1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,240 Speaker 1: The same side booth sitters. That is pretty much what 2 00:00:03,360 --> 00:00:06,360 Speaker 1: we are going to talk about right now, unless things 3 00:00:06,400 --> 00:00:11,920 Speaker 1: go unplanned. Last night, when I called Quinn and said, hey, 4 00:00:12,039 --> 00:00:14,120 Speaker 1: you know, do you mind coming on the show with us, 5 00:00:15,080 --> 00:00:17,959 Speaker 1: we got a call from someone, you know, because you 6 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:23,720 Speaker 1: went out with her, Jacqueline, wondering why you didn't call 7 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:25,520 Speaker 1: her back. This is left un rad on ninety three 8 00:00:25,560 --> 00:00:30,840 Speaker 1: three FLZ and Jacqueline originally got in contact with us. Hi, Jacqueline, 9 00:00:31,920 --> 00:00:34,479 Speaker 1: Hi there, I uh, you know, kind of like what 10 00:00:34,560 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 1: I said, Quinn, can you hear me? 11 00:00:36,840 --> 00:00:37,000 Speaker 2: Oh? 12 00:00:37,080 --> 00:00:41,919 Speaker 1: Yeah, Hey, okay, so you both know why you're here. 13 00:00:41,960 --> 00:00:46,680 Speaker 1: We can save the awkward hellos and whatnot. Quinn, something 14 00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:49,680 Speaker 1: happened at the dinner table. I just referenced the whole 15 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:52,199 Speaker 1: same side booth sitters and eight hundred and four O 16 00:00:52,360 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 1: nine ninety three ninety three. It hasn't happened in a 17 00:00:55,280 --> 00:00:58,000 Speaker 1: very long time. Maybe we can convince Quinn this isn't 18 00:00:58,160 --> 00:01:01,360 Speaker 1: so bad, or maybe you agree with her and you 19 00:01:01,400 --> 00:01:04,839 Speaker 1: maybe wouldn't have called Jacqueline back. But h Quinn, let's 20 00:01:04,840 --> 00:01:07,480 Speaker 1: just dive right into it. Why was it that bad 21 00:01:07,560 --> 00:01:10,160 Speaker 1: to the point where you decided you never wanted to 22 00:01:10,160 --> 00:01:11,280 Speaker 1: talk to Jacqueline again. 23 00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:15,800 Speaker 3: I mean, look, it's I feel like I sound like 24 00:01:15,800 --> 00:01:18,920 Speaker 3: I'm being dramatic. Sure, but the truth is is that 25 00:01:19,120 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 3: it's the first date. You don't sit on the same 26 00:01:21,280 --> 00:01:24,880 Speaker 3: side of the boots as a person. 27 00:01:26,600 --> 00:01:30,200 Speaker 4: Bother you. I like sitting on the same side, but 28 00:01:30,280 --> 00:01:32,760 Speaker 4: I'm also one. I won't say I'm clingy, but like, 29 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:35,679 Speaker 4: I love physical touch, so I love to sit on 30 00:01:35,720 --> 00:01:36,600 Speaker 4: the same side of the booth. 31 00:01:36,800 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 2: Well. 32 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:39,280 Speaker 1: In speaking of the touching, Quinn, you said that you 33 00:01:39,319 --> 00:01:40,520 Speaker 1: were getting like rubbed done. 34 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:46,520 Speaker 5: Yeah, exactly, like she kept touching my leg. But like, 35 00:01:47,319 --> 00:01:50,160 Speaker 5: I mean, I was clearly uncomfortable. Come on, pick up 36 00:01:50,160 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 5: on like one. 37 00:01:51,520 --> 00:01:52,280 Speaker 6: Of my cues. 38 00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:56,840 Speaker 5: Right, even even a waiter knew that I was picked out. 39 00:01:57,280 --> 00:02:01,440 Speaker 1: You know, Jacqueline, defend yourself, or maybe there's no defending. 40 00:02:01,480 --> 00:02:04,280 Speaker 1: Maybe you just said, hey, that's me, That's what I do. 41 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:08,200 Speaker 6: Well, I mean, I do like to sit on the 42 00:02:08,200 --> 00:02:10,639 Speaker 6: same side of the booth, like, regardless of if it's 43 00:02:10,680 --> 00:02:13,359 Speaker 6: a first date or we're best friends, I just feel 44 00:02:13,400 --> 00:02:16,800 Speaker 6: like they're like there's just like more intention Like I 45 00:02:16,840 --> 00:02:19,320 Speaker 6: want I want to be able to hear you. I 46 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:21,320 Speaker 6: don't want to be shouting over a table or a 47 00:02:21,320 --> 00:02:26,399 Speaker 6: booth and like as far as the touching goes, I'm sorry, Quin, 48 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:30,000 Speaker 6: you're a grown ass woman, like tell me that you're uncomfortable. 49 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:33,520 Speaker 6: I did not pick up on that, but I just 50 00:02:34,160 --> 00:02:37,919 Speaker 6: I wanted you to know that, like, hey, I'm I'm 51 00:02:37,960 --> 00:02:40,880 Speaker 6: feeling you right now, Like my intention is I want 52 00:02:40,919 --> 00:02:44,119 Speaker 6: to continue to get to know you in like I'm 53 00:02:44,160 --> 00:02:46,600 Speaker 6: not friend zoning you. And I just thought that that 54 00:02:46,720 --> 00:02:48,560 Speaker 6: was going to be like a clear sign like Henny, 55 00:02:48,639 --> 00:02:51,880 Speaker 6: like this is something I'm enjoying. I am also like 56 00:02:51,960 --> 00:02:55,600 Speaker 6: an affectionate person in general, like I like to connect 57 00:02:55,680 --> 00:02:59,680 Speaker 6: with people. And obviously I didn't mean to make you 58 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:02,400 Speaker 6: feel comfortable and I'm sorry that happened, but also like 59 00:03:03,840 --> 00:03:07,160 Speaker 6: take some ownership, like you could have at any point 60 00:03:07,240 --> 00:03:09,440 Speaker 6: been like, oh please don't sit next to me and 61 00:03:09,560 --> 00:03:11,000 Speaker 6: on the same side of the booth that makes me 62 00:03:11,040 --> 00:03:13,160 Speaker 6: weird it doubt, or like hey, can you put your 63 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:13,880 Speaker 6: hand off my leg? 64 00:03:14,000 --> 00:03:20,240 Speaker 7: I just don't think like use your word why, because 65 00:03:20,360 --> 00:03:22,680 Speaker 7: I just, like she said, I want to be able 66 00:03:22,680 --> 00:03:24,280 Speaker 7: to hear you when I'm having a conversation. 67 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:26,359 Speaker 4: Let's be real, A lot of these restaurants now there's 68 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:28,600 Speaker 4: a DJ inside of it, or the music is loud, 69 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:30,280 Speaker 4: so I want to be able to hear you. And 70 00:03:30,320 --> 00:03:33,720 Speaker 4: like I said, I'm also someone who enjoys physical touch. 71 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:36,440 Speaker 4: So if I'm putting my hand on your leg or 72 00:03:36,480 --> 00:03:38,600 Speaker 4: your shoulder, it's easy for me to do that rather 73 00:03:38,640 --> 00:03:41,880 Speaker 4: than sitting across from you. And if someone is uncomfortable 74 00:03:41,880 --> 00:03:44,400 Speaker 4: with sitting on the same side, like she said, use 75 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:46,960 Speaker 4: your word. She's like, you know what, can you sit 76 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:50,000 Speaker 4: on the opposite side of me? Or you know you're 77 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:52,920 Speaker 4: making me a little bit uncomfortable, Just use your words. 78 00:03:52,920 --> 00:03:55,680 Speaker 4: People are not mind readers in That's why a lot 79 00:03:55,680 --> 00:03:57,920 Speaker 4: of people get ghosted because we don't know what we're doing. 80 00:03:58,840 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 5: Okay, but here's the thing, Like I'm physically moving away 81 00:04:01,960 --> 00:04:06,760 Speaker 5: from her. You should pick up on that, and abody 82 00:04:06,800 --> 00:04:09,280 Speaker 5: supposed to say, hey, I don't want to sit next 83 00:04:09,280 --> 00:04:09,840 Speaker 5: to you. 84 00:04:09,920 --> 00:04:12,240 Speaker 1: Like I agree with you on that. By the way, 85 00:04:12,440 --> 00:04:15,040 Speaker 1: I completely agree with you. And I try to be 86 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:19,360 Speaker 1: like Switzerland during these I don't really it's my job 87 00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:22,799 Speaker 1: as the host. I can't pick a side. Jed's been quiet. 88 00:04:22,839 --> 00:04:27,760 Speaker 1: I wonder what Jed's thinking. But it is kind of 89 00:04:27,880 --> 00:04:32,120 Speaker 1: uncomfortable to say you're uncomfortable on a first date. I 90 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:35,120 Speaker 1: think the moment you say that the dates killed. There's 91 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:36,480 Speaker 1: a way you can go about it. 92 00:04:36,520 --> 00:04:38,360 Speaker 4: There's you just have to say. I don't know, like 93 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:40,640 Speaker 4: just let's sit on that side so I can see 94 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:42,520 Speaker 4: you not making it. 95 00:04:42,640 --> 00:04:44,919 Speaker 1: You have to you feel uncomfortable, so you have to 96 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:46,200 Speaker 1: lie right. 97 00:04:46,200 --> 00:04:48,800 Speaker 5: And then it's my job because you're making me uncomfortable. 98 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:51,600 Speaker 5: I'm the one that has to like figure out how 99 00:04:51,640 --> 00:04:52,680 Speaker 5: to not hurt your feelings. 100 00:04:59,279 --> 00:05:02,160 Speaker 1: Let's not all t over each other. Let's let Jacqueline 101 00:05:02,160 --> 00:05:04,600 Speaker 1: finish and then we can go to jet Jacqueline finish 102 00:05:04,680 --> 00:05:04,920 Speaker 1: it up. 103 00:05:05,400 --> 00:05:08,080 Speaker 6: Well, you're making an assumption that I would have been 104 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:11,360 Speaker 6: offended or taking it a bad way, and that like 105 00:05:12,120 --> 00:05:16,640 Speaker 6: my feelings wouldn't have been hurt if you like advocated 106 00:05:16,680 --> 00:05:19,600 Speaker 6: for yourself. Like if I sat down and you were like, hey, 107 00:05:19,960 --> 00:05:21,760 Speaker 6: do you mind sitting across from me? It makes me 108 00:05:21,920 --> 00:05:25,520 Speaker 6: just a little uncomfortable, I'd be like, oh, okay, Like sure, 109 00:05:25,520 --> 00:05:28,159 Speaker 6: I'll sit across from you. I do typically like to 110 00:05:28,200 --> 00:05:30,480 Speaker 6: sit next to people in the booth, but. 111 00:05:30,880 --> 00:05:34,520 Speaker 4: Heard, yeah a boundary Jed and Yah. 112 00:05:34,640 --> 00:05:37,599 Speaker 8: I think it's a little different too, because obviously this 113 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:39,760 Speaker 8: is a real lesbian relationship. I don't know how it 114 00:05:39,800 --> 00:05:41,800 Speaker 8: is girl on girl versus guy on guy. But I've 115 00:05:41,839 --> 00:05:48,480 Speaker 8: always been taught like that guy Ashley and slip Chop, 116 00:05:49,040 --> 00:05:51,880 Speaker 8: I met girl guy. So, for example, the first date 117 00:05:51,920 --> 00:05:54,640 Speaker 8: that my current girlfriend and I went on, you sat 118 00:05:54,680 --> 00:05:55,480 Speaker 8: next to your girlfriend. 119 00:05:55,560 --> 00:05:56,160 Speaker 1: Sure, and. 120 00:05:57,800 --> 00:05:59,520 Speaker 8: We sat next to each other in the booth. 121 00:06:00,440 --> 00:06:03,599 Speaker 1: Wait for wait, actually you guys? Hey, can I be 122 00:06:03,640 --> 00:06:04,159 Speaker 1: honest with you? 123 00:06:04,160 --> 00:06:13,360 Speaker 9: Guys, they are kind of domity sometimes that's okay, and 124 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:16,240 Speaker 9: it's okay you said on the same side, on the 125 00:06:16,279 --> 00:06:18,599 Speaker 9: same side, but you I've been told that you wait 126 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:20,600 Speaker 9: for the girl to make the first contact, and then 127 00:06:20,640 --> 00:06:21,880 Speaker 9: that's like opening up. 128 00:06:21,920 --> 00:06:23,640 Speaker 8: So I kind of see both sides. 129 00:06:23,360 --> 00:06:26,240 Speaker 4: Of the it's the same thing within the same sex relationship. 130 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:28,719 Speaker 4: You kind of just wait until that person makes it known. 131 00:06:28,760 --> 00:06:29,560 Speaker 4: Like okay, I. 132 00:06:29,520 --> 00:06:31,919 Speaker 8: Am okay, you know what I'm saying, because it's like, 133 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 8: as a guy, I wait for the girl. If it's 134 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:34,279 Speaker 8: two girls. 135 00:06:34,360 --> 00:06:36,720 Speaker 4: I know some girls, I know some guys who will 136 00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:38,280 Speaker 4: make the first move with some girls who are more 137 00:06:38,320 --> 00:06:42,480 Speaker 4: dominant in the relationship with guys though, so it just depends. 138 00:06:42,520 --> 00:06:44,320 Speaker 4: It depends on who you're with. And I also know 139 00:06:44,360 --> 00:06:46,520 Speaker 4: that it's also a thing where you just have to 140 00:06:46,520 --> 00:06:47,720 Speaker 4: be vocal. 141 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:50,240 Speaker 8: Yeah, I don't see the. 142 00:06:50,200 --> 00:06:52,440 Speaker 4: Person has to respect your boundaries. Now, had she said 143 00:06:52,440 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 4: don't sit on this side and you sat on that side, 144 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:57,680 Speaker 4: and then you're not respecting the boundaries, like you got 145 00:06:57,720 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 4: a problem? 146 00:06:58,520 --> 00:07:00,640 Speaker 1: All right here, let's talk to brokenwn Brook. You're on 147 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:03,320 Speaker 1: with Quinn and Jacqueline. Jacqueline didn't get a call back. 148 00:07:03,400 --> 00:07:07,640 Speaker 1: Quinn said, it's because it didn't feel too comfortable sitting 149 00:07:07,680 --> 00:07:08,480 Speaker 1: on the same side. 150 00:07:10,240 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 2: Hi, guys, So I was just thinking that it's possible 151 00:07:14,480 --> 00:07:17,400 Speaker 2: that when she said, oh, you know, you didn't pick 152 00:07:17,520 --> 00:07:21,080 Speaker 2: up on me kind of pulling away. Maybe she didn't 153 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:22,920 Speaker 2: pick up on that she was so excited to be 154 00:07:22,960 --> 00:07:24,480 Speaker 2: on the date with you and get to know you 155 00:07:24,560 --> 00:07:26,080 Speaker 2: and hang out with you and just be knew you 156 00:07:26,240 --> 00:07:29,559 Speaker 2: that that that was It was so subtle she didn't 157 00:07:29,600 --> 00:07:32,440 Speaker 2: pick up on it. And I've never sat on the 158 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 2: same side of the booth as someone on a date. 159 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:38,560 Speaker 2: But thinking about it, my husband's a people watcher, and 160 00:07:39,040 --> 00:07:42,160 Speaker 2: sometimes I think he's looking past me and looking at 161 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:44,560 Speaker 2: other things that you know, he's not interested in what 162 00:07:44,600 --> 00:07:47,080 Speaker 2: I have to say, but he's really just watching what's 163 00:07:47,120 --> 00:07:47,920 Speaker 2: going on around. 164 00:07:48,520 --> 00:07:50,720 Speaker 1: But he also might be like me, Brooke, my ad 165 00:07:50,880 --> 00:07:52,960 Speaker 1: d is so bad. I swear to you, if a 166 00:07:53,120 --> 00:07:56,560 Speaker 1: light flickers, it doesn't matter. I could be my fiance 167 00:07:56,680 --> 00:08:00,440 Speaker 1: could be telling me she's pregnant and a light would flicker, 168 00:08:00,440 --> 00:08:03,440 Speaker 1: and I would go, I think they flicks that light bulb. 169 00:08:03,440 --> 00:08:04,320 Speaker 1: What are you talking about? 170 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:09,400 Speaker 2: Right? No? I just I think that you know, like 171 00:08:09,440 --> 00:08:12,360 Speaker 2: she said, she could have communicated that, but obviously she 172 00:08:12,400 --> 00:08:14,560 Speaker 2: didn't want to make the date awkward. I think that 173 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:17,800 Speaker 2: she should be open to maybe now she's she's sort 174 00:08:17,800 --> 00:08:20,240 Speaker 2: of set that boundary or made it iron to go 175 00:08:20,360 --> 00:08:22,160 Speaker 2: on a second date and see how she feels from there. 176 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:23,240 Speaker 2: That that would be my take. 177 00:08:23,480 --> 00:08:24,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you, Brooke. 178 00:08:24,880 --> 00:08:28,480 Speaker 10: Nicki, Hi, how are you guys? 179 00:08:28,680 --> 00:08:30,800 Speaker 1: Listen? Life is good when we're talking to Nicki. Nicki, 180 00:08:30,800 --> 00:08:32,040 Speaker 1: you're on with Jacqueline and Quinn. 181 00:08:34,080 --> 00:08:37,760 Speaker 10: So I think that you guys should honestly just start 182 00:08:37,800 --> 00:08:42,480 Speaker 10: brush you guysoking like such lovely ladies. Maybe your next date, 183 00:08:43,160 --> 00:08:46,480 Speaker 10: don't you touch you theely and sit across from each other, 184 00:08:46,679 --> 00:08:49,040 Speaker 10: and maybe you guys can actually get to know each 185 00:08:49,040 --> 00:08:52,400 Speaker 10: other without all the awkwardness. For Quinn, do you guys 186 00:08:52,400 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 10: feel like you would actually be really good together? 187 00:08:55,040 --> 00:08:55,520 Speaker 4: I agree? 188 00:08:55,559 --> 00:08:56,000 Speaker 1: Look at that. 189 00:08:56,080 --> 00:08:58,040 Speaker 6: Thank you well. 190 00:08:58,280 --> 00:09:01,640 Speaker 1: I suppose that's a good lead into the ending of 191 00:09:01,679 --> 00:09:05,120 Speaker 1: this and maybe something can be figured out. Let's start 192 00:09:05,120 --> 00:09:08,559 Speaker 1: with Jacqueline, since Jacqueline was the one to originally reach out. 193 00:09:08,600 --> 00:09:12,520 Speaker 1: Twist Jacqueline any interest in maybe another date still. 194 00:09:12,559 --> 00:09:16,040 Speaker 6: I mean, obviously I felt like I made my intentions 195 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:20,040 Speaker 6: known from the date itself and maybe going about. 196 00:09:19,880 --> 00:09:21,439 Speaker 1: Are you still into a way, But. 197 00:09:22,240 --> 00:09:24,400 Speaker 6: Absolutely I wouldn't have called you guys. 198 00:09:24,160 --> 00:09:26,840 Speaker 7: If I didn't want to beautiful to figure this out 199 00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:27,880 Speaker 7: and hope to a forward. 200 00:09:28,080 --> 00:09:35,800 Speaker 3: Quinn, look, I hear you, but I'm I'm good. I'm done. 201 00:09:35,440 --> 00:09:37,600 Speaker 3: I ghosted you for a reason. 202 00:09:39,720 --> 00:09:40,679 Speaker 2: You can't get back from that.