WEBVTT - 7am Hour - R&Bieber 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:03.800 Good Wigglely Party on the Ryan Show. 0:00:04.320 --> 0:00:07.360 Everybody's come in and wigglely party. 0:00:07.960 --> 0:00:13.960 Everybody's coming. Wiggle your hips just like that. Okay, so good. 0:00:14.040 --> 0:00:17.000 I had the guitar, the guitar, Murray's guitar, but then 0:00:17.040 --> 0:00:18.640 you press the buttons and it'll do a different song. 0:00:18.840 --> 0:00:21.560 Carson had that too. He had everything Wiggles. He had 0:00:21.640 --> 0:00:24.599 the big red car. Chug boom boom chug a chug, 0:00:24.640 --> 0:00:25.920 a big red car. 0:00:26.239 --> 0:00:29.040 We'll travel near, it will travel far. 0:00:30.040 --> 0:00:32.199 That's what it is to yeah, not boom boom. And 0:00:32.240 --> 0:00:36.880 then he had Captain feather Sword's feather sword because Captain 0:00:36.880 --> 0:00:39.280 feather Sword he was a very peaceful captain. He was 0:00:40.040 --> 0:00:42.240 friendly pirate. He had his sword with a feather Captain 0:00:42.280 --> 0:00:46.280 feather sword and uh. And then one time he we 0:00:46.320 --> 0:00:48.480 went to the Wiggles show and the Wiggles they would 0:00:48.520 --> 0:00:50.440 come out of the audience and they would like, you know, 0:00:50.600 --> 0:00:54.280 high five and shake hands. Here comes Murray. Murray comes 0:00:54.360 --> 0:00:57.120 right up to Carson. Carson's about three years old, and 0:00:57.200 --> 0:01:00.240 he shook his hand. Man and I would point Tory 0:01:00.240 --> 0:01:02.800 on TV and I'd say, remember he say he shook 0:01:03.040 --> 0:01:03.640 my hand. 0:01:05.640 --> 0:01:08.679 I'm so jealous that you got to see n he's 0:01:08.720 --> 0:01:13.160 the friendly pirate, friendly pirate. 0:01:13.959 --> 0:01:15.520 Let's talk about love here for a second. 0:01:15.600 --> 0:01:18.039 So Bailey brought this up the other day that your 0:01:18.080 --> 0:01:20.600 friend Katie Cap who is you know, she's been you know, 0:01:20.680 --> 0:01:23.160 single ye for years and years, but now she's being 0:01:23.200 --> 0:01:25.560 a little bit more serious. She's having a conversation with 0:01:25.600 --> 0:01:28.520 this with this fella, yes, about life and things. 0:01:28.680 --> 0:01:28.920 Yeah. 0:01:28.959 --> 0:01:30.520 So Katie Cap and I have been kind of on 0:01:30.560 --> 0:01:33.320 the same route with singleness, and she got a boyfriend 0:01:33.400 --> 0:01:36.080 kind of at the same time as me, and she 0:01:36.240 --> 0:01:39.840 is very serious with this guy, so pretty much on 0:01:39.880 --> 0:01:43.560 their third date, she gave me this list of questions 0:01:43.560 --> 0:01:45.560 that she asked him and they went like back and 0:01:45.600 --> 0:01:49.280 forth answering these questions. And I think me and regular 0:01:49.320 --> 0:01:52.360 guy have maybe answered five five of these questions. 0:01:52.560 --> 0:01:54.880 And that's here is what they are. Okay, So here 0:01:54.920 --> 0:01:55.120 they are. 0:01:55.200 --> 0:01:56.720 It is a long list, but I'll try and get 0:01:56.720 --> 0:01:58.400 through them with enough time for. 0:01:58.360 --> 0:01:59.400 You to soak in. Okay. 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:02.960 Do you have a mental timeline of when you want 0:02:03.000 --> 0:02:06.680 to be married by Am I someone you generally want 0:02:06.720 --> 0:02:09.400 to be with or am I just fitting into that timeline? 0:02:09.440 --> 0:02:14.079 M Do you want kids? How many kids? What if 0:02:14.080 --> 0:02:18.040 those kids can't biologically be yours. What if you could 0:02:18.080 --> 0:02:20.720 never have children that are biologically yours? 0:02:21.160 --> 0:02:25.600 What if those children were never of infant age? How 0:02:25.680 --> 0:02:28.480 much money do you make? Do you receive an annual raise? 0:02:28.520 --> 0:02:30.919 I'm going to stop there only because yeah, the other 0:02:30.919 --> 0:02:33.440 ones I totally get it. But that's an interesting one 0:02:33.919 --> 0:02:36.280 because you do need to know how much someone makes. 0:02:36.360 --> 0:02:38.120 Are you going to be the financial, like, you know, 0:02:38.160 --> 0:02:40.800 responsible person in the in the relationship, right? You know, 0:02:40.919 --> 0:02:43.040 do they, like you know, work part time here and 0:02:43.120 --> 0:02:46.200 there down in the valley records and they make three 0:02:46.360 --> 0:02:49.840 thirty five an hour? Or do they make some that's 0:02:49.840 --> 0:02:50.800 a question. 0:02:50.919 --> 0:02:52.960 Yeah, yeah, And Katie cap has been known to like 0:02:53.080 --> 0:02:54.679 if when she would go on dates with people, she 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:56.520 would see what their job title was and she would 0:02:56.520 --> 0:02:58.640 google it with salary on the end to see how 0:02:58.720 --> 0:03:01.800 much they love Katie Cassle. So, how much money do 0:03:01.840 --> 0:03:04.079 you make? Do you make an annual raise? If yes, 0:03:04.200 --> 0:03:06.640 what was that raise last year? How much do you 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:09.800 have in savings? Do you have separate accounts for retirement? 0:03:09.919 --> 0:03:15.320 That's a question that's I think that's reserved for you're 0:03:15.560 --> 0:03:18.400 deep into the relationship asking someone how much they have 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:22.239 in savings? Yeah, that's a deeply personal question. 0:03:22.520 --> 0:03:25.359 Well, it's on the list. What do you think about 0:03:25.400 --> 0:03:26.400 that one? Jenny? Would you be? 0:03:26.480 --> 0:03:27.960 What would you How would you feel if you're like, 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:29.640 you know, seeing this new guy and he's like, you know, 0:03:30.200 --> 0:03:31.920 or just wondering how much you have in shavings? 0:03:32.840 --> 0:03:35.440 I would be perfectly fine saying what I have because 0:03:35.480 --> 0:03:38.880 I'm very financially responsible. I would be uncomfortable asking that 0:03:39.000 --> 0:03:40.160 to whoever I'm seeing. 0:03:40.280 --> 0:03:42.400 You be okay telling him what you have in savings? 0:03:42.480 --> 0:03:44.560 Absolutely, because I'm proud of how I handle my money. 0:03:45.240 --> 0:03:48.480 I do very well with money, So I'm okay with that. 0:03:48.560 --> 0:03:49.920 You're like me, you just don't really spend it. 0:03:50.080 --> 0:03:50.880 Yeah, pretty much. 0:03:51.000 --> 0:03:52.200 You spend it on the things that you love. 0:03:52.320 --> 0:03:55.960 Yeah. Do you have a separate account set up for retirement? 0:03:56.120 --> 0:03:59.080 If yes, what is your annual contribution? Do you have 0:03:59.120 --> 0:04:02.640 any debt? If so, how much and from what? What 0:04:02.760 --> 0:04:04.960 is your plan for paying that down? What is the 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:05.440 interest of. 0:04:05.440 --> 0:04:07.920 The usual questions that you might want to ask in 0:04:07.960 --> 0:04:10.400 a relationship. Yeah, let me know whether you think these 0:04:10.440 --> 0:04:12.960 are too intrusive to be like date number three and 0:04:13.040 --> 0:04:16.680 Katie calls asking this guy. 0:04:15.880 --> 0:04:18.640 Katie, but yeah, it's bold, But like he answered them, 0:04:18.640 --> 0:04:20.960 and they like went back and forth with these questions. 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:22.440 So wild. 0:04:22.520 --> 0:04:25.760 But okay, have you ever lived alone? Have you ever 0:04:25.839 --> 0:04:30.000 lived with a girlfriend? When was your last relationship? And 0:04:30.040 --> 0:04:31.280 how long was that last week? 0:04:31.279 --> 0:04:33.200 When was your last bowel movement? I mean that's a 0:04:33.200 --> 0:04:34.800 fair question too, fair health. 0:04:34.680 --> 0:04:36.320 It's fair. You need to know, you know how you 0:04:36.360 --> 0:04:37.400 move long term. 0:04:37.520 --> 0:04:39.680 Do you see yourself still living in the city or 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:43.880 living in the suburbs. What religion are you? Is it 0:04:43.920 --> 0:04:45.960 important to you that your children be the same religion 0:04:45.960 --> 0:04:49.239 as you? What are your three biggest fears in life? 0:04:49.680 --> 0:04:52.000 And what does a meaningful life look like to you? 0:04:53.160 --> 0:04:53.960 I like all of those. 0:04:54.000 --> 0:04:56.279 I think one I would add to the like talking 0:04:56.279 --> 0:04:59.960 about previous relationships is like why did the relationship end? 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:01.440 Yeah, if someone. 0:05:01.200 --> 0:05:03.240 Sits there and says that the other person was crazy, 0:05:03.600 --> 0:05:06.720 or they say that about a lot of people, that's Oh. 0:05:06.760 --> 0:05:08.880 I think it's one of those things like somebody can 0:05:08.920 --> 0:05:11.359 be crazy. You can date a guy who's crazy, you 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:13.360 can date a woman who's crazy, you can date anybody 0:05:13.360 --> 0:05:17.000 who's crazy. But if everybody they dated, oh she's crazy, 0:05:17.000 --> 0:05:19.400 Oh she's really crazy. Oh, well, then it's like he 0:05:19.880 --> 0:05:24.280 It's kind of like I read somewhere years ago like 0:05:24.440 --> 0:05:27.000 if you think everybody around you is a jerk, Oh, 0:05:27.000 --> 0:05:29.479 my boss is a jerk. Bailey's a jerk, vonds of 0:05:29.520 --> 0:05:34.839 pain and the JD you're the jerk. So but really interesting. 0:05:35.000 --> 0:05:37.760 Yeah, somebody texted in saying those questions yikes, how can 0:05:37.800 --> 0:05:38.839 you ask these questions? 0:05:38.839 --> 0:05:41.719 Sounds like a business transaction? Wow wow. 0:05:41.960 --> 0:05:44.839 I think that maybe in your twenties it might be 0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:47.520 a little bit too much. But like me, Bailey, Katie Capp, 0:05:47.520 --> 0:05:49.720 we're in our thirties now, and like, if you want 0:05:49.760 --> 0:05:51.480 to settle down and have kids and have a marriage 0:05:51.480 --> 0:05:52.880 and stuff, you kind of have to get to the 0:05:52.920 --> 0:05:54.240 harder questions much quicker. 0:05:54.400 --> 0:05:57.960 Yeah, in life, but I think maybe my generation is different, 0:05:58.000 --> 0:06:00.680 or at least my thought is different. You will learn 0:06:00.839 --> 0:06:04.600 these things organically as you go through their life. If 0:06:04.600 --> 0:06:07.480 they bring up like what religion are you, well, if 0:06:07.480 --> 0:06:10.800 it never comes up, then I'm going to assume that 0:06:10.960 --> 0:06:14.479 religion is not particularly important to them. However, if they're like, yeah, 0:06:14.520 --> 0:06:17.240 I'm going to Temple on Saturday. You know I can't 0:06:17.240 --> 0:06:18.960 go out on Saturday. We got temple and then we 0:06:19.000 --> 0:06:20.600 got a bar mitzvah, then I'd be like oh, well, 0:06:20.600 --> 0:06:23.080 their faith is very important to them, but if they 0:06:23.279 --> 0:06:25.960 never bring it, then it's like you learn it organically. 0:06:26.080 --> 0:06:27.800 I do agree with that, because last night I just 0:06:27.839 --> 0:06:30.280 had these conversations with the guy I'm seeing because we 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:32.800 were talking about like four oh one k is roth 0:06:32.839 --> 0:06:35.320 iras because my mom sent me something about an old 0:06:35.400 --> 0:06:38.320 roth ira I have, and I was kind of trying 0:06:38.320 --> 0:06:40.920 to clock what he was saying about what he has 0:06:41.000 --> 0:06:43.760 to figure out how financially responsible he's been in life. 0:06:44.120 --> 0:06:45.800 So I do agree you do kind of get that 0:06:45.839 --> 0:06:48.919 through like context clues eventually, but sometimes you do have 0:06:49.000 --> 0:06:49.520 to just before. 0:06:50.360 --> 0:06:50.480 Well. 0:06:50.520 --> 0:06:52.400 I think the kid thing is important. I think it's like, 0:06:52.400 --> 0:06:54.200 you know, I want to have kids. I really want 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:56.159 to have kids, and if I find out that, you know, 0:06:56.240 --> 0:06:58.719 like three years in that you don't want to have 0:06:58.800 --> 0:07:01.240 kids or you're unable to have kidsids, that might be 0:07:01.320 --> 0:07:02.800 really important to me. We got to take a break, 0:07:02.839 --> 0:07:04.599 but we're gonna come back with both with more of 0:07:04.600 --> 0:07:06.840 this h in a second, because I want to know 0:07:06.839 --> 0:07:11.520 what questions are really important to you. And we'll repeat 0:07:11.520 --> 0:07:13.400 these questions too, because they're fascinating. 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:15.560 Are they too much? I'd love to hear you. 0:07:15.600 --> 0:07:16.800 I'd love to get you on the phone and think 0:07:17.080 --> 0:07:19.320 and talk about what questions are too much. If some 0:07:19.400 --> 0:07:21.240 guy you're dating on date number three and he said 0:07:21.280 --> 0:07:23.320 how much is in your four oh one k? Would 0:07:23.400 --> 0:07:25.960 just stand up and walk out? Or would you throw 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:28.640 a drink in his face first then walk out? Or 0:07:28.680 --> 0:07:31.520 would you answer it? We'll be right back locked. 0:07:31.160 --> 0:07:35.400 In a rematch of New England and seatl and iHeartRadio 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:37.520 has your complete football coverage. 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:39.160 Dive deep into early. 0:07:38.960 --> 0:07:41.560 Takes with the official NFL podcast, Nework. 0:07:41.840 --> 0:07:44.960 Welcome to NFL Daily and go live with Fox Sports 0:07:45.040 --> 0:07:48.400 Radio to join the conversation. 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Six birthday to Lee Lo. 0:08:21.480 --> 0:08:24.040 That is a dog on their way to Starbucks to 0:08:24.040 --> 0:08:28.040 get a pop cup. So happy birthday. Also, speaking of doggies, 0:08:28.040 --> 0:08:30.000 some people have been asking, and I appreciate it so much. 0:08:30.040 --> 0:08:33.040 How's my dog Bernie doing. He's been sick. We didn't 0:08:33.040 --> 0:08:34.960 take him to the vet because you know, love and 0:08:35.000 --> 0:08:37.800 respective veterinarians, but we just don't want to spend the money. 0:08:37.800 --> 0:08:39.439 We're going to try to give him the like the 0:08:39.520 --> 0:08:41.680 chicken and rice diet for a couple of days, because 0:08:41.679 --> 0:08:43.560 that's usually what a bet will tell you, and then 0:08:43.559 --> 0:08:45.880 if he doesn't get better, then we'll take him out 0:08:45.920 --> 0:08:48.280 to the Waconi event where they do a great job. 0:08:48.679 --> 0:08:51.240 So Bernie's doing fine and we're just making sure he 0:08:51.280 --> 0:08:52.720 stays in his kennel at night. 0:08:54.040 --> 0:08:56.040 That was like when you're like, if he doesn't get better, 0:08:56.040 --> 0:08:58.160 we're gonna take him out to the country and let him. 0:08:58.080 --> 0:09:00.000 Go farm up. 0:09:01.280 --> 0:09:03.959 That's an option. That is that is an option. This 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:05.800 kind of came up out of nowhere and it's really 0:09:05.800 --> 0:09:09.080 been fascinating. Bailey was talking about her friend Katie Cap 0:09:09.080 --> 0:09:10.760 and Katie Cap is a character I don't have I 0:09:10.760 --> 0:09:11.960 ever met her before. 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:13.880 Not in real life's life. 0:09:14.040 --> 0:09:16.520 She sounds like a riot, but she's seeing a guy, 0:09:16.600 --> 0:09:18.400 so she's like, I'm going to ask you some questions 0:09:18.440 --> 0:09:21.240 about like your future and your romance. And then before 0:09:21.280 --> 0:09:24.000 we get to the list of questions again, they were 0:09:24.000 --> 0:09:26.120 basically like how much money do you make, how much 0:09:26.160 --> 0:09:28.200 do you have in savings? What is your religion? Are 0:09:28.280 --> 0:09:31.240 you serious about your religion? And I said, man, I 0:09:31.280 --> 0:09:34.079 don't know about this. I think those are very intrusive 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:37.480 for being early, but it's a fascinating topic. But Laura 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:41.040 is on the phone with kind of an opinion. Hi, Laura, Hello, 0:09:41.240 --> 0:09:44.480 what about asking your partner, future partner or present short 0:09:44.559 --> 0:09:45.720 term partner all these questions? 0:09:45.720 --> 0:09:46.200 What do you think? 0:09:47.240 --> 0:09:49.960 Well, when I first started dating my husband, I asked 0:09:50.000 --> 0:09:52.360 them on the first date quite a few of those questions. 0:09:52.559 --> 0:09:54.560 I was just in a place in my life where 0:09:54.960 --> 0:09:58.040 I wasn't going to give people the time if it 0:09:58.080 --> 0:09:59.000 wasn't worth. 0:09:58.720 --> 0:10:01.320 My time, and on date number you might have asked 0:10:01.400 --> 0:10:02.920 him like how many kids do you want? 0:10:03.000 --> 0:10:04.960 Or do you want to have kids? Or you know what. 0:10:06.080 --> 0:10:09.080 Yeah, I kind of coming off of the relationships that 0:10:09.160 --> 0:10:11.760 I had before, I kind of focused on the financial ones, 0:10:11.880 --> 0:10:14.200 like how much debt do you have? Are you good 0:10:14.240 --> 0:10:16.440 with your money? You know you? 0:10:16.679 --> 0:10:17.240 I get that. 0:10:17.280 --> 0:10:19.719 I think if you're burned by something like it, by 0:10:19.760 --> 0:10:23.280 a cheater or a gambler or whatever, that's the first 0:10:23.360 --> 0:10:25.720 thing you're going to like watch for on your radar 0:10:26.000 --> 0:10:27.960 when you're seeing somebody news like, so you have a 0:10:28.000 --> 0:10:30.599 gambling problem, but you wouldn't ask that and if you 0:10:30.679 --> 0:10:32.680 hadn't had a problem with that with your past, okay, 0:10:32.840 --> 0:10:34.880 but how's it worked out now all these years later? 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:38.160 We've been together for almost sixteen years? 0:10:38.360 --> 0:10:40.440 Wow? Sixteen baby? 0:10:41.200 --> 0:10:47.800 Would you recommend asking those questions? If you were Bailey, I. 0:10:47.720 --> 0:10:49.640 Would say it's good to get it out of the 0:10:49.679 --> 0:10:53.960 way early on in the relationship because sometimes like things, 0:10:54.200 --> 0:10:56.480 yes you can get them out naturally, but sometimes those 0:10:56.480 --> 0:11:01.120 things take time. And if it's a big topic for you, 0:11:01.240 --> 0:11:02.280 then I would say. 0:11:02.600 --> 0:11:06.120 Yeah, yeah, okay. I also think do you think you 0:11:06.200 --> 0:11:06.920 by the way, thank you? 0:11:07.640 --> 0:11:10.199 It's been sixteen years since Laura and her now husband 0:11:10.240 --> 0:11:11.640 went on that first date. I also think we're just 0:11:11.679 --> 0:11:13.880 in a different time in the world where asking certain 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:17.560 questions might be the little like at bro pol you 0:11:17.559 --> 0:11:19.120 know what I'm saying, Like people might not be as 0:11:19.160 --> 0:11:21.319 willing to share that now as they were sixteen years ago. 0:11:21.400 --> 0:11:23.679 I feel like people are more willing to share that stuff, though. 0:11:23.760 --> 0:11:25.000 I think it's just different. You know. 0:11:25.040 --> 0:11:26.960 I don't know which questions people would or wouldn't, but 0:11:27.000 --> 0:11:29.320 there's definitely some that they're different than others. 0:11:29.320 --> 0:11:31.400 Now, say this, Texas, two of my friends want to 0:11:31.400 --> 0:11:33.400 get married and have kids. That is their plan and 0:11:33.440 --> 0:11:35.360 their goal, and they don't want to waste their time, 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:38.360 so they're happy to find out so many things throughout 0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:41.679 the relationship, like likes and dislikes, little quirk stuff like that. 0:11:42.040 --> 0:11:45.040 But they ask the kids questions among other serious ones 0:11:45.040 --> 0:11:46.880 from the get go. They don't want to spend time 0:11:46.920 --> 0:11:50.120 with someone who doesn't want kids or isn't financially stable. 0:11:50.720 --> 0:11:53.120 It might be intense for some, but it's totally fine. 0:11:53.960 --> 0:11:57.040 They're just not interested in dating men who think those 0:11:57.040 --> 0:12:00.559 conversations are too much. It's just simply not compatible. 0:12:00.679 --> 0:12:01.520 No, it might be wrong. 0:12:01.559 --> 0:12:03.680 It might be a generational thing, not that our generation 0:12:03.800 --> 0:12:05.559 got a right because our divorce rate I think among 0:12:05.600 --> 0:12:09.320 across all demos is fifty percent. Yeah, after five years 0:12:09.440 --> 0:12:11.679 or ten years or whatever. But here's somebody who says 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:14.679 I'm sixty three. I do not believe it, you meet 0:12:14.720 --> 0:12:17.320 them and you grow to learn these and then somebody 0:12:17.320 --> 0:12:19.120 else says, I don't know how old they are. I 0:12:19.160 --> 0:12:22.760 agree with Dave. Organic is more intimate, not a job interview. 0:12:23.120 --> 0:12:26.320 But I get how one can be very practical, but 0:12:26.720 --> 0:12:29.080 I don't know. I think there's something to be unfolding them, 0:12:29.080 --> 0:12:31.160 like on peeling of like peeling the onion, and you 0:12:31.280 --> 0:12:32.920 learn a little bit more about them, and the more 0:12:32.920 --> 0:12:35.560 you learn, the more you love them. And then don't 0:12:35.559 --> 0:12:38.040 overlook the dumb red flags like yeah, he's you know, 0:12:38.080 --> 0:12:40.120 he's like one hundred thousand dollars in debt, has no 0:12:40.240 --> 0:12:43.440 plans on paying it back because it wasn't his problem, right. 0:12:43.960 --> 0:12:46.360 Well, I cause somebody else texted in saying like these 0:12:46.360 --> 0:12:49.400 sound like deal breaker questions, and I think that's that's 0:12:49.440 --> 0:12:51.680 the reasoning for Katie cap, like, I want to get 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:54.640 these deal breaker questions out of the way, because like, 0:12:55.080 --> 0:12:56.760 if I don't know the answer to these questions and 0:12:56.800 --> 0:12:59.200 I find them out six months in, then have I 0:12:59.280 --> 0:13:02.959 wasted my time? So someone else texted saying, I'm thirty five, 0:13:03.000 --> 0:13:05.240 single female, ask all these questions on the first date 0:13:05.280 --> 0:13:07.320 as well, because I have no interest in wasting my 0:13:07.400 --> 0:13:10.800 time or their time if it isn't going anywhere, And 0:13:10.880 --> 0:13:13.840 I feel that that's kind of why where I'm like, oh, shoot, 0:13:13.880 --> 0:13:16.040 I should be asking some of these questions because, like, 0:13:16.120 --> 0:13:16.760 I know some. 0:13:16.640 --> 0:13:19.240 Of these answers about regular guy, but not all of them. 0:13:19.360 --> 0:13:21.559 And anytime I say that to Katie KapS, She's like, 0:13:21.640 --> 0:13:24.679 you don't know if he wants kids or not, Like, no, 0:13:25.320 --> 0:13:27.199 I've only been dating him for three months, Like. 0:13:27.240 --> 0:13:29.960 No, do you want me to reread all these questions? 0:13:30.040 --> 0:13:31.560 You know, it's a little bit of a list, but 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:33.360 it's very valuable and we're going to put this up 0:13:33.400 --> 0:13:36.120 on the Graham. Yes, the Graham, so you can go 0:13:36.200 --> 0:13:37.920 and you can like, you know, you don't have to 0:13:37.960 --> 0:13:38.880 remember all these questions. 0:13:38.920 --> 0:13:39.240 Yes. 0:13:39.640 --> 0:13:41.800 Do you have a mental timeline of when you want 0:13:41.800 --> 0:13:44.760 to be married by? Am I someone you genuinely want 0:13:44.760 --> 0:13:47.239 to be with or am I just fitting into that timeline? 0:13:47.679 --> 0:13:50.400 Do you want kids? How many kids? What if those 0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:54.040 kids can't biologically be yours? What if you could never 0:13:54.120 --> 0:13:57.480 have children that are biologically yours? What if those children 0:13:57.559 --> 0:14:01.120 were never of infant age? How much money do you make? 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:03.719 Do you receive an annual raise? If yes, what was 0:14:03.760 --> 0:14:06.600 that raise last year? How much do you have in savings? 0:14:06.840 --> 0:14:09.280 Do you have separate accounts set up for retirement? If yes, 0:14:09.360 --> 0:14:12.200 what is your annual contribution. Do you have any debt? 0:14:12.400 --> 0:14:15.160 If so, how much and from what? What is your 0:14:15.200 --> 0:14:17.600 plan for paying that down? What is the interest on 0:14:17.640 --> 0:14:20.280 that debt? Have you ever lived alone? Have you ever 0:14:20.320 --> 0:14:23.720 lived with a girlfriend? When was your last relationship? How 0:14:23.760 --> 0:14:27.240 long was that last relationship? One added by Jenny. How 0:14:27.280 --> 0:14:28.880 did that last relationship end? 0:14:29.840 --> 0:14:30.360 Long term? 0:14:30.400 --> 0:14:32.640 Do you see yourself still living in the city or 0:14:32.680 --> 0:14:35.520 living in the suburbs. What religion are you? Is it 0:14:35.560 --> 0:14:38.000 important to you that your children be the same religion 0:14:38.040 --> 0:14:40.440 as you? What are your three biggest fears in life? 0:14:40.720 --> 0:14:42.960 And what does a meaningful life look like to you? 0:14:43.680 --> 0:14:45.520 Man, I think I only know the answer to two 0:14:45.640 --> 0:14:47.520 or three of those questions with the person I'm. 0:14:47.320 --> 0:14:49.160 Saying right pretty early, and I think that it kind 0:14:49.160 --> 0:14:51.360 of dawns on me that everybody. If you talk to 0:14:51.360 --> 0:14:53.640 somebody who's like, I'm really glad we're bringing this up, 0:14:54.440 --> 0:14:55.600 that's good. 0:14:55.880 --> 0:14:56.160 Yeah. 0:14:56.160 --> 0:14:58.280 But if you talk to somebody's like, man, I barely 0:14:58.400 --> 0:15:00.880 know you. You're ask me how much is in my 0:15:00.960 --> 0:15:03.960 fural one k none yae, And somebody said, you know, 0:15:04.000 --> 0:15:06.000 what this is the kind of guy's going to be like, so, 0:15:06.160 --> 0:15:07.920 how much you none of you got in your fural 0:15:07.960 --> 0:15:10.120 one K? How much gun savings? Well I got two 0:15:10.200 --> 0:15:12.760 hundred thousand dollars in savings. Right away, his gears are 0:15:12.800 --> 0:15:14.680 turning while he figures out how to get that money 0:15:14.720 --> 0:15:15.600 out of your account. 0:15:16.160 --> 0:15:17.880 I agree with that, but I think too many people 0:15:17.960 --> 0:15:20.920 have been like financially scarred. So I'm totally fine would 0:15:20.920 --> 0:15:22.440 be in that intrusive about those questions. 0:15:22.520 --> 0:15:23.640 Yeah, my parents bought. 0:15:23.480 --> 0:15:26.960 About money constantly, so that is why I am the 0:15:27.000 --> 0:15:28.080 way I am about money. 0:15:28.240 --> 0:15:30.880 I have no clue how me and Alyssa had those 0:15:30.880 --> 0:15:33.120 conversations before when we first got together, because we've been 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:35.640 with each other like roughly four years now, and I think, 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:37.520 like Dave, I think it just kind of happened naturally. 0:15:37.560 --> 0:15:39.040 It wasn't like a first date, second date. 0:15:39.080 --> 0:15:41.080 It was just like, let's just see, we'll talk and 0:15:41.120 --> 0:15:42.520 if it comes up, it comes up, or when it 0:15:42.520 --> 0:15:43.320 comes up, it comes up. 0:15:43.440 --> 0:15:43.640 Right. 0:15:43.800 --> 0:15:46.680 And my last relationship, which was pretty long, I don't 0:15:46.680 --> 0:15:48.720 know if I knew any of these answers to these 0:15:48.800 --> 0:15:50.200 questions long ago. 0:15:50.280 --> 0:15:52.080 Are you saying the relation the duration of it was 0:15:52.120 --> 0:15:54.600 long like the it was the duration. Ohay, gotcha, gotcha? 0:15:54.680 --> 0:15:57.760 Yeah, So anyway, at yeah, a lot of people are saying, like, ho, 0:15:58.400 --> 0:16:01.600 Katie gab whoa marriage minded? But like, so is this 0:16:01.680 --> 0:16:03.440 other guy that she's seeing, So I think they're both 0:16:03.480 --> 0:16:05.040 on the same page and she kind of lucked out 0:16:05.040 --> 0:16:07.120 there because yeah, I think these would be like big 0:16:07.200 --> 0:16:09.640 questions that would be kind of like whoa, hey. 0:16:09.440 --> 0:16:12.440 Girl, really interesting. Wow, this is the most interesting you've 0:16:12.440 --> 0:16:13.920 ever been. You've been on here the show for almost 0:16:13.960 --> 0:16:15.960 two years, and you've never really been this interesting. 0:16:16.000 --> 0:16:19.280 Becare all the time to me, though I know I'm 0:16:19.320 --> 0:16:20.440 always he hasn't. 0:16:20.200 --> 0:16:22.280 Said it to me, so it's a plus. You haven't 0:16:22.280 --> 0:16:25.680 been interesting yet working on it. Okay, let's do Dave's art. 0:16:25.920 --> 0:16:28.400 Thanks for all this, And by the way, if you 0:16:29.360 --> 0:16:31.040 want to get these questions that I don't think they're 0:16:31.040 --> 0:16:32.800 on Instagram yet. We got to type them up and 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:34.160 put them on there, but they will be a little 0:16:34.160 --> 0:16:37.160 bit in data Dave Ryan Show one on one point 0:16:37.200 --> 0:16:41.080 pre kd WB. So it's really weird with the Savannah 0:16:41.120 --> 0:16:45.400 Gorath three mother abduction or disappearance. They do think it 0:16:45.440 --> 0:16:47.880 was an abduction because of like you know, like the 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:51.760 ring cameras were disabled, and some like you know, some 0:16:51.920 --> 0:16:53.320