WEBVTT - Second Date Update: Parents Checking In 

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<v Speaker 1>It's the second date update on Mojo in the morning.

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<v Speaker 2>All right.

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<v Speaker 1>Time now for the second date update. Abby is on

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<v Speaker 1>the phone with us right now. She's getting ghosted after

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<v Speaker 1>she went on a date. You guys actually have been

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<v Speaker 1>talking for a while and you thought that maybe this

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<v Speaker 1>guy was the one. But now you haven't talked to

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<v Speaker 1>him in weeks. What's going on, Abby?

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<v Speaker 3>Hey, yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So there's this guy, Nathan. We met on Bumble, of course.

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<v Speaker 2>We got dinner for our first date, and then we

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<v Speaker 2>went back to his house, which was great. And yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>the last time we talked was like three weeks ago.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, it's been a while.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you say his name is Mason or Nathan? I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't hear you.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh, Mason.

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<v Speaker 1>Mason. Mason's on with us right now. Say hi to Mason.

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<v Speaker 2>Hi, Mason.

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<v Speaker 4>Hi. Hey, what's up?

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<v Speaker 1>Good morning. Mason, what's going on? How are you doing,

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<v Speaker 1>by the way, first? I'll get to a little small

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<v Speaker 1>talk a little bit because I don't want to get

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<v Speaker 1>you uncomfortable. What was it that you liked so much

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<v Speaker 1>about Abby that got you to even ask her if

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<v Speaker 1>she wanted to go out?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, she was cute. I mean, she is cute.

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<v Speaker 4>You know what I mean? The vibes are great. We

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<v Speaker 4>just thought we were kind of hitting off. you know, on,

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<v Speaker 4>on the app and wanted to, you know, progress and

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<v Speaker 4>see what else we can do.

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<v Speaker 1>So you guys go, go out with each other. You

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<v Speaker 1>guys have a dinner and you even invite her to

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<v Speaker 1>come back to your place. Abby, I'm going to ask

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<v Speaker 1>you this question. Did you guys do anything there?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, I mean, nothing crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. So you just hung out with each other. Did

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<v Speaker 1>you guys kiss or was it just, uh, you guys

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<v Speaker 1>hanging out?

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<v Speaker 3>A little switch.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>All right.

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<v Speaker 3>Like a respectful, respectful person.

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<v Speaker 1>All right. Mason, what's going on? Have you just been

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<v Speaker 1>busy or what? Why are you not called Abby back

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<v Speaker 1>in three weeks?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, truthfully, um, it got a little weird and

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<v Speaker 4>because her parents, her parents kept calling her the entire

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<v Speaker 4>time we were out for her to come home. And

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<v Speaker 4>how do you know that? They like kept checking in and,

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<v Speaker 4>Because they were, she was talking about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, my parents called.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, so she was answering. Yes. Was it like an emergency?

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<v Speaker 3>No.

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<v Speaker 4>They just sort of like kept checking in and like

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<v Speaker 4>asking everyone about our life, like random stuff. And we're

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<v Speaker 4>supposed to be hanging out. And like, they were just

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<v Speaker 4>kind of being annoying. And like, I mean, I get parents.

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<v Speaker 4>I totally get it. Obviously, we all have parents. But like,

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<v Speaker 4>they were just nonstop.

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<v Speaker 1>Abby, you were actually answering phone calls while your date

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<v Speaker 1>was going on from your parents?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean, I didn't want them to worry, and

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<v Speaker 2>they had some concerns, so I'm not.

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<v Speaker 1>Because you're out with somebody that you've not met before?

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<v Speaker 1>How old are you?

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<v Speaker 4>Me?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm 28.

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<v Speaker 1>So you're 28 years old, so almost 30 years old.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you live with your parents?

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<v Speaker 4>I do.

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<v Speaker 1>So, I'm going to say this, I'm going to sound

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<v Speaker 1>like a dad here right now. I think if I

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<v Speaker 1>had a daughter that was out, I'd probably check in

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<v Speaker 1>on her too. I might text her. I was going

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<v Speaker 1>to say I wouldn't. I got a 28-year-old son, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be honest with you. I check his location, and

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<v Speaker 1>I've called him a couple of times. Did you tell

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<v Speaker 1>them you were going on a date?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>And they're going out with a guy she met on Bumble.

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<v Speaker 1>They're worried about her.

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<v Speaker 7>I know, but to call five, six times, like, she

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<v Speaker 7>got to have a little, I'm good, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll call you when I'm done. Well, that's on her, though,

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<v Speaker 1>don't you think?

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, that's why he probably not calling.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, that's exactly why. So you thought that that was

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<v Speaker 1>a little too much, Mason?

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<v Speaker 9>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>You're worried if you get into a relationship with her

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<v Speaker 1>that that's going to be what it's going to be like?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, and you could tell they were upset. They were, like,

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<v Speaker 4>pissed off toward the end and made her go home early. Like,

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<v Speaker 4>they were like, all right, get home now. We're like,

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<v Speaker 4>we want you to come home. And so they were upset.

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<v Speaker 1>What time is early? Abby, what time was this?

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<v Speaker 4>Like 9 o'clock?

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<v Speaker 1>No, come on. 9 o'clock?

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<v Speaker 4>Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>What time did you guys start your date? At 3?

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<v Speaker 4>No, like 7.30?

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<v Speaker 1>No. So you guys were only out for a couple hours? Abby,

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<v Speaker 1>that is crazy. I stayed out later at home.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Jimmy, they weren't just pissed because we were out.

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<v Speaker 3>They were pissed because, frankly, you didn't introduce yourself to

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<v Speaker 3>them before you took me out. And they didn't know

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<v Speaker 3>who you were.

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<v Speaker 2>They were concerned.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, usually if a guy takes me out, they'll

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<v Speaker 3>at least introduce themselves to my parents.

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<v Speaker 1>Why did you not say hi to her parents?

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<v Speaker 4>I felt, I don't know. I didn't know I had to.

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<v Speaker 4>This is a quick first date type situation. Like if

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<v Speaker 4>this is something I was going to see her on

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<v Speaker 4>and on, then obviously I'm a gentleman. I would do that.

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<v Speaker 4>But this is like a quick little, like I said,

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<v Speaker 4>that's a little too much. I think, who's with me here?

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<v Speaker 4>That's a little too much for the first date.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to give an opinion. We can go around

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<v Speaker 1>the room. We can ask callers to 844-MOJO-LIVE. Obviously, there's

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<v Speaker 1>no other dates that are going to be going on

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<v Speaker 1>between the two of you guys. I actually didn't think

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<v Speaker 1>it was bad that they were checking in on her.

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<v Speaker 1>I think they did it a little too much. I

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<v Speaker 1>also think them wanting you to come home. Do you

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<v Speaker 1>not go on a lot of dates that your parents

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<v Speaker 1>know that you're out doing things?

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<v Speaker 3>I go on dates here and there, but Usually there's

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<v Speaker 3>some chivalry.

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<v Speaker 2>And, you know, it was just kind of different.

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<v Speaker 1>They got a bad vibe off of Mason. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>blame her parents. I kind of blame her.

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<v Speaker 7>Like, if I'm on a date, your parents are going

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<v Speaker 7>to be parents, but how you respond to those parents

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<v Speaker 7>is what I think turned him off in this situation.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, she could have just sent a text saying, here's

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<v Speaker 1>where I am, you can see. Correct. I'm fine. Anna,

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<v Speaker 1>what would you do if your dad... called up you

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<v Speaker 1>so many times and said, come home.

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<v Speaker 8>I think it's overstepping boundaries a little bit, but if

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<v Speaker 8>she lives at their house, like my parents would say

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<v Speaker 8>it's my house, we are allowed to wonder where you're at,

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<v Speaker 8>but you're 28 years old. I don't even think he

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<v Speaker 8>needed to introduce himself to her parents.

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I think you should have Mason. I think he should.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>You got to go into their home to pick her up.

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<v Speaker 1>You got to say hi to the parents. What's up, Amanda.

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<v Speaker 4>Hi. Good morning.

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<v Speaker 9>Um, I kind of blame her and the parents.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 9>There needs to be some sort of boundary there, but

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<v Speaker 9>I get it. I would answer like the first call,

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<v Speaker 9>but once I know that it's not an emergency, you know,

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<v Speaker 9>that they're just checking in, um, I'm not answering after that.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's rude. And especially if they knew.

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<v Speaker 9>I'm on a date, I also think that's a conversation

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<v Speaker 9>you need to have with your parents and be like, listen,

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<v Speaker 9>you need to respect that I'm a grownup. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm on a date.

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<v Speaker 9>I appreciate you checking in on me. I know your

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<v Speaker 9>intentions are good. But at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 9>I'm an adult. There has to be some sort of line,

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<v Speaker 9>I think. And I don't blame him because I would

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<v Speaker 9>be concerned that if the relationship were to progress further,

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<v Speaker 9>like you're going to have a smother in law.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, I've never heard that before.

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<v Speaker 4>That's really good.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for the call. Appreciate you, Amanda.

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<v Speaker 2>Yep, have a good one.

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<v Speaker 1>Take care of yourself. Dani, what did you think of

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<v Speaker 1>what Mason did?

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<v Speaker 6>I think it's perfectly fine. I live at my house,

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<v Speaker 6>my parents' house, and I would not answer my phone

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<v Speaker 6>call with my parents if they were calling me to

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<v Speaker 6>check in on me. I would not answer that on

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<v Speaker 6>a date. I don't, and I would not want, I,

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<v Speaker 6>as a girl, would not want, even if he picked

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<v Speaker 6>me up from my parents' house, I would not want

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<v Speaker 6>him to meet my.

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<v Speaker 5>Parents the first date.

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<v Speaker 6>That's not a first date thing.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't let your parents say hi? No.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, if the opportunity comes up, then sure, but

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<v Speaker 6>I'm not going to get mad if he didn't come

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<v Speaker 6>and say hi to them. I don't, that's not a

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<v Speaker 6>first date thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. Renna, what's up, Renna? What do you think?

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<v Speaker 5>Hey, I agree with Mason and, and Amanda. I, I

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<v Speaker 5>live with my parents and I'm 30 and I would

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<v Speaker 5>not go through these hoops. I think in the 21st century,

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<v Speaker 5>like we're online dating. I think the first date is

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<v Speaker 5>you meet in a public place, you don't introduce, you know,

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<v Speaker 5>each other to your parents.

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<v Speaker 1>You live with your parents. Do they ever check in

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<v Speaker 1>on you when you're out?

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<v Speaker 7>Definitely.

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<v Speaker 5>My mom will send me a text and like, I

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<v Speaker 5>have a, I have a very loving, motherly mother, and

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<v Speaker 5>she respects my boundaries. But, I mean, I understand some

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<v Speaker 5>people aren't that fortunate. But she definitely checks in, and, like,

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<v Speaker 5>she wants to know where my first date is and, like,

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<v Speaker 5>where I'm going to be. And if we change locations

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<v Speaker 5>or anything, then I just, like, let her know. So

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<v Speaker 5>that way, if it becomes an issue later. But, yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>I just don't think Mason's in the wrong here.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think about the fact that if mom...

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<v Speaker 1>would have just text her and then she doesn't even

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<v Speaker 1>let him know that these texts are coming in. You

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean? That would probably be the smart thing.

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<v Speaker 1>That would have been the better thing to do. Abby,

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<v Speaker 1>sorry that you're not going to get another date, it

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<v Speaker 1>seems like, from Mason.

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<v Speaker 5>I thought we had a great date, but okay.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>I think everybody's being really.

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<v Speaker 2>Picky and kind of judgmental.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, Mason.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just trying to make sure my parents don't worry.

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<v Speaker 1>Take care, guys. Appreciate it. Thanks, Mason. for going out

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<v Speaker 1>with us.

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<v Speaker 3>Bye.

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<v Speaker 4>No worries.