1 00:00:00,440 --> 00:00:03,480 Speaker 1: Pray sexual. Have you ever heard that term? No, I've 2 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:05,840 Speaker 1: never heard of it either, And I don't know. I 3 00:00:05,880 --> 00:00:09,320 Speaker 1: don't know that it is. 4 00:00:09,320 --> 00:00:10,119 Speaker 2: Is it negative? 5 00:00:10,360 --> 00:00:12,760 Speaker 1: Would people have a negative connotation of it? No? 6 00:00:13,039 --> 00:00:16,280 Speaker 2: I don't think so. I don't think so. Anybody can 7 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:17,520 Speaker 2: be pray sexual. 8 00:00:18,280 --> 00:00:23,880 Speaker 3: We referenced the spelling be earlier. Yes, I don't know 9 00:00:24,200 --> 00:00:28,000 Speaker 3: what that prefix means. All I'm thinking of is the 10 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:29,600 Speaker 3: band the fray? 11 00:00:30,280 --> 00:00:30,960 Speaker 2: Oh you know what? 12 00:00:32,640 --> 00:00:34,680 Speaker 4: Why do you think that that's somehow related? 13 00:00:34,960 --> 00:00:37,280 Speaker 1: Ah? No? 14 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:41,080 Speaker 2: But why would you call yourself that? 15 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 3: But fray means like like like a struggle, right, the. 16 00:00:47,680 --> 00:00:50,760 Speaker 1: No, because can you have like a wire that's fray, 17 00:00:51,479 --> 00:00:52,479 Speaker 1: that's frayed. 18 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:54,240 Speaker 2: Past tense? 19 00:00:54,280 --> 00:00:56,280 Speaker 3: So that's like worn down, worn down? 20 00:00:56,520 --> 00:00:56,720 Speaker 1: Right? 21 00:00:57,080 --> 00:00:59,880 Speaker 3: But isn't conflict or struggle? 22 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:01,720 Speaker 2: Is this struggle sexual? 23 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:05,480 Speaker 1: Does that struggle bus sexual? 24 00:01:06,240 --> 00:01:07,920 Speaker 3: Does that get you somehow to? 25 00:01:08,440 --> 00:01:09,280 Speaker 2: I don't think so. 26 00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:11,920 Speaker 3: The actual definition of phrase sexual. 27 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:14,319 Speaker 1: I don't think so. I don't think so. Diane, look 28 00:01:14,400 --> 00:01:17,400 Speaker 1: up phrase sexual, Look up frase fray. 29 00:01:17,600 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 3: Does she have to turn off a filter? 30 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:22,400 Speaker 2: The Oh? I don't think so. No, no, no, no, no, 31 00:01:22,400 --> 00:01:25,560 Speaker 2: no no no no. It's not an act. It's not 32 00:01:25,600 --> 00:01:26,080 Speaker 2: an act. 33 00:01:28,040 --> 00:01:32,240 Speaker 5: It's a sexual orientation on the asexual spectrum. 34 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:35,240 Speaker 1: Okay, I don't like that definition. I don't like that definition. 35 00:01:35,640 --> 00:01:38,600 Speaker 2: Describe asexual makes you think there's no sex, and that's 36 00:01:38,640 --> 00:01:40,960 Speaker 2: not the case. Describe it's actually a lot of sex. 37 00:01:41,120 --> 00:01:46,160 Speaker 5: Describing individuals who experience sexual attraction only towards people they 38 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:50,520 Speaker 5: don't know well exactly, they said, once a deep bond 39 00:01:50,680 --> 00:01:55,400 Speaker 5: or a familiarity is established, the attraction fades or disappears 40 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:56,960 Speaker 5: completely exactly. 41 00:01:57,120 --> 00:02:01,360 Speaker 1: It goes against it goes against linear what if they 42 00:02:01,400 --> 00:02:05,680 Speaker 1: call it fixed, linear and predictable trajectory. So they say, 43 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:11,520 Speaker 1: in most people, in most people, people meet, their attraction grows, 44 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:17,680 Speaker 1: emotional intimacy deepens, and sexual desire strengthens. 45 00:02:19,000 --> 00:02:20,840 Speaker 2: That makes it sound like a long time. 46 00:02:21,040 --> 00:02:24,280 Speaker 1: But it's not like that's just a normal progression, right. 47 00:02:25,680 --> 00:02:32,400 Speaker 1: Phrase sexuality is you get you want a lot of activity, activity, 48 00:02:33,040 --> 00:02:35,799 Speaker 1: until we start getting to know each other, and then 49 00:02:35,840 --> 00:02:40,639 Speaker 1: there's an intimacy, not sexual intimacy, but like an emotional intimacy. 50 00:02:41,000 --> 00:02:45,560 Speaker 1: And once we start bonding, goodbye, not goodbye like I'm 51 00:02:45,639 --> 00:02:50,480 Speaker 1: leaving you, but the desire either goes down dramatically or away. 52 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:51,080 Speaker 2: Wow. 53 00:02:51,720 --> 00:02:53,800 Speaker 1: And they said, a lot of people, a lot of 54 00:02:53,800 --> 00:02:56,440 Speaker 1: people don't even know that that's a thing, they said. 55 00:02:56,480 --> 00:02:58,960 Speaker 2: A lot of people just think like I'm broken. 56 00:02:58,800 --> 00:02:59,320 Speaker 4: How I am? 57 00:02:59,560 --> 00:03:02,519 Speaker 1: No, but there's something wrong with them, Okay, that they're 58 00:03:02,639 --> 00:03:05,640 Speaker 1: because it doesn't go it doesn't go in the right order, 59 00:03:06,320 --> 00:03:09,320 Speaker 1: not at all. Yeah, So people think like there's something 60 00:03:09,360 --> 00:03:10,920 Speaker 1: wrong with me, and they're like, no, no, no, no, no, no, 61 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:11,880 Speaker 1: there's nothing. 62 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:14,600 Speaker 2: Wrong with you. That's who you are, that's how you're born. 63 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:17,280 Speaker 3: Yeah. I wasn't saying not at all, as in, it's 64 00:03:17,400 --> 00:03:20,480 Speaker 3: not in the right order. It is not in the 65 00:03:20,680 --> 00:03:22,640 Speaker 3: expected Yeah. 66 00:03:22,919 --> 00:03:26,960 Speaker 1: No, it's not in the traditional orderline or the taught order. 67 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:28,600 Speaker 2: I mean I was teaching you that. 68 00:03:28,720 --> 00:03:32,040 Speaker 3: But you know what I mean, phrase sexuality. 69 00:03:32,120 --> 00:03:34,200 Speaker 2: I've never heard of it. 70 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:38,880 Speaker 3: It's debilitating. No, if you want to have a relationship. 71 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:40,880 Speaker 2: I mean yes, you know. 72 00:03:41,320 --> 00:03:43,840 Speaker 1: They do say you need to have an understanding partner, 73 00:03:44,320 --> 00:03:46,600 Speaker 1: and they talk about all the different types of intimacy 74 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:47,440 Speaker 1: there there are. 75 00:03:48,240 --> 00:03:52,840 Speaker 3: But until maybe someone's helping you through this, you're rather confused. 76 00:03:52,840 --> 00:03:55,840 Speaker 1: I would assume, well, there's that part of it, but 77 00:03:55,880 --> 00:03:58,560 Speaker 1: then you also have the the. 78 00:03:58,560 --> 00:04:00,400 Speaker 2: Partner part of it, where. 79 00:04:00,160 --> 00:04:03,480 Speaker 1: The partner's also so the person who's phrase sexual they 80 00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:06,520 Speaker 1: think there's something wrong with them, like they're broken, and 81 00:04:06,560 --> 00:04:08,680 Speaker 1: then the partner thinks, like, what did I do? 82 00:04:09,920 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 3: Dustin didn't pop his head and there to tell Kristen 83 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:13,320 Speaker 3: that he's heard of this, did he? 84 00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:16,520 Speaker 1: Oh? I think he said? I am is Dustin frase? No, 85 00:04:16,600 --> 00:04:18,719 Speaker 1: but I don't want anybody to be embarrassed. That's who 86 00:04:18,760 --> 00:04:21,679 Speaker 1: you are. Could I find somebody that's pray sexual? 87 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:26,200 Speaker 5: Or there may be somebody who just just diagnose somebody. 88 00:04:27,200 --> 00:04:30,039 Speaker 3: Or you've given them and given them a diagnosis. Yeah, yeah, 89 00:04:30,080 --> 00:04:32,400 Speaker 3: that's what I mean, because you've laid out the symptoms. 90 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:36,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, like meet that's me. Yeah, you meet someone. 91 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:39,680 Speaker 1: Dustin keeps waving Dustin's phrase sexual pass it on? 92 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:42,599 Speaker 2: No, No, but that makes it sound like it's bad. 93 00:04:43,640 --> 00:04:48,240 Speaker 3: It's not if you have an understanding relationship or. 94 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:51,760 Speaker 1: You just or you know yourself and you're only gonna 95 00:04:51,880 --> 00:04:54,480 Speaker 1: date people until you get to know them and then. 96 00:04:54,520 --> 00:04:58,279 Speaker 3: Then you Yeah, and is the stranger? Is that the 97 00:04:58,279 --> 00:05:01,800 Speaker 3: word you use strangers for? See how that you're you're 98 00:05:01,880 --> 00:05:05,839 Speaker 3: highly attracted to? Is that desire like off the charts 99 00:05:05,960 --> 00:05:08,479 Speaker 3: because you lose it when it comes to knowing them? 100 00:05:08,520 --> 00:05:10,960 Speaker 3: Oh it has to be so are you the extreme 101 00:05:11,160 --> 00:05:14,119 Speaker 3: side of it? Where you're essentially like a dog hump 102 00:05:14,120 --> 00:05:19,880 Speaker 3: in a blanket. Yeah, don't you read about it, I'm 103 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:20,440 Speaker 3: asking you. 104 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:21,800 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I would think so. 105 00:05:22,120 --> 00:05:25,359 Speaker 1: I would think that maybe at its deepest, desire is 106 00:05:25,440 --> 00:05:27,400 Speaker 1: just seeing somebody and being like, God, I want to 107 00:05:27,400 --> 00:05:29,680 Speaker 1: bang that or mess around with it. 108 00:05:30,160 --> 00:05:32,919 Speaker 3: People say that, who I don't think are phrase sexual? 109 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:35,280 Speaker 1: No, but but for a phrase sexual, that is it 110 00:05:36,680 --> 00:05:38,200 Speaker 1: like like I don't want to get to know. 111 00:05:38,160 --> 00:05:39,920 Speaker 3: You, I need to have it that kind of thing. 112 00:05:40,320 --> 00:05:42,320 Speaker 1: Well, yeah, but not like I need to have it 113 00:05:42,320 --> 00:05:43,960 Speaker 1: I'm getting it. 114 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:46,680 Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, but from a desire standpoint. 115 00:05:46,800 --> 00:05:49,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, Christian, will you see if you can find me 116 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:54,200 Speaker 1: somebody who thinks they're phrase sexual or believes they're phrase sexual. 117 00:05:54,960 --> 00:05:57,159 Speaker 3: Or was the object in the beginning of a phrase 118 00:05:57,200 --> 00:06:01,600 Speaker 3: sexual's covets? Oh my god, don't say it that way. 119 00:06:01,920 --> 00:06:04,479 Speaker 3: I think you're like the hottest thing in the world, 120 00:06:04,920 --> 00:06:06,840 Speaker 3: but the object of a covet. 121 00:06:10,400 --> 00:06:14,360 Speaker 2: But doesn't everybody think they're the object of a covet? 122 00:06:15,279 --> 00:06:21,600 Speaker 3: Not to what you're saying. Maybe so deep where you're like, God, 123 00:06:21,640 --> 00:06:22,800 Speaker 3: this person really wants me. 124 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:24,479 Speaker 2: Yeah they do, they do. 125 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:27,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, but there are varying degrees of that. 126 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:27,920 Speaker 2: Yeah. 127 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:30,080 Speaker 1: Oh, but They also say, Krista, but see if you 128 00:06:30,080 --> 00:06:31,520 Speaker 1: can find me what did you call it? 129 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:33,160 Speaker 2: An object of a covet. 130 00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:35,159 Speaker 3: Sometimes at the end of the night at the club 131 00:06:35,520 --> 00:06:37,600 Speaker 3: or I can't speak to this because I've never done it. 132 00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:41,960 Speaker 3: But isn't it just like all right, yeah, just like 133 00:06:42,400 --> 00:06:43,599 Speaker 3: slim pickens or whatever. 134 00:06:43,800 --> 00:06:47,320 Speaker 1: Oh what is that saying she's a she's a two 135 00:06:47,440 --> 00:06:48,800 Speaker 1: at ten but a ten at two. 136 00:06:50,040 --> 00:06:52,120 Speaker 3: I mean that makes sense? Yeah, yeah, that's the sense. 137 00:06:52,160 --> 00:06:55,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, Kristen, she's a two at ten. 138 00:06:55,320 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 1: Me, she's not really attractive at ten pm, but at 139 00:06:58,400 --> 00:07:01,119 Speaker 1: two am, she's the most beautiful thing you've ever seen. 140 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:04,719 Speaker 2: Yeah, butterface, but she's hot at two am. 141 00:07:04,880 --> 00:07:05,440 Speaker 3: He's got it. 142 00:07:05,520 --> 00:07:06,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, No, that makes sense. 143 00:07:07,120 --> 00:07:10,360 Speaker 3: You're saying that's different. Say again, you're saying the body's nice. 144 00:07:10,920 --> 00:07:14,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, everything everything. 145 00:07:15,920 --> 00:07:18,120 Speaker 1: And by the way, they they do say, well, let 146 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:20,520 Speaker 1: me give the number eight six six to Elliott eight 147 00:07:20,600 --> 00:07:24,000 Speaker 1: six six two three five five four six eight someone 148 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:27,040 Speaker 1: who is someone who either is phray sexual. I've just 149 00:07:27,080 --> 00:07:30,040 Speaker 1: given you your diagnosis or you were on the receiving 150 00:07:30,120 --> 00:07:32,440 Speaker 1: end of that. And men can be phrase sexual, women 151 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:33,520 Speaker 1: can be phrase sexual. 152 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:34,400 Speaker 4: Huh? 153 00:07:34,480 --> 00:07:39,160 Speaker 3: It does it pop up more on one side? I 154 00:07:39,200 --> 00:07:41,600 Speaker 3: don't think so it's split fifty to fifty. 155 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:44,960 Speaker 1: I don't know about that, but I didn't see anything 156 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:47,160 Speaker 1: where it's like, oh, this is a dude problem. And 157 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:55,120 Speaker 1: I already know every guy's phrase sexual? Is that everybody? 158 00:07:55,160 --> 00:07:57,400 Speaker 1: Every guy who wants getting your pants? 159 00:07:59,320 --> 00:08:00,520 Speaker 3: They're from all or in India. 160 00:08:00,720 --> 00:08:10,120 Speaker 2: Yes, line four, Hi, elliot the morning. Hello, Yeah, oh hi, 161 00:08:10,240 --> 00:08:10,560 Speaker 2: who's this? 162 00:08:11,920 --> 00:08:12,080 Speaker 6: Hi? 163 00:08:12,200 --> 00:08:12,920 Speaker 7: My name is Lauren. 164 00:08:13,120 --> 00:08:14,640 Speaker 2: Yes, Lauren, what can I do for you? 165 00:08:15,800 --> 00:08:20,000 Speaker 8: Okay, I've never heard of this before, but I'm diagnosing. 166 00:08:19,280 --> 00:08:20,000 Speaker 7: Myself with it. 167 00:08:20,680 --> 00:08:24,120 Speaker 2: You're phray sexual, I think so. 168 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:26,360 Speaker 8: Like I said, I've never heard of it before, but 169 00:08:26,560 --> 00:08:28,600 Speaker 8: it makes all the sense in the world. 170 00:08:29,800 --> 00:08:31,040 Speaker 7: There's the thing for it. 171 00:08:31,120 --> 00:08:33,960 Speaker 2: In what way? Like how is it? How is it 172 00:08:34,000 --> 00:08:34,360 Speaker 2: with you? 173 00:08:35,640 --> 00:08:40,080 Speaker 7: Like I've never been in like really a lot of 174 00:08:40,080 --> 00:08:43,920 Speaker 7: long term relationships because yeah, once I get to know 175 00:08:44,040 --> 00:08:47,040 Speaker 7: the person, I can feel like obsessed with you until 176 00:08:47,040 --> 00:08:49,240 Speaker 7: I get to know you and then I'm like, oh 177 00:08:49,360 --> 00:08:55,600 Speaker 7: then you're bored, yeah, or I just like strong, just liking. 178 00:08:56,280 --> 00:08:59,360 Speaker 2: What about but what about physically physically? 179 00:09:01,720 --> 00:09:04,480 Speaker 8: I'm not gonna touch you if I don't like you. 180 00:09:04,520 --> 00:09:06,960 Speaker 2: No, I meant early on, early. 181 00:09:06,679 --> 00:09:12,720 Speaker 8: On, Oh yeah, yeah, I mean yeah, we can hook. 182 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:16,520 Speaker 7: Up and then if it like moves beyond that and. 183 00:09:18,120 --> 00:09:22,240 Speaker 8: I get to know your personality, that's where you know, 184 00:09:22,320 --> 00:09:23,640 Speaker 8: most of the time I lose interest. 185 00:09:23,960 --> 00:09:27,280 Speaker 2: Hey what's been? But so so two things. Right, you're 186 00:09:27,360 --> 00:09:28,080 Speaker 2: phray sexual. 187 00:09:28,240 --> 00:09:32,960 Speaker 1: You are so like within five minutes of meeting somebody 188 00:09:33,080 --> 00:09:36,199 Speaker 1: or just bumping into somebody in your head, you're like, 189 00:09:36,360 --> 00:09:38,199 Speaker 1: I'd bang that out in a second. 190 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:42,000 Speaker 8: Yeah, And then like I can be like obsessed, like 191 00:09:42,080 --> 00:09:45,839 Speaker 8: I'm You're all I think about and then like by 192 00:09:45,920 --> 00:09:47,880 Speaker 8: day three, right. 193 00:09:47,920 --> 00:09:49,760 Speaker 1: But when you say think about it, like you mean 194 00:09:49,840 --> 00:09:53,040 Speaker 1: like like we're gonna be together. I'm gonna rock that 195 00:09:53,080 --> 00:09:56,520 Speaker 1: thing like crazy, like I'm getting after it, and then 196 00:09:56,600 --> 00:09:58,640 Speaker 1: like day three or four, you're like, nah, put it away, 197 00:09:58,679 --> 00:09:59,240 Speaker 1: don't even care? 198 00:10:00,679 --> 00:10:01,520 Speaker 7: Yeah d three? 199 00:10:01,679 --> 00:10:04,640 Speaker 8: Yeah, if I've met him more than three times, right, 200 00:10:04,760 --> 00:10:05,240 Speaker 8: but you've. 201 00:10:05,080 --> 00:10:07,000 Speaker 2: Already had No, it's not. 202 00:10:07,400 --> 00:10:10,600 Speaker 1: It's not because we've already had the sex and hooking up. 203 00:10:13,200 --> 00:10:16,200 Speaker 7: Yeah have you ever had? 204 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:16,480 Speaker 2: Oh? 205 00:10:16,640 --> 00:10:19,400 Speaker 1: But here's what they were saying about phray sexuals, which 206 00:10:19,520 --> 00:10:22,000 Speaker 1: I don't like that. It's got a negative sounding name. 207 00:10:22,440 --> 00:10:24,560 Speaker 1: It's got a very negative sounding name. 208 00:10:24,800 --> 00:10:28,120 Speaker 3: Well, I like that rhymes even though you didn't think 209 00:10:28,160 --> 00:10:31,360 Speaker 3: it belongs on the asexual spectrum. It does rhyme, and 210 00:10:31,400 --> 00:10:37,319 Speaker 3: I always like a good rhyme. What fray sexual, that's asexual. 211 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:40,880 Speaker 3: Oh but but you're not asexual but the spectrum. 212 00:10:40,960 --> 00:10:46,440 Speaker 2: Yeah no, because I was you're not you're not a sexual. 213 00:10:46,200 --> 00:10:47,600 Speaker 3: You're not a doctor. 214 00:10:48,040 --> 00:10:51,199 Speaker 2: No. But is it a sexual? No sex at all? 215 00:10:51,520 --> 00:10:53,560 Speaker 3: But she said it's on the spectrum. 216 00:10:53,040 --> 00:10:55,720 Speaker 1: But not No, but there's not even a desire. Asexual 217 00:10:55,760 --> 00:10:59,199 Speaker 1: means there's not even a desire. Well, you don't even 218 00:10:59,200 --> 00:10:59,680 Speaker 1: get horny. 219 00:10:59,880 --> 00:11:03,000 Speaker 8: I mean, I like with celibate for a year and 220 00:11:03,080 --> 00:11:04,680 Speaker 8: I'm like really attractive, So. 221 00:11:04,600 --> 00:11:09,959 Speaker 2: It's not I love you, let's be fray together. The no, no, no, no, 222 00:11:10,520 --> 00:11:11,000 Speaker 2: you know, but. 223 00:11:10,960 --> 00:11:13,319 Speaker 1: That's what that's that's what. But they but you're not. 224 00:11:13,400 --> 00:11:16,200 Speaker 1: But but it wasn't because you didn't have any desire. 225 00:11:15,920 --> 00:11:25,000 Speaker 8: Right, Yeah. I was so turned off by like people 226 00:11:25,040 --> 00:11:29,040 Speaker 8: in general that I just didn't do it. 227 00:11:28,960 --> 00:11:29,400 Speaker 6: For a year. 228 00:11:29,600 --> 00:11:31,119 Speaker 2: What got you over the hump. 229 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:33,599 Speaker 8: Ah? 230 00:11:33,679 --> 00:11:34,440 Speaker 7: What night stand? 231 00:11:35,000 --> 00:11:35,200 Speaker 2: Right? 232 00:11:35,320 --> 00:11:38,480 Speaker 1: See? No? But and you say that and then you're like, oh, 233 00:11:38,520 --> 00:11:40,720 Speaker 1: people are going to think I'm slutty, but you're not. 234 00:11:40,960 --> 00:11:42,079 Speaker 2: You're fray sexual. 235 00:11:43,240 --> 00:11:45,160 Speaker 8: No, I just do what I want to do. 236 00:11:45,360 --> 00:11:52,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what instead of fray that it, but 237 00:11:52,120 --> 00:11:57,640 Speaker 1: instead of fray rhyming with a for sexual, fray is okay, 238 00:11:57,840 --> 00:12:02,240 Speaker 1: thank you, thank you the yeah, no, it makes total sense. 239 00:12:02,480 --> 00:12:05,640 Speaker 1: It makes total sense to me. What's the longest relationship 240 00:12:05,679 --> 00:12:06,120 Speaker 1: you've had? 241 00:12:08,240 --> 00:12:11,640 Speaker 8: Okay, I was in a long term relationship, but that's 242 00:12:11,679 --> 00:12:14,520 Speaker 8: a long story and we didn't have that so. 243 00:12:15,200 --> 00:12:17,240 Speaker 1: Right, but you did early on when you just when 244 00:12:17,280 --> 00:12:19,200 Speaker 1: you when you two first got together. 245 00:12:19,960 --> 00:12:23,199 Speaker 2: We did yeah yeah, wait. 246 00:12:23,040 --> 00:12:27,559 Speaker 1: You were doing everything with that bang yeah yeah exactly. 247 00:12:27,600 --> 00:12:28,920 Speaker 2: And you're a good looking girl. 248 00:12:29,679 --> 00:12:32,680 Speaker 1: I am, you know, And they say they say that 249 00:12:33,000 --> 00:12:37,160 Speaker 1: just because so like you, you you take the sex 250 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:40,920 Speaker 1: away from it, right that just emotionally you're bonded with 251 00:12:40,960 --> 00:12:45,160 Speaker 1: someone that even free sexuals, you could still remain emotionally 252 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:47,800 Speaker 1: attached to them very much so and still be in 253 00:12:47,840 --> 00:12:52,760 Speaker 1: love with them. But it's just this part dies, I 254 00:12:52,800 --> 00:12:53,840 Speaker 1: shouldn't say it about that. 255 00:12:53,920 --> 00:12:56,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. You're welcome, You're welcome. 256 00:12:56,360 --> 00:13:00,000 Speaker 1: You've been diagnosed, you've been diagnosed, Thank you, thank you. 257 00:13:01,160 --> 00:13:05,000 Speaker 3: Someone on Snapchat brought up another one of your go 258 00:13:05,120 --> 00:13:06,600 Speaker 3: to sayings. 259 00:13:06,200 --> 00:13:06,920 Speaker 2: Atal. 260 00:13:10,000 --> 00:13:12,760 Speaker 3: Yes, and I think they had the phrasing off a 261 00:13:12,800 --> 00:13:14,480 Speaker 3: little bit, but it was like it's like they show 262 00:13:14,600 --> 00:13:16,760 Speaker 3: me the hottest woman in the world. 263 00:13:16,800 --> 00:13:18,960 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, show me the most beautiful woman in the world, 264 00:13:18,960 --> 00:13:20,679 Speaker 1: and I'll show you the guy who's bored with efn or. 265 00:13:20,920 --> 00:13:22,520 Speaker 3: I don't think that's what this is. 266 00:13:22,760 --> 00:13:25,280 Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, I can tell you that it's a 267 00:13:25,400 --> 00:13:29,720 Speaker 1: say at the bottom of course, it is common for 268 00:13:29,840 --> 00:13:35,080 Speaker 1: sexual desire to diminish over time in any long term relationship. 269 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:39,800 Speaker 1: That isn't necessarily a sign of phrase sexuality. Okay, some 270 00:13:39,840 --> 00:13:43,480 Speaker 1: people do have attachment and intimacy issues and experience sexual 271 00:13:43,559 --> 00:13:47,880 Speaker 1: or intimacy disconnections with their partners. So they're just saying, 272 00:13:47,920 --> 00:13:51,560 Speaker 1: over time, it may it mayane. 273 00:13:52,040 --> 00:13:55,360 Speaker 2: Yes that it may wane, but that's not pray sexual right. 274 00:13:55,600 --> 00:13:58,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, I can't believe, for the collar how fast it happened. 275 00:13:59,320 --> 00:14:01,840 Speaker 3: I thought it's like getting to know someone on a 276 00:14:02,040 --> 00:14:02,920 Speaker 3: deeper level. 277 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:05,559 Speaker 2: Yeah, how much. I mean I had sex right then 278 00:14:05,600 --> 00:14:06,640 Speaker 2: and there physically. 279 00:14:06,760 --> 00:14:10,520 Speaker 3: Oh but like three dates? How much do you know? 280 00:14:10,120 --> 00:14:14,320 Speaker 2: You don't want to know anything, right, No, But. 281 00:14:14,200 --> 00:14:16,360 Speaker 4: That's the more you learn, the more you get turned off. 282 00:14:16,640 --> 00:14:18,680 Speaker 1: By the way, if you go out on three dates 283 00:14:18,679 --> 00:14:22,200 Speaker 1: with somebody like you're talking at that point, like you're 284 00:14:22,280 --> 00:14:25,760 Speaker 1: learning stuff about them, it's not all done like, well, 285 00:14:25,960 --> 00:14:28,280 Speaker 1: all right, we just had sex. Let me drop you off. 286 00:14:28,320 --> 00:14:31,160 Speaker 1: Like you're talking, you're learning, I may know where you 287 00:14:31,200 --> 00:14:33,520 Speaker 1: grew up, what you do for a living, and you're 288 00:14:33,520 --> 00:14:35,160 Speaker 1: telling me that, and I'm like, you know, you're giving 289 00:14:35,200 --> 00:14:36,360 Speaker 1: me lib day here. 290 00:14:36,840 --> 00:14:40,360 Speaker 2: So no, you are so well it is, but it's 291 00:14:40,400 --> 00:14:45,040 Speaker 2: not bad. It's just I'm now like, sh don't say nothing. 292 00:14:46,880 --> 00:14:50,560 Speaker 3: So it's it's affecting not only desire. 293 00:14:51,240 --> 00:14:52,680 Speaker 2: I don't know that you can't get a boner. 294 00:14:52,720 --> 00:14:54,320 Speaker 1: Okay, so you don't know if there's I don't think 295 00:14:54,400 --> 00:14:58,000 Speaker 1: there's a rectile dysfunction. Okay, Yeah, it's just it's just 296 00:14:58,080 --> 00:14:59,920 Speaker 1: you don't want it. 297 00:15:01,520 --> 00:15:05,680 Speaker 2: Pray is okay, but it is a struggle. 298 00:15:05,760 --> 00:15:12,600 Speaker 3: Like Rumpel Foreskins just wrote, wow phrase, sexuality is opening 299 00:15:12,600 --> 00:15:15,200 Speaker 3: my eyes to a lot of problems I have in relationships. 300 00:15:15,240 --> 00:15:19,000 Speaker 3: I always thought I was being self destructive nose. 301 00:15:19,000 --> 00:15:21,200 Speaker 2: A lot of people do think they're broken, or. 302 00:15:21,160 --> 00:15:25,440 Speaker 3: You could see someone feeling like nope, I'm falling too fast, 303 00:15:25,720 --> 00:15:28,520 Speaker 3: or I don't want to commit this hard, or I 304 00:15:28,640 --> 00:15:30,040 Speaker 3: just got out of a relationship. 305 00:15:30,760 --> 00:15:32,640 Speaker 2: But it's in mine. I will yell I love you 306 00:15:32,680 --> 00:15:33,480 Speaker 2: in first hump. 307 00:15:33,920 --> 00:15:39,280 Speaker 3: I know, I know, but it's you're wired to not 308 00:15:40,000 --> 00:15:44,120 Speaker 3: want that and then lose sexual desire because of it. 309 00:15:45,880 --> 00:15:47,920 Speaker 2: But when you say it like that, it sounds bad. 310 00:15:48,200 --> 00:15:49,160 Speaker 3: No, I'm describing it. 311 00:15:49,320 --> 00:15:52,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's who you are. Yeah, the same way 312 00:15:52,240 --> 00:15:53,280 Speaker 2: I'm short. 313 00:15:55,480 --> 00:15:58,680 Speaker 5: I'm mean, man, I think there's a song about that. 314 00:15:58,680 --> 00:16:01,360 Speaker 2: That's how I'm wired to be sure doesn't want it? 315 00:16:04,800 --> 00:16:06,840 Speaker 2: Where am I going? Oh so? But so so? 316 00:16:06,920 --> 00:16:10,360 Speaker 1: But if you go back to Rumpel, Rumpel the he 317 00:16:10,600 --> 00:16:13,440 Speaker 1: thinks that he was just but why did he Well, 318 00:16:13,480 --> 00:16:18,560 Speaker 1: he just didn't want the person physically anymore, but thought 319 00:16:19,360 --> 00:16:21,240 Speaker 1: that he was intentionally blowing it up. 320 00:16:21,560 --> 00:16:24,080 Speaker 2: But the truth is he just he wants, you know, 321 00:16:24,120 --> 00:16:28,120 Speaker 2: what he wants to keep turning over new stones. The 322 00:16:28,200 --> 00:16:30,120 Speaker 2: new stones are what he wants. 323 00:16:30,320 --> 00:16:32,680 Speaker 3: Because that's what he's being told. 324 00:16:33,720 --> 00:16:34,680 Speaker 2: But you know, it's weird. 325 00:16:34,760 --> 00:16:36,920 Speaker 1: But when they when but yeah, I was gonna say, 326 00:16:36,960 --> 00:16:38,920 Speaker 1: why would you even get in a relationship because there 327 00:16:39,000 --> 00:16:42,480 Speaker 1: is still the mental or the emotional attachment. 328 00:16:42,600 --> 00:16:44,600 Speaker 2: You could still be in love. You could still be 329 00:16:44,640 --> 00:16:46,200 Speaker 2: in love. They say. 330 00:16:46,240 --> 00:16:49,920 Speaker 1: Some phrase sexual couples where one is uh, where one. 331 00:16:49,840 --> 00:16:53,800 Speaker 2: Is frey and the other is nay. They end up 332 00:16:53,840 --> 00:16:55,720 Speaker 2: in open relationships. 333 00:16:56,160 --> 00:16:58,080 Speaker 4: I couldn't do that, They hand, the constant need to 334 00:16:58,120 --> 00:16:58,840 Speaker 4: meet somebody new. 335 00:16:59,440 --> 00:17:00,160 Speaker 2: No, the. 336 00:17:01,920 --> 00:17:05,800 Speaker 1: Partner is like, Okay, you got yours for three dates. 337 00:17:05,800 --> 00:17:08,320 Speaker 2: What about the rest of my life for me? They like, 338 00:17:08,400 --> 00:17:09,840 Speaker 2: let me get a little wiggler. 339 00:17:12,040 --> 00:17:12,920 Speaker 3: Now, Timmy. 340 00:17:12,640 --> 00:17:16,240 Speaker 1: But if there's that emotional attachment, you don't want to 341 00:17:16,280 --> 00:17:17,439 Speaker 1: you know, I don't want to sit. 342 00:17:17,320 --> 00:17:19,440 Speaker 2: There and look over and watch you ride out. Somebody 343 00:17:19,720 --> 00:17:20,120 Speaker 2: say good. 344 00:17:20,560 --> 00:17:22,960 Speaker 3: Timmy says. It sounds like people just love the thrill 345 00:17:23,000 --> 00:17:24,960 Speaker 3: of the hunt and the chase, and then they move on. 346 00:17:25,400 --> 00:17:27,080 Speaker 3: I don't get that sense either. 347 00:17:27,119 --> 00:17:30,000 Speaker 1: No, because those people are also capable of meeting somebody 348 00:17:30,080 --> 00:17:35,000 Speaker 1: and settling down and having a relationship for years. Listen, 349 00:17:35,200 --> 00:17:38,480 Speaker 1: everybody loves the excitement of the hunt and the chase. 350 00:17:39,000 --> 00:17:42,480 Speaker 2: Everybody does, or you would never get with anybody, didn't. 351 00:17:42,240 --> 00:17:44,320 Speaker 3: You just the other day talk about how you went 352 00:17:44,359 --> 00:17:46,240 Speaker 3: through a bad period of blind dates. 353 00:17:46,359 --> 00:17:49,399 Speaker 1: Yeah, but you know what, going into every one of 354 00:17:49,440 --> 00:17:51,400 Speaker 1: them was freaking awesome. 355 00:17:51,480 --> 00:17:51,600 Speaker 6: Oh. 356 00:17:51,840 --> 00:17:54,960 Speaker 1: I loved going into every one of them. Because you 357 00:17:55,080 --> 00:17:58,399 Speaker 1: have no idea. It's like buying a scratcher. 358 00:18:00,119 --> 00:18:01,160 Speaker 2: Okay, you don't know. 359 00:18:01,440 --> 00:18:04,040 Speaker 1: You you may have just you may have won nothing, 360 00:18:04,520 --> 00:18:06,840 Speaker 1: or you or you know what you had, you had 361 00:18:06,840 --> 00:18:09,840 Speaker 1: a decent conversation with someone, or you're a millionaire, like 362 00:18:09,960 --> 00:18:11,919 Speaker 1: that's the that's the beauty of it. 363 00:18:11,960 --> 00:18:15,280 Speaker 3: I thought you went to some begrudgingly. I didn't realize 364 00:18:15,320 --> 00:18:17,240 Speaker 3: there was thrill associated with all of them. 365 00:18:17,280 --> 00:18:20,200 Speaker 1: Oh, yes, they're great now, I mean that could turn 366 00:18:20,560 --> 00:18:22,959 Speaker 1: like that, right, yeah. I mean you can make a 367 00:18:23,000 --> 00:18:25,639 Speaker 1: corner and see them at the bar and be like, 368 00:18:25,680 --> 00:18:27,840 Speaker 1: oh god, here comes a disastrous two hours. 369 00:18:28,119 --> 00:18:29,280 Speaker 2: Oh but I don't see anybody I know. 370 00:18:30,040 --> 00:18:34,679 Speaker 1: Yeah, but going there, Oh, you you're getting rich by 371 00:18:35,000 --> 00:18:35,240 Speaker 1: it is. 372 00:18:35,280 --> 00:18:39,080 Speaker 2: It's buying a scratch off. It's great. 373 00:18:39,560 --> 00:18:42,120 Speaker 3: Now. This sounds different too, But then again, this all 374 00:18:42,160 --> 00:18:43,800 Speaker 3: may be on the spectrum. 375 00:18:43,960 --> 00:18:47,200 Speaker 2: I don't like that term pray is. 376 00:18:47,160 --> 00:18:51,280 Speaker 3: Okay from Instagram. I might be too, dang it. It 377 00:18:51,400 --> 00:18:54,840 Speaker 3: makes sense a woman. I will put someone on a 378 00:18:54,840 --> 00:18:57,040 Speaker 3: pedestal and have sex with them, but I am fearful 379 00:18:57,040 --> 00:18:59,760 Speaker 3: of emotional connection after, mostly because I don't want them 380 00:18:59,800 --> 00:19:00,679 Speaker 3: to to know me. 381 00:19:01,200 --> 00:19:02,040 Speaker 2: That's not sex. 382 00:19:03,240 --> 00:19:06,919 Speaker 3: Therefore I don't want them. But the physical attractiveness is 383 00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:08,200 Speaker 3: there until talking. 384 00:19:08,720 --> 00:19:12,840 Speaker 1: Huh's oh yeah, that's that's muddy waters. Yeah, that's just 385 00:19:12,880 --> 00:19:14,639 Speaker 1: because you don't want somebody to know you. But it 386 00:19:14,680 --> 00:19:17,200 Speaker 1: sounds like they still want to have the. 387 00:19:17,200 --> 00:19:19,800 Speaker 3: Sex without knowing the person. 388 00:19:19,960 --> 00:19:22,080 Speaker 2: Or getting to know them, Like, I don't think it's 389 00:19:22,119 --> 00:19:24,360 Speaker 2: just some day. Don't tell me your name. 390 00:19:25,400 --> 00:19:28,840 Speaker 3: Now a phrase sexual may realize when they get to 391 00:19:28,880 --> 00:19:32,199 Speaker 3: know somebody it causes problems. But at first it's they 392 00:19:32,280 --> 00:19:35,200 Speaker 3: have no problem before they've diagnosed themselves or someone else 393 00:19:35,240 --> 00:19:37,800 Speaker 3: has told them what's going on? Do they have a 394 00:19:37,880 --> 00:19:43,359 Speaker 3: problem with opening up? But they open up and go, oh, oh. 395 00:19:42,359 --> 00:19:44,320 Speaker 1: Well, it's not even them opening up, it's the other 396 00:19:44,359 --> 00:19:45,320 Speaker 1: person opening up. 397 00:19:46,080 --> 00:19:48,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, but how one sighted are you going to make 398 00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:48,919 Speaker 3: the conversation? 399 00:19:49,480 --> 00:19:51,440 Speaker 2: Tell me more about your don't tell me anything about 400 00:19:51,440 --> 00:19:52,560 Speaker 2: yourself that. 401 00:19:55,920 --> 00:19:58,080 Speaker 1: Don't care where you were born, Nope, I don't care 402 00:19:58,119 --> 00:19:58,840 Speaker 1: what you do for a living. 403 00:19:58,920 --> 00:19:59,960 Speaker 2: Let me tell you all about. 404 00:19:59,800 --> 00:20:03,560 Speaker 3: Me line, so it can be you. You're allowed to share. 405 00:20:03,600 --> 00:20:04,840 Speaker 3: I thought it was more mutual. 406 00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:07,440 Speaker 2: Well, I mean, what am I going to just sit 407 00:20:07,480 --> 00:20:11,439 Speaker 2: there in silence and hope? Well, it ain't gonna get bigger? 408 00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:12,960 Speaker 2: Want to do something with it? Like what am I 409 00:20:13,000 --> 00:20:13,800 Speaker 2: supposed to do? 410 00:20:14,400 --> 00:20:18,240 Speaker 3: I thought that that connection, So that's two parties was 411 00:20:18,280 --> 00:20:22,680 Speaker 3: the problem. Yeah, so it's it's info about you, info 412 00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:24,160 Speaker 3: about But I like myself. 413 00:20:24,240 --> 00:20:25,679 Speaker 2: But if I don't learn anything about you. 414 00:20:25,760 --> 00:20:28,359 Speaker 1: I still just like me, Hi yell in the morning, 415 00:20:28,359 --> 00:20:30,960 Speaker 1: a selfish lover perfect. 416 00:20:32,160 --> 00:20:36,639 Speaker 2: Hello elliot, Yo, what's the worst STD? 417 00:20:36,800 --> 00:20:37,320 Speaker 6: To catch? 418 00:20:38,040 --> 00:20:39,600 Speaker 2: The worst STD. 419 00:20:41,440 --> 00:20:42,040 Speaker 6: Feeling? 420 00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:54,359 Speaker 5: I'm like my whole life and I've never heard that. 421 00:20:54,359 --> 00:20:59,639 Speaker 2: That's good, it's funny. Line four, Hi YoY in the morning, 422 00:21:01,320 --> 00:21:02,960 Speaker 2: Good morning? Hi? Who's this. 423 00:21:04,600 --> 00:21:07,439 Speaker 6: Kitty in Fairfax? I just want to say I'm prayse 424 00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:12,000 Speaker 6: sexual and my husband is demisexual. You know, it's his suggestion. 425 00:21:12,760 --> 00:21:15,080 Speaker 6: Demi sexual is like the opposites where you want to 426 00:21:15,119 --> 00:21:17,879 Speaker 6: have the relationship part and I'm more like no, I 427 00:21:17,960 --> 00:21:21,480 Speaker 6: just want the newness. But it was his suggestion to 428 00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:22,680 Speaker 6: open a relationship. 429 00:21:24,040 --> 00:21:25,560 Speaker 2: So wait a minute, so you hold on. 430 00:21:25,600 --> 00:21:26,720 Speaker 3: I got to get my seat belt. 431 00:21:27,359 --> 00:21:31,320 Speaker 1: So you want you love the like you want the 432 00:21:31,440 --> 00:21:34,800 Speaker 1: physical stuff, but you still love him right, like emotionally 433 00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:35,560 Speaker 1: you're still there? 434 00:21:35,680 --> 00:21:38,800 Speaker 6: God, yes, yeah, of course, yes, our relationship is great 435 00:21:39,240 --> 00:21:40,359 Speaker 6: the so but. 436 00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:42,800 Speaker 1: You you like it, you like it fresh early on, 437 00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:45,639 Speaker 1: not in the day. I meant like in the relationship 438 00:21:46,040 --> 00:21:49,000 Speaker 1: and he's like eh and wants to wait. 439 00:21:49,160 --> 00:21:53,320 Speaker 2: But once the emotional relationship does he does he want 440 00:21:53,320 --> 00:21:55,240 Speaker 2: the sex? Does he want the sex at all? 441 00:21:56,600 --> 00:21:56,760 Speaker 4: Oh? 442 00:21:56,800 --> 00:22:02,600 Speaker 6: Sure? Right? But he's more into like the girlfriends relationships thing, 443 00:22:03,440 --> 00:22:05,320 Speaker 6: and I'm like, don't yuck my youm I just want 444 00:22:05,359 --> 00:22:06,720 Speaker 6: some you know, new guy. 445 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:12,119 Speaker 2: Right. So now you're in an open marriage, yes? And 446 00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:14,560 Speaker 2: are are you both? Are you both open? 447 00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:16,520 Speaker 6: Yes? 448 00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:20,320 Speaker 1: So he's got a bunch of girlfriends and you just 449 00:22:20,359 --> 00:22:24,760 Speaker 1: have a bunch of sex part well no, but yes, yes, right, 450 00:22:24,840 --> 00:22:29,399 Speaker 1: so okay he has girlfriends, you have sex partners. Yes, 451 00:22:30,119 --> 00:22:32,040 Speaker 1: But do you have to go through a lot of 452 00:22:32,080 --> 00:22:36,919 Speaker 1: sex partners because you don't want them to become boyfriends? 453 00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:40,520 Speaker 6: You know, my need isn't that high, so it's not 454 00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:41,160 Speaker 6: a big deal. 455 00:22:41,600 --> 00:22:43,560 Speaker 1: Hell, But what I'm saying is you don't keep with 456 00:22:43,600 --> 00:22:45,600 Speaker 1: these guys for long periods of time. 457 00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:48,600 Speaker 2: You get them. I don't want to say you use them, 458 00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:52,359 Speaker 2: but yeah, okay, yeah, get out of them what you want. 459 00:22:53,280 --> 00:22:55,800 Speaker 4: And are these people that you've known or new people 460 00:22:55,840 --> 00:22:56,600 Speaker 4: that you meet? 461 00:22:56,960 --> 00:22:59,320 Speaker 6: Oh no, they're new, new awesome. 462 00:23:00,760 --> 00:23:05,399 Speaker 4: Are you meeting them on an app or in person? No? 463 00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:08,760 Speaker 6: I'm not on the apps. It's just random, huh? 464 00:23:08,840 --> 00:23:09,280 Speaker 2: Random? 465 00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:10,200 Speaker 4: Like what you like? 466 00:23:10,960 --> 00:23:14,119 Speaker 2: You at subway? 467 00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:14,720 Speaker 6: Literally? 468 00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:19,359 Speaker 1: Yes, you met somebody at a subway and you were like, 469 00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:20,800 Speaker 1: give me the Italian b MT. 470 00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:22,919 Speaker 2: While you're making it. Hey, you know I'm in an 471 00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:23,600 Speaker 2: open marriage. 472 00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:24,320 Speaker 4: Hey, what's your story? 473 00:23:24,400 --> 00:23:24,560 Speaker 6: Yeah? 474 00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:26,840 Speaker 2: How are you having that conversation? 475 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:33,560 Speaker 6: It's it's wild wild, Yes, that's food establishments. 476 00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:37,160 Speaker 1: Yes, you literally will tell somebody I'm in an open 477 00:23:37,200 --> 00:23:38,760 Speaker 1: marriage and I find you attractive. 478 00:23:40,119 --> 00:23:42,159 Speaker 6: No, they hit on me. I don't start it. 479 00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:45,359 Speaker 3: Is that because your shirt explains it. 480 00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:49,399 Speaker 2: I don't get that. 481 00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:52,679 Speaker 1: So you and I are at subway, You and I 482 00:23:52,720 --> 00:23:57,160 Speaker 1: are at subway right, and i'm I'm I'm before you 483 00:23:57,480 --> 00:23:58,480 Speaker 1: and I order right. 484 00:23:58,520 --> 00:24:03,040 Speaker 6: I'm getting Often it is the employee, yis it's the 485 00:24:03,119 --> 00:24:05,919 Speaker 6: other customers, Oh, hi, how. 486 00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:08,760 Speaker 2: Are you the You look very pretty today? What's your name? 487 00:24:11,280 --> 00:24:14,040 Speaker 6: Literally, I'm a woman. It's easier for women. 488 00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:16,640 Speaker 1: No, but at some point you still have to say, hey, 489 00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:19,960 Speaker 1: just so you know, I'm in an open marriage, let's 490 00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:20,440 Speaker 1: have sex. 491 00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:21,720 Speaker 6: They don't care. 492 00:24:22,720 --> 00:24:27,200 Speaker 1: Oh okay, Well that's I mean every guy's phrase sexually. 493 00:24:28,040 --> 00:24:28,760 Speaker 4: Yeah. 494 00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:30,800 Speaker 1: So can I ask you this? When is the When 495 00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:32,879 Speaker 1: is the last new person you had sex with? 496 00:24:36,560 --> 00:24:38,800 Speaker 6: It was like a month ago. 497 00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:45,080 Speaker 2: Where'd you meet him? I don't wait? 498 00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:47,119 Speaker 4: Say again, you didn't want to get into details. 499 00:24:47,160 --> 00:24:49,360 Speaker 2: When you get that high pitch, I can't understand you. 500 00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:56,119 Speaker 6: I met him, I met him. You know, I'm around the. 501 00:24:56,760 --> 00:24:59,879 Speaker 2: Tyler would yeah, we'd come on. 502 00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:04,160 Speaker 1: You've already told me that you're in an open marriage, 503 00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:09,720 Speaker 1: an established, an established man. 504 00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:12,640 Speaker 2: Where where did you meet him? 505 00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:19,040 Speaker 6: Oh? Establishment, I don't want to say where. 506 00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:21,720 Speaker 3: You also specialized in submarine sandwiches. 507 00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:29,159 Speaker 6: Okay, so you met him. 508 00:25:29,160 --> 00:25:33,920 Speaker 2: You met him at a at a sandwich place, And 509 00:25:34,040 --> 00:25:35,560 Speaker 2: did you have sex with him that day? 510 00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:37,000 Speaker 3: No? 511 00:25:39,320 --> 00:25:42,280 Speaker 6: A little text thing and then like, yeah. 512 00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:45,040 Speaker 2: Is your was your husband home when you had sex 513 00:25:45,080 --> 00:25:45,400 Speaker 2: with him? 514 00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:47,960 Speaker 6: Not him? 515 00:25:49,040 --> 00:25:52,840 Speaker 1: Not him, but he's been home for other guys. Does 516 00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:55,480 Speaker 1: he watch or is he like, uh, NAT's games on? 517 00:25:57,560 --> 00:26:01,040 Speaker 6: I mean if he's if he's home and we're doing 518 00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:03,240 Speaker 6: it there, he likes to watch. 519 00:26:04,680 --> 00:26:07,399 Speaker 2: Can I ask you this? Can I honest question right 520 00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:09,920 Speaker 2: when he's watching? Does he masturbate? 521 00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:15,959 Speaker 6: I mean, I assume so I'm not paying attention. 522 00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:19,520 Speaker 2: Got a girl, Now you focus on me, listen. I didn't. 523 00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:21,679 Speaker 2: I didn't end this sandwich shift early. 524 00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:23,560 Speaker 3: Ignored. 525 00:26:25,200 --> 00:26:27,160 Speaker 2: And now let me ask you this, like when when 526 00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:32,280 Speaker 2: with his girlfriends? Right, with his girlfriends, what do you like, like? 527 00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:34,160 Speaker 2: Do they go out? Do they do anything? 528 00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:36,000 Speaker 4: Yeah? 529 00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:39,000 Speaker 6: They go out on dates. I don't want to be 530 00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:41,080 Speaker 6: involved in that. I'm not like him. I don't want 531 00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:41,639 Speaker 6: to be involved. 532 00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:43,600 Speaker 2: You do your thing, right, But they don't have But 533 00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:44,960 Speaker 2: you don't think they're having sex. 534 00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:50,040 Speaker 1: It's just the companionship. The companion What do you mean? Okay, 535 00:26:50,119 --> 00:26:52,080 Speaker 1: you realize, ma'am, you're not phrase sexual. 536 00:26:52,240 --> 00:26:55,560 Speaker 2: Just the two of you open marriage where you're banging 537 00:26:55,560 --> 00:26:58,720 Speaker 2: another beat, which is totally fond. I don't know what 538 00:26:58,840 --> 00:26:59,320 Speaker 2: that means. 539 00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:01,320 Speaker 3: It's the opposite you think. 540 00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:05,760 Speaker 5: I remember that he more, he's more interested in the relationship, 541 00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:06,800 Speaker 5: the emotional kind, but. 542 00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:07,760 Speaker 2: He still having sex. 543 00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:09,359 Speaker 3: But he has to get to that. 544 00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:10,639 Speaker 2: He's got to get to it. 545 00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:14,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, so they have to mean something to him. That 546 00:27:14,880 --> 00:27:16,680 Speaker 1: makes it sound like girl, you a hoe? 547 00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:19,119 Speaker 2: No, No, but they don't have to. They don't have 548 00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:24,880 Speaker 2: to mean something to you, right, was it pop? 549 00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:28,439 Speaker 3: Elly? The Works? 550 00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:29,880 Speaker 4: Jimmy John's Fire? 551 00:27:29,960 --> 00:27:30,080 Speaker 1: Oh? 552 00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:30,480 Speaker 3: Fires? 553 00:27:30,560 --> 00:27:37,719 Speaker 2: Ubs? Wow? And how long have you too? How long 554 00:27:37,800 --> 00:27:38,760 Speaker 2: have you two been married? 555 00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:42,000 Speaker 1: Years? 556 00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:42,760 Speaker 3: You know what? 557 00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:43,520 Speaker 6: Good for you? 558 00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:44,680 Speaker 2: Good for you? 559 00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:47,280 Speaker 1: Can I ask you this if you had to guess, 560 00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:49,960 Speaker 1: if you had to guess, and I'm not I'm listen, 561 00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:52,479 Speaker 1: I'm not judging you. Guys found a way to make 562 00:27:52,520 --> 00:27:56,359 Speaker 1: it work. I think that's that's admirable in twenty years 563 00:27:56,600 --> 00:28:00,159 Speaker 1: other than your husband. How many dudes have you had 564 00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:00,480 Speaker 1: sex with? 565 00:28:04,160 --> 00:28:04,639 Speaker 2: One hundred? 566 00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:10,560 Speaker 6: It wasn't open whole time? But no, no, let ten ten. 567 00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:17,000 Speaker 2: Oh that's nothing, bro, don't ask. 568 00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:19,680 Speaker 6: The other question. I'm not answering that one. I can anymore. 569 00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:21,760 Speaker 2: So no, what do you mean you can anymore? 570 00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:23,880 Speaker 6: Not anymore? 571 00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:25,280 Speaker 2: You didn't did you break it? 572 00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:32,399 Speaker 6: Let's just go with yeah, oh someone got the ib s. No, 573 00:28:34,000 --> 00:28:35,359 Speaker 6: I'm just protecting my house. 574 00:28:35,720 --> 00:28:37,000 Speaker 7: There you go, there you go. 575 00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:39,560 Speaker 2: All right, very good. What is trump button? 576 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:42,320 Speaker 3: It's when it's the protrusion of the cavity. 577 00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:50,880 Speaker 2: Oh no, no, an image search? All right, very good, 578 00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:53,719 Speaker 2: very good, all right, it's very nice. I love you too, 579 00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:59,000 Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you. I'll see it the sandwich chop. Wow. 580 00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:02,120 Speaker 2: Can I ask a question? 581 00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:03,440 Speaker 4: I'm shock she only said ten. 582 00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:06,120 Speaker 2: The well, she said, they haven't been opened the whole time. 583 00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:08,600 Speaker 2: It may be a recent thing. I mean that may 584 00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:11,440 Speaker 2: just be within the last couple of weeks. Is she 585 00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:12,560 Speaker 2: is she frey? 586 00:29:14,200 --> 00:29:14,840 Speaker 6: Or is that just? 587 00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:18,760 Speaker 2: Is that just an open marriage? 588 00:29:18,840 --> 00:29:22,800 Speaker 1: But one likes relationships, it's gonna take a while, versus 589 00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:24,360 Speaker 1: I just want to have it there. 590 00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:26,200 Speaker 2: But she said, like they're friends. 591 00:29:27,880 --> 00:29:28,760 Speaker 3: Based on your definition. 592 00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:30,080 Speaker 2: It's not classic freg. 593 00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:33,440 Speaker 3: It's not classic fre you know a word we just learned. 594 00:29:35,800 --> 00:29:37,320 Speaker 2: I don't think it's classic fray. 595 00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:41,000 Speaker 3: I don't either. I don't even I don't. It's not 596 00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:46,800 Speaker 3: because phrase sexuality is on that asexuality spectrum. She's not 597 00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:50,520 Speaker 3: a sexual, no, no, not very sexual. I think it's 598 00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:54,760 Speaker 3: a result of her husband's demisexuality. I do believe that right. 599 00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:57,200 Speaker 2: By the way, I've never even heard of that word. 600 00:29:57,720 --> 00:29:58,880 Speaker 3: Well, just like fray. 601 00:29:59,200 --> 00:30:02,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, I've known Frey longer than DEMI. 602 00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:07,520 Speaker 3: Someone also mentioned gray sexuals old people. I don't think 603 00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:07,800 Speaker 3: it's that. 604 00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:10,880 Speaker 2: Oh I don't know what it is, that gray sexual 605 00:30:11,080 --> 00:30:12,080 Speaker 2: it's got to be old people. 606 00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:13,600 Speaker 3: It's not. It's on the spectrum. 607 00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:17,680 Speaker 2: Oh my god, can we stop saying that sexual. 608 00:30:17,400 --> 00:30:21,160 Speaker 3: Attraction only rarely, infrequently at a low intensity. 609 00:30:22,440 --> 00:30:25,880 Speaker 2: Oh so it's like like the gray area, they say, wait, 610 00:30:26,000 --> 00:30:26,600 Speaker 2: say that again. 611 00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:31,320 Speaker 3: It is you rarely have sexual feelings, and. 612 00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:34,000 Speaker 1: When you do, it's at a low level. So you're like, 613 00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:37,440 Speaker 1: you're like, you're a fish. What you're just laying there 614 00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:42,800 Speaker 1: like a fish? Better than a trunk, dude, I do 615 00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:47,320 Speaker 1: not want a trunk. But hell no, hell no, I'm 616 00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:47,920 Speaker 1: with that girl. 617 00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:52,400 Speaker 2: Learn a lot. 618 00:30:53,880 --> 00:30:55,640 Speaker 4: You know, all these terms I'd never even heard before. 619 00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:58,400 Speaker 3: The quite a few people thinking that you did help 620 00:30:58,440 --> 00:30:58,840 Speaker 3: them out. 621 00:30:58,760 --> 00:31:01,000 Speaker 2: Though you know what. You're welcome, Doctor Siegel. 622 00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:04,800 Speaker 1: No, no, no, but don't wouldn't you feel better knowing 623 00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:06,600 Speaker 1: that that's that's just who you are. 624 00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:08,200 Speaker 4: You can delve into a little bit more. 625 00:31:08,240 --> 00:31:09,280 Speaker 2: Well, not not only that, but. 626 00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:11,360 Speaker 1: It's it's who you are and that you're not broken 627 00:31:12,000 --> 00:31:14,600 Speaker 1: or that when you're when when your partner doesn't think 628 00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:18,200 Speaker 1: you're broken, that that's just because you are capable of 629 00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:20,480 Speaker 1: love and being in long term relationships. 630 00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:24,600 Speaker 2: Yes, it's just this. Don't want nothing, You got it.