WEBVTT - 8am Hour - Body Intervention 0:00:01.920 --> 0:00:03.960 I love that song. Go watch the video. It is 0:00:03.960 --> 0:00:09.559 about six minutes of really weird mess starring a rock 0:00:09.640 --> 0:00:14.000 and a cactus. And it doesn't quite make sense, but 0:00:14.040 --> 0:00:17.400 at the same time, it kind of does make sense. 0:00:17.760 --> 0:00:23.799 I explain anything more than that, all right, getting ready 0:00:23.840 --> 0:00:26.720 for What's on your radar on Katie WB every month, 0:00:26.840 --> 0:00:28.800 every month. I don't know what's wrong with me. I 0:00:28.880 --> 0:00:31.240 got plenty of sleep last night. I don't know what's wrong. 0:00:31.280 --> 0:00:32.800 I think I have something on my mind. No, that's 0:00:32.800 --> 0:00:34.839 what it is. You got good sleep, so you're just 0:00:34.880 --> 0:00:42.440 like us. And not to bring the room down, but 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:46.280 my favorite sister, Vivian, she is in the hospital. And 0:00:46.720 --> 0:00:49.360 I got a call from my niece last night, and 0:00:49.600 --> 0:00:54.560 actually Donna, Donna calls me. I love Donna. I never 0:00:54.600 --> 0:00:57.760 answered the phone when Donna calls. I just don't because 0:00:57.760 --> 0:01:01.319 I never know she's going to I don't know what. 0:01:01.480 --> 0:01:04.160 Donna's a little unpredictable. I love her, She's a little 0:01:04.440 --> 0:01:06.440 so I don't answer the phone. So then she texts me. 0:01:06.520 --> 0:01:08.720 She says, Vivian's in the hospital. Oh my god. So 0:01:08.760 --> 0:01:11.960 I call Vivian's daughter, Michelle, what's your mom in the 0:01:12.000 --> 0:01:14.200 hospital for They're like they don't know. They found her 0:01:14.240 --> 0:01:16.800 like unconscious on the floor when she didn't show up 0:01:16.840 --> 0:01:19.920 for church, and they've got her in the hospital. They 0:01:19.920 --> 0:01:21.440 don't know what's wrong with her. They've done a bunch 0:01:21.480 --> 0:01:24.560 of tests and she's unconscious, you guys, and they don't 0:01:24.560 --> 0:01:28.280 know what's wrong. They think it might be from dehydration 0:01:28.560 --> 0:01:32.920 and then like UTI gone down, leading leading decepsis. 0:01:33.040 --> 0:01:33.360 Yeah. 0:01:33.400 --> 0:01:35.760 Man, my mom's been septic twice, and that is good 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:38.040 what happens in that anyway, It's. 0:01:37.920 --> 0:01:40.560 Just like so it's it's usually from like a UTI 0:01:40.760 --> 0:01:43.560 and then you're you're like the bacteria gets in your 0:01:43.560 --> 0:01:46.000 blood stream and that's what makes you go septic. So 0:01:46.160 --> 0:01:48.200 then my mom the two times she had it, she 0:01:48.280 --> 0:01:51.400 was like in the hospital for quite a few days. 0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:56.280 Okay, they have to like from being UTI then leads decepsis, 0:01:56.600 --> 0:01:59.120 which is a toxin in your bloodstream. 0:01:58.720 --> 0:02:01.520 Yes, exactly, So then they have to Man, I don't 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:03.480 know what they did for her, but like they have 0:02:03.520 --> 0:02:06.640 to like monitor you obviously, and then you know, essentially 0:02:06.720 --> 0:02:10.040 clean out your blood the best that they can before 0:02:10.040 --> 0:02:13.359 they let you go. But I mean, that is scary 0:02:13.400 --> 0:02:16.600 that she was found like unconscious, Like when I when 0:02:16.600 --> 0:02:18.400 I had to like go grab my mom and bring 0:02:18.440 --> 0:02:21.240 her to the hospital when she went septic. Yeah, I 0:02:21.240 --> 0:02:24.760 mean she was still conscious, but girl was in rough shape. 0:02:24.800 --> 0:02:26.760 So like if she went septic, like if if you 0:02:26.800 --> 0:02:28.920 win septic, that's that's bad. 0:02:29.040 --> 0:02:30.880 Yeah, they're running it. She hasn't even found anything yet, 0:02:30.919 --> 0:02:33.919 but she's still unconscious. Yeah, and so I'm not really sure, 0:02:33.919 --> 0:02:36.240 but she I love all my sisters and my brother too, 0:02:36.840 --> 0:02:39.079 but she's my favorite. She was always the one who 0:02:39.200 --> 0:02:41.680 when she went to college, I'll gonna get Terearry. She'd 0:02:41.680 --> 0:02:43.480 go to college, she'd bring me something home when she'd 0:02:43.480 --> 0:02:46.160 come to visit. She brought me like a little squirt 0:02:46.200 --> 0:02:49.080 gun one time. Yeah, like a little little snoopy toy. 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:53.919 And so she's always been my favorite. 0:02:51.080 --> 0:02:56.160 M Well, I'm glad that well she This is what 0:02:56.200 --> 0:02:59.920 my mom always says, like when anyone is sick or 0:03:00.080 --> 0:03:02.040 has something wrong with them and they're in the hospital, 0:03:02.080 --> 0:03:03.040 they're in the right place. 0:03:03.720 --> 0:03:06.120 That's true, right, So it's like that's. 0:03:05.960 --> 0:03:08.720 Where you would want to be if you're unconscious, you 0:03:08.720 --> 0:03:10.400 would want to be in the hospital. So it's a 0:03:10.440 --> 0:03:14.320 good thing that you know, Yeah, she's unconscious, but she's 0:03:14.360 --> 0:03:16.359 in the hospital where they can help her and take 0:03:16.360 --> 0:03:16.880 care of her. 0:03:17.280 --> 0:03:19.840 I love the people that listen to the show because 0:03:20.000 --> 0:03:22.600 you know what meant that we all need to laugh. 0:03:23.520 --> 0:03:27.720 So somebody just texted, did Donna call from a manhole? 0:03:28.760 --> 0:03:30.200 That's a good question. Did she Dave? 0:03:32.080 --> 0:03:34.960 I love you? I love you. This all stems from 0:03:34.960 --> 0:03:37.800 ten years ago. My sister Donnad texted me. She said, David, 0:03:37.840 --> 0:03:40.400 I just fell down a manhole and you can't make 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:42.520 this stuff up. She I don't know if she was 0:03:42.560 --> 0:03:45.800 walking and fell into a manhole or tripped over a manhole, 0:03:45.960 --> 0:03:49.560 but I still get the vision of the coyote on 0:03:49.720 --> 0:03:52.840 the Roadrunner thing falling into a manhole and as he falls, 0:03:52.880 --> 0:03:57.600 hold up beside it says help, thank you, love you 0:03:57.720 --> 0:04:03.200 very much. Okay, let's do on our radar. So we 0:04:03.240 --> 0:04:05.040 do this every week of Tuesday. We're like, okay, well, 0:04:05.120 --> 0:04:06.880 just kind of cool life on this online. Mine is 0:04:07.040 --> 0:04:10.560 that documentary girl, and it's a woman on Instagram. She's 0:04:10.560 --> 0:04:14.040 literally called that documentary girl. And she will show you 0:04:14.120 --> 0:04:17.680 these different documentaries because you like documentaries. Some are horrific, 0:04:18.000 --> 0:04:21.400 some are funny, some are awful and violent and scary. 0:04:21.720 --> 0:04:24.040 But she's about twenty five thirty years old. Then she 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:29.320 will reveal and review and recommend documentaries that documentary girl 0:04:29.800 --> 0:04:30.680 on Instagram. 0:04:30.960 --> 0:04:33.680 Mine is a place called Brookie's Fish Market. It is 0:04:33.760 --> 0:04:36.600 located in Saint Louis Park and they have like obviously 0:04:36.640 --> 0:04:39.479 just like high grade fish, shellfish, all kinds of other stuff. 0:04:39.520 --> 0:04:41.320 But they have this trout dip that I got for 0:04:41.400 --> 0:04:44.440 the Super Bowl. It is so good trout dip. 0:04:44.480 --> 0:04:45.560 So Brookies Fish. 0:04:45.360 --> 0:04:47.159 Market that does sound good. Yeah. 0:04:47.200 --> 0:04:50.120 Mine is a volunteer opportunity where you can sign up 0:04:50.160 --> 0:04:53.160 to be a judge for this program called History Day 0:04:53.200 --> 0:04:55.840 that's a lot like Science Fair, but for history projects. 0:04:56.040 --> 0:04:58.840 There's like a dozen regional contests happening through March and 0:04:59.080 --> 0:05:01.800 they're looking for judges and I'm judging like three of them. 0:05:02.200 --> 0:05:04.440 And it's volunteer opportunity, but it's. 0:05:04.320 --> 0:05:06.560 Really like a joy to see middle and high schoolers 0:05:06.600 --> 0:05:10.159 like show off historical research projects. You just google History 0:05:10.200 --> 0:05:12.000 Day Minnesota and you can judge. 0:05:12.120 --> 0:05:14.040 Mine is the new Dracula movie. I am not a 0:05:14.120 --> 0:05:14.760 Dracula person. 0:05:14.760 --> 0:05:16.359 I said this yesterday during Dirt, but it was like 0:05:16.360 --> 0:05:18.080 a four point five out of five stars for me. 0:05:18.200 --> 0:05:21.440 Be prepared for the ending, and I won't spoil anything else. 0:05:22.200 --> 0:05:25.279 It's the mom, isn't it right. It's the the mom, mom, 0:05:25.640 --> 0:05:30.640 the sister Dracula's mom. My radar is that documentary girl 0:05:30.839 --> 0:05:32.480 on Instagram. 0:05:31.960 --> 0:05:34.599 Minus Bergie's Fish Market, and it's in San Louis Park. 0:05:34.680 --> 0:05:38.400 Mine is volunteer judging for History Day in Minnesota. 0:05:38.440 --> 0:05:40.240 Mine is the new Dracula movie in theaters now a 0:05:40.240 --> 0:05:43.560 pleasant surprise, Godgi a cheater, one fake bouquet of roses 0:05:43.600 --> 0:05:45.960 at a time. Four of the Roses stars right now 0:05:46.040 --> 0:05:52.400 on KDWB, usually on War the Roses. The technology that 0:05:52.480 --> 0:05:55.040 gives away somebody who might be cheating is the phone, 0:05:55.120 --> 0:05:57.640 because you see, like I think there was one where 0:05:58.800 --> 0:06:04.120 there's been everything from lude photos on the phone to 0:06:05.120 --> 0:06:09.760 texting late at night, or somebody would could see that 0:06:09.839 --> 0:06:12.520 their husband was hype typing red hearts on something. 0:06:12.760 --> 0:06:16.240 I think also one time we had because your iPad 0:06:16.480 --> 0:06:19.080 connects to your phone sometimes so then texts coming on 0:06:19.200 --> 0:06:21.400 like the family iPad, oh yeah, and then you can 0:06:21.440 --> 0:06:22.960 see some texts that are coming in. 0:06:23.680 --> 0:06:26.680 Well, this is technology that makes somebody suspicious, but it 0:06:26.680 --> 0:06:30.159 has nothing really partly to do with the phone. But 0:06:30.240 --> 0:06:33.680 I'll let Vanessa explain it. So Vanessa, you've heard War 0:06:33.680 --> 0:06:41.000 of the roses for years. You're now married, and your husband, Lewis, Right, 0:06:42.760 --> 0:06:45.240 Lewis did something over the last couple of days or 0:06:45.240 --> 0:06:47.440 week or whatever that makes you think, Okay, what's going on? 0:06:47.839 --> 0:06:51.359 Tell me what's happening with Lewis and technology. 0:06:52.080 --> 0:06:55.039 Yeah, So, like a lot of people these days, we 0:06:55.200 --> 0:06:59.160 have a ring camera, right, yeah, and I have it 0:06:59.240 --> 0:07:01.280 set up, you know, so I can be alerted when 0:07:01.320 --> 0:07:04.440 there's delivery, you know, or you know, someone's at the 0:07:04.480 --> 0:07:10.040 front door. So I've been at work and all of 0:07:10.080 --> 0:07:14.240 a sudden blue boo, you know, low ring notification pops 0:07:14.320 --> 0:07:17.120 up and I just always you know, glint at it 0:07:17.160 --> 0:07:20.480 real quickly. You know, it's usually ups guy dropping something off. 0:07:20.520 --> 0:07:23.160 You know. I go back to work, no problem. But 0:07:23.720 --> 0:07:27.840 the past couple of days it's been my husband on 0:07:27.920 --> 0:07:32.360 the ring on the ring cam, and he's out there 0:07:32.520 --> 0:07:36.560 on the phone, and you know, we've got two kids, 0:07:37.040 --> 0:07:42.600 two boys, six and eight, and uh, you know it's like, 0:07:42.760 --> 0:07:46.520 first of all, I would personally never leave them alone 0:07:46.600 --> 0:07:53.960 for even a second really important conversation, correct, But why 0:07:54.120 --> 0:07:57.320 is it that he can't just have the conversation in 0:07:57.320 --> 0:07:59.760 front of the boys, you know, where he can keep 0:07:59.760 --> 0:08:03.200 an eye on them. Okay, so they don't destroy the house. 0:08:04.960 --> 0:08:07.920 So you know, this happened the first time, and I 0:08:07.960 --> 0:08:10.200 was like, okay, that's strange, but you know, I just 0:08:10.240 --> 0:08:14.320 didn't think of it again. But then it happened again. 0:08:15.800 --> 0:08:19.200 And I don't know if you guys know this, but 0:08:19.680 --> 0:08:21.560 there's the chance to actually listen. 0:08:23.080 --> 0:08:28.040 Oh yeah, yeah, so you right, Yeah, it's a feature. 0:08:27.760 --> 0:08:30.000 So and you can like unmute it basically. 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:32.760 Yeah. So it's like if the UPS guy comes and 0:08:32.840 --> 0:08:35.720 or or somebody comes your door, UPS guys drop it 0:08:35.760 --> 0:08:37.600 and then you leave. But if somebody comes and rings 0:08:37.600 --> 0:08:40.400 your doorbell and you're, you know, at a restaurant, you 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:42.040 can actually talk him and say, hey, I'm not home 0:08:42.120 --> 0:08:44.320 right now, can I help you? Yeah, I just wanted 0:08:44.360 --> 0:08:47.960 to know whatever, So you hit the BA. 0:08:48.200 --> 0:08:51.720 I actually just you know, unmuted it, you know, to 0:08:51.800 --> 0:08:56.800 hear what was going on. And I heard his conversation 0:08:57.800 --> 0:09:02.880 or like, well, I guess I should say I I 0:09:02.920 --> 0:09:08.040 think he was talking about me. He was basically telling 0:09:08.200 --> 0:09:10.040 the person on the other side of the phone about 0:09:10.080 --> 0:09:16.439 how it's just not working. She's so tired and boring 0:09:17.640 --> 0:09:22.040 and uh, things like she never wants to do anything, 0:09:22.679 --> 0:09:24.640 she doesn't like to do the things that I like 0:09:24.760 --> 0:09:28.600 to do. Uh, we used to bike together. She doesn't 0:09:28.640 --> 0:09:34.240 want to do that anymore. Like just really really rough stuff. 0:09:33.920 --> 0:09:37.120 Like that, and it and it makes you think like 0:09:37.200 --> 0:09:39.560 he's talking about you in a very negative way. 0:09:40.640 --> 0:09:42.560 I mean, I just I just don't see who else 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:46.800 you could be talking about, you know, because I get 0:09:46.840 --> 0:09:54.600 it we haven't been the greatest recently. But you know, 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:57.800 is he is he seeing someone else because he's bored 0:09:57.840 --> 0:09:58.080 with me? 0:09:58.360 --> 0:09:58.440 Like? 0:09:58.640 --> 0:10:01.840 Is that who he's talking? Thing? Too? Like why why 0:10:01.880 --> 0:10:06.080 else would you leave our boys alone to take a 0:10:06.120 --> 0:10:07.320 phone call? You know? 0:10:08.320 --> 0:10:09.959 How can I ask you. 0:10:09.960 --> 0:10:12.679 Some pretty nasty things about me? So, I mean I 0:10:12.760 --> 0:10:15.560 kind of always understand why he needs to not be 0:10:15.600 --> 0:10:17.960 around the boys. 0:10:18.320 --> 0:10:20.000 How long was he out on the porch talking to 0:10:20.200 --> 0:10:21.120 this mystery person? 0:10:22.120 --> 0:10:23.480 Twenty minutes? 0:10:23.880 --> 0:10:24.320 How long? 0:10:25.160 --> 0:10:26.040 Twenty minutes? 0:10:26.160 --> 0:10:26.559 Wow? 0:10:26.840 --> 0:10:30.080 And honestly I gave up, like after I heard, you know, 0:10:30.200 --> 0:10:32.360 like five minutes of him saying that kind of stuff, 0:10:32.440 --> 0:10:34.760 I just I couldn't handle it. 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:40.000 Okay, you know, so well I feel bad. I feel 0:10:40.000 --> 0:10:42.280 bad that you like, you know, had to overhear that. 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:46.520 But it doesn't necessarily mean anything that he's cheating. But 0:10:46.600 --> 0:10:49.840 what we can do we can call him and set 0:10:49.840 --> 0:10:52.439 our usual trap and say, hey, you take the survey, 0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:54.120 you win the roses. Who do you want to send 0:10:54.200 --> 0:10:57.240 roses to? And I'm going to bet that you know, 0:10:57.559 --> 0:11:01.079 it might not be going really well. Married have rocky spots, 0:11:01.240 --> 0:11:04.280 but he's probably gonna send the roses to you. I'd 0:11:04.320 --> 0:11:07.599 hate to have you find out this way that you 0:11:07.720 --> 0:11:09.840 seeing somebody else, But if you want to go through 0:11:09.880 --> 0:11:13.120 with it, Vanessa, we can call your husband and set 0:11:13.160 --> 0:11:13.600 the trap. 0:11:14.280 --> 0:11:15.839 I just I just need to know. 0:11:17.520 --> 0:11:17.559 That. 0:11:17.720 --> 0:11:21.120 To Dave Ryan's War of the Roses, I'm kd WB. 0:11:21.520 --> 0:11:24.840 I really think this is an intriguing one because she 0:11:25.920 --> 0:11:29.760 has the ring camera and so she gets an alert 0:11:29.800 --> 0:11:32.640 on her phone that says there's somebody at your front door. 0:11:33.120 --> 0:11:35.120 And you can even talk to people if like somebody 0:11:35.200 --> 0:11:37.160 rings your doorbell and you're like down to the gym, 0:11:37.280 --> 0:11:39.079 you can say hi, I'm not there right now, go head, 0:11:39.080 --> 0:11:40.959 Well Hi, what do you want? I'm just here to 0:11:41.040 --> 0:11:44.640 mug you, rob your hout whatever. So the answer like 0:11:44.679 --> 0:11:46.360 that in the Ring camp, well they don't usually, but 0:11:46.400 --> 0:11:48.120 you get the idea. You talk back and forth. So 0:11:48.160 --> 0:11:50.760 she's listening in because she gets an alert that her 0:11:50.800 --> 0:11:53.320 husband is at the front door, and so she's like, well, 0:11:53.320 --> 0:11:55.160 who's he talking to on the phone and why did 0:11:55.160 --> 0:11:57.000 he go outside? And why did he leave our boys 0:11:57.000 --> 0:12:01.040 alone inside the house. Then she overhears a conversation where 0:12:01.080 --> 0:12:04.280 he is saying I'm tired of her, She's boring, she 0:12:04.400 --> 0:12:08.360 never wants to do anything. So she's like, he's gotta 0:12:08.440 --> 0:12:12.440 be talking about me. Who is he talking to? And 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:15.800 is he cheating? So we're going to set the trap 0:12:15.880 --> 0:12:26.040 right now to offer him roses and see what happens 0:12:26.160 --> 0:12:26.400 for me. 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:29.160 Like I said, it's just a quick survey. So we're 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:32.040 all done already, Lewis. Now I have a dozen roses 0:12:32.040 --> 0:12:33.680 to send out to whoever you want. So what I 0:12:33.679 --> 0:12:35.400 need from you is the name of who you want 0:12:35.400 --> 0:12:36.079 to send those too. 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:41.599 Yeah, I'd like to send them to Vanessa. 0:12:44.200 --> 0:12:47.080 Okay, Vanessa got that down perfect. 0:12:48.320 --> 0:12:50.520 Well, there's good news, I think. And this is this 0:12:50.559 --> 0:12:53.720 is going to change your your morning a little bit, Lewis. 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:57.319 This has all been a trap to set you up 0:12:58.960 --> 0:13:01.240 to see who you would send roses to. This is 0:13:01.320 --> 0:13:05.280 kind of like a prank phone call, but it's not 0:13:05.440 --> 0:13:10.360 meant to be funny necessarily. I know you're going who 0:13:10.400 --> 0:13:13.920 is this. This is the Dave Ryan Show on Katie 0:13:13.960 --> 0:13:16.200 w B. We do this every week. I'm always amazed 0:13:16.200 --> 0:13:18.240 when some guy has never heard of this, but not 0:13:18.320 --> 0:13:22.760 everybody listens to our show. So we called you at 0:13:22.800 --> 0:13:27.760 the encouragement of your wife Vanessa, to see who you 0:13:27.760 --> 0:13:33.720 would send roses to. Ah okay and the yeah. And 0:13:33.760 --> 0:13:37.960 the funny thing is is that Vanessa is listening in 0:13:39.120 --> 0:13:45.080 right now, Vanessa, say hi to Lewis. 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:46.079 Hi. 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:51.199 I'm gonna let Vanessa explain what it is that you 0:13:51.280 --> 0:13:53.760 know because nobody nobody wants to do this feature on 0:13:53.800 --> 0:13:56.360 our show, which we call War of the Roses because 0:13:56.360 --> 0:13:58.920 there's roses involved. Nobody wants to do this unless they 0:13:58.920 --> 0:14:01.360 think there's something going on. So, Vanessa, do you want 0:14:01.400 --> 0:14:03.640 to take a minute and talk to Lewis about why 0:14:03.760 --> 0:14:06.560 you're kind of feeling there might be something weird going on? 0:14:08.120 --> 0:14:15.120 Yeah? So our ring camera caught you a couple of 0:14:15.240 --> 0:14:21.520 days out on the porch taking a phone call. And 0:14:23.400 --> 0:14:27.200 the second time I actually kind of listened in and 0:14:28.280 --> 0:14:30.960 heard you talk about who I can only assume is me. 0:14:31.240 --> 0:14:34.080 I'm gonna feel really dumb if it wasn't even about me. 0:14:35.360 --> 0:14:40.280 But you know, you were saying some pretty harsh things 0:14:40.320 --> 0:14:45.080 like about how you know I'm boring and I don't 0:14:45.080 --> 0:14:49.600 really do anything anymore, and you know how it's just 0:14:49.800 --> 0:14:54.360 not not working. And you know I had to hear that, 0:14:54.680 --> 0:14:59.920 you know, our ring camera. So you know, I just 0:15:00.360 --> 0:15:05.800 I didn't really know what to think. And you know, 0:15:05.880 --> 0:15:08.080 I didn't know who you could possibly be talking to. 0:15:08.840 --> 0:15:12.480 Who you know you could actually leave our boys alone 0:15:12.520 --> 0:15:16.360 for two seconds, you know, to talk to and you know, 0:15:16.520 --> 0:15:18.960 the one conversation I didn't listen to the whole thing, 0:15:19.600 --> 0:15:21.920 but you know, the one time was like twenty minutes, 0:15:23.080 --> 0:15:24.680 you know, like I can't turn my back on our 0:15:24.720 --> 0:15:27.520 kids for two seconds without them, you know, I don't know, 0:15:27.680 --> 0:15:30.640 almost blighting the dog on fire, you know. 0:15:30.960 --> 0:15:33.680 Like so I think a fair question, I don't I 0:15:33.720 --> 0:15:36.520 want to help you out because I can tell you're upset. 0:15:37.360 --> 0:15:41.920 Is there a reason, lewis if I may, and not 0:15:41.960 --> 0:15:43.920 an attacking way, But what is there a reason to 0:15:43.960 --> 0:15:45.760 take the phone call out on the porch unless you've 0:15:45.760 --> 0:15:48.520 got some secret to hide? 0:15:48.840 --> 0:15:52.000 Well, I mean, first off, this I feel like, is 0:15:52.000 --> 0:15:55.000 it like an invasion of privacy? Like I should be 0:15:55.000 --> 0:15:56.600 able to walk around my own house and if I 0:15:56.600 --> 0:15:57.800 want to take a call out on the porch. I 0:15:57.800 --> 0:16:00.680 shouldn't have to worry about you, like listening in from 0:16:00.760 --> 0:16:02.920 the boys, Lewis our boys. 0:16:04.520 --> 0:16:07.080 Do you remember when they almost set the dog on fire? 0:16:07.600 --> 0:16:09.400 I do, I do, I do. 0:16:09.480 --> 0:16:10.240 I watched them. 0:16:10.280 --> 0:16:13.200 I can see them right through the window, right by 0:16:13.200 --> 0:16:13.600 the door. 0:16:13.680 --> 0:16:16.560 But so why are you? Why are you outside? 0:16:17.400 --> 0:16:20.720 Because it's so loud inside. They watched TV on full 0:16:20.800 --> 0:16:23.520 blast and the cart It just gets to me. 0:16:23.640 --> 0:16:24.760 I I can't. 0:16:24.840 --> 0:16:28.480 I can't pay attention to Blue anymore. I just can't. 0:16:29.840 --> 0:16:36.880 Okay, but what about her? Overhearing that that she's not 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:38.040 as fun as she used to be? 0:16:41.560 --> 0:16:47.840 Well, I mean to be honest, you know, yeah, it's 0:16:47.880 --> 0:16:49.720 not as exciting as it used to be. I mean, 0:16:49.760 --> 0:16:53.160 I feel like the refrain for you anymore as oh, well, 0:16:53.200 --> 0:16:55.760 you know, I'm tired. I'm tired, and you you don't 0:16:55.760 --> 0:16:56.960 want to do anything anymore. 0:16:57.000 --> 0:16:59.640 I am tired from the gods. 0:17:00.680 --> 0:17:02.000 I'm tired too, you know. 0:17:02.120 --> 0:17:03.800 I babysit them two hours every. 0:17:03.720 --> 0:17:05.520 Day once I get home from work, and I just. 0:17:06.080 --> 0:17:08.760 Yeah, I watch them from the moment I get home 0:17:09.160 --> 0:17:11.879 at five pm until they go to bed at eight thirty. 0:17:12.440 --> 0:17:15.640 I mean, I mean dinner, I clean up after them, 0:17:15.960 --> 0:17:16.960 it's exhausting. 0:17:17.680 --> 0:17:19.480 Can I go back to something that you said, Lewis, 0:17:19.480 --> 0:17:21.119 And I don't mean to call you out on this, 0:17:21.240 --> 0:17:25.720 but it's really when you're watching your own kids, it's 0:17:25.760 --> 0:17:29.080 really not babysitting now, it's not. It's I think it's 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:35.560 called fothering or co parenting. But then when, okay, to 0:17:35.600 --> 0:17:38.920 be honest with me, when Vanessa gets home, how much 0:17:39.920 --> 0:17:41.960 do you help out? Or is that the time to 0:17:41.960 --> 0:17:44.400 go watch the Wolves game or is that the time 0:17:44.440 --> 0:17:46.880 to go down and like, you know, I don't know, 0:17:48.040 --> 0:17:49.560 play video games or whatever. 0:17:50.840 --> 0:17:54.280 Well, you know, it's I need some decompression time because 0:17:54.280 --> 0:17:56.760 I've been going you know, bam bam, So I need 0:17:56.760 --> 0:17:58.480 to get like tagged out for a bit. 0:17:58.560 --> 0:18:03.760 And what you know, I mean, I don't get any. 0:18:07.440 --> 0:18:07.640 Help. 0:18:08.240 --> 0:18:09.040 I take out the. 0:18:09.040 --> 0:18:12.639 Trash, you know I do. I do the dishes most nights, 0:18:12.720 --> 0:18:16.639 like I don't do anything most nights. 0:18:17.119 --> 0:18:18.720 Wow, what a gentleman. 0:18:19.080 --> 0:18:20.520 I'm just saying. 0:18:20.960 --> 0:18:22.720 Would it be fair to say, Vanessa that if he 0:18:22.800 --> 0:18:25.040 pitched in a little bit more after you get home, 0:18:25.680 --> 0:18:27.919 that maybe you would have some energy to go on 0:18:28.000 --> 0:18:31.520 a bike ride on the weekends, or you know, have 0:18:31.640 --> 0:18:33.520 more energy to do things and be more fun. 0:18:34.760 --> 0:18:40.840 I mean, yeah, I really, I really just something something's 0:18:40.840 --> 0:18:43.560 got to give. I'm just exhausted all of the time. 0:18:43.680 --> 0:18:45.520 I bet there's so many people who relate to this 0:18:45.720 --> 0:18:47.800 listening to War of the Roses. I'm glad there's no cheating. 0:18:48.359 --> 0:18:50.040 And you know what, we never really did solve that. 0:18:50.080 --> 0:18:52.359 Can I ask you who was the person I'm gonna 0:18:52.359 --> 0:18:54.000 put you on the spot. Who were you talking to 0:18:54.040 --> 0:18:55.880 on the phone when you were talking about how Vanessa 0:18:55.960 --> 0:18:56.800 was not the same. 0:19:00.920 --> 0:19:01.760 That's what I'm talking to. 0:19:02.240 --> 0:19:04.640 Does that sound logical Vanessa that he would share something 0:19:04.680 --> 0:19:05.520 like that with his sister. 0:19:06.320 --> 0:19:09.080 They're very close. Okay, that makes track. 0:19:09.280 --> 0:19:11.439 Is there something we can learn from this? Like for couples, 0:19:11.520 --> 0:19:13.600 it's like you're not the only one who's Maybe their 0:19:13.640 --> 0:19:17.040 partner does not pitch in and they think of watching 0:19:17.080 --> 0:19:18.159 the kids as babysitting. 0:19:18.440 --> 0:19:21.560 Well yeah, and if you think that your partner is 0:19:21.680 --> 0:19:25.720 like gotten a little boring, maybe reevaluate the lifestyle you 0:19:25.720 --> 0:19:29.280 guys are living and watch your wife parenting these children 0:19:29.359 --> 0:19:31.159 while you go do whatever you want. It sounds like, 0:19:31.160 --> 0:19:33.440 but you do take all the trash sometimes and wash 0:19:33.480 --> 0:19:35.800 the dishes. 0:19:35.840 --> 0:19:39.639 That is there any resentment? So maybe it's not just 0:19:39.680 --> 0:19:42.199 being tired, but it's like, I don't want to do 0:19:42.240 --> 0:19:44.320 this because I'm resentful of the fact that I do 0:19:44.359 --> 0:19:45.560 all the stuff around the house. 0:19:46.320 --> 0:19:49.000 It is kind of hard to want to do things 0:19:49.680 --> 0:19:53.800 with someone who the second I get home it's all 0:19:53.840 --> 0:19:54.119 on me. 0:19:54.600 --> 0:19:56.360 You know what. There's so many people who have commented 0:19:56.400 --> 0:19:59.160 on that on War of the Roses about the babysitting thing, 0:19:59.359 --> 0:20:01.320 and it doesn't it's out that he's not cheating. It 0:20:01.320 --> 0:20:03.960 doesn't look like it, but he is unhappy, and I 0:20:03.960 --> 0:20:06.400 believe him when he's talking about his sister, but there's 0:20:06.440 --> 0:20:09.000 a lot of people that were on his side because 0:20:09.000 --> 0:20:11.720 she seemed like she was overreacting. And then when he 0:20:11.760 --> 0:20:15.760 said babysitting, I think that's a big telltale thing because 0:20:16.080 --> 0:20:18.840 if when your partner gets home and let's say that 0:20:18.880 --> 0:20:22.239 she's the mom and you're the dad, and you're like, 0:20:22.359 --> 0:20:24.680 oh man, these kids have been a nightmare here. They're 0:20:24.720 --> 0:20:27.320 all yours now, and then you go outside and you 0:20:27.320 --> 0:20:29.959 shoot hoops or go to the driving range or whatever, 0:20:30.480 --> 0:20:32.920 that is a problem. This a bunch of text messages. 0:20:33.840 --> 0:20:36.040 This guy needs a punch in the teeth. You're not 0:20:36.080 --> 0:20:38.880 helping out your wife, You're not doing a damn job. Yes, 0:20:38.960 --> 0:20:42.040 David's called parenting, not babysitting, because he did. He's like, 0:20:42.040 --> 0:20:45.240 I've been babysitting these kids for three two hours now. 0:20:45.640 --> 0:20:48.159 Yeah, and I luckily I don't have any men in 0:20:48.200 --> 0:20:49.560 my life that say things like that. 0:20:49.640 --> 0:20:51.400 They're like, oh, yeah, I took care of the kids, you. 0:20:51.359 --> 0:20:54.280 Know whatever, It's my job. I'm also their dad and 0:20:54.320 --> 0:20:57.280