could do it. 148 00:08:49,160 --> 00:08:49,880 Speaker 2: You just don't want it. 149 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:53,800 Speaker 1: I just don't think it's I would much rather go 150 00:08:53,920 --> 00:08:58,839 Speaker 1: in there for one night helping out, have fun, have 151 00:08:58,920 --> 00:09:00,000 Speaker 1: some laughs. 152 00:09:00,000 --> 00:09:07,679 Speaker 2: Step beside, step back, Okay, Okay, I appreciate that. 153 00:09:08,160 --> 00:09:09,040 Speaker 1: Is that good enough for you? 154 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:10,800 Speaker 2: Do you think that our kids there? 155 00:09:11,000 --> 00:09:13,400 Speaker 1: Let me ask you a question, are there other areas 156 00:09:13,440 --> 00:09:15,600 Speaker 1: in my life that I could possibly live up to 157 00:09:15,920 --> 00:09:16,960 Speaker 1: what you want me to be? 158 00:09:17,160 --> 00:09:19,240 Speaker 2: I feel like in all areas of your life you 159 00:09:19,360 --> 00:09:22,920 Speaker 2: exceed expectations. Actually, that's kind of funny. 160 00:09:23,080 --> 00:09:23,320 Speaker 1: Have gone. 161 00:09:23,520 --> 00:09:26,600 Speaker 2: Okay, So we just got the kids report cards, right 162 00:09:27,160 --> 00:09:36,880 Speaker 2: we did agreement. Let's create our marriage report card right now. Okay, 163 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:41,080 Speaker 2: So in all the subjects, was first we have to 164 00:09:41,120 --> 00:09:43,680 Speaker 2: create the subjects. What are the subjects of the marriage 165 00:09:43,720 --> 00:09:44,320 Speaker 2: report card? 166 00:09:46,480 --> 00:09:48,480 Speaker 1: Do we just go mathematics? 167 00:09:48,520 --> 00:09:54,360 Speaker 2: Love languages? Oh so, like mathematics would be like our budget. 168 00:09:55,120 --> 00:09:59,160 Speaker 2: I don't know, I like it got over this equals budget? 169 00:10:00,280 --> 00:10:03,959 Speaker 2: Uh let's say language arts equals our communication? 170 00:10:04,520 --> 00:10:04,800 Speaker 1: Okay? 171 00:10:05,360 --> 00:10:09,920 Speaker 2: Okay? What other subjects are? Social studies? What would social 172 00:10:09,920 --> 00:10:14,880 Speaker 2: study pe P? You can fill in the blank, but 173 00:10:15,000 --> 00:10:20,560 Speaker 2: you think there what would social studies be? In science? 174 00:10:21,360 --> 00:10:24,800 Speaker 1: In social studies would be how we involve like other 175 00:10:24,840 --> 00:10:26,840 Speaker 1: people outside of our lives, like friendship and. 176 00:10:27,040 --> 00:10:31,880 Speaker 2: Oh okay, like okay, social literally social social stuff. And 177 00:10:31,920 --> 00:10:39,680 Speaker 2: then science maybe I don't dinner dinner, dinner, love to 178 00:10:39,760 --> 00:10:46,680 Speaker 2: get love that? Okay? What other what other topics are there? Okay? 179 00:10:46,679 --> 00:10:51,240 Speaker 2: So we have PE, language, arts, math, social studies, and science. 180 00:10:51,440 --> 00:10:56,160 Speaker 2: The basics. We're not going extracurricular here right now, just 181 00:10:56,320 --> 00:11:02,880 Speaker 2: the basics. Okay, all right, So you have to verbally 182 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:09,800 Speaker 2: give your marriage report card to me and I you okay? 183 00:11:10,320 --> 00:11:12,520 Speaker 2: And you know how like on the report card they 184 00:11:12,559 --> 00:11:18,720 Speaker 2: have outstanding satisfactory pleasure to have in class or like 185 00:11:18,720 --> 00:11:21,959 Speaker 2: what are the other ones challenging to have in class? 186 00:11:22,280 --> 00:11:23,760 Speaker 2: Does not respect authority? 187 00:11:25,120 --> 00:11:26,720 Speaker 1: Like right, yeah, all. 188 00:11:26,679 --> 00:11:31,240 Speaker 2: Right, So should we go tit for tat so we 189 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:32,920 Speaker 2: go down or do you want to give me your 190 00:11:33,080 --> 00:11:35,880 Speaker 2: entire report card and then I give you my entire 191 00:11:35,920 --> 00:11:38,320 Speaker 2: report card or we go social studies? Your grade grade? 192 00:11:38,480 --> 00:11:39,200 Speaker 1: Yeah? Grades? 193 00:11:39,640 --> 00:11:43,800 Speaker 2: Okay, so we'll start with science, which you said was dinner. 194 00:11:45,760 --> 00:11:47,600 Speaker 2: We all know. I feel like I've been very open 195 00:11:47,760 --> 00:11:50,120 Speaker 2: about this on the show and maybe even here on 196 00:11:50,160 --> 00:11:56,440 Speaker 2: the Couple's podcast that I don't know what invisible contract 197 00:11:57,040 --> 00:12:01,760 Speaker 2: we signed where I just became the dinner planner, creator 198 00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:04,679 Speaker 2: and organizer as part. 199 00:12:04,520 --> 00:12:07,160 Speaker 1: Of your grade you're giving right here because. 200 00:12:07,080 --> 00:12:11,040 Speaker 2: But no, I'm setting it up, but I have that's 201 00:12:11,120 --> 00:12:13,080 Speaker 2: my job in the household. I don't know. 202 00:12:13,600 --> 00:12:17,880 Speaker 1: That's not a contract. It just makes sense because your 203 00:12:17,920 --> 00:12:23,880 Speaker 1: work day ends what very early in the day. 204 00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:26,719 Speaker 2: It varies. You're blessed veries from day to day. I 205 00:12:26,720 --> 00:12:27,840 Speaker 2: also wake up very early. 206 00:12:28,520 --> 00:12:32,720 Speaker 1: You have signed an invisible contract with me that when 207 00:12:32,760 --> 00:12:35,319 Speaker 1: five o'clock comes around, I just have to drop everything. 208 00:12:35,400 --> 00:12:37,720 Speaker 2: That was an invisible contract. That was a verbal contract 209 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:39,040 Speaker 2: where I said you need to come home. 210 00:12:39,280 --> 00:12:42,200 Speaker 1: So back to my point, it just makes sense that 211 00:12:42,640 --> 00:12:46,520 Speaker 1: if most days I'm still working at five o'clock, and 212 00:12:46,600 --> 00:12:49,600 Speaker 1: because of your job. We go to bed early. Someone 213 00:12:49,640 --> 00:12:56,040 Speaker 1: has to do dinner. Okay, grade, I give you, I 214 00:12:56,120 --> 00:12:59,000 Speaker 1: give you an A A. Yeah right, no, I do. 215 00:12:59,120 --> 00:13:01,680 Speaker 2: Okay, I am the worst cook. I know. I like 216 00:13:02,200 --> 00:13:05,080 Speaker 2: a menu of five things and they're not even done well. 217 00:13:05,640 --> 00:13:09,120 Speaker 1: But look who you're talking to. I have eaten the 218 00:13:09,160 --> 00:13:13,120 Speaker 1: same thing at lunch for probably four months in a row, 219 00:13:13,280 --> 00:13:16,080 Speaker 1: turkey sandwich and almonds every single day. 220 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:18,720 Speaker 2: I know, an you know he's not even exaggerating it 221 00:13:18,760 --> 00:13:20,080 Speaker 2: literally is every single day. 222 00:13:20,360 --> 00:13:24,559 Speaker 1: I am just fine eating the same thing every weeknight. 223 00:13:25,760 --> 00:13:29,840 Speaker 1: And you do a great job. Hey, well done. 224 00:13:31,320 --> 00:13:35,560 Speaker 2: I think, I actually think this is one reason why 225 00:13:35,559 --> 00:13:38,600 Speaker 2: I love you is that you are not a foodie 226 00:13:39,360 --> 00:13:42,920 Speaker 2: and you have a very simple palette. You don't need 227 00:13:43,000 --> 00:13:46,520 Speaker 2: a whole lot, because if you did, you probably would 228 00:13:46,520 --> 00:13:48,520 Speaker 2: give me an F right there, which is probably what 229 00:13:48,559 --> 00:13:53,439 Speaker 2: I actually deserve in the dinner department. Okay, your grade 230 00:13:53,720 --> 00:13:56,040 Speaker 2: would be an A because you eat everything. 231 00:13:55,720 --> 00:13:59,360 Speaker 1: I cook, and I make burgers one night a week 232 00:13:59,400 --> 00:14:00,880 Speaker 1: and one night order properly. 233 00:14:01,960 --> 00:14:04,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, Welle, night and week you do burgers, and it 234 00:14:04,360 --> 00:14:06,680 Speaker 2: usually ends up being on the night where I'm so tired. 235 00:14:06,760 --> 00:14:09,839 Speaker 2: I can't I just can't. I can't do dinner that night, 236 00:14:09,920 --> 00:14:13,240 Speaker 2: and you swoop in and you're like burgers tonight. 237 00:14:13,840 --> 00:14:17,120 Speaker 1: So we're off time A great start. Okay, good. 238 00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:21,119 Speaker 2: So now we move on to social studies, our interaction 239 00:14:22,160 --> 00:14:24,840 Speaker 2: socially with friends and whatnot. 240 00:14:25,280 --> 00:14:29,560 Speaker 1: Ye you want me to go first. You're very friendly. 241 00:14:30,200 --> 00:14:33,720 Speaker 1: I am not very friendly, So I give you a 242 00:14:33,960 --> 00:14:40,480 Speaker 1: for effort. But if we're if the grade coming from 243 00:14:40,560 --> 00:14:47,280 Speaker 1: my perspective, it's gotten better, it's gotten better. So I 244 00:14:47,280 --> 00:14:52,800 Speaker 1: would say it to be okay because I can. My 245 00:14:53,040 --> 00:14:58,760 Speaker 1: choice of using free time is to not use social studies, 246 00:15:00,160 --> 00:15:02,360 Speaker 1: so I've had to get used to that. And we've 247 00:15:02,360 --> 00:15:08,280 Speaker 1: spent a lot of time with friends lately and I 248 00:15:08,400 --> 00:15:12,360 Speaker 1: have grown to enjoy that. So that's that's where the 249 00:15:12,360 --> 00:15:13,000 Speaker 1: beat comes from. 250 00:15:13,080 --> 00:15:14,000 Speaker 2: Okay, that's great. 251 00:15:15,840 --> 00:15:17,160 Speaker 1: But do we have to all the time? 252 00:15:17,320 --> 00:15:20,080 Speaker 2: Okay, So that's where my grade comes in. Okay. My 253 00:15:20,240 --> 00:15:25,360 Speaker 2: grade for you on this with love is a c. 254 00:15:27,080 --> 00:15:28,240 Speaker 1: CS get degree. 255 00:15:30,720 --> 00:15:35,480 Speaker 2: And partially because I understand like not wanting to do things, 256 00:15:35,840 --> 00:15:38,120 Speaker 2: because we all get that every once in a while, 257 00:15:38,200 --> 00:15:41,080 Speaker 2: like the social battery is just dead and you don't 258 00:15:41,120 --> 00:15:44,720 Speaker 2: want to And I understand that our social batteries have 259 00:15:44,800 --> 00:15:50,240 Speaker 2: a different life. Mine drains a little slower than yours does. 260 00:15:51,320 --> 00:15:55,480 Speaker 2: But I have so much fun being with people, and 261 00:15:55,520 --> 00:15:58,160 Speaker 2: you're so fun once you have a couple of cocktails 262 00:15:58,360 --> 00:16:01,040 Speaker 2: and we're all hanging out and really funny, and people 263 00:16:01,080 --> 00:16:02,560 Speaker 2: get to see that and that's great. 264 00:16:03,760 --> 00:16:06,280 Speaker 1: And so what if I coached with a couple cocktails. 265 00:16:06,280 --> 00:16:08,160 Speaker 2: Oh my god, No, that would be bad. You're not 266 00:16:08,160 --> 00:16:10,280 Speaker 2: gonna do You're not gonna go there. You didn't need it, 267 00:16:10,440 --> 00:16:13,040 Speaker 2: that's the thing. You didn't even need it, And that, 268 00:16:13,200 --> 00:16:16,200 Speaker 2: like spark came out in you. We've already passed that. 269 00:16:16,240 --> 00:16:19,480 Speaker 2: You don't have to be a coach. So see, just 270 00:16:19,600 --> 00:16:22,360 Speaker 2: because I would love to hang out with people more, 271 00:16:23,760 --> 00:16:27,520 Speaker 2: but you don't. 272 00:16:29,000 --> 00:16:31,280 Speaker 1: So there, that's just that's just the way it is. 273 00:16:31,960 --> 00:16:35,960 Speaker 1: And there's been growth. You have to acknowledge I've grown 274 00:16:36,360 --> 00:16:37,040 Speaker 1: this semester. 275 00:16:37,240 --> 00:16:40,360 Speaker 2: I also feel like you have to acknowledge I have 276 00:16:40,480 --> 00:16:43,080 Speaker 2: not planned as many things. 277 00:16:44,320 --> 00:16:47,720 Speaker 1: It's hard hard to accept that because we just came 278 00:16:47,720 --> 00:16:50,000 Speaker 1: off of something just mere hours ago. 279 00:16:50,200 --> 00:16:55,560 Speaker 2: But before that, it had been a little while before that, 280 00:16:55,880 --> 00:17:00,280 Speaker 2: no schedule, okay, no, before that. Before that, it was 281 00:17:00,320 --> 00:17:02,520 Speaker 2: like a month since we hung out with our friends. 282 00:17:02,560 --> 00:17:04,120 Speaker 2: That was a long time. It was a long break. 283 00:17:04,160 --> 00:17:06,600 Speaker 2: You've got a long break. Guess what Europe. It is 284 00:17:06,640 --> 00:17:10,600 Speaker 2: the holidays, so there's gonna be a lot of things. Okay. 285 00:17:10,960 --> 00:17:14,360 Speaker 2: I think our grades are an indication of our compromise 286 00:17:15,440 --> 00:17:16,520 Speaker 2: to make each other happy. 287 00:17:16,600 --> 00:17:19,199 Speaker 1: So I would normally be a D, but I'm a C. 288 00:17:19,600 --> 00:17:24,680 Speaker 2: You're a C for compromise. Okay, Okay, math equals budget. 289 00:17:24,960 --> 00:17:27,720 Speaker 2: We are in the middle of our marriage report card 290 00:17:27,840 --> 00:17:28,640 Speaker 2: with each other. 291 00:17:29,960 --> 00:17:32,160 Speaker 1: And I give us a C. 292 00:17:32,160 --> 00:17:37,320 Speaker 2: Plus C plus on budget. You know what, I disagree, 293 00:17:37,400 --> 00:17:43,480 Speaker 2: I'm giving us a B right now. Without getting into specifics, 294 00:17:44,280 --> 00:17:48,240 Speaker 2: I have to say I'm proud of us because we've 295 00:17:48,280 --> 00:17:51,320 Speaker 2: had some I wouldn't call them financial challenges, although I 296 00:17:51,320 --> 00:17:54,080 Speaker 2: will call them financial challenges because that's technically what they are. 297 00:17:54,920 --> 00:17:58,000 Speaker 2: We've had financial challenges over the last year, and I 298 00:17:58,080 --> 00:18:02,600 Speaker 2: feel like we have risen to the occasion. 299 00:18:02,800 --> 00:18:05,320 Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, I think everybody can relate, like when you 300 00:18:05,400 --> 00:18:07,080 Speaker 1: get your credit card bill at the end of the 301 00:18:07,080 --> 00:18:11,720 Speaker 1: month and you're like, what what did we spend all 302 00:18:11,760 --> 00:18:12,440 Speaker 1: of this money on? 303 00:18:12,640 --> 00:18:12,760 Speaker 2: Right? 304 00:18:13,600 --> 00:18:16,440 Speaker 1: So we've gotten so much better at that, and. 305 00:18:16,400 --> 00:18:19,760 Speaker 2: I think everyone can relate, like, right now, everything costs 306 00:18:20,080 --> 00:18:23,560 Speaker 2: so much more and I don't know, I don't know 307 00:18:23,600 --> 00:18:25,679 Speaker 2: anybody that's getting raises right now at. 308 00:18:25,560 --> 00:18:28,360 Speaker 1: Work, continued employment, you're raised. 309 00:18:28,280 --> 00:18:30,160 Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. I think it's like right now, 310 00:18:30,160 --> 00:18:32,359 Speaker 2: it's such a blessing just to even still have a job. 311 00:18:33,800 --> 00:18:37,679 Speaker 2: So it's I think a lot of people have to 312 00:18:37,680 --> 00:18:38,760 Speaker 2: get creative right now. 313 00:18:38,920 --> 00:18:43,000 Speaker 1: But what as we try harder and harder. Like the 314 00:18:43,040 --> 00:18:46,520 Speaker 1: first couple months that we quote unquote cut back, it 315 00:18:46,640 --> 00:18:49,360 Speaker 1: felt like a cutback. It doesn't feel like that anymore. 316 00:18:49,560 --> 00:18:52,160 Speaker 2: And I think, norm I feel like our credit card 317 00:18:52,240 --> 00:18:55,920 Speaker 2: bill has gotten less. I have less of a heart 318 00:18:55,920 --> 00:18:56,879 Speaker 2: attack when I see it. 319 00:18:57,000 --> 00:18:59,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, we're doing much better. 320 00:18:59,440 --> 00:19:03,440 Speaker 2: So that's why gave us a B because wow, it's 321 00:19:03,520 --> 00:19:06,760 Speaker 2: much It's much different now than it was, I would say, 322 00:19:07,160 --> 00:19:07,560 Speaker 2: and just. 323 00:19:07,520 --> 00:19:11,440 Speaker 1: A little peak behind the curtain. I felt like I 324 00:19:11,480 --> 00:19:16,320 Speaker 1: was the one who was most critical about our credit 325 00:19:16,359 --> 00:19:21,600 Speaker 1: card purchases over the past few years, so I would 326 00:19:21,600 --> 00:19:24,600 Speaker 1: have started at a D. Now we're to C plus 327 00:19:24,840 --> 00:19:26,080 Speaker 1: because we can always be better. 328 00:19:26,240 --> 00:19:27,919 Speaker 2: Well, you know what C plus is almost a B, 329 00:19:28,200 --> 00:19:31,000 Speaker 2: so I feel like we're pretty close on that one there, 330 00:19:31,800 --> 00:19:36,119 Speaker 2: All right, language arts communication? What is your grade for 331 00:19:36,200 --> 00:19:37,359 Speaker 2: our marriage report card? 332 00:19:38,440 --> 00:19:42,640 Speaker 1: I feel like it's an A. I feel like you 333 00:19:42,720 --> 00:19:47,440 Speaker 1: make me talk and I feel like I over how. 334 00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:49,840 Speaker 2: Long have we been married, thirteen years? 335 00:19:50,119 --> 00:19:52,439 Speaker 1: I feel like I've gotten so much better at that. 336 00:19:53,160 --> 00:19:54,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, oh I. 337 00:19:54,320 --> 00:20:02,399 Speaker 3: Agree, excuse me, Yes, you sometimes really loud. All you 338 00:20:02,440 --> 00:20:05,639 Speaker 3: want to do is be with friends, don't hurt me. 339 00:20:06,080 --> 00:20:09,800 Speaker 2: That's that's Scot thirteen years ago. And now you're like, 340 00:20:09,960 --> 00:20:11,480 Speaker 2: I just don't want to hang out with your friends 341 00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:16,119 Speaker 2: all the time. But I like you know me, I 342 00:20:16,200 --> 00:20:18,439 Speaker 2: like direct communication. I don't want to sit and guess 343 00:20:18,680 --> 00:20:19,960 Speaker 2: how you're thinking or feeling. 344 00:20:20,119 --> 00:20:22,119 Speaker 1: You are super direct and that was hard to get 345 00:20:22,240 --> 00:20:22,600 Speaker 1: used to. 346 00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:25,520 Speaker 2: Because you're a words of affirmation person and that's the 347 00:20:25,560 --> 00:20:28,400 Speaker 2: bottom of my lovely affirmation person. 348 00:20:28,880 --> 00:20:33,720 Speaker 1: Sappy and yeah, and that's You've gotten a little better 349 00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:37,080 Speaker 1: at that. But I've come to accept that you're not 350 00:20:37,200 --> 00:20:43,200 Speaker 1: a words of safformation And because you cut me down 351 00:20:43,320 --> 00:20:46,040 Speaker 1: with words doesn't mean that you don't love me. 352 00:20:47,720 --> 00:20:51,160 Speaker 2: So do I cut you down with words? 353 00:20:51,240 --> 00:20:55,919 Speaker 1: Yes? You do? You know you do? Anybody anyone listening 354 00:20:55,960 --> 00:20:59,119 Speaker 1: to this is like, yeah, oh no, I know Kyle 355 00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:03,719 Speaker 1: Well is the sweet, innocent, lovely one radio, but we 356 00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:07,560 Speaker 1: all know who she is. I you don't take it. 357 00:21:07,800 --> 00:21:13,200 Speaker 2: I love fiercely, but I also will not be walked 358 00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:19,320 Speaker 2: all over by anyone. Yeah, I think the things that 359 00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:22,320 Speaker 2: you think are sharp in my mind exactly are. 360 00:21:22,240 --> 00:21:26,280 Speaker 1: Not, see exactly, that's it right there, Like if, for instance, 361 00:21:26,359 --> 00:21:28,960 Speaker 1: I say, why do you say it like that? And 362 00:21:29,000 --> 00:21:32,040 Speaker 1: you're like, oh, you'll know when I'm mad when I 363 00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:35,560 Speaker 1: say it like this. Yeah, so your levels are different 364 00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:39,040 Speaker 1: than my levels. It's just and I've come to get 365 00:21:39,119 --> 00:21:39,520 Speaker 1: used to that. 366 00:21:39,920 --> 00:21:41,760 Speaker 2: But I also try to lift you up as well. 367 00:21:41,760 --> 00:21:44,080 Speaker 2: Didn't you hear the beginning of this podcast, I was 368 00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:48,040 Speaker 2: telling you how great you were, right, Yeah, you don't acknowledge. 369 00:21:48,640 --> 00:21:50,280 Speaker 1: Thanks, that's great. Thanks. 370 00:21:50,520 --> 00:21:53,159 Speaker 2: See. I think being married to me has made you 371 00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:55,720 Speaker 2: not a words of affirmation I don't I want to 372 00:21:55,760 --> 00:21:56,600 Speaker 2: take the test again. 373 00:21:56,920 --> 00:21:58,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it would be interesting. 374 00:21:58,840 --> 00:22:01,760 Speaker 2: Because I feel like you've changed. 375 00:22:03,160 --> 00:22:05,240 Speaker 1: And maybe maybe you've. 376 00:22:05,080 --> 00:22:07,399 Speaker 2: Just become I honestly think that I'm not a words 377 00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:12,359 Speaker 2: of affirmation person because growing up one of the youngest 378 00:22:12,560 --> 00:22:16,200 Speaker 2: of eight kids, you're not allowed really to be sensitive. 379 00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:20,360 Speaker 2: You're really not siblings. Siblings just kind of train you 380 00:22:20,600 --> 00:22:22,760 Speaker 2: to grow a little bit, a little bit thicker skin. 381 00:22:22,920 --> 00:22:26,440 Speaker 2: Not like I have no feelings, you know, obviously I do. 382 00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:29,680 Speaker 2: But it's also I think a product of my environment. 383 00:22:29,480 --> 00:22:32,600 Speaker 1: Could also be that my shell was just hardened. 384 00:22:33,359 --> 00:22:34,400 Speaker 2: That's why I'm saying, still. 385 00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:37,800 Speaker 1: A sweet, tender little flower underneath that hardened shell that 386 00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:38,720 Speaker 1: you've tallused. 387 00:22:39,160 --> 00:22:40,840 Speaker 2: You are, That's what I think. I think you're not 388 00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:47,040 Speaker 2: dead inside yet, but you have you have grown the shell. Okay, 389 00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:49,560 Speaker 2: I think we were doing great on communication. I think 390 00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:51,880 Speaker 2: we talk a lot, we talk through things and. 391 00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:55,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, well you have a rule that we if we're 392 00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:57,520 Speaker 1: angry at each other, it has to be figured out 393 00:22:57,560 --> 00:23:03,240 Speaker 1: before bedtime, which is sometimes hard. You just want to 394 00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:03,680 Speaker 1: go to bed. 395 00:23:04,280 --> 00:23:05,600 Speaker 2: I want to go to bed too all the time. 396 00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:09,080 Speaker 2: I want to go to bed right now. But look 397 00:23:09,080 --> 00:23:12,320 Speaker 2: at us communicating, communicating. 398 00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:13,320 Speaker 1: But we really don't have those very often. 399 00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:15,560 Speaker 2: No, I think it's rare. But I think when we do, 400 00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:18,000 Speaker 2: I do feel like we address it right away, which 401 00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:21,280 Speaker 2: is helpful because I think when you don't, it becomes. 402 00:23:21,440 --> 00:23:24,479 Speaker 1: Yeah, worse. But you also have these things where like 403 00:23:25,160 --> 00:23:30,280 Speaker 1: let's talk about, for instance, yesterday you were annoyed, you 404 00:23:30,359 --> 00:23:33,160 Speaker 1: were in one of your moods, because this happens every 405 00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:35,360 Speaker 1: time you schedule one of these. We're going to go 406 00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:38,040 Speaker 1: to Schneppe Farms, and we're going to meet friends, and 407 00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:40,000 Speaker 1: this is a whole big deal. It's going to be awesome. 408 00:23:40,359 --> 00:23:43,480 Speaker 1: And when things aren't off to a roaring start, you 409 00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:48,240 Speaker 1: do that face and you get so mad and so 410 00:23:48,400 --> 00:23:52,920 Speaker 1: angry and so peeved at the world. Know that all 411 00:23:52,960 --> 00:23:54,840 Speaker 1: we got to do. And I've told the kids it's like, 412 00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:59,480 Speaker 1: just wade through the rough waters right now, it's going. 413 00:23:59,400 --> 00:24:02,520 Speaker 2: To be okay, okay. Do you even know what happened 414 00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:06,040 Speaker 2: yesterday before we left? I do. We had a very 415 00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:09,920 Speaker 2: small window of time to be on time. And it's 416 00:24:09,920 --> 00:24:12,439 Speaker 2: one thing if it's just our family going to Schnef 417 00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:14,760 Speaker 2: to have a great night, there's no time like it 418 00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:16,760 Speaker 2: opened at noon. We could have gone any time of 419 00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:19,480 Speaker 2: the day, but we had told people we were going 420 00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:22,240 Speaker 2: to be there, so now we're accountable. Now I would 421 00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:25,000 Speaker 2: like to be on time so that these people aren't 422 00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:29,000 Speaker 2: waiting for us, so to not be rude. And we 423 00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:31,760 Speaker 2: got home, and this is another reason why I feel 424 00:24:31,800 --> 00:24:34,040 Speaker 2: that I'm going to I'm going to put the petition 425 00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:37,560 Speaker 2: out to end homework at school. I just think it's 426 00:24:37,840 --> 00:24:42,440 Speaker 2: it leaves kids who are already tired and braindead from 427 00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:47,040 Speaker 2: eight hours of class in a stressed situation to achieve 428 00:24:47,160 --> 00:24:50,800 Speaker 2: any anything else like family time is important. Kids should 429 00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:54,760 Speaker 2: be able to breathe a little bit after school and 430 00:24:54,840 --> 00:24:57,480 Speaker 2: not have to go do more school. I tell the 431 00:24:57,560 --> 00:25:01,159 Speaker 2: kids homework, I disagree with it, but if you're going 432 00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:03,719 Speaker 2: to try to look it through it with a silver lining, 433 00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:06,120 Speaker 2: sometime I have home or I have homework every night 434 00:25:06,160 --> 00:25:08,680 Speaker 2: for work, So you're never really going to get away 435 00:25:08,720 --> 00:25:10,920 Speaker 2: from homework. That's always going to kind of be a thing. 436 00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:15,119 Speaker 2: And so there's that benefit of it. But other than that, 437 00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:18,199 Speaker 2: it's busy work. It's it's I'm not even gonna get 438 00:25:18,240 --> 00:25:22,000 Speaker 2: on that soapbox right now. We should end homework. Easton 439 00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:27,080 Speaker 2: was having an incredibly hard time with some homework. Had 440 00:25:27,119 --> 00:25:29,800 Speaker 2: to melt down to the point where he was saying 441 00:25:29,840 --> 00:25:35,160 Speaker 2: he wanted to kill himself. Now, as mother, I hear 442 00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:39,359 Speaker 2: that from my eight year old son, and I'm devastated. 443 00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:46,080 Speaker 2: The fact that he's that frustrated over this, and the 444 00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:49,239 Speaker 2: fact that I was part of that frustration because I 445 00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:51,280 Speaker 2: wanted to help him get it done so that we 446 00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:55,199 Speaker 2: could go have fun was terrible. It was horrible. That 447 00:25:55,359 --> 00:25:56,800 Speaker 2: was where the stress came from. 448 00:25:57,000 --> 00:25:59,120 Speaker 1: Let me say something real quick, and I don't want 449 00:25:59,119 --> 00:26:02,040 Speaker 1: to diminish what he said, because that's very serious. But 450 00:26:02,119 --> 00:26:04,240 Speaker 1: he also says that to push your. 451 00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:07,080 Speaker 2: Buttons doesn't matter. I don't want to hear any one 452 00:26:07,080 --> 00:26:09,720 Speaker 2: of my kids say that ever, ever, ever, ever. 453 00:26:10,240 --> 00:26:11,600 Speaker 1: But he knows how to play. 454 00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:13,880 Speaker 2: He's never said there how to work. He's never sat 455 00:26:13,960 --> 00:26:17,560 Speaker 2: upore that a new one. I don't know where that 456 00:26:17,600 --> 00:26:22,040 Speaker 2: came from. And so it was stressful because yes, I 457 00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:24,720 Speaker 2: have an incredibly tender heart when it comes to the kids. 458 00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:29,359 Speaker 1: This is weird when he's crying. So I just talked 459 00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:32,880 Speaker 1: about how how much of a tender peach I am 460 00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:36,040 Speaker 1: because I'm a words of affirmation, But when it comes 461 00:26:36,080 --> 00:26:41,679 Speaker 1: to our kids and the way that we parent, we flip. 462 00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:43,520 Speaker 2: We flip drastically. 463 00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:49,119 Speaker 1: Yeah. So my dad, he's the nicest person on the planet, really, 464 00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:52,119 Speaker 1: but as a dad, you knew exactly where the line 465 00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:58,520 Speaker 1: was and that was it. So he was a stern parent, 466 00:26:58,560 --> 00:27:01,399 Speaker 1: but he was extremely fair. And so I feel like 467 00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:05,480 Speaker 1: I'm a more, way more stern parent than you are, 468 00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:08,920 Speaker 1: way more So It's it's kind of weird how you. 469 00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:12,680 Speaker 2: Don't acknowledge gray areas. No I don't, but there's gray 470 00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:16,680 Speaker 2: areas in life, so you have to. Well, we've talked 471 00:27:16,680 --> 00:27:19,040 Speaker 2: about this before it's okay, it's good. We have a 472 00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:24,040 Speaker 2: good good cop, bad cop situation. And the stress did 473 00:27:24,040 --> 00:27:28,719 Speaker 2: not come from It came from the incredible time crunch 474 00:27:28,760 --> 00:27:33,000 Speaker 2: and this serious thing that happened, and so that that 475 00:27:33,200 --> 00:27:36,879 Speaker 2: was that. But but I will not deny that sometimes 476 00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:39,159 Speaker 2: when we're trying to get ready for something, there is 477 00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:43,000 Speaker 2: stress that comes from me and it is projected. I 478 00:27:43,040 --> 00:27:47,520 Speaker 2: think the example of last night was that was different. 479 00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:49,320 Speaker 2: That was a different stress, Like, yeah. 480 00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:52,440 Speaker 1: It was just one of the many's it's it's always something, but. 481 00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:57,240 Speaker 2: It just it's always something. Okay you know what changed 482 00:27:57,280 --> 00:28:04,119 Speaker 2: that to a bee talking it out? Change the communication 483 00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:11,480 Speaker 2: to a no, okay a now anyways, I do feel 484 00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:13,879 Speaker 2: I don't want to leave this. I do feel like 485 00:28:13,920 --> 00:28:18,960 Speaker 2: Easton and I sort of talked through his stress and 486 00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:22,600 Speaker 2: he did end up having a really fun time, which 487 00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:27,719 Speaker 2: I was grateful for. And that's it. Like as our 488 00:28:27,800 --> 00:28:31,520 Speaker 2: kids get older, I know, like so I have two 489 00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:35,960 Speaker 2: bonus kids who are now they're adults. They're adults, they're 490 00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:40,880 Speaker 2: in their twenties, and so I'm new at this. Like 491 00:28:41,000 --> 00:28:45,240 Speaker 2: as they grow older, I think the worries get bigger, 492 00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:48,080 Speaker 2: like the scale. It's not just like oh, you're going 493 00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:50,280 Speaker 2: to trip and skin your knee. It's like, Wow, my 494 00:28:50,360 --> 00:28:53,760 Speaker 2: eight year old just said something horrifying, and I don't 495 00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:56,080 Speaker 2: like that. But I guess we're all growing. As I'm 496 00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:58,520 Speaker 2: growing as a parent, they're growing as kids. So we'll 497 00:28:58,560 --> 00:29:02,520 Speaker 2: get through it together, right yep? Okay, So the last 498 00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:09,640 Speaker 2: subject on our marital report card is PE. Yeah, now 499 00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:11,800 Speaker 2: where do we want to take this? Because I would 500 00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:13,960 Speaker 2: go physical education and I would give myself an F 501 00:29:13,960 --> 00:29:16,480 Speaker 2: because I haven't worked out in about five years maybe ten. 502 00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:19,840 Speaker 1: No, that's not I know what. 503 00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:20,520 Speaker 2: You are thinking. 504 00:29:20,520 --> 00:29:22,760 Speaker 1: This is this is the love you. 505 00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:31,120 Speaker 2: Were thinking, it's the physic I okay, I give ourselves 506 00:29:31,120 --> 00:29:38,880 Speaker 2: an A. You're you're gonna give us a D because 507 00:29:38,920 --> 00:29:40,360 Speaker 2: you always want you. 508 00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:43,280 Speaker 1: When I want, I want more PE class. I wish 509 00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:48,120 Speaker 1: PE class which on the schedule, or I give us 510 00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:54,320 Speaker 1: a B? A B? Yeah okay, but I feel, man, 511 00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:58,800 Speaker 1: we could go really deep into this, like how personal 512 00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:01,560 Speaker 1: do you want to give? You have to go super personal? 513 00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:09,720 Speaker 1: But so I feel bad because sometimes I feel like 514 00:30:09,840 --> 00:30:15,280 Speaker 1: it's PE class is just for me. In fact, you 515 00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:19,560 Speaker 1: feel that a lot, and I feel bad about that 516 00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:24,200 Speaker 1: because I want you to be excited for PE class too, 517 00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:29,760 Speaker 1: and I think that's the that's the plus and minus 518 00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:35,680 Speaker 1: of scheduling PE class. If it's not on the schedule, 519 00:30:35,760 --> 00:30:38,160 Speaker 1: sometimes it doesn't happen. Right, that's real life. 520 00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:41,280 Speaker 2: That's real life. I think people go months and years 521 00:30:41,280 --> 00:30:45,160 Speaker 2: a long time. I have I have friends that it's 522 00:30:45,520 --> 00:30:48,640 Speaker 2: I mean, because you just get busy and life happens. 523 00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:52,400 Speaker 1: But if it's a if it's a planned schedule, then 524 00:30:52,680 --> 00:30:55,560 Speaker 1: sometimes it feels less. 525 00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:57,680 Speaker 2: It's not spontaneous at all, So it takes a little 526 00:30:57,680 --> 00:31:00,320 Speaker 2: bit of the excitement out of it. Although that would 527 00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:02,400 Speaker 2: be looking at it all wrong because the excitement is 528 00:31:02,440 --> 00:31:03,040 Speaker 2: the lead up. 529 00:31:03,880 --> 00:31:06,560 Speaker 1: Well, sure, I play games with myself all the time, 530 00:31:06,800 --> 00:31:10,960 Speaker 1: like PE class is coming. It's like she can't she 531 00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:14,600 Speaker 1: can't handle not coming to PE class. And guess what 532 00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:16,120 Speaker 1: here she comes for PE class. 533 00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:16,320 Speaker 2: There. 534 00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:20,680 Speaker 1: I am so p I just the only reason I 535 00:31:20,720 --> 00:31:23,520 Speaker 1: give us a B is because I want more PE class. 536 00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:28,360 Speaker 2: Right, I know, I was expecting a lower grade because 537 00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:29,440 Speaker 2: of the more. 538 00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:33,800 Speaker 1: Heck no, I'm when I'm at PE class, I'm very 539 00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:37,920 Speaker 1: happy with PG class. I mean, look at you, Damn 540 00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:44,640 Speaker 1: look at you. I'm a lucky dude. So PE class 541 00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:46,440 Speaker 1: is my favorite class. 542 00:31:46,680 --> 00:31:49,840 Speaker 2: Okay, well, I too feel very lucky to have you. 543 00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:53,440 Speaker 2: So look at us. We're so cute. So we just 544 00:31:53,600 --> 00:31:56,320 Speaker 2: we just have some areas of improvement on our report card. 545 00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:59,760 Speaker 2: But I think that that is good because, yeah, it's 546 00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:02,120 Speaker 2: a I think if we thought we were perfect, we 547 00:32:02,160 --> 00:32:06,360 Speaker 2: would be delusional, totally. Okay. I feel like that's a 548 00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:11,080 Speaker 2: really good podcast, unless you want to deep dive into 549 00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:15,280 Speaker 2: something else. Okay, Well, thank you so much for joining 550 00:32:15,360 --> 00:32:19,880 Speaker 2: our couples Man podcast. What I didn't are you kidding me? 551 00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:20,560 Speaker 1: Record? 552 00:32:20,680 --> 00:32:24,400 Speaker 2: You did? You don't make mistakes like that. You're Scottish. 553 00:32:24,440 --> 00:32:25,120 Speaker 1: I did hit record. 554 00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:27,520 Speaker 2: You're Scott Fisher. I knew you would. I wasn't even 555 00:32:27,560 --> 00:32:29,800 Speaker 2: scared for a second. You're too good at what you do. 556 00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:33,920 Speaker 2: Ham Okay, I have a great day. Thanks for joining us. 557 00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:39,160 Speaker 2: Birthday by the way, Oh yeah, thanks, My birthday was yesterday. Well, 558 00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:41,560 Speaker 2: my birthday is tomorrow because we're actually recording this on Friday. 559 00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:45,280 Speaker 1: Here's a question about PE class. If PE class falls 560 00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:47,520 Speaker 1: on your birthday. You know there's such a thing as 561 00:32:47,640 --> 00:32:48,719 Speaker 1: birthday PE class. 562 00:32:49,040 --> 00:32:51,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, there is, But I. 563 00:32:51,160 --> 00:32:54,920 Speaker 1: Feel like if PE class falls on your birthday, you 564 00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:57,520 Speaker 1: would be like, it's my birthday. I do whatever I want, 565 00:32:57,600 --> 00:32:58,960 Speaker 1: which is no pe class. 566 00:33:00,360 --> 00:33:04,200 Speaker 2: Who said, whatever I want is no pe class. This 567 00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:12,160 Speaker 2: girl likes pe class too, Okay, okay, right, all right, okay, 568 00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:15,160 Speaker 2: thanks for joining us, Have a great day until next time.