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Speaker 1: KFI AM six forty. You're listening to Dean Sharp The

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Speaker 1: house Whisper on demand on the iHeart Radio app. Dean

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Speaker 1: Sharp The house Whisper, Custom home Builder, custom home Designer,

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Speaker 1: and your guide to better understanding that place where you live.

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Speaker 1: Every home has a path forward. Once you see it,

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Speaker 1: that's when everything changes. And that's exactly what I'm talking

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Speaker 1: to you about today, seeing the path forward. Today's topic

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Speaker 1: is the beginning of an ongoing series that we'll be

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Speaker 1: doing throughout the year, not just every single week, but

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Speaker 1: we'll be revisiting this throughout the year. Designing like a

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Speaker 1: house Whisper getting the biggest results from your limited budget

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Speaker 1: by unleashing the most powerful design principles possible in your home.

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Speaker 1: And that is that takes more than what appears on

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Speaker 1: the surface. It takes some unconventional thinking to get an

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Speaker 1: extra ordinary home. Extraordinary home. You've got to do some

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Speaker 1: things that are a little bit out of the ordinary

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Speaker 1: when it comes to approaching its design issues. And honestly,

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Speaker 1: I wish it wasn't out of the ordinary. I wish

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Speaker 1: what I'm talking about today was commonplace, was standard practice

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Speaker 1: for all design in all homes, everywhere, all the time,

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Speaker 1: and if I have anything to say about it, you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm attempting to make it far more common than it is.

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Speaker 1: I don't want it to be an extraordinary thing. I

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Speaker 1: want it to be something that people nationwide, you know,

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Speaker 1: just understand that this is how you approach the design

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Speaker 1: or the redesign of a home. But it's not. Unfortunately,

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Speaker 1: these are not ideas that are as common as they

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Speaker 1: should be. And so guys like me show up, you know,

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Speaker 1: guys who get called whisperers because somehow we magically interact

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Speaker 1: with the house and come up with answers that nobody

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Speaker 1: else has come up with. Well, it's not magic, it's

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Speaker 1: not magic, and no, I'm not talking to your house,

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Speaker 1: although I do enter into a relationship with it that

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Speaker 1: perhaps you don't have or haven't practiced. And there's a

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Speaker 1: reason for that, and there's a methodology to it. There's

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Speaker 1: a method to the madness, as they say, and I

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Speaker 1: want you to understand what that is because you're a

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Speaker 1: huge part of it, because it's your home. So we've

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Speaker 1: talked earlier in the show about this whole idea of

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Speaker 1: you know, what whisperers are all about. They tame things

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Speaker 1: that seem untamable by conventional methods, and that's true. I

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Speaker 1: was telling you my great respect that I have for

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Speaker 1: Buck Brannaman, the horse whisper. My granddaughter does a questria

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Speaker 1: and she rides, and she loves horses. I'm actually going

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Speaker 1: to be taking her to a Buck Brannuman clinic coming

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Speaker 1: up in April, because he's coming to southern California through

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Speaker 1: his travels. So I'm very excited to meet him, very

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Speaker 1: excited to spend a few seconds talking to him if

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Speaker 1: I get the chance to. But I'm mostly excited for

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Speaker 1: Olivia to see how somebody interacts with horses on a

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Speaker 1: level that most people just skip right over. Because here's

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Speaker 1: the thing. You know, you come to a horse and

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Speaker 1: you have your own intentions with it. You know, we

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Speaker 1: just think of horses so often as machines, as if

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Speaker 1: they're cars, and you just like, listen, I'm gonna throw

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Speaker 1: fact that I don't know, maybe eight out of ten

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Speaker 1: horses actually allow you to do that is amazing. That's

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Speaker 1: a testament not to you, by the way, or me,

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Speaker 1: but to the horse. Okay, that the horse is literally

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Speaker 1: allowing another animal to climb up onto its back, which,

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Speaker 1: Mountain lions will jump onto a horse's back, will reach

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Speaker 1: and will bite down on its spinal cord its backbone

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Speaker 1: by the way, before I do that, I'm going to

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Speaker 1: take the skins of other dead animals and throw them

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Speaker 1: need a little something extra. Well. Houses are not unsimilar

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Speaker 1: and we look past it. We just look to our

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Speaker 1: what I want to get switched around. Right, So, what

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Speaker 1: does a horse whisper see that others don't? They see

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Speaker 1: the horse? What do house whispers see that others do not?

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Speaker 1: We see the house? And how do we get there? Well,

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Speaker 1: I already explained step one. Slow down, slow your role.

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Speaker 1: We've got to take some time to overcome some things.

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Speaker 1: We've got to overcome your house blindness, the fact that

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Speaker 1: We've got to overcome that, and we've got to force

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Speaker 1: to come into our own awareness. So the second step is,

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Speaker 1: once we've accepted the fact that hey, I got to

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Speaker 1: slow down, is start a design journal. Now you don't

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Speaker 1: have to be you know, dear diary. Today my house

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Speaker 1: treated me poorly. Now that's not what I'm talking about.

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Speaker 1: I'm talking about start taking notes, okay, about these experiences,

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Speaker 1: and I'm going to walk you through some of those

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Speaker 1: experiences that I want you to have, very famously or infamously,

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Speaker 1: I should say. My clients, all of them love to

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Speaker 1: tell stories about me when they first when I first

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Speaker 1: get onto the scene and start quote unquote whispering the house,

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Speaker 1: I will sit, you know, one of the one of

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Speaker 1: I get clients who get calls from their neighbors. They're like, Mary,

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Speaker 1: do you realize that there's a man sitting in a

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Speaker 1: cause he's just sitting there And no, I'm not just

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Speaker 1: sitting there? Let's talk about it. On the other side

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Speaker 1: of the break, You're Home with Dean Sharp, the House Whisperer.

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Speaker 2: You're listening to Home with Dean Sharp on demand from

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Speaker 2: KFI AM six forty.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for joining us on the show today, this very

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Speaker 1: first Sunday of twenty twenty, and we're starting our design

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Speaker 1: year together. You and I off with a bang. I

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Speaker 1: thought it would be appropriate, and it's been. It's been

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Speaker 1: on my heart and mind for a while now to

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Speaker 1: take a deeper dive with you into the you know,

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Speaker 1: the real nitty gritty of how this whole design process

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Speaker 1: can best be applied to you and and the things

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Speaker 1: things that break my heart because they are the the

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Speaker 1: processes that really produce the biggest change in a remodel

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Speaker 1: or renovation. Uh. It is something just inherent in our

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Speaker 1: culture that we jump to products and making decisions about

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Speaker 1: these things before we have really really evaluated the things

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Speaker 1: that we want to change and remodel, and not just that,

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Speaker 1: kitchen remodel, let's say, as an example, and they're like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: we want to remodel the kitchen. We want to transform

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Speaker 1: And after spending time on my own or Tina and

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Speaker 1: like they we just told him we want to remodel

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Speaker 1: the kitchen. Why is he out in front of the

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Speaker 1: that have to do with anything? Well, it's your house,

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Speaker 1: and looking at the entire house is part of this process.

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Speaker 1: Slowing down, stepping back, zooming out. It's part of the process.

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Speaker 1: It's part of the process that yields up unconventional answers

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Speaker 1: Quite often, you know, I'll come back in and say,

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Speaker 1: we're we've decided to remodel this kitchen is it's in

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Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying. So we look at everything holistically, comprehensively,

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Speaker 1: all right. So we've talked about slowing down, and right

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Speaker 1: before the break, I suggested that you start a design journal.

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Speaker 1: And I know I told you the story and everybody

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Speaker 1: You know, quite often my clients will will say, you know,

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Speaker 1: it's interesting. The first time Dean came out and actually

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Speaker 1: spent the first day of kind of concepting the design.

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Speaker 1: You know, he pulled out his camp chair, or he

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Speaker 1: I doing? I'm slowing down, I'm pushing everything aside. I'm

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Speaker 1: trying my best to see the house that, by the way,

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Speaker 1: is easier for me because I haven't lived there all

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Speaker 1: these years than it is for you. But it is

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Speaker 1: important for you to see it too, And this is

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Speaker 1: why I'm explaining it to you. So what am I

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Speaker 1: doing there? What notes am I jotting down? Because I said,

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Speaker 1: I want you to start a design journal, and it's

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Speaker 1: not a diary, but it's this idea of taking notes.

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Speaker 1: So my first set of design notes are nothing but

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Speaker 1: You don't need a designer, you don't need a creative team. No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: Here to remind you every home deserves great design, including yours,

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Speaker 1: my gosh, Dean on the planet, what do you mean?

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Speaker 1: I mean the way it's turned in relationship to the sun.

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Speaker 1: That's all okay, because your home is a shelter built

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Speaker 1: in nature, and that shelter has been given apertures, been

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Speaker 1: given windows and doors, windows and doors that let light

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Speaker 1: into the house and has solid walls that keep light

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Speaker 1: from coming into the house, and it's set in a

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Speaker 1: particular way. Most of us live in tract homes, and

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Speaker 1: amongst the many disadvantages initially of living in a tract home,

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Speaker 1: orientation on the property is one of the most significant.

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Speaker 1: Because your tracked home was one of the floor plans,

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Speaker 1: one of the four to five, maybe six if you're lucky,

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Speaker 1: floor plans in a tract of hundreds or thousands of homes.

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Speaker 1: That means that that floor plan has gotten reused again

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Speaker 1: and again and again throughout your neighborhood, different facades, different

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Speaker 1: street orientations. But that's the point. Your home, where its

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Speaker 1: doors and windows are located in relationship to the sun,

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Speaker 1: the path of the sun across the sky was not

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Speaker 1: taken into account. It was designed in a studio without

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Speaker 1: reference to the lot that it ends up sitting on

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Speaker 1: your home. Some of them sit in cul de sacs,

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Speaker 1: some of them sit soldiered facing west facing north, facing

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Speaker 1: east facing south, same exact window placements. That is not

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Speaker 1: how a custom home is designed. We're not going to

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Speaker 1: fix it right now. We're just gonna see it seeing it.

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Speaker 1: That's the difference. Right I'll leave you with this thought,

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Speaker 1: very quick one. There are people and circumstances in your

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Speaker 1: life that need to be seen to your house, them

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Speaker 1: and especially you. The answer is not to jump to

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Speaker 1: the fix it. The first step is always slow it down,

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Speaker 1: take a breath, take some time, figure out where you are,

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Speaker 1: how you are, figure out how you are, write it down,

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Speaker 1: think about it, come to a conclusion about the truth

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Speaker 1: of it, and then get help and get busy building

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Speaker 1: yourself a beautiful life. All right, y'all, We'll see you

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Speaker 1: right back here next weekend. You enjoy the week this

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Speaker 1: has been Home with Dean Sharp, the House Whisper. Tune

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