Speaker 1: It's Mojo. In the morning show, Shannon wants to talk
Speaker 1: about something that I wonder if you're in this phase too,
Speaker 1: And if you are or you have been, then let's
Speaker 1: have a little discussion here. What's going on. I miss
Speaker 1: my friends. I miss my friends so much.
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm used to seeing them way more
Speaker 2: often than I have lately, and I am feeling it.
Speaker 2: And I say that because my friends fill me up.
Speaker 2: Spending time with my best girlfriends is so cathartic for me.
Speaker 2: It's so needed, just for my mental health and my
Speaker 2: heart and for my happiness. And nothing is wrong, like
Speaker 2: there's no drama or anything like that. And actually, I
Speaker 2: know a lot of my friends are probably listening right now,
Speaker 2: running their kids to school and stuff, and I could
Speaker 2: probably guarantee their feeling the same way. We just haven't
Speaker 2: all had a discussion about this. But it's such a
Speaker 2: busy time of year for everybody, especially women, especially my friends.
Speaker 2: We all have kids, and we call this Maysumber. It's
Speaker 2: like a holiday, but it's the end of the school year,
Speaker 2: and so there's so many things happening with kids, sports
Speaker 2: and tournaments and end of the school year stuff and
Speaker 2: just events and so there's that we are all scattered,
Speaker 2: Our kids are all scattered across different schools now, where
Speaker 2: all of our kids used to go to the same school.
Speaker 2: That's kind of how we formed, Like this particular group
Speaker 2: that I'm talking about of close mom friends, and all
Speaker 2: of our kids play on like different sports teams, where
Speaker 2: again when they were little, everybody played on the same team,
Speaker 2: you know, for the same school. And so I was
Speaker 2: saying this yesterday, I'm like, I feel like I basically
Speaker 2: communicate with my friends as of late through sending Instagram reels,
Speaker 2: and we have a group chat too, and we're constantly
Speaker 2: texting in the group chat, but actually spending face to
Speaker 2: face quality time is I'm like, craving that.
Speaker 1: So bad right now.
Speaker 2: And I just feel like we're in this phase of
Speaker 2: friendship where and I hate saying life is so busy, Yeah,
Speaker 2: but we're.
Speaker 1: All so you know, in your life, you go through
Speaker 1: so many different types of friendships. Yeah, and when you
Speaker 1: when Lucy switched schools, which is she was the one
Speaker 1: that switched schools right this past year, it does change
Speaker 1: life because we.
Speaker 2: Did the same thing part of it too, Yeah, Loose switched,
Speaker 2: Loose switched. Outside of the district that a lot of
Speaker 2: my mom friends still have kids in.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we we did the same thing with the kids
Speaker 1: were in public school and then they ended up going
Speaker 1: to Catholic school. Yeah, and it's weird because then all
Speaker 1: of a sudden, you don't see as much, uh you know,
Speaker 1: the kids aren't hanging out as much, which is kind
Speaker 1: of wild. It's so this is what did you call again?
Speaker 3: May?
Speaker 1: What May sumber? Maysmber? So that's wild because yeah, because
Speaker 1: the end of the school year or end of uh
Speaker 1: you know, the holidays is kind of crazy. You talk
Speaker 1: about reels, sending reels, I think a friendship sometimes can
Speaker 1: happen through reels. I know it sounds weird to say this,
Speaker 1: but you've got to be willing to not just love
Speaker 1: or like the reels that come through. You have to
Speaker 1: make some common.
Speaker 4: To every now and again. Yeah, because I find that
Speaker 4: with my friends too. I like my friends Lindsay and Ashley.
Speaker 4: We probably send the three of us are on like
Speaker 4: a group. We probably send a dozen reels a days
Speaker 4: to each other.
Speaker 2: But I'm like, I want to hang out with them
Speaker 2: and have a glass of wine on the patio. But
Speaker 2: I just know that that's not that's hard to maneuver
Speaker 2: right now, So I'll take what I can get.
Speaker 1: Can you be as fulfilled if you just guys get
Speaker 1: on the phone and talk to each other or do
Speaker 1: you guys not do that? Like even just a quick
Speaker 1: check in.
Speaker 2: But it's not the same as spending time with your friends.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I was literally just talking to Anne about this.
Speaker 5: It's a guy, his name is Demetrius, and the same
Speaker 5: thing is with my friends. Like the love is still there,
Speaker 5: oh yeah, but the face to face contact and connection
Speaker 5: isn't as regular. And one of the things that I
Speaker 5: saw was God Demetri's post on his Instagram was he
Speaker 5: does a thing called fellas Friday where every Friday or
Speaker 5: the majority of the Fridays when they can do it,
Speaker 5: they go bowling or something like that. And the problem
Speaker 5: I feel like with my friend group, and I'll just
Speaker 5: say myself within the friend group, because I've gotta look
Speaker 5: at myself. I'm not as intentional with setting up a
Speaker 5: time to get with my friends. Yeah, like we could
Speaker 5: easily do something, and it's just like once every three months,
Speaker 5: like we went to the Drake party, but before then
Speaker 5: I really couldn't tay the last time we all hung out.
Speaker 1: So it was like last summer, yeah, like that.
Speaker 2: But last week, my my girlfriend Jess owns an incredible
Speaker 2: business called Meta and Moxie, and my other girlfriend Carrie
Speaker 2: is starting back up the Birthday Party Project here in Detroit,
Speaker 2: which if you don't know about that, please please google.
Speaker 1: It's an amazing organization.
Speaker 2: So my friend Jess hosted an event for the Birthday
Speaker 2: Party Project at her business, and so I got to
Speaker 2: see some of my friends. I went home, it was
Speaker 2: like I was on cloud nine. West was like, you
Speaker 2: are such a different person after you spend time with
Speaker 2: your friends, and I'm like, I feel like I took
Speaker 2: it for granted so much when all of our kids
Speaker 2: were in like me, first, second, third grade and we
Speaker 2: saw each other every couple of days.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: You know, some guys I know are just on softball
Speaker 1: teams just for the sake of just making sure once
Speaker 1: a year or twice a year minute that they do fallball.
Speaker 1: They just get around their guys. So maybe you need
Speaker 1: to do something like that with the ladies. Maybe. I
Speaker 1: don't know. I love my friends, I don't love Samantha horrible.
Speaker 1: You know me, what's going on, Samantha.
Speaker 6: That's why I make a comment. I've lost a lot
Speaker 6: of friendships over the last few years. I would say,
Speaker 6: people grow apart and it just sucks. Like I've known
Speaker 6: people for like fifteen years, they just don't talk to
Speaker 6: me no more.
Speaker 1: What happened? What did did you do something, Samantha that
Speaker 1: we should know about?
Speaker 6: No, no, no, no, just people grow apart, like gets
Speaker 6: too busy and people put what you know?
Speaker 1: Yeah, wow, it sucks. That sucks. Well, you know what.
Speaker 1: I think that in life, you never are too late
Speaker 1: to make a friend. Sometimes sometimes the coolest is to
Speaker 1: meet a new friend later in life, you know.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I have two friends that I'll talk to, like
Speaker 6: on a weekly basis.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 6: So it's just a lot of people that I just
Speaker 6: could talking to just don't reach out, and I'm just
Speaker 6: not going to be the first to reach out anymore.
Speaker 6: But yeah, life just happens and it sucks.
Speaker 1: Shannon wants to know if you want to hang out
Speaker 1: with your friends, start my softball? What's out of Courtney?
Speaker 3: Hi?
Speaker 7: Hi?
Speaker 1: How are you good? What's going on?
Speaker 7: So?
Speaker 3: I have a friend base that I met in high
Speaker 3: school and some of us have moved to different states
Speaker 3: and we talk every morning, text each other, every morning,
Speaker 3: touch base with each other and hey, how's it going.
Speaker 3: Who has a problem? You know, whatever I had. They
Speaker 3: have kids I've never met and we but I feel
Speaker 3: like I know their children based off of the conversation
Speaker 3: from their parents. We get together maybe once a year,
Speaker 3: and when that happens, it is like soul changed.
Speaker 1: It is I like the idea that every morning you
Speaker 1: guys check in with each other. Is it always just text?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 8: Always?
Speaker 1: Just that's kind of neat. Yeah. I kind of have
Speaker 1: that with a couple of friends too, where it's a
Speaker 1: good morning text and they're better at it than I am.
Speaker 1: But I got to make sure that I'm responsive and
Speaker 1: also lead the way on some of those. But it's
Speaker 1: it is nice just to be able to say, hey, man,
Speaker 1: have a great day. You're good at this key have
Speaker 1: you always like to send like a quick little note?
Speaker 1: I never did them. I'll see you in real life,
Speaker 1: he likes, especially when you're eating next day. What's going
Speaker 1: on canvas?
Speaker 5: Hi?
Speaker 1: Hi?
Speaker 9: My comment is that when you become an empty nester,
Speaker 9: all of a sudden, you lose all of your friends.
Speaker 8: Because I have this.
Speaker 9: Core group of friends and since little League, we're all together.
Speaker 9: We're hanging out. We get together want some month, and
Speaker 9: you know, we see each other at the sporting events
Speaker 9: every day. But then when your kids go away to college,
Speaker 9: then it's like, now we only conversate. They're in text
Speaker 9: messages and like, you know, like Shannon said, send me
Speaker 9: reels and I listen my friends, but it's so hard
Speaker 9: for us, like we're all doing our own things now
Speaker 9: and it's like, where did all of my friends go?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it is interesting. You know, the whole kid's
Speaker 1: not going to the same schools. They changes a lot.
Speaker 9: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And by the way, I'm lapping myself into like you know,
Speaker 2: I'm just as busy as everybody. Like we're all just
Speaker 2: so busy. And as much as I hate that frickin' word,
Speaker 2: I hate the word busy, but that's the reality of
Speaker 2: a lot of a lot of situations.
Speaker 1: Good good, And I'll say something after good. Hannah, Hey,
Speaker 1: what's up?
Speaker 10: So I just wanted to comment on I recently, two
Speaker 10: years ago, moved to the Detroit area from Florida, and
Speaker 10: I'm in my late twenties and i had a really
Speaker 10: close group of friends down there, and since I've moved here,
Speaker 10: I think I've lost and every single one of those
Speaker 10: friendship because it's just so difficult to travel back and
Speaker 10: forth and keep in touch. And I'm so busy. There's
Speaker 10: a busy the all kids.
Speaker 1: But technology is so easy to keep in touch with. Though,
Speaker 1: why do you guys not try to FaceTime every now
Speaker 1: and again?
Speaker 10: You know, like they'll be like tech back and forth.
Speaker 10: But some people are just like it's too hard, you know, to.
Speaker 11: Just try to you know, what you got to do friendship,
Speaker 11: use the advantage of Michigan summers compared to Florida summers,
Speaker 11: and then you enjoy the Florida winters, you know.
Speaker 10: Yeah, And you know travel is just so expensive right
Speaker 10: now too, So it's hard, but I try to get
Speaker 10: down there as I can. But also, like making friendships,
Speaker 10: I think as an adult is a lot harder from
Speaker 10: when you were younger, and especially moving to a new
Speaker 10: town where you know nobody, it can be even more difficult.
Speaker 1: So we're opening our arms to you, Hannah. We want
Speaker 1: to welcome you here, but.
Speaker 2: We are not starting a softball team. Want to make
Speaker 2: that very very clear.
Speaker 1: Everything's on the table.
Speaker 10: I'm just getting involved in a community theater and attempts
Speaker 10: to try to make friends.
Speaker 1: That's cool. That sounds good. What was your comment?
Speaker 3: So?
Speaker 5: I was going to say, I haven't thought this out,
Speaker 5: but we know, and you know, biblically talk about it too.
Speaker 5: Everything has a season, right, But I feel like we
Speaker 5: don't always attach that to friendships. Like there is a
Speaker 5: season when you have your core group and y'all outside
Speaker 5: and you're a partying or you're having conversations all the time,
Speaker 5: and then there may be a season where it's not
Speaker 5: like that. But I feel like that mindset isn't always
Speaker 5: attached to that type of situation.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I always tell Loose you have friends for a season,
Speaker 2: a reason, or forever. And I think why I'm feeling
Speaker 2: this so hard right now is like I consider these
Speaker 2: these are my forever friends, so I want to spend
Speaker 2: so much time with them.
Speaker 1: You know, is there any word that you could have
Speaker 1: for the third one, the forever so it's season reason
Speaker 1: and whatever else rhymes with them? What what would be
Speaker 1: something for forever, season reason or forever, Shannon, I got
Speaker 1: two callers that have ideas for you on how to
Speaker 1: maintain your friendships, actually three callers. Amanda you there, Hi, Amanda, Hi.
Speaker 7: So my friends and I have been friends since high school.
Speaker 7: But growing up, you know, we get apart and lose
Speaker 7: track of time. But we make it once a month.
Speaker 7: We call it supper club, where once a month we
Speaker 7: go to one of our houses and we get together
Speaker 7: and whoever's house is, we make dinner and it just
Speaker 7: kind of like holds us.
Speaker 1: Shannon's out, she's not a good cook.
Speaker 7: Well, we ordered pizza.
Speaker 1: Pizza, that sounds finn No, that's that's a good idea.
Speaker 1: I like that supper supper club. That's kind of cool.
Speaker 1: This one's a good one too.
Speaker 8: Uh.
Speaker 1: Could you see Shannon part of a book club?
Speaker 8: Amy?
Speaker 1: Are you there? Amy? Amy? You guys do book club
Speaker 1: and dinner? Is that right? Yeah?
Speaker 8: Well, I have their different things. I have a group
Speaker 8: of women that we all met through the PTO when
Speaker 8: our kids were little, and we're empty nesters now and
Speaker 8: we have a monthly book club or a monthly dinner
Speaker 8: on the fifteenth of the month, and some of us
Speaker 8: also do a book club. What did you guys have.
Speaker 1: Five days ago? Did you guys have a good meal
Speaker 1: five days ago?
Speaker 8: Actually I couldn't go because I was hosting a family
Speaker 8: dinner for the first time in six months with my parents.
Speaker 8: But we go out to eat. We don't we go
Speaker 8: out to eat, so any berries on. If someone has
Speaker 8: a birthday that month, they pick where we're going.
Speaker 1: What's the last good book you guys enjoyed in your club?
Speaker 8: I will let's see. This month we're reading the book
Speaker 8: Club for Troublesome Women, and last month I should be
Speaker 8: able to tell you, but I'm already a month ahead.
Speaker 1: So oh geez, oh my god, get a the Zame
Speaker 1: book in there. And then finally, uh, miss Melissa Shannon,
Speaker 1: can I do softball league? But what should she do?
Speaker 10: Yeah?
Speaker 3: So, once upon a time it was bingo, then it
Speaker 3: was bunko.
Speaker 1: Now it's majo, and everybody I know's yeah, yeah, jong,
Speaker 1: that's what Charles wants. Yeah, amajon thing. We should do
Speaker 1: a mojo in the morning. All right. I just don't
Speaker 1: have friends. I just what I do is I insult
Speaker 1: them all and and then I lose them