Speaker 1: It's the second date update, Mojo in the morning, Second
Speaker 1: date update.
Speaker 2: Why are you not getting a callback after you went
Speaker 2: on a date? Fernando was being very very honest on
Speaker 2: his first date and had a good time with Sophia,
Speaker 2: said that things went good.
Speaker 1: What'd you guys do?
Speaker 3: We just went on a date. It's pretty much.
Speaker 1: It just went drinks, just had and drinks. Okay.
Speaker 2: I And now she's not calling you back and he
Speaker 2: wants to know what's going on. Sophia is on with us.
Speaker 2: Fernando say hello to Sophia.
Speaker 1: Hello, Hi, Sophia.
Speaker 2: Would say, say tell us what's going on? Guys? What's
Speaker 2: going on here? Fernando just seems so down Sophia listen
Speaker 2: to that. He's sad. He says he's not hearing from yet.
Speaker 2: What's going on?
Speaker 3: Would?
Speaker 1: Did you not have a good time on the date?
Speaker 4: I mean we did have a good time, you know.
Speaker 4: If he's a really nice guy, I just I just
Speaker 4: can't be with him.
Speaker 2: Well, okay, why can you not be with him?
Speaker 4: I think I really don't want to, you know, talk
Speaker 4: about anyone. It was like personal business. I don't think
Speaker 4: it's right.
Speaker 1: But can I ask him if it's okay? If you
Speaker 1: tell some business on the air. I mean, I guess, Fernando.
Speaker 2: Are you okay if she tells you why she doesn't
Speaker 2: want to go on a date with you and it
Speaker 2: might be a little personal for.
Speaker 5: You, Sure, whatever, go ahead?
Speaker 1: You got the okay, Sophia?
Speaker 4: Okay? I mean after the dates, you know, we were
Speaker 4: in the car and I went to kiss him and
Speaker 4: she stopped me and told me that he has heart
Speaker 4: bees and that it's only really contagious if it's octave.
Speaker 1: Hold one a second, what's Fernando? Do you want to
Speaker 1: stop it?
Speaker 3: Yeah? I didn't do anything wrong. I hand it like
Speaker 3: an adult.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 2: Are you okay with her continuing to talk? Or do
Speaker 2: you not want her to say anymore?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 5: No, no, no, that's no, that's too much.
Speaker 3: No. I mean I didn't think you were going to
Speaker 3: say that on air. What was going on? Why would
Speaker 3: you say that?
Speaker 4: I mean, I just wanted to comfortable being with somebody,
Speaker 4: you know, who has something like that where it's it's
Speaker 4: pretty much it's.
Speaker 3: Never I understand that.
Speaker 5: But I said that was confidence to tell you that
Speaker 5: I have that, because you know, I was, you know,
Speaker 5: trying to be a responsible adult and tell you that
Speaker 5: I had, you know, hurtpees and I don't want you to.
Speaker 3: I didn't think you were going to say that all
Speaker 3: on air.
Speaker 2: And then let's not talk anymore about it if you
Speaker 2: don't feel comfortable. But I'd just like to know, like,
Speaker 2: what was the setting was this. Were you guys in
Speaker 2: a in a position where you were just talking or
Speaker 2: were you guys about to be get into we.
Speaker 3: Were like about to get not intimate, but to give
Speaker 3: a kiss. And then I stopped her and.
Speaker 5: I said, hey, like, you know, I have this, and
Speaker 5: I said it with confidence, and you know, I wanted to,
Speaker 5: you know, be responsible and say, hey, like, I have this,
Speaker 5: and I want you to know that.
Speaker 6: First and foremost, I respect you for coming out and
Speaker 6: saying agreed and I apology.
Speaker 1: That couldn't have been an easy thing, but it was
Speaker 1: the right thing to do.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, I didn't want to be you know, irresponsible.
Speaker 3: And spread and if it's if it's active so far
Speaker 3: it's not as active as not active. But at the
Speaker 3: same time, you know, I said that with confidence. Yeah
Speaker 3: all right, So.
Speaker 2: So so Sophia, I think Fernando and you kind of
Speaker 2: started this, Fernando by saying you could have told me
Speaker 2: you wanted to know that on the night of the
Speaker 2: date or maybe afterwards, like send a text. You didn't
Speaker 2: want to have to be constantly calling and then have
Speaker 2: to be on our show doing this.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, I feel like that's the most respectful
Speaker 5: way to do it is just tell me.
Speaker 3: Afterwards and be like, hey, I'm not interested because.
Speaker 5: Of what you told me.
Speaker 1: I would have been cool with that.
Speaker 3: But ghost me and not telling me, I think that's a.
Speaker 1: Mess about man. So, Phil, do you do you understand
Speaker 1: that and you feel bad about that?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, I mean I understand I could have
Speaker 4: done it in a different way. I was just a
Speaker 4: little bit in shocks, and I don't really know how
Speaker 4: to say it, you know, wasn't really sure how to
Speaker 4: how to approach it. I didn't wanted to say.
Speaker 1: The obviously.
Speaker 2: Hold on one second call from Allison here calling in
Speaker 2: eight four form of Joe Live or text ninety five
Speaker 2: zero zero. Allison, what do you think of what just
Speaker 2: happened on the air here with Fernando and Sofia.
Speaker 7: I kind of thinks he's a little a holess. I
Speaker 7: feel like Fernando was, you know, was quite a bit.
Speaker 1: That was a big adult move to do.
Speaker 6: And I feel like people have call stores every day,
Speaker 6: like all the time, like you've never had a call.
Speaker 4: For and like, like he said, instead of just goes.
Speaker 7: To him, just why would you just tell.
Speaker 4: Him like, hey, I'm not really comfortable.
Speaker 1: With it, Like let's be adults here.
Speaker 8: Yeah, I am. I say that every second date update.
Speaker 1: It's yeah, what what's up?
Speaker 9: High morning?
Speaker 1: Everyone, morning, what's going on.
Speaker 9: I think it's great that he was you know, honest
Speaker 9: and open and sharing. You know, he he has this
Speaker 9: and you know, obviously concerned for maybe not concerned is
Speaker 9: the right words, but letting her know up front. But
Speaker 9: it almost sounds like he is saying like, well, I
Speaker 9: told you so you should be fine with that. I mean,
Speaker 9: obviously he can he can control.
Speaker 7: You know, consults and telling her, but he doesn't get.
Speaker 9: To control you know, for reaction. If yeah, he he
Speaker 9: did a great job telling her, but if she doesn't
Speaker 9: want you know that, and you know he was someone
Speaker 9: that has this, and that's we're progative.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I do agree.
Speaker 2: I'm both two callers are very smart in their comments.
Speaker 2: I do agree, But she should have said something, probably
Speaker 2: so that it didn't come to the point where he
Speaker 2: was on a radio show talking about.
Speaker 6: It, and I think that's his issue, not the fact
Speaker 6: that she doesn't want to move forward, the fact that
Speaker 6: she didn't say anything.
Speaker 2: Although Fernando, is it tough to date after you tell that?
Speaker 2: Have you had a lot of people that won't give
Speaker 2: you a second chance?
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean it's just tough because you're vulnerable out
Speaker 5: there expressing how you have this, and then you know
Speaker 5: then by the second after her, like they changed their
Speaker 5: attitude or they just don't call me in the next
Speaker 5: day or anything. It's just, you know, I thought being
Speaker 5: honest will be get you far.
Speaker 8: But I don't know.
Speaker 1: Rachel wants to comment, what's up, Rachel?
Speaker 2: This is such a narcissistic thing for him to do.
Speaker 7: For him to have you guys call her to see
Speaker 7: why she wouldn't want a.
Speaker 1: Second date, knowing full and well why.
Speaker 10: She wouldn't want a second date, it's just manipulative and
Speaker 10: narcissistic and.
Speaker 2: Disgusting, narcissistic. I have no idea where you're going with that.
Speaker 1: I think that is. I think that is way out
Speaker 1: of line to say why.
Speaker 9: Mojo, because he knew why she.
Speaker 4: Didn't want to No, he did not oh, yes, he
Speaker 4: did you tell.
Speaker 6: Me if you if you Mojo had her.
Speaker 4: Bees and you went on a date and didn't tell
Speaker 4: that person beforehand, you want to think that that's the
Speaker 4: reason why.
Speaker 2: No, I think it would be narcissistic to not tell
Speaker 2: somebody and go ahead with the kiss. Uh, you know,
Speaker 2: And narcissistic, by the way, is thrown around way too
Speaker 2: much these days, and it makes no sense in this case.
Speaker 2: I think what he's doing is he's being responsible. I
Speaker 2: don't think that that's you know, that's he's being responsible
Speaker 2: by telling her. He could be irresponsible by not saying
Speaker 2: anything and going through with a kiss and then telling
Speaker 2: her at a.
Speaker 5: Later date, But it would have been more responsible to
Speaker 5: tell her before the date, to give her that option.
Speaker 2: So should say that to her before we go out
Speaker 2: for drinks here, I'd like to let you know I've
Speaker 2: got herpes.
Speaker 1: Put it in his bid, Rachel, somebody.
Speaker 4: Else who has well, I don't know.
Speaker 6: I would say also, like I've dealt with the woman
Speaker 6: that eventually came out and told me that she had herpes,
Speaker 6: and it does it at least from my one isolated
Speaker 6: experience with this one particular person. It's not the easiest
Speaker 6: conversation to have. There's a stigma attached to it. Everybody
Speaker 6: look at you like, is you're dirty and you have
Speaker 6: quote unquote like old schoolways on the playgrounds.
Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure. And she didn't tell you before the
Speaker 2: kiss or after the kids. I don't remember that.
Speaker 1: I'm that.
Speaker 6: But the like you can have oral herpes, you got
Speaker 6: vaginal herpes? Yea vaginal herpes you can't get.
Speaker 8: It's like it's like one and two.
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's got contact and for that to be contracted
Speaker 6: through salve and stuff like that.
Speaker 11: I don't know if we talked about it on the show,
Speaker 11: somebody called in, but there is a website or like
Speaker 11: a dating service really for people who have I don't
Speaker 11: know if it's just herpes or STDs, just so you know,
Speaker 11: to Fernando's point, it is like a vulnerable thing to
Speaker 11: have to share, and a lot of people are you know,
Speaker 11: don't don't want to deal with it. But then you
Speaker 11: have a community of people who are in your same
Speaker 11: boat and get it.
Speaker 1: What's going on.
Speaker 9: Gloria, Hi, good morning, guys. I'm so I'm just I'm curious.
Speaker 9: I don't know if this makes a difference or not,
Speaker 9: but I was wondering, is this like a sexually transmitted
Speaker 9: herpes or is this like cold store herpees? Because I
Speaker 9: know a lot of people that get cold stores and
Speaker 9: they say they have herpes. So I was just wondering.
Speaker 2: Like Fernando's like, I don't even know if I want
Speaker 2: want to ask him to share because he was not
Speaker 2: comfortable with So yeah.
Speaker 1: I don't know. Well, let me move past that.
Speaker 2: But that's an interesting comment in question, Chris, you ghosted
Speaker 2: a girl for having her pies.
Speaker 12: Yeah, I kind of did the same thing that this
Speaker 12: girl did, so I kind of understand. But I wasn't
Speaker 12: wanting to hurt the girl's feelings and make her feel
Speaker 12: nasty and all that, so I kind of just stopped
Speaker 12: talking to her, and then, you know, it eventually came out, Hey,
Speaker 12: this is why I don't want to be with you.
Speaker 12: I won't tell anyone. You know, your seeker's good with me.
Speaker 12: But I understand that she didn't know what to say
Speaker 12: because I've been in that same situation.
Speaker 2: Yeah, how would you react? I don't think anybody knows
Speaker 2: until they're in it. Raymond maybe nicer than Rachel, the
Speaker 2: lady who called up with her comment, but Raymond you
Speaker 2: actually think that he should have done it way differently,
Speaker 2: And what do you think.
Speaker 7: I believe if he's not insecure about his herpes, why
Speaker 7: not do it before the date? Let her know? Okay,
Speaker 7: I got hurt, but let people know before. I think
Speaker 7: it was wrong with him to just come in for
Speaker 7: a kiss and oh, by the way, I have herpes.
Speaker 7: I just feel like he should have handled it different.
Speaker 2: So he should have said something to her while they
Speaker 2: were having drinks, not when they're about to kiss.
Speaker 7: Yes, why are you doing it right before you're about
Speaker 7: to kiss the lady in the mouth? That's why she
Speaker 7: probably like, I don't know how to take this. I
Speaker 7: don't know what to.
Speaker 2: Do, you know, I don't know if there's the perfect time,
Speaker 2: but I do think that unfortunately in this case, I
Speaker 2: don't think we can come down on either one of
Speaker 2: these guys. I don't know if you have to tell
Speaker 2: somebody before the date though, really I don't.
Speaker 11: Yeah, I don't know, Like maybe he just wanted to.
Speaker 6: Because every day it doesn't have to end in kissing
Speaker 6: or sex, so it may not even be a situation
Speaker 6: where I need to bring that up until I really
Speaker 6: understand that this is somebody I feel a connection with
Speaker 6: and I want to share that information.
Speaker 2: Hold on a second initial K on with us right now?
Speaker 2: K voice disguised, what's up?
Speaker 3: But I.
Speaker 10: Haven't heard really tall so first time.
Speaker 1: The first time, so.
Speaker 10: I I just wanted to give crops too. I believe
Speaker 10: it was Brandon. I also have HSV one. It's it's
Speaker 10: not something that you read a date with. You're not
Speaker 10: going to go out and just tell people that that's
Speaker 10: something that you carry.
Speaker 1: It's it's it's.
Speaker 10: One of those things that you share with people once
Speaker 10: they get on that level, and if they take it,
Speaker 10: they take it, they don't.
Speaker 8: So is that like that that? Which one is it?
Speaker 8: Which HS one is? Which one? The cold source question?
Speaker 11: Why so you you don't feel the need to share that,
Speaker 11: Like do you just kind of think everybody gets cold soores?
Speaker 10: Or so I'm a spoke actually then because I have
Speaker 10: the genital version.
Speaker 8: Oh okay, okay, when do you tell people?
Speaker 1: When do you?
Speaker 3: When?
Speaker 1: Will you tell somebody?
Speaker 10: So I will tell somebody, but obviously before I'm intimate.
Speaker 10: It depends on where I'm at in the relationship. If
Speaker 10: it's the first day, second day, it depends on how
Speaker 10: they are and how comfortable I am with them, I'm
Speaker 10: obviously not going to be intimate with them until I
Speaker 10: get there.
Speaker 1: But but you will kiss them and do mouth.
Speaker 2: Stuff, but will not get sexually intimate with them.
Speaker 10: I have kissed, yes, but I also haven't had an
Speaker 10: outbreak in like five years.
Speaker 1: Okay, all right? Uh?
Speaker 2: And you do you think in this case here that
Speaker 2: Fernando with his whatever whichever you know, Casey has And
Speaker 2: I'm not going to ask him, but do you think that.
Speaker 1: He could follow what you do?
Speaker 2: Or do you think that he did it right by
Speaker 2: saying something to her before they actually, you know, touched
Speaker 2: each other's whatevers.
Speaker 10: I think I think it was amazing for him to
Speaker 10: do that. It takes a lot of courage to be
Speaker 10: that vulnerable with somebody that you just not If she's
Speaker 10: not willing to understand that, then bro, she ain't for you.
Speaker 2: I agree. I agree one hundred percent. And I think
Speaker 2: that he handled it right. And I appreciate him coming
Speaker 2: on the air with us, and I hope that he's
Speaker 2: not too shamed by this, because I think that there's
Speaker 2: nothing to be shamed about. We're going to be back
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