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Speaker 1: Colin Fudd Three things we need to know.

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Speaker 2: This is so cool. So Netflix just opened Netflix House.

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Speaker 2: It's in Philadelphia, and it feels like stepping straight onto

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Speaker 2: the sets of your favorite series, from Wednesday to Squid Game, Bridgerton.

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Speaker 3: On, even the K Pop Demon Hunter World.

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Speaker 2: So you choose your own adventsor Tho's immersive multi room

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Speaker 2: experiences like Wednesday's bedroom, a replica of the set.

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Speaker 3: Of Is It Cake?

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Speaker 2: And then they also have like VR games, escape rooms,

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Speaker 2: tons of photo ops. It's like very instagrammable, mini golf themed,

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Speaker 2: iconic show like Themed after the like all these shows.

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Speaker 2: And then they have Netflix Bites, which is their themed restaurant,

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Speaker 2: and a full merch shop.

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Speaker 3: So like it. This is like a destination now for sure.

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Speaker 2: The cool thing is is it's free to enter, but

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Speaker 2: different experiences cost anywhere from fifteen to thirty nine bucks.

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Speaker 3: So pretty cool. I can start planning.

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Speaker 2: That's this is what I was talking about yesterday, like

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Speaker 2: a ycation. You will go to Philadelphia just because this

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Speaker 2: is what you want to see. If you do think

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Speaker 2: that Thanksgiving, you're not sure what you're going to talk

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Speaker 2: about with your family. Some people a little apprehensive about

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Speaker 2: going into that. There is one expert that says the

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Speaker 2: way to connect with your family on a deeper level,

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Speaker 2: in a healthy way is by trying the do you

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Speaker 2: know family stories?

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Speaker 4: Game?

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Speaker 2: So basically what you do is you pull slips of

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Speaker 2: paper and each person asks questions like do you know

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Speaker 2: how your parents met?

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Speaker 3: Do you know your grandma's first job? That kind of thing?

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Speaker 1: And you know the difference between Democrats and Republicans?

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Speaker 5: No, skip those questions, skid No.

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Speaker 2: It's family stories, literally, questions about your families. And number one,

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Speaker 2: you get to know your family members better. Whoever grabs

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Speaker 2: each thing, like tells the story or picks a family

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Speaker 2: member to tell the story.

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Speaker 6: And I actually really like that to see my family,

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Speaker 6: We would like, we would like totally like up it

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Speaker 6: a little bit. And if you got wrong, you have to.

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Speaker 7: Take shots because we have a few of those. And

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Speaker 7: do you know who shot both of your cousins ex

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Speaker 7: husbands today?

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Speaker 1: Jeez?

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Speaker 3: The questions positive life.

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Speaker 2: Starts, they say, simple back and forth conversation like this

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Speaker 2: actually boosts kids confidence, it lowers stress, and helps everyone

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Speaker 2: feel more connected.

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Speaker 7: You choose your questions wisely, all thoughtful fun.

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Speaker 3: Maybe you two in your house don't play.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So You guys have heard of a social media detox, right.

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Speaker 3: The digital detox is spending a lot of tractions for you.

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Speaker 3: You literally spend a week with no social media.

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Speaker 2: You don't necessarily need to shut off or delete your

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Speaker 2: social media, but you don't use it for a week.

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Speaker 2: So a new study actually followed eighteen to twenty four

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Speaker 2: year olds who tried this digital detox four a week, TikTok, Instagram, Snapchat,

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Speaker 2: all of it.

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Speaker 3: They got rid of it, and yes, it actually worked.

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Speaker 2: Anxiety dropped by sixteen percent, depression about twenty five percent,

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Speaker 2: even insomnia improved.

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Speaker 3: But there's a little bit.

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Speaker 2: phones back, they actually spent more time on their phones

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Speaker 7: That's the digital retoks we talk about.

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Speaker 4: I saw an interview with what's her name? She was

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Speaker 4: the wife on the Beast in Me and she was

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Speaker 4: in Hunting Wives, Oh, Britney Snow, Britney Snow, and she

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Speaker 4: was on the Jennifer Hudson Show and she was like,

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Speaker 4: what was life like before social media?

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Speaker 1: And she was like, she goes, it was a lot

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like man, yeah, true, And they do say a

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Speaker 2: break from social media can absolutely destress you. It can

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Speaker 2: absolutely boost your mood. Just don't expect it to magically

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Speaker 2: fix your screen time. That just takes constant work. And

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Speaker 2: that's three things.

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Speaker 3: You need to know.

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Speaker 1: If you miss second Date update, this is really cool

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Speaker 1: we can do now.

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Speaker 4: So if you go to our Instagram, John Jay and

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Speaker 4: Rich and Facebook to do the work on Facebook.

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Speaker 1: Two.

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Speaker 6: I don't know if we haven't hooked up to Facebook.

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Speaker 1: Quite right now.

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Speaker 4: If you go to our Facebook, if you go to

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Speaker 4: our Instagram John Jay and Rich and you'll see a

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Speaker 4: little video of second Date and if you type in

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Speaker 4: the word date, we will send you the podcast link.

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Speaker 1: Directly to hear a second Date update today. And it

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Speaker 1: was a doozy.

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Speaker 3: It was a it's a good one.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Peyton, what was it? What did you say we're

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Speaker 4: gonna get into. I said, I'm gonna ask you about this?

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Speaker 4: Oh about your husband, your boyfriend, your fiance?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, no, I have a new fiance. His name's Kaddem No.

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Speaker 1: I was.

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Speaker 6: We were talking about it at dinner last night at

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Speaker 6: my friends skimming, and we were talking about like why

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Speaker 6: do men get so like like cranky and grouchy and

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Speaker 6: have an attitude when they like, don't like have intimacy,

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Speaker 6: like get over yourself?

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Speaker 1: What are you talking about? That's all you gotta do

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Speaker 1: is make us happy? Is you know, give us, give

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Speaker 1: us a little you know.

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Speaker 2: What's fun actually talking about this on our girls trip

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Speaker 2: Because because men and women are just wired differently in

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Speaker 2: the brain, intimacy is how men feel connected, the conversation

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Speaker 2: and the like actual like emotional intimacy.

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Speaker 3: Is how women feel connected. Why do we want to

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Speaker 6: Because like sometimes like I'll be talking to Kadem and

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Speaker 6: I'm like, honestly, like you being kind and nice to

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Speaker 6: me is way is like it's great for me. Maybe

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Speaker 6: I would be into it, but now whining and complaining

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Speaker 6: and I don't even want.

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Speaker 3: To touch you right now?

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Speaker 1: Doesn't every day?

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Speaker 3: No, not every day?

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Speaker 4: Here is times I start following this I start following

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Speaker 4: this girl on Instagram on my fake account, and she

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Speaker 4: gives like great relationship advice and all about it's it's

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Speaker 4: it's I don't know who she is.

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Speaker 1: I gotta find her and I don't even know. I

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Speaker 4: But she's like, if your husband acts this way, it

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Speaker 4: doesn't mean that he's uh, what do you call it,

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Speaker 4: Like an addict? It means it doesn't mean that he's

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Speaker 4: usually I mean, that's the way guys connect with intimacy.

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Speaker 1: They need touch, they need the words, they need they

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Speaker 4: And she gives into saying I'm like, she's so great,

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Speaker 4: but then I read her comments and everyone hates her.

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Speaker 1: Well, sometimes the truth doesn't. It's not what you want

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Speaker 7: It's like, you know how many therapists are, like, you know,

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Speaker 7: before you have a really big fight, you should just

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Speaker 7: start kissing on your your You don't fight about as

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Speaker 7: going all right?

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Speaker 6: If by trying to come kiss me while I was

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Speaker 6: in a filement, I would take my hand and I

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Speaker 7: Of the binding problem solved. You want something, you need

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Speaker 7: something like that with your guy. You're gonna get it, okay.

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Speaker 4: But you're in this girl's weekend and it comes up

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Speaker 4: like who's the one that comes up and says it's

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Speaker 1: Who's Was that just a group thing?

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Speaker 2: No, Well, we were talking about like just that intimacy

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Speaker 2: like they had done a study on what women need

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Speaker 2: totally different. And I think it's like if if you

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Speaker 2: you are for a second and go, oh, that actually

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Speaker 6: Mean after after the yes, breathe the second life into them?

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Speaker 1: Why is this shocker?

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Speaker 6: Why it's just like you being annoying about it.

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Speaker 3: That's my problem.

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Speaker 2: Well, and sometimes it's like you forget because that's not

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Speaker 3: And I'm like, we just talked, how much more intimate

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Speaker 4: And so women want like yesterday I came home, my

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Speaker 4: had this procedure done, and she says, so, how was

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Speaker 2: And when you're like, let's go get it on, She's like, seriously,

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Speaker 4: It's funny because we had some friends, remember that the

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Speaker 4: I haven't come up with anything yet. You guys have

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Speaker 4: something like for that you don't know. Now you don't

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Speaker 4: say anything. So when you when you want to do it,

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Speaker 4: what do you do?

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Speaker 3: We just have its schedule.

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Speaker 1: No matter what you don't follow, you don't break the

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Speaker 3: We try not to break the schedule.

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Speaker 2: And the reason why let's not break the scaledual why

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Speaker 2: do people think that the scheduled time is boring or whatever?

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Speaker 2: But honestly, like it works for us in our relationship

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Speaker 2: because we are both so incredibly busy and always tired

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Speaker 2: that if we didn't schedule it, probably weeks or months.

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Speaker 3: Would go by.

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Speaker 1: Schedule.

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Speaker 4: I gotta get this paperwork filed right away, damn it.

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Speaker 4: We're supposed to do it in two minutes. Is it

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Speaker 4: scheduled more than once a week or just once a week?

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Speaker 3: It's scheduled once a week.

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Speaker 1: And that's so fascinating. Want to try that?

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Speaker 6: It is? Well, it's fascinating that you schedule it, because

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Speaker 6: anytime I try to schedule it, he's.

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Speaker 3: Like, why are schedule that's weird?

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Speaker 2: Well, in your life and your you don't have kids

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Speaker 3: But it's so much to be very spontaneous if we want. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: like there's no there isn't room for spooning.

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Speaker 4: Did you ever schedule it? And it's like, let's just

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Speaker 4: Like you no matter what, you don't miss it. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: it's not like no matter what happens.

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Speaker 2: There's been like one or two times where it was

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Speaker 2: like there, it was impossible to make it happen.

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Speaker 3: And then it was like Monday.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Monday, skip it.

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Speaker 2: Holy moly, we're so spontaneous.

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Speaker 1: Monday.

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Speaker 3: Wow.

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Speaker 5: Sometimes we can do for Spot today. Sometimes we do

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Speaker 5: it on Monday daytime or nighttime, mid dayDay, whatever ever happened.

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Speaker 1: In the daytime in my life. I'm like, that was amazing.

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Speaker 1: It was the daytime you want