1 00:00:00,520 --> 00:00:04,080 Speaker 1: KFI AM six forty. You're listening to Dean Sharp the 2 00:00:04,080 --> 00:00:08,320 Speaker 1: House Whisper on demand on the iHeart Radio app. Hey, 3 00:00:08,920 --> 00:00:12,080 Speaker 1: every home has a path forward. Once you see it 4 00:00:12,280 --> 00:00:15,840 Speaker 1: that that is when the game changes. And that is 5 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:18,640 Speaker 1: what I hope to help you with here every week. 6 00:00:19,079 --> 00:00:23,279 Speaker 1: Find that path forward. To do that, sometimes we have 7 00:00:23,360 --> 00:00:27,320 Speaker 1: to be a bit unconventional and unusual in the questions 8 00:00:27,360 --> 00:00:30,880 Speaker 1: that we ask. Asking questions in and of itself is 9 00:00:31,400 --> 00:00:37,440 Speaker 1: unfortunately too unconventional and unusual these days. But not around here. No, no, 10 00:00:37,440 --> 00:00:41,400 Speaker 1: no no. This is where we assume very little and 11 00:00:41,720 --> 00:00:45,240 Speaker 1: we ask a lot of questions. And our subject today, 12 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:50,280 Speaker 1: my topic for you today is the bedroom. All sorts 13 00:00:50,280 --> 00:00:54,160 Speaker 1: of things around bedrooms, and as per usual, I want 14 00:00:54,160 --> 00:00:59,040 Speaker 1: you to rethink, question challenge, rethink the position of the bedroom, 15 00:00:59,080 --> 00:01:02,200 Speaker 1: the proportions of the bedroom, the priorities of each room. 16 00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:05,600 Speaker 1: If we really want to turn our ordinary house into 17 00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:09,280 Speaker 1: something extraordinary, and you're going to be getting the most 18 00:01:09,440 --> 00:01:15,400 Speaker 1: out of your alteration or remodeling budgets, then the questions 19 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:20,399 Speaker 1: come first. The questions lay the groundwork, good good questions. 20 00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:24,440 Speaker 1: So we've talked about the bedrooms in terms of size 21 00:01:24,440 --> 00:01:29,880 Speaker 1: allocation a little bit we've talked about the neat trick. 22 00:01:30,280 --> 00:01:32,160 Speaker 1: I call it a trick. It's just something I wish 23 00:01:32,319 --> 00:01:35,399 Speaker 1: was it's not. Please understand, it's not a trick. I'm 24 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:37,959 Speaker 1: a custom home designer, and so when I design a 25 00:01:38,000 --> 00:01:41,480 Speaker 1: house for a property, every bedroom I can has a 26 00:01:41,560 --> 00:01:45,600 Speaker 1: door to the outside. Okay, So to say that if 27 00:01:45,640 --> 00:01:48,040 Speaker 1: you live in a tract home where your bedrooms just 28 00:01:48,080 --> 00:01:51,080 Speaker 1: have windows overlooking the backyard or something like that, and 29 00:01:51,160 --> 00:01:53,840 Speaker 1: to turn that window into a door, that's not a trick. 30 00:01:53,960 --> 00:01:58,200 Speaker 1: That's just that is a step in the process of 31 00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:01,560 Speaker 1: turning that tracked home into a custom home. How it 32 00:02:01,600 --> 00:02:04,480 Speaker 1: would have I like to think, have been designed if 33 00:02:04,480 --> 00:02:07,040 Speaker 1: it was designed specifically for that lot in all the 34 00:02:07,120 --> 00:02:09,440 Speaker 1: right ways. So not so much a trick as it 35 00:02:09,520 --> 00:02:15,560 Speaker 1: is tricky. So let's talk about closets. Closets take up 36 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:20,480 Speaker 1: space and bedrooms, and I've done entire shows dedicated to closets. 37 00:02:20,520 --> 00:02:22,680 Speaker 1: I will again, So I don't want to be labor 38 00:02:22,800 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 1: the point here again. I just want to say, you know, 39 00:02:26,840 --> 00:02:31,200 Speaker 1: spaces in our homes have labels, and labels have stories 40 00:02:31,280 --> 00:02:33,840 Speaker 1: that come with them. Okay, that's the thing that I 41 00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:35,480 Speaker 1: really want you to get under it. I want you 42 00:02:35,520 --> 00:02:37,880 Speaker 1: to figure out what is the story you've been told 43 00:02:37,919 --> 00:02:40,880 Speaker 1: about what a such and such thing is like a closet, 44 00:02:40,960 --> 00:02:44,359 Speaker 1: What is a closet? What should a really nice closet 45 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:47,440 Speaker 1: look like versus a not so nice closet. That's the 46 00:02:47,520 --> 00:02:50,000 Speaker 1: kind of stuff I want you to challenge. Here's the thing. 47 00:02:50,720 --> 00:02:54,240 Speaker 1: This is a truth. It is a scientific truth, and 48 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:57,400 Speaker 1: so I'm just going to put it out there. For 49 00:02:57,480 --> 00:03:02,560 Speaker 1: most homes, most homes meaning the medium or average home 50 00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:08,360 Speaker 1: in America, most homes should not be indulging in walk 51 00:03:08,400 --> 00:03:13,640 Speaker 1: in closets. Why because they are essentially a waste of space. Now, 52 00:03:14,160 --> 00:03:16,919 Speaker 1: not the closet part of the walking closet, the walk 53 00:03:16,960 --> 00:03:19,320 Speaker 1: in part of the closet. I feel the same way 54 00:03:19,480 --> 00:03:23,720 Speaker 1: about walking closets in a space challenged home that I 55 00:03:23,800 --> 00:03:27,600 Speaker 1: do about walking pantries in the kitchen. There's something very 56 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:31,400 Speaker 1: you know, very old world, very nostalgic about it. But 57 00:03:32,040 --> 00:03:35,800 Speaker 1: when we are trying to squeeze every square foot of 58 00:03:36,040 --> 00:03:40,240 Speaker 1: use out of a space, the idea of any room 59 00:03:40,720 --> 00:03:44,400 Speaker 1: that you store things in in which the majority of 60 00:03:44,480 --> 00:03:47,040 Speaker 1: the square footage of that room is for you to 61 00:03:47,240 --> 00:03:50,360 Speaker 1: walk into it. You see what I'm saying. So if 62 00:03:50,400 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 1: we were to just take the linear footage of hanging 63 00:03:54,000 --> 00:03:56,880 Speaker 1: you have in a closet, all right, double hanging, single 64 00:03:56,920 --> 00:04:01,840 Speaker 1: hanging clothes, storage in or whatever the case may be, 65 00:04:03,320 --> 00:04:08,240 Speaker 1: and we just run that down a wall and only 66 00:04:08,280 --> 00:04:11,080 Speaker 1: give it the twenty four inches. That is a standard 67 00:04:11,160 --> 00:04:14,200 Speaker 1: depth closet with a sliding door or bifold doors or 68 00:04:14,200 --> 00:04:17,520 Speaker 1: whatever in front of it. That is the most efficient 69 00:04:17,720 --> 00:04:22,400 Speaker 1: use of large closet space, not allowing extra space for 70 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 1: a human being to stand inside. So it may make 71 00:04:26,640 --> 00:04:29,200 Speaker 1: logical sense to you, I hope it does. That you 72 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:34,279 Speaker 1: standing outside the closet in your own room and reaching 73 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:36,320 Speaker 1: into the closet to get your clothes. That is the 74 00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:40,640 Speaker 1: most efficient in terms of square footage storage space for clothing. 75 00:04:41,160 --> 00:04:44,400 Speaker 1: A walking closet has lots of luxury attached to it. 76 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:48,720 Speaker 1: And again these are stories attached to labels. And if 77 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:52,080 Speaker 1: that story is so important to you, then fine, let's 78 00:04:52,160 --> 00:04:54,680 Speaker 1: move on with that. I'm not saying I don't do 79 00:04:54,839 --> 00:04:58,880 Speaker 1: walking closets for people, but I urge against them when 80 00:04:58,960 --> 00:05:02,640 Speaker 1: we are space challenged. That's the point, right, big old 81 00:05:02,680 --> 00:05:06,560 Speaker 1: houses that have space to spare, Fine, let's indulge and 82 00:05:06,640 --> 00:05:09,760 Speaker 1: have a blast. You know, we've done walking closets that 83 00:05:09,800 --> 00:05:12,320 Speaker 1: have massage tables in them. I mean, I can't even 84 00:05:12,360 --> 00:05:16,120 Speaker 1: tell you how big and expanse of a walking closet 85 00:05:16,120 --> 00:05:21,039 Speaker 1: can become. But if we are struggling for space, let's 86 00:05:21,080 --> 00:05:23,760 Speaker 1: think about whether or not it's a good idea to 87 00:05:23,920 --> 00:05:27,720 Speaker 1: use one. Because that square footage, the clothes need two 88 00:05:27,880 --> 00:05:31,720 Speaker 1: feet of depth. Twenty four inches of depth. Okay, Then 89 00:05:31,800 --> 00:05:34,120 Speaker 1: the closet rod comes out from the back wall, hangs 90 00:05:34,160 --> 00:05:38,040 Speaker 1: at about twelve inches right, and typically a hangar will 91 00:05:38,040 --> 00:05:41,880 Speaker 1: sit there around sixteen seventeen inches in width, hanging off 92 00:05:41,960 --> 00:05:44,680 Speaker 1: the center of that. So the point is on the 93 00:05:44,720 --> 00:05:48,200 Speaker 1: inside of a standard closet we want optimally, we want 94 00:05:48,279 --> 00:05:51,000 Speaker 1: twenty four inches of depth on the inside space of 95 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:53,280 Speaker 1: a closet. But if it's a walk in, then you 96 00:05:53,320 --> 00:05:55,560 Speaker 1: take that twenty four and you add twenty four on 97 00:05:55,600 --> 00:06:01,040 Speaker 1: the other side. That's now four feet and a minimum 98 00:06:01,440 --> 00:06:05,480 Speaker 1: minimum of three feet of space for you to walk down. 99 00:06:05,640 --> 00:06:08,880 Speaker 1: So now this closet is seven feet wide. The minimum 100 00:06:08,920 --> 00:06:12,520 Speaker 1: width of a walking closet with clothes on both sides 101 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:16,080 Speaker 1: of you is seven feet. Anything smaller than that feels 102 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:19,160 Speaker 1: really cramped and weird. And of course it can be 103 00:06:19,320 --> 00:06:21,919 Speaker 1: larger than that. So the point is this, do we 104 00:06:22,000 --> 00:06:25,760 Speaker 1: need the walking closet or can we economize the closet 105 00:06:25,800 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 1: gets you better storage and give more of that space 106 00:06:28,839 --> 00:06:31,880 Speaker 1: to your bedroom. That is a question that needs to 107 00:06:31,880 --> 00:06:34,560 Speaker 1: be asked. I'm not telling you the way it needs 108 00:06:34,600 --> 00:06:38,760 Speaker 1: to be. I'm telling you to ask the question. Now, 109 00:06:39,240 --> 00:06:44,680 Speaker 1: what about a guest room, a dedicated guestroom. Does a 110 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:48,280 Speaker 1: dedicated guest room need a closet, especially if we're trying 111 00:06:48,279 --> 00:06:51,560 Speaker 1: to find more space for the other bedrooms. Let's say 112 00:06:51,600 --> 00:06:53,480 Speaker 1: you've got a guest room, and let's face it, most 113 00:06:53,520 --> 00:06:58,680 Speaker 1: guestrooms typically get selected from amongst the bedrooms. What about 114 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:01,400 Speaker 1: the bedroom on either side of this guest room. Does 115 00:07:01,440 --> 00:07:03,840 Speaker 1: it share half of a wall of a closet and 116 00:07:03,920 --> 00:07:11,200 Speaker 1: could the permanent residence in that bedroom use more closet space? Okay, well, 117 00:07:11,520 --> 00:07:16,080 Speaker 1: maybe both the guest room closet and their closet needs 118 00:07:16,080 --> 00:07:18,640 Speaker 1: to be combined together and be given to the permanent 119 00:07:18,720 --> 00:07:22,679 Speaker 1: resident in the other bedroom, and the guest room gets 120 00:07:22,720 --> 00:07:27,119 Speaker 1: a free standing wardrobe or bureau. Think about a guest 121 00:07:27,160 --> 00:07:29,520 Speaker 1: room in terms of how long are these guests saying 122 00:07:29,600 --> 00:07:32,040 Speaker 1: if they're just staying for a few days or a 123 00:07:32,120 --> 00:07:36,240 Speaker 1: couple of three weeks. Then they're living out of a suitcase. 124 00:07:36,440 --> 00:07:38,480 Speaker 1: They don't need a full closet. Think of that room 125 00:07:38,680 --> 00:07:44,120 Speaker 1: in terms of a hotel room instead of a bedroom 126 00:07:44,520 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: for a permanent residence in a house. You see how 127 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:50,720 Speaker 1: we change the story and it frees us to design differently. 128 00:07:50,760 --> 00:07:52,320 Speaker 1: All right, more on this on the other side of 129 00:07:52,320 --> 00:07:55,440 Speaker 1: the break, you are Home with Dean Sharp the house whisper. 130 00:07:56,360 --> 00:08:00,200 Speaker 2: You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from KO. 131 00:08:01,440 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 1: Here to help you take your home to the next level. 132 00:08:03,760 --> 00:08:07,760 Speaker 1: We're doing it today by having a conversation about bedrooms. 133 00:08:08,200 --> 00:08:12,920 Speaker 1: Bed rooms. I want to circle back around to something 134 00:08:12,960 --> 00:08:15,640 Speaker 1: I said near the beginning of the show, and that 135 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:19,280 Speaker 1: was that I made the claim. Actually I was just 136 00:08:19,400 --> 00:08:26,920 Speaker 1: reporting the truth that as a cultural tendency, bedrooms, even 137 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:31,040 Speaker 1: though architecturally for decades and decades they have been have 138 00:08:31,160 --> 00:08:34,080 Speaker 1: been getting bigger and bigger in terms of their design 139 00:08:34,280 --> 00:08:40,199 Speaker 1: as retreats. The irony is that culturally fewer and fewer 140 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:45,240 Speaker 1: people using bedrooms as a retreat. And so I just 141 00:08:45,240 --> 00:08:48,040 Speaker 1: want to continue to ask the question do we need that? 142 00:08:48,280 --> 00:08:50,160 Speaker 1: Do we need that for you? I don't really care 143 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:52,600 Speaker 1: one way or the other. I don't have a position 144 00:08:52,679 --> 00:08:54,800 Speaker 1: on it. I'm not here to tell you they should 145 00:08:54,960 --> 00:08:58,920 Speaker 1: or shouldn't be designed as a retreat for you. I 146 00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:02,200 Speaker 1: am simply a cust some home designer, which means I 147 00:09:02,240 --> 00:09:04,160 Speaker 1: need to sit down and have a conversation with you 148 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:07,200 Speaker 1: about what you need and whatever you need out of 149 00:09:07,240 --> 00:09:10,160 Speaker 1: the bedroom. That's what we want to do. But we 150 00:09:10,200 --> 00:09:13,680 Speaker 1: need to seriously have this conversation because we need to 151 00:09:13,720 --> 00:09:17,920 Speaker 1: either allocate more space for it or not allocate and 152 00:09:18,040 --> 00:09:21,439 Speaker 1: waste space there that we could be using for something else. 153 00:09:21,760 --> 00:09:25,880 Speaker 1: Something else that is, in fact, as an example, is 154 00:09:26,679 --> 00:09:30,920 Speaker 1: a growing retreat for many, many many people and has 155 00:09:31,000 --> 00:09:35,400 Speaker 1: been again for several decades now, and that is the bathroom. 156 00:09:36,120 --> 00:09:41,800 Speaker 1: The bathroom in bathrooms in America have truly become a 157 00:09:41,920 --> 00:09:46,920 Speaker 1: retreat space for people. They are a luxury kind of 158 00:09:47,000 --> 00:09:52,920 Speaker 1: resort experience. Most people dream of their bathroom specifically and 159 00:09:53,040 --> 00:09:58,120 Speaker 1: especially the primary bathroom, the en suite in the primary bathroom, 160 00:09:58,400 --> 00:10:01,400 Speaker 1: most people think and dream of them as being a 161 00:10:01,440 --> 00:10:06,520 Speaker 1: spaike retreat. And that actually sinks up with the data 162 00:10:06,600 --> 00:10:10,199 Speaker 1: and actually sinks up with the emotional psychology of it. 163 00:10:10,520 --> 00:10:16,000 Speaker 1: I've made this argument before that the bathroom is according 164 00:10:16,040 --> 00:10:24,960 Speaker 1: to a cultural study by Clotaire Rapai several years ago. 165 00:10:27,160 --> 00:10:32,240 Speaker 1: The bathroom is perhaps identified as the very very first 166 00:10:32,360 --> 00:10:37,400 Speaker 1: room in most of our lives that our parents not 167 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:41,320 Speaker 1: only allowed but encourage us us to go into and 168 00:10:41,440 --> 00:10:46,200 Speaker 1: shut the door and be private in once we were 169 00:10:46,240 --> 00:10:50,200 Speaker 1: old enough to handle our business in there without assistance, 170 00:10:50,920 --> 00:10:53,920 Speaker 1: we were encouraged to go into the bathroom and shut 171 00:10:53,920 --> 00:10:57,520 Speaker 1: the door, sometimes years before you're encouraged to shut your 172 00:10:57,520 --> 00:11:01,679 Speaker 1: bedroom door by your parents. You're feeling me, you know that, 173 00:11:02,120 --> 00:11:04,560 Speaker 1: and you know how that carries into our lives. The 174 00:11:04,600 --> 00:11:07,520 Speaker 1: bathroom becomes a place to just take a break, take 175 00:11:07,520 --> 00:11:10,080 Speaker 1: a break from other people, just take a break for yourself. 176 00:11:10,320 --> 00:11:12,920 Speaker 1: How many times I've used this many times before. How 177 00:11:12,920 --> 00:11:15,600 Speaker 1: many times have you been at a party or out 178 00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:18,120 Speaker 1: in public and you're just getting a little you just 179 00:11:18,160 --> 00:11:20,319 Speaker 1: need a little space, You're just getting a little overwhelmed, 180 00:11:20,360 --> 00:11:23,360 Speaker 1: or you get a little bored with a conversation and you 181 00:11:23,400 --> 00:11:26,360 Speaker 1: don't have to go you really don't have to go 182 00:11:26,440 --> 00:11:29,200 Speaker 1: to the bathroom, but you say, you know what, excuse me, 183 00:11:29,320 --> 00:11:31,520 Speaker 1: I need to use the restroom. And you go to 184 00:11:31,600 --> 00:11:34,640 Speaker 1: the bathroom at the restaurant or wherever you're at just 185 00:11:35,360 --> 00:11:37,520 Speaker 1: to take a break, to take a seat, because you know, 186 00:11:37,559 --> 00:11:40,160 Speaker 1: once you're in there, you close the door and close 187 00:11:40,240 --> 00:11:43,120 Speaker 1: the door in the stall. That space is yours. It 188 00:11:43,200 --> 00:11:45,920 Speaker 1: is yours for as long as you hold it right. 189 00:11:46,840 --> 00:11:52,320 Speaker 1: That's a bathroom. Bathrooms have culturally been enculturated to become 190 00:11:52,440 --> 00:11:55,360 Speaker 1: more and more retreat space for us. The bedroom not 191 00:11:55,440 --> 00:11:57,679 Speaker 1: so much. Not a lot of people will just retreat 192 00:11:57,679 --> 00:11:59,640 Speaker 1: to their bedroom and flop down on their bed. I'm 193 00:11:59,640 --> 00:12:02,240 Speaker 1: not saying that isn't the thing, but it's more likely 194 00:12:02,800 --> 00:12:05,360 Speaker 1: that you end up in the bathroom if you're going 195 00:12:05,440 --> 00:12:07,360 Speaker 1: to be retreating for a space. Now that's not to 196 00:12:07,400 --> 00:12:09,360 Speaker 1: say that people don't retreat to their bedrooms or that 197 00:12:09,440 --> 00:12:11,440 Speaker 1: don't work out of their bedrooms and so on, and 198 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:14,199 Speaker 1: this is the thing, but adults, quite often, if you're 199 00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:16,240 Speaker 1: going to work, you know, like you get away from 200 00:12:16,280 --> 00:12:19,040 Speaker 1: the family life, you can do some work. Especially after COVID, 201 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:23,760 Speaker 1: you've probably taken a bedroom or another space and said, okay, 202 00:12:23,760 --> 00:12:26,679 Speaker 1: this is the office. There's the office space. So in 203 00:12:26,760 --> 00:12:28,680 Speaker 1: other words, you may have a retreat. Tina and I 204 00:12:28,720 --> 00:12:30,760 Speaker 1: have a retreat in our little home. We built a 205 00:12:30,800 --> 00:12:34,560 Speaker 1: shed out in the glorified, sexy little shed that we 206 00:12:34,679 --> 00:12:38,000 Speaker 1: call the garden room, and other people call it the 207 00:12:38,080 --> 00:12:41,280 Speaker 1: Dean and Tina Clubhouse because it's just it's almost a 208 00:12:41,360 --> 00:12:44,680 Speaker 1: sacred space. It is a sacred space that we go to. 209 00:12:45,240 --> 00:12:48,400 Speaker 1: Tina will take a break and do a puzzle. I'll 210 00:12:48,440 --> 00:12:51,640 Speaker 1: go in and read. I mean, we have a chase 211 00:12:51,720 --> 00:12:53,400 Speaker 1: in there, we have books in there, and we have 212 00:12:53,800 --> 00:12:58,679 Speaker 1: a puzzle table and music and that's it. That's it, Okay, 213 00:12:58,960 --> 00:13:01,600 Speaker 1: it's a space to retreat to. In other words, when 214 00:13:01,679 --> 00:13:05,480 Speaker 1: we retreat, we don't retreat to our bedroom. Tina and 215 00:13:05,520 --> 00:13:08,440 Speaker 1: I primarily use our bedroom for bedroom stuff. You know, 216 00:13:08,600 --> 00:13:12,280 Speaker 1: we sleep or do other bedroom things in but that's it. 217 00:13:12,720 --> 00:13:15,360 Speaker 1: And so our bedroom in our very small house, we 218 00:13:15,360 --> 00:13:18,400 Speaker 1: were not tempted when we did its remodel to make 219 00:13:18,520 --> 00:13:22,240 Speaker 1: it any bigger. In fact, I actually made our bedroom 220 00:13:22,280 --> 00:13:24,880 Speaker 1: a little bit smaller. We made our bedroom a little 221 00:13:24,920 --> 00:13:27,000 Speaker 1: bit smaller and either in order to give a little 222 00:13:27,040 --> 00:13:30,800 Speaker 1: bit more space for closets and a little bit more 223 00:13:30,880 --> 00:13:35,080 Speaker 1: space for the on suite bathroom to be attached to it, 224 00:13:35,760 --> 00:13:38,800 Speaker 1: which we finagled out of the square footage that we 225 00:13:38,880 --> 00:13:42,520 Speaker 1: had available. That's what I'm talking about, because what we need, 226 00:13:42,559 --> 00:13:44,920 Speaker 1: what Tina and I need in our bedroom room for 227 00:13:44,960 --> 00:13:49,440 Speaker 1: our dresser room for our bed and our two night stands. 228 00:13:49,880 --> 00:13:53,360 Speaker 1: That's it. That's all we need in the bedroom. It 229 00:13:53,400 --> 00:13:57,960 Speaker 1: doesn't feel tiny, it's just right. It's a goldilock size 230 00:13:58,000 --> 00:14:01,760 Speaker 1: for us. But it enabled us to transform the adjacent 231 00:14:01,840 --> 00:14:04,760 Speaker 1: parts of the house. That's the kind of questioning that 232 00:14:04,840 --> 00:14:08,720 Speaker 1: I'm encouraging you to do. Okay, so a guest room 233 00:14:09,160 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 1: does it actually need a closet if it's truly a 234 00:14:12,400 --> 00:14:16,760 Speaker 1: dedicated guest room, maybe not. And if somebody else needs 235 00:14:16,760 --> 00:14:20,120 Speaker 1: that closet space in an adjacent room, maybe you give 236 00:14:20,160 --> 00:14:23,440 Speaker 1: that closet space there and let the guests live out 237 00:14:23,480 --> 00:14:25,240 Speaker 1: of the suitcase that they're going to be living out 238 00:14:25,240 --> 00:14:27,600 Speaker 1: of anyway when they visit you in your guest room. 239 00:14:27,760 --> 00:14:30,400 Speaker 1: That makes sense, I hope. So when we come back, 240 00:14:30,480 --> 00:14:34,920 Speaker 1: let's talk about privacy in these rooms. Privacy and the 241 00:14:34,960 --> 00:14:37,120 Speaker 1: people who live in your house who do use the 242 00:14:37,160 --> 00:14:40,200 Speaker 1: bedroom as a retreat in fact, maybe put the most 243 00:14:40,240 --> 00:14:43,200 Speaker 1: pressure on a bedroom. And that's not you as the 244 00:14:43,240 --> 00:14:46,800 Speaker 1: master of the house. Get your kids. They need more 245 00:14:46,800 --> 00:14:49,040 Speaker 1: out of a bedroom than you do. I would wager 246 00:14:49,080 --> 00:14:51,280 Speaker 1: we'll talk about it when we return your home with 247 00:14:51,400 --> 00:14:53,040 Speaker 1: Dean Sharp the house whispered. 248 00:14:53,480 --> 00:14:56,760 Speaker 2: You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from 249 00:14:56,840 --> 00:14:58,360 Speaker 2: KFI AM six forty. 250 00:14:58,600 --> 00:15:01,440 Speaker 1: Thanks for joining us on the program today. If you 251 00:15:01,560 --> 00:15:06,200 Speaker 1: are suffering under that polar vortex elsewhere in the US, 252 00:15:06,720 --> 00:15:12,480 Speaker 1: then Southern California, hang in there, stay warm, stay safe, 253 00:15:13,040 --> 00:15:15,800 Speaker 1: don't go out into it, don't get yourself into trouble. 254 00:15:16,000 --> 00:15:18,640 Speaker 1: It will pass you. Just hang in there. Our thoughts 255 00:15:18,680 --> 00:15:21,440 Speaker 1: are with you. If you're hear in Southern California, stop 256 00:15:21,440 --> 00:15:24,120 Speaker 1: your whining. It's like sixty five degrees outside and the 257 00:15:24,160 --> 00:15:28,239 Speaker 1: sun is shining and the birds are chirping, and so yeah, California, 258 00:15:28,360 --> 00:15:32,040 Speaker 1: that's why we do what we do. Thanks for joining 259 00:15:32,080 --> 00:15:34,760 Speaker 1: us on the program. We're talking bedrooms. Let's get back 260 00:15:34,840 --> 00:15:39,240 Speaker 1: into the bedroom today, hopefully giving you some insights today 261 00:15:39,280 --> 00:15:44,520 Speaker 1: by rethinking certain labels, certain stories that we associate with bedrooms, 262 00:15:44,840 --> 00:15:47,360 Speaker 1: and just freeing yourself. I want you to be free 263 00:15:47,600 --> 00:15:51,840 Speaker 1: to if you're thinking about altering your home, remodeling your home, 264 00:15:52,880 --> 00:15:57,040 Speaker 1: don't just immediately jump past the big things into the 265 00:15:57,040 --> 00:16:00,000 Speaker 1: big questions, into like oh what color should the wallpaper? 266 00:16:00,600 --> 00:16:03,760 Speaker 1: It's all important, but it has its place, and before 267 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:06,920 Speaker 1: we start to make the most of your remodeling dollar, 268 00:16:07,960 --> 00:16:11,360 Speaker 1: ask the fundamental questions the kind of questions that most 269 00:16:11,360 --> 00:16:14,120 Speaker 1: people don't ask. That's what I hope you glean from 270 00:16:14,120 --> 00:16:16,960 Speaker 1: our time together here on the program every week. So 271 00:16:18,240 --> 00:16:20,200 Speaker 1: one of the things we talked about just last segment 272 00:16:20,440 --> 00:16:24,880 Speaker 1: was how people tend to view master bedrooms as a retreat. 273 00:16:24,960 --> 00:16:30,360 Speaker 1: But statistically speaking, culturally speaking, more people retreat to the 274 00:16:30,400 --> 00:16:34,920 Speaker 1: primary bathroom than they do the primary bedroom for adults. 275 00:16:35,120 --> 00:16:37,360 Speaker 1: But let me tell you a group of individuals who 276 00:16:37,600 --> 00:16:41,880 Speaker 1: do put more pressure on a room for retreat and 277 00:16:42,080 --> 00:16:47,760 Speaker 1: officing and playtime and sleeping, and that's the kids. I 278 00:16:47,760 --> 00:16:51,280 Speaker 1: could make an argument, and I think sustain it to 279 00:16:51,400 --> 00:16:57,120 Speaker 1: say that room in a children's room is far more 280 00:16:57,160 --> 00:17:00,880 Speaker 1: important than room in a primary beta. Now, I know 281 00:17:01,000 --> 00:17:04,520 Speaker 1: that turns the whole notion of who's most important in 282 00:17:04,560 --> 00:17:08,520 Speaker 1: the house on end, But if we just look at 283 00:17:08,680 --> 00:17:13,159 Speaker 1: the function of the room, a kid's room is a 284 00:17:13,200 --> 00:17:16,399 Speaker 1: flex space that gets a lot more pressure to it. 285 00:17:16,880 --> 00:17:19,200 Speaker 1: Of course, they sleep there and sleep in there in 286 00:17:19,240 --> 00:17:21,760 Speaker 1: a single bed, so that's an advantage because you know, 287 00:17:21,800 --> 00:17:24,240 Speaker 1: we don't have necessarily a queen or a king bed. 288 00:17:24,359 --> 00:17:27,200 Speaker 1: If your four year old sleeps in a king bed, 289 00:17:27,280 --> 00:17:31,880 Speaker 1: shame on you. That's all I'm saying. So assuming we're 290 00:17:31,880 --> 00:17:33,400 Speaker 1: in a single bed. We got a little bit more 291 00:17:33,440 --> 00:17:35,800 Speaker 1: room in the space in the room. But you think 292 00:17:35,840 --> 00:17:39,520 Speaker 1: about it, that room becomes a play zone, which they 293 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:42,960 Speaker 1: need space for. That room becomes a hangout with other friends, 294 00:17:43,160 --> 00:17:47,000 Speaker 1: kind of a kid's living room area, which they need 295 00:17:47,040 --> 00:17:50,679 Speaker 1: space for. That room also probably has or needs a 296 00:17:50,720 --> 00:17:54,119 Speaker 1: desk because they office in their homework and the like. 297 00:17:54,600 --> 00:17:58,000 Speaker 1: Ideally that kind of space. Now, your kids may do 298 00:17:58,040 --> 00:18:00,359 Speaker 1: it differently. They may do their homework out at the 299 00:18:00,359 --> 00:18:03,159 Speaker 1: dining room table, and this, then that and the next thing. Again, 300 00:18:03,680 --> 00:18:06,720 Speaker 1: I am not dictating here, I'm asking the question. But 301 00:18:06,800 --> 00:18:10,280 Speaker 1: in doing so, you know, I've asked enough questions about 302 00:18:10,400 --> 00:18:13,879 Speaker 1: enough homes that it has lifted the bar in my 303 00:18:14,040 --> 00:18:18,160 Speaker 1: mind of thinking. You know, we shouldn't just fall into 304 00:18:18,200 --> 00:18:21,560 Speaker 1: the conventional stories. Okay. The fact of the matter is, 305 00:18:21,600 --> 00:18:24,720 Speaker 1: if you're officing somewhere in your home, it's probably not 306 00:18:24,960 --> 00:18:28,840 Speaker 1: in your bedroom. Okay, It's likely in a dedicate. Maybe 307 00:18:28,840 --> 00:18:32,399 Speaker 1: you've got an office somewhere, so you don't need that pressure. Okay. 308 00:18:32,560 --> 00:18:35,560 Speaker 1: You when you invite guests over, you know, as the 309 00:18:35,800 --> 00:18:39,800 Speaker 1: master of the house, you're probably not entertaining guests in 310 00:18:39,880 --> 00:18:42,920 Speaker 1: your bedroom, like pull up a chair, everyone, or let's 311 00:18:43,000 --> 00:18:46,440 Speaker 1: just all sit you know, you know, criss cross applesauce 312 00:18:46,520 --> 00:18:49,760 Speaker 1: on the bed. Yeah, probably not unless you know you're 313 00:18:49,800 --> 00:18:57,600 Speaker 1: that way. So the point being, your bedroom probably is 314 00:18:57,720 --> 00:19:02,400 Speaker 1: reduced in its efficacy to the bed and a dressing area, 315 00:19:03,000 --> 00:19:06,919 Speaker 1: but not the kids. The kids need more space and 316 00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:11,200 Speaker 1: so airgo you know, dedicating maybe a room as a 317 00:19:11,200 --> 00:19:13,679 Speaker 1: as a joint rumpus room or something like that. So 318 00:19:13,840 --> 00:19:18,320 Speaker 1: the point being this, evaluate every space in the house 319 00:19:18,800 --> 00:19:22,840 Speaker 1: by your own labels, by your own stories, and by 320 00:19:22,880 --> 00:19:26,000 Speaker 1: the things that have to be lived out in those spaces. 321 00:19:26,720 --> 00:19:33,560 Speaker 1: Children's rooms typically require more functionality to them than an 322 00:19:33,600 --> 00:19:38,440 Speaker 1: adult bedroom because adults have other places to spend their 323 00:19:38,520 --> 00:19:43,119 Speaker 1: other fractionalized time. The kids, everything tends to get piled 324 00:19:43,119 --> 00:19:46,200 Speaker 1: into the bedroom. That's all. That's all we're saying now. 325 00:19:46,480 --> 00:19:49,560 Speaker 1: Bedrooms are also the most personalized room in the house, 326 00:19:50,200 --> 00:19:53,159 Speaker 1: meaning that you can really, you really get permission to 327 00:19:53,400 --> 00:19:56,960 Speaker 1: build that room around the personality of the residents. Right, 328 00:19:57,359 --> 00:20:00,879 Speaker 1: Maybe it's pink and frilly, maybe it's blue and dynamic. 329 00:20:00,960 --> 00:20:03,640 Speaker 1: Maybe there are race cars on the walls. Maybe. And 330 00:20:03,840 --> 00:20:06,440 Speaker 1: in the case of a master bedroom, please don't a 331 00:20:06,560 --> 00:20:09,560 Speaker 1: primary bedroom, please don't don't forget about that fact that 332 00:20:11,040 --> 00:20:16,000 Speaker 1: if there are two individuals in that space of two 333 00:20:16,040 --> 00:20:22,600 Speaker 1: different genders, then probably it shouldn't get overly feminized or 334 00:20:22,640 --> 00:20:28,439 Speaker 1: overly masculinized. Okay, it should probably find a balance so 335 00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:31,800 Speaker 1: that everybody is comfortable with the decore of the room, 336 00:20:32,200 --> 00:20:36,680 Speaker 1: find place for everyone. A house that's well designed, from 337 00:20:36,760 --> 00:20:39,840 Speaker 1: the bones of the walls itself right down to the 338 00:20:39,920 --> 00:20:43,760 Speaker 1: last item of decor is a house that embraces the 339 00:20:43,840 --> 00:20:52,840 Speaker 1: life of everyone who's living inside it. Okay, there you go. Now, privacy, privacy. 340 00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:56,600 Speaker 1: What defines privacy in your mind? Well, everybody just jumps 341 00:20:56,640 --> 00:20:58,440 Speaker 1: to the fact that I'll just have a good door, 342 00:20:59,200 --> 00:21:02,439 Speaker 1: get rid of those hollow core doors and put in 343 00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:05,960 Speaker 1: solid core doors. But a door is a door is 344 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:10,439 Speaker 1: a door in terms of blocking view. Privacy from view, 345 00:21:10,920 --> 00:21:14,280 Speaker 1: that's one layer of privacy. But in any home, privacy 346 00:21:14,320 --> 00:21:19,119 Speaker 1: of sound, audible privacy, that's another layer of privacy, and 347 00:21:19,160 --> 00:21:23,159 Speaker 1: it is the one that most again, especially tracked homes, 348 00:21:24,080 --> 00:21:27,560 Speaker 1: most homes are missing. Why because builders are not gonna 349 00:21:27,840 --> 00:21:31,040 Speaker 1: spend a lot of money putting things into a home 350 00:21:31,080 --> 00:21:33,800 Speaker 1: that the code doesn't require them to put in. And 351 00:21:33,840 --> 00:21:37,679 Speaker 1: when it comes to insulation, which is a massive sound 352 00:21:37,800 --> 00:21:42,520 Speaker 1: buffer in between spaces. Interior walls in a home are 353 00:21:42,680 --> 00:21:45,399 Speaker 1: irrelevant to the code. The code is only concerned about 354 00:21:45,440 --> 00:21:48,800 Speaker 1: thermal insulation on the envelope of the house, the exterior 355 00:21:48,840 --> 00:21:52,399 Speaker 1: shell of the house. The interior walls usually have no 356 00:21:52,520 --> 00:21:56,160 Speaker 1: insulation whatsoever. So my general rule of thumb to anybody, 357 00:21:56,160 --> 00:21:58,040 Speaker 1: and the thing that I will tell you again and again, 358 00:21:58,400 --> 00:22:00,840 Speaker 1: anytime you're working on your house and a wall gets 359 00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:03,159 Speaker 1: opened up, before you close it back up again and 360 00:22:03,200 --> 00:22:05,879 Speaker 1: put dry wall back on, throw some insulation, some sound 361 00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:09,000 Speaker 1: insulation into that wall. Do it bit by bit, okay 362 00:22:09,040 --> 00:22:11,160 Speaker 1: if you have to. But if you're doing a major remodel, 363 00:22:11,560 --> 00:22:15,800 Speaker 1: plan the few extra dollars to get sound insulation on 364 00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:19,080 Speaker 1: the interior walls, to insulate a room from sound. And 365 00:22:19,440 --> 00:22:22,200 Speaker 1: why is this, we say, Well, I guess on big 366 00:22:22,240 --> 00:22:24,200 Speaker 1: fancy houses you can do that. No, no, no, it's 367 00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:27,800 Speaker 1: just the opposite. The smaller house is the more important 368 00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:31,639 Speaker 1: that every room is sound isolated and insulated from the 369 00:22:31,680 --> 00:22:34,080 Speaker 1: next because it's a small space, because we're living in 370 00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:38,639 Speaker 1: closer proximity. Our little house of thirteen hundred and fifty 371 00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:42,080 Speaker 1: square feet or so, every interior wall of the house 372 00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:45,120 Speaker 1: has sound insulation in it, and honestly, what's going on 373 00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:48,520 Speaker 1: just a few feet away from us in the next bedroom, 374 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:52,680 Speaker 1: or when the kids, when our when our granddaughter Olivia 375 00:22:52,840 --> 00:22:56,360 Speaker 1: is playing and hooping and hollering down the hallway, it's 376 00:22:56,400 --> 00:22:59,520 Speaker 1: not an issue. It's not an issue because the sound 377 00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:03,800 Speaker 1: is baffled and buffered and dampened and controlled. The smaller 378 00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:07,639 Speaker 1: house gets, the more important that installation is inside. Okay, 379 00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:10,399 Speaker 1: now let's talk about some other little tweaks that you 380 00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:13,080 Speaker 1: can do just to make a bedroom that much more special. 381 00:23:13,119 --> 00:23:15,840 Speaker 1: We'll do it right after the break your Home with 382 00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:18,240 Speaker 1: Dean Sharp the house whisper you hang typo. 383 00:23:18,880 --> 00:23:22,200 Speaker 2: You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from 384 00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:23,720 Speaker 2: KFI AM six forty. 385 00:23:23,760 --> 00:23:25,639 Speaker 1: Thanks for joining us on the program today. Here we 386 00:23:25,680 --> 00:23:28,440 Speaker 1: are at the end of another three hours together. How 387 00:23:28,520 --> 00:23:31,159 Speaker 1: the time flies by. We had some great calls today. 388 00:23:31,560 --> 00:23:34,600 Speaker 1: Great topic today talking about bedrooms in your home. Such 389 00:23:34,640 --> 00:23:38,960 Speaker 1: a such an important topic to approach in a you 390 00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:42,439 Speaker 1: know less than normal way. And I would say that, 391 00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:45,080 Speaker 1: of course, this is the way you should always approach 392 00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:47,840 Speaker 1: things for your home, and that is question everything along 393 00:23:47,880 --> 00:23:50,320 Speaker 1: the way, assume that you know less than you know, 394 00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:54,000 Speaker 1: and you will usually be right about that and as 395 00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:57,119 Speaker 1: a result, bring out the real issues, get past the 396 00:23:57,160 --> 00:24:00,320 Speaker 1: conventional stories that come attached with the label that we 397 00:24:00,400 --> 00:24:02,959 Speaker 1: put to rooms, and start taking a look at your 398 00:24:02,960 --> 00:24:06,879 Speaker 1: real life, how you really live, the needs that you have, 399 00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:09,840 Speaker 1: the needs of your family, and compare that to the 400 00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:12,400 Speaker 1: spaces that are in your home. One of the big 401 00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:15,800 Speaker 1: things I didn't even touch on today because it's not 402 00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:18,640 Speaker 1: something I can talk in detail about regarding your home 403 00:24:18,680 --> 00:24:21,119 Speaker 1: and have to see it first. But that is just 404 00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:24,359 Speaker 1: even asking the question of whether the primary bedroom, just 405 00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:27,760 Speaker 1: to give you credit again, is in the right place. 406 00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:33,080 Speaker 1: So often I have found primary bedrooms that have you know, 407 00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:35,919 Speaker 1: they're not the bedroom that have the best access to 408 00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:39,160 Speaker 1: the garden, They're not the bedroom that has the best view, 409 00:24:39,440 --> 00:24:41,480 Speaker 1: They're not the bedroom that has the best of anything 410 00:24:41,520 --> 00:24:45,840 Speaker 1: in its relationship on the property. To that end, I 411 00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:48,280 Speaker 1: always think, is there a way we can change that. 412 00:24:48,359 --> 00:24:51,679 Speaker 1: Can we switch this hollow room and give it a 413 00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:55,320 Speaker 1: new identity as a secondary bedroom, and can we go 414 00:24:55,400 --> 00:24:59,200 Speaker 1: and take over a secondary bedroom and maybe another one 415 00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:01,800 Speaker 1: or two in order to give it a little more space, 416 00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:05,680 Speaker 1: But can we reposition the master bedroom so that actually 417 00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:10,680 Speaker 1: is in fact the primary bedroom, the bedroom that you 418 00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:14,920 Speaker 1: as the hard working homeowner deserve to have. Well, it's 419 00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:20,639 Speaker 1: food for thought again when I raise these questions. This 420 00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:23,320 Speaker 1: is not me saying to you your stuff is in 421 00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:25,960 Speaker 1: the wrong place and you've got the wrong kind of room. 422 00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:31,000 Speaker 1: All I'm saying is, before you go to remodeling anything 423 00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:35,320 Speaker 1: in your house, design matters most. And the best design 424 00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:38,000 Speaker 1: is not just oh, let's pick a new color. No, 425 00:25:38,240 --> 00:25:42,240 Speaker 1: the best and most fundamental point of beginning a design 426 00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:47,200 Speaker 1: starts with the best and most fundamental questions. Question it all. 427 00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:52,440 Speaker 1: And if you come through the quiz, the self imposed quiz, 428 00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:55,479 Speaker 1: and find out that everything is in the right place, 429 00:25:55,600 --> 00:25:58,160 Speaker 1: everything is as as it should be, you just want 430 00:25:58,200 --> 00:26:01,000 Speaker 1: to make a tweak here and there. Then you know what, 431 00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:04,400 Speaker 1: God bless you do it? Do it knowing that all 432 00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:07,080 Speaker 1: of the questions have been answered. But the thing that 433 00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:10,080 Speaker 1: I find most tragic, and the thing that's probably responsible 434 00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:16,960 Speaker 1: for more what I call, you know, post design traumatic 435 00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:21,440 Speaker 1: design disorder, is when we just take conventional thinking in 436 00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:25,359 Speaker 1: and just sort of overlay somebody else's idea of what 437 00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:28,120 Speaker 1: a room is supposed to look like, and we haven't 438 00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:31,280 Speaker 1: actually corrected any of the potential problems that have been 439 00:26:31,359 --> 00:26:34,560 Speaker 1: hiding there or maybe hiding in plain sights, staring us 440 00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:37,159 Speaker 1: in the face for years and years and years, but 441 00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:41,560 Speaker 1: the right question has never brought the topic to the surface. 442 00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:44,440 Speaker 1: You know, kind of like our earlier caller today when 443 00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:46,800 Speaker 1: she was asking about the security of a front door, 444 00:26:47,200 --> 00:26:49,879 Speaker 1: and we think about, oh, make the door big and strong. 445 00:26:50,040 --> 00:26:52,280 Speaker 1: But you know, when somebody breaks in the door, it's 446 00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:56,800 Speaker 1: not the door that breaks ever, it's the jam. The 447 00:26:56,920 --> 00:26:59,320 Speaker 1: jam has to be stronger, not the door that should 448 00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:01,399 Speaker 1: be as obvious says the nose on our face. But 449 00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:04,080 Speaker 1: here's the problem with the nose on your face. Your 450 00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:06,199 Speaker 1: brain doesn't allow you to see it. Most of the 451 00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:09,920 Speaker 1: time you ever think about that, The nose on your 452 00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:13,760 Speaker 1: face gets cloned out of your consciousness unless you actually 453 00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:16,200 Speaker 1: go go ahead, look at it right now. There it is. Yep, 454 00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:18,680 Speaker 1: it's always in your field of view. And yet why 455 00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:21,880 Speaker 1: is it that you don't normally see it? I love 456 00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:24,600 Speaker 1: that phrase, plain is the nose on your face? Well, 457 00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:27,000 Speaker 1: you know what, buddy, whoever came up with that one, 458 00:27:27,440 --> 00:27:29,639 Speaker 1: The nose on your face is like the least plain 459 00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:33,280 Speaker 1: thing there is because your brain takes it out of 460 00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:39,320 Speaker 1: the question. The questions put something obvious like that back 461 00:27:39,359 --> 00:27:43,440 Speaker 1: into discussion, and that's how we get to the bottom 462 00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:46,960 Speaker 1: of making the right changes for your house the big questions. 463 00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:52,400 Speaker 1: Don't approach your remodel with a sense of certainty about anything. 464 00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:55,720 Speaker 1: Approach it with questions, with a humble heart, with a 465 00:27:55,800 --> 00:27:59,240 Speaker 1: humble mind. Re ask all the questions along as you go, 466 00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:03,760 Speaker 1: and then you get to do creative things. Maybe you 467 00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:06,000 Speaker 1: asked the question, is there a way we can vault 468 00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:08,240 Speaker 1: this ceiling in this bedroom? Maybe I can't make this 469 00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:11,600 Speaker 1: bedroom larger in square footage, but maybe I can make 470 00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:16,680 Speaker 1: it more spacious in terms of volume by vaulting the ceiling. Well, 471 00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:19,040 Speaker 1: get up there in the attic and see what's possible. 472 00:28:19,080 --> 00:28:22,239 Speaker 1: What's standing in the way of making this room have 473 00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:25,720 Speaker 1: a higher ceiling. Maybe you can't, but now you know 474 00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:28,680 Speaker 1: you know you can't. I can't vault my hallway down 475 00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:31,560 Speaker 1: the middle of my house because that's where the air 476 00:28:31,560 --> 00:28:33,480 Speaker 1: conditioner has to sit, and I have a very low 477 00:28:33,480 --> 00:28:36,199 Speaker 1: pitch roof. It's not gonna vault. Period. Done out of 478 00:28:36,200 --> 00:28:40,040 Speaker 1: the question. That's why we didn't do it. Otherwise might 479 00:28:40,080 --> 00:28:42,880 Speaker 1: have been a possibility. Got to ask the question first, 480 00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:46,400 Speaker 1: That's all I'm saying. All right, there's so much more 481 00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:48,320 Speaker 1: we can talk about bedrooms, which is why we will 482 00:28:48,360 --> 00:28:51,520 Speaker 1: talk about them yet again, very very soon. But that's 483 00:28:51,560 --> 00:28:53,560 Speaker 1: going to wrap it for today. I thought I would 484 00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:56,400 Speaker 1: just share something with you that I came across here 485 00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:01,760 Speaker 1: a closing thought for today. I had a birthday a 486 00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:04,880 Speaker 1: few days ago and a very dear friend of mine 487 00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:08,400 Speaker 1: gave me a card with a wonderful quote on it 488 00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:12,920 Speaker 1: from Albert Einstein, and she it was very honoring. I 489 00:29:12,960 --> 00:29:14,960 Speaker 1: was very honored because she said she ran across this 490 00:29:15,080 --> 00:29:18,040 Speaker 1: quote and it reminded her of me. This is one 491 00:29:18,080 --> 00:29:20,760 Speaker 1: of the things that Albert Einstein said, and I love this. 492 00:29:21,400 --> 00:29:24,800 Speaker 1: Do not grow old, no matter how long you live, 493 00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:30,680 Speaker 1: never cease to stand like curious children before the great 494 00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:35,920 Speaker 1: mystery into which we were born. Albert he knew some 495 00:29:36,080 --> 00:29:38,880 Speaker 1: things about the great mystery into which we were born, 496 00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:41,479 Speaker 1: and he knew enough to know that he didn't know 497 00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:45,480 Speaker 1: a lot. I don't like that quote. I love that quote. 498 00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:50,200 Speaker 1: Of course, we're still children. The universe is nearly fourteen 499 00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:54,280 Speaker 1: billion years old. I have been here for a handful 500 00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:58,160 Speaker 1: of decades. I could live a thousand lifetimes and still 501 00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:01,080 Speaker 1: not scratch the surface of all there is to know. 502 00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:06,800 Speaker 1: I mean, not even close and these days. You know what. 503 00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:10,360 Speaker 1: I only use the term adult because that's biologically true. 504 00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:13,400 Speaker 1: But I've rejected the term grown up because number one, 505 00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:17,120 Speaker 1: it's past tense grown up. I'm grown. That implies I'm 506 00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:20,640 Speaker 1: done growing and I am not done growing up. And 507 00:30:20,680 --> 00:30:23,400 Speaker 1: you shouldn't be either. Don't be afraid of continuing to grow. 508 00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:26,640 Speaker 1: It means you're still alive. The older I get, the 509 00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:30,600 Speaker 1: less I know, and I love that. It's uncomfortable sometimes, 510 00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:34,560 Speaker 1: but my growing lack of certainty about most things is 511 00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:39,680 Speaker 1: exciting and it's humbling. Voltaire said, this doubt is an 512 00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:45,080 Speaker 1: uncomfortable condition, but certainty is a ridiculous condition. I agree. 513 00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:48,600 Speaker 1: Aging well is the opportunity to become the person you 514 00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:51,280 Speaker 1: always should have been, And believe me, I am working 515 00:30:51,360 --> 00:30:53,920 Speaker 1: toward that end every way I can. So I will 516 00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:56,200 Speaker 1: share that quote with you one more time. Do not 517 00:30:56,280 --> 00:30:59,920 Speaker 1: grow old, no matter how long you live, never see 518 00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:03,640 Speaker 1: to stand like curious children before the great mystery into 519 00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:07,240 Speaker 1: which we were born. Thank you, Albert Einstein, and thank 520 00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:10,120 Speaker 1: you for tuning into the show today. We'll be right 521 00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:13,120 Speaker 1: back here next weekend. Until then, get out there and 522 00:31:13,160 --> 00:31:16,480 Speaker 1: get busy building yourself a beautiful life. We'll see you 523 00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:20,120 Speaker 1: next week, This has been Home with Dean Sharp, the 524 00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:23,320 Speaker 1: House Whisper. Tune into the live broadcast on KFI AM 525 00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:26,920 Speaker 1: six forty every Saturday morning from six to eight Pacific time, 526 00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:30,200 Speaker 1: and every Sunday morning from nine to noon Pacific time, 527 00:31:30,480 --> 00:31:34,000 Speaker 1: or anytime on demand on the iHeartRadio app