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Speaker 1: Peyton, what's going on in your friend world again?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like I'm feeling kind of bad because

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Speaker 2: I'm not like hitting my friend back, Like I'm not

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Speaker 2: getting back to her. She's sending me a bunch of tiktoks.

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Speaker 2: She's like sending me all these rails, and I'm just

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Speaker 2: not responding because I kind of feel some way about her.

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Speaker 1: I said, you rails like rails of cocaine.

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Speaker 2: No real, She's like her Graham in tiktoks. And she

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Speaker 2: kind of hurt my feelings because she came into town

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Speaker 2: for a graduation a couple months ago, and I was

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Speaker 2: really excited to see her, but she wasn't coming in

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Speaker 2: town for me, which is totally fine, but she was like,

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Speaker 2: let's get together, and I was like, cool, girl, sounds good.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna be at ZIPS. You can come meet me

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Speaker 2: for a zip a rita, Like it'll be great, right,

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Speaker 2: Like if you can make the time out of your

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Speaker 2: day to come say hi, that'd be awesome. I'd love

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Speaker 2: to see you. So I'm there waiting at ZIPS for

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Speaker 2: two hours and there she's nowhere to be found, and

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Speaker 2: I check her location and she's still in Phoenix, and

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Speaker 2: I was like, dang, girl, and I text her was

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Speaker 2: like you could it takes me then, and then she

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Speaker 2: didn't respond. But I got a FaceTime call from her

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Speaker 2: later that night and I didn't answer because I was

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Speaker 2: kind of in my feelings because she stood me up.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Is this that same friend who has done this to

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Speaker 3: you multiply stood.

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Speaker 2: Me up at the airport? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Yes, and then just frandomly showed up to see you

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Speaker 4: on a weekend and you were busy, but she came anyway.

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Speaker 2: Yes, okay, yes, but I love her like she is

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Speaker 2: like one of my only friends from college. She's my

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Speaker 2: something blue in my wedding.

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Speaker 1: It's all great, Wow, you've got in your wedding and

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Speaker 1: she's done all this.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I feel some kind of like but I'm

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Speaker 2: not mad because I was gonna go do what I

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Speaker 2: was gonna do anyways. But I do feel some kind

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Speaker 2: of way because she facetimed me and left me a

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Speaker 2: like video and was like, sorry, I'm three hours late,

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Speaker 2: but come out, and I was like, what girl.

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Speaker 5: No, But I'm not mad.

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Speaker 2: At her, but I am in my feelings a little

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Speaker 2: bit and I haven't replied, and.

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Speaker 5: I feel that have you been three hours late for her.

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Speaker 2: I don't do that.

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Speaker 5: You remind me consistent.

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Speaker 1: You remind me a lot of something Blake's dad said

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Speaker 1: to me one time.

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Speaker 6: And Blake's dad's the eighties, extremely wise and he's a

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Speaker 6: good man, and I remember, I can't remember the backup

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Speaker 6: part of the story, but it was a friend of

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Speaker 6: his and I was like, screw that guy. And he said,

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Speaker 6: you have to do a lot more to me than

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Speaker 6: that to lose me as a friend. And I was like, Wow,

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Speaker 6: what a good friend, not me. You irritate me one time,

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Speaker 6: you got bomb done.

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Speaker 5: You have to do way less still lose a friend.

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Speaker 1: Hey, Rachel, good morning. What do you think you're on

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Speaker 1: the air. I've had a similar situation.

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Speaker 5: So I had a really good friend.

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Speaker 2: We had a falling out and it was over a guy, and.

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Speaker 6: It felt so important at the time, but I don't

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Speaker 6: really even.

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Speaker 1: Remember the details anymore.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so we just fall out. We stopped talking, and

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Speaker 2: I just found out from a mutual.

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Speaker 3: Friend that she's actually moving to London, and.

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Speaker 4: It just makes me so sad and I just feel

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Speaker 4: really bad.

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Speaker 1: I get in the middle of our friendship. So I

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Speaker 1: just wanted to like give that perspective as well.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I would be really sad if she moved to

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Speaker 2: a different country.

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Speaker 6: It's not like she's dead, so you can still face me.

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Speaker 6: Would you still send real you kids? Said reels overseas

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Speaker 6: last time I checked.

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Speaker 3: You could, Yeah, but it's more likely that, like you

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Speaker 3: probably may never see them again.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'd be so great.

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Speaker 2: I think with myself though, and like my friends specifically,

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Speaker 2: because I have a lot of like long term, lifelong friends,

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Speaker 2: you know, they've been in my life forever, and I

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Speaker 2: tell myself all the time, like not everyone's always going

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Speaker 2: to be as good as a friend as you are

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Speaker 2: in that moment, And so I think I'm probably just

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Speaker 2: gonna hit my friend and be like, hey, you low

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Speaker 2: key hurt my feelings. Can I count on you for

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Speaker 2: the wedding?

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Speaker 1: You know?

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Speaker 5: Do you do you?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Actually, like one of the things that I've been battling

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Speaker 2: with because I'm like.

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Speaker 5: You thought about kicking around? No, I just.

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Speaker 2: Worry that like what if she can't make her flight

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Speaker 2: the day? You know what I mean?

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Speaker 4: And it's like, but if you, if you value your

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Speaker 4: longtime friends, do you even have to say you low

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Speaker 4: key hurt my feelings? Can you just not say that's cool.

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Speaker 4: I get it. But I'm really counting on you for this.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I probably don't.

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Speaker 4: You don't have to do the hurt my feelings because

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Speaker 4: then you make them you could feelings.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I think if it's a really good friend,

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Speaker 3: communication is key and opening up in a in a

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Speaker 3: sort of gentle way, non aggressive, it could be really

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Speaker 3: healthy for you to have that conversation.

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Speaker 6: Rachel, thanks for calling in. Nope, you got it. She's off.

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Speaker 6: The London Peyton said that the friend is blowing you off.

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Speaker 6: She's in your wedding and she's something blue?

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Speaker 2: Am I something blue?

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Speaker 1: What does that mean? Is that something blue was like

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Speaker 1: an article, clothing or something you wear?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so a lot of times like you, as I've

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Speaker 2: heard of the rhymes something old, something new, something borrowed,

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Speaker 2: something blue. And I have a really big bridal party

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Speaker 2: as it is, we have eight, but two of my

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Speaker 2: friends who I'm super close with that have a relationship

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Speaker 2: with Kadem on their own as well. I wanted them

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Speaker 2: to be included, and I felt a special way of

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Speaker 2: doing that would be making them my something blue. So

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Speaker 2: they're going to be the only two at the wedding

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Speaker 2: in blue.

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Speaker 6: Oh oh what if she misunderstands that she blew you off.

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Speaker 5: Accomplished, Right, are.

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Speaker 1: You gonna put on your invitation?

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Speaker 5: Please don't wear blue yea, because there's a word.

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Speaker 1: If she doesn't show up, it's okay. You'll have one

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Speaker 1: person in blue bill. So that's kind of a good

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Speaker 1: background plan. Yeah, so you're actually got a seven.

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Speaker 6: It's pretty smart because if she doesn't blow you off,

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Speaker 6: it's so it's if she does blow you off, it's okay.

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Speaker 6: Well played, Payne whitmore, well played, all right, John Jaye

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Speaker 6: Rich