WEBVTT - EITM: MarriAGEable 8/3/26 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:04.040 Are you married by any chance? No? No, no, are 0:00:04.080 --> 0:00:07.360 you close to it? Like, are you engaged? No? No, 0:00:07.400 --> 0:00:10.040 actually not with anybody? Elliotts leave me alone bringing that 0:00:10.119 --> 0:00:17.160 up the wait how old? How old did you say 0:00:17.200 --> 0:00:17.480 you are? 0:00:18.840 --> 0:00:19.360 Thirty four? 0:00:19.560 --> 0:00:23.560 Oh? Yeah, you're missing the window there, okay, yeah, I know. No, 0:00:23.640 --> 0:00:25.599 don't think about it. It's okay, it's all right. I 0:00:25.640 --> 0:00:28.000 wouldn't even worry about it. What is the do you 0:00:28.000 --> 0:00:31.800 know what the average age is right now for a 0:00:31.840 --> 0:00:32.920 woman to get married? 0:00:33.600 --> 0:00:39.680 What's the average age? Twenty three? 0:00:40.080 --> 0:00:43.120 No, it's older, as they say older. Oh yeah, no, 0:00:43.120 --> 0:00:45.960 no it's much older. Yeah no, don't feel that bad. 0:00:46.200 --> 0:00:48.240 Yeah no, no, much older, much older. 0:00:48.240 --> 0:00:51.320 I would say twenty nine, oh most yeah. 0:00:51.400 --> 0:00:53.920 Twenty eight point four to twenty eight point seven. 0:00:54.520 --> 0:00:56.959 Yeah, I feel like people time to wait a little later, 0:00:57.040 --> 0:01:03.200 right and for men, oh thirty yeah. 0:01:02.960 --> 0:01:06.440 Thirty point six to thirty point eight. That sounds right. 0:01:06.760 --> 0:01:10.560 That sounds right that it keeps getting later, right, Oh, 0:01:10.560 --> 0:01:12.000 it definitely keeps getting older. 0:01:12.200 --> 0:01:12.520 Okay. 0:01:12.600 --> 0:01:17.640 For example, for example, fifty years ago. Fifty years ago, yeah. 0:01:17.480 --> 0:01:20.400 People were getting married when they were like twenty years old, nineteen? 0:01:20.520 --> 0:01:21.919 How right out of high school? 0:01:21.959 --> 0:01:25.480 How old were people? What was the median age for 0:01:25.560 --> 0:01:27.920 a man fifty years ago. 0:01:29.319 --> 0:01:30.679 I bet it was like twenty two. 0:01:31.959 --> 0:01:34.440 You're nailing this. I am twenty two point five. 0:01:34.880 --> 0:01:38.080 And for a woman, I bet I'm saying that like nineteen, 0:01:38.160 --> 0:01:39.280 like right out of high school. 0:01:39.319 --> 0:01:43.560 Twenty yeah, twenty point one. Wow, in that young, Like 0:01:43.680 --> 0:01:45.119 that's crazy young. 0:01:45.520 --> 0:01:48.080 We all know that right from family members that that 0:01:48.280 --> 0:01:51.160 was the case. But when you hear it, it's just wild. 0:01:51.400 --> 0:01:56.000 No, like that's that's crazy. That's crazy. 0:01:56.080 --> 0:01:59.520 Like there are like my older one is what twenty one? 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:01.600 The was he twenty two? 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:01.840 Yet? 0:02:01.880 --> 0:02:03.600 I don't know what he is anyway, the. 0:02:04.520 --> 0:02:06.040 He graduated from college. 0:02:06.120 --> 0:02:07.360 Yeah, I think he's twenty two. 0:02:07.360 --> 0:02:08.640 Twenty two, okay, whatever. 0:02:09.000 --> 0:02:12.919 But the he's got friends that are already married, and 0:02:13.040 --> 0:02:15.400 that that blows up, like are they. 0:02:15.320 --> 0:02:19.280 A lot older? No, his age twenty two and they're 0:02:19.320 --> 0:02:20.040 already married. 0:02:20.200 --> 0:02:22.119 Yes, yes, wow. 0:02:22.320 --> 0:02:24.280 Yeah one of them. One of them has a kid. 0:02:24.320 --> 0:02:26.040 I don't know if that's why they got married, but 0:02:26.200 --> 0:02:28.160 the I don't think it is. I think they got 0:02:28.160 --> 0:02:30.720 married and then had a kid. I think they got 0:02:30.720 --> 0:02:33.680 married pretty quick out of high school. But yeah, you 0:02:33.720 --> 0:02:36.880 hear that, it's like, oh my god, Like that's early. 0:02:37.639 --> 0:02:38.480 That's real early. 0:02:38.720 --> 0:02:41.040 Was that a strange wedding? 0:02:41.280 --> 0:02:45.639 Was it dry? I don't think so. Yeah, I think 0:02:45.639 --> 0:02:47.880 ever I I didn't go my dad's of age. 0:02:49.000 --> 0:02:49.520 That's cool. 0:02:52.080 --> 0:02:55.200 But is it as it gets older? As it gets older? 0:02:55.840 --> 0:02:59.800 Is is the is the amount of time that some 0:03:00.000 --> 0:03:02.800 budy what's the word? 0:03:03.000 --> 0:03:03.080 Like? 0:03:03.400 --> 0:03:06.760 Is is the dating period longer? And then the engagement 0:03:06.840 --> 0:03:07.760 period longer? 0:03:08.160 --> 0:03:08.240 Like? 0:03:08.320 --> 0:03:13.200 Did everything stack? Or is it you didn't start? Did 0:03:13.240 --> 0:03:14.840 the dating windows stayed the same? 0:03:14.960 --> 0:03:15.760 And the like? 0:03:15.760 --> 0:03:17.520 How long are people engaged for? I have no idea 0:03:17.520 --> 0:03:18.799 how long people are engaged years? 0:03:19.480 --> 0:03:22.280 Yeah, I woul guess that is actually smaller because you're 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:25.600 older and more mature and maybe know what you want, 0:03:25.720 --> 0:03:27.600 so you don't have to date or be engaged too 0:03:27.639 --> 0:03:28.799 long before you get married. 0:03:29.000 --> 0:03:32.160 So that so those windows have remained at least in 0:03:32.240 --> 0:03:33.280 the same ballpark. 0:03:33.800 --> 0:03:37.120 No, I'm guessing they've Oh they they shrunk. What is 0:03:37.200 --> 0:03:39.200 I don't even know. I don't remember how long I 0:03:39.240 --> 0:03:39.840 was engaged for. 0:03:41.520 --> 0:03:43.560 We dated for a year and we're engaged for a year. 0:03:44.240 --> 0:03:47.280 That's it. That's kind of normal. 0:03:47.360 --> 0:03:50.000 I feel like you dated for a year, yeah, and 0:03:50.040 --> 0:03:51.440 then we were engaged for a year. 0:03:52.440 --> 0:03:52.720 Wow. 0:03:52.800 --> 0:03:55.240 Jackie's parents were pissed because we dated so long and 0:03:55.280 --> 0:03:58.280 I wasn't asking, and they were like, no, because. 0:03:58.280 --> 0:04:00.720 The in the grand scheme of things eting somebody, a 0:04:00.840 --> 0:04:02.400 year is not that long of a time. 0:04:02.560 --> 0:04:05.560 No, that's really short. That's really short. 0:04:06.000 --> 0:04:07.240 But Dan wasn't twenty two. 0:04:07.440 --> 0:04:09.400 Yeah no, but still a year. 0:04:09.960 --> 0:04:12.960 That's a short amount of time before you get engaged, 0:04:13.760 --> 0:04:18.000 like engagement, I get like engagement lasting like a year, 0:04:18.120 --> 0:04:18.640 year and a half. 0:04:18.720 --> 0:04:20.719 Although doesn't it take forever to find a place? 0:04:21.400 --> 0:04:23.440 I mean, that's the thing. That's the only reason that 0:04:23.480 --> 0:04:26.800 may still be eight, ten, twelve months because you have 0:04:26.839 --> 0:04:27.640 to book so far in it. 0:04:27.680 --> 0:04:28.960 Yeah, and there's so much work to do. 0:04:29.520 --> 0:04:32.800 But you also don't have to have a big fairytale wedding. 0:04:32.880 --> 0:04:37.600 Now no, well nobody does. Nobody does People still do that? Yeah, no, no, 0:04:37.640 --> 0:04:39.760 but you don't have to. No, nobody's got a gun 0:04:39.800 --> 0:04:40.960 to your head that says you got. 0:04:40.839 --> 0:04:43.440 To have like a big, massive wedding or a small 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:44.200 massive wedding. 0:04:44.240 --> 0:04:47.440 So maybe the engagement time, just because of the nature 0:04:47.520 --> 0:04:52.160 of the game and the beast of scheduling, has stayed consistent, 0:04:52.240 --> 0:04:55.120 has grown, well, they're not grown, but has stayed consistent. 0:04:55.279 --> 0:04:57.200 But that dating time, if we're not getting married till 0:04:57.200 --> 0:04:58.800 we're in the thirties. You don't need to date for 0:04:58.839 --> 0:05:01.839 five years. Yeah, Lindsay and I dated for five years, 0:05:02.080 --> 0:05:03.600 but we also started dating at twenty two. 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:10.920 And then how long were you engaged? A year? Oh? 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:12.560 I got married at twenty eight. 0:05:12.760 --> 0:05:14.719 Christ Will you can I find somebody engaged? 0:05:15.080 --> 0:05:15.320 Yes? 0:05:15.400 --> 0:05:17.240 Yeah, well I don't know. I don't know. 0:05:17.880 --> 0:05:19.520 I got two weddings coming up that I have to 0:05:19.520 --> 0:05:21.640 go to. Kristen, Will you do me a f I 0:05:21.680 --> 0:05:24.040 don't even know when they are. One is in December? 0:05:24.279 --> 0:05:26.320 When is the next one? Next year? 0:05:26.960 --> 0:05:29.640 April? Yeah, one is in the When did they just 0:05:29.680 --> 0:05:32.080 get engaged? This is my nephew. 0:05:32.520 --> 0:05:36.160 He got engaged. I don't know a month ago. What 0:05:36.240 --> 0:05:38.440 month am I in? Oh, so he's not even a year. 0:05:39.680 --> 0:05:41.560 Well you figure that out and you will get in 0:05:41.600 --> 0:05:43.240 trouble for it. But I should say I got married 0:05:43.240 --> 0:05:46.440 at twenty seven. I was doing the math in my 0:05:46.480 --> 0:05:49.960 head and like they say, that doesn't that doesn't add up. 0:05:51.279 --> 0:05:53.880 But no one's going to after the show text you 0:05:53.920 --> 0:05:55.960 and say, hey, wait to remember when we got. 0:05:55.800 --> 0:05:58.680 Married the Yeah, how was I thirty? I think I 0:05:58.720 --> 0:06:00.520 was thirty when I got married. I was right in 0:06:00.560 --> 0:06:02.960 the window. Look at me, go Christian, will you find 0:06:02.960 --> 0:06:04.279 me somebody who's engaged? Please? 0:06:04.920 --> 0:06:07.880 Eight six six to Elliott eight six six two three 0:06:08.000 --> 0:06:09.520 five five four six eight. 0:06:09.720 --> 0:06:10.560 Let me ask you this. 0:06:12.200 --> 0:06:14.840 Knowing, like like there's no way to know, right, there's 0:06:14.839 --> 0:06:17.000 no way to undo it or go back or anything 0:06:17.080 --> 0:06:17.400 like that. 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:19.599 But in hindsight, do you wish you would have got 0:06:19.680 --> 0:06:23.920 married at twenty? No, at twenty while I was still 0:06:23.920 --> 0:06:27.080 in college. That's nineteen fifty six, people were getting married. 0:06:27.080 --> 0:06:30.680 They're twenty years old. Oh yeah, en fifty six. Yeah no, no, 0:06:30.720 --> 0:06:34.640 but they they God know the But you didn't know that. 0:06:34.680 --> 0:06:37.400 You didn't know that back then, Like why was it 0:06:37.480 --> 0:06:39.159 so different then than it is now? 0:06:39.480 --> 0:06:40.440 Like why why? 0:06:40.760 --> 0:06:43.440 Like I mean, why is it so shocking if somebody 0:06:43.440 --> 0:06:47.400 gets married and they're twenty one now versus fifty years ago? 0:06:47.560 --> 0:06:49.160 Everybody got married at that age. 0:06:49.920 --> 0:06:51.520 Yeah, it's shocking now because no one does it. 0:06:51.720 --> 0:06:53.880 Yeah no, But why did it change? 0:06:54.160 --> 0:06:56.520 Like why did everybody like was it not working and 0:06:56.560 --> 0:06:58.480 everybody was like that it was way too young to 0:06:58.520 --> 0:06:59.120 get married? 0:06:59.520 --> 0:07:02.679 Or is it more expensive? In school? 0:07:02.880 --> 0:07:07.320 And opportunities opened up and it wasn't like you know, 0:07:07.440 --> 0:07:11.760 women who went right from living with their parents to 0:07:11.880 --> 0:07:13.600 living with a spouse, you know what I mean, Like 0:07:13.640 --> 0:07:16.520 they were able to just have lives and careers. 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:20.240 Did cohabitation change it? Because everybody lives with somebody before 0:07:20.280 --> 0:07:25.160 they get married. Everybody, everybody shacks up. So you mean acceptance, Well, 0:07:25.280 --> 0:07:28.640 acceptance went way up obviously, Yeah, but everybody does it. 0:07:29.120 --> 0:07:31.800 How about I was thinking and I don't know the 0:07:31.880 --> 0:07:33.840 years on it, so this could be way off. But okay, 0:07:33.880 --> 0:07:35.040 what about birth control? 0:07:35.920 --> 0:07:36.560 What about it? 0:07:36.800 --> 0:07:40.080 Oh, like there's more now like back then it was 0:07:40.120 --> 0:07:45.560 like a rubber apill poot that's all you had back then? 0:07:45.760 --> 0:07:50.600 Oh in lamb skin the Yeah, maybe maybe, but I just. 0:07:50.560 --> 0:07:53.000 Want I wonder if I wonder if it's because now 0:07:53.000 --> 0:07:55.480 you can live together like back I mean, I'm sure 0:07:55.520 --> 0:07:58.120 people live together back then, yes, but it was, but 0:07:58.160 --> 0:08:00.840 it was frowned upon more than it is now. 0:08:01.520 --> 0:08:03.120 It is funny though, you still have those whole out 0:08:03.160 --> 0:08:07.320 grandparents that can't know that you live with your partner. 0:08:07.480 --> 0:08:08.640 Oh yeah, oh of course. 0:08:09.080 --> 0:08:12.720 Well my nephew, her parents were not thrilled because they 0:08:12.760 --> 0:08:13.440 were living together. 0:08:13.720 --> 0:08:14.520 They didn't start. 0:08:14.360 --> 0:08:17.400 Living together until they were getting engaged. Yeah, because her 0:08:17.440 --> 0:08:21.760 parents were like mmmmmm, I mean listen, she's a grown 0:08:21.760 --> 0:08:23.880 ass woman. She can do whatever she wants. But then 0:08:23.880 --> 0:08:26.560 you got to upset the parents and they're flipping the bill. 0:08:26.680 --> 0:08:28.000 So you do what you gotta do. 0:08:31.040 --> 0:08:34.720 And what did you say? What is the average? Do 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:37.960 you have the time for how long someone dates before 0:08:37.960 --> 0:08:38.680 getting engaged? 0:08:41.320 --> 0:08:44.000 Yes? Average engagement time? No? No? 0:08:44.000 --> 0:08:44.080 No? 0:08:44.120 --> 0:08:46.199 The actual like coverting dating? 0:08:46.400 --> 0:08:49.240 Dating, that's a window. That's a window. 0:08:50.360 --> 0:08:53.520 Fifty people dated two to five years. 0:08:53.640 --> 0:08:55.640 That's too broad a window a long time. 0:08:55.760 --> 0:09:00.640 That's too broad a window. By the way, twenty percent 0:09:00.640 --> 0:09:02.319 of people six years. 0:09:03.800 --> 0:09:04.320 That's high. 0:09:04.360 --> 0:09:05.320 This is really surprising. 0:09:05.440 --> 0:09:05.960 That's high. 0:09:06.040 --> 0:09:09.760 Still, that's a big number. Twenty percent, that's two and ten, 0:09:09.880 --> 0:09:10.559 one and five. 0:09:12.520 --> 0:09:14.080 That goes against what my theory was. 0:09:14.600 --> 0:09:15.600 What about birth control? 0:09:16.240 --> 0:09:19.280 No that I thought that the dating period was, oh 0:09:19.320 --> 0:09:20.880 it would be tightening. 0:09:20.559 --> 0:09:24.240 Yeah, okay, yeah, but twenty percent going six years, that's lengthy. 0:09:25.600 --> 0:09:29.920 What's God? I am sneezing in and my note now 0:09:30.520 --> 0:09:33.520 I am running. I got I'm I don't know what's 0:09:33.520 --> 0:09:34.960 going on your marriage? 0:09:36.559 --> 0:09:42.520 Hi? That softball? Anyone could hit that out of the park. Hi, 0:09:42.600 --> 0:09:47.360 Ellie in the morning. Yeah, Hi, who's this? 0:09:48.720 --> 0:09:50.520 Hey? What's a Maryland? 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:51.840 Hey? What's going on dude. 0:09:53.000 --> 0:09:55.720 Hey, I'm getting married in May and I'm twenty three? 0:09:56.200 --> 0:09:56.920 Are you really? 0:09:58.400 --> 0:09:58.600 Yeah? 0:09:58.679 --> 0:09:58.839 Man? 0:09:59.280 --> 0:10:00.000 Hey? Are you? 0:10:02.080 --> 0:10:05.760 Can we start congratulations? That's good for you? Good for you? 0:10:06.200 --> 0:10:06.320 Hey? 0:10:07.240 --> 0:10:09.880 How are you the youngest of your of your friend 0:10:09.880 --> 0:10:11.000 group that's getting married. 0:10:12.800 --> 0:10:16.080 I'm actually me and my fiance probably are only friends honestly, 0:10:16.160 --> 0:10:18.480 other than like, she has one friend and I have 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:20.880 one friend from high school. But all we both do 0:10:21.040 --> 0:10:22.240 is work and hang out. Man. 0:10:22.920 --> 0:10:25.319 Right, so you're of all of your of your friend 0:10:25.320 --> 0:10:27.080 group and your wife's friend group. It's just you and 0:10:27.120 --> 0:10:29.440 somebody else that's getting married. How long did you When 0:10:29.440 --> 0:10:30.480 did you guys start dating? 0:10:32.440 --> 0:10:32.560 Uh? 0:10:32.760 --> 0:10:33.880 Sixteen high school? 0:10:34.280 --> 0:10:36.959 Wow, you've been dating a long time. Good for you, 0:10:37.040 --> 0:10:39.240 Good for you. How long were you? How long were 0:10:39.280 --> 0:10:39.880 you engaged? 0:10:41.640 --> 0:10:46.800 We're getting married in May. I proposed to her Memorial Day. 0:10:47.720 --> 0:10:50.080 Just that just passed. Whatever the holiday is, you know, 0:10:50.160 --> 0:10:53.800 in September Labor day? Labor day? 0:10:53.880 --> 0:10:54.000 Right? 0:10:54.080 --> 0:10:56.360 Yeah? Right? Oh, so almost a year? 0:10:56.640 --> 0:10:59.440 You know what? Good for you? Good for you, that's awesome, 0:10:59.559 --> 0:11:02.080 that's all. Did your parents get married young? 0:11:02.200 --> 0:11:03.800 Like? We're both your parents school with it? 0:11:05.640 --> 0:11:05.800 Oh? 0:11:05.800 --> 0:11:08.360 Of course they're very excited. They love my fiance and 0:11:08.880 --> 0:11:10.760 I mean, they had me when they were My mom 0:11:10.880 --> 0:11:13.600 was twenty and they married a little after. So they're 0:11:13.640 --> 0:11:15.559 just happy we're doing it, you know, the traditional. 0:11:16.080 --> 0:11:18.480 Right, Hey, can I ask? Can I ask a personal question? 0:11:18.559 --> 0:11:19.760 But maybe she's not listening. 0:11:21.120 --> 0:11:21.839 All right, what's up? 0:11:22.400 --> 0:11:25.440 Was your mom pregnant before you said at twenty? 0:11:25.520 --> 0:11:25.640 Was you? 0:11:26.080 --> 0:11:27.680 Was your mom pregnant before she got married? 0:11:29.200 --> 0:11:30.520 I'm in the photos? 0:11:30.920 --> 0:11:32.320 Yeah, okay, so perfect. 0:11:35.800 --> 0:11:39.760 Hey, congratulations, dude, congratulations, Good for you, Good for you. 0:11:39.960 --> 0:11:42.000 But that goes against that goes against the. 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:46.000 Norm from instagram. Dated for eight years, eight years in 0:11:46.080 --> 0:11:49.440 high school, right, got engaged last August, getting married April 0:11:49.480 --> 0:11:51.520 twenty twenty seven, So that's about a year and a 0:11:51.520 --> 0:11:54.480 half engagement. And she's excited. I can see in her 0:11:54.800 --> 0:11:56.280 little little of. 0:11:56.320 --> 0:12:00.119 Like exclamation, exclamation, exclamation egg playing. 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:04.560 File picture with her fiance. She's shown off that ring. 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:06.840 Yeah that a girl. By the way, do you know 0:12:06.880 --> 0:12:09.480 who you know who got engaged? Yeah? 0:12:09.760 --> 0:12:13.000 Remember so remember early on in the pit it was 0:12:13.880 --> 0:12:17.480 Casey Hayley and Jamie and Jamie. 0:12:17.240 --> 0:12:18.920 Left, right, she got engaged. 0:12:19.200 --> 0:12:20.720 Good for them. Yeah, that's great. 0:12:20.760 --> 0:12:22.160 That took forever the. 0:12:22.240 --> 0:12:26.360 Uh now you sound like her mother, but yeah, good 0:12:26.400 --> 0:12:26.880 for her. 0:12:26.840 --> 0:12:29.760 She got engaged by the way, would will we get 0:12:29.800 --> 0:12:30.520 invited to that? 0:12:31.120 --> 0:12:31.400 No? 0:12:31.679 --> 0:12:34.720 Why you don't think we'll get invited? Kristen? Are we 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:35.440 getting invited? 0:12:36.160 --> 0:12:38.040 Kristen? Kristen? 0:12:38.080 --> 0:12:40.640 What about me? Why I was in that text chain? 0:12:40.840 --> 0:12:43.520 Oh god? 0:12:45.240 --> 0:12:48.679 Laura writes, I'm Tyler's age. I got married at eighteen eighteen, 0:12:49.120 --> 0:12:49.960 she's forty four? 0:12:50.720 --> 0:12:53.040 Was her kid in the picture? Still there? 0:12:53.200 --> 0:12:53.920 Still happily? 0:12:54.000 --> 0:12:54.160 Man? 0:12:54.520 --> 0:12:56.839 How long? How long did were they engage or did 0:12:56.840 --> 0:12:57.400 they not even? 0:12:57.440 --> 0:13:01.680 Really? Like this sounds horrible, say, but like in eighteen, 0:13:01.920 --> 0:13:03.880 like you're not written out of venue. You're like in 0:13:03.920 --> 0:13:06.120 your like like you're like your parents' living room. 0:13:06.920 --> 0:13:08.800 Oh for a ceremony, not. 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:11.440 For a ceremony. Well yeah, I guess. But you're not 0:13:11.520 --> 0:13:16.880 like renting out a venue. Yeah, which is fine, that's fine. 0:13:17.000 --> 0:13:18.480 What about there's a lot of people who said that 0:13:18.559 --> 0:13:19.959 they they cohabit. 0:13:21.320 --> 0:13:25.480 As high school students. Uh, that happens, yeah, when the 0:13:25.559 --> 0:13:26.600 person's homeless. 0:13:26.800 --> 0:13:31.400 Yeah, not homeless. It's very very lax parenting. 0:13:32.559 --> 0:13:34.240 A couple of people have said that they had a 0:13:34.320 --> 0:13:38.120 rule like a year or an age that nothing was 0:13:38.160 --> 0:13:39.360 happening before that. 0:13:40.160 --> 0:13:42.679 Oh, really, I feel it's hard to do that. 0:13:42.880 --> 0:13:46.280 And like commit to that, especially if true love is 0:13:46.440 --> 0:13:47.400 right there in front of you. 0:13:47.640 --> 0:13:50.640 But you're not twenty five yet. 0:13:49.920 --> 0:13:52.160 So they would they put it like an actual age 0:13:52.160 --> 0:13:53.640 of like you can't do that. 0:13:55.240 --> 0:13:56.960 Yeah, And it wasn't like their parents saying it. It 0:13:57.040 --> 0:13:57.440 was them. 0:13:59.559 --> 0:14:01.520 One of them was twenty five years old. I think 0:14:01.559 --> 0:14:01.800 it was. 0:14:02.880 --> 0:14:05.720 What did it say, no marriage, no kids before twenty five? 0:14:06.280 --> 0:14:09.400 I have heard like parents say no kid before a diploma. 0:14:10.760 --> 0:14:11.640 That's a good rule. 0:14:12.280 --> 0:14:15.120 No, but I mean that it is actually it is. 0:14:15.280 --> 0:14:17.240 Raising a kid is hard. You don't want to do 0:14:17.280 --> 0:14:19.360 that while you're still trying to write an English paper. 0:14:20.000 --> 0:14:22.200 So like, I definitely have heard parents say that no 0:14:22.320 --> 0:14:23.640 kids before you get a diploma? 0:14:24.520 --> 0:14:28.520 Where am I going? Line four? Hi, elliot in the morning? 0:14:29.840 --> 0:14:30.480 Hey is this me? 0:14:30.640 --> 0:14:30.840 Yeah? 0:14:30.880 --> 0:14:31.040 Hi? 0:14:31.080 --> 0:14:32.680 Who's this? 0:14:32.680 --> 0:14:33.680 This is Joseph. 0:14:33.800 --> 0:14:34.280 How are you doing? 0:14:34.360 --> 0:14:37.280 I'm doing great, sir? Thank you? Are you? Are you married? 0:14:38.560 --> 0:14:40.080 I'm engaged with my fiance? 0:14:40.400 --> 0:14:40.600 Oh? 0:14:40.680 --> 0:14:42.600 Good for you? And how old are you? 0:14:43.840 --> 0:14:44.680 I'm twenty four? 0:14:44.840 --> 0:14:45.520 Oh boy? 0:14:45.720 --> 0:14:48.600 How old is how old is she? 0:14:48.600 --> 0:14:49.400 She's twenty two? 0:14:50.040 --> 0:14:52.840 Yeah? Hey, what is the How long did did you 0:14:52.920 --> 0:14:53.520 guys date? 0:14:55.080 --> 0:14:57.600 We've been together for well five and a half years. 0:14:57.600 --> 0:14:59.680 But I propose to hear like a half a year 0:14:59.720 --> 0:15:00.720 ago in December. 0:15:01.160 --> 0:15:02.120 So you got engaged. 0:15:02.160 --> 0:15:04.480 So in order to get married that young, you have 0:15:04.520 --> 0:15:07.040 to have known each other from high school, right, Like, 0:15:07.080 --> 0:15:08.880 there's no dang, no doubt around. 0:15:09.120 --> 0:15:11.480 Yeah you did not? I did? 0:15:11.520 --> 0:15:11.840 I did? 0:15:12.040 --> 0:15:14.200 Oh Okay, I was gonna say your math is off 0:15:14.600 --> 0:15:17.440 the and now in both both sets of parents are 0:15:17.480 --> 0:15:19.320 cool with the with the young age. 0:15:20.520 --> 0:15:22.960 Yes, sir, yes, sir, you know what good They were 0:15:23.000 --> 0:15:26.160 really encouraging it. They I was kind of wanting to 0:15:26.200 --> 0:15:29.600 be engaged a long time ago, but she wanted to 0:15:29.640 --> 0:15:31.680 wait for a while. And now she kind of wanted 0:15:31.680 --> 0:15:33.920 to wait to have the wedding until she gets her bachelors. 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:35.480 So we're kind of just waiting for that. 0:15:35.560 --> 0:15:37.880 Did you guys follow that rule, no babies till you 0:15:37.880 --> 0:15:39.200 get a diploma? 0:15:39.680 --> 0:15:41.000 Oh yeah, that's for sure. 0:15:41.280 --> 0:15:43.720 Good for you. Wait, so when's when is the wedding? 0:15:45.080 --> 0:15:45.240 Uh? 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:49.200 We're planning on having an uh fall of twenty twenty 0:15:49.240 --> 0:15:52.400 eight because I just purchased the house actually this weekend. 0:15:52.680 --> 0:15:54.400 You're twenty four. You purchased a house. 0:15:54.600 --> 0:15:59.240 God, yes, sir, I just just moved in on Sunday. 0:16:00.040 --> 0:16:01.280 You're a good kids, good for you. 0:16:01.080 --> 0:16:03.400 You're a good kid, better my kids. 0:16:04.480 --> 0:16:05.960 I appreciate you. I appreciate you. 0:16:06.280 --> 0:16:07.360 Dude. That's awesome. 0:16:07.560 --> 0:16:09.440 Hey can I well, no, because I know what the 0:16:09.480 --> 0:16:11.520 answer is and why even put it out there? 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:14.360 All right, very good, very good, Thank you, sir, thank you. 0:16:14.440 --> 0:16:15.120 What was the question? 0:16:15.240 --> 0:16:16.360 Yeah, you know what my fear. 0:16:16.160 --> 0:16:18.320 Would be, and not for him like these people know. 0:16:19.560 --> 0:16:22.840 My fear would be if I got engaged at twenty 0:16:22.880 --> 0:16:27.400 three and the wedding wasn't for two years. In my head, 0:16:27.400 --> 0:16:28.960 I'd be like, I don't know if we're going to 0:16:29.000 --> 0:16:31.320 make it to the wedding, Like is. 0:16:31.240 --> 0:16:32.000 There is there? 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:36.960 And that's unfair. I realize that's unfair. But when you're older, 0:16:37.080 --> 0:16:39.840 this is how my stupid mind works. You're twenty eight, 0:16:39.920 --> 0:16:43.880 you're thirty, you're thirty one. Two years or by the way, 0:16:43.920 --> 0:16:52.000 the average engagement is hold on sixteen months, No, fifteen months. 0:16:52.000 --> 0:16:54.200 Oh it's longer than a yeah, so a hair over 0:16:54.240 --> 0:16:57.400 a year. But let's say it's fifteen months. We'll go 0:16:57.400 --> 0:17:01.400 with the average. When you're thirty, fifteen months is not forever. 0:17:02.440 --> 0:17:08.040 When you're twenty one, fifteen months is forever, right, So 0:17:08.200 --> 0:17:10.520 that would like and God bless him, that's why. 0:17:10.520 --> 0:17:11.840 I didn't want to say it to him. I didn't 0:17:11.840 --> 0:17:13.760 want him to hear a negative tone. 0:17:13.880 --> 0:17:16.520 But if I got engaged at twenty two and I 0:17:16.600 --> 0:17:19.560 knew I wasn't getting married for two years, I would 0:17:19.560 --> 0:17:20.080 be scared. 0:17:20.119 --> 0:17:22.240 Two years is forever in my head. 0:17:22.280 --> 0:17:23.920 I'd be like, I don't even know if we make it, 0:17:24.119 --> 0:17:25.879