1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:01,920 Speaker 1: It's a star one on one three, It's Marcus in 2 00:00:01,960 --> 00:00:04,040 Speaker 1: the morning. We're back with it. It's second data update. 3 00:00:04,160 --> 00:00:06,960 Speaker 1: Let's bring our guy Alex on. Good morning Alex, Hey guys, 4 00:00:07,040 --> 00:00:09,240 Speaker 1: Good morning, Hey man. Everybody kind of knows how this 5 00:00:09,320 --> 00:00:11,360 Speaker 1: works already. We've been doing it for almost a decade. 6 00:00:11,440 --> 00:00:14,200 Speaker 1: So Alex got ghosted by a lady named Monica and 7 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:15,960 Speaker 1: you guys went to dinner in Campbell. I got this 8 00:00:16,079 --> 00:00:18,720 Speaker 1: right so far. Yeah, okay, tell us about the date. 9 00:00:18,800 --> 00:00:20,480 Speaker 1: Let's roll it out. What did you guys do? 10 00:00:20,680 --> 00:00:24,799 Speaker 2: We match on an app, right, and immediately we start 11 00:00:24,840 --> 00:00:27,760 Speaker 2: talking and I'm having good vibes of like, okay, we're 12 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:31,240 Speaker 2: getting along and it seems like not like just the 13 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 2: personal level, but like where we are in life, you know, 14 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:38,640 Speaker 2: with dating and partnership, and she was vibing in the 15 00:00:38,640 --> 00:00:40,960 Speaker 2: same way, and to be honest, it felt like a 16 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:43,360 Speaker 2: breath of fresh air. We had a date and it 17 00:00:43,479 --> 00:00:46,760 Speaker 2: was amazing. Like so sometimes the chemistry when you're talking 18 00:00:47,200 --> 00:00:49,280 Speaker 2: on an app doesn't really translate to in person, but 19 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:52,639 Speaker 2: this time it did and it was wonderful. And I've 20 00:00:52,680 --> 00:00:55,080 Speaker 2: really was like, okay, Monica and I have like there's 21 00:00:55,520 --> 00:00:57,880 Speaker 2: what's the word I'm looking for potential. Okay, there's a 22 00:00:57,920 --> 00:01:00,000 Speaker 2: lot of potential here, okay, and I'm just kind of 23 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 2: confuse why it kind of. 24 00:01:02,080 --> 00:01:06,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, well, we're gonna get her on the phone. 25 00:01:06,120 --> 00:01:08,280 Speaker 1: We're gonna have you muted. I'm gonna try to figure 26 00:01:08,280 --> 00:01:10,360 Speaker 1: out A why does she ghost? And B can we 27 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:13,360 Speaker 1: get a second date? Okay, okay, it's Marcus in the Morning. 28 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:15,880 Speaker 1: We're doing second date update. We've got Alex on the phone. 29 00:01:15,959 --> 00:01:18,160 Speaker 1: We're about to call his date, Monica, who did ghost. 30 00:01:18,760 --> 00:01:21,839 Speaker 1: They had dinner in Campbell, which is a super cute 31 00:01:21,920 --> 00:01:23,640 Speaker 1: place to just walk around. And I mean you could 32 00:01:23,640 --> 00:01:25,400 Speaker 1: have dinner, you could have gelatto, you can get into 33 00:01:25,440 --> 00:01:29,400 Speaker 1: some trouble. I don't know Katie Blooms. But anyway, Alex, 34 00:01:29,440 --> 00:01:32,320 Speaker 1: you were saying, by your estimation, it went well. 35 00:01:32,160 --> 00:01:36,000 Speaker 2: Yes, oh okay, with a lot of chemistry. 36 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:38,679 Speaker 3: Let's call her and see what's up. So go ahead 37 00:01:38,680 --> 00:01:49,960 Speaker 3: and mute. Here we go. Hello, Hi, I'm looking for Monica. 38 00:01:51,000 --> 00:01:51,440 Speaker 3: Is Monica? 39 00:01:51,560 --> 00:01:55,280 Speaker 1: Yes, Hi, Monica, this is Marcus calling from Star one 40 00:01:55,280 --> 00:01:57,160 Speaker 1: O one three, the Morning Show. 41 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:00,720 Speaker 4: I don't I think you may have the wrong number. 42 00:02:00,880 --> 00:02:04,600 Speaker 1: No, no, no, okay, I got your phone number from a 43 00:02:04,680 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 1: guy who you have been on a date with recently, 44 00:02:07,280 --> 00:02:09,200 Speaker 1: and I'm wondering if you have a minute to discuss 45 00:02:09,720 --> 00:02:10,280 Speaker 1: said date? 46 00:02:10,520 --> 00:02:12,160 Speaker 4: Is this about Alex? 47 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:16,239 Speaker 3: It is so Alex gave me your phone number. 48 00:02:16,360 --> 00:02:19,280 Speaker 1: He's feeling like you ghosted, and I just I'm trying 49 00:02:19,280 --> 00:02:21,520 Speaker 1: to figure out why would you mind talking about the 50 00:02:21,600 --> 00:02:22,160 Speaker 1: date on the year. 51 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:25,480 Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean that's fine. 52 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:28,040 Speaker 3: Okay, sweet? Did you ghost? 53 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:30,080 Speaker 4: I did? I absolutely did? 54 00:02:30,240 --> 00:02:33,280 Speaker 3: Okay? What did did he do something dumb? 55 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 4: I mean it started out fine, we connected well on whatever, 56 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:41,320 Speaker 4: but then he started doing something that I couldn't get passed. 57 00:02:42,040 --> 00:02:42,519 Speaker 3: Okay. 58 00:02:42,919 --> 00:02:49,440 Speaker 4: He started to reframe everything positively, even like things that 59 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:52,360 Speaker 4: didn't need to be positive. 60 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:55,800 Speaker 3: Is that an issue? Was he was he too? Was 61 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:57,520 Speaker 3: he too positive? Explain? 62 00:02:57,840 --> 00:03:01,000 Speaker 4: If I would share something he would be like, that's 63 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:04,679 Speaker 4: actually a really good problem to have, or like he'd 64 00:03:04,680 --> 00:03:09,360 Speaker 4: say I love that for you. That's growth. Honestly, it 65 00:03:09,480 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 4: was just weird and annoying. 66 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:13,240 Speaker 3: Okay. 67 00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 4: You know you want a vent, You want to be sarcastic. 68 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:17,720 Speaker 4: You know you have a hard week. You kind of 69 00:03:17,760 --> 00:03:20,560 Speaker 4: just want to let that out, and you just don't 70 00:03:20,600 --> 00:03:23,560 Speaker 4: need somebody to be overly positive and turn everything into 71 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 4: a motivational quote all the time. 72 00:03:25,639 --> 00:03:32,400 Speaker 3: Sure, so he was too positive. He was I've heard this, go. 73 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:34,480 Speaker 4: Ahead, okay, So like he did all that, but then 74 00:03:34,560 --> 00:03:37,040 Speaker 4: for me would absolutely seal the deal where I was done. 75 00:03:37,480 --> 00:03:39,840 Speaker 4: At the end of the date, he pulled out his 76 00:03:39,960 --> 00:03:42,400 Speaker 4: phone and he said that he likes to do a 77 00:03:42,480 --> 00:03:47,280 Speaker 4: quick gratitude check in after date, and so he listed 78 00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:51,480 Speaker 4: three things that he appreciated about the evening out loud, 79 00:03:52,320 --> 00:03:53,720 Speaker 4: and then he asked me what. 80 00:03:53,880 --> 00:03:58,920 Speaker 3: Mine were, like your highlights pretty much? 81 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:02,160 Speaker 4: And I didn't know what to say because I was 82 00:04:02,160 --> 00:04:04,200 Speaker 4: still processing the date. We were still on it. I 83 00:04:04,240 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 4: don't know, but now I do. 84 00:04:07,040 --> 00:04:09,440 Speaker 1: Okay, here's the other half of this. I think I've 85 00:04:09,440 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 1: heard enough at this point, so Alex is actually listening. 86 00:04:12,920 --> 00:04:16,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, hey, and hey thanks Alex. 87 00:04:17,240 --> 00:04:21,080 Speaker 1: Okay, this is awkward, obviously, I want to get your thoughts. 88 00:04:21,320 --> 00:04:26,800 Speaker 2: I mean, like, I look, I don't see that's an 89 00:04:26,800 --> 00:04:29,240 Speaker 2: odd thing to say that I'm too positive. At the 90 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:32,159 Speaker 2: end of the day, I feel like I like debt Taoism, 91 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:36,320 Speaker 2: you know, the Daosa Chang like Eastern philosophy has been 92 00:04:36,360 --> 00:04:39,320 Speaker 2: important in my life, and it's all about reframing things 93 00:04:39,360 --> 00:04:43,240 Speaker 2: in a way that's positive. There's nothing really wrong in 94 00:04:43,279 --> 00:04:45,880 Speaker 2: life because if you look at it, there's an undercurrent 95 00:04:45,920 --> 00:04:48,440 Speaker 2: of like sweetness, you know, and that's what I believe in. 96 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:51,800 Speaker 2: And people will label this toxic positivity, but it's actually 97 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:54,960 Speaker 2: toxic I think to see even frame it that way 98 00:04:55,000 --> 00:04:57,360 Speaker 2: because the zeitgeist is like that, you know, it's okay 99 00:04:57,400 --> 00:04:59,159 Speaker 2: to be negative and it's okay to show on people. 100 00:04:59,320 --> 00:04:59,400 Speaker 1: No. 101 00:04:59,760 --> 00:05:03,080 Speaker 4: I see where you're coming from. But like I said before, 102 00:05:03,279 --> 00:05:06,159 Speaker 4: sometimes you just want to vent and have a bad 103 00:05:06,279 --> 00:05:09,200 Speaker 4: day and like release that onto your person just to 104 00:05:09,279 --> 00:05:12,599 Speaker 4: kind of like you know, get advice or reassurance or 105 00:05:12,640 --> 00:05:15,240 Speaker 4: you know, somebody to be cranky and upset with you. 106 00:05:15,839 --> 00:05:17,720 Speaker 1: Right, let's let's move on to the other thing that 107 00:05:17,800 --> 00:05:19,760 Speaker 1: the whole gratitude check in at the end of the day. 108 00:05:19,839 --> 00:05:22,039 Speaker 3: What was that about? Seems like a lot to ask. 109 00:05:22,200 --> 00:05:24,000 Speaker 2: I don't think so, man. They say, like when you 110 00:05:24,080 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 2: verbalize things, you're like working with words. Words are powerful. 111 00:05:27,440 --> 00:05:29,680 Speaker 4: Maybe that would have been more acceptable though, if like 112 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:32,920 Speaker 4: we knew each other more. But for the first time 113 00:05:33,040 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 4: saying that out loud, that was too much like you 114 00:05:36,440 --> 00:05:39,799 Speaker 4: weren't this positive, Polly like over text? 115 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:42,880 Speaker 3: Rachel? Could we try this again? Is there any shot 116 00:05:42,880 --> 00:05:44,960 Speaker 3: of the second date? Alex, do you even want to 117 00:05:45,000 --> 00:05:46,040 Speaker 3: second date at this point? 118 00:05:46,320 --> 00:05:49,800 Speaker 2: I don't think so. If my like basic values and 119 00:05:49,960 --> 00:05:52,720 Speaker 2: spiritual values are not aligned with yours, and I think 120 00:05:52,760 --> 00:05:54,159 Speaker 2: you know that's a luck to you and I wish 121 00:05:54,279 --> 00:05:57,479 Speaker 2: you'd find something that aligns with the end. If I'm not, 122 00:05:57,480 --> 00:05:58,159 Speaker 2: it's cool with me.