Speaker 1: All right, it is Mojo in the morning, Kevin with hookups,
Speaker 1: dues and don'ts love this.
Speaker 2: I do not know how to not be myself, and
Speaker 2: in certain situations when you're just hooking up with someone,
Speaker 2: I don't think that me being myself is the best
Speaker 2: thing to be for only hookup situations. I'm the type
Speaker 2: of person. I'm the type of person that cares about people.
Speaker 2: I like to get to know who you are. I
Speaker 2: like for you to get to know who I am.
Speaker 2: I'm a very transparent personal person. I'm a very vulnerable individual.
Speaker 2: I like to talk. I like to understand things. I
Speaker 2: like to lend advice. I like to be a listening ear.
Speaker 2: I like to connect. All good, But for people you
Speaker 2: just having sex with, doing all of the things that
Speaker 2: come naturally to me and the things that I like
Speaker 2: to do is in best for those just physical connections,
Speaker 2: and because of me.
Speaker 3: Doing all those other things. Let me hold the door.
Speaker 2: Open for you, let me come walk you from the
Speaker 2: parking garage like it's not just the smash. Even though
Speaker 2: I do not want a relationship with this person, we
Speaker 2: start to start to develop these emotional connections because I'm
Speaker 2: just not justking you more because no guy has done
Speaker 2: that for them. I don't know if no guy has
Speaker 2: ever done it for him. It's just or usually guys
Speaker 2: that they're in relationships, and if it's just a smash
Speaker 2: and go, I don't know how to do that, Like
Speaker 2: that's that's just weird to me.
Speaker 4: I feel like you just need to communicate with them.
Speaker 2: I do, But communication doesn't eliminate emotions.
Speaker 5: Because it's very simple. Actions speak louder than words. So
Speaker 5: if I'm on the receiving end of all of that, keV,
Speaker 5: I'm thinking he's telling me he doesn't want anything, but
Speaker 5: he's he clearly is into me.
Speaker 3: But I don't know how not to be myself.
Speaker 4: I don't have an answer for you.
Speaker 1: How many how many hookups do you think in your
Speaker 1: life you've had compared two relationships, way more so, way
Speaker 1: more hookups, absolutely, And how many of those hookups have
Speaker 1: missed took your being you as you wanted a relationship.
Speaker 2: I would say the majority of them as I am
Speaker 2: later in my life, Like when everybody's like super young,
Speaker 2: early twenties, nothing really mattered like that, Like nobody was
Speaker 2: looking you just love in these situations you're a twenty
Speaker 2: year old, Yeah, but as like later twenties early thirties,
Speaker 2: people start to change the way they perceive their life
Speaker 2: and they start to want to involve themselves in more
Speaker 2: serious things. Yeah, then they want that, even though, like
Speaker 2: I said, we communicated that's not what we both have
Speaker 2: established that, that's not what we're looking for. That's not
Speaker 2: what we're entering this as. But as time progressed and
Speaker 2: you start learning people, they wanted to be more. So
Speaker 2: I'm like, I need some you.
Speaker 1: Know what you need? You need a warning label on
Speaker 1: your warning. This guy is just a nice guy but
Speaker 1: just wants a hook up. Warning, we'll fall in love.
Speaker 1: You almost need to honestly, you need to forewarn them
Speaker 1: ahead of time. You almost need to say, hey, listen,
Speaker 1: I'm only looking for a hook cup before we start.
Speaker 3: Now, let me hold the door open for you. What
Speaker 3: I'm saying, that's what it's still mixed and really, yes,
Speaker 3: we established that going into it, that we are not
Speaker 3: looking hot.
Speaker 1: Would it be if a girl just said to you,
Speaker 1: I just want to f you and I don't want
Speaker 1: anything else.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's what they say. Also say that to you.
Speaker 2: What I'm saying is I communicate my intentions. They communicate
Speaker 2: their intentions. They're not looking for a relationship either.
Speaker 3: It gets money, but you don't communicate that right away.
Speaker 3: You just spend time with them. No, no, no, no.
Speaker 2: I mean I would say, first time we get drinks,
Speaker 2: so you say them right the first time you get drinks.
Speaker 2: You have actually said to a girl, I'm just looking
Speaker 2: to as you say, smash.
Speaker 3: First time I've done it. You sit there and tell
Speaker 3: me about yourself. What's that mean?
Speaker 2: I like to be upfront with people and say, listen,
Speaker 2: I find you extremely attractive. I'm not here to be
Speaker 2: your friend like I don't know are waiting around for
Speaker 2: I'm not like I'm not. I'm not taking you out
Speaker 2: because I wanted to get to know you. I can
Speaker 2: never say that.
Speaker 3: Oh see, I think.
Speaker 5: keV is very black and white with your words. I
Speaker 5: think you're Mary Blunt. You say it like it is.
Speaker 3: I couldn't.
Speaker 5: I think though that where I keep using the word
Speaker 5: money because it does it gets gray. Is you you are?
Speaker 5: You act differently. You say something and you're very clear
Speaker 5: about what you say and what you want. But you're
Speaker 5: right your behavior. I could see where a girl would
Speaker 5: be like, well, I think he's this is changing into
Speaker 5: something else, You're.
Speaker 2: Still a woman. You still should be treated with respect
Speaker 2: and as a woman. Just because I don't want a
Speaker 2: relationship with you doesn't mean I need to just treat
Speaker 2: you like an object.
Speaker 4: I think opening doors is one thing. I think it's
Speaker 4: the emotional stuff, like the talking and getting to know them.
Speaker 4: That's where I personally would be like, oh, he really
Speaker 4: does care about me.
Speaker 3: So I've seen that in this studio before. What are
Speaker 3: you talking about right now? What's going on? How are you?
Speaker 3: I'd good? What's going on.
Speaker 6: When you when you just said a second ago, really
Speaker 6: spoke to me. You said, they start liking me more
Speaker 6: because no one has ever done that them, And that's
Speaker 6: so true. Like when I was dating, I feel like
Speaker 6: I was like looking back, I was definitely.
Speaker 7: The queen of the Lulu.
Speaker 6: Like once somebody would do something nice to me, I
Speaker 6: would just be like, oh, yeah, he wants to do
Speaker 6: with me. And like keV was saying, you know, when
Speaker 6: you're younger, you know, it's more like you're just kind
Speaker 6: of wanting a hookup. But me, I actually got married
Speaker 6: at twenty years old, so like I you know, kind
Speaker 6: of went through that stuff early on, was like this
Speaker 6: is enough.
Speaker 1: So do you think that you guys got to have
Speaker 1: that open conversation, that's what you know, get it out
Speaker 1: in the forefront, like Kevin actually will say, here are
Speaker 1: my intentions.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I definitely that's really really important because yeah, you
Speaker 6: don't want to have any misunderstanding because I always.
Speaker 1: Did, Yeah, what's going on, Shanna?
Speaker 6: Hi?
Speaker 5: Hi?
Speaker 7: So I basically did single my entire life. And I
Speaker 7: have friends as I call them, and they will always
Speaker 7: be my friends. But I'm very upfront about the fact
Speaker 7: that I have almost three grown kids. One of my
Speaker 7: kids is in the Navy, I travel all the time,
Speaker 7: I have grandkids, I have a full time job. Like
Speaker 7: I don't want anything serious, and we might even like
Speaker 7: go to dinner, go to oasis, like do things still
Speaker 7: not in a relationship and I don't want anything serious.
Speaker 1: So you tell them right away all of that stuff.
Speaker 1: And what what what kind of reactions have you gotten
Speaker 1: from these guys?
Speaker 7: I mean most of them are cool with it, but yes,
Speaker 7: some of them do get feelings, and some of them
Speaker 7: are like, are you gonna stay and cuddle? And I'm like, no,
Speaker 7: I'm going home to cuddle with my dogs.
Speaker 1: By the way, By the way, that that is interesting
Speaker 1: because I think that, you know, you would not think
Speaker 1: that guys would be that way the stereotype.
Speaker 7: Would than women probably, and they always think that they
Speaker 7: can change things. But you just have to be very
Speaker 7: direct with them and don't get in those deep conversations.
Speaker 7: I kind of keep everything light. But at the end
Speaker 7: of the day, I'm still a time, caring, loving person
Speaker 7: and they all love that, and a lot of them
Speaker 7: haven't experienced that. But I don't want to be with anyone.
Speaker 7: I don't want to be with anyone. I want to like,
Speaker 7: I'm too invested in my life.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they used to have it. They used to have
Speaker 1: a dating app for this. It was called Tinder, and
Speaker 1: it was that everybody go on there that doesn't want
Speaker 1: anything other than just they should just have like literally
Speaker 1: a thing where it's like just a hook up.
Speaker 2: I like that, though. I like connected with somebody beyond
Speaker 2: just that. I like to understand who's I'm not even
Speaker 2: like I just like, but you don't want a relationship, Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's I think it's just who I am.
Speaker 1: Like, I like connecting with people. Hold On, Toya is
Speaker 1: not happy. It sounds like with Kevin, what's up?
Speaker 7: Hey, who's going on?
Speaker 6: Key?
Speaker 8: What's up my baby?
Speaker 3: Listen.
Speaker 8: There's two points I'm gonna make real quick. One, I
Speaker 8: think that you should chill out because I know or
Speaker 8: you share that eventually you want to settle down, Eventually
Speaker 8: you want a family, you know, et cetera, et cetera.
Speaker 8: And I think in this stage right now, that just
Speaker 8: doing hookups is why things are confusing. The second point
Speaker 8: is I, even though you're communicating, I feel that there
Speaker 8: are some women who understand that and are going into
Speaker 8: it just like you.
Speaker 4: Right.
Speaker 8: They're not intentionally saying like, oh he's changing his mind.
Speaker 3: But we're human.
Speaker 8: We are made with feelings.
Speaker 3: We like feeling love.
Speaker 8: We like feeling care, we like feeling protected. And because
Speaker 8: being the awesome, you know, beautiful king that you are,
Speaker 8: it exudes, right and whether you want it to or not,
Speaker 8: and then that's when things get mixed up. I think
Speaker 8: on both ends. So I don't think the women are
Speaker 8: saying are not listening to you. I just think as
Speaker 8: time goes on, you're doing those relationship based things that
Speaker 8: it's getting confusing. So I know some time back you
Speaker 8: took some time to you know, just be to yourself,
Speaker 8: and I think really reevaluate what your intentions are for
Speaker 8: twenty twenty six, Are you truly trying to find love?
Speaker 7: What is your goal?
Speaker 8: Are you truly getting to the point where you want
Speaker 8: to be in a relationship and it really just takes
Speaker 8: time to focus on that, and you know, there's other
Speaker 8: things besides cooking up if you need to do what
Speaker 8: you need to do.
Speaker 7: Okay, now, y'all know I love y'all.
Speaker 9: What an.
Speaker 3: I appreciate all that.
Speaker 2: I know exactly what I want for twenty twenty six
Speaker 2: in regards to it is, I don't want a relationship.
Speaker 3: That's not what I'm after.
Speaker 2: If that happens, or if someone comes around that changes
Speaker 2: my mind, then we'll be intentionally moving in that interesting.
Speaker 3: So your thing focused is here is I'm not finding somebody. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I mean that's what I communicate. I'm not actively looking
Speaker 3: for a relationship. I have a question.
Speaker 4: Have you ever been in the situation where you do
Speaker 4: these things and you start to maybe catch a little
Speaker 4: bit feelings, no, like, as you get to know them
Speaker 4: and hear their stories.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean genuine Yeah, I mean I start to
Speaker 2: like the person. But I've never been in a situation
Speaker 2: where I've like said, okay, yes you are somebody I
Speaker 2: want to move forward.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like not like that.
Speaker 1: I've noticed that the girl that there was one girl
Speaker 1: that you would that wouldn't do the relationship.
Speaker 3: She was like, your bestie, that's the one that.
Speaker 5: Then she came remember that. I feel like then she
Speaker 5: came around and was like maybe I do.
Speaker 2: Like yeah, but best we haven't done anything sexually though,
Speaker 2: Like that's not a part of our friendship.
Speaker 1: James has a very important question to ask. I think
Speaker 1: this is interesting because I don't even know the answer. James,
Speaker 1: what's your question?
Speaker 3: keV? Has your like, uh, just ask the question, Just
Speaker 3: ask the question.
Speaker 10: Yeah, yeah, has your hookup gone up since you've been
Speaker 10: on the radio, like since you started your radio job?
Speaker 2: No, I mean not significantly. No, I don't listen, that's nothing.
Speaker 2: I just I don't sleep with.
Speaker 1: Everybody who wants with me. How many don't do that
Speaker 1: since you started on the radio? How many hookups?
Speaker 3: Not a lot? That crazy?
Speaker 1: Like more more or less? Like we're checking boxes one
Speaker 1: to three.
Speaker 2: Ford I would say, Bro, I'm not I don't know week,
Speaker 2: I don't know what y'all think of me, but it's
Speaker 2: not I'm not out here like that. This is good
Speaker 2: for us to hear, Yeah, Eric, what's up?
Speaker 3: Eric?
Speaker 10: So Kevin is very transparent and saying what he wants.
Speaker 3: Mm hmm.
Speaker 10: But as humans, we learn about ourselves every single day.
Speaker 10: Maybe he hasn't learned this about himself. Maybe he's not
Speaker 10: an actual f boy. Maybe he is a relationship man.
Speaker 10: I don't know, kind of sounds like it.
Speaker 2: I love people, I like people, I was about to
Speaker 2: get married. I don't know where does like Kevin is
Speaker 2: an f boy thing comes from? Do we do we
Speaker 2: forget the last year and a half a mile life
Speaker 2: and only focused on the last six months.
Speaker 3: But I think that's why. No, no, no, you're in
Speaker 3: your whole phase.
Speaker 1: Well but no, but that is why a surprise came
Speaker 1: out that you said this year you're just you're not
Speaker 1: looking for a relationship.
Speaker 3: That surprising. Why is it surprising?
Speaker 5: Because because I feel like you've always talked about how
Speaker 5: you want to get married, you possibly want to have
Speaker 5: more kids.
Speaker 3: So I just thought, yeah, but I'm not.
Speaker 2: I'm not looking for the one though, Like I'm not
Speaker 2: out here on the hunt, on the chase.
Speaker 4: They say that's when it finds you, But.
Speaker 2: When it finds me, I think at the right time,
Speaker 2: it will find me. I'm not out here looking for
Speaker 2: it though.
Speaker 1: Not looking for it, but if it should happen, if
Speaker 1: it should happen, if.
Speaker 3: It's meant to be, it will be God. All right,
Speaker 3: all right, how do you get any dudes? And don't stuff?
Speaker 1: But you know, I like where things are going again,
Speaker 1: last words from Heather on this one here.
Speaker 9: I think it's more like kind of like what Toya
Speaker 9: said and then the gentleman that just talked, I think
Speaker 9: Kevin wants a relationship up. He knows he wants a relationship,
Speaker 9: but it's also a respect thing. When you go to
Speaker 9: the female and you said, I just want to smash,
Speaker 9: and he just wants to smash, then a woman kind
Speaker 9: of takes the respect like she's got no respect for herself,
Speaker 9: none for Kevin. They're gonna play, they're gonna have fun
Speaker 9: on all of that. But then when Kevin's showing the
Speaker 9: emotion back, that's telling her maybe he does like me,
Speaker 9: because this doesn't isn't my you know what, buddy, He's
Speaker 9: kind of making you know, making me feel like I
Speaker 9: have feelings for him, and she's probably getting back for him,
Speaker 9: you know what I mean. I think it's more of
Speaker 9: a respect thing either. Kevin needs to say, Okay, we
Speaker 9: need to smash.
Speaker 8: That's it.
Speaker 9: But I can't treat you like a lady. Don't open
Speaker 9: my door when you know what I mean?
Speaker 7: Does that make sense?
Speaker 3: Kind of? But I can't operate like that. I'm not
Speaker 3: you know what I mean.
Speaker 9: You can't operate like that, then you can't don't look
Speaker 9: for a smash buddy. You are looking for a relationship.
Speaker 1: Can I tell you what I think Kevin's problem is
Speaker 1: Kevin Kevin is a guy female or even male. When
Speaker 1: you meet him, you love him, and you don't want
Speaker 1: just Kevin in your life for a moment. You want
Speaker 1: it in there for a while. And I think the
Speaker 1: problem with you is you're so engaging as a human
Speaker 1: being that people are drawn to you. So if you
Speaker 1: are and this is even with you know dudes, guys
Speaker 1: want to be your best buddy because when they meet you,
Speaker 1: they're like, this is a guy I want to have
Speaker 1: in my life. And if you're just looking for I
Speaker 1: don't know, what do you call a guy that's not
Speaker 1: a non smash buddy?
Speaker 3: You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Like, if you're looking for like, if you just want
Speaker 1: a guy for like, hey, let's just you know, it's
Speaker 1: nice to meet you great you know, you know some
Speaker 1: people just come and passing. So I think you're he's
Speaker 1: an engaging guy, and I think it's very difficult for you,
Speaker 1: probably even more so than the women that you go with,
Speaker 1: because everybody wants to be part of you.
Speaker 3: And I think that you know what you need. What
Speaker 3: do I need an evil twin or you need? No,
Speaker 3: you need an evil I know.
Speaker 2: I just don't want to sacrifice the best versions of me. No,
Speaker 2: you're a great guy in order to listen.
Speaker 3: I don't know. I'm not going to stop being myself.
Speaker 7: You know.
Speaker 1: I want to spend more time with you. I can't
Speaker 1: imagine why women wouldn't want to spend more time with
Speaker 1: you when they're just smashing so as you say, especially
Speaker 1: if good, well, I don't want the d