WEBVTT - Should Lydia DM Him Back?

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<v Speaker 1>Mojo in the morning show. So Lydia, we understand has

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<v Speaker 1>been flirting back and forth through the DMS with a boy.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>So there's this guy that I've spoken to in the past,

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<v Speaker 3>Like when we first met, we would hang out sometimes

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<v Speaker 3>with mutual friends. We kissed a few times, but we've

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<v Speaker 3>never been on like a formal date. And this was

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<v Speaker 3>like in my early twenties. Well, now that I've been

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<v Speaker 3>recently single, I'm like, well, let me circle the block

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<v Speaker 3>on him. He's been posting stuff on social media and

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<v Speaker 3>so I slid up on one of his stories and

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<v Speaker 3>we were talking over the weekend and then he's just

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<v Speaker 3>stopped replying to me out of nowhere.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, so go back for a second. You're you're racing

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<v Speaker 1>fast through this thing. I know you want to Yeah, don't. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>slow down just a little bit because you're I sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>have to really hear things, like three times. So you

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<v Speaker 1>started talking to this guy back in your early twenties.

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<v Speaker 1>Now you're in your what mid twenties, late twenties seven,

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<v Speaker 1>So it's been how many years now since you talked

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<v Speaker 1>to this five years? Five years? And you decided you

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<v Speaker 1>were going to circle back or he circled back I

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<v Speaker 1>was going to circle back, and so what was your

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<v Speaker 1>text or what was your DM to him?

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<v Speaker 2>To circle back?

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<v Speaker 3>I was just saying like, hey, how are you. It's

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<v Speaker 3>been a long time, Like he posted a selfie of

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<v Speaker 3>him in his new car that he got, and so

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, Flori, he drives a.

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<v Speaker 2>Caddy a caddy and I used.

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<v Speaker 3>That as my way because he doesn't post on social

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<v Speaker 3>media that much, so I use that as.

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<v Speaker 2>My ind And what did he respond?

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<v Speaker 3>And he responded He's like, hey, it's been a while,

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<v Speaker 3>like miss you.

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<v Speaker 4>And I was like, okay, perfect, Wait he said miss you.

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<v Speaker 2>He did miss me, So you say then to miss you?

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<v Speaker 2>What did you say?

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, miss you too, and then I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>miss that kiss that we shared?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh you trying to get okay, wow, that's actually pretty forward.

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<v Speaker 1>I missed that kid.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And then he just went off with it like

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<v Speaker 3>he was flirting back and forth with me. We were,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, sharing some things about the first night that

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<v Speaker 3>we met, and it's been like nothing sent.

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<v Speaker 1>Can we ask you what happened on the first night

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<v Speaker 1>or was it something that's too personal teme.

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<v Speaker 3>No, it's fine. We met at a club. We got

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<v Speaker 3>to know each other a little bit. His cousin is

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<v Speaker 3>best friends with my best friend, and so after we

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<v Speaker 3>were getting to talking and having a couple of drinks,

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<v Speaker 3>we started kissing at the table that we were sitting at.

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<v Speaker 3>And ever since then we followed each other on social media.

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<v Speaker 3>We've dmmed back and forth. I've had boyfriends in between

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<v Speaker 3>the times, so we haven't spoken.

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<v Speaker 5>What was the last like, what was the last the

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<v Speaker 5>very last text that was set or whatever?

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<v Speaker 3>He sent me a message saying good morning and I

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<v Speaker 3>said good morning back to him, and then he never

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<v Speaker 3>responded to me.

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<v Speaker 1>How long has it been since the last five am yesterday?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh?

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<v Speaker 4>Relax, Maybe he just doesn't want to come on too strong.

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<v Speaker 5>I feel like if he came out and said good

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<v Speaker 5>morning first, that's a promising sign to me.

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<v Speaker 6>Really yeah, let's ask like the bare minimum, let's ask

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<v Speaker 6>the listeners.

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<v Speaker 2>What if he.

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<v Speaker 4>Didn't care, he wouldn't have said anything.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you guys think?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think that Lydia needs to respond back or

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<v Speaker 1>do you think that do you think that she should

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<v Speaker 1>play it cool? I mean, this is interesting. So this

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<v Speaker 1>is a guy that she shared time with.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you feel like he's the one that got away?

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<v Speaker 2>Is that why?

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<v Speaker 6>You reached out or are you just in a stage

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<v Speaker 6>where he was dealing with somebody. Now you're done with

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<v Speaker 6>that person and you still got that sexual energy, like

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<v Speaker 6>I need to just bounce on to somebody else and

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<v Speaker 6>then you hit him up.

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<v Speaker 3>I think that anytime him and I would talk, it

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<v Speaker 3>was mainly about the first time we met, because we

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<v Speaker 3>haven't gotten anything off of it.

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<v Speaker 4>So you just want to see if there's anything there, right.

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<v Speaker 3>But he's so shy, he really is, Like it took

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<v Speaker 3>him a long time through the whole night that we

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<v Speaker 3>were hanging out to even make a move.

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<v Speaker 5>If he's shy, I mean, that could explain a lot

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<v Speaker 5>too of why he's not being super forward or I

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<v Speaker 5>don't know, chatty.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh eight four to four Mojo Live eight four four

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<v Speaker 1>sixty sixty five six' five four. Eight my first thing

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<v Speaker 1>THAT i would do is like What kevin, Said what

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<v Speaker 1>did you? Say you got a? Chill is that what you're? Saying,

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<v Speaker 1>yeah JUST i. Relaxed, YEAH i THINK i think it's

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<v Speaker 1>only been twenty four. Hours that would be my first.

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<v Speaker 1>Thing but if it gets past, nine if it gets

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<v Speaker 1>past if it gets past the twenty nine, hours then

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<v Speaker 1>what does she?

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<v Speaker 2>Do it still too how?

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<v Speaker 1>LONG i don't know if it's what if we're days

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<v Speaker 1>or even weeks.

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<v Speaker 6>Away if it's, weeks that's. Clear, yeah that's saying a

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<v Speaker 6>lot without having to say. Anything, lydia you like this?

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<v Speaker 2>Guy? Huh is it a? Question is this guy got?

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<v Speaker 2>Hair there's a lot of. Hair every TIME i ever.

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<v Speaker 1>Talked to her about guys that she's, with this guy

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<v Speaker 1>got hair because some of these guys don't have any.

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<v Speaker 2>Hair some of these guys have. Hair you gotta take a.

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<v Speaker 2>Trip what's, Up? Brian how you? Doing not much, kidding,

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<v Speaker 2>BUDDY i gotta tell you.

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<v Speaker 3>Something i'm listening to a little comments you were gonna

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<v Speaker 3>say about, Uh.

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<v Speaker 6>LYDIA i was, like, man you need to calm.

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<v Speaker 2>Down and my, Friend i'm asking the. Question she, said

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<v Speaker 2>something happened the first. NIGHT i wanted to know if

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<v Speaker 2>it's WHAT i.

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<v Speaker 3>Thought we just got to do a second day to

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<v Speaker 3>day from, THAT i know we're doing it right.

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<v Speaker 1>Now we'd be great if we could get him to

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<v Speaker 1>come on with. Us that would be even better than

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<v Speaker 1>just us asking what do you think she should? Do

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<v Speaker 1>should she send him another message or?

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<v Speaker 2>Wait She i'd wait.

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<v Speaker 6>A little bit, longer maybe like child tomorrow and then shoot.

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<v Speaker 2>Something, yeah, okay, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>You want to be a pick, me you.

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<v Speaker 3>KNOW i don't want to sound thirsty at.

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<v Speaker 2>All, Hey, mark what's? Happening BUT i Am.

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<v Speaker 6>Ledia lydia needs to reach.

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<v Speaker 7>Out wasn't her cousin or who's the best friends.

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<v Speaker 6>With his with his?

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<v Speaker 7>Friends?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah so my best friend and his best friend are.

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<v Speaker 2>Cousins reach out and see if any reach out and

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<v Speaker 2>see if.

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<v Speaker 1>Anything ben, SAID i doubt.

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<v Speaker 3>It he's not going to talk about. That there's no.

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<v Speaker 1>Way, well you can also find out what's going on

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<v Speaker 1>in his life, too based on reaching out to.

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<v Speaker 2>Them is what that? Is that also what you're? Thinking, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>EXACTLY I i think that this is, uh this is

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<v Speaker 1>good to see That lydia's out there having.

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<v Speaker 2>Fun what's, Up? Amanda what do you? THINK i Think

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<v Speaker 2>lydia should go for it and send him a message right?

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<v Speaker 2>NOW i Think lydia should should be the aggressor in

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<v Speaker 2>the situation and go for what she.

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<v Speaker 1>Wants do you Think lydia should start sending him? Nudes?

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<v Speaker 2>Hey?

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<v Speaker 7>Whatever take not.

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<v Speaker 4>Even, That.

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<v Speaker 1>Amanda you're not a good. Friend there's sposed to be

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<v Speaker 1>a good friend here and he supposed to be protective Of.

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<v Speaker 1>Lydia what's, Up christina High, HI i.

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<v Speaker 7>Think lydia needs to be. Patient, YEAH i think. THAT

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<v Speaker 7>i think that in five, years especially if he's already

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<v Speaker 7>got like a shy, demeanor he's probably contemplating. Things you,

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<v Speaker 7>know it didn't work out the first, time but obviously

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<v Speaker 7>there's something there or else he would have never responded

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<v Speaker 7>to begin.

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<v Speaker 1>With, yeah but by the, way why why did it

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<v Speaker 1>not work out the first?

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<v Speaker 5>Time?

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<v Speaker 2>Lydia?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh we weren't going to take each other serious after? That?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay? Yeah do good things come to those who? Wait

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<v Speaker 2>or is it?

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely we had a sales manager here one time that

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<v Speaker 1>you used to tell the sales department good things never

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<v Speaker 1>come to those who. Wait you got to be the.

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<v Speaker 1>Aggressor AND i thought that that was actually a great.

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<v Speaker 6>Comment sometimes sometimes great things come to those who.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait then other times it is just the.

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<v Speaker 4>Leftovers BUT i think she should wait just one we're, Day, denise.

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<v Speaker 2>What do you? Think?

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<v Speaker 7>HEY i was just, saying maybe he really didn't read.

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<v Speaker 1>It maybe somebody else read. It oh, gosh somebody is

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<v Speaker 1>actually answering for. HIM i don't think we're all going,

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<v Speaker 1>no that's not the, case because we don't want that

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<v Speaker 1>to be the. Case but no guys letting, anybody what's Up,

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<v Speaker 1>tony how you, Doing?

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<v Speaker 2>Buddy Good, Mojo.

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<v Speaker 4>Lydia if he's a shot, guy she might have to

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<v Speaker 4>be a little thirsty.

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<v Speaker 2>Man his, Chill. Lydia lydia wants somebody to tell her

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<v Speaker 2>to be thirsty.

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<v Speaker 3>Anyway she just don't want to say.

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<v Speaker 2>It that's, All.

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<v Speaker 1>LYDIA i just answer, then just respond to him saying.

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<v Speaker 3>The second text, AGAIN i would do. It he's not doing, That.

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<v Speaker 3>Lydia that's your.

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<v Speaker 2>Problem it is my. Problem culture culture. Up let me

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<v Speaker 2>tell you.

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<v Speaker 3>What if he was actually, interested he would keep going

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<v Speaker 3>like he would keep the conversation. Going he would ask

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<v Speaker 3>me to go.

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<v Speaker 2>Out but you, said he's a say guy he texted

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<v Speaker 2>you this morning and say good.

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<v Speaker 7>Morning that's probably that was probably hard enough him to do.

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<v Speaker 6>That.

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<v Speaker 1>Anyway the difference Between lydia And beyonca Is bianca would

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<v Speaker 1>already be at his house knocking on the.

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<v Speaker 2>Door IF i didn't think that's a.

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<v Speaker 3>Guy i'm gonna get that second.

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<v Speaker 7>Kiss You you're not gonna get that second.

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<v Speaker 2>Kiss i've been thinking about.

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<v Speaker 3>That but that might be his. Problem you know, What

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<v Speaker 3>i'm saying Like i'm a catch and he is. Too

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<v Speaker 3>but if you're not going to make.

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<v Speaker 2>Them burd, okay, okay, GOING.

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<v Speaker 3>I just want to be like you, know you want.

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<v Speaker 3>To but he always wants the boys to. Chase they,

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<v Speaker 3>should they should court the.

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<v Speaker 4>Woman these.

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<v Speaker 1>Guys we need a class for these guys, Though. Tony she's.

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<v Speaker 1>Right these guys are are lame these, Days.

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<v Speaker 6>Tony they.

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<v Speaker 2>Are, YEAH i mean, yeah but he's a shy.

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<v Speaker 4>Guy you can't you, can't you can't.

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<v Speaker 1>Just bring him out his here like twenty twenty and early.

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<v Speaker 1>Thirties guys are a bunch of lame. Guys they're just

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<v Speaker 1>sitting home playing video games all, Day.

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<v Speaker 2>Tony that's.

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<v Speaker 3>True this is.

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<v Speaker 1>True all, Right well let's see what. Happens lydia will

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<v Speaker 1>give us a second. Date Second Date update