WEBVTT - 8am Hour - We Went to the Moon in 1969 0:00:01.320 --> 0:00:04.240 We wouldn't normally do this on Halloween because it has 0:00:04.320 --> 0:00:06.520 nothing to do with Halloween. But there's some urgency to 0:00:06.559 --> 0:00:09.600 this caller. And we're talking to Becca right now. Becca, 0:00:09.640 --> 0:00:11.760 we're live on the radio right now, and we got you. 0:00:11.840 --> 0:00:13.720 We're going to use you next week for group therapy. 0:00:13.800 --> 0:00:16.600 We thought there's some urgency to this one, so really quickly, 0:00:16.600 --> 0:00:18.000 and I know it's kind of a long story. Tell 0:00:18.040 --> 0:00:22.400 me what you are faced with with this wedding. What's up, Becca? 0:00:23.120 --> 0:00:26.639 Yeah, So my husband has a best friend who just 0:00:26.760 --> 0:00:31.040 recently got engaged. Bride is lovely. We have some things 0:00:31.080 --> 0:00:34.280 in common, she's nice, and we've known each other for 0:00:34.600 --> 0:00:38.400 just over a year, I think. Okay, late lately the 0:00:38.520 --> 0:00:40.920 groom has been kind of hinting that I will be 0:00:41.120 --> 0:00:44.960 asked to be a bridesmaid. The problem is I don't 0:00:45.000 --> 0:00:49.720 really know this girl. We're friendly, we're not really friends. 0:00:50.280 --> 0:00:51.360 Sure, and you did you? 0:00:51.520 --> 0:00:54.600 We've hung out one on one and the conversation seemed 0:00:54.640 --> 0:00:57.760 kind of quiet, a little bit strained, and pretty like superficial. 0:00:57.920 --> 0:00:59.639 Yeah. Yeah. 0:01:00.560 --> 0:01:03.200 This couple lives about like an hour away from the city, 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:06.679 so we kind of see them sporadically. But we're supposed 0:01:06.720 --> 0:01:09.880 to see them this weekend. So I'm getting a little 0:01:09.880 --> 0:01:13.440 bit anxious about you know, can I can I say 0:01:13.640 --> 0:01:16.319 no to being a bridesmaid? How do I do so 0:01:16.480 --> 0:01:21.040 without you know, embarrassing myself or her? Because anyone said 0:01:21.120 --> 0:01:23.240 no to this before and it's been fine. 0:01:24.360 --> 0:01:26.880 And I don't want to put words in your mound, 0:01:26.920 --> 0:01:28.800 but I did I read in there that's like, you know, 0:01:28.880 --> 0:01:31.679 all the duties that come along with the bridesmaid, with 0:01:31.840 --> 0:01:34.640 the bridal shower and the bachelorrett party and all the things, 0:01:34.680 --> 0:01:37.760 and you don't necessarily have or want to invest the 0:01:37.800 --> 0:01:41.039 time with, you know, respectfully somebody. You don't know that, queen. 0:01:41.160 --> 0:01:41.920 Did I get that right? 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:43.720 Yes? 0:01:44.280 --> 0:01:46.640 I just you know, I kind of picture myself, you know, 0:01:46.720 --> 0:01:50.080 sitting in the corner, not really knowing anyone, and then 0:01:50.160 --> 0:01:54.880 you know, not having any fun memories or anything like 0:01:55.000 --> 0:01:58.440 about the bride to contribute when you know you play 0:01:58.480 --> 0:02:01.320 those the classic how well do you know the bride game? 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:04.200 Oh yeah, those like kind. 0:02:04.000 --> 0:02:06.280 Of standard things that go along with the showers and 0:02:06.320 --> 0:02:09.880 the bachelorette parties. And just as a note, I'll also 0:02:09.960 --> 0:02:14.320 be about four months postpartum when the wedding occurred. I'm 0:02:14.360 --> 0:02:18.040 not really sure that I will feel or look my best. 0:02:18.080 --> 0:02:20.120 And I know it's you know, people aren't looking at me. 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:23.520 But I just if I'm included in a wedding, I 0:02:23.560 --> 0:02:26.480 want to be able to support one hundred percent. 0:02:27.400 --> 0:02:30.000 I would so, So the big question is you're looking 0:02:30.000 --> 0:02:32.440 for advice, like, how do you say no because you 0:02:32.440 --> 0:02:34.440 think they're going to maybe ask you this weekend because 0:02:34.440 --> 0:02:36.560 the day's Friday, and you think that they may maybe 0:02:36.760 --> 0:02:38.440 ask you this weekend because you're going to see them, 0:02:38.440 --> 0:02:41.160 and you're like, eek, I don't want to hurt anybody 0:02:41.240 --> 0:02:44.560 or look mean, but I don't really want to. That's 0:02:44.639 --> 0:02:45.840 kind of the question, right. 0:02:46.919 --> 0:02:49.160 Right, And you know it's it's more just because I 0:02:49.240 --> 0:02:54.359 just don't feel like I know hr. The groom has 0:02:54.400 --> 0:02:58.119 already kind of declared who his groomsmen will be, and 0:02:58.200 --> 0:03:00.840 so now it's kind of down to the bride and 0:03:00.880 --> 0:03:03.720 she's got some sisters, so I know that. 0:03:04.040 --> 0:03:05.960 But you might be a little bit of a space filler. Two. 0:03:07.240 --> 0:03:09.440 Yes, that's exactly kind of how I feel. I'm like, 0:03:09.440 --> 0:03:11.320 you know what, am I just there to make things 0:03:11.400 --> 0:03:13.839 even on both sides because that's not really a great 0:03:13.840 --> 0:03:14.440 feeling either. 0:03:14.560 --> 0:03:15.880 No, I totally get that. I don't want to cut 0:03:15.880 --> 0:03:17.480 you short, but we have to move through a break here. 0:03:17.680 --> 0:03:18.800 But what I'm going to do is that you can 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:22.160 keep your radio on and find out what people say, 0:03:22.160 --> 0:03:25.040 because I'm going to guess that's somewhere somebody is listening 0:03:25.120 --> 0:03:27.840 who's had to say no for the same reason, or 0:03:27.880 --> 0:03:31.040 a bride who's asked and they said no, and they 0:03:31.080 --> 0:03:32.960 said no in the right way or the wrong way. 0:03:33.120 --> 0:03:35.640 So Becca, keep your radio on. We'll have some answers 0:03:35.640 --> 0:03:39.680 for you. Okay, all right, thank you, Yeah, yeah, yeah, 0:03:39.680 --> 0:03:41.800 Happy Halloween, good luck. I don't know why I'm whispering. 0:03:41.840 --> 0:03:43.600 I don't know. I don't want her friends to hear. 0:03:43.880 --> 0:03:45.960 Well, we've already gotten some text messages, so we can 0:03:46.080 --> 0:03:47.640 come back to those at the other side. 0:03:47.680 --> 0:03:49.280 Have a lot of ideas, love to hear what you think. 0:03:49.920 --> 0:03:52.040 A little special treat for you. We actually put on 0:03:52.080 --> 0:03:54.800 our Halloween costumes from last night, so you can see 0:03:54.840 --> 0:03:57.480 them on YouTube Dave Ryan TV if you want to 0:03:57.480 --> 0:04:01.080 go check those out. They're not actually costumes because I 0:04:01.120 --> 0:04:03.520 don't have my makeup on. I was Jenny, yeah, and 0:04:03.720 --> 0:04:06.080 Bailey's wearing her hat, but no green makeup. 0:04:06.280 --> 0:04:07.520 I had a green face last night. 0:04:07.560 --> 0:04:09.400 It took me like thirty minutes to put it on, 0:04:09.440 --> 0:04:10.520 so I wasn't about to do it again. 0:04:10.520 --> 0:04:12.040 The funny part is you look a little bit like 0:04:12.080 --> 0:04:14.600 Inspector Gadget because you were wearing your hat on top 0:04:14.640 --> 0:04:16.720 of your headphones. Yeah, so you look a little bit 0:04:16.800 --> 0:04:19.600 like Inspector Gadget, Right, Bailey, I think you look like 0:04:19.880 --> 0:04:21.040 the guy from Curious George. 0:04:21.080 --> 0:04:22.760 That's what everyone thought I was gonna be because I 0:04:22.839 --> 0:04:24.400 asked for a yellow hat and they were like, ooh, 0:04:24.400 --> 0:04:26.000 You're gonna be Curious George and the man in the 0:04:26.080 --> 0:04:26.600 yellow hat. 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:28.479 And I didn't say otherwise, so it was a bait 0:04:28.480 --> 0:04:28.960 and switch. 0:04:30.480 --> 0:04:33.000 You can see us on YouTube Dave Ryan TV. Jenny, 0:04:33.360 --> 0:04:33.800 I am. 0:04:33.680 --> 0:04:37.760 Tina Carlisle because I am Bailey's boyfriend. I'm Bailey's girlfriend 0:04:37.760 --> 0:04:41.880 from The Masks, Cameron Diaz's character in the Mask and Dave, 0:04:41.920 --> 0:04:44.599 I'm obsessed with the fact that your little uh barb 0:04:44.800 --> 0:04:49.320 or not weighty necklace is hanging between your cleavage right now. 0:04:49.520 --> 0:04:51.360 It's just being held up by your boobies. Does you 0:04:51.400 --> 0:04:51.760 work out? 0:04:52.040 --> 0:04:56.640 He's Jenny and you go yeah, yeah, wow, yeah yeah. 0:04:56.680 --> 0:04:58.640 And I'm a little orphan any I have the full 0:04:58.680 --> 0:05:00.680 costume one I have my wig, I have my red dress. 0:05:00.960 --> 0:05:03.039 That's all on your path for your costume though those 0:05:03.040 --> 0:05:04.600 two pieces. 0:05:04.120 --> 0:05:08.000 Well yeah, well to the bit, I was wearing leggings 0:05:08.040 --> 0:05:11.480 last night, yoga pants what you girls call him? Y Yeah, leggings, 0:05:11.720 --> 0:05:14.320 and I don't have those on today. So I we're 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:16.440 from the from the neck up right now, shoulders up. 0:05:16.440 --> 0:05:18.000 So if you want to see us on YouTube, we'll 0:05:18.040 --> 0:05:20.880 have these costumes on for the next autun know, twenty minutes, 0:05:20.960 --> 0:05:23.200 fifteen minutes, not a whole lot more because this thing 0:05:23.279 --> 0:05:26.479 is very itchy. But you see a bunch of pictures 0:05:26.520 --> 0:05:30.520 from Boo Badge last night on Dave Ryan Show on Instagram. 0:05:30.600 --> 0:05:32.880 So we talked to a woman Becca a little while ago. 0:05:33.000 --> 0:05:36.080 Really interesting question and I'm gonna sum it up for you. Basically, 0:05:36.160 --> 0:05:40.880 she knows her her husband's friend is getting married. They 0:05:40.960 --> 0:05:44.360 don't know his fiance very well, but she's very nice. 0:05:44.400 --> 0:05:46.840 They've known each other for about a year and they've 0:05:46.839 --> 0:05:51.040 had conversations Becca and the the woman the bride, and 0:05:51.080 --> 0:05:53.599 it's like, you know, it's a okay conversation, but you 0:05:53.600 --> 0:05:55.599 know one of those where you're not really hitting it 0:05:55.640 --> 0:05:58.119 off and you make polite conversation, you struggle for something 0:05:58.160 --> 0:06:02.200 to say, and so she thinks that they are going 0:06:02.279 --> 0:06:04.720 to ask her to be the one of the bridesmaids, 0:06:04.760 --> 0:06:07.000 and she doesn't want to. And the simple reason is 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:10.800 she just doesn't know this woman very well. And she's 0:06:10.839 --> 0:06:13.840 worried that if she does the festivities and the bachelorette 0:06:13.839 --> 0:06:16.599 party in the bridal shower, that she won't know anybody 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:18.239 and she'll sit in the corner and she just doesn't 0:06:18.320 --> 0:06:22.000 want to. Nobody likes that. So she thinks they're going 0:06:22.040 --> 0:06:24.360 to ask her this weekend. That's why we put her 0:06:24.360 --> 0:06:27.120 on right away instead of waiting till group therapy on Tuesday. 0:06:27.640 --> 0:06:31.159 What should she do if you've been declined by a 0:06:31.200 --> 0:06:34.240 potential bridesmaid? Is there a polite way to do it? 0:06:34.560 --> 0:06:39.120 If you've declined to be a bridesmaid? Is how was 0:06:39.200 --> 0:06:41.960 the reaction? What do you think she should say? And 0:06:42.000 --> 0:06:44.560 we got a ton of text messages, but first we 0:06:44.640 --> 0:06:46.240 got a bunch of phone call, or at least one 0:06:46.360 --> 0:06:49.320 phone call. So let's see if we can talk to 0:06:49.440 --> 0:06:51.800 John a little bit different perspective. John, tell me your 0:06:51.800 --> 0:06:52.680 story what happened? 0:06:53.640 --> 0:06:56.880 So, yeah, I asked to be a groomsman. This was 0:06:56.880 --> 0:07:00.400 about five years ago, and I barely knew the guy 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:03.960 talk to him maybe a handful of times at the time, 0:07:04.120 --> 0:07:08.000 and he just randomly asked me. And when he asked me, 0:07:08.200 --> 0:07:11.080 I said, if you need me to be I will 0:07:11.320 --> 0:07:13.800 because it's your day. I'm happy to help you. But 0:07:13.840 --> 0:07:16.560 at the same time, I don't feel comfortable being a 0:07:16.600 --> 0:07:19.080 groomsman yet. If you want to get to know each 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:22.840 other more or get to get together more often, then sure, 0:07:23.160 --> 0:07:26.240 but I'd rather just be a person to be there 0:07:26.400 --> 0:07:28.360 and help you and have fun with you. 0:07:28.400 --> 0:07:30.200 Guys, what did you end up doing? Did you actually 0:07:30.280 --> 0:07:31.720 end up being a groomsman or did you not? 0:07:32.880 --> 0:07:36.080 I actually did not. They found other individuals to be 0:07:36.120 --> 0:07:39.120 a groomsman, and I'm still friends with him actually, and he. 0:07:39.080 --> 0:07:42.520 Took it okay. I think sometimes I think it happens 0:07:42.520 --> 0:07:44.800 with men more than women. Sometimes there are guys that 0:07:44.960 --> 0:07:47.200 just don't have enough friends. She's got six friends. He 0:07:47.240 --> 0:07:49.920 needs to round out that side of the ceremony, so 0:07:49.960 --> 0:07:52.679 he'll like be like, I don't know, I got six friends. Yeah, 0:07:52.720 --> 0:07:55.600 And so they sometimes, But then you see the wonderful 0:07:55.600 --> 0:07:58.400 weddings where the guy has got like ten groomsmen up 0:07:58.440 --> 0:08:00.640 there and they've known each other since the Great and 0:08:00.680 --> 0:08:04.320 we played football together and it's like so cool. And 0:08:04.360 --> 0:08:06.360 then there's other ones that just don't work out, and. 0:08:06.320 --> 0:08:07.920 We have some text messages that are kind of saying 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:10.400 the same thing about the woman as well. One says, 0:08:10.440 --> 0:08:12.360 don't say no, it's a chance to get to know 0:08:12.400 --> 0:08:14.880 her better. She might not have a lot of close friends. 0:08:15.760 --> 0:08:18.400 Another one also says, she doesn't have close people in 0:08:18.440 --> 0:08:20.080 her life. She may feel that you would be a 0:08:20.120 --> 0:08:21.920 good person to have by her side at this point, 0:08:22.200 --> 0:08:24.600 but you can just be completely honest with her and 0:08:24.760 --> 0:08:26.840 tell her that you don't think you could show up 0:08:26.880 --> 0:08:29.360 in the way that she would need you to. A 0:08:29.400 --> 0:08:32.120 lot of people are saying blame the baby, blame the baby, 0:08:33.600 --> 0:08:35.960 and that's kind of like a running thing, especially if 0:08:36.000 --> 0:08:38.080 you're only if your four months postpartum. 0:08:38.559 --> 0:08:41.360 Say that you can't devote one hundred percent and that. 0:08:41.320 --> 0:08:43.880 You won't be able to do it, And people are saying, hey, 0:08:44.120 --> 0:08:46.920 that reasoning sounded perfect and I think that would be 0:08:47.000 --> 0:08:48.280 an acceptable No. 0:08:48.800 --> 0:08:51.880 Yeah, yeah, the reasoning is just like completely justified. 0:08:51.920 --> 0:08:54.280 My girlfriend, Alyssa, her sister got married and so she 0:08:54.320 --> 0:08:56.000 asked the other sister and she was like, sorry, I 0:08:56.000 --> 0:08:58.640 just don't want that responsibility and that's her sister. So 0:08:58.760 --> 0:09:01.960 this girl Becca's not even like close what you do. 0:09:01.920 --> 0:09:03.080 Jenny Oh. 0:09:03.160 --> 0:09:06.000 I would definitely just blame having a child. I'd be like, 0:09:06.040 --> 0:09:08.679 I'm sorry, my life is like too busy. And I 0:09:08.760 --> 0:09:11.000 do think that that's like a truthful answer mixed with 0:09:11.120 --> 0:09:13.880 a passive aggressive answer, And I think that that's perfectly 0:09:13.880 --> 0:09:15.720 fine because she doesn't owe this person anything. 0:09:15.760 --> 0:09:17.960 She barely knows this person, I don't know. 0:09:18.040 --> 0:09:21.920 I would definitely say no, no matter what, because being 0:09:21.960 --> 0:09:24.439 a bridesmaid is a hefty duty. 0:09:25.480 --> 0:09:29.440 Someone did suggest being a personal attendant, so you could say, like, 0:09:29.520 --> 0:09:31.560 I can't I can't be a bridesmaids because I can't 0:09:31.559 --> 0:09:33.920 put in that effort for you. But I would be 0:09:33.960 --> 0:09:37.640 willing to be a personal attendant because I do feel bad, 0:09:37.760 --> 0:09:39.280 like if this is a girl who doesn't have a 0:09:39.280 --> 0:09:41.280 lot of friends and that's why she's asking you, that's 0:09:41.320 --> 0:09:43.839 what I feel, yeah, right, Because then like if you're 0:09:43.840 --> 0:09:46.320 a personal attendant and if you offer it up like, hey, 0:09:46.320 --> 0:09:48.560 I can't be a bridesmaid because I'm going to be 0:09:48.559 --> 0:09:51.160 four month's postpartum, but I would love to be a 0:09:51.160 --> 0:09:53.360 personal attendant, then it's still like a no. 0:09:53.600 --> 0:09:54.960 But versus just a. 0:09:55.040 --> 0:09:55.160 No. 0:09:55.440 --> 0:09:56.920 I think you can feel bad, but you also have 0:09:57.000 --> 0:09:59.560 to think that, like, is it really her responsibility to 0:09:59.559 --> 0:10:02.480 take on the financial toll of being a bridesmaid when 0:10:02.520 --> 0:10:04.280 she's barely friends with this person? 0:10:04.400 --> 0:10:07.080 Yes, it does cost money. That's not fair at all. 0:10:07.400 --> 0:10:09.439 This texta is my sisters and I were all asked 0:10:09.480 --> 0:10:11.480 to be in a wedding of someone we didn't really know. 0:10:11.600 --> 0:10:14.200 We said yes because we felt concerned, but it was 0:10:14.320 --> 0:10:15.960 or cornered, but it was awful. 0:10:16.080 --> 0:10:16.679 Don't do it. 0:10:16.760 --> 0:10:18.560 I would say, you are honored to be asked, but 0:10:18.640 --> 0:10:20.760 unfortunately you will be unable to do it due to 0:10:20.800 --> 0:10:22.960 having a new baby. That's a reasonable reason. 0:10:23.200 --> 0:10:26.440 Finally, wrap things up with Secretary Brie. So the dilemma is, 0:10:26.480 --> 0:10:29.079 she's I think somebody that she doesn't know very well. 0:10:29.160 --> 0:10:30.680 She is probably going to ask to be asked to 0:10:30.679 --> 0:10:33.360 be a bridesmaid in her wedding this weekend, not the 0:10:33.400 --> 0:10:35.559 wedding of this weekend, but she'll ask this weekend. She 0:10:35.600 --> 0:10:37.520 doesn't want to because she doesn't know her well and 0:10:37.559 --> 0:10:39.280 doesn't want all the duties that come along with it. 0:10:39.320 --> 0:10:41.440 Wrap it up for me, Secretary Brie, what do you think? 0:10:42.440 --> 0:10:43.240 Don't do it? 0:10:43.520 --> 0:10:44.000 Don't do it? 0:10:44.080 --> 0:10:44.400 At all. 0:10:44.440 --> 0:10:46.960 If you're not feeling it, you don't have the financial resources, 0:10:47.000 --> 0:10:49.040 and you don't know the person. Well, do not feel 0:10:49.040 --> 0:10:51.480 guilty saying no. My half sister asked me to be 0:10:51.520 --> 0:10:54.640 her maid of honor. I don't have a relationship with her, 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:57.760 didn't I said yes because I felt obligated. I didn't 0:10:57.800 --> 0:11:00.640 know a single other bridesmaid in the wedding party, barely 0:11:00.679 --> 0:11:03.439 knew any guests. It was the most miserable experience, and 0:11:03.520 --> 0:11:05.240 I had to travel up to the North Shore spend 0:11:05.280 --> 0:11:06.280 a ton of money. 0:11:06.000 --> 0:11:09.040 And I was as simple as that. All right, thank you, Brie. 0:11:09.480 --> 0:11:13.599 We'll be back in a second with kW I was 0:11:13.640 --> 0:11:17.160 gonna say we got a keyword for Sabrina Carpenter. But also, 0:11:17.520 --> 0:11:19.120 if you ever an issue that you're like, I need 0:11:19.160 --> 0:11:20.800 some advice and I don't know who to ask. Somebody 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:22.280 listening to the show has got some advice for you 0:11:22.320 --> 0:11:24.959 because they've been in that same situation. We'll be back 0:11:25.000 --> 0:11:27.400 in a second on KTWB with you Can't make This 0:11:27.480 --> 0:11:30.960 Stuff up. We're going to talk about there's something with 0:11:31.080 --> 0:11:34.400 the new iPhone that people are they They're like, am 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:38.600 I imagining this or is it really happening? Yes, it's 0:11:38.679 --> 0:11:41.200 really happening, and I'll tell you about it nay on 0:11:41.320 --> 0:11:44.719 our iHeartRadio app. All right, do that while you've got 0:11:44.760 --> 0:11:47.960 the iHeart app open, just to hit that red microphone 0:11:48.000 --> 0:11:50.719 button and then you can say the talkback keyword or 0:11:50.760 --> 0:11:55.040 the keyword is busy and you're good to go. Shout 0:11:55.040 --> 0:11:57.520 out once again, boo bash. If you went last night, 0:11:57.840 --> 0:12:01.120 we had such a good time, probably the best one ever. Stephanie. 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:03.839 I saw your sister and your mama there last night. 0:12:04.280 --> 0:12:06.679 Mama and sister were both there last night. They were 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:07.760 so hammered by the way. 0:12:07.840 --> 0:12:08.720 Yeah, it was embarrassing. 0:12:08.760 --> 0:12:10.800 They got to fight. They hit a bartender with a bottle. Yeah, 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:11.840 I saw it happened, was crazy. 0:12:11.920 --> 0:12:13.240 I bailed them out this morning. 0:12:13.440 --> 0:12:14.960 You know, if you want to see the pictures on 0:12:15.720 --> 0:12:18.240 they're on Dave Ryan Show on Instagram and all of 0:12:18.280 --> 0:12:23.439 our different instagram vaunt Leak Bailey on air, Jenny KDWB 0:12:23.600 --> 0:12:25.040 and Dave Ryan KDWB. 0:12:25.280 --> 0:12:27.000 And if you took pictures, tag using them too, please 0:12:27.040 --> 0:12:29.199 we'd love to repost them at Dave ryanshow or at 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:30.280 any of our individuals. 0:12:30.559 --> 0:12:32.200 Just what we post you as long as you send them, 0:12:32.360 --> 0:12:34.360 because you'm sure you took a million pictures. 0:12:34.480 --> 0:12:36.680 Well, may I think that when we do events like 0:12:36.679 --> 0:12:38.560 this sometimes I'm not thinking to pull my phone out, 0:12:38.840 --> 0:12:40.600 so everybody else has the pictures. 0:12:40.640 --> 0:12:42.319 So I'm like, wait, send them to us taggers, right, 0:12:42.360 --> 0:12:44.320 please do so, go do that. Let's find out what's 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:48.000 going on this weekend in the Twin City. Stephanie, Instagram 0:12:48.160 --> 0:12:51.160 star is all about. You're an Instagram star. That's how 0:12:51.200 --> 0:12:53.640 I found you. I was poking around on Instagram about 0:12:53.679 --> 0:12:55.600 back February and I said, oh, there's this woman who 0:12:55.679 --> 0:12:57.560 knows all about things to do this weekend. Ye that 0:12:57.600 --> 0:13:00.240 are not your typical like you know, wild Game, which 0:13:00.280 --> 0:13:02.480 is awesome, but this is a little bit they. 0:13:02.320 --> 0:13:03.880 Get their own PR team. We're trying to help with 0:13:03.880 --> 0:13:04.400 the little guys. 0:13:04.440 --> 0:13:07.160 Yeah, exactly. So it's something a little bit different. Stepan, 0:13:07.400 --> 0:13:09.320 give you your top five things to do this weekend? 0:13:09.360 --> 0:13:09.679 All right? 0:13:09.679 --> 0:13:12.080 I thought a few last minute Halloween plans. So if 0:13:12.120 --> 0:13:14.440 you like pick a ball, there is a pickleball party 0:13:14.920 --> 0:13:17.160 in Costume at the Minneapolis Pickball Club. 0:13:17.160 --> 0:13:19.120 It's kind of down by the US Bank Stadium. 0:13:19.200 --> 0:13:22.720 Okay, It's twenty dollars to get in and you reserve 0:13:22.800 --> 0:13:26.000 your court on this court reserve, so whatever. But at 0:13:26.040 --> 0:13:28.360 twenty bucks a person, costumes are encouraged. They're going to 0:13:28.360 --> 0:13:29.800 have open play and then they're going to have like 0:13:29.880 --> 0:13:31.400 skill games. So if you don't want to go out 0:13:31.400 --> 0:13:33.040 and get hammer tonight, but you want to do something 0:13:33.040 --> 0:13:35.920 fun in costume, o's opportunity right down. 0:13:36.320 --> 0:13:37.200 That's to night. 0:13:37.240 --> 0:13:40.040 Tonight at the Minneapolis Pickball Club six to nine. 0:13:40.760 --> 0:13:44.120 Picklebooth smash is what they're calling it. Oh all right. 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:45.720 Number two is another Halloween idea. 0:13:45.720 --> 0:13:47.600 If you don't have any plans tonight because you don't 0:13:47.600 --> 0:13:50.440 have any friends, good old break the bubble. You know, 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:52.360 they host these events where you just show up. They're 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:54.559 on a name, take can stop start talking to people. 0:13:54.600 --> 0:13:56.640 They're having an event tonight from six to nine at 0:13:56.679 --> 0:13:59.320 Dual Citizen Brewing and costumes are encouraged. 0:13:59.360 --> 0:14:01.240 That's like the best breaker, you know, like, oh, would 0:14:01.240 --> 0:14:02.719 you come up with this costume? What are you? 0:14:02.720 --> 0:14:02.920 You know? 0:14:03.760 --> 0:14:04.360 You don't know anymore. 0:14:04.400 --> 0:14:06.040 I feel a lot of people that move to these 0:14:06.160 --> 0:14:08.679 cities have a hard time finding people in Minnesota's kind 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:11.080 of clicky, so it's a good opportunity to meet some 0:14:11.160 --> 0:14:15.680 new people, all right. Number three, Moving into Saturday, the 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:18.880 Twin Cities Model Train Museum in Saint Paul. If you've 0:14:18.880 --> 0:14:21.880 never been there, it's crazy, like eleven thousand square feet 0:14:21.920 --> 0:14:26.640 of trains, set ups and layouts, elaborate, elaborate, and there's 0:14:26.720 --> 0:14:29.360 Lego ones that kind of look like the Lego movie basement, 0:14:29.440 --> 0:14:30.280 like that guy's basement. 0:14:30.320 --> 0:14:31.880 Follow cool. 0:14:31.960 --> 0:14:34.560 They have a thing every like winter fall and winter 0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:36.760 called night Trains where they turn the lights off and 0:14:36.800 --> 0:14:38.760 they have all the lit displays and stuff like that. 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:41.880 So this one that's happening tomorrow is called Spooky Night Trains. 0:14:42.720 --> 0:14:43.920 It's like ten bucks to get in. 0:14:44.000 --> 0:14:48.000 Kids ages four and under are free, but they have tickets. 0:14:48.000 --> 0:14:50.480 It's like a two hour time window or whatever. They 0:14:50.480 --> 0:14:54.040 have tickets for three, four and five tomorrow Spooky Trains, 0:14:54.040 --> 0:14:56.520 and they do it every Saturday all I think until 0:14:56.560 --> 0:14:57.120 like February. 0:14:57.200 --> 0:14:58.560 The night train thing so cool. 0:14:58.760 --> 0:15:01.280 Yeah, it's really cool. My sun went or he's ten 0:15:01.400 --> 0:15:03.440 years old. He's on the or like the bridge of 0:15:03.520 --> 0:15:05.680 like too cool. I'm kind of becoming a teenager and 0:15:05.720 --> 0:15:08.600 he loved it. It's like super elaborate, all small details. 0:15:08.920 --> 0:15:12.359 There's two like big layouts of like Twin Cities replicas. 0:15:12.400 --> 0:15:12.560 You know. 0:15:12.600 --> 0:15:15.080 Cool man, I want to go there. Yeah, that sounds cool, 0:15:15.240 --> 0:15:16.480 super fun. All right. 0:15:16.520 --> 0:15:19.800 Then number four we're shifting into like fall season. Farmers 0:15:19.880 --> 0:15:21.680 markets are closing down. I don't know if there's any 0:15:21.720 --> 0:15:24.800 of the little Neighborhood's neighborhood ones that are still open, 0:15:25.320 --> 0:15:28.000 but the Northeast farmers Market is moving inside once a 0:15:28.040 --> 0:15:30.920 month this winter. There'll be at fifty six Brewing on 0:15:31.040 --> 0:15:33.040 Sunday this Sunday from ten to two. 0:15:33.320 --> 0:15:34.880 That's the one that's usually under the Big Bridge. 0:15:35.000 --> 0:15:37.000 No, that one will be open. They have limited hours 0:15:37.040 --> 0:15:38.840 I think in the winter. This is like the Northeast 0:15:38.880 --> 0:15:41.760 you know Neighborhood farmers Market, but they do cool stuff 0:15:41.800 --> 0:15:43.520 like they have like a Bloody Mary bar, and then 0:15:43.520 --> 0:15:45.840 they'll do like puzzle and game swaps and different things 0:15:45.840 --> 0:15:48.600 every month. And it's brewery, so there's fear of course, 0:15:49.080 --> 0:15:50.800 so we'll see what kind of tricks they come up with. 0:15:50.840 --> 0:15:52.520 But those I posted all the dates that they'll be 0:15:52.520 --> 0:15:54.360 open on Instagram, so if you want to go find it, 0:15:54.400 --> 0:15:54.920 we can't make. 0:15:54.800 --> 0:15:59.400 It's dots on Instagram. 0:15:59.480 --> 0:16:00.160 That looks fun. 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:02.160 They're also doing a food drive, just like you know, 0:16:02.160 --> 0:16:04.280 given the state of the world right now, so a 0:16:04.360 --> 0:16:09.040 local food shop. They'll be shelving stalking local food shops. 0:16:09.040 --> 0:16:10.040 There you go, there, we go. 0:16:10.600 --> 0:16:13.600 And bring fun stuff. Don't just bring like Campbell's soup 0:16:13.640 --> 0:16:14.320 and peas. 0:16:14.040 --> 0:16:18.520 And consider a fun macaroni and cheese by Yeah, yeah, 0:16:18.800 --> 0:16:19.600 bring fun stuff. 0:16:19.640 --> 0:16:21.400 You know kids want to eat fun stuff they don't 0:16:21.400 --> 0:16:25.160 want like green beans and spinach. Now, gross, bring down 0:16:25.200 --> 0:16:28.080 a can of canned mushrooms. You think Sylvia is gonna 0:16:28.120 --> 0:16:29.840 like that? Sylvia is six years old. Do you think 0:16:29.880 --> 0:16:30.720 she wants mushrooms? 0:16:30.800 --> 0:16:30.960 Now? 0:16:31.040 --> 0:16:32.280 Screw you? 0:16:32.280 --> 0:16:33.560 You named your six year old Sylvia. 0:16:33.600 --> 0:16:34.960 It's a beautiful name, great name. 0:16:35.280 --> 0:16:37.000 How dare you bring. 0:16:36.800 --> 0:16:39.480 You some crab macaroni and cheese like scooby doo oo? 0:16:40.000 --> 0:16:42.040 Sounds good? Do you have one more? I do? 0:16:42.120 --> 0:16:44.760 Okay, Okay. The last one is book fairs. Did you 0:16:44.800 --> 0:16:46.680 ever go to that book fair for grown ups? 0:16:47.080 --> 0:16:50.360 I did? And the line was so ridiculously long. It 0:16:50.440 --> 0:16:53.000 was literally about a half a mile long line. 0:16:53.120 --> 0:16:56.320