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Speaker 1: Well variety from the two thousands, the nineties, and today

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Speaker 1: star one on one three. It's Marcus and Corey and

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Speaker 1: we're back with it from the weekend. This is second

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Speaker 1: Date Update.

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Speaker 2: What about love?

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Speaker 1: Don't you want someone to care about you?

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Speaker 2: I mean, that's the whole point of this second d

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Speaker 2: at update. Wants to find out why you baited me,

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Speaker 2: why you're not getting that second date.

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Speaker 1: Let's bring Rachel on real quick. Rachel, are you there?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Hello?

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Speaker 1: What about love? Rachel? Don't let it slip away? God,

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Speaker 1: I can't stop. Oh well, good morning, good morning. Understand

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Speaker 1: that you've been ghosted and we want to talk about

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Speaker 1: your date with Matteo. What can you tell us? Okay,

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Speaker 1: so how did you meet first? And then and then

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Speaker 1: run us through the first date?

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Speaker 3: Okay, So we met on Bumble. We were chatting on

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Speaker 3: there for a bit, you know, I thought he was

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Speaker 3: really cute. We matched. Then we decided to like meet

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Speaker 3: up and we grabbed drinks in Berkeley and I thought

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Speaker 3: it went great. I mean, we just talked for a while,

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Speaker 3: we talked about work, you did like, we shared nachos.

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Speaker 3: It was such a cute little moment.

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Speaker 2: Nacho. It's the international language of love.

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Speaker 1: Well, I was gonna say, once you share a finger food,

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Speaker 1: you're already that's already thirty base. See totally, that's like

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Speaker 1: exactly nice guy.

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Speaker 3: Though so nice, I mean like I had the best time.

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Speaker 3: I thought he was super sweet, and then I just

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Speaker 3: never heard from him again.

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Speaker 1: What's really going on? Corey? Your thoughts?

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Speaker 2: Well, what I'm thinking is that Matteo is actually a

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Speaker 2: well intentioned young officer who thinks he's found his ticket

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Speaker 2: to becoming a detective by working with an undercover officer.

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Speaker 2: So this undercover officer is a notorious figure in the

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Speaker 2: streets and in the office. He also has the authority

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Speaker 2: to make Mateo's professional wishes come true, provided Matteo is

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Speaker 2: able to prove his.

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Speaker 1: Worth training day. Thank bang, Rachel doesn't even know what's

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Speaker 1: going on.

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Speaker 3: I thought that sounded like day.

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Speaker 1: So where is Mateo? Is he on a side?

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Speaker 2: He's still undercover?

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Speaker 1: Oh well, Rachel, we're gonna we're gonna call him and

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Speaker 1: get the real deal. Are you ready to do this?

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Speaker 4: Right?

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Speaker 1: Guess, so let's do it. We're gonna call him. We'll

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Speaker 1: have you on the line. Feeling kind of unappreciated, all

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Speaker 1: have you muted it? Out hang on. Okay, we'll do

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Speaker 1: it next. Second Date Updates Star one O one three

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Speaker 1: more variety from the two thousands, the nineties and today

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Speaker 1: it's Star one O one three. It's Marcus and Corey.

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Speaker 1: We're doing second date updates. Yes, and we've been chatting

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Speaker 1: with Rachel don O with Mateo. They met online and

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Speaker 1: they grabbed drinks in Berkeley and the conversation went from

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Speaker 1: work to music sharing. Is they shared nachos? Yeah, which

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Speaker 1: may not seem like a big deal to some people,

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Speaker 1: but to others. Love language. Rachel, you're still there?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I mean okay, did I get all that right? Perfect? Okay,

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Speaker 1: let's call him and try to figure this out. I

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Speaker 1: want to get you a second date, but let me

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Speaker 1: get some answers at least. So go ahead and mute

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Speaker 1: your phone. Here we go.

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Speaker 2: Hello, Hi, may speak with the TEO please, I'm Mateo.

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Speaker 2: It's Marcus and Corey from Star one on one three.

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Speaker 1: My man, Hello, Hello.

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Speaker 4: Like a radio station.

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Speaker 1: Yes, do you listen to our show?

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Speaker 4: I am sorry to say I do not.

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Speaker 1: I already knew that.

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Speaker 2: Delightful.

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Speaker 1: So we're doing a dating segment right now, and one

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Speaker 1: of our listeners send us your phone number, says that

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Speaker 1: you went on on a date, says you're a really

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Speaker 1: nice guy, had the best time, but she's feeling ghosted.

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Speaker 1: So first I have to ask if you would be

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Speaker 1: willing to talk about said date on the air with

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Speaker 1: us for a few yes.

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Speaker 4: Is this about Rachel? I'm guessing it.

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Speaker 1: Is what it is, you know what, at least he

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Speaker 1: remember his names. I like that.

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Speaker 4: I know you're not trying to like trap me into

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Speaker 4: saying anything if I mean, I'm happy to talk about it, just.

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Speaker 1: Okay, you know, just for a couple of minutes on

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Speaker 1: the air, if you have the time. Is that okay?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Okay? Did you did you ghost?

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Speaker 4: I mean I did stop contact. I don't know if

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Speaker 4: it's really ghosting. I mean we had one date and

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Speaker 4: it's it's not like I you know, I feel like

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Speaker 4: then drop communication. I just I think it kind of

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Speaker 4: I just the vibes were not really what I was

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Speaker 4: looking for at this point in my my dating life.

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Speaker 4: So I just didn't really see it going any further

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Speaker 4: and didn't feel like pursuing.

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Speaker 1: Her at all. Did something happen?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well what happened on the date?

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Speaker 4: Okay, so she didn't do anything, you know, there wasn't

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Speaker 4: I've I've been around enough to know when someone's like

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Speaker 4: She kept talking about like physical traits of me in

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Speaker 4: a way that again was kind of like a little

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, did you get objectified on a date?

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Speaker 4: Asking if objectified, I wouldn't say that. It's just again,

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Speaker 4: asked if she thought we'd have good physical chemistry, which

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Speaker 4: you know is basically like hey, are you good in bed?

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Speaker 4: Can you can you lay it down? And I just

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Speaker 4: wasn't really what I was after, you know.

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Speaker 2: Okay, so you just want this first age to be

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Speaker 2: where you get to know her, and it got a

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Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly, it kind of seemed like she was ready

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Speaker 4: a little past my uh my Netflix and show hookup phase.

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Speaker 1: So just can I ask any question though, Corey, doesn't

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Speaker 1: mean you mean, like if the roles were reversed? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: not necessarily.

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Speaker 2: I mean, sometimes you're gonna run into a guy who's

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Speaker 2: gonna go wink wink, nudgs nudge. But I would hope

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Speaker 2: most of the time in a date, there's some lines

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Speaker 1: Sure, well, of course there are. But do they get honored?

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Speaker 1: That's my question? Doesn't matter, Matteo. So just you just

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Speaker 1: decided it's not your thing? Is that accurate?

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Speaker 4: Again, the vibes were off. It's more of like a

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Speaker 4: he has all the time.

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Speaker 1: It's it's not a match. So the other half of

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Speaker 1: this is that Rachel is listening. She's on the phone

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Speaker 1: right now. She's hearing what you're saying is a teachable moment. Rachel,

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Speaker 1: are you there?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, Rachel?

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Speaker 1: Matteo Mateo, Rachel.

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Speaker 3: Hey Mateo, Uh yeah, Okay, I hear what you said,

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Speaker 3: But I was just being bold. It's twenty twenty five.

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Speaker 3: Why can't women put out a vibe? Also, that's part

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Speaker 3: of it. I mean, physical chemistry is part of dating.

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Speaker 3: So I don't really understand why you would be turned

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Speaker 3: off by that. That's like a little confusing. But like,

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Speaker 3: if there was a spark, why not go for our?

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Speaker 3: Life short?

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Speaker 1: And I see her side of it too.

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Speaker 2: You know, this is women are just as equal as men,

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Speaker 2: and in the fact that if you know you're on

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Speaker 2: that vibe, why not go for it?

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Speaker 1: Sure?

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Speaker 4: Sure, sure, But again, I mean you're saying twenty twenty five.

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Speaker 4: I feel like society has kind of changed a little

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Speaker 4: bit to where that's just you know, if I clearly

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Speaker 4: put in my profile like I'm looking for a relationship,

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Speaker 4: there's things in there about Hey, I'm you know, life

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Speaker 4: is short, You're right, and I don't want to waste

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Speaker 4: time as in, you know, I'm looking for something real

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Speaker 4: and you know, I think those those physical boxes to

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Speaker 4: check come a little later down the line, and I

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Speaker 4: want someone with similar values and perspectives as all.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so you don't like anyone to flirt with you,

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Speaker 3: all right, Well we'll keep that in mind next time,