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Speaker 1: We talked about a woman who called in and said,

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Speaker 1: don't ever meet your heroes, don't ever sleep with somebody

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Speaker 1: who you've really like, like a sex symbol. She had

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Speaker 1: talked to us about a story about how she hooked

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Speaker 1: up with a boy band member back during their prime

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Speaker 1: and how it was awful and how it was really

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Speaker 1: fast and like uneventful, and then afterward he got up

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Speaker 1: and he sat naked on the hotel couch and watched TV.

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Speaker 1: And she thought, gross, you're naked on the hotel couch.

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Speaker 1: What do I do? So she got up and she

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Speaker 1: put her clothes on. She said, I had a good time,

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Speaker 1: and he's like, oh, great to see you. I hope

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Speaker 1: we do it again. And she said it was like

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Speaker 1: just so disappointing naked out a hotel couch. Right. So

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Speaker 1: we've got Maren on the phone. Maren, you heard that story.

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Speaker 1: What did that make you think of yesterday during the show.

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Speaker 2: Maren, Well, I was listening to it and kind of

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Speaker 2: just laughing to myself because I wasn't surprised to hear that, because.

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Speaker 3: Like nearly all men are bad in bed.

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Speaker 1: All men are bad in bed. I heard it here first,

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Speaker 1: do you Jenny and Bailey agree that this is true.

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Speaker 1: I do agree nearly all men, yes are bad in bad? Yes?

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Speaker 3: Where's this coming from?

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Speaker 1: Years of experience.

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Speaker 4: From are you talking to me or are you talking

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Speaker 4: to Mary?

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Speaker 1: The women? Oh?

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Speaker 4: Where is it coming from? Yes? Our experience with being

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Speaker 4: in bed with men?

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Speaker 1: Bailey?

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Speaker 4: I don't know Bailey's take on this too.

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Speaker 1: I agree with Jenny. Can I ask you a question? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: What is it that makes us bad? When you say

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Speaker 1: he's bad? Is it in attentiveness? Is it to quick ickness?

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Speaker 1: What is it that makes it bad?

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Speaker 4: Well, I'll let Maren take that for now and then

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Speaker 4: I can elaborate from there.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Eleric Scrol, I feel like for the most obviously,

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Speaker 3: there are some exceptions, like I've been with like maybe

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Speaker 2: Them was actually good.

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Speaker 3: Maybe two were passable, but yeah, the rest were just

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Speaker 3: like like you're joking, like that's what you think works,

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Speaker 3: that's what you think is good. I don't know. I

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Speaker 3: feel like, oh, well, okay, I feel.

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Speaker 2: Like the cliche is that like bad sex is like.

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Speaker 3: The quick kind, like it only last thirty seconds, Like ugh,

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Speaker 3: you know, but that's actually not really the problem. I

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Speaker 3: feel like men just don't know what they're doing, like

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Speaker 3: women need you know, women take some time to get

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Speaker 3: warmed up. You know, every woman is a little different with.

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Speaker 2: What they want, with what they like.

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Speaker 3: And I feel like you can tell what you know

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Speaker 3: each woman likes based on their reaction. But then like

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Speaker 3: right when you start to actually feel good, the man

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Speaker 3: will like switch it up and it's like no, no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 3: I liked what you were doing before.

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Speaker 1: No, it's true. It's like, okay, oh she's reacting, let

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Speaker 1: me go faster, and it's like no, that's kind of

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Speaker 3: But to me, that feels like, okay, so you're not

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Speaker 3: able to read the chemistry. You're not able to like

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Speaker 3: pick up on the signals.

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Speaker 1: You're getting instant feedback, guys, Yeah, you're getting instantaneous feedback.

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Speaker 1: It's like okay, And and if the feedback says no,

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Speaker 1: then switch it up a little bit. Feedback says yes,

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Speaker 1: then don't change it up. That means it's a work.

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Speaker 4: I mean, yes, I agree with all of the above

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Speaker 4: just don't understand the female body. And I think we

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Speaker 4: internet that men think women want because they saw it

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Speaker 4: on the internet. But just like the fact that men

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Speaker 4: don't get that, I'm trying to make sure I pick

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Speaker 4: my word. We appreciate that the actual act of sex

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Speaker 4: is just not good enough for almost all women. You

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Speaker 4: have to do other things.

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Speaker 1: Oh God, like what like shopping or like what yeah picking.

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Speaker 4: Yeah your hair, Yeah, take your shopping, Yeah, to go.

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Speaker 1: I know exactly, I know what, I know exactly what

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Speaker 4: You got involve other things. The amount of people I know,

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Speaker 4: Dave that you think the g spot's in the left armpit,

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Speaker 4: it's actually in the right, the.

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Speaker 1: Right arm p I've been the wrong, wrong arm pit

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Speaker 4: The amount of people who think just hitting that armpit

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Speaker 1: Then they over focus on it. They're beating like a

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Speaker 1: punching bag, like a speed bag. Abu bu bu bu bu.

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Speaker 1: Like easy on that speed bag.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, no, like calm down, maybe just like pat the

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Speaker 4: speed bag a little bit. Well, like there's just like

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Speaker 4: other things that can happen. And so I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I did the math just now since Marren was willing

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Speaker 4: to say how many I'm not going to say how

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Speaker 4: many people I've been with, but I did the math

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Speaker 4: of how many I would say we're good, and it

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Speaker 5: Is that good for you, though, because the only reason

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Speaker 5: because people are saying you sound like you took it personally. No,

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Speaker 5: I'm just curious about what makes nearly all men bad.

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Speaker 5: Is it the experiences that you have had, because then

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Speaker 5: maybe it's just not your heart to please. But it's

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Speaker 5: hard to copy a paste to the same woman.

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Speaker 4: I don't care how hard it is to please me.

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Speaker 4: The point is that.

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Speaker 1: You want to be pleased, gotcha?

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Speaker 4: Okay, it doesn't matter if a lot of one. I

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Speaker 4: know girls who can like get there within seconds, and

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Speaker 4: I am envious as hell as them. Me, on the

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Speaker 4: other hand, very different. And the point is that whoever

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Speaker 4: So if it's a little different for me versus the

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Speaker 4: last person someone was with, then like, figure it out. Okay,

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Speaker 4: Like everyone's different, I'm sure like, and I'm sure you

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Speaker 4: people like I know, there's sex coming in and saying

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Speaker 4: that like women should be more vocal, women should speak up.

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Speaker 4: I agree, but also we have we do try to

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Speaker 4: do it in the most delicate way without hurting your ego.

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Speaker 4: We do things like we become louder to be like, yes,

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Speaker 4: this is you're do it. You got there doing it,

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Speaker 4: you found the right arm bit.

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Speaker 1: And then you gage and.

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Speaker 4: It's like oh my, so then you have to sit

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Speaker 1: I think that some guys think that the longer the better,

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Speaker 1: and so they're just a marathon session and she's like,

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Speaker 1: oh man, wrap it up awful. Yeah, yeah, well guys,

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Speaker 3: We can The opposite can be true though as well.

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Speaker 3: Like a lot of times it's like once the guy

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Speaker 2: We're done, and you're like, hey, yeah that's not right,

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Speaker 2: hi hoping, Okay, well you.

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Speaker 1: Know what, there's so much more we're really not to

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Speaker 1: kind of showed to spend an hour on this. It

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Speaker 1: is interesting though, and I think that's true. So her

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Speaker 1: all men are bad in bed, and I think that

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Speaker 1: maybe should be an eye opener for guys, it's like, okay,

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Speaker 1: we think we all think we're good every and I

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Speaker 1: worked with a guy He's like, I know I'm good

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Speaker 1: in bed. I said, how do you know? Because I asked,

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Speaker 1: You're like okay. So afterwards you're like, how was I

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Speaker 1: And she's going to review you, rate you as a

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Speaker 1: two on a scale. Of course, she's going to say, oh,

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Speaker 1: you were great? Was I the best you ever had?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So this guy went away thinking that his sweaty, quick,

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Speaker 1: disgusting loving was like the best she ever had? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: because what else are you supposed to say? You're not

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Speaker 1: to be like, actually, no.

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Speaker 5: No, I think you should though, No not don't say

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Speaker 5: you're bad, But don't say you're.

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Speaker 4: Bad, sang oh man who says I think.

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Speaker 5: You should No, don't say, don't say I'm I want

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Speaker 1: Like in the moment, it's kind of like when your

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Speaker 1: kid brings home a macaroni necklace. Yeah, just like that,

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Speaker 1: you go, that's the most beautiful thing because you don't

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Speaker 1: you know, there's women who will maybe give a little feedback,

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Speaker 1: but it's like your kid draws a picture. Look, I

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Speaker 1: drew a picture of you, Mom. You're not gonna say,

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Speaker 1: good God, throw that in the trash. That's ugly.

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Speaker 5: But the difference is that's a kid. Though, I feel

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Speaker 5: men can take the criticism, but how do you expect

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Speaker 5: me to just get you to think the guy's true?

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Speaker 5: They should be able to But I also think there's

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Speaker 5: nothing wrong with a guy. A good guy wants to

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Speaker 5: know what you like. Yeah, it's like, oh, you really

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Speaker 5: like that. But I also think that a guy should

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Speaker 5: be on the lookout for feedback. Guys will pay more

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Speaker 5: attention to their fantasy football than they will the feedback

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Speaker 5: of their partner in the bedroom.

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Speaker 1: It's like, watch for the feedback. You're getting instant feedback.

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Speaker 4: So lot for it, truly, And maybe try different things too.

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Speaker 4: If you feel like you're not getting instant feedback, maybe

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Speaker 4: do something different. They don't do the same things everything, like, yeah,

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Speaker 4: I get crazy, go from the bed to the count.

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Speaker 5: I wasn't trying to get too vulgar, but you know,

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Speaker 5: just do other things.

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Speaker 4: Someone did text and say thanks guys for the awkward

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Speaker 4: silence in the car with my sixty year olds on

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Speaker 4: this morning.

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Speaker 1: Sorry, more than welcome. This is what I hear a lot,

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Speaker 1: this text. I've gotten this several times. They says most

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Speaker 1: men do not care about actually pleasing a woman. They

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Speaker 1: think it's over when they are done. That is a

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Speaker 1: definition of bad in bed. And if he does that,

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Speaker 1: he is categorically bad in bed because he thinks that

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Speaker 1: when it's done, he needs to be literally outwardly told,

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Speaker 1: because he thinks that it's all about when he's done.

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Speaker 1: And I think a lot of younger men, especially, I

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Speaker 1: think I was the same way. It was like, okay,

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Speaker 1: you know what, I've enjoyed myself. Kathleen so