1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:04,440 Speaker 1: Welcome to another episode of Tell You What. So he sam, 2 00:00:04,920 --> 00:00:06,680 Speaker 1: this thing went bad? It did it? 3 00:00:06,720 --> 00:00:07,040 Speaker 2: Did it? 4 00:00:07,080 --> 00:00:07,440 Speaker 3: Really? Did? 5 00:00:07,600 --> 00:00:09,760 Speaker 1: I take a stance on this and I'll get boot 6 00:00:09,800 --> 00:00:10,480 Speaker 1: off the radio, and. 7 00:00:10,640 --> 00:00:12,280 Speaker 4: I K it's so interesting because it's one of the 8 00:00:12,280 --> 00:00:15,600 Speaker 4: few things where we don't align very well. Actually, there's 9 00:00:15,600 --> 00:00:17,959 Speaker 4: a lot of things we don't align on where we battle. 10 00:00:17,600 --> 00:00:18,800 Speaker 2: With each other. This is one of them. 11 00:00:18,840 --> 00:00:20,759 Speaker 4: We butt heads, yes, we butt heads that we're doing 12 00:00:20,760 --> 00:00:23,759 Speaker 4: it over this because you've got a fifteen year old 13 00:00:24,079 --> 00:00:26,880 Speaker 4: son here that was asked a prom in front of 14 00:00:26,920 --> 00:00:30,480 Speaker 4: his whole school with a big pep rally type promposal. 15 00:00:30,840 --> 00:00:33,839 Speaker 4: So it's pretty cute. But he didn't even really know 16 00:00:33,880 --> 00:00:37,720 Speaker 4: the girl. She's not someone that he's familiar with. It's 17 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 4: just someone kind of in his class. 18 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:42,000 Speaker 1: This is unfair you're presenting this. I'm just saying, Okay, 19 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:45,960 Speaker 1: well it is. She's laying a story out before you'll 20 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:46,680 Speaker 1: go ahead. 21 00:00:46,479 --> 00:00:49,159 Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, I won't. So it's it is. 22 00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:52,040 Speaker 1: Just you're you are talking to a jury right now, 23 00:00:52,040 --> 00:00:55,600 Speaker 1: and you can't do that. Okay, objection, okay, okay, just 24 00:00:55,680 --> 00:00:59,520 Speaker 1: laying out what happened in front of in front of 25 00:00:59,520 --> 00:01:02,320 Speaker 1: the entire class, Yes, in school, yeah, in the gym. 26 00:01:02,520 --> 00:01:05,280 Speaker 4: He didn't know the girl. Well that's the fact. Okay, Okay, 27 00:01:05,480 --> 00:01:08,080 Speaker 4: Now he said yes. 28 00:01:08,880 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, because okay, he was on the spot or whatever. 29 00:01:11,760 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 1: He said he won't he said yes. He said yes, yes, 30 00:01:15,720 --> 00:01:17,920 Speaker 1: whether it's for reaction or whatever, he said yes, yes. 31 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:19,880 Speaker 4: And then he went home and he admitted to his 32 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:22,760 Speaker 4: mom that he didn't even he didn't. 33 00:01:22,480 --> 00:01:24,000 Speaker 2: Mean to say yes. He doesn't actually want to go 34 00:01:24,040 --> 00:01:25,200 Speaker 2: to a problem with this person number. 35 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:26,399 Speaker 1: One, I got a handed to him. He's still talking 36 00:01:26,440 --> 00:01:28,240 Speaker 1: to his mother and he's fifteen. That's pretty awesome. 37 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:30,479 Speaker 2: See he went to his mom for advice, and so. 38 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:32,880 Speaker 1: You still are putting the candy on this, okay, so 39 00:01:32,959 --> 00:01:34,000 Speaker 1: go ahead, okay. 40 00:01:34,160 --> 00:01:38,160 Speaker 4: So he ended up telling her that he did not 41 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:40,800 Speaker 4: actually want to go to prom with her, and now 42 00:01:40,800 --> 00:01:43,200 Speaker 4: it has caused quite a bit of strife. But the 43 00:01:43,360 --> 00:01:46,399 Speaker 4: big question here, basically is what's the right thing to do. 44 00:01:46,480 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 4: You're in this position and you get out out to 45 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:51,000 Speaker 4: prom in front of a big, huge crowd, You're fifteen 46 00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:51,960 Speaker 4: years old, you. 47 00:01:51,920 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 2: Don't really know the girl very well, and what do 48 00:01:54,920 --> 00:01:55,240 Speaker 2: you do? 49 00:01:55,320 --> 00:01:57,760 Speaker 4: I mean, do you have to stick with it and 50 00:01:57,800 --> 00:02:00,200 Speaker 4: go to prom with her? Or is it okay? You 51 00:02:00,520 --> 00:02:03,040 Speaker 4: withdraw your acceptance of that promposal. 52 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:03,600 Speaker 1: Go ahead. 53 00:02:04,360 --> 00:02:07,480 Speaker 4: I think that it is totally within his right to 54 00:02:07,640 --> 00:02:09,520 Speaker 4: take it back. He's fifteen years old, he was on 55 00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:12,160 Speaker 4: the spot. He doesn't know the girl real well, he's 56 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:15,119 Speaker 4: terrified he might. He probably hasn't even kissed a girl yet. 57 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:17,480 Speaker 4: He's just what do you do when you put on 58 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:19,840 Speaker 4: the spot in front of your entire school? And so 59 00:02:19,880 --> 00:02:21,560 Speaker 4: I think he just got nervous, and I think it 60 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:25,680 Speaker 4: is okay. And listen, she didn't really have to put 61 00:02:25,720 --> 00:02:27,560 Speaker 4: him on the spot, but she did. She she knows 62 00:02:27,600 --> 00:02:30,960 Speaker 4: that there could potentially be a way that it goes 63 00:02:31,040 --> 00:02:31,960 Speaker 4: sideways for her. 64 00:02:32,120 --> 00:02:35,480 Speaker 1: He didn't have to say yes, you're right, but he did. 65 00:02:35,560 --> 00:02:39,120 Speaker 1: He said yes, he committed in front of the entire class, 66 00:02:39,240 --> 00:02:41,880 Speaker 1: in front of the entire school. He cannot be counted 67 00:02:41,919 --> 00:02:43,040 Speaker 1: on for anything now. 68 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:45,080 Speaker 4: But how humiliating yes for him? 69 00:02:45,400 --> 00:02:46,320 Speaker 1: Can't counted on. 70 00:02:46,720 --> 00:02:49,440 Speaker 5: Yeah, maybe he wanted to save her the embarrassment of 71 00:02:49,480 --> 00:02:52,400 Speaker 5: all these other fellow students account of her, and so 72 00:02:52,440 --> 00:02:54,280 Speaker 5: he's like yes, and then went and talked with her 73 00:02:54,320 --> 00:02:56,000 Speaker 5: and said, hey, but. 74 00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:58,520 Speaker 1: It all came back around because now it's on national 75 00:02:58,600 --> 00:03:00,920 Speaker 1: news and everyone's talking about it, and hear this par 76 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:04,720 Speaker 1: girls like he could have just said no now, because 77 00:03:04,760 --> 00:03:07,040 Speaker 1: then the no just ends there. No, I'm sorry, and 78 00:03:07,080 --> 00:03:09,079 Speaker 1: he could grab the mic and say, hey, guys, get 79 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:10,679 Speaker 1: ready to get your booze out of the way. Okay, 80 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:13,160 Speaker 1: you're done buoying me. I said no. Here's why I don't. 81 00:03:13,240 --> 00:03:15,799 Speaker 1: I honestly don't really know you, and I want to 82 00:03:15,840 --> 00:03:16,680 Speaker 1: hang out with my buddies. 83 00:03:16,680 --> 00:03:17,240 Speaker 2: That sounds more. 84 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 1: That's fine, But then don't say yes and then say no. Don't. 85 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:22,440 Speaker 1: You can't do that. It's a life lesson. You just 86 00:03:22,919 --> 00:03:25,160 Speaker 1: say what you say at the time that you say it. 87 00:03:25,200 --> 00:03:25,840 Speaker 1: I think I mean it. 88 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:27,840 Speaker 2: Yes in a perfect world. 89 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:30,720 Speaker 4: No, in a perfect world where you say everything perfectly 90 00:03:30,760 --> 00:03:33,079 Speaker 4: and you're fifteen years old, but you know and you're wise. 91 00:03:33,080 --> 00:03:36,119 Speaker 1: Otherwise you don't learn anything. Sam, Well, you're not eight, 92 00:03:36,240 --> 00:03:38,720 Speaker 1: you're fifteen now, you're three years away from being an adult. 93 00:03:38,760 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 1: You're going to drive a car in a in a year. 94 00:03:41,040 --> 00:03:42,920 Speaker 1: And you say yes, You say yes, and you go 95 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:45,880 Speaker 1: on the date. I think he's better then he his buddies. 96 00:03:46,400 --> 00:03:47,000 Speaker 2: You don't know that. 97 00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:48,160 Speaker 1: I'm sure she is. 98 00:03:48,760 --> 00:03:51,840 Speaker 4: I think that he said he said yes, but I 99 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 4: think I do think it's okay. For him to go 100 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:55,760 Speaker 4: to her and say, hey, I'm sorry, I'm not going 101 00:03:55,800 --> 00:03:56,400 Speaker 4: to be a problem with you. 102 00:03:56,840 --> 00:03:57,520 Speaker 2: I don't agree. 103 00:03:58,400 --> 00:04:00,600 Speaker 5: I think if she bought the d and went through 104 00:04:00,600 --> 00:04:02,760 Speaker 5: the whole spiel and it was close to the problem 105 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 5: and then he said no, that would. 106 00:04:04,120 --> 00:04:06,040 Speaker 2: Be I would be like, all right, yes, I agree 107 00:04:06,040 --> 00:04:07,760 Speaker 2: with you on that. That would talk. 108 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:08,040 Speaker 1: Son. 109 00:04:08,160 --> 00:04:10,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, but prom isn't for a couple more months. 110 00:04:10,520 --> 00:04:12,320 Speaker 1: Chris, do you want to work for iHeartRadio? Would you 111 00:04:12,360 --> 00:04:15,080 Speaker 1: like to continue working? Would you like to make a commitment? Cool? Yes, 112 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:17,240 Speaker 1: I would sign with them two days later. No, you 113 00:04:17,240 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying against that, But that's different. 114 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:23,080 Speaker 4: Though you sign a contract there, you say yes to 115 00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:24,160 Speaker 4: a job. It's different. 116 00:04:24,160 --> 00:04:27,040 Speaker 1: For even if I do a major handshake and say yeah, 117 00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 1: I've committed, I've made my commitment, he should be committed 118 00:04:30,720 --> 00:04:33,320 Speaker 1: to that. Learn and commitment. Commitment is not an evil 119 00:04:33,320 --> 00:04:37,160 Speaker 1: word people, millennials and little gen Zers and whatever's under that, 120 00:04:37,200 --> 00:04:40,080 Speaker 1: the little almost just the barely love people, barely live generation. 121 00:04:40,480 --> 00:04:43,040 Speaker 1: Commitment is a good word. It's a wonderful word. And 122 00:04:43,080 --> 00:04:45,200 Speaker 1: get com and be committed. This may be the girl 123 00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:47,760 Speaker 1: of his dreams. I understand that maybe he doesn't want 124 00:04:47,760 --> 00:04:49,680 Speaker 1: to go and it's okay for beforeth right with your 125 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:52,479 Speaker 1: feelings and everything. But he never should have really said 126 00:04:52,920 --> 00:04:54,720 Speaker 1: the first because this guy is just going to succumb 127 00:04:54,760 --> 00:04:57,360 Speaker 1: to pressure his whole life from the peers and everything else. 128 00:04:57,480 --> 00:05:01,240 Speaker 1: Just move, just make a stand right there, everybody. 129 00:05:01,279 --> 00:05:03,240 Speaker 4: I just think that what kind of gets me is 130 00:05:03,320 --> 00:05:05,159 Speaker 4: I feel like if the roles were reversed a little 131 00:05:05,160 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 4: bit and not to be this. 132 00:05:05,920 --> 00:05:09,200 Speaker 1: Perfect females, No, that's different. Then you find out the 133 00:05:09,200 --> 00:05:10,880 Speaker 1: guy's a perf or whatever, then you get it. No, 134 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:11,880 Speaker 1: that's let's okay. 135 00:05:11,880 --> 00:05:14,680 Speaker 4: No, let's assume nobody is perv nobody's creepy. 136 00:05:14,200 --> 00:05:18,200 Speaker 1: Ok that's not the case the world. I was just 137 00:05:18,320 --> 00:05:20,479 Speaker 1: like Nancy Gouth three case. 138 00:05:21,880 --> 00:05:23,880 Speaker 2: Let's talk about this is two innocent people. 139 00:05:23,920 --> 00:05:26,200 Speaker 4: But I do think people would say it's okay for 140 00:05:26,279 --> 00:05:28,200 Speaker 4: a girl to say that she wants to take her 141 00:05:28,320 --> 00:05:30,400 Speaker 4: prompt acceptance away. 142 00:05:30,160 --> 00:05:32,479 Speaker 1: Because that's the way the world works. Because that's but 143 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:34,960 Speaker 1: that's the way it works. It's just the way it is. 144 00:05:35,080 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 1: That's different. All of a sudden, he creeps me out, 145 00:05:38,120 --> 00:05:39,600 Speaker 1: go off, Yeah, and that's totally fine. 146 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:41,839 Speaker 2: No creepiness, there's no creepiness involved. 147 00:05:41,920 --> 00:05:44,320 Speaker 1: Not that world doesn't exist. I just think it's so 148 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:47,800 Speaker 1: funny talk back at the iHeartRadio app. Hey, guys, Chris, 149 00:05:48,040 --> 00:05:53,719 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, but the way you're talking as the sixteen 150 00:05:53,800 --> 00:05:56,960 Speaker 1: year old boy is not any fifteen year old boy 151 00:05:57,000 --> 00:06:01,320 Speaker 1: I have ever come across in my entire existence. They 152 00:06:01,360 --> 00:06:03,000 Speaker 1: don't think like that. I did. 153 00:06:03,839 --> 00:06:04,440 Speaker 4: Oh, I did. 154 00:06:04,600 --> 00:06:08,120 Speaker 1: Yes, I made a commitment. I must stick to my commitment. 155 00:06:08,720 --> 00:06:09,280 Speaker 1: He's got a. 156 00:06:09,240 --> 00:06:11,919 Speaker 2: Forty year old man, Chris, I love you. 157 00:06:12,560 --> 00:06:15,200 Speaker 1: I love you, guys, contry, I feel I feel, I 158 00:06:15,240 --> 00:06:16,200 Speaker 1: feel slighted there. 159 00:06:17,560 --> 00:06:21,880 Speaker 2: It's true. I don't know what is fifteen. He's onably, 160 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 2: never kissed a girl, He's put on the spot. He's terrified. 161 00:06:24,960 --> 00:06:27,039 Speaker 1: Better, No woman asked you out. You said yes in 162 00:06:27,040 --> 00:06:29,120 Speaker 1: front of everybody. Then you go on the side. Hey, 163 00:06:29,279 --> 00:06:30,640 Speaker 1: by the way, I didn't mean what I was saying. 164 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:33,160 Speaker 1: That's just that's not nice. It said that I say 165 00:06:33,160 --> 00:06:35,160 Speaker 1: to do. Let's raise our kids better, he says. 166 00:06:35,320 --> 00:06:37,400 Speaker 2: But it wasn't like he did it slippingly. 167 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:40,760 Speaker 1: You know, really, I understand all of that. I understand 168 00:06:40,800 --> 00:06:43,279 Speaker 1: all of it. But I think you said yes, Yeah, 169 00:06:43,400 --> 00:06:46,040 Speaker 1: this could be his bride in the future, is it. 170 00:06:46,160 --> 00:06:47,800 Speaker 4: No, life's too short to go to problem with the 171 00:06:47,800 --> 00:06:51,760 Speaker 4: broad You don't want to go with a broad broad 172 00:06:51,560 --> 00:06:52,120 Speaker 4: car company. 173 00:06:52,160 --> 00:06:55,080 Speaker 6: Hand that prompt proposal. You know, if I was the mom, 174 00:06:55,080 --> 00:06:56,880 Speaker 6: I think I would have addressed it a little differently. 175 00:06:56,880 --> 00:06:58,520 Speaker 6: I would have told him, Look, you made a commitment. 176 00:06:58,839 --> 00:07:01,640 Speaker 6: She is going to be in bed and you will 177 00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:04,360 Speaker 6: be in front of everybody at school. So rather than 178 00:07:04,480 --> 00:07:06,479 Speaker 6: treat that as a punishment, I say, look, you're fifteen, 179 00:07:06,760 --> 00:07:09,080 Speaker 6: get a couple other buddies, have them bring some other 180 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:12,120 Speaker 6: dates and go as a group instead of just you 181 00:07:12,240 --> 00:07:14,280 Speaker 6: and her. So kind of a group. 182 00:07:14,400 --> 00:07:16,480 Speaker 1: Deep All right, boy? Talkbacks? Let up? 183 00:07:17,080 --> 00:07:17,240 Speaker 6: Man. 184 00:07:17,560 --> 00:07:19,920 Speaker 1: I mean, if you ask me, I would say, see 185 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:23,240 Speaker 1: you through. Because I didn't make the first move with 186 00:07:23,360 --> 00:07:28,520 Speaker 1: My wife asks me out. She pretty much asks me out. 187 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:31,080 Speaker 1: When I'm ready to be treated like the king that 188 00:07:31,160 --> 00:07:36,480 Speaker 1: I am, call her. So I did. And we've been 189 00:07:36,480 --> 00:07:39,440 Speaker 1: together for ten years now, okay? One O two is 190 00:07:39,480 --> 00:07:41,440 Speaker 1: my country? All right? It sound like some whispers going 191 00:07:41,480 --> 00:07:42,440 Speaker 1: on time. 192 00:07:42,840 --> 00:07:45,320 Speaker 3: Hey, guys, I think that he is totally in the 193 00:07:45,400 --> 00:07:49,480 Speaker 3: right to say no or revoke his yes, mostly because 194 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:52,440 Speaker 3: prom is normally for juniors and seniors, which would mean 195 00:07:52,480 --> 00:07:54,720 Speaker 3: that she was an upperclassman, and he's kind of young 196 00:07:54,760 --> 00:07:57,560 Speaker 3: to be going to prom anyways, that's just me. 197 00:07:57,880 --> 00:07:59,960 Speaker 1: Okay, that's true, you know, to keep him coming to us. 198 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:00,520 Speaker 1: Take another one. 199 00:08:00,640 --> 00:08:03,120 Speaker 5: Maybe he found out that you didn't want to late 200 00:08:03,200 --> 00:08:06,040 Speaker 5: night party after prowm if you know what I mean, 201 00:08:06,480 --> 00:08:07,440 Speaker 5: little ship going in. 202 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:11,160 Speaker 1: So then he waited options and was like, no way, 203 00:08:12,040 --> 00:08:13,480 Speaker 1: all right, all right, I talked to you. 204 00:08:14,280 --> 00:08:16,600 Speaker 6: But on this one, I think the guy can back 205 00:08:16,640 --> 00:08:18,200 Speaker 6: out of it. He didn't sign a. 206 00:08:18,080 --> 00:08:20,640 Speaker 1: Contract or nothing, and at least he told her right away. 207 00:08:20,920 --> 00:08:22,680 Speaker 5: He could have been a real d bag and wait 208 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:26,160 Speaker 5: until she bought her dress and everything in back doll point. 209 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:31,160 Speaker 5: There I go with this girl, trying to lead you, 210 00:08:31,200 --> 00:08:32,679 Speaker 5: guide you to the. 211 00:08:32,520 --> 00:08:35,280 Speaker 1: To the whole. But he wants to go with his 212 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:35,920 Speaker 1: guy friends. 213 00:08:36,000 --> 00:08:38,320 Speaker 5: So you know he must uh, he must swing the 214 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:38,960 Speaker 5: other way. 215 00:08:39,480 --> 00:08:42,440 Speaker 1: You think he's a catcher. He's definitely a catcher. Okay, 216 00:08:43,400 --> 00:08:45,480 Speaker 1: that's the note to end. I don't need to hear that. 217 00:08:45,520 --> 00:08:45,960 Speaker 1: As a girl. 218 00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:47,560 Speaker 5: Dad who's gonna have a daughter that's gonna be in 219 00:08:47,640 --> 00:08:49,360 Speaker 5: high school later in life, I don't need to. 220 00:08:49,520 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 1: I have three words for you. I can't part wait 221 00:08:56,520 --> 00:08:59,600 Speaker 1: this episode, I tell you what, or you'll find more 222 00:08:59,600 --> 00:09:01,760 Speaker 1: of the iHeart Radio app and anywhere you get your podcast. 223 00:09:01,800 --> 00:09:04,760 Speaker 1: Please rate, review, subscribe, download chair and like. Thank you.