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Speaker 1: You're listening to KFI A six on demand. Tricia, Welcome

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Speaker 1: to the Jesus Christ Show. Hi Jesus, Hi Tricia, how

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Speaker 1: are you great?

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Speaker 2: I just wanted to call you because I called you.

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Speaker 2: I've been listening to your show for quite some time,

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Speaker 2: and I called you a couple of years ago with

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Speaker 2: my husband was diagnosed with cancer and I was so

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Speaker 2: afraid of going on because my kids had health problems,

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Speaker 2: and I felt at the time you were harsh with me,

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Speaker 2: and I was actually mad at you. But then I

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Speaker 2: listened to everything you said, and now my best friend.

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Speaker 2: I have three best friends in Muffalo, New York, and

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Speaker 2: one of them is dying of cancer. And because of

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Speaker 2: what you told me then, and because of listening to

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Speaker 2: your show, I've come to It's hard to explain, but

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Speaker 2: I've I you've taught me the balance between this world

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Speaker 2: and Heaven and God and why He gave us this world.

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Speaker 2: And and you've taught me too. You've taught me so much.

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Speaker 2: And I wanted to thank you because I was mad

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Speaker 2: at you, because I had lost my way and I

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Speaker 2: thought you would be more compassionate. But what you really,

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Speaker 2: what you said to me, was the best thing you

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Speaker 2: could ever said to me, because you said you can't.

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Speaker 2: You said, Trishy, you can't try to stop, you know,

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Speaker 2: try to stop this from happening, and stop that from happening.

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Speaker 2: And and there's been every things in life, and you've

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Speaker 2: brought me peace in my own life. And it's hard

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Speaker 2: like I've learned that being here now I appreciate everything

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Speaker 2: God's given me. I have a great family and mean,

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Speaker 2: now I'm trying to be a really good person. And

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Speaker 2: I used to think of myself as a bad person

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Speaker 2: for everything. So that grape Catholic and.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know if that's a mandate

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Speaker 2: But well, I understand when you're raised Catholic, sometimes you're

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Speaker 2: tough that you're bad until you until you prove to

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Speaker 2: be good, you know, like you're born bad. You have

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Speaker 2: to always try to be good.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this and nature can can be a stickler. And

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Speaker 1: the important thing is to find that balance and to

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Speaker 1: seek out that that goodness and to fight against those

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Speaker 1: you know, natural desires to do things wrong or against

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Speaker 1: the will of God. And it sounds like you are

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Speaker 1: on your path to doing that.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I don't do anything. I really don't have

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Speaker 2: to fight to do anything against the will of God.

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Speaker 2: I just always thought I was a bad person just

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Speaker 2: for whatever reason. And it wasn't being mean or breaking

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Speaker 2: even though I didn't. But but I wanted to tell

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Speaker 2: you that I have two children, twins, and I want

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Speaker 2: to try it. I don't know how to do this

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Speaker 2: because now I feel that this life that God gave me,

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Speaker 2: I'm enjoying it now. You know, some some people think that,

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Speaker 2: you know, that I shocked too much and that I

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Speaker 1: Okay, how does this pertain to your children?

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Speaker 2: To your kids, because I can't. What I'm trying to

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Speaker 2: to be good. You have to do good things. You

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Speaker 1: That it's it's but it's it's not about words, Tricia.

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Speaker 1: to be an example. Kids are mimics. If you watch

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Speaker 1: And this is really how a lot of children learn, Tricia.

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Speaker 1: a certain way, or what have you. Perspectives change. You

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Speaker 1: And I genuinely thank you for those incredibly kind words

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Speaker 1: about how the show has changed your life. That's our

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Speaker 1: your children will notice. They always watch. It's it's the

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Speaker 1: although you want to coach them verbally and talk them

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Speaker 1: The best example is always going to be a living, breathing,

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Speaker 1: can It's not what a person says that defines them.

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Speaker 1: It's not even what a person does. It's how a

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Speaker 1: But really, when things come your way that are tuo

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Speaker 1: children will mimic, and your children will learn. Becky, Welcome

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Speaker 1: to the Jesus Christ Show. Hi Hia, Becky. How can

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Speaker 2: Well, I was just sitting here thinking that since TV

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Speaker 2: seen saints and angels, and I'm just wondering where they

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Speaker 1: Well, sure they're around, I mean people do mention. Then

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Speaker 1: to you this way. There are seasons in a person's life.

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Speaker 1: So as you're a baby, you're surrounded by certain things

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Speaker 1: And even the way your parents interact with you is different.

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Speaker 1: So some people say, ah, and what Christians refer to

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Speaker 3: Hi Jesus. I wanted to say thank you so much

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Speaker 3: for even allowing me to come and speak to you

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Speaker 3: this morning because I have a question.

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Speaker 3: Well, I've met some learn that is really, really wonderful

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Speaker 3: don't want to miss the mark. And I've been listening

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Speaker 3: to everything you've said this morning, and it's touched me

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Speaker 3: because this is exactly what I want, is not to

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Speaker 3: miss that mark. And right now in our relationship, it's

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Speaker 3: we have a question with respect to kissing and whether

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Speaker 3: it's you know, it's something that we should even entertain

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Speaker 3: at this moment.

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Speaker 1: Whether it's a gateway drug more, Yes, exactly, And.

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Speaker 3: We both have we're both coming from relationships that were

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Speaker 3: but there's been a divorce, you know, because of adultery

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Speaker 1: So you've been divorced for three years or separated for

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Speaker 3: No, divorced for three years. And I did not want

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Speaker 3: and God for guidance. So yes, and I'm very grateful

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Speaker 3: And are incredibly clear about those things. And my boundaries

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Speaker 1: Well, think of it this way. People kind of go

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Speaker 3: No? No? Do you know what was embarrassed to say?

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Speaker 3: Mentally, it's not going to be like, oh, I need somebuddy.

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Speaker 1: He's never been married. How old a guy is he now?

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Speaker 4: Yes, thank you, Hello, Holy host.

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Speaker 1: Well hello, My question is.

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Speaker 4: Regarding the Ten Commandments. Yes, sir, I was raised in

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Speaker 1: Nope, that's part of being human. That's part of being human.

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Speaker 1: People hear that and they go, what Catholics are Christians?

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Speaker 1: And so just to clarify that, however, in Scripture, you

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 1: So likewise, throughout scripture you can find the Ten Commandments

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Speaker 1: Frank Yes, okay, So it's not about whether they existed

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Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, at some point he said, okay,

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Speaker 1: now you know, now I'm going to have to write

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Speaker 1: down these big ten and make sure that everybody abides

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Speaker 1: by them.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 1: Although Jewish, Anglican, Reformed, Orthodox Christians, Roman Catholics, Lutherans separate

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Speaker 1: the ten slightly differently, they're all the same as far

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Speaker 1: as meaning, and they deal with not having any gods

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Speaker 1: before the Father, don't create idols, don't take the Lord's

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Speaker 1: name in vain. Honor your father and mother, remember the Sabbath.

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Speaker 1: Don't murder, don't commit adultery, don't steal, don't bear false

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Speaker 1: witness against your neighbor, don't lie, don't covert your neighbor,

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Speaker 1: don't covet anything else that your neighbor has, don't covert

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Speaker 1: your neighbor's wife. That all those principles are in Scripture

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Speaker 1: in somewhere, other places other than just Exodus and Deuteronomy.

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Speaker 1: They exist in other places as well, and you keep

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Speaker 1: in mind just because people didn't follow them doesn't mean

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Speaker 1: they didn't exist. Thank you so much for taking the

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Speaker 1: time to join me today, and remember, more importantly, in

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Speaker 1: all this craziness, I am with you always KF I

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Speaker 1: am six forty on demand