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Speaker 1: Hello friends, Welcome int to the After Show podcast. It's

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Speaker 1: justin here. It is on Monday. Today is Wow, November tenth,

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Speaker 1: fresh back from Vermont. I had a beautiful weekend with

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Speaker 1: my wife. We went up there like we do every

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Speaker 1: single year for many years. I'll share more about that

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Speaker 1: in a minute. No guests today. Tomorrow, though, we got

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Speaker 1: Maddie and Damon from Power of Recovery. These are my

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Speaker 1: favorite podcasts to do. They're gonna be sad, obviously because

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Speaker 1: you know, last time they were in when he was

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Speaker 1: here and now she's not, so that'll be an adjustment.

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Speaker 1: But I love these guys so much. Obviously I got

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Speaker 1: clean with Damon and Maddie that for that matter. And

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Speaker 1: you know, I love Power of Recovery. I love what

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Speaker 1: they do and I love having them on because you know,

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Speaker 1: it's raw and we'll share about recovery stuff and maybe

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Speaker 1: some you know, some of the not so good times.

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Speaker 1: So I do want to say, though, if you have

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Speaker 1: any questions, because Maddie loves to answer questions. He is

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Speaker 1: the recovery guy. If you you know a loved one,

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Speaker 1: anyone you know is struggling, or if you have any

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Speaker 1: general questions about recovery and what he does and sober

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Speaker 1: houses and adolescent units and anything. If you have kids,

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Speaker 1: leave a talkback on the iHeart App. I will play

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Speaker 1: them for Maddie and Damon tomorrow so they can answer them.

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Speaker 1: So on the iHeart App, leave a talkback for Maddie

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Speaker 1: and Damon from Power of Recovery. And I did miss them.

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Speaker 1: This weekend, I was at a recovery event in Burlington, Vermont.

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Speaker 1: My wife and I have been going there since like

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Speaker 1: two thousand and nine, I believe was my first year.

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Speaker 1: She had gone the year before. It's every single year.

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Speaker 1: It's right in downtown Burlington, Vermont. It is beautiful up there,

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Speaker 1: and it's kind of, you know, it's changed a bit.

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Speaker 1: You know, before when I had just gotten clean and stuff,

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Speaker 1: we'd go up every year and we'd be at this

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Speaker 1: you know, recovery event all day long, in and out

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Speaker 1: of different meetings and events and all that stuff. And

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Speaker 1: we still still are to some degree, but mostly it's

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Speaker 1: a getaway for us. So it's about going to the

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Speaker 1: event in the recovery part, but it's also a getaway.

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Speaker 1: So for example, you know, Saturday, typically we would be

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Speaker 1: at the event all day, you know, in and out

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Speaker 1: of meetings and hanging and hanging with all the people.

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Speaker 1: But now, like I send her on a SPA day,

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Speaker 1: I go to the gym. They have this sick gym

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Speaker 1: up there, which I love, and then you know, we

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Speaker 1: meet up after that, we get dinner, and then we

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Speaker 1: go to like the main event that they have there.

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Speaker 1: They've speakers from all over the country. It's a really

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Speaker 1: really cool event, and you know, I love every part

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Speaker 1: of it. I love to drive up there. Vermont is

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Speaker 1: beautiful and there's so many great memories of going up there,

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Speaker 1: So I'm so happy we get to do that once again.

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Speaker 1: Obviously we had kids, we took some years off, but

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Speaker 1: now we go again. And you know, I think these

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Speaker 1: weekends are so important to our marriage. Listen, man, Being

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Speaker 1: in a relationship long term, you know, relationship, marriage is

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Speaker 1: so it's hard. It takes work, it really does, and

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Speaker 1: especially when you have young kids, it becomes very what's

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Speaker 1: the word, very routine, right, It becomes like it's all

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Speaker 1: about the kids, and it's very easy to forget about

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Speaker 1: us in what we need as a couple. And so

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Speaker 1: that's why these weekends are so important for us to

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Speaker 1: get away and to kind of not reignite the flame,

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Speaker 1: but you know, spend some quality time together, some intimate

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Speaker 1: times to get together. And when I say intimate, I

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Speaker 1: just don't. I don't mean just sex. I mean, obviously

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Speaker 1: that's a part of it, but it just means intimate

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Speaker 1: together closeness. And we had a great talk on the

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Speaker 1: way up there. We spent some time together. I did,

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Speaker 1: you know, I sent her off to like, you know,

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Speaker 1: here's my credit card, like go you know, every day

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Speaker 1: she got a massage, a foot rub, she went on

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Speaker 1: a shopping spree. You know, just here. You deserve this,

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Speaker 1: Like she does most of the work with our kids.

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Speaker 1: You deserve this. So that was really cool. She loved that,

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Speaker 1: and we come back refreshed and full of energy. I

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Speaker 1: don't know, man, I just feel like I feel like

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Speaker 1: when you're in a long term relationship and this is

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Speaker 1: for the guy or the girl, Like I said, you

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Speaker 1: can get caught into that routine thing. But I also

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Speaker 1: think that, you know, you need to do things to

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Speaker 1: spice up the relationship, right, you need to do things

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Speaker 1: that are exciting again, you know, and going with going

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Speaker 1: and having good conversation. Not being on our phones like

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Speaker 1: that to me is spicing it up. You know, it's

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Speaker 1: about changing things, doing things differently. You know it's not easy,

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Speaker 1: but I just believe in life, like you find somebody,

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Speaker 1: you find your person, and you work to work on

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Speaker 1: that relationship. You know. We would driving home and she

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Speaker 1: was asking me. She asked me a random question. She said,

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Speaker 1: you know, do you ever think about other women, like sexually?

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Speaker 1: She asked me that question. It's a long story how

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Speaker 1: we got there. I can't talk about all that, but

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Speaker 1: she just like randomly asked me. She was like, well,

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Speaker 1: what about you? And I'm like, do I look at

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Speaker 1: other women? Of course, I'm not even gonna ask you.

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Speaker 1: If you look at other guys and be like, oh,

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Speaker 1: he's cute. If you have that thought, that's human nature.

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Speaker 1: But for me, it's like from a guy's perspective, if

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Speaker 1: I get into the point of view, right of Oh,

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Speaker 1: I've been with the same woman for so many years. Right,

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Speaker 1: you've here this, You've hear this all the time. Right, Oh,

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Speaker 1: I've had sex with the same woman, this, this, this

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Speaker 1: amount of times I've been with her so long. It's boring.

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Speaker 1: If you have that mentality then you're fucking doomed. Man.

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Speaker 1: You know, like, you find your person, and when it

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Speaker 1: boring or the same old thing over and over again,

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Speaker 1: then switch it up, right, have communication with your person

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Speaker 1: to say, hey, let's try this. Are you willing to

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Speaker 1: try this, Let's let's do this, you know, whatever that

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Speaker 1: may be. Use your imagination and make it exciting again. So, like,

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Speaker 1: that's what I took from this weekend, especially because the

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Speaker 1: weeks leading up to going away had gotten like that.

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Speaker 1: You know, every day is the same thing. It's Groundhog Day, right,

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Speaker 1: It's all about the kids, getting the kids home from school,

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Speaker 1: getting them dinner, putting them to bed, We go to bed.

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Speaker 1: We you know, we don't have any time together. So

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Speaker 1: this weekend was really important. So you know, I love

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Speaker 1: my wife so much. Man, she really is is is

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Speaker 1: the Queen. You know, She's really special. And so for you,

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Speaker 1: I hope that you have found that special person or

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Speaker 1: you will eventually one day find that person, because that

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Speaker 1: person is definitely out there, Like, look, there could be

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Speaker 1: there's how many people in the world, you know, you

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Speaker 1: don't just I don't believe you just have one person

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Speaker 1: in the world that you're destined to be with. I

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Speaker 1: don't believe that. I believe you have people that you

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Speaker 1: vibe with and you gel with, and like those are

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Speaker 1: the people that when you get with them, you work

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Speaker 1: on that relationship. That's what I'm saying. So other than that,

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Speaker 1: I hope you had a great weekend. Lisa is out

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Speaker 1: this week. She is taking some time off. This has

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Speaker 1: been planned for months and months and months, like even

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Speaker 1: before all the changes happened on the show, it was

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Speaker 1: always gonna be, you know, when Billy's out, Mikey sits in.

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Speaker 1: When Lisa's out, Gianna sits in. You know, they do

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Speaker 1: the afternoon show. So it's been fun having her in,

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Speaker 1: having you know, a Gianna new person fill in for

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Speaker 1: the show and then produce a Riley cover in the

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Speaker 1: traffic too. It's good. It's a good little switch up,

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Speaker 1: and it's a good rest and relaxation for Lisa. Obviously

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Speaker 1: she's had quite the year busy personal things going on,

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Speaker 1: so she took some time off just to like sleep

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Speaker 1: in a little bit, you know what I mean. So

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Speaker 1: Gianna will be here all week and then tomorrow Power

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Speaker 1: of Recovery, Maddie and Damon leave a talkback. Let's let's

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Speaker 1: start the discussion. If you have any crazy questions, or

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Speaker 1: you know, if you have somebody that's struggling, or if

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Speaker 1: you're struggling yourself, you can leave a talkback on the

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Speaker 1: iHeart app I after that. I don't know what's gonna

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Speaker 1: happen with the after show as far as guests, but

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Speaker 1: I'm working on it, man, And you know, if you

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Speaker 1: don't mind, some days, I'll just talk and I'll just

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Speaker 1: share what's on my mind, whether it be like relationship

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Speaker 1: stuff or stuff with the show, of stuff with my friends,

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Speaker 1: is always things going on that we can chat about.

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Speaker 1: My after show, Army, So have a great day. Everybody

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Speaker 1: kind of shitty out there today, but I think hopefully

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Speaker 1: the weather will get better tomorrow. I I peace,