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<v Speaker 1>All right, it is Mojo in the Morning. keV has

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<v Speaker 1>the next topic. But where the hell do you go?

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<v Speaker 1>Where's uh? Let me know where he's at? Seeing the party?

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<v Speaker 2>What do you?

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<v Speaker 3>What?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you who? You're on the phone with out there?

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<v Speaker 2>You're dying? Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>You could have yeah, you could have lied and said

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<v Speaker 1>I'm on with Josiah.

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<v Speaker 4>You know he's home right now. I'm making sure he

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<v Speaker 4>say I was in the bathroom. I didn't realize that

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<v Speaker 4>the break was social.

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<v Speaker 1>Why does Ace not realize that you're at work doing

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<v Speaker 1>it was a commercial breakout? The peace of facetimed. They

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<v Speaker 1>can hear email. Who's Ash? Is that the newest girl?

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<v Speaker 1>It ain't even like that this is a friend. Okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just making sure I call you later. Goodbye, Ash,

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<v Speaker 1>Get your age off? All right, it's Mojo in the

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<v Speaker 1>Morning show Kevin with hookups, dues and don'ts.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>I do not know how to not be myself and

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<v Speaker 4>in certain situations when you're just hooking up with someone,

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<v Speaker 4>I don't think that me being myself is the best

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<v Speaker 4>thing to be for only hookup situations. The type of

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<v Speaker 4>person I'm the type of person that cares about people.

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<v Speaker 4>I like to get to know who you are. I

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<v Speaker 4>like for you to get to know who I am.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm a very transparent personal person. I'm a very vulnerable individual.

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<v Speaker 4>I like to talk. I like to understand things. I

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<v Speaker 4>like to lend advice. I like to be a listening ear.

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<v Speaker 4>I like to connect. All good. But for people you

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<v Speaker 4>just having sex with, doing all of the things that

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<v Speaker 4>come naturally to me and the things that I like

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<v Speaker 4>to do isn't best for those just physical connections, and

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<v Speaker 4>because of me.

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<v Speaker 2>Doing all those other things. Let me hold the door.

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<v Speaker 4>Open for you, let me come walk you from the

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<v Speaker 4>parking garage. It's not just the smash. Even though I

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<v Speaker 4>do not want a relationship with this person, we start

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<v Speaker 4>to to develop these emotional connections because I'm just not.

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<v Speaker 1>Justking you more because no guy has done that for them.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if no guy has ever done it

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<v Speaker 2>for him. It's just or usually guys that they're in relationships.

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<v Speaker 4>And if it's just a smash and go, I don't

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<v Speaker 4>know how to do that, like that's that's just weird

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<v Speaker 4>to me.

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<v Speaker 5>I feel like you just need to communicate with them.

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<v Speaker 4>I do, but communication doesn't eliminate emotions.

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<v Speaker 6>Because it's very simple. Actions speak louder than words. So

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<v Speaker 6>if I'm on the receiving end of all of that, keV,

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<v Speaker 6>I'm thinking he's telling me he doesn't want anything, but

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<v Speaker 6>he's he clearly is into me.

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<v Speaker 2>But I don't know how to be myself.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't have an answer for you.

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<v Speaker 1>How many how many hookups do you think in your

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<v Speaker 1>life you've had compared to relationships? Way more so, way

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<v Speaker 1>more hookups, absolutely, And how many of those hookups have

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<v Speaker 1>missed took your being you as you wanted a relationship?

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<v Speaker 4>I would say the majority of them. As I am

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<v Speaker 4>later in my life, Like when everybody's like super young,

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<v Speaker 4>early twenties, nothing really mattered like that, Like nobody was

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<v Speaker 4>looking you just love in.

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<v Speaker 2>These situations you're a twenty year old.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, But as like later twenties early thirties, people start

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<v Speaker 4>to change the way they perceive their life and they

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<v Speaker 4>start to want to involve themselves in more serious things.

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<v Speaker 4>Then they want that even though, like I said, we communicated,

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<v Speaker 4>that's not what we both have established that, that's not

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<v Speaker 4>what we're looking for, that's not what we're entering this as.

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<v Speaker 4>But as time progressed, you start learning people they wanted

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<v Speaker 4>to be more. So I'm like, I need some you.

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<v Speaker 2>Know what you need?

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<v Speaker 1>You need a warning label on your warning. This guy

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<v Speaker 1>is just a nice guy but just wants a hook up.

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<v Speaker 1>Warning we'll fall in love. You almost need to honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>you need to forewarn them ahead of time. You almost

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<v Speaker 1>need to say, hey, listen, I'm only looking for a

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<v Speaker 1>hookup before we start.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, let me hold the door open for you. That's

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<v Speaker 2>what I'm saying. That's what it's still mixed.

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<v Speaker 4>And really, yes, we established that going in to it,

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<v Speaker 4>that we are not looking hot.

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<v Speaker 1>Would it be if a girl just said to you,

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to f you and I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>anything else.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's what they say. Also say that to you.

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<v Speaker 4>What I'm saying is I communicate my intentions. They communicate

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<v Speaker 4>their intentions. They're not looking for a relationship either. It

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<v Speaker 4>gets muddy, but you don't communicate that right away. You

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<v Speaker 4>just spend time with them.

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<v Speaker 2>Fir no, no, no, no.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I would say, first time we get drinks,

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<v Speaker 1>so you say them right the first time you get drinks.

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<v Speaker 1>You have actually said to a girl, I'm just looking

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<v Speaker 1>to as you say, smash.

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<v Speaker 2>The first time I've done it. You sit there and

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<v Speaker 2>tell me about yourself, what's going on.

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<v Speaker 4>I like to be upfront with people and say, listen,

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<v Speaker 4>I find you extremely attractive. I'm not here to be

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<v Speaker 4>your friend, like I don't waiting around for I'm not

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<v Speaker 4>like but I'm not. I'm not taking you out because

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<v Speaker 4>I wanted to get to know you. I can never

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<v Speaker 4>say that, Oh see, I.

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<v Speaker 6>Think keV is very black and white with your words.

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<v Speaker 6>I think you're very blunt. You say it like it is.

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<v Speaker 2>I couldn't.

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<v Speaker 6>I think though that where I keep using the word

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<v Speaker 6>money because it does it gets gray.

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<v Speaker 2>Is you you are. You act differently.

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<v Speaker 6>You say something and you're very clear about what you

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<v Speaker 6>say and what you want. But you're right your behavior.

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<v Speaker 6>I could see where a girl would be like, well,

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<v Speaker 6>I think he's this is changing into something else.

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<v Speaker 4>You're still a woman. You still should be treated with

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<v Speaker 4>respect and as a woman. Just because I don't want

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<v Speaker 4>a relationship with you doesn't mean I need to just

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<v Speaker 4>treat you like an object.

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<v Speaker 5>I think opening doors is one thing. I think it's

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<v Speaker 5>the emotional stuff, like the talking and getting to know them.

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<v Speaker 5>That's where I personally would be like, oh, he really

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<v Speaker 5>does care about me, so.

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<v Speaker 2>I've seen that in this studio before. What you talking

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<v Speaker 2>about right now? What's going on? How are you?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm good?

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<v Speaker 2>How are you good? What's going on?

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<v Speaker 4>When you when you just.

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<v Speaker 7>Said a second ago, really spoke to me, you said,

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<v Speaker 7>they start liking me more because no one has ever

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<v Speaker 7>done that for them, And that's so true. Like when

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<v Speaker 7>I was dating, I feel like I was like looking back,

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<v Speaker 7>I was definitely the queen of the Lulu. Like when

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<v Speaker 7>somebody would do something nice to me, I would just

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<v Speaker 7>be like, oh, yea, he wants to do with me.

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<v Speaker 7>And like keV was saying, you know, when you're younger,

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<v Speaker 7>you know, it's more like you're just kind of wanting

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<v Speaker 7>a hookup. But me, I actually got married at twenty

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<v Speaker 7>years old, so like I you know, kind of went

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<v Speaker 7>through that stuff early on, was like this is enough.

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<v Speaker 1>So do you think that you guys got to have

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<v Speaker 1>that open conversation that's what, you know, get it out

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<v Speaker 1>in the forefront, like Kevin actually will say, here are

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<v Speaker 1>my intentions.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, I definitely that's really really important because yeah, you

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<v Speaker 7>don't want to have any misunderstanding because I always did.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, what's going on? Shanna?

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<v Speaker 5>Hi?

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<v Speaker 8>Hi?

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<v Speaker 9>So I've basically didn't single my entire life. And I

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<v Speaker 9>have friends, as I call them, and they will always

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<v Speaker 9>be my friends. But I'm very upfront about the fact

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<v Speaker 9>that I have almost three grown kids. One of my

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<v Speaker 9>kids is in the Navy, I travel all the time,

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<v Speaker 9>I have grandkids, I have a full time job. Like

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<v Speaker 9>I don't want anything serious, and we might even like

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<v Speaker 9>go to dinner, go to oasis, like do things. Still

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<v Speaker 9>not in a relationship and I don't want anything serious.

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<v Speaker 1>So you tell them right away all of that stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>and what what what kind of reactions have you gotten

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<v Speaker 1>from these guys?

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<v Speaker 9>I mean, most of them are cool with it, but yes,

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<v Speaker 9>some of them do get feelings. And some of them

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<v Speaker 9>are like, are you gonna stay and cuddle And I'm like, no,

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<v Speaker 9>I'm going home to cuddle.

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<v Speaker 1>With my dogs.

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<v Speaker 10>By the way.

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<v Speaker 1>By the way, that is interesting because I think that,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you would not think that guys would be

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<v Speaker 1>that way.

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<v Speaker 2>The stereotype would be women than.

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<v Speaker 9>Women probably, and they always think that they can change things.

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<v Speaker 9>But you just have to be very direct with them

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<v Speaker 9>and don't get in those deep conversations. I kind of

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<v Speaker 9>keep everything light, but at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 9>still a time caring, loving person and they all love that,

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<v Speaker 9>and a lot of them haven't experienced that book. I

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<v Speaker 9>don't want to be with anyone. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 9>be with anyone. I want to like, I'm too invested

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<v Speaker 9>in my life.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, they used to have it. They used to have

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<v Speaker 1>a dating app for this. It was called Tinder, and

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<v Speaker 1>that everybody go on there that doesn't want anything other

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<v Speaker 1>than just they should just have like literally a thing

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<v Speaker 1>where it's like just a hook up.

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<v Speaker 4>I like that, though. I like connected with somebody beyond

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<v Speaker 4>just that.

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<v Speaker 1>I like to understand who's I'm not even I just like,

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<v Speaker 1>but you don't want a relationship, Yeah, it's I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's just who I am. Like, I like connecting with people.

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<v Speaker 1>Hold on, Toya is not happy. It sounds like with Kevin,

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<v Speaker 1>what's up?

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<v Speaker 9>Hey, who's going on?

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<v Speaker 10>keV?

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<v Speaker 2>What's up?

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<v Speaker 9>My baby?

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<v Speaker 2>Listen.

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<v Speaker 8>There's two points I'm gonna make real quick.

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<v Speaker 5>One.

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<v Speaker 8>I think that you should chill out because I know

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<v Speaker 8>or you share that eventually you want to settle down, Eventually,

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<v Speaker 8>you want a family, you know, et.

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<v Speaker 2>Cetera, et cetera.

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<v Speaker 8>And I think in this stage right now that just

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<v Speaker 8>doing hookups is why things are confusing. The second point

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<v Speaker 8>is I even though you're communicating, I feel that there

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<v Speaker 8>are some women who understand that and are going into

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<v Speaker 8>it just like you. Right, They're not intentionally saying like, oh,

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<v Speaker 8>he's changing his mind.

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<v Speaker 9>But we're human.

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<v Speaker 8>We are made with feelings. We like feeling love, we

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<v Speaker 8>like feeling care, we like feeling protected. And because being

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<v Speaker 8>the awesome, you know, beautiful cook king that you are,

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<v Speaker 8>it exudes right and whether you want it to or not,

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<v Speaker 8>and then that's when things get mixed up, I think

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<v Speaker 8>on both ends. So I don't think the women are

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<v Speaker 8>saying are not listening to you. I just think as

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<v Speaker 8>time goes on and you're doing those relationship based things,

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<v Speaker 8>that it's getting confusing. So I know some time back,

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<v Speaker 8>you took some time to you know, just be to yourself,

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<v Speaker 8>and I think, really reevaluate what your intentions are for

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<v Speaker 8>twenty twenty six. Are you truly trying to find love?

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<v Speaker 9>What is your goal?

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<v Speaker 8>Are you truly getting to the point where you want

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<v Speaker 8>to be in a relationship And it really just takes

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<v Speaker 8>time to focus on that. And you know there's other

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<v Speaker 8>things besides cooking up. If you need to do what

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<v Speaker 8>you need to do, Okay, now, y'all know, I love y'all.

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<v Speaker 9>What.

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<v Speaker 2>I appreciate all that.

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<v Speaker 4>I know exactly what I want for twenty twenty six

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<v Speaker 4>in regards it is, I don't want a relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>That's not what I'm after.

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<v Speaker 4>If that happens, or if someone comes around that changes

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<v Speaker 4>my mind, then we'll be intentionally moving in that interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>So your thing focused is your is I'm not finding somebody.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I mean that's what I communicate. I'm not actively

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<v Speaker 4>looking for a relationship.

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<v Speaker 5>I have a question. Have you ever been in the

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<v Speaker 5>situation where you do these things and you start to

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<v Speaker 5>maybe catch a little bit of feelings, No, like as

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<v Speaker 5>you get to know them and hear their stories.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I mean Gene, Yeah, I mean I start to

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<v Speaker 4>like the person. But I've never been in a situation

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<v Speaker 4>where I've like said, Okay, yes you are somebody I

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<v Speaker 4>want to move forward.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, like not like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I've noticed that the girl that there was one girl

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<v Speaker 1>that you would that wouldn't do the relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>She was like, your bestie, that's the one.

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<v Speaker 6>Then she came remember that. I feel like then she

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<v Speaker 6>came around and was like.

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe I do like yeah, but best we haven't done

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<v Speaker 4>anything sexually though, Like that's not a part of our friendship.

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<v Speaker 1>James has a very important question to ask. I think

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<v Speaker 1>this is interesting because I don't even know the answer. James,

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<v Speaker 1>what's your question?

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<v Speaker 3>keV?

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<v Speaker 2>Has your like, just asked the question? Just ask the question?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, has your hookup gone up since you've been

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<v Speaker 3>on the radio, like since you started your radio job?

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<v Speaker 4>No, I mean not significantly. No, I don't listen, that's nothing.

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<v Speaker 4>I just I don't sleep with everybody who want to

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<v Speaker 4>sleep with me? How many books don't do that?

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<v Speaker 1>Since you started on the radio, how many hookups?

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<v Speaker 2>Not a lot? That crazy?

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<v Speaker 1>Like more or less? Like we're checking boxes one to

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<v Speaker 1>three for.

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<v Speaker 4>Sav I would say, listen to you, bro, I'm not

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know a week. I don't know what y'all

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<v Speaker 4>think of me. But it's not I'm not out here

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<v Speaker 4>like this.

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<v Speaker 2>This is good for us to hear. Yeah, I'm Eric.

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<v Speaker 2>What's out Eric?

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<v Speaker 3>So Kevin is very transparent and saying what he wants.

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<v Speaker 2>M hmm.

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<v Speaker 3>But as humans, we learn about ourselves every single day.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe he hasn't learned this about himself. Maybe he's not

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<v Speaker 3>an actual f boy. Maybe he is a relationship man.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, kind of sounds like it. I love people,

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<v Speaker 3>I like people. I was about to get married. I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know where does like Kevin is an f boy

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<v Speaker 3>thing comes from? We do we forget the last year

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<v Speaker 3>and a half of my life and only focused on

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<v Speaker 3>the last six months.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think that's.

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<v Speaker 3>Why I no, no, no, you're in your whole phase.

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<v Speaker 1>Well but no, but that is why a surprise came

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<v Speaker 1>out that you said this year you're just you're not

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<v Speaker 1>looking for a relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>That surprising. Why is that surprising?

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<v Speaker 6>Because I feel like you've always talked about how you

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<v Speaker 6>want to get married, you possibly want to have more kids.

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<v Speaker 2>So I just thought, yeah, but I'm not.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not looking for the one though, Like I'm not

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<v Speaker 4>out here on the hunt, on the chase.

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<v Speaker 5>They say that's when it finds you, But.

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<v Speaker 4>When it finds me. I think at the right time,

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<v Speaker 4>it will find me. I'm not out here looking for

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<v Speaker 4>it though, not looking for it. But if it should.

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<v Speaker 2>Happen, if it should happen, if it's meant to be,

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<v Speaker 2>it will be God all right, all right.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't get any dues and don't stuf, but you know,

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<v Speaker 4>I like where things are going to again, last words

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<v Speaker 4>from Heather on this one here.

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<v Speaker 10>I think it's more like kind of like what Toya

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<v Speaker 10>said and then the gentleman that just talked, I think

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<v Speaker 10>Kevin wants a relationship. He knows he wants a relationship.

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<v Speaker 10>But it's also a respect thing. When you go to

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<v Speaker 10>the female and you said, I just want to smash,

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<v Speaker 10>and he just wants to smash, then a woman kind

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<v Speaker 10>of takes the respect like she's got no respect for herself,

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<v Speaker 10>none for Kevin. They're gonna play, they're gonna have fun

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<v Speaker 10>on all of that. But then when Kevin's showing the

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<v Speaker 10>emotion back, that's telling her maybe he does like me,

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<v Speaker 10>because this doesn't isn't my you know what, buddy. He's

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<v Speaker 10>kind of making, you know, making me feel like I

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<v Speaker 10>have feelings for him, and she's probably getting back for him,

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<v Speaker 10>you know what I mean. I think it's more of

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<v Speaker 10>a respect that either Kevin needs to say, Okay, we

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<v Speaker 10>need to smash.

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<v Speaker 8>That's it.

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<v Speaker 10>But I can't treat you like a lady. Don't open

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<v Speaker 10>my door when you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 3>Does that make.

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<v Speaker 2>Sense kind of? But I can't operate like that. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not you know what I mean.

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<v Speaker 10>You can't operate like that, then you can't. Don't look

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<v Speaker 10>for a smash buddy, you are looking for a relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>Can I tell you what I think Kevin's problem is

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<v Speaker 1>Kevin Kevin is a guy female or even male. When

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<v Speaker 1>you meet him, you love him, and you don't want

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<v Speaker 1>just Kevin in your life from moment you wanted in

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<v Speaker 1>there for a while. And I think the problem with

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<v Speaker 1>you is you're so engaging as a human being that

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<v Speaker 1>people are drawn to you.

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<v Speaker 2>So if you.

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<v Speaker 1>Are and this is even with you know, dudes, guys

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<v Speaker 1>want to be your best buddy because when they meet you,

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<v Speaker 1>they're like, this is a guy I want to have

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<v Speaker 1>in my life. And if you're just looking for I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what do you call a guy that's not

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<v Speaker 1>a non smash buddy, you know what I mean? Like

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<v Speaker 1>if you're looking for like if you just want a

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<v Speaker 1>guy for like, hey, let's just you know, it's nice

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<v Speaker 1>to meet you, great, you know, some people just come

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<v Speaker 1>and passing. So I think you're he's an engaging guy,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think it's very difficult for you, probably even

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<v Speaker 1>more so than the women that you go with, because

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<v Speaker 1>everybody wants to be part of you. And I think

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<v Speaker 1>that you know what you need? What do I need

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<v Speaker 1>an evil twin?

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<v Speaker 2>Or you need?

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<v Speaker 4>No, you need an evil No. I just don't want

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<v Speaker 4>to sacrifice the best versions of me. No, you're a

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<v Speaker 4>great guy in order to listen. I don't know. I'm

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<v Speaker 4>not going to stop being myself. You know, I want

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<v Speaker 4>to spend more time with you. I can't imagine why

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<v Speaker 4>women wouldn't want to spend more time with you when

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<v Speaker 4>they're just smashing so.

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<v Speaker 2>As you say, especially if the d's good. Well I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want the D.