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Speaker 1: By Bill Cunningham, the Great America and one of the

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Speaker 1: persons in big time media. I've had the pleasure of

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Speaker 1: meeting is Leland Vitters spent years and years with a

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Speaker 1: Fox News in the Middle East and then came back

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Speaker 1: News Nation has been an anchor there for several years

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Speaker 1: and the evening Monday through Friday.

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Speaker 2: And I did not know.

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Speaker 1: I had the good fortune of meeting Leland Vivertert and

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Speaker 1: his family in Naples about a year or two ago,

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Speaker 1: and his new bride and now they're married, and I thought,

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Speaker 1: what a wonderful family. Had no idea that Leland Verdert

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Speaker 1: was diagnosed with autism at a rather young age, but

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Speaker 1: to not discover it himself to it was eighteen or

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Speaker 1: nineteen years old. He just turned forty three years old,

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Speaker 1: a relatively young man. And the book is out, which

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Speaker 1: is fabulous, is called Born Lucky, which I read last week,

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Speaker 1: is two times sell out on Amazon. It's in his

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Speaker 1: third printing. And if you have a friend, a family member,

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Speaker 1: a grandson, a daughter, or anyone in conducted in your

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Speaker 1: life that has a disability, this is the book that

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Speaker 1: you must read. It's called Born Lucky, and Leland's nickname

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Speaker 1: is Lucky and just looking at the cover of the

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Speaker 1: book with his dad and Leland when he was about

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Speaker 1: I guess about a year old. It's just a wonderful

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Speaker 1: picture of love between a father and a son. And

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Speaker 1: Leland Veder, welcome again to the Bill Cunningham Show. And normally, Leland,

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Speaker 1: we deal with politics, what's happening with the doings in

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Speaker 1: Washington politically, who's up, who's down. But I want to

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Speaker 1: spend most of this time with you on the book

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Speaker 1: Born Lucky, and I want to jump ahead, which is

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Speaker 1: not the normal thing for me. On page one sixty six,

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Speaker 1: I made a note and uh, it says on it

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Speaker 1: this is when you're in the Middle East in Jerusalem quote.

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Speaker 2: Then came the real shock.

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Speaker 1: A month and a half into my time in Israel,

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Speaker 1: my dad had a heart attack. Because it was jam Kipoor.

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Speaker 1: The country had effectively been shut down. I couldn't get

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Speaker 1: a flight home. I was stuck, helpless, relying on second

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Speaker 1: hand updates from mom. I finally saw my dad briefly

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Speaker 1: in November and Florida, and when I took my first home.

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Speaker 1: Lead was there at that point jumping ahead A complete

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Speaker 1: sense on your part of failing in a sense to

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Speaker 1: be the son that you should have been your father

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Speaker 1: because of your job.

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Speaker 3: Wow, we went deep quick, Bill. So yeah.

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Speaker 4: I think when I was there in Israel, realizing that

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Speaker 4: I couldn't be there for him the way he had

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Speaker 4: been there for me for fifteen years every day when

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Speaker 4: I got home from school, putting me back together, it

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Speaker 4: was really difficult to sit there in Jerusalem and not

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Speaker 4: know and not be able to get home. So absolutely,

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Speaker 4: and I think what you're picking up on in why

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Speaker 4: I felt that way is the absolute devotion that Dad

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Speaker 4: anybody about my diagnosis. He didn't tell me until I

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Speaker 4: was in my twenties. He didn't tell any therapist, he

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Speaker 4: didn't tell any principally, didn't tell teacher.

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Speaker 3: He went on a one man mission.

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Speaker 4: Supported unbelievably by my mother, to adapt me to the

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Speaker 4: world rather than the world to me. And I think

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Speaker 4: there's so many parents who are told right now, look,

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Speaker 4: you know, we're going to give your kid all these accommodations.

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Speaker 4: It's going to make LIFs great, it's going to make

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Speaker 4: life easier, on and on and on. And what Dad

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Speaker 4: said was that if Lucky doesn't understand how to be

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Speaker 4: So this was his driving force was to adapt me

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Speaker 4: adversity away, hold my hand through that adversity.

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Speaker 1: Did you feel you should have known this when you

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Speaker 1: were fifteen? And the book relays terrible bullying that you

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Speaker 1: went through. You didn't fit in, it was awkward, you

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Speaker 1: were beat upon, it was terrible in school. Your father

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Speaker 1: would at the end of the day, you'd go home

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Speaker 1: and he had to put you back together. Did you

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Speaker 1: feel your dad should have told you early that you

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Speaker 1: had autism?

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Speaker 4: You know, Bill, No, And here's why. This whole idea

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Speaker 4: from my father was that I don't want anyone to

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Speaker 3: I don't want you to use it as an excuse ever.

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Speaker 4: And I think that was a very powerful, powerful feeling

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Speaker 3: So, you know, I am just so grateful to him.

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Speaker 4: And I think this book, I think Born Lucky, and

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Speaker 4: twice on Amazon. I don't want any of your listeners

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Speaker 4: to get in a car accident. But when you get

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Speaker 4: to wherever you're going, go to Amazon and order it

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Speaker 4: now before it sells out again. If you want to

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Speaker 4: read it is because this is hope for every parent

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Speaker 4: of a kid who's having a hard time. It doesn't

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Speaker 4: matter if it's autism or ADHD or anxiety or difficulties

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Speaker 4: with bullying, whoever it is. This is proof of what

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Speaker 4: parents can do for their kid to really help them grow, develop,

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Speaker 4: challenges that the experts don't ever tell parents.

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Speaker 3: This is what you can.

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Speaker 1: You say, there were little signs that I was different.

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Speaker 1: I felt I was different. I didn't speak until I

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Speaker 1: a teacher said to your mom and dad, quote, you

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Speaker 1: need to have Lucky evaluated. Did your parents have an inkling?

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Speaker 1: But we're talking about the mid to late nineteen eighties.

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Speaker 1: Autism then isn't as aware as autism today in twenty

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Speaker 1: twenty five. How did that information hit your mom and dad?

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Speaker 1: You were probably too young to realize that you have

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Speaker 2: How did your mom and dad real.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I was five years old.

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Speaker 4: They took me to one of those little medical office

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Speaker 4: And they're sitting there, you know, a little waiting room

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Speaker 3: So major behavioral issues.

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Speaker 4: You know, if a kid would touch me in the lunchline,

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Speaker 4: classic signs of what we now know to be autism

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Speaker 3: And then there were big learning disabilities.

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Speaker 4: They'd never seen anything like it. And if you could

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Speaker 4: near freezing. So this is when the woman says to

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Speaker 3: And my dad goes, is there.

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Speaker 4: Anything we can do anything? And she said no, generally not.

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Speaker 4: So this is the story of what mom and dad

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Speaker 3: And you know, Bill, you made a great point. You

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Speaker 3: and I had lunch together down in Naples.

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Speaker 4: My dad was there, and you said, you know, you

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Speaker 4: wish you'd known. He didn't tell anybody, and he's been

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Speaker 4: very reluctant to tell this story. When we wrote More

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Speaker 4: and Lucky, I was interviewing him, and every story we got.

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Speaker 3: To he would say, do we really want to tell

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Speaker 4: And I'd say, try to talk him through it and

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Speaker 3: And finally I made a deal with it. I said, book,

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Speaker 3: I said, we can't do this.

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Speaker 4: You're going to be completely candid and open with me.

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Speaker 4: I'm going to write the manuscript and if you don't

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Speaker 3: In, Okay, And I don't really I didn't really have.

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Speaker 4: I don't know, this is.

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Speaker 3: Really way too personal. You know, these are these are

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Speaker 3: the worst parts of your life.

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Speaker 4: Now you never well anybody, you can go to therapy.

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Speaker 4: Now you're going to go to therapy on national television. Right, Yeah,

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Speaker 4: let me ask it this way.

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Speaker 4: If if if in that waiting room when I was diagnosed,

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Speaker 4: you this book. What would you have done? He said, Well,

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Speaker 4: I would have read it every week.

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Speaker 4: I can't tell you how much I would have paid

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Speaker 1: Did your mom and dad feel as if they failed

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Speaker 1: they feel like, what did we do wrong?

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Speaker 4: It's a great question. I don't think they ever felt

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Speaker 4: that way. I think certainly now with the debate around autism,

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Speaker 4: a hard time. And you know, I think it's so

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Speaker 4: wonderful now that we are beginning to have an honest

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Speaker 4: conversation about the cause of autism and why. As you

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Speaker 4: pointed out, when I was diagnosed with what we now

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Speaker 4: in thirty one, three times that for boys higher in

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Speaker 1: George Weyll and A four which says Leland's story is

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Speaker 1: one of adventure, exploration and discovery first and foremost, from

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Speaker 1: beginning to enads about the mountain moving power of parental love.

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Speaker 1: I can only think of the millions and millions of

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Speaker 1: kids that are now in their mid forties as you are,

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Speaker 1: and going through the bullying in school they're going through

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Speaker 1: right now, that go through a living hell because they

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Speaker 1: did not have your parents. They had normal parents that said,

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Speaker 1: you know what, we're going to get him some help

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Speaker 1: and the ups and downs of life. And I can't

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Speaker 1: imagine having Lucky. That is you Leland Vitter, coming home

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Speaker 1: from school beaten, bloodied in a sense psychologically, sometimes physically,

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Speaker 1: send you back to school. At some point when when

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Speaker 1: ability to say, no, I'm not going back to school.

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Speaker 2: I can't take it anymore.

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Speaker 1: You can you relate to an autistic kid right now

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Speaker 1: who's thirteen, fourteen, fifteen. It doesn't want to confrom live,

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Speaker 1: It doesn't want to confront life.

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Speaker 3: I did.

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Speaker 4: I didn't a lot of times, and my dad would

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Speaker 4: sit there, you know, Bill, one of the stories in

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Speaker 4: Didn't like me very much, and he's send in form

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Speaker 3: Backwards from the entire class. Oo.

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Speaker 3: Now, what he didn't say to me is that middle

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Speaker 5: Great training for a Washington newsroom. But it is, Uh,

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Speaker 5: let's go back to this. So a teacher said to you,

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Speaker 5: leyland vitterat you're so ugly if I had a dog,

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Speaker 3: That had to be He didn't say, bud, but yes.

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Speaker 1: Yes, devastating, devastating, And your father said, did their father

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Speaker 4: The school did and he ended up apologizing didn't didn't

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Speaker 4: And then the woman followed up and frankly, I do too.

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Speaker 4: so well, if you want to call it that, there's

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Speaker 2: Well, what do you owe your mom and dad?

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Speaker 4: Well, I think the answer is a lot, obviously. And

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Speaker 3: Now is to say thank you, because you know, my

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Speaker 4: He's seventy nine, I think seventy eight, and it was

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Speaker 4: You know, Dad wrote the afterward, which I think is

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Speaker 3: But him. My dad threw all this. You know, this

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Speaker 4: You read this, Bill, I would in fifth grade walk

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Speaker 1: Leyland Vetter, how do you process the meanderings of the

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Speaker 1: have more interest? Do you think it is? Tyler and all?

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Speaker 4: Okay, guess what, Bill, I don't have a medical degree.

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Speaker 4: And I have said this before, which is you I

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Speaker 3: To say to these people, do you really hate Trump?

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Speaker 2: One out of every thirty one.

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Speaker 1: The purpose of this book is to offer hope, real hope.

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Speaker 1: And I read it last week. I'm gonna save it.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna, with your permission, play this interview in a

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Speaker 1: But the book is out. It's called Born Lucky. The

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Speaker 1: read it and around Leland Vetter. I watch many nights

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Speaker 1: amazing part of you as your mom and dad. But Leland,

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Speaker 1: we got to run once again. We'll do it again.

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Speaker 1: And God bless you and thank you. Give a big

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Speaker 2: They'll be in the arms of God Almighty.

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Speaker 3: They will.

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Speaker 2: Bill, Thank you, God bless you, Leland Vetter, News Nation. Wow,

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Speaker 2: what a story.

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Speaker 1: Get the book Born Lucky, Bill Cunningham seven hundred WW