1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,480 Speaker 1: Live on ninety three three FLZ Joe Show. Make a decision, 2 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:07,080 Speaker 1: not sure about that decision. You're second guessing it, feeling 3 00:00:07,160 --> 00:00:09,280 Speaker 1: like you're may be an a hole. 4 00:00:10,760 --> 00:00:13,080 Speaker 2: That's why I'm ready here. You can call us and 5 00:00:13,119 --> 00:00:15,440 Speaker 2: be a part of it. Marie. What's going on? What happened? 6 00:00:16,239 --> 00:00:19,680 Speaker 3: So I'm definitely not the a hole in this situation. 7 00:00:19,880 --> 00:00:23,720 Speaker 3: It's my husband. So I just had a baby a 8 00:00:23,760 --> 00:00:30,080 Speaker 3: month ago, September, first little boy, and you know, I'm 9 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:33,479 Speaker 3: home and doing my thing raising our child. And my 10 00:00:33,560 --> 00:00:35,560 Speaker 3: husband's good with that, you know, he's a good dad 11 00:00:35,680 --> 00:00:40,159 Speaker 3: so far. But he went out and bought a brand 12 00:00:40,200 --> 00:00:45,560 Speaker 3: new twenty twenty five Ford one fifty Raptor. This car 13 00:00:46,040 --> 00:00:50,040 Speaker 3: is over one hundred and fifty thousand dollars. We just 14 00:00:50,080 --> 00:00:54,200 Speaker 3: had a baby. You don't need a brand new truck. 15 00:00:54,240 --> 00:00:56,960 Speaker 3: And he's like, oh, it's so safe. No, dude, like 16 00:00:57,560 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 3: you had an amazing hard there was no need to 17 00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:04,000 Speaker 3: go out and buy this. Like, while I'm at home 18 00:01:04,480 --> 00:01:07,039 Speaker 3: pumping my boobs, he should have been pumping the brakes 19 00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:09,840 Speaker 3: on this purchase. He didn't tell me about. 20 00:01:09,560 --> 00:01:13,000 Speaker 1: It, not to cut you off, and I guess you 21 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:16,160 Speaker 1: you just said that, So he didn't even hint at 22 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:16,880 Speaker 1: getting a car. 23 00:01:17,880 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 3: No, no, he said, he was just yep, he went 24 00:01:21,319 --> 00:01:25,720 Speaker 3: just came home with this brand new truck and like, listen, 25 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:30,160 Speaker 3: we just had a baby, like we need food in 26 00:01:30,200 --> 00:01:32,360 Speaker 3: the house, Like there's other things we need. We did 27 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:38,840 Speaker 3: not need this purchase, Like are you not. Oh, it's okay, 28 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:41,520 Speaker 3: it's okay, it's for the baby. Like no, dude, you 29 00:01:41,560 --> 00:01:46,000 Speaker 3: did this for your ego, which doesn't necessarily need stroking 30 00:01:46,080 --> 00:01:48,640 Speaker 3: right now because we just had a child, you know, 31 00:01:49,560 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 3: Like I don't know, Like so I'm not speaking to 32 00:01:52,520 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 3: him right now, like I can't like, not only did 33 00:01:55,880 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 3: you go out and make this huge purchase behind my 34 00:01:58,040 --> 00:01:59,880 Speaker 3: back while I'm at home raising our child? 35 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:00,960 Speaker 4: Can I ask you a question? 36 00:02:01,840 --> 00:02:02,080 Speaker 5: Yeah? 37 00:02:02,080 --> 00:02:03,400 Speaker 2: Did he get you a push gift? 38 00:02:03,440 --> 00:02:05,400 Speaker 4: And then that's why he feels like, yo, I got 39 00:02:05,400 --> 00:02:07,240 Speaker 4: you a push gift for having our baby. Maybe I 40 00:02:07,320 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 4: deserve a gift because I know when women do have 41 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:10,840 Speaker 4: babies like push gifts. 42 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:13,600 Speaker 3: Nope, I even said that. I was like, can I 43 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:16,680 Speaker 3: get something like, oh, you know, maybe a perse something cute? 44 00:02:16,760 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 3: He was like, oh, I don't believe in that, because 45 00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:20,840 Speaker 3: like the wait, what did he say? 46 00:02:20,880 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 5: I want to get it? 47 00:02:21,480 --> 00:02:24,400 Speaker 3: Right, he said, your push gift is our child? 48 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:27,000 Speaker 2: Oh okay, oh yeah. 49 00:02:27,680 --> 00:02:28,480 Speaker 3: I'm sorry, dude. 50 00:02:28,480 --> 00:02:33,720 Speaker 1: Like eight nine ninety three ninety three, if you were Marie, 51 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:36,680 Speaker 1: what would you do in this situation? 52 00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:37,960 Speaker 2: What would you do in this instance? 53 00:02:38,800 --> 00:02:38,920 Speaker 6: Uh? 54 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:43,040 Speaker 1: Where her husband they just had a baby. He comes 55 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:46,000 Speaker 1: home randomly with a brand new car, never even hinted 56 00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:48,840 Speaker 1: at getting it. Eight hundred four O nine ninety three 57 00:02:48,919 --> 00:02:51,959 Speaker 1: ninety three text in at ninety seven seven two zero. 58 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:53,960 Speaker 2: Jed's been shaking his head. 59 00:02:54,280 --> 00:02:58,080 Speaker 6: Well, I think it all depends on your personal finances. 60 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:00,079 Speaker 6: And I hate to sound like Dave Ramsey here, but 61 00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:02,120 Speaker 6: it's like it all depends on like what what's the 62 00:03:02,160 --> 00:03:04,760 Speaker 6: other finances look like? Like obviously you have a kid, right, 63 00:03:05,080 --> 00:03:07,000 Speaker 6: but are you do you have a wordage? Do you 64 00:03:07,560 --> 00:03:08,480 Speaker 6: take out everything? 65 00:03:08,480 --> 00:03:08,639 Speaker 5: Though? 66 00:03:08,680 --> 00:03:11,880 Speaker 1: What about like the surprise car should he have in 67 00:03:11,919 --> 00:03:12,639 Speaker 1: a relationship? 68 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 6: I think if he's using his own money on it, 69 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:19,079 Speaker 6: I don't think there's an issue. And he's the. 70 00:03:19,040 --> 00:03:25,040 Speaker 2: Sole provider, right, Well, what well she's providing Like, no. 71 00:03:28,280 --> 00:03:31,200 Speaker 6: I'm not saying any of that. I'm saying financially, he's 72 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:32,040 Speaker 6: the sole provider. 73 00:03:32,080 --> 00:03:33,720 Speaker 4: Correct, So you're saying he could do what he want 74 00:03:33,720 --> 00:03:44,760 Speaker 4: with the money. 75 00:03:39,320 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 6: Well, depends on who's making. 76 00:03:41,080 --> 00:03:41,880 Speaker 2: When you're married. 77 00:03:42,360 --> 00:03:42,680 Speaker 1: It is. 78 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:48,280 Speaker 2: Not Well, how am I wrong? Tell me how I'm wrong? 79 00:03:48,680 --> 00:03:49,320 Speaker 2: You just keep laughing. 80 00:03:50,440 --> 00:03:52,400 Speaker 4: You're in a relationship, when you're married, you have children. 81 00:03:52,440 --> 00:03:54,320 Speaker 4: Like that, money is not just his money, that is 82 00:03:54,320 --> 00:03:55,440 Speaker 4: his wise money as well. 83 00:03:55,720 --> 00:03:59,680 Speaker 1: She's not she's not working because she's taking care of him. 84 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:02,560 Speaker 1: And I think if that's but if that's if that's 85 00:04:02,600 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 1: the case, if you take it like that, then their 86 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:06,880 Speaker 1: baby's not his baby. 87 00:04:06,720 --> 00:04:08,880 Speaker 2: Exactly right, it's his DNA. 88 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:14,800 Speaker 1: But yeah, okay, well they're they're married, so it's her 89 00:04:14,880 --> 00:04:15,920 Speaker 1: finances as well. 90 00:04:15,960 --> 00:04:18,120 Speaker 2: If they got divorced, she'd be getting that money. 91 00:04:19,480 --> 00:04:22,000 Speaker 6: Oh, I hope this. I pray for this man, That's 92 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:23,880 Speaker 6: all I'm going to say. Why do you pray for him? 93 00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:28,400 Speaker 6: He's getting nice because nice new truck. As long as 94 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:31,880 Speaker 6: he's able to provide for you financially still after still 95 00:04:31,920 --> 00:04:34,279 Speaker 6: having this truck, I see no issue with it. You 96 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:36,279 Speaker 6: can be mad at him for doing that, but he's 97 00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:38,880 Speaker 6: also bringing in the money for you to stay at 98 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:41,840 Speaker 6: home real quick. You will have to pay for day 99 00:04:41,839 --> 00:04:43,799 Speaker 6: care real quick. And we can get back to Marie 100 00:04:43,839 --> 00:04:46,520 Speaker 6: and Jed. By the way, I think Marie thinks Jed 101 00:04:46,640 --> 00:04:48,440 Speaker 6: is the okay, but. 102 00:04:50,080 --> 00:04:53,160 Speaker 1: Ninety three, Like I have said a billion times, a 103 00:04:53,160 --> 00:04:58,080 Speaker 1: lot of people calling in Chandra, Hi, you're pregnant, right. 104 00:04:59,160 --> 00:04:59,800 Speaker 3: I sure am. 105 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:02,840 Speaker 2: Congratulations January. 106 00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:04,560 Speaker 5: So I agree with her. 107 00:05:05,279 --> 00:05:10,440 Speaker 3: I mean, I get that he deserves something too, because 108 00:05:10,480 --> 00:05:11,840 Speaker 3: I mean, but. 109 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:13,200 Speaker 5: She does it all. 110 00:05:13,600 --> 00:05:15,920 Speaker 3: He does go to work, he does bring in the money. 111 00:05:16,279 --> 00:05:18,400 Speaker 5: But at the same time, she's. 112 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:19,600 Speaker 3: Taking care of that baby at home. 113 00:05:19,720 --> 00:05:21,000 Speaker 5: She's sacrificing a lot. 114 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:24,080 Speaker 3: She's not working when. 115 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 5: She gets something. 116 00:05:25,240 --> 00:05:28,159 Speaker 1: There is a very unnecessary and I'm shocked that it's 117 00:05:28,200 --> 00:05:30,880 Speaker 1: still the case. But it's very interesting that there's like 118 00:05:30,920 --> 00:05:34,200 Speaker 1: a stigma to stay at home moms. Like I don't 119 00:05:34,240 --> 00:05:41,360 Speaker 1: get why we get so uptight, Jed about these mothers. 120 00:05:41,680 --> 00:05:45,080 Speaker 6: I'm not knocking it at all. I think it's great 121 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:46,919 Speaker 6: that she's staying at home and raising her children. I 122 00:05:46,920 --> 00:05:49,840 Speaker 6: think it's better than putting it into certain systems and 123 00:05:49,880 --> 00:05:52,120 Speaker 6: then the kid gets all messed up because they are 124 00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:53,200 Speaker 6: not raised by their mother. 125 00:05:53,560 --> 00:05:53,880 Speaker 2: Yeah. 126 00:05:54,839 --> 00:05:56,240 Speaker 3: I don't think Jed. 127 00:05:57,279 --> 00:06:00,440 Speaker 1: Let's get away from and thank you, Chandra, let's get 128 00:06:00,440 --> 00:06:02,080 Speaker 1: away from because a lot of people are saying, well, 129 00:06:02,080 --> 00:06:05,240 Speaker 1: it depends on the finances. If they can afford all 130 00:06:05,279 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 1: of it not all of. 131 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:10,680 Speaker 4: That conversation with your spouse before making such large purchases. 132 00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:14,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, And that's where I feel like the conversation 133 00:06:14,160 --> 00:06:18,440 Speaker 1: should because let's not get into Marie's finances that I 134 00:06:18,480 --> 00:06:21,000 Speaker 1: feel like that would make him mad and rightly, so 135 00:06:21,440 --> 00:06:24,400 Speaker 1: let's talk about though, the fact that he made this 136 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:27,400 Speaker 1: big purchase. He never ever ever looped her in on it. 137 00:06:27,800 --> 00:06:30,960 Speaker 1: Do you have to do that? You know, we're not 138 00:06:31,000 --> 00:06:33,680 Speaker 1: married yet, but my fiance and I saving for the wedding. 139 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:35,880 Speaker 1: It is kind of like we do kind of look 140 00:06:35,880 --> 00:06:37,400 Speaker 1: at each other if one of us makes like a 141 00:06:37,400 --> 00:06:39,839 Speaker 1: big purchase and we're like, well, hold on one second, like, 142 00:06:40,000 --> 00:06:41,960 Speaker 1: are we putting money away for the wedding or what? 143 00:06:42,160 --> 00:06:44,160 Speaker 1: But Jonathan go ahead. 144 00:06:45,800 --> 00:06:48,200 Speaker 5: Yeah. Like I was saying, I am kind of in 145 00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:51,400 Speaker 5: disagreement with her. I think finances shouldn't matter in this situation. 146 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:54,960 Speaker 5: I think your child's safety is important. Maybe a wife 147 00:06:55,120 --> 00:06:57,400 Speaker 5: wants to be more comfortable, luxurious. I don't know what 148 00:06:57,440 --> 00:06:59,200 Speaker 5: she's feeling that day, but it's kind of a gift 149 00:06:59,200 --> 00:07:01,599 Speaker 5: to her as well, giving her an upgrade and a bigger, 150 00:07:01,720 --> 00:07:02,240 Speaker 5: nicer truck. 151 00:07:02,320 --> 00:07:04,520 Speaker 4: But what if she's saying, like there's nothing wrong with 152 00:07:04,560 --> 00:07:06,920 Speaker 4: the other truck, like everything was fine, So now you're 153 00:07:06,960 --> 00:07:08,040 Speaker 4: just adding on another deal. 154 00:07:09,520 --> 00:07:12,760 Speaker 5: Maybe maybe that's the case, but again, maybe he's he's 155 00:07:12,840 --> 00:07:14,720 Speaker 5: proud of his wife. Now he wants her to be 156 00:07:15,120 --> 00:07:17,720 Speaker 5: uh out there. I mean, listen, I got a Lincoln 157 00:07:17,760 --> 00:07:19,600 Speaker 5: Navigator for my wife. I said, you know what, let's 158 00:07:19,600 --> 00:07:19,840 Speaker 5: do it. 159 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:23,040 Speaker 4: But did you wait? But did you talk to her 160 00:07:23,040 --> 00:07:24,160 Speaker 4: before making that purchase? 161 00:07:24,920 --> 00:07:25,920 Speaker 2: Like, hey, I wanted to know. 162 00:07:26,040 --> 00:07:27,640 Speaker 5: I didn't tell her what brand it was. I just 163 00:07:27,720 --> 00:07:29,440 Speaker 5: kind of did it. I said, he but you told 164 00:07:29,440 --> 00:07:29,880 Speaker 5: her you were. 165 00:07:29,760 --> 00:07:31,240 Speaker 2: Going to spend a lot of money by going to 166 00:07:31,240 --> 00:07:31,880 Speaker 2: buy a vehicle. 167 00:07:33,520 --> 00:07:36,800 Speaker 5: At some point we may have had the conversations, and that's. 168 00:07:36,640 --> 00:07:37,040 Speaker 2: What it is. 169 00:07:37,600 --> 00:07:39,840 Speaker 4: That's where we're just trying to say, like why couldn't 170 00:07:39,840 --> 00:07:42,360 Speaker 4: he just have a conversation of like, hey, I'm actually 171 00:07:42,400 --> 00:07:45,080 Speaker 4: going to go out and get this this truck. It's okay, 172 00:07:45,160 --> 00:07:48,280 Speaker 4: like we said, take the finance, one can. 173 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:52,920 Speaker 2: Talk when actually, I want to say this real quick. 174 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:57,040 Speaker 5: Kind of incorporate that into its own push gift, because 175 00:07:57,080 --> 00:07:59,400 Speaker 5: like I said, you're upgrading for your wife and your 176 00:07:59,440 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 5: child did the same time. 177 00:08:01,680 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 3: The only push he's gonnagain is when I push him 178 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:05,920 Speaker 3: out of the house. I should have been able to 179 00:08:05,920 --> 00:08:06,800 Speaker 3: the vehicle then. 180 00:08:08,240 --> 00:08:10,960 Speaker 5: Well, to be fair, I did get her a separate gift. 181 00:08:10,960 --> 00:08:13,800 Speaker 5: But you know what I mean, I'm getting at I 182 00:08:15,240 --> 00:08:17,080 Speaker 5: we got to go a little bit yeah, a little 183 00:08:17,080 --> 00:08:18,239 Speaker 5: bit easier on Jonathan. 184 00:08:18,640 --> 00:08:20,560 Speaker 1: Don't don't say that you got her something else too, 185 00:08:20,560 --> 00:08:21,720 Speaker 1: because now Marie's really going. 186 00:08:21,720 --> 00:08:21,880 Speaker 2: To be. 187 00:08:23,840 --> 00:08:26,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, so you just lost all your pility. 188 00:08:28,480 --> 00:08:31,760 Speaker 2: Thank you, Jonathan, You're you're the best. Listen. 189 00:08:32,000 --> 00:08:34,000 Speaker 1: So many people are calling it, so many people want 190 00:08:34,040 --> 00:08:37,360 Speaker 1: to be a part of this. I feel bad spending 191 00:08:37,440 --> 00:08:40,960 Speaker 1: way too much time on of this though, Marie. At 192 00:08:40,960 --> 00:08:44,560 Speaker 1: the end of the day, you know, withhold a certain 193 00:08:44,600 --> 00:08:46,920 Speaker 1: something that may stop you from having another kid. I 194 00:08:46,920 --> 00:08:49,199 Speaker 1: think that if you do that, that would really get 195 00:08:49,760 --> 00:08:53,640 Speaker 1: That's just me. Thank you so much for calling in. 196 00:08:53,679 --> 00:08:56,200 Speaker 1: And one last thing, I love whenever you get passionate 197 00:08:56,200 --> 00:08:58,440 Speaker 1: about something, Ashley, no one's going to get a word 198 00:08:58,440 --> 00:08:59,400 Speaker 1: in when that happens. 199 00:09:00,160 --> 00:09:02,280 Speaker 2: That's am I the ahole. Listen back to it.