Speaker 1: All right, it is Mojo in the Morning. keV has
Speaker 1: the next topic. But where the hell do you go?
Speaker 1: Where's uh? Let me know where he's at? Seeing the party?
Speaker 2: What do you?
Speaker 3: What?
Speaker 2: Do you who? You're on the phone with out there?
Speaker 2: You're dying? Okay?
Speaker 1: You could have yeah, you could have lied and said
Speaker 1: I'm on with Josiah.
Speaker 4: You know he's home right now. I'm making sure he
Speaker 4: say I was in the bathroom. I didn't realize that
Speaker 4: the break was social.
Speaker 1: Why does Ace not realize that you're at work doing
Speaker 1: it was a commercial breakout? The peace of facetimed. They
Speaker 1: can hear email. Who's Ash? Is that the newest girl?
Speaker 1: It ain't even like that this is a friend. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: I'm just making sure I call you later. Goodbye, Ash,
Speaker 1: Get your age off? All right, it's Mojo in the
Speaker 1: Morning show Kevin with hookups, dues and don'ts.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: I do not know how to not be myself and
Speaker 4: in certain situations when you're just hooking up with someone,
Speaker 4: I don't think that me being myself is the best
Speaker 4: thing to be for only hookup situations. The type of
Speaker 4: person I'm the type of person that cares about people.
Speaker 4: I like to get to know who you are. I
Speaker 4: like for you to get to know who I am.
Speaker 4: I'm a very transparent personal person. I'm a very vulnerable individual.
Speaker 4: I like to talk. I like to understand things. I
Speaker 4: like to lend advice. I like to be a listening ear.
Speaker 4: I like to connect. All good. But for people you
Speaker 4: just having sex with, doing all of the things that
Speaker 4: come naturally to me and the things that I like
Speaker 4: to do isn't best for those just physical connections, and
Speaker 4: because of me.
Speaker 2: Doing all those other things. Let me hold the door.
Speaker 4: Open for you, let me come walk you from the
Speaker 4: parking garage. It's not just the smash. Even though I
Speaker 4: do not want a relationship with this person, we start
Speaker 4: to to develop these emotional connections because I'm just not.
Speaker 1: Justking you more because no guy has done that for them.
Speaker 2: I don't know if no guy has ever done it
Speaker 2: for him. It's just or usually guys that they're in relationships.
Speaker 4: And if it's just a smash and go, I don't
Speaker 4: know how to do that, like that's that's just weird
Speaker 4: to me.
Speaker 5: I feel like you just need to communicate with them.
Speaker 4: I do, but communication doesn't eliminate emotions.
Speaker 6: Because it's very simple. Actions speak louder than words. So
Speaker 6: if I'm on the receiving end of all of that, keV,
Speaker 6: I'm thinking he's telling me he doesn't want anything, but
Speaker 6: he's he clearly is into me.
Speaker 2: But I don't know how to be myself.
Speaker 5: I don't have an answer for you.
Speaker 1: How many how many hookups do you think in your
Speaker 1: life you've had compared to relationships? Way more so, way
Speaker 1: more hookups, absolutely, And how many of those hookups have
Speaker 1: missed took your being you as you wanted a relationship?
Speaker 4: I would say the majority of them. As I am
Speaker 4: later in my life, Like when everybody's like super young,
Speaker 4: early twenties, nothing really mattered like that, Like nobody was
Speaker 4: looking you just love in.
Speaker 2: These situations you're a twenty year old.
Speaker 4: Yeah, But as like later twenties early thirties, people start
Speaker 4: to change the way they perceive their life and they
Speaker 4: start to want to involve themselves in more serious things.
Speaker 4: Then they want that even though, like I said, we communicated,
Speaker 4: that's not what we both have established that, that's not
Speaker 4: what we're looking for, that's not what we're entering this as.
Speaker 4: But as time progressed, you start learning people they wanted
Speaker 4: to be more. So I'm like, I need some you.
Speaker 2: Know what you need?
Speaker 1: You need a warning label on your warning. This guy
Speaker 1: is just a nice guy but just wants a hook up.
Speaker 1: Warning we'll fall in love. You almost need to honestly,
Speaker 1: you need to forewarn them ahead of time. You almost
Speaker 1: need to say, hey, listen, I'm only looking for a
Speaker 1: hookup before we start.
Speaker 2: Now, let me hold the door open for you. That's
Speaker 2: what I'm saying. That's what it's still mixed.
Speaker 4: And really, yes, we established that going in to it,
Speaker 4: that we are not looking hot.
Speaker 1: Would it be if a girl just said to you,
Speaker 1: I just want to f you and I don't want
Speaker 1: anything else.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what they say. Also say that to you.
Speaker 4: What I'm saying is I communicate my intentions. They communicate
Speaker 4: their intentions. They're not looking for a relationship either. It
Speaker 4: gets muddy, but you don't communicate that right away. You
Speaker 4: just spend time with them.
Speaker 2: Fir no, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: I mean I would say, first time we get drinks,
Speaker 1: so you say them right the first time you get drinks.
Speaker 1: You have actually said to a girl, I'm just looking
Speaker 1: to as you say, smash.
Speaker 2: The first time I've done it. You sit there and
Speaker 2: tell me about yourself, what's going on.
Speaker 4: I like to be upfront with people and say, listen,
Speaker 4: I find you extremely attractive. I'm not here to be
Speaker 4: your friend, like I don't waiting around for I'm not
Speaker 4: like but I'm not. I'm not taking you out because
Speaker 4: I wanted to get to know you. I can never
Speaker 4: say that, Oh see, I.
Speaker 6: Think keV is very black and white with your words.
Speaker 6: I think you're very blunt. You say it like it is.
Speaker 2: I couldn't.
Speaker 6: I think though that where I keep using the word
Speaker 6: money because it does it gets gray.
Speaker 2: Is you you are. You act differently.
Speaker 6: You say something and you're very clear about what you
Speaker 6: say and what you want. But you're right your behavior.
Speaker 6: I could see where a girl would be like, well,
Speaker 6: I think he's this is changing into something else.
Speaker 4: You're still a woman. You still should be treated with
Speaker 4: respect and as a woman. Just because I don't want
Speaker 4: a relationship with you doesn't mean I need to just
Speaker 4: treat you like an object.
Speaker 5: I think opening doors is one thing. I think it's
Speaker 5: the emotional stuff, like the talking and getting to know them.
Speaker 5: That's where I personally would be like, oh, he really
Speaker 5: does care about me, so.
Speaker 2: I've seen that in this studio before. What you talking
Speaker 2: about right now? What's going on? How are you?
Speaker 4: I'm good?
Speaker 2: How are you good? What's going on?
Speaker 4: When you when you just.
Speaker 7: Said a second ago, really spoke to me, you said,
Speaker 7: they start liking me more because no one has ever
Speaker 7: done that for them, And that's so true. Like when
Speaker 7: I was dating, I feel like I was like looking back,
Speaker 7: I was definitely the queen of the Lulu. Like when
Speaker 7: somebody would do something nice to me, I would just
Speaker 7: be like, oh, yea, he wants to do with me.
Speaker 7: And like keV was saying, you know, when you're younger,
Speaker 7: you know, it's more like you're just kind of wanting
Speaker 7: a hookup. But me, I actually got married at twenty
Speaker 7: years old, so like I you know, kind of went
Speaker 7: through that stuff early on, was like this is enough.
Speaker 1: So do you think that you guys got to have
Speaker 1: that open conversation that's what, you know, get it out
Speaker 1: in the forefront, like Kevin actually will say, here are
Speaker 1: my intentions.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I definitely that's really really important because yeah, you
Speaker 7: don't want to have any misunderstanding because I always did.
Speaker 2: Yeah, what's going on? Shanna?
Speaker 5: Hi?
Speaker 8: Hi?
Speaker 9: So I've basically didn't single my entire life. And I
Speaker 9: have friends, as I call them, and they will always
Speaker 9: be my friends. But I'm very upfront about the fact
Speaker 9: that I have almost three grown kids. One of my
Speaker 9: kids is in the Navy, I travel all the time,
Speaker 9: I have grandkids, I have a full time job. Like
Speaker 9: I don't want anything serious, and we might even like
Speaker 9: go to dinner, go to oasis, like do things. Still
Speaker 9: not in a relationship and I don't want anything serious.
Speaker 1: So you tell them right away all of that stuff,
Speaker 1: and what what what kind of reactions have you gotten
Speaker 1: from these guys?
Speaker 9: I mean, most of them are cool with it, but yes,
Speaker 9: some of them do get feelings. And some of them
Speaker 9: are like, are you gonna stay and cuddle And I'm like, no,
Speaker 9: I'm going home to cuddle.
Speaker 1: With my dogs.
Speaker 10: By the way.
Speaker 1: By the way, that is interesting because I think that,
Speaker 1: you know, you would not think that guys would be
Speaker 1: that way.
Speaker 2: The stereotype would be women than.
Speaker 9: Women probably, and they always think that they can change things.
Speaker 9: But you just have to be very direct with them
Speaker 9: and don't get in those deep conversations. I kind of
Speaker 9: keep everything light, but at the end of the day,
Speaker 9: still a time caring, loving person and they all love that,
Speaker 9: and a lot of them haven't experienced that book. I
Speaker 9: don't want to be with anyone. I don't want to
Speaker 9: be with anyone. I want to like, I'm too invested
Speaker 9: in my life.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they used to have it. They used to have
Speaker 1: a dating app for this. It was called Tinder, and
Speaker 1: that everybody go on there that doesn't want anything other
Speaker 1: than just they should just have like literally a thing
Speaker 1: where it's like just a hook up.
Speaker 4: I like that, though. I like connected with somebody beyond
Speaker 4: just that.
Speaker 1: I like to understand who's I'm not even I just like,
Speaker 1: but you don't want a relationship, Yeah, it's I think
Speaker 1: it's just who I am. Like, I like connecting with people.
Speaker 1: Hold on, Toya is not happy. It sounds like with Kevin,
Speaker 1: what's up?
Speaker 9: Hey, who's going on?
Speaker 10: keV?
Speaker 2: What's up?
Speaker 9: My baby?
Speaker 2: Listen.
Speaker 8: There's two points I'm gonna make real quick.
Speaker 5: One.
Speaker 8: I think that you should chill out because I know
Speaker 8: or you share that eventually you want to settle down, Eventually,
Speaker 8: you want a family, you know, et.
Speaker 2: Cetera, et cetera.
Speaker 8: And I think in this stage right now that just
Speaker 8: doing hookups is why things are confusing. The second point
Speaker 8: is I even though you're communicating, I feel that there
Speaker 8: are some women who understand that and are going into
Speaker 8: it just like you. Right, They're not intentionally saying like, oh,
Speaker 8: he's changing his mind.
Speaker 9: But we're human.
Speaker 8: We are made with feelings. We like feeling love, we
Speaker 8: like feeling care, we like feeling protected. And because being
Speaker 8: the awesome, you know, beautiful cook king that you are,
Speaker 8: it exudes right and whether you want it to or not,
Speaker 8: and then that's when things get mixed up, I think
Speaker 8: on both ends. So I don't think the women are
Speaker 8: saying are not listening to you. I just think as
Speaker 8: time goes on and you're doing those relationship based things,
Speaker 8: that it's getting confusing. So I know some time back,
Speaker 8: you took some time to you know, just be to yourself,
Speaker 8: and I think, really reevaluate what your intentions are for
Speaker 8: twenty twenty six. Are you truly trying to find love?
Speaker 9: What is your goal?
Speaker 8: Are you truly getting to the point where you want
Speaker 8: to be in a relationship And it really just takes
Speaker 8: time to focus on that. And you know there's other
Speaker 8: things besides cooking up. If you need to do what
Speaker 8: you need to do, Okay, now, y'all know, I love y'all.
Speaker 9: What.
Speaker 2: I appreciate all that.
Speaker 4: I know exactly what I want for twenty twenty six
Speaker 4: in regards it is, I don't want a relationship.
Speaker 2: That's not what I'm after.
Speaker 4: If that happens, or if someone comes around that changes
Speaker 4: my mind, then we'll be intentionally moving in that interesting.
Speaker 1: So your thing focused is your is I'm not finding somebody.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean that's what I communicate. I'm not actively
Speaker 4: looking for a relationship.
Speaker 5: I have a question. Have you ever been in the
Speaker 5: situation where you do these things and you start to
Speaker 5: maybe catch a little bit of feelings, No, like as
Speaker 5: you get to know them and hear their stories.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean Gene, Yeah, I mean I start to
Speaker 4: like the person. But I've never been in a situation
Speaker 4: where I've like said, Okay, yes you are somebody I
Speaker 4: want to move forward.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like not like that.
Speaker 1: I've noticed that the girl that there was one girl
Speaker 1: that you would that wouldn't do the relationship.
Speaker 2: She was like, your bestie, that's the one.
Speaker 6: Then she came remember that. I feel like then she
Speaker 6: came around and was like.
Speaker 4: Maybe I do like yeah, but best we haven't done
Speaker 4: anything sexually though, Like that's not a part of our friendship.
Speaker 1: James has a very important question to ask. I think
Speaker 1: this is interesting because I don't even know the answer. James,
Speaker 1: what's your question?
Speaker 3: keV?
Speaker 2: Has your like, just asked the question? Just ask the question?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, has your hookup gone up since you've been
Speaker 3: on the radio, like since you started your radio job?
Speaker 4: No, I mean not significantly. No, I don't listen, that's nothing.
Speaker 4: I just I don't sleep with everybody who want to
Speaker 4: sleep with me? How many books don't do that?
Speaker 1: Since you started on the radio, how many hookups?
Speaker 2: Not a lot? That crazy?
Speaker 1: Like more or less? Like we're checking boxes one to
Speaker 1: three for.
Speaker 4: Sav I would say, listen to you, bro, I'm not
Speaker 4: I don't know a week. I don't know what y'all
Speaker 4: think of me. But it's not I'm not out here
Speaker 4: like this.
Speaker 2: This is good for us to hear. Yeah, I'm Eric.
Speaker 2: What's out Eric?
Speaker 3: So Kevin is very transparent and saying what he wants.
Speaker 2: M hmm.
Speaker 3: But as humans, we learn about ourselves every single day.
Speaker 3: Maybe he hasn't learned this about himself. Maybe he's not
Speaker 3: an actual f boy. Maybe he is a relationship man.
Speaker 3: I don't know, kind of sounds like it. I love people,
Speaker 3: I like people. I was about to get married. I
Speaker 3: don't know where does like Kevin is an f boy
Speaker 3: thing comes from? We do we forget the last year
Speaker 3: and a half of my life and only focused on
Speaker 3: the last six months.
Speaker 2: But I think that's.
Speaker 3: Why I no, no, no, you're in your whole phase.
Speaker 1: Well but no, but that is why a surprise came
Speaker 1: out that you said this year you're just you're not
Speaker 1: looking for a relationship.
Speaker 2: That surprising. Why is that surprising?
Speaker 6: Because I feel like you've always talked about how you
Speaker 6: want to get married, you possibly want to have more kids.
Speaker 2: So I just thought, yeah, but I'm not.
Speaker 4: I'm not looking for the one though, Like I'm not
Speaker 4: out here on the hunt, on the chase.
Speaker 5: They say that's when it finds you, But.
Speaker 4: When it finds me. I think at the right time,
Speaker 4: it will find me. I'm not out here looking for
Speaker 4: it though, not looking for it. But if it should.
Speaker 2: Happen, if it should happen, if it's meant to be,
Speaker 2: it will be God all right, all right.
Speaker 4: I don't get any dues and don't stuf, but you know,
Speaker 4: I like where things are going to again, last words
Speaker 4: from Heather on this one here.
Speaker 10: I think it's more like kind of like what Toya
Speaker 10: said and then the gentleman that just talked, I think
Speaker 10: Kevin wants a relationship. He knows he wants a relationship.
Speaker 10: But it's also a respect thing. When you go to
Speaker 10: the female and you said, I just want to smash,
Speaker 10: and he just wants to smash, then a woman kind
Speaker 10: of takes the respect like she's got no respect for herself,
Speaker 10: none for Kevin. They're gonna play, they're gonna have fun
Speaker 10: on all of that. But then when Kevin's showing the
Speaker 10: emotion back, that's telling her maybe he does like me,
Speaker 10: because this doesn't isn't my you know what, buddy. He's
Speaker 10: kind of making, you know, making me feel like I
Speaker 10: have feelings for him, and she's probably getting back for him,
Speaker 10: you know what I mean. I think it's more of
Speaker 10: a respect that either Kevin needs to say, Okay, we
Speaker 10: need to smash.
Speaker 8: That's it.
Speaker 10: But I can't treat you like a lady. Don't open
Speaker 10: my door when you know what I mean?
Speaker 3: Does that make.
Speaker 2: Sense kind of? But I can't operate like that. I'm
Speaker 2: not you know what I mean.
Speaker 10: You can't operate like that, then you can't. Don't look
Speaker 10: for a smash buddy, you are looking for a relationship.
Speaker 1: Can I tell you what I think Kevin's problem is
Speaker 1: Kevin Kevin is a guy female or even male. When
Speaker 1: you meet him, you love him, and you don't want
Speaker 1: just Kevin in your life from moment you wanted in
Speaker 1: there for a while. And I think the problem with
Speaker 1: you is you're so engaging as a human being that
Speaker 1: people are drawn to you.
Speaker 2: So if you.
Speaker 1: Are and this is even with you know, dudes, guys
Speaker 1: want to be your best buddy because when they meet you,
Speaker 1: they're like, this is a guy I want to have
Speaker 1: in my life. And if you're just looking for I
Speaker 1: don't know what do you call a guy that's not
Speaker 1: a non smash buddy, you know what I mean? Like
Speaker 1: if you're looking for like if you just want a
Speaker 1: guy for like, hey, let's just you know, it's nice
Speaker 1: to meet you, great, you know, some people just come
Speaker 1: and passing. So I think you're he's an engaging guy,
Speaker 1: and I think it's very difficult for you, probably even
Speaker 1: more so than the women that you go with, because
Speaker 1: everybody wants to be part of you. And I think
Speaker 1: that you know what you need? What do I need
Speaker 1: an evil twin?
Speaker 2: Or you need?
Speaker 4: No, you need an evil No. I just don't want
Speaker 4: to sacrifice the best versions of me. No, you're a
Speaker 4: great guy in order to listen. I don't know. I'm
Speaker 4: not going to stop being myself. You know, I want
Speaker 4: to spend more time with you. I can't imagine why
Speaker 4: women wouldn't want to spend more time with you when
Speaker 4: they're just smashing so.
Speaker 2: As you say, especially if the d's good. Well I
Speaker 2: don't want the D.