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Speaker 1: came in via email. Hey, warning show crew, list is

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Speaker 1: this one? I have a dilemma. My husband and I

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Speaker 1: We promised each other that when COVID cleared up, we'll

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Speaker 1: they've got all this money saved up for this thirty

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Speaker 1: our whole family wants to celebrate our love since they

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Speaker 1: didn't get to in twenty twenty. We can afford it.

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Speaker 1: We got the money saved up. But now the newness

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Speaker 1: but I get it. I get it completely. We've been

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Speaker 2: Oh man, I mean to have that amount of money

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Speaker 2: something else you could do with that money that like

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Speaker 1: Of mind for you.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, so it's like, I don't know, Well, what

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Speaker 1: Think as you're listening to the show, what do you

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Speaker 1: think that you would do? Would you like you promised

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Speaker 1: each other? Oh my god. So they'd probably you know,

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Speaker 1: plann their wedding for a couple of years. Who knows.

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Speaker 4: I'm with you, Jenny.

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Speaker 1: I would rather go on like a big memorable cruise,

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Speaker 1: on the way. That's a problem. Yeah, it depends on

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Speaker 2: It doesn't sound like they've planned anything yet, so clearly,

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Speaker 2: like if you are planning a wedding, you're planning that

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Speaker 5: Some people do it, and I don't think that they should,

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Speaker 3: I've never been married, so I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Where you're like so excited I'm married whatever. Well most

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Speaker 1: They're not. They don't care. They love you, but they

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Speaker 5: Too young to renew your vows. Maybe do that and

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Speaker 2: Yeah, a lot of people are saying, throw a big

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Speaker 2: They should throw a big party to celebrate, but then

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Speaker 3: Bring your most loved ones on a trip and hire a.

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Speaker 1: There's a text that says the only person that cares

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Speaker 1: Probably move on, no wedding. Another text kind of sums

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Speaker 1: up what I think. Weddings are fun, but vacations are

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Speaker 5: Let's talk to Dan. He went through the same situation.

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Speaker 5: Dan's on the phone. Yeah, you can call it too,

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Speaker 4: Hi Dan, Hey guys going good if you missed it.

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Speaker 1: There's a woman who wrote in she got married during COVID.

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Speaker 1: They had planned a big thirty thousand dollars wedding. They

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Speaker 4: What do you think?

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Speaker 4: A wedding or done whatever with it. We had a wedding.

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Speaker 4: It was great and awesome.

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Speaker 1: But the first and we always talk about we should

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Speaker 2: Off the bat.

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Speaker 1: No problem, yeah, okay, and and no regrets, no regrets.

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Speaker 3: Dan, I think he is.

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Speaker 6: Our wedding was great.

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Speaker 4: But see what I see.

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Speaker 1: You spent the money on the wedding. I misunderstood that.

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Speaker 1: So you spent the money on the wedding when you

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Speaker 4: Yeah, because now we have kids and we don't have money.

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Speaker 4: So Dan, thanks for your advice. I appreciate that.

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Speaker 1: Who else we got on the phone and Marie, what

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Speaker 4: Still, that's a big wedding.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. By the way, one more call. We're gonna

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Speaker 1: to get to Jenny's been on Reddit.

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Speaker 5: And so I'm bring to carpet a keyword in the

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Speaker 6: So we got married during COVID and then later on

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Speaker 6: It was so much fun. I was already married. I

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Speaker 3: Are you still with that person you married?

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Speaker 1: The question is she's got all this money for a

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Speaker 1: JP wedding and a kick ass honeymoon. I'm not sure

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Speaker 1: what that means. All right, thanks for all that