WEBVTT - Do Weddings Make You Happy or Sad?

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<v Speaker 1>Ginny's exact from a wedding he did.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I want to go see Tina's wedding. It was

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<v Speaker 2>a destination wedding. And you might know Tina because she

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<v Speaker 2>did work on the show for a very long time.

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<v Speaker 3>She was web Girl Tina.

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<v Speaker 2>And don't get me wrong, the wedding was beautiful, it

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<v Speaker 2>was fun and all of that good stuff.

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<v Speaker 3>But I'm curious if you guys, when you.

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<v Speaker 2>Go to weddings, do you feel happy, do you cry,

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<v Speaker 2>do you have happy tears?

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<v Speaker 3>Or do you feel a little sad.

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<v Speaker 2>Because I'm gonna be honest for me and where I'm

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<v Speaker 2>at in life, it was like a little hard to watch,

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<v Speaker 2>like I'm so happy for my friends, don't get me wrong,

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<v Speaker 2>but then you kind of think about your life and you're.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, I wish I had that. I wish I had.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought it was wrong to wish you had that. Honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>I thought that the trend was to say I don't

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<v Speaker 1>need that.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I don't need that.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you mean a person in your life and

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<v Speaker 1>a family?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm I don't think that's a trend.

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<v Speaker 2>I think people like are allowed to say that they

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<v Speaker 2>want love.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well, of course we want love.

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<v Speaker 3>That's why it was always like.

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<v Speaker 1>No, we all want love, But I mean it probably

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<v Speaker 1>it made you sad.

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<v Speaker 3>It did make me sad.

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<v Speaker 2>It's probably not pul correct or like nice to say

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<v Speaker 2>that I was sad at someone else's wedding, but I

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<v Speaker 2>was because I felt like I looked at these two

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<v Speaker 2>and I was so happy for them. But then I

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<v Speaker 2>felt a little bad for myself because I was like, God,

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<v Speaker 2>I wish I had that.

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<v Speaker 4>I think that's totally normal, Jenny, and I think like

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<v Speaker 4>when I go to weddings, I'm equally happy and sad.

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<v Speaker 4>I could literally cry at a wedding for people who

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<v Speaker 4>I don't even know. I love a freaking wedding, but no,

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<v Speaker 4>I feel the same way where I'll be like, Wow,

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<v Speaker 4>that person found somebody and loves them and now they're

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<v Speaker 4>getting married and it's not me. So I think that's

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<v Speaker 4>I think it's totally fine to be like a little

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<v Speaker 4>sad for yourself, as long as you're not walking around

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<v Speaker 4>the wedding and being.

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<v Speaker 3>Like you, guys, I wish it would just happen for me.

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<v Speaker 3>You're gonna ruin the wedding doing that. Yeah, No, I

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<v Speaker 3>it's normal to be both happy and sad, I did.

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<v Speaker 2>I definitely had a little like traua dumb situation with

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<v Speaker 2>my so TEENA used to live with this girl, Breeze,

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<v Speaker 2>so her and I roomed together at the resort, and

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<v Speaker 2>I did have a little moment where she was like

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<v Speaker 2>just asking me about how I felt, and I was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, honestly, it was a little hard, like to

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<v Speaker 2>be here this week as like this like single single

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<v Speaker 2>war yeah, right, and and like you know, you get

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<v Speaker 2>put with like other singles at the singles table, there

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<v Speaker 2>were other couples, but you know, like it's just it's

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<v Speaker 2>hard to be that person at a wedding who doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>have a date.

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<v Speaker 3>And at this point in my life, like I'm thirty.

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<v Speaker 2>Five, almost everyone that I'm like surrounded with at weddings

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<v Speaker 2>now is married or having kids or engaged, and so

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<v Speaker 2>it is kind of just like, uh, woe is me.

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<v Speaker 2>But also it feels really guilty to feel that way

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<v Speaker 2>at someone's like celebration of love.

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<v Speaker 5>I wonder if it's because I'm a guy that I

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<v Speaker 5>just I don't get sad. I think I do look

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<v Speaker 5>and I'm like, wow, this is nice, and one day

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<v Speaker 5>this will be me, you know, and maybe it's also

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<v Speaker 5>because I'm in a relationship, you know, cause you're coming

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<v Speaker 5>from a perspective of somebody that's just single. But I

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<v Speaker 5>just I don't know. I just I don't know if

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<v Speaker 5>guys necessarily or if it's me. It's just like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>it'll happen one day. But I'm not sad about it.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm like, oh, happy for X y z M.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Dave, do you get.

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<v Speaker 1>I neither I look forward to it being over wedding guest, No, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I seriously. I went to a wedding not long. It

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<v Speaker 1>was a beautiful wedding, and they kept it about the

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<v Speaker 1>right length, and it was like, okay, yeah, okay, oh

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<v Speaker 1>the ring's already okay, oh they're man and woh that's great.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay. I love that.

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<v Speaker 1>It's wonderful. Let's go eat. But then the problem is

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<v Speaker 1>you go back and then there's the cocktail hour for

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<v Speaker 1>about two hours. It's like you're getting hungry this whole time.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>So now I neither get happy nor sat at a wedding.

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<v Speaker 4>The last wedding I went to, Jenny, I was placed

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<v Speaker 4>at a table where everyone was a couple and they

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<v Speaker 4>all had like new babies. Also, the friend that I

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<v Speaker 4>was like going it was his wedding and he's like, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>don't worry. I put you at a table with a

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<v Speaker 4>bunch of people who are like around your same age.

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<v Speaker 4>They're all so fun. And I was like, yeah, okay, sure,

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<v Speaker 4>these people are probably fun, but like I have nothing

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<v Speaker 4>in common with any of them because they're all like, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>when do you put your child down for nap?

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<v Speaker 3>Point breastfeeding came out right.

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<v Speaker 4>Exactly, and I'm just like, I work on the radio.

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<v Speaker 3>Cool.

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<v Speaker 5>Whammy of Mary Anne has a kid and I'm here too.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>That's very important when you sit at a wedding. I

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<v Speaker 1>mean it's it's two hours or so of sitting next

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<v Speaker 1>to people you don't know. Last one I went to,

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<v Speaker 1>I talked to somebody who was like really charming. Him

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<v Speaker 1>and his wife are very fascinating and they were actually

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<v Speaker 1>listened when I told my fascinating stories rather than stared

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<v Speaker 1>at me like is that it? That's the best you got?

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<v Speaker 3>So do you have a baby. No, No,