Speaker 1: I've got a dilemma, and this is really interesting. It's
Speaker 1: came in via email. Hey, warning show crew, list is
Speaker 1: this one? I have a dilemma. My husband and I
Speaker 1: got married during COVID, so we didn't have a real wedding.
Speaker 1: We promised each other that when COVID cleared up, we'll
Speaker 1: have a big, elaborate wedding. My mom bought a dress
Speaker 1: for it, thinking, like a lot of us did, that
Speaker 1: COVID wouldn't last very long. But now it's five years later,
Speaker 1: they've got all this money saved up for this thirty
Speaker 1: thousand dollars wedding. She says, I don't know if we
Speaker 1: want to spend thirty thousand on a wedding. I know
Speaker 1: our whole family wants to celebrate our love since they
Speaker 1: didn't get to in twenty twenty. We can afford it.
Speaker 1: We got the money saved up. But now the newness
Speaker 1: of being married is kind of over. And that sounds awful,
Speaker 1: but I get it. I get it completely. We've been
Speaker 1: married five years. The honeymoon phase of being married is
Speaker 1: gone and passed. We got one kid already, another one
Speaker 1: on the way, So now I'm just in this dilemma
Speaker 1: do we have the big wedding or not? What do
Speaker 1: you think, jen.
Speaker 2: Oh man, I mean to have that amount of money
Speaker 2: saved up and not be like hyped about having a
Speaker 2: big wedding makes me feel like you should think about
Speaker 2: something else you could do with that money that like
Speaker 2: maybe celebrates you now as a family, because now you
Speaker 2: do have a kid and you have another one in
Speaker 2: the way. You said, so maybe use it to go
Speaker 2: on the most extravagant family vacation. But yeah, when you
Speaker 2: have young kids, I know that like traveling isn't really
Speaker 2: like top.
Speaker 1: Of mind for you.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, so it's like, I don't know, Well, what
Speaker 3: do you.
Speaker 1: Think as you're listening to the show, what do you
Speaker 1: think that you would do? Would you like you promised
Speaker 1: each other? Oh my god. So they'd probably you know,
Speaker 1: plann their wedding for a couple of years. Who knows.
Speaker 1: Maybe it was June first of twenty twenty. They're in
Speaker 1: the height of COVID. Well COVID comes in. You go,
Speaker 1: We're not get married with a big wedding because we
Speaker 1: really can't. Nobody wants to come. So they get married
Speaker 1: like you know, with a friend or the courthouse or whatever,
Speaker 1: with the promise that when COVID clears up, they will
Speaker 1: have the big thirty thousand dollars wedding. Here's COVID cleared up,
Speaker 1: everybody can be safe, and they're not sure they want
Speaker 1: to spend the money on it.
Speaker 4: I'm with you, Jenny.
Speaker 1: I would rather go on like a big memorable cruise,
Speaker 1: have grandma watch the kids so they get another one
Speaker 1: on the way. That's a problem. Yeah, it depends on
Speaker 1: how on the way it is. You know, is it
Speaker 1: doing like six days or six months.
Speaker 2: It doesn't sound like they've planned anything yet, so clearly,
Speaker 2: like if you are planning a wedding, you're planning that
Speaker 2: like a year out anyways. So realistically a trip in
Speaker 2: a year or a wedding in a year both very
Speaker 2: high possibilities. But you're definitely not going to go on
Speaker 2: a cruise with a newborn.
Speaker 4: No, No, you'd be surprised.
Speaker 5: Some people do it, and I don't think that they should,
Speaker 5: but you know, you live your life. I guess I
Speaker 5: think you should have the wedding man. And anything that
Speaker 5: happened in COVID didn't really happen in my mind, because
Speaker 5: COVID was such a just a weird a weird time,
Speaker 5: and I mean, I'm glad you're content, but you deserve
Speaker 5: the wedding.
Speaker 3: She sounds like she's not super hyped about it.
Speaker 4: Though, but I deserve it.
Speaker 3: I've never been married, so I don't know.
Speaker 2: What it's like to have those like first few years
Speaker 2: in marriage.
Speaker 3: Where you're like so excited I'm married whatever. Well most
Speaker 3: people are, who knows. But so I don't know what
Speaker 3: that's like.
Speaker 2: But I could imagine that, like five years down the road,
Speaker 2: I would be like, yeah, I don't think I really
Speaker 2: need a wedding anymore.
Speaker 4: I would kind of agree with that.
Speaker 1: I think if you're not excited about it to the
Speaker 1: point where you're writing to katie' but you be in
Speaker 1: saying should I have this, You're gonna find something more
Speaker 1: fun that you want to do with that thirty thousand
Speaker 1: dollars point. I mean, maybe it's like you know, I mean,
Speaker 1: something as simple as a bathroom remodel or new kitchen, well,
Speaker 1: I don't know how much that costs, but spend it
Speaker 1: on something fun. Spend it on something that I mean
Speaker 1: that was meant to be fun money. And I'm going
Speaker 1: to tell you one more thing. You're saying that all
Speaker 1: your friends and relatives wanted to celebrate your love with
Speaker 1: you and come to your wedding. They've forgotten about it.
Speaker 1: I mean they've not forgotten about it, but they're not
Speaker 1: sitting there going God Whin or Grace and John, whatever
Speaker 1: your names are, gonna have that wedding. We really want
Speaker 1: to set aside a weekend and buy a crock pot.
Speaker 1: They're not. They don't care. They love you, but they
Speaker 1: don't care. It's five years.
Speaker 5: Too young to renew your vows. Maybe do that and
Speaker 5: they make it a trip.
Speaker 2: Yeah, a lot of people are saying, throw a big
Speaker 2: party and then use.
Speaker 4: These text messages.
Speaker 3: Yeah, via text messages.
Speaker 2: They should throw a big party to celebrate, but then
Speaker 2: use the rest of the money for yourselves. Or it's
Speaker 2: like a house or renovation or a vacation or something
Speaker 2: like that.
Speaker 3: Bring your most loved ones on a trip and hire a.
Speaker 2: Nanny for your kids, whether you can kind of like
Speaker 2: enjoy it, enjoy time with your loved ones, have the
Speaker 2: kids there, but also probably be able to have some
Speaker 2: free time on your own.
Speaker 1: There's a text that says the only person that cares
Speaker 1: is your mother because the mom bought the new dress.
Speaker 1: Probably move on, no wedding. Another text kind of sums
Speaker 1: up what I think. Weddings are fun, but vacations are
Speaker 1: more fun, and vacations last a week and a wedding
Speaker 1: is done in six hours. Nothing wrong with a wedding.
Speaker 1: Thirty thousand dollars spread out over a week is going
Speaker 1: to be a lot more fun than thirty thousand dollars
Speaker 1: spread out. I don't even know. Tell me the truth.
Speaker 1: If you are a bride or a groom, did you
Speaker 1: have fun at your wedding? Did you mean, be honest
Speaker 1: with me, did you have fun at your wedding? Or
Speaker 1: was it And I'm not trying to plan a seed,
Speaker 1: but was it more stressful and hectic and just a
Speaker 1: big rush of blur through the day.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's a it's a real question because a lot
Speaker 5: of people say when you plan a wedding, it's more
Speaker 5: so for the people going to the wedding, because you know,
Speaker 5: you're trying to make sure the music for them is good,
Speaker 5: the food for them is good. Yeah, obviously to celebrate you.
Speaker 5: Let's talk to Dan. He went through the same situation.
Speaker 5: Dan's on the phone. Yeah, you can call it too,
Speaker 5: six five, one, nine, eight nine KDWB.
Speaker 4: Hi Dan, Hey guys going good if you missed it.
Speaker 1: There's a woman who wrote in she got married during COVID.
Speaker 1: They had planned a big thirty thousand dollars wedding. They
Speaker 1: didn't spend it because of COVID. Now they promised themselves
Speaker 1: five years later when COVID was done, and now it's
Speaker 1: completely safe to be out. But now she's like, I
Speaker 1: got the money, I don't know if I want to
Speaker 1: have a wedding or spend it on something else.
Speaker 4: What do you think?
Speaker 6: Yeah, so me and my wife we got we got
Speaker 6: fifteen thousand dollars and we could have had.
Speaker 4: A wedding or done whatever with it. We had a wedding.
Speaker 4: It was great and awesome.
Speaker 1: But the first and we always talk about we should
Speaker 1: have just taken a fifteen grand and taken a two
Speaker 1: to three week honeymoon, go to Ireland, go to the Bahamas,
Speaker 1: something so trip came to mind right.
Speaker 2: Off the bat.
Speaker 1: No problem, yeah, okay, and and no regrets, no regrets.
Speaker 3: Dan, I think he is.
Speaker 6: Our wedding was great.
Speaker 4: But see what I see.
Speaker 1: You spent the money on the wedding. I misunderstood that.
Speaker 1: So you spent the money on the wedding when you
Speaker 1: should have said let's go to Ireland instead.
Speaker 4: Yeah, because now we have kids and we don't have money.
Speaker 4: So Dan, thanks for your advice. I appreciate that.
Speaker 1: Who else we got on the phone and Marie, what
Speaker 1: do you think would did this woman get married or
Speaker 1: should she just spend it on a trip or something?
Speaker 7: I think, yeah, I think she should do what her inclients,
Speaker 7: but which seems like going on a trip. We actually
Speaker 7: were scheduled to get married in twenty twenty and had
Speaker 7: to postpone everything. We still wanted to get married, so
Speaker 7: we just showed up to a park with just like
Speaker 7: our parents and siblings and got married and it was
Speaker 7: an amazing day and it went perfect and it was.
Speaker 6: So much fun.
Speaker 7: And then we weren't able to get out of our
Speaker 7: contract and we weren't going to get any of our
Speaker 7: money back, so we ended up still having our big wedding,
Speaker 7: and it was fun and I don't regret it, but
Speaker 7: it did make me realize I wish we would have
Speaker 7: done the first thing and maybe had a smaller party
Speaker 7: with more of our friends, but not necessarily the big,
Speaker 7: giant wedding we.
Speaker 4: Ended up having. How many people were at your big
Speaker 4: giant wedding.
Speaker 7: There was a two hundred invited, and I think with
Speaker 7: COVID and rescheduling and everything, we had about one hundred
Speaker 7: and fifty show up.
Speaker 4: Still, that's a big wedding.
Speaker 1: Thank you. By the way, one more call. We're gonna
Speaker 1: move on. We're gonna give away boo bash. Take us
Speaker 1: to get to Jenny's been on Reddit.
Speaker 5: And so I'm bring to carpet a keyword in the
Speaker 5: second and yes, Cole Morning Morning.
Speaker 6: So we got married during COVID and then later on
Speaker 6: in twenty twenty we had a big like redo ceremony
Speaker 6: and then a big reception and it was a blast.
Speaker 6: It was so much fun. I was already married. I
Speaker 6: had like a different dress, I looked cute. All our
Speaker 6: friends and family were there. It was amazing.
Speaker 2: But my question for you is you got married like
Speaker 2: pretty shortly, had the big wedding after you had just
Speaker 2: gotten married. It's five years later. Would you want to
Speaker 2: still do that five years later? Had you not done
Speaker 2: that back.
Speaker 6: In twenty twenty, I probably wouldn't though, Yeah, I would
Speaker 6: do something else. Yeah, celebrate your family.
Speaker 3: Are you still with that person you married?
Speaker 4: Jenny?
Speaker 6: J J Okay, good, and I would probably do another
Speaker 6: reception wedding type thing because it was really actually fun. Yeah,
Speaker 6: but it does cost a lot of money, so to
Speaker 6: do something that fits your life now, I.
Speaker 4: Think, yeah, yeah, I think you know.
Speaker 1: The question is she's got all this money for a
Speaker 1: wedding that they postponed because of COVID. Should she use
Speaker 1: the money for the ceremony or should she spend it
Speaker 1: on something else because she's not that excited about a
Speaker 1: wedding now. Message this one's harsh. Forget the wedding, nobody
Speaker 1: cares anymore. Have a little party and then take a
Speaker 1: trip or do something as a family. Another one, do
Speaker 1: a family trip instead. Weddings are overrated. I got married
Speaker 1: way before COVID. I did a JP wedding. What's that
Speaker 1: JP wedding and a kick ass honeymoon. I'm not sure
Speaker 1: what that means. All right, thanks for all that