WEBVTT - Was Derek Reading Lila Completely Wrong?

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<v Speaker 1>ahead and see if we can make some magic happen.

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<v Speaker 1>Derek is on the phone. Good morning, Derek.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, Good morning Marcus.

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<v Speaker 1>You do Hey, dude, I'm doing all right. So I

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<v Speaker 1>want to talk about this situation with Leila. I know

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<v Speaker 1>you guys been online and I understand she has ghosted

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<v Speaker 1>here after your date. What did you guys do for

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<v Speaker 1>your date? Can we talk about it? We try to

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<v Speaker 1>see if we can get her on the phone and

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<v Speaker 1>figure these things out.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, yeah, I appreciate it. You know, I'm bummed. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not really used to being ghosted. We hung out in Oakland.

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<v Speaker 2>We kind of bounced around a couple of spots. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I felt like a win. I mean, I you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I've I've been around the block. I know when there's

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<v Speaker 2>good chemistry, and this was off the charts. We were laughing.

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<v Speaker 2>It was a great time. We even kissed at the

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<v Speaker 2>end of the night, right, so that I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, I usually a good sign. Although, come to realize,

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<v Speaker 1>there are people are kissing bandits, guys and girls that

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<v Speaker 1>just like to make out and it means nothing to me.

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<v Speaker 1>It means the world, you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 3>Right?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean I felt it. I felt the fireworks,

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<v Speaker 2>you know. Okay, yeah, so yeah, after the kiss, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>we ended up getting into the same uber Okay, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>just more efficient, and I had the driver drop me

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<v Speaker 2>off first and then take her home after. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>I wasn't going to push anything further than that and

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<v Speaker 2>leave it at as a as a good first date.

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<v Speaker 2>And sure, that's what I thought it was. But then

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<v Speaker 2>nothing radio silence. She went silent. So I just don't

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<v Speaker 2>know what happened.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well, like I said, we're gonna call her. What

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<v Speaker 1>I'll have you use mut your phone and then you

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<v Speaker 1>can listen and we'll see. Let me see what she says.

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<v Speaker 1>I'd love to get you a second day, but let's

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<v Speaker 1>just try to get some answers.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So I appreciate it.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, let's go ahead and get into it. Let's let

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<v Speaker 1>me call her and see what's up. Go ahead and

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<v Speaker 1>meet your phone. Okay, so good, here we go, bud. Hello,

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<v Speaker 1>Hi is this Leila? Yeah? Good morning. This is Marcus

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<v Speaker 1>calling from from Star one O one three from the

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<v Speaker 1>Morning Show.

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<v Speaker 2>How are you?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm good?

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<v Speaker 2>How are you?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm good. I don't suppose you listened in the morning,

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<v Speaker 1>do you?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't, sorry, Okay, no, it's fine. I'm sorry if

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<v Speaker 1>I woke you up. Okay, I wonder do you have

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<v Speaker 1>a moment to be on the air with us? Uh?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, sure.

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<v Speaker 1>We're doing a segment called second Date Update. And so

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<v Speaker 1>I got your phone number from one of our listeners.

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<v Speaker 1>His name's Derek. He says, you guys went on a

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<v Speaker 1>date and he had the best time. He'd liked to

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<v Speaker 1>take you out again. I understand there was a kiss, so,

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<v Speaker 1>but he's feeling like you ghosting. I don't know if

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<v Speaker 1>you are or not. How did the date go for you?

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<v Speaker 3>I guess I am ghosting.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like, ugh, So it went really well, yeah, up

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<v Speaker 3>until the car ride at the end of the date

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<v Speaker 3>and when we were going home, I mean I was

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<v Speaker 3>like really like I was really excited and like we

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<v Speaker 3>were really connected with had like there were no issues.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I said.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, no, I that's true.

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<v Speaker 3>But once we got in the uber, it got kind

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<v Speaker 3>of weird. So what happened was the driver had like

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<v Speaker 3>the destination plugged into his like GPS. It was Eric's house,

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<v Speaker 3>and immediately Derek started like giving directions to the driver.

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<v Speaker 3>And it was at first started just like, hey, you

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<v Speaker 3>might want to cut over here. It was helpful, but

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<v Speaker 3>then it just kept going and he got really insistent

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<v Speaker 3>and it got very awkward and he was second guessing

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<v Speaker 3>the driver's route and he just like would not stop

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<v Speaker 3>micromanaging this driver. I mean, it wasn't yelling, and but

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<v Speaker 3>he was. There was an edge for sure, like he

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<v Speaker 3>needed to be right.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so it got weird.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it got weird, all right.

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<v Speaker 1>So the other half of this is that I've got

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<v Speaker 1>Derek on the phone. He's he's on mute, but he's

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<v Speaker 1>he's listening in and so, okay, Derek, I think we

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<v Speaker 1>have our answers here. Derek, are you there?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, So okay, are you hearing what she's saying?

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<v Speaker 2>Here?

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<v Speaker 1>Did it get did did he get weird in the vehicle?

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<v Speaker 2>I listen, I hear what she's saying, but that's not

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<v Speaker 2>how I viewed. I was just trying to help. Honestly,

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<v Speaker 2>I know the area pretty well. I was trying to

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<v Speaker 2>save some time, make the ride a little bit smoother.

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<v Speaker 2>The driver, I don't know, he was looking so hard

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<v Speaker 2>at his GPS, he was hesitating. I was just again,

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<v Speaker 2>I was just trying to be like, hey, there's no worries, buddy,

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<v Speaker 2>like take take a left here. I don't think I

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<v Speaker 2>was aggressive about it, you know. I mean I'm I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, I'm a little beside myself here that that's

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<v Speaker 2>how it was. I was taken because I just trying

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<v Speaker 2>to help. Really, I mean, I just.

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<v Speaker 3>Don't understand what's the big deal if the ride took

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<v Speaker 3>like a couple extra minutes. I mean, we're not getting

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<v Speaker 3>charged more. And it was also it felt like maybe

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<v Speaker 3>he was in a rush to like end the night.

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<v Speaker 2>No, it was a fit, like it was just effiicient

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<v Speaker 2>and it wasn't about ending the date. I had a

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<v Speaker 2>great time with you. I just I didn't want I

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<v Speaker 2>thought it was awkward that the guy might have not

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<v Speaker 2>known where he was going, and like I'm a passionate person,

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<v Speaker 2>like I'm not sometimes that comes off as a little intense,

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<v Speaker 2>but that doesn't mean I'm angry or yelling.

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<v Speaker 4>I just again, I was just trying to help honestly, Okay,

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<v Speaker 4>I just didn't feel that way, Like it felt like

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<v Speaker 4>you had to take control of something that just like

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<v Speaker 4>didn't need fixing, and it just kind of killed the vibe.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I didn't realize it came off that way.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah it did. I mean the bigger issue is like

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<v Speaker 3>it made me question how you handle things when you

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<v Speaker 3>think you're right.

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<v Speaker 2>You know what I mean. I got posted over directions.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, this is I don't see how you interpreted

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<v Speaker 2>all of that from maybe having a slightly intense tone

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<v Speaker 2>when trying to help us get home faster. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know if this is worth throwing a great night and

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<v Speaker 2>some great chemistry away over.

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<v Speaker 3>Honestly, it just sounds like, I mean like this is

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<v Speaker 3>like the kind of the same issue, Like Derek. It

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<v Speaker 3>sounds like you think you're right about this and you're

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<v Speaker 3>insisting and instead of taking in what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>So I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, let's let's take a pause for one second. You guys,

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<v Speaker 1>we've made the issue known. Maybe Derek could take it

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<v Speaker 1>under advisement, Lila, maybe we could do it. You want

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<v Speaker 1>to try this again?

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<v Speaker 3>No, I'm okay. I think so. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, fair enough, hang on, hang on, yeah, not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna happen anyway. Second date update