WEBVTT - 10-3-25 Sloan with Julio Vincent Gambuto

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to be an American.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes is the most dangerous word in the dictionary because

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<v Speaker 1>it could lead to your own demise. Billio Vincent Gambudo

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<v Speaker 1>is here. Please don't subscribe. He is a master saying

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<v Speaker 1>no with something that most people are bad at. Welcome

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<v Speaker 1>to the show.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you? Thanks so much? Thanks for having me. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>good I said yes to this happily. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Why are you saying yes to me? That would be

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<v Speaker 1>the ultimate. It's like, hey, you want to get on

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<v Speaker 1>and talk about you know, unsubscribed. No, I'm good, I've

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<v Speaker 1>got too much, got too much going on, kind of

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<v Speaker 1>self defeeding. You picked the important stuff, and I think

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<v Speaker 1>that's true though we all have to. Man, I guess

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<v Speaker 1>I need to do this in order to fulfill some

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<v Speaker 1>sort of goal that I have, which would be to

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<v Speaker 1>sell books. I appreciate that, and I appreciate taking time.

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<v Speaker 1>I've come on, But so yeah, why say? Where do

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<v Speaker 1>you draw a line of things?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you?

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<v Speaker 1>How do you determine what's in and what's out? In

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<v Speaker 1>some days? I think for most of us, it depends

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<v Speaker 1>on how we feel at that exact moment in time.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you catch me the right time? I might say yes,

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<v Speaker 1>you catch meet the wrong time, I'm probably gonna I know, yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know what, either way is okay. The kind

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<v Speaker 2>of first, the first and important part of saying no

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<v Speaker 2>right is understanding that it's okay and we've all been really,

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<v Speaker 2>really conditioned and souls are really sexy story you know,

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<v Speaker 2>in America in the last twenty years, that we've got

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<v Speaker 2>to say yes, right, say you know, Carpadium, say yes

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<v Speaker 2>to the dress. Right. But you know, yes is the

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<v Speaker 2>answer to everything we've always wanted. And I think we

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<v Speaker 2>live in a different time now right where your work

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<v Speaker 2>constantly bombarded left, right and center with messages, with information,

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<v Speaker 2>with things to process, not only just commitments and requests,

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<v Speaker 2>but just you know, life is overwhelming, and so learning

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<v Speaker 2>how to be savvy about saying no really really really

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<v Speaker 2>is important. But the first step really is to understand

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<v Speaker 2>that you can say it right without without with out

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<v Speaker 2>sort of losing at all, which is I think the

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<v Speaker 2>fear that we have.

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<v Speaker 1>Well yea, and the message bombarding it doesn't begin and

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<v Speaker 1>end with it. But it's the mobile device. It's a text,

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<v Speaker 1>it's something on social media, it's a direct message, it's

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<v Speaker 1>an email, it's a call, we are bombarded NonStop with asks.

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<v Speaker 1>That largely is the I think the tipping point for

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<v Speaker 1>this conversation isn't it is If we got rid of

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<v Speaker 1>our mobile device and just didn't respond, we'd be in

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<v Speaker 1>much better headspace.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think it's really important, you know. I mean

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<v Speaker 2>these times, this technology it calls for us to be

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<v Speaker 2>you know, really really specific and intentional about how we

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<v Speaker 2>use these devices. I mean, you know, the companies that

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<v Speaker 2>sell them, they want us to use it in a

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<v Speaker 2>certain way, and we've got to sort of wake up

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<v Speaker 2>to the fact that that way is not serving us well. Right,

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<v Speaker 2>Being connected twenty four hours a day, being always on,

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<v Speaker 2>being accessible, having no boundaries, right, these things are not

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<v Speaker 2>serving us. There's not helping life be better, richer, deeper,

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<v Speaker 2>more satisfying. And so, you know, from a very very

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<v Speaker 2>surface level logistically, right, we've got to make decisions about

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<v Speaker 2>how we use these devices. My laptop is for this,

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<v Speaker 2>my phone is for that. I'm going to set some

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<v Speaker 2>rules and parameters for myself. Uh. You know, those are

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<v Speaker 2>the things that have been eroded, and they've been eroded

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<v Speaker 2>on purpose, right, so that we just feel constantly connected

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<v Speaker 2>and on uh and uh and and it's really kind

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<v Speaker 2>of time in the in the large scale or in

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<v Speaker 2>the large view here, Uh to just thatt some some

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<v Speaker 2>clearer and clearer boundaries.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, well, let's talk about taking back our time. How

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<v Speaker 1>do we set those boundaries? And it's easier said than done.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think in particular, and and I'm generalizing here,

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<v Speaker 1>of course, maybe stereotyping, but it seems like women have

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<v Speaker 1>much more difficulty in men and saying no. They want

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<v Speaker 1>to try to be everything to everybody. They don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to disappoint you, kids and husband, spouses, or certainly their

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<v Speaker 1>girlfriends and people at work, and so they try to

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<v Speaker 1>do everything all the time. And there's plenty of guys

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<v Speaker 1>that do that, don't get me wrong, A lot of

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<v Speaker 1>us do that. But generally you look at this and go, wow,

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<v Speaker 1>that's that that hits women on the head. And I

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<v Speaker 1>think that is why women feel so compromise these days.

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<v Speaker 1>But all right, so how do I begin by saying no?

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<v Speaker 1>How do you train someone to say no who's programmed

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<v Speaker 1>to say yes?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? I mean, you know, it is the question of

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<v Speaker 2>our time. I think that that all starts. It all

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<v Speaker 2>starts on the surface, right, I think, And I like

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<v Speaker 2>to look at all of this through the through the

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<v Speaker 2>lens of a sort of three places that we can

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<v Speaker 2>look at and target in our lives. One being the surface, right,

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<v Speaker 2>all the screens, everything that we're touching all day long,

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<v Speaker 2>our digital life. Second being our social networks, both on

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<v Speaker 2>and off, right, sort of learning to speak to them

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<v Speaker 2>and and defy some of the narratives that we have

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<v Speaker 2>and that we share that somehow, you know, success is

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<v Speaker 2>being busy constantly and that you know, we we sort

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<v Speaker 2>of parent these beliefs around to one another all day long, right,

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<v Speaker 2>and kind of learning to say, you know what, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't believe that, I don't think that's true. I think

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<v Speaker 2>I have to sort of create a different space for

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<v Speaker 2>myself and for my family. And then that sort of

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<v Speaker 2>third level, which I talk about in my book, really

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<v Speaker 2>is sort of these underlying subscriptions. What does that mean?

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<v Speaker 2>It just sort of means like the beliefs that we

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<v Speaker 2>hold really really purely, you know, about our identity and

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<v Speaker 2>who we are. I you know, certainly before the pandemic,

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<v Speaker 2>which was a really big turning point for me. I

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<v Speaker 2>know we're all sick of talking about it, but but

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<v Speaker 2>you know this, it was sort of the genesis of

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<v Speaker 2>my work was my life was just constant, right, It

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<v Speaker 2>was just on the go all the time, always everywhere.

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<v Speaker 2>And I can't speak to women specifically, but I can

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<v Speaker 2>speak from my perspective, which is that, you know, I

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<v Speaker 2>was feeling like, oh my god, I have been trained

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<v Speaker 2>to be this upwardly mobile, successful type a person and

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<v Speaker 2>I never stopped back to question any of it. So

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<v Speaker 2>you know, yes, absolutely, I think there are things we

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<v Speaker 2>can do on the surface, but so much of this

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<v Speaker 2>is about digging even deeper to understand. You know, why

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<v Speaker 2>why do we feel the need to people please, Why

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<v Speaker 2>do we feel the need to always link success with

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<v Speaker 2>being busy? Why do we feel the need constantly to

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<v Speaker 2>be accessible to everyone or to not find the words

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<v Speaker 2>to politely say, you know what, my time, attention, money, cash,

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<v Speaker 2>all those things are super important to me and have

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<v Speaker 2>to take precedence right now. And I don't necessarily mean it,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, one to one with everyone, but I do

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<v Speaker 2>mean when you look at the whole of life, right,

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<v Speaker 2>how can I be how can I be a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit more selfish in how I spend my time and

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<v Speaker 2>where I've put my focus, so anyway to be practical

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<v Speaker 2>about it? One of the things that I you know,

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<v Speaker 2>suggest people take a look at is not even necessarily

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<v Speaker 2>you know, do this or do that, but take a

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<v Speaker 2>step back and ask the question, you know, how can

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<v Speaker 2>I slow this down? How can I put more structure in?

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<v Speaker 2>And how can I make this more human? And I

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<v Speaker 2>think those are the three things that have happened in

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<v Speaker 2>the last ten and twenty years in our country because

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<v Speaker 2>of all of this tech, because of how wired we are,

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<v Speaker 2>we have sped it all up. We have taken the

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<v Speaker 2>parameters and the boundaries away, and we've made it less human.

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<v Speaker 2>And so, you know, from a just practical perspective, if

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<v Speaker 2>we can stop in any given moment that's overwhelming to

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<v Speaker 2>us and ask those questions, I think people, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>can find the answers that are specific to their lives

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<v Speaker 2>and helpful to them by by start taking that rap. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, it's Julia Vincent Gambudo on the show

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<v Speaker 1>this morning. Please unsubscribe. Thanks taking back our time, attention

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<v Speaker 1>and purpose and world designed to barius and bs which

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<v Speaker 1>is largely true.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh it just we.

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<v Speaker 1>Pilot on Pilodon polod On. Although I just had this

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<v Speaker 1>conversation with a buddy of mine and he's a guy.

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<v Speaker 2>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>Gen X are like me, uh, and raised by parents

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<v Speaker 1>and and there and also grandparents too, where work was

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<v Speaker 1>everything for man. Right, It's like, okay, you go when

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<v Speaker 1>you work, you work your work, you work, you work

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<v Speaker 1>all day, you work hard, you work smart, you make

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<v Speaker 1>your money, and then hopefully at the end you start

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<v Speaker 1>to cash out and enjoy the fruits of your labor.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that models changed because we have seen in

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people are as older certainly would look

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<v Speaker 1>at it and go, oh my god, nobody wants to

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<v Speaker 1>work anymore. And I think it's partly true, and it

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<v Speaker 1>looks and appears that way, but you know, look at

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<v Speaker 1>it this way. When you were working when you were younger,

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<v Speaker 1>Hey can we go and uh, we're gonna go on

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<v Speaker 1>a family vacation. How much time did you spend working

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<v Speaker 1>while on vacation because things are expected you at work

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<v Speaker 1>or weekends or nights, or you may be distracted by

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<v Speaker 1>different projects and things you had to get done. And

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<v Speaker 1>so you know, kids absorbed that like a sponge and

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<v Speaker 1>they say, all right, well, you know, we live a

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<v Speaker 1>nice life. I guess, relatively speaking, we always want more

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<v Speaker 1>as a kid. But at the same time. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I saw what work has done to my parents. I

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<v Speaker 1>saw the two thousand and eight housing collapse, what that

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<v Speaker 1>did to a lot of people. We saw what happened

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<v Speaker 1>during the pandemic and people losing their jobs, like and

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<v Speaker 1>I think gearing good people looked at that and said,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what, tomorrow is not given. I'm gonna enjoy

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<v Speaker 1>life in the moment, at the moment right now. Now.

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<v Speaker 1>Do they want nice things without putting that kind of

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<v Speaker 1>effort in Absolutely, But you can choose to have. You

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<v Speaker 1>can choose to live that life where you're not consumed

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<v Speaker 1>with work and not consumed with burning the mid not

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<v Speaker 1>all and doing those things at previous generations. But you're

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<v Speaker 1>probably not going to have as much at the end.

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<v Speaker 1>So that is a choice that you will make. I

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<v Speaker 1>respect that out of today said that. They literally, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going on vacation now. I'm not waiting until I'm

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<v Speaker 1>in my sixties to travel. I think that's an awesome thing.

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<v Speaker 1>But you're doing at the expense of future comfort, and

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<v Speaker 1>that's a trade off you have to accept.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean I agree with you. I think, well, first,

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<v Speaker 2>I think our generation. I'm a I'm a zennial. I

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<v Speaker 2>guess they call us these folks who were born, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>late seventies, early eighties, and we're sort of sandwiched in

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<v Speaker 2>the middle. We we we grew up without email and

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<v Speaker 2>without tech, and then graduated college and suddenly the right

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<v Speaker 2>you know, so we went out into the professional world

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<v Speaker 2>really unequipped, really uh to to understand what it's all

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<v Speaker 2>meant and what it what it asks of us. But

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<v Speaker 2>to your point, you know, I think this generation, the

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<v Speaker 2>younger generation, is seeing these things, but they're also seeing

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<v Speaker 2>that the mass doesn't add up, right, and without without

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<v Speaker 2>stoking a political fire, I mean, the truth is that,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, the numbers just do not support working at

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<v Speaker 2>that kind of level. You know that that past generations did. Right,

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<v Speaker 2>We're seeing that we're getting less for our money. We're

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<v Speaker 2>seeing that prices for even homes, right, which is like

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<v Speaker 2>this major symbol of our financial im material success, right,

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<v Speaker 2>that is a different proportion of our income. It is

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<v Speaker 2>a much much larger buy in than it has ever

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<v Speaker 2>been before. We're seeing that even the cost of vacations right,

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<v Speaker 2>proportional to what people make per year has gone up.

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<v Speaker 2>So all those things, I mean, those are small examples,

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<v Speaker 2>but there are plenty in a list as long of

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<v Speaker 2>sort of where the map isn't massing right now.

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<v Speaker 1>I hate the fact by the way that older people

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<v Speaker 1>in particular maybe, but you know, you can work hard

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<v Speaker 1>to our three or four jobs. But that's not the

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<v Speaker 1>same as it was when we were young, when you

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<v Speaker 1>were when I was young, certainly, and for you, and

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<v Speaker 1>if you're older, if you know your sixties, seventies, eighties

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<v Speaker 1>or whatever, it's a whole different dynamic.

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<v Speaker 2>Now.

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<v Speaker 1>You could work, you know, four different full time jobs

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<v Speaker 1>and still have a hard time servicing your debt. There's inflation.

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<v Speaker 1>Inflation has gone up, and wages have not kept up,

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<v Speaker 1>and we've seen the gap between GDP and wages just

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<v Speaker 1>continue to grow further and further apart. It's a real deal.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't be dismissive of younger people say, man, I'm working,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I just I can't get ahead. Well, you

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<v Speaker 1>need to work harder. Well, you know, if you're up

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<v Speaker 1>there in age, yeah, maybe you worked hard, but your

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<v Speaker 1>money went a lot further than today. And we're not

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<v Speaker 1>going to talking about getting buried in college dead and

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<v Speaker 1>stuff like that. And so I think that work is

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<v Speaker 1>becoming less important to individuals. But I would say that

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<v Speaker 1>work is the business of the United States, the business

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<v Speaker 1>of America's business, and that means people have to work.

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<v Speaker 1>And so if you're not willing to do that at

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<v Speaker 1>some point, or you're going to do it less, and

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<v Speaker 1>God bless you if you that's your choice, but you

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<v Speaker 1>stand a high likelihood that AI is going to come

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<v Speaker 1>in and fill that void.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I think now it is going to not only

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<v Speaker 2>fill the void, it's going to blow the void the

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<v Speaker 2>ras here. And I think where we are, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>not necessarily completely emotionally prepared for what's about to happen,

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<v Speaker 2>for the losses that we're going to see. Card not

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<v Speaker 2>to be doosday about it, because I think there's there

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<v Speaker 2>is a scenario where this can be helpful to humanity.

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<v Speaker 2>This can be helpful to UH, to the economy, and

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<v Speaker 2>also to our to our day to day. But we've

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<v Speaker 2>got to have really, really much larger conversations and at

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<v Speaker 2>the highest levels of power about how we use AI

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<v Speaker 2>in order to benefit the masses. Right and right now,

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<v Speaker 2>it's in the hands of a handful of corporations that

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<v Speaker 2>are only going to use it for their specific gain

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<v Speaker 2>and goals, and so it's it's really, you know, now

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<v Speaker 2>is the time to be having a conversation, to be

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<v Speaker 2>pushing back and to be speaking to power, to say, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, while this is going to change humanity, how

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<v Speaker 2>is everyone going to benefit? Right? And I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>everyone needs to necessarily. I'm not talking about, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>outright socialism. I'm talking about having conversations about how we

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<v Speaker 2>fuel capitalism with things like AI. Right, this is world changing,

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<v Speaker 2>This is life altering for all of humanity. And I

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<v Speaker 2>think we've got to wake up to how significant a

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<v Speaker 2>change is coming and start to really have serious conversations

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<v Speaker 2>about how that gets spread out right among three hundred

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<v Speaker 2>million people here in the US and obviously more across

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<v Speaker 2>the world. But how do you bring that benefit? And

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not an AI specialist, but the question to be

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<v Speaker 2>asked is how do you bring that benefit to as

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<v Speaker 2>many people as possible?

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<v Speaker 1>Probably going to make things worse where we're saying, oh, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, look at the ads for everything that's technolog's

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<v Speaker 1>going to make your life so much either. No, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not just going to make it more complex. I'll have

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<v Speaker 1>more different things to do and more passwords to remember

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<v Speaker 1>and crap like that. And I get why younger people

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<v Speaker 1>are checking out, and maybe we've peaked at that too,

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<v Speaker 1>because how much of this do you think we had

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<v Speaker 1>a glimpse of life when COVID went on. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>we look back at COVID. It was a scary time.

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<v Speaker 1>For sure, we didn't know where this thing was headed.

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<v Speaker 1>But for a lot of people listening to the early

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<v Speaker 1>days anyway, it was like, wait a minute, hold on

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<v Speaker 1>a second, I can work from home. I can work remotely.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have that now if you lost your job

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<v Speaker 1>obviously because of that's a different story or a riff.

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<v Speaker 1>But for most people it's like, okay, i can work

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<v Speaker 1>from home. What does that look like. I'm in my

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<v Speaker 1>pajamas and it's like, you know what, nothing, We're not

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<v Speaker 1>going to go out and socialized because everything's closed. It's

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<v Speaker 1>it's amazing how in just a few years we've gotten

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<v Speaker 1>way far away from that. We had a taste of

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<v Speaker 1>like slowing life downe but clearly those Americans we don't

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<v Speaker 1>want that. We've you know, returned to office is a thing.

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<v Speaker 1>We've ramped it all up, and I think we exceeded

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<v Speaker 1>where we were in twenty twenty before COVID really hit.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, so many of the numbers are bearing out

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<v Speaker 2>that we are back with ADVENU, Yeah, no doubt, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>And I think part of that. You know, there's a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of reasons you could point to for why we

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<v Speaker 2>went back to normal, but one of the things I

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<v Speaker 2>think that's really important is that we were committed to it. Right.

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<v Speaker 2>We had we had a thirty year mortgage, right, not

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<v Speaker 2>a five or ten or fifteen, right, We had a

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<v Speaker 2>we had jobs that all of it. I'm not ever

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<v Speaker 2>saying that, you know, people don't have to go and

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<v Speaker 2>work and make a living, but I do think that

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<v Speaker 2>we went back very easily, and we went back sort

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<v Speaker 2>of because the story was sold to us that, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>normal is normal is good. Normal is what we need

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<v Speaker 2>in our lives. And we've got to get back to

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<v Speaker 2>the over consumption and we've got to get back to

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<v Speaker 2>the go, go go and the run run run, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think it just behooves all of us to

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<v Speaker 2>kind of just remember that in those moments when the

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<v Speaker 2>chips were down and things looked really dark, you know

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<v Speaker 2>what was important to us, Right? What did we run to?

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<v Speaker 2>Who are the people we turned to? What are the

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<v Speaker 2>things that we did? I mean there's no way to

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<v Speaker 2>recreate that moment, and I wouldn't want to, but there

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<v Speaker 2>was a great value in it, right, There was great

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<v Speaker 2>value in sort of understanding like, oh wow, my life

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<v Speaker 2>actually boiled down to these ten fifteen people, these few

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<v Speaker 2>things that I love to do, these people that I love,

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<v Speaker 2>this recipe that I like to make, whatever it is, right, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>And tearing that forward can be a difficult process. But

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<v Speaker 2>I think you know, the first step that sort of

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<v Speaker 2>recognizing it, even writing it down, being really aware of

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<v Speaker 2>kind of you know, what was it in that moment

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<v Speaker 2>that I ran to that was valuable to me and

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<v Speaker 2>meaningful for me? And how can I bring that forward

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<v Speaker 2>in my life? But I think you're totally right that

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<v Speaker 2>COVID with this weird exercise and anti socialism, Right, guys,

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<v Speaker 2>are we went?

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<v Speaker 1>We really don't want this or that's not expected of

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<v Speaker 1>us anymore. It's it is fascinating. Please unsubscribe.

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<v Speaker 2>Thanks.

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<v Speaker 1>It's Julio Vincent Cambudo on the Sconcherland Show seven hundred

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<v Speaker 1>WW taking back your time and attention and purpose in

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<v Speaker 1>this world, in this crazy, crazy world. Thanks for coming

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<v Speaker 1>on the show, all the.

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<v Speaker 2>Best, Thanks for having me. You well too long.

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<v Speaker 1>Didn't read just say no. Sometimes I'll say no a

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<v Speaker 1>lot more often and at least his equal number of

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<v Speaker 1>yess that you give. Keep saying yes to stuff all

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<v Speaker 1>the time, You're headed that cycle of burnout. Now, that's

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<v Speaker 1>real because it comes at us all the time, not saying,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, stop being charitable or hopeful, or be a

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<v Speaker 1>good friend or a husband, or a mother or a

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<v Speaker 1>son or a daughter, saying you know you Sometimes you'll

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<v Speaker 1>just got the carved room out for yourself. I get that, now,

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<v Speaker 1>get that later in life.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyway.

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