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Speaker 1: This portion of the Joe Show podcast is powered by

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Speaker 1: Fair and Farah, Tampa accident attorneys. One of Alyssa's friends

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Speaker 1: and you know what, maybe he'll just hear this and

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Speaker 1: I'll go, Okay.

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Speaker 2: It's me.

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Speaker 1: I got all right, I'm out. One of Alissa's friends

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Speaker 1: texted me yesterday and said, hey, I need some help,

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Speaker 1: and I said, okay, what's going on?

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Speaker 2: Said?

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Speaker 1: I need your help talking to Blank, her boyfriend about

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Speaker 1: dumping me. I'm like, what do you mean? Did he

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Speaker 1: dump you? She goes, no, I want him to. I

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Speaker 1: said what, And then I called her and then we talked,

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Speaker 1: and essentially, she is, and I'm kind of like this too.

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Speaker 2: I feel very bad letting people down.

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Speaker 1: And while this relationship hasn't been like super long, I

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Speaker 1: know the both of them. I've known him pretty much

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Speaker 1: just as long as I've known her, and she thinks

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Speaker 1: that I could help him be like, you know what,

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Speaker 1: I don't want to be in this anymore. I want

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Speaker 1: to get out of it. And then he'll be like, hey,

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Speaker 1: I want to get out of it, and she'll be like, oh,

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Speaker 1: me too, and then boom, it's mutual and they're like

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Speaker 1: cool with each other. She is afraid that it's like

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Speaker 1: gonna end the relationship, which I think it definitely will.

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Speaker 2: By the way, too.

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Speaker 1: But eight hundred and four on n ninety three ninety

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Speaker 1: three you can text in it ninety seven seven two zero.

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Speaker 2: What what what do you do?

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Speaker 1: Do I follow through this or do I say, hey,

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Speaker 1: tough enough buttercup and dump them yourself? Because I want

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Speaker 1: to help and I don't want like the word to

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Speaker 1: get back to Alyssa that I was like fu. But

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Speaker 1: at the same time too, why do I got to

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Speaker 1: dump them at the same time too? Why do I

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Speaker 1: need to put that in his head? Because the other

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Speaker 1: thing as well is what if she's trapping me and

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Speaker 1: what if he then goes to her and he's like

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Speaker 1: he's trying to get me to dump you, and then

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Speaker 1: she's like, well, what a douchebag.

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Speaker 2: I don't like him. She's probably not doing that, but

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Speaker 2: still so, just so.

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Speaker 3: I'm clear, yes, the friend wants you to talk to

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Speaker 3: her boyfriend and plant the seed with the boyfriend on

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Speaker 3: how he should dump the friend. Absolutely, I say no,

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Speaker 3: no deal. That feels way too messy and you're going

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Speaker 3: to feel some type of way about it too, because

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Speaker 3: it's not going to be just innocently dipping in and

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Speaker 3: dipping out.

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Speaker 4: But there are also things where you kind of have

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Speaker 4: to nudge somebody in the direction of like, hey, dude,

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Speaker 4: this isn't necessarily working out.

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Speaker 2: It's I don't know.

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Speaker 4: If I were driving on the highway and somebody told

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Speaker 4: me that the road is going to end and I'm

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Speaker 4: going to run into a wall, I'm going to pull

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Speaker 4: off to the next exit. I'm not going to continue

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Speaker 4: to go down that path. That is that kind of

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Speaker 4: a good analogy.

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Speaker 3: It's a great analogy, actually, is it.

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Speaker 4: I don't get it because you're forewarning this person, like, hey,

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Speaker 4: here's what's going to happened. Do you you better just

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Speaker 4: like you know this is what's gonna happen.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I don't.

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Speaker 4: You can't run a head on into a wall at

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Speaker 4: seventy miles an how are going to kill yourself? Get

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Speaker 4: off at the first exit and then continue on with

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Speaker 4: your journey.

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Speaker 1: Eight hundred and four nine ninety three, ninety three. What

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Speaker 1: would you do if you were in this position? I I, uh, well,

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Speaker 1: clearly had a loss for words.

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Speaker 2: It's a tough situation to be in.

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Speaker 3: Because I know you want to help her friend, because that's.

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Speaker 1: Just well, because I'm gonna feel super guilty whenever I'm around.

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Speaker 2: Them, right, nobody a homie.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, no matter what, you're gonna feel that, I say,

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Speaker 4: you just give him a little, you know, nudge a

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Speaker 4: little bit like, yeah, I loved hap you like, hey,

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Speaker 4: exit left?

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Speaker 2: You know that's just me.

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Speaker 3: Because do you think then it will make things uncomfortable that.

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Speaker 2: You Yes, it's already uncomfortable.

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Speaker 3: I know I'm uncomfortable hearing this from you because it's

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Speaker 3: just like.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, I don't like getting.

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Speaker 3: To you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: I am like and thank God and with the love

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Speaker 1: of my life, I don't want this relationship to ever end.

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Speaker 1: I want kids and I want a happy life with Melissa.

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Speaker 1: But before that, I was not a good breaker up her.

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Speaker 1: I would do everything in my power to get them

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Speaker 1: to break up with me. So I almost feel like

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Speaker 1: God is coming in and trying to spite me and

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Speaker 1: be like, you avoided all those breakups. Now you know

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Speaker 1: you got to do it for some other Haley, you say,

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Speaker 1: don't do it.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Joe, don't do that. That's messy. You're you're getting

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Speaker 5: dirty and you don't need to do something like that.

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Speaker 5: If she wants him to dump her, she just has

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Speaker 5: to just just pull it, just do it anyways, dump him,

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Speaker 5: let him know how she feels de grown, get it over.

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Speaker 2: With Hey to that point, though, am I a bad friend?

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Speaker 4: Now that I know.

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Speaker 2: That she wants to do this?

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Speaker 1: And like, I'm probably gonna see this guy, you know,

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Speaker 1: probably this weekend. If I had to guess I know

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Speaker 1: this information, I just got to hang around him and

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Speaker 1: act like everything's good.

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Speaker 5: I would say, yeah, it's not your position to it's

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Speaker 5: not your relationship.

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Speaker 2: You know, you know it sucks too.

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Speaker 1: I can't act like I never knew because if he

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Speaker 1: ever hears this, you know you don't you knew it.

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Speaker 1: You admit a doult You know he could be listening

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Speaker 1: right now, which if he is dumper.

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Speaker 2: Please Hey, yeah, Hayley, we love you. Seana. What do

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Speaker 2: I do?

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Speaker 6: You need to tell her?

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Speaker 7: She needs to put her big panties on and end

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Speaker 7: the relationship. Communication is the biggest key in ever relationship,

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Speaker 7: so she can't be having you do her dirty work.

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Speaker 1: Do you think maybe if I do this then chill

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Speaker 1: o me and maybe I can get something cool.

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Speaker 2: Out of it? Like, uh, I don't know, Uh, I

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Speaker 2: don't know what I want. A hat. I can always

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Speaker 2: go for a hat.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, you don't need you don't need a consolation prize.

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Speaker 6: But always asking me, well, you're getting in the middle

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Speaker 6: of somebody else's relationship and you do not want this

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Speaker 6: was not like it was unsolicited.

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Speaker 4: She came up to Joe and was like, hey, I

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Speaker 4: need your help. So it's not like Joe's like freely saying, oh, hey,

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Speaker 4: I see things. They're trouble troubles in the waters. I

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Speaker 4: need to help you. This is this was unsolicited.

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Speaker 7: They asked yes, yes, and Joe should say you need

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Speaker 7: to communicate with him and tell him how you're feeling

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Speaker 7: because he might be feeling the same way and neither

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Speaker 7: one of them want to do anything about it.

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Speaker 3: It's a good point.

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Speaker 1: Maybe I maybe I talked to him and I just go, hey,

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Speaker 1: you hate her, don't you? And they'll be like, what,

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Speaker 1: Shawna love you, love you so much, and uh, I'll

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Speaker 1: give you an update by the way too, I'll give

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Speaker 1: you guys an update, and uh, you know, we'll see,

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Speaker 1: we'll see what happens.

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Speaker 2: You need teeth.

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Speaker 1: What if they end up like getting married or something,

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Speaker 1: and can I bring it up at the wedding and

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Speaker 1: be like, hey, can I give a toast and be like,

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Speaker 1: you know, to break up with you and look at

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