1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:05,760 Speaker 1: John Jay and rich Hyclaire. Hello, what's up. So my 2 00:00:05,880 --> 00:00:08,319 Speaker 1: husband and I when we were dating, we like both 3 00:00:08,440 --> 00:00:12,040 Speaker 1: agreed that we wanted to have kids, like someday in 4 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:13,120 Speaker 1: the future, you know. 5 00:00:13,039 --> 00:00:15,280 Speaker 2: When we were married and more stable. 6 00:00:14,920 --> 00:00:18,440 Speaker 1: And things like that. But as you know, time has 7 00:00:18,480 --> 00:00:22,040 Speaker 1: gone on, we've both kind of been backtracking a bit, 8 00:00:22,920 --> 00:00:25,439 Speaker 1: and like for a lot is like really, you know, 9 00:00:25,520 --> 00:00:27,920 Speaker 1: like small reasons that like are adding up to like 10 00:00:28,280 --> 00:00:29,680 Speaker 1: this big decision. 11 00:00:29,320 --> 00:00:33,280 Speaker 2: Right you know, the economy, the state of the politics 12 00:00:33,400 --> 00:00:35,279 Speaker 2: right now. And honestly, I. 13 00:00:35,320 --> 00:00:37,720 Speaker 1: Wasn't exactly sure that he was feeling like the same 14 00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:38,559 Speaker 1: way I did. 15 00:00:38,680 --> 00:00:40,480 Speaker 2: Until we were watching. 16 00:00:40,240 --> 00:00:42,879 Speaker 1: The news one night, and like afterwards he like mentioned 17 00:00:42,960 --> 00:00:46,280 Speaker 1: that he didn't know if like having kids was like 18 00:00:46,400 --> 00:00:49,199 Speaker 1: the best idea with everything going on, and I was, 19 00:00:49,600 --> 00:00:52,360 Speaker 1: you know, and more and more like I feel like 20 00:00:52,720 --> 00:00:57,840 Speaker 1: our couple friends are also deciding like similarly, and it's 21 00:00:58,120 --> 00:01:00,319 Speaker 1: you know, not definitive yet obviously, like. 22 00:01:00,240 --> 00:01:03,600 Speaker 2: Things could change, but it doesn't seem like we. 23 00:01:03,680 --> 00:01:05,480 Speaker 1: Are going to do that, like we're not going to 24 00:01:05,520 --> 00:01:05,880 Speaker 1: have kids. 25 00:01:05,920 --> 00:01:08,399 Speaker 2: And it's it's a little sad because I kind. 26 00:01:08,240 --> 00:01:11,440 Speaker 1: Of always imagined that i'd be a mom, but I. 27 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:13,320 Speaker 2: Just don't know if I would. 28 00:01:13,360 --> 00:01:18,560 Speaker 1: Feel light bringing a kid into everything. 29 00:01:18,120 --> 00:01:20,840 Speaker 2: That's happening, And I don't know, I think. 30 00:01:20,680 --> 00:01:25,320 Speaker 1: That it should just becoming like more common, especially like 31 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:28,160 Speaker 1: with people I don't know in my circle at. 32 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:30,520 Speaker 3: Least do you have a question about that or just 33 00:01:30,600 --> 00:01:31,360 Speaker 3: making a statement. 34 00:01:32,160 --> 00:01:34,160 Speaker 2: I mean it was it's more of a statement, but 35 00:01:34,200 --> 00:01:37,119 Speaker 2: I guess, like, do you have you noticed that as well? 36 00:01:37,240 --> 00:01:40,560 Speaker 2: Like is it just me and like my friends or 37 00:01:40,640 --> 00:01:43,399 Speaker 2: like does this seem to be kind of the way 38 00:01:43,800 --> 00:01:44,520 Speaker 2: that people. 39 00:01:44,280 --> 00:01:47,119 Speaker 1: Are going and like how do we I don't know, 40 00:01:47,360 --> 00:01:49,880 Speaker 1: maybe change things. 41 00:01:50,800 --> 00:01:53,440 Speaker 4: I mean, since you're bring it up, let me give 42 00:01:53,440 --> 00:01:55,760 Speaker 4: you my opinion real quick. So I have three kids, 43 00:01:56,120 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 4: and I love having kids. I think it's fantastic. But 44 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:02,680 Speaker 4: just recently something happened. I thought if I didn't have kids, 45 00:02:02,720 --> 00:02:05,400 Speaker 4: if I didn't bring kids into this world right now, 46 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 4: I would have so much money. 47 00:02:08,120 --> 00:02:10,640 Speaker 3: It's true, they are much money. 48 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:14,280 Speaker 4: They are just a drain of your bank account. 49 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:16,840 Speaker 3: So don't do it. Oh my gosh, I would if 50 00:02:16,840 --> 00:02:18,560 Speaker 3: I could do it again, I wouldn't do it. 51 00:02:20,080 --> 00:02:21,120 Speaker 4: They're great, great, love. 52 00:02:21,040 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 3: Having great, forget it. 53 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:27,280 Speaker 4: They just cost so much money. 54 00:02:27,400 --> 00:02:29,240 Speaker 3: Are your every Yeah. 55 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:30,960 Speaker 4: There are, but they cost so much money. 56 00:02:31,080 --> 00:02:31,360 Speaker 3: They do. 57 00:02:31,600 --> 00:02:33,680 Speaker 5: But it's like worth it. It's like the best money, 58 00:02:33,680 --> 00:02:34,360 Speaker 5: the reason. 59 00:02:35,200 --> 00:02:38,560 Speaker 4: Forget what's going on. They cost the drain your bank account. 60 00:02:38,639 --> 00:02:41,760 Speaker 6: Oh my goodness, But so do dogs, so do other things. 61 00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 4: I feel like I wouldn't do dogs either. 62 00:02:43,880 --> 00:02:44,919 Speaker 2: Would you still get married? 63 00:02:45,040 --> 00:02:47,560 Speaker 4: Would I get married? Let's see if I had the 64 00:02:47,600 --> 00:02:48,600 Speaker 4: income I have now. 65 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:56,720 Speaker 5: No, I think your life would be like you would. 66 00:02:56,720 --> 00:03:00,359 Speaker 3: Actually, I mean you're just looking at the spreadsheet with 67 00:03:00,440 --> 00:03:03,920 Speaker 3: every disease. Yeah, I think. But like Claire, I was 68 00:03:03,919 --> 00:03:05,800 Speaker 3: thinking about when you were saying that, I was thinking 69 00:03:05,840 --> 00:03:07,720 Speaker 3: about that too. It's like, I don't know that you're 70 00:03:07,760 --> 00:03:10,240 Speaker 3: ever ready to have kids. If you look at like, oh, 71 00:03:10,240 --> 00:03:11,840 Speaker 3: what's going on in the world. There's always going to 72 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:14,079 Speaker 3: be some nonsense going on in the world, and you're 73 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:16,280 Speaker 3: never going to be totally ready. But for some reason, 74 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:18,880 Speaker 3: when those kids get here, you just get ready and 75 00:03:18,919 --> 00:03:21,519 Speaker 3: you just handle it and it's awesome. So I would say, 76 00:03:21,560 --> 00:03:24,760 Speaker 3: just go for the the life ride that is life, 77 00:03:24,800 --> 00:03:25,720 Speaker 3: because it is awesome. 78 00:03:25,800 --> 00:03:28,280 Speaker 6: I have this conversation with my friends all the time, 79 00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:31,040 Speaker 6: have comm because it's like a lot of my friends 80 00:03:31,320 --> 00:03:33,040 Speaker 6: want kids and want them now. They want the white 81 00:03:33,040 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 6: picket fence, they want the husband, they want the picture 82 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:36,880 Speaker 6: perfect thing. And then I had a couple of friends 83 00:03:36,920 --> 00:03:38,400 Speaker 6: that are like, I don't want any kids, but I 84 00:03:38,440 --> 00:03:40,120 Speaker 6: want my man, I want to travel the world. I 85 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:42,400 Speaker 6: don't want to do that. I feel like now, like 86 00:03:42,520 --> 00:03:45,320 Speaker 6: gen Z specifically, like the older end of it, Like me, 87 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:48,280 Speaker 6: I feel like we kind of just go with the flow. 88 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:50,600 Speaker 6: Like I feel like we're having babies a little bit later. 89 00:03:50,680 --> 00:03:53,320 Speaker 6: Modern medicine is allowing us to do so, you know, 90 00:03:53,360 --> 00:03:55,000 Speaker 6: so I feel like whatever works for you, even if 91 00:03:55,040 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 6: you decided you didn't or you didn wanted to do 92 00:03:57,120 --> 00:03:59,760 Speaker 6: it before. I feel like whatever happens happens, and what's 93 00:03:59,840 --> 00:04:01,520 Speaker 6: right for you is right for you. It's not perfect 94 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:02,040 Speaker 6: for anyone. 95 00:04:02,200 --> 00:04:04,400 Speaker 5: Seems like you're kind of bummed about that though, Like 96 00:04:04,480 --> 00:04:07,440 Speaker 5: your husband's like far on the you, he doesn't want them, 97 00:04:07,440 --> 00:04:08,360 Speaker 5: and you kind of did. 98 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:09,920 Speaker 3: Did I pick up on that correct? 99 00:04:09,920 --> 00:04:12,560 Speaker 2: I mean, we both seemed like we both agreed that 100 00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:15,840 Speaker 2: we did, and then we both were like, maybe this 101 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:18,560 Speaker 2: isn't the right idea, And I don't know. 102 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:20,520 Speaker 1: Maybe I was hoping that he was going to like 103 00:04:21,080 --> 00:04:22,320 Speaker 1: talk me back. 104 00:04:22,160 --> 00:04:26,640 Speaker 2: Into it, and instead he was like talking me out 105 00:04:26,680 --> 00:04:27,520 Speaker 2: of it more. 106 00:04:27,600 --> 00:04:30,920 Speaker 1: And so I don't know. I guess like there just 107 00:04:30,960 --> 00:04:32,599 Speaker 1: needs to be some more conversations. 108 00:04:33,400 --> 00:04:35,760 Speaker 5: Oh, you definitely communicate about that, because I mean that's 109 00:04:35,760 --> 00:04:37,640 Speaker 5: something that you definitely want both of you to be 110 00:04:37,680 --> 00:04:40,680 Speaker 5: on the same page about. And also if you're not, 111 00:04:41,040 --> 00:04:44,159 Speaker 5: that could be a relationship breaker. Yeah. 112 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:46,359 Speaker 3: The only reason John Jay's so quiet is he's planning 113 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:53,480 Speaker 3: out is kid free, wife, free money right now, fantasy thing. 114 00:04:53,960 --> 00:04:54,800 Speaker 5: How funny would be? 115 00:04:55,120 --> 00:04:56,000 Speaker 3: And I have this helicopter. 116 00:04:57,040 --> 00:04:58,960 Speaker 1: All right, Well, thank you Claire, thank you.