1 00:00:00,480 --> 00:00:05,480 Speaker 1: It's Night Side with Dan Ray on WBZ Foston's Meat Radio. 2 00:00:05,920 --> 00:00:09,160 Speaker 2: Thank you, Dan Watkins. My friends, have you noticed since 3 00:00:09,320 --> 00:00:14,200 Speaker 2: the pandemic that people have gotten ruder? Is it something 4 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:17,520 Speaker 2: that you've definitely noticed? Do you attribute it to the pandemic? 5 00:00:17,920 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 2: Even though it happened post pandemic. It doesn't mean that 6 00:00:21,560 --> 00:00:23,840 Speaker 2: there's a cause and effective relationship. But maybe there is, 7 00:00:24,400 --> 00:00:27,720 Speaker 2: or maybe it's some other factors. But there are polls 8 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:30,680 Speaker 2: that say, for example, almost half of Americans say people 9 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:35,680 Speaker 2: have gotten ruder since COVID nineteen pandemic. Have you noticed 10 00:00:35,720 --> 00:00:40,640 Speaker 2: this and in what areas? Have you noticed it in restaurants, 11 00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:46,400 Speaker 2: on the street, driving, or maybe even at a concert. 12 00:00:47,240 --> 00:00:48,920 Speaker 2: The reason this comes up is I was speaking with 13 00:00:48,960 --> 00:00:51,320 Speaker 2: a friend of mine the other day, a writer for 14 00:00:51,320 --> 00:00:55,080 Speaker 2: a wonderful music magazine, a slick magazine, Vinuland it's called 15 00:00:56,520 --> 00:00:58,880 Speaker 2: which you really need to check out if you're into music, 16 00:00:59,160 --> 00:01:03,800 Speaker 2: you want to keep up. It's really good. And Michael's 17 00:01:03,800 --> 00:01:06,440 Speaker 2: a writer for it, and he said that he'd noticed 18 00:01:06,480 --> 00:01:11,200 Speaker 2: at concerts that people have forgotten how to act, how 19 00:01:11,240 --> 00:01:14,399 Speaker 2: to be at all considerate, and so he's going to 20 00:01:14,400 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 2: talk about his experiences. He wrote. I actually wrote an 21 00:01:17,319 --> 00:01:20,800 Speaker 2: article on it, at least one, I think, and then 22 00:01:21,160 --> 00:01:24,399 Speaker 2: I'll ask you. Well, I'm asking you right now. You 23 00:01:24,400 --> 00:01:26,479 Speaker 2: don't have to wait for the interviews to be over. 24 00:01:27,200 --> 00:01:29,800 Speaker 2: Telling you right, tell us right now. Where have you 25 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:36,320 Speaker 2: noticed rudeness? I'll give you one example. It snowed, and 26 00:01:36,480 --> 00:01:38,640 Speaker 2: many of the walking paths are very now like one 27 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:42,800 Speaker 2: pass of a snowblower, not enough for two people to 28 00:01:42,840 --> 00:01:45,120 Speaker 2: go by, not enough for two people to pass one another. 29 00:01:47,400 --> 00:01:51,320 Speaker 2: So many times I will, as some of the approaches, 30 00:01:51,760 --> 00:01:54,080 Speaker 2: kind of duck into a doorway and wait for them 31 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:55,680 Speaker 2: to go by and give them the right of way. 32 00:01:56,080 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 2: You know, I might be waiting ten seconds, you know, 33 00:01:58,360 --> 00:02:01,560 Speaker 2: I'm waiting for them for a while. They walk right 34 00:02:01,560 --> 00:02:08,240 Speaker 2: by and say nothing. That is scummy, that is that 35 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:14,000 Speaker 2: is rude. Society cannot work like that. That's where I 36 00:02:14,040 --> 00:02:16,120 Speaker 2: noticed it. I've noticed it in other ways too, But 37 00:02:16,160 --> 00:02:19,239 Speaker 2: that's one example. How about you? Six one, seven, two, 38 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 2: five thirty is the number I love you to share. 39 00:02:21,919 --> 00:02:26,360 Speaker 2: Have you noticed rudeness since the pandemic? What? In what way? 40 00:02:26,639 --> 00:02:30,560 Speaker 2: What happened? What do you see and do you do 41 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:33,200 Speaker 2: you attribute it to the pandemic or something else. Now, 42 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:38,680 Speaker 2: let's talk to Michael Christopher a Vinyland Magazine him Michael, but. 43 00:02:38,760 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 3: I'd beg, Jay, how are you? 44 00:02:40,800 --> 00:02:44,400 Speaker 2: I'm well, thanks for being with us. Can you, before 45 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:48,839 Speaker 2: we get going, tell the folks about the vinyl Land 46 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:50,800 Speaker 2: magazine because there are a lot of music fans in 47 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:53,480 Speaker 2: the audience, and a lot of them don't yet know 48 00:02:53,560 --> 00:02:56,680 Speaker 2: about vinyl Land, even though it's really really popular and 49 00:02:56,760 --> 00:02:58,959 Speaker 2: really good. Can you can you talk about it a 50 00:02:59,000 --> 00:03:01,800 Speaker 2: little and talk about what you do for them? Yeah? 51 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:06,000 Speaker 3: Absolutely, I mean Vinyland basically rose out of the ashes 52 00:03:06,040 --> 00:03:08,600 Speaker 3: of the Boston Phoenix. When the Boston Phoenix went over, 53 00:03:09,360 --> 00:03:13,160 Speaker 3: Michael Morauda, who was the music editor over there, decided 54 00:03:13,200 --> 00:03:15,480 Speaker 3: that we still had a lot to say even though 55 00:03:15,480 --> 00:03:18,160 Speaker 3: we didn't have an outlet for it. So he created 56 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:21,440 Speaker 3: Vinyland and I was one of the founding writers and 57 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:24,760 Speaker 3: it started off mainly focused on music, but it's since 58 00:03:24,840 --> 00:03:28,960 Speaker 3: spread from being about what's new in music, what's coming 59 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:32,120 Speaker 3: to town, what songs you to hear that are out there, 60 00:03:32,480 --> 00:03:36,600 Speaker 3: to now it's transcended to film, to comedy, to television. 61 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:40,720 Speaker 3: So it's really your one stop shop for anything culture 62 00:03:40,720 --> 00:03:43,920 Speaker 3: wise that you might need in Boston and beyond. It's 63 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:46,320 Speaker 3: not just Boston centric, although there is a lot of 64 00:03:46,640 --> 00:03:49,000 Speaker 3: Boston and New England centric music notes there. 65 00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:54,200 Speaker 2: Yes, and you have written Did you write an article 66 00:03:54,240 --> 00:03:57,480 Speaker 2: for Vinyland or somebody else that was about what you 67 00:03:57,560 --> 00:04:00,440 Speaker 2: have experienced recently of post pandemic concerts. 68 00:04:01,680 --> 00:04:06,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, I wrote that about about the concerts and the 69 00:04:06,400 --> 00:04:09,600 Speaker 3: rudeness I've been experiencing there and really noticing it to 70 00:04:09,640 --> 00:04:11,160 Speaker 3: the point where I felt like I had to write 71 00:04:11,160 --> 00:04:13,920 Speaker 3: about it. That wasn't for Vonuland though, that was for 72 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:18,919 Speaker 3: Media Newsgroup, which is they own a series of newspapers 73 00:04:19,000 --> 00:04:22,600 Speaker 3: and I'm syndicated in a bunch of them. So I 74 00:04:22,680 --> 00:04:26,200 Speaker 3: decided to do this article on just how bad it's gotten. 75 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:28,600 Speaker 3: It shows and you know you've been the shows. You've 76 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:30,840 Speaker 3: been just as many shows, if not many more than 77 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:33,480 Speaker 3: I have. And you always see the person who had 78 00:04:33,520 --> 00:04:36,120 Speaker 3: a little bit too much to drink, maybe the person 79 00:04:36,160 --> 00:04:39,719 Speaker 3: who was being a little bit more disruptive than somebody else. 80 00:04:39,760 --> 00:04:44,560 Speaker 3: But it's just going through the roof since COVID and 81 00:04:44,640 --> 00:04:47,359 Speaker 3: I do agree with you that it may not be 82 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:49,800 Speaker 3: the cause and effect thing, it's just when I think 83 00:04:50,279 --> 00:04:51,720 Speaker 3: it really became noticeable. 84 00:04:53,600 --> 00:04:55,080 Speaker 2: What are some of the things you see? What are 85 00:04:55,120 --> 00:04:57,760 Speaker 2: some specific behaviors that you see. 86 00:04:58,640 --> 00:05:03,880 Speaker 3: I think that the two biggest behaviors are the talking 87 00:05:04,040 --> 00:05:07,440 Speaker 3: the conversation. And this isn't just oh hey, look at 88 00:05:07,440 --> 00:05:10,680 Speaker 3: that guitar that that performer is using up there. Oh yeah, 89 00:05:10,839 --> 00:05:14,760 Speaker 3: check that out. These are people that are having conversations 90 00:05:14,880 --> 00:05:19,359 Speaker 3: at an extremely loud volume while the performer is on stage, 91 00:05:19,720 --> 00:05:22,520 Speaker 3: and your voice is getting louder as the performance is 92 00:05:22,520 --> 00:05:24,480 Speaker 3: getting louder. It's almost like you're in a bar when 93 00:05:24,520 --> 00:05:27,520 Speaker 3: the jukebox goes up, the people's voices go up until 94 00:05:27,560 --> 00:05:29,800 Speaker 3: one of them has to win out. And I can't 95 00:05:29,839 --> 00:05:32,000 Speaker 3: tell you the number of shows I've been to where 96 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:35,159 Speaker 3: the artists that actually called out the audience or people 97 00:05:35,160 --> 00:05:37,960 Speaker 3: in the audience so if you please shut up, or 98 00:05:38,200 --> 00:05:42,240 Speaker 3: using a little bit more colorful language. I saw the 99 00:05:42,279 --> 00:05:44,680 Speaker 3: Black Crows at Brighton Music Hall when they reunited a 100 00:05:44,680 --> 00:05:47,480 Speaker 3: couple of years ago, and frontman Chris Robinson had to 101 00:05:47,480 --> 00:05:49,919 Speaker 3: stop the show I think three or four times to 102 00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:53,040 Speaker 3: tell people, hey, are you here to see me? Or 103 00:05:53,040 --> 00:05:55,040 Speaker 3: are you here to talk to your friend or your neighbor? 104 00:05:55,520 --> 00:05:57,080 Speaker 3: Because I'm hearing more of that than I'm in the 105 00:05:57,080 --> 00:06:04,280 Speaker 3: band behind me. I've seen it as Roadrunner at different shows. 106 00:06:03,880 --> 00:06:11,279 Speaker 3: It's really become a stain on going to shows. Again, 107 00:06:11,360 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 3: this isn't just hey, everybody has to be mute at 108 00:06:13,920 --> 00:06:16,720 Speaker 3: a concert. That's not what I'm saying. This is people 109 00:06:16,720 --> 00:06:20,320 Speaker 3: that are just talking over the music. No matter if 110 00:06:20,320 --> 00:06:23,200 Speaker 3: it's a singer songwriter show or it's a hard rock show, 111 00:06:23,279 --> 00:06:26,680 Speaker 3: a punk rock show, they somehow manage to have this 112 00:06:26,760 --> 00:06:29,599 Speaker 3: sort of main character syndrome where they have to be 113 00:06:29,640 --> 00:06:30,880 Speaker 3: the center of attention. 114 00:06:31,200 --> 00:06:35,800 Speaker 2: Anything that's rude to the other audience, I mean other 115 00:06:35,800 --> 00:06:39,960 Speaker 2: people in the audience. Something about phone use or blocking 116 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:42,240 Speaker 2: view any things like that. 117 00:06:43,200 --> 00:06:46,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think there's definitely been well, there's always been 118 00:06:46,279 --> 00:06:50,000 Speaker 3: problems with phones ever since phones got better with their cameras, 119 00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:53,560 Speaker 3: people are always taking a ton of video and a 120 00:06:53,600 --> 00:06:56,600 Speaker 3: ton of pictures, and sometimes you can say it's a 121 00:06:56,600 --> 00:07:00,760 Speaker 3: bit too much. But if you're standing behind somebody and 122 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:03,040 Speaker 3: they have their phone up the entire show, you've got 123 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:06,680 Speaker 3: people that are live streaming the entire show. I don't 124 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:08,479 Speaker 3: know how they hold their arms up that long, but 125 00:07:08,520 --> 00:07:11,560 Speaker 3: they're holding their phone for an hour and a half 126 00:07:11,600 --> 00:07:16,280 Speaker 3: straight streaming it to their thirty four followers on whatever 127 00:07:16,360 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 3: format they're using, whether it's Twitch or they're doing it 128 00:07:18,880 --> 00:07:20,000 Speaker 3: on Instagram. 129 00:07:19,560 --> 00:07:22,360 Speaker 2: Whatever, and the mean you're not enjoying the show. 130 00:07:22,720 --> 00:07:25,880 Speaker 3: Right, They're not enjoying the show. They're not being present 131 00:07:25,920 --> 00:07:28,160 Speaker 3: in the moment. And the people who are watching it, 132 00:07:28,240 --> 00:07:31,360 Speaker 3: nobody's tuning in for the entire performance. Nobody's tuning into 133 00:07:31,400 --> 00:07:35,760 Speaker 3: your shaky cell phone holding for an entire show. And 134 00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:38,160 Speaker 3: if you are unlucky enough to be behind a person, 135 00:07:38,280 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 3: and let's say it's the show that's sold out and 136 00:07:40,040 --> 00:07:43,240 Speaker 3: you really can't move around too much, you're kind of screwed. 137 00:07:43,800 --> 00:07:47,320 Speaker 3: So you either have to suffer through it, or you 138 00:07:47,360 --> 00:07:49,760 Speaker 3: could be like your belching guy on the train and 139 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:52,320 Speaker 3: you could say something to them. You could talk to 140 00:07:52,360 --> 00:07:54,080 Speaker 3: the person and say hey, or you're going to do 141 00:07:54,120 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 3: that the whole show. But then you run the risk 142 00:07:56,040 --> 00:07:57,800 Speaker 3: of how are they going to react or are they 143 00:07:57,800 --> 00:07:59,800 Speaker 3: going to react and get combative or you're going to 144 00:07:59,840 --> 00:08:01,560 Speaker 3: get into it. Is there going to be an argument, 145 00:08:01,720 --> 00:08:04,760 Speaker 3: is it going to evolve into a fistfight? I mean, 146 00:08:04,760 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 3: I've seen all of these things play out at shows. 147 00:08:07,120 --> 00:08:11,800 Speaker 3: It's gotten pretty insane. And it's a lot of cameras, 148 00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:14,640 Speaker 3: it's a lot of video recording, it's a lot of 149 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:17,920 Speaker 3: people leaving the flash on their phones too, which is 150 00:08:17,960 --> 00:08:20,760 Speaker 3: then distracting to the artists. I mean, when you have 151 00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:22,960 Speaker 3: a flash on a phone, it doesn't matter where you are. 152 00:08:23,040 --> 00:08:25,800 Speaker 3: If it's an arena, the artist is going to be 153 00:08:25,800 --> 00:08:27,280 Speaker 3: able to see it, and they're going to call it 154 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:31,480 Speaker 3: out if they if they deem fit. And I always thought, oh, well, 155 00:08:31,480 --> 00:08:33,280 Speaker 3: it must be somebody who's a little bit older and 156 00:08:33,280 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 3: they don't know how to use their phone. No, it's 157 00:08:36,000 --> 00:08:39,120 Speaker 3: young people as well as older people who have this 158 00:08:39,240 --> 00:08:42,440 Speaker 3: flash on with no regard for what it looks like 159 00:08:42,559 --> 00:08:44,960 Speaker 3: to the artist, or when it's going right in their eyes, 160 00:08:45,160 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 3: or when it's shining on the people that are standing 161 00:08:47,240 --> 00:08:48,880 Speaker 3: around them. 162 00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:52,800 Speaker 2: Yeah. Hey, yeah, so thank you for introducing the topic. 163 00:08:53,480 --> 00:08:55,080 Speaker 2: By the way, I haven't I know you are a 164 00:08:55,120 --> 00:09:00,840 Speaker 2: big fan of Depeche Mode and Depeche Mode and you 165 00:09:00,880 --> 00:09:03,600 Speaker 2: say that they are the greatest synthpop band of all time, 166 00:09:04,520 --> 00:09:07,600 Speaker 2: and I sometimes, you know, for a while I thought 167 00:09:07,800 --> 00:09:11,320 Speaker 2: maybe Acustra Maneuver's in the Dark would be a tie, 168 00:09:11,320 --> 00:09:13,480 Speaker 2: But I think you're right. But I wanted to know, 169 00:09:13,760 --> 00:09:16,240 Speaker 2: are there any bands that you like coming to town 170 00:09:16,240 --> 00:09:18,560 Speaker 2: that you want to turn folks onto while you're here? 171 00:09:20,040 --> 00:09:22,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm thinking. I was thinking about that earlier tonight 172 00:09:22,200 --> 00:09:24,160 Speaker 3: because I was wondering what shows I might run into 173 00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:27,839 Speaker 3: you at coming up. I know that tomorrow night I'm 174 00:09:27,840 --> 00:09:30,360 Speaker 3: going to be at the nine inch Now show, and 175 00:09:30,920 --> 00:09:32,520 Speaker 3: I know you won't be there because that's at the 176 00:09:32,559 --> 00:09:34,240 Speaker 3: Garden and that's a little too big. I know you 177 00:09:34,320 --> 00:09:39,160 Speaker 3: like the smaller bands. Yeah, like O'Brien's right, exactly exactly. 178 00:09:41,080 --> 00:09:44,400 Speaker 3: Cat Power is coming okay, and she's going to be 179 00:09:44,440 --> 00:09:49,880 Speaker 3: playing at Roadrunner and she's doing her covers album The Greatest. Yes, 180 00:09:49,960 --> 00:09:51,800 Speaker 3: i think she's doing it in full too. I'm pretty 181 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:54,200 Speaker 3: sure she's doing it in full, So I'll definitely be 182 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:58,440 Speaker 3: at that show. Also coming up in this is a 183 00:09:58,440 --> 00:10:01,319 Speaker 3: little bit ways off, but it's it's in April at 184 00:10:01,400 --> 00:10:05,600 Speaker 3: Royale or No House of Blues, I'm sorry, is Desire, Carpenter, 185 00:10:05,640 --> 00:10:09,120 Speaker 3: Brute and Health. They're going to be at House of 186 00:10:09,120 --> 00:10:11,760 Speaker 3: Blues and if people aren't familiar with Desire, they are 187 00:10:11,800 --> 00:10:13,800 Speaker 3: the opening band. But you definitely want to get there. 188 00:10:14,200 --> 00:10:18,520 Speaker 3: That is from the Italians, Do a Better Label and 189 00:10:18,600 --> 00:10:23,760 Speaker 3: Johnny Jewel, who's also behind Chromatics, Glass Candy. It's a 190 00:10:23,800 --> 00:10:26,640 Speaker 3: whole roster of artists on the Italians to do a 191 00:10:26,720 --> 00:10:28,559 Speaker 3: better label, and Desire is one of them. 192 00:10:30,240 --> 00:10:32,720 Speaker 2: Thanks for those up for sure, Thanks for those steps, 193 00:10:32,800 --> 00:10:35,559 Speaker 2: and folks, I don't ever want to hear you saying 194 00:10:35,960 --> 00:10:39,320 Speaker 2: there's no good music anymore. There is. It's this that 195 00:10:39,400 --> 00:10:41,559 Speaker 2: you don't know about it. And the way, one really 196 00:10:41,559 --> 00:10:43,680 Speaker 2: good way to find out about it and stay plugged 197 00:10:43,679 --> 00:10:47,679 Speaker 2: in is to is to look at viny lands. It's 198 00:10:47,720 --> 00:10:48,920 Speaker 2: online only, right. 199 00:10:49,559 --> 00:10:52,160 Speaker 3: Yes, online only on your land dot. 200 00:10:51,880 --> 00:10:55,280 Speaker 2: Com spouse v A n y A l A n 201 00:10:55,400 --> 00:10:58,240 Speaker 2: d if. Really, there is a lot of good music 202 00:10:58,240 --> 00:11:01,080 Speaker 2: out there, maybe more than ever. It's just that you 203 00:11:01,120 --> 00:11:03,080 Speaker 2: don't find out about it like you used to. You 204 00:11:03,120 --> 00:11:06,520 Speaker 2: have to change your habits to find out. Vinyline's a 205 00:11:06,559 --> 00:11:09,079 Speaker 2: good habit. Thanks a lot, Michael Christopher. 206 00:11:09,280 --> 00:11:12,720 Speaker 3: Thanks Bradley, Jay, talk to you soon, okay. 207 00:11:11,840 --> 00:11:15,640 Speaker 2: Good man, and I'm going to get into other areas 208 00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:20,200 Speaker 2: where I where maybe you've noticed some rudeness after this 209 00:11:20,280 --> 00:11:22,560 Speaker 2: on WBZ You're. 210 00:11:22,360 --> 00:11:27,040 Speaker 1: On Night Side with Dan Ray on WBZ, Boston's news radio. 211 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:30,120 Speaker 2: All right, my friends, I've been giving you so much 212 00:11:30,160 --> 00:11:33,120 Speaker 2: information and speaking so quickly to try to jam it 213 00:11:33,160 --> 00:11:35,960 Speaker 2: all in that it probably doesn't leave you feeling like 214 00:11:36,080 --> 00:11:40,560 Speaker 2: you can call in. But now I'm slowing down inviting 215 00:11:40,600 --> 00:11:46,160 Speaker 2: you to call six one, seven, two by four, and 216 00:11:46,200 --> 00:11:48,360 Speaker 2: we can call it open lines with a loose focus 217 00:11:48,360 --> 00:11:52,720 Speaker 2: on post pandemic rudeness. So open lines. I know that 218 00:11:53,320 --> 00:11:55,480 Speaker 2: lots of folks like to wait for for open lines 219 00:11:55,520 --> 00:11:58,600 Speaker 2: to call them, at least that's the way spending them past. 220 00:12:00,440 --> 00:12:04,080 Speaker 2: I have definitely noticed rudeness, and I have very specific 221 00:12:04,120 --> 00:12:09,400 Speaker 2: theories on why it's getting worse. I was going to 222 00:12:09,480 --> 00:12:12,560 Speaker 2: save it for maybe I will address it more fully, 223 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:16,000 Speaker 2: but I've given it quite a lot of thought. So 224 00:12:16,080 --> 00:12:20,360 Speaker 2: first let me ask you. Have you noticed rudeness in 225 00:12:20,440 --> 00:12:26,320 Speaker 2: any of the following ways? Live events, which we've kind 226 00:12:26,320 --> 00:12:29,600 Speaker 2: of touched upon with the excellent Michael Christopher who just 227 00:12:29,640 --> 00:12:33,640 Speaker 2: called us. But then there's talking through movies or plays. 228 00:12:34,160 --> 00:12:37,680 Speaker 2: Has that gotten worse? Standing up or filming the entire 229 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:41,600 Speaker 2: time at a show, just like Michael said, arriving very 230 00:12:41,679 --> 00:12:44,840 Speaker 2: late and disrupting other seats. This would be at a 231 00:12:44,880 --> 00:12:51,880 Speaker 2: seeded show. Treating staff at venues rudely, yeah, treating them 232 00:12:51,920 --> 00:12:58,240 Speaker 2: like servants. Then you get into restaurants and bars, being 233 00:12:58,320 --> 00:13:01,760 Speaker 2: short with in pay or patient with hosts and servers, 234 00:13:04,040 --> 00:13:08,280 Speaker 2: treating reservation times as optional. Right if you make a 235 00:13:08,320 --> 00:13:12,559 Speaker 2: reservation and you can't keep it, you should call and cancel. 236 00:13:12,640 --> 00:13:17,280 Speaker 2: That's rude to not do that. Oh boy, Letting kids 237 00:13:17,360 --> 00:13:21,959 Speaker 2: roam without supervision. Yes, this is my child, and this 238 00:13:22,080 --> 00:13:24,800 Speaker 2: a special child, and this child gets to do whatever 239 00:13:24,840 --> 00:13:31,400 Speaker 2: it wants. Yes, running up and down making big noises. 240 00:13:34,080 --> 00:13:37,640 Speaker 2: Maybe I'm a grumpy old man being glued to phones 241 00:13:37,640 --> 00:13:40,560 Speaker 2: instead of other people at the table. Oh my, that's right. 242 00:13:41,520 --> 00:13:44,480 Speaker 2: You gotta remember also when you're speaking to someone. If 243 00:13:44,480 --> 00:13:49,920 Speaker 2: you're speaking to someone, you can't just start texting someone else. 244 00:13:51,040 --> 00:13:54,880 Speaker 2: That is wildly rude. But a lot of people don't 245 00:13:54,920 --> 00:13:57,720 Speaker 2: know that because they just are never speaking to anyone 246 00:13:57,720 --> 00:14:02,200 Speaker 2: in person. Let's talk to Priscilla in Newtonville. 247 00:14:02,640 --> 00:14:07,720 Speaker 4: Hello, Priscilla, Brad mc jay, Hello, my dear, alright, my 248 00:14:07,840 --> 00:14:10,680 Speaker 4: experience today. I had a great day. I was up 249 00:14:10,720 --> 00:14:15,920 Speaker 4: at five am. I haven't slept in days, and so 250 00:14:16,000 --> 00:14:20,200 Speaker 4: I ended up in the er. I knew wildly, and 251 00:14:20,800 --> 00:14:22,880 Speaker 4: so they were nice to me. I waited there for 252 00:14:22,920 --> 00:14:26,440 Speaker 4: three hours in the emergency room, and so this nice 253 00:14:26,560 --> 00:14:30,120 Speaker 4: nurse finally came up to me, helped me walk and 254 00:14:30,840 --> 00:14:35,040 Speaker 4: gave me some gel for my arthritic knees. And I'm 255 00:14:35,080 --> 00:14:38,880 Speaker 4: the happiest person for it. Everybody wears masks. Now, you 256 00:14:38,960 --> 00:14:42,680 Speaker 4: didn't believe the six sick people, the little baby kids 257 00:14:42,840 --> 00:14:47,160 Speaker 4: sick in the hospital. I was like, oh wow, I 258 00:14:47,200 --> 00:14:50,120 Speaker 4: shouldn't be here. So then some guy helped me call 259 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:53,000 Speaker 4: a cab, and they got me a cab and they 260 00:14:53,040 --> 00:14:55,880 Speaker 4: gave me gel. It only took like five minutes. They 261 00:14:55,880 --> 00:15:00,160 Speaker 4: gave me exercise, kyl and off. I feel you're like 262 00:15:00,280 --> 00:15:01,000 Speaker 4: a new person. 263 00:15:01,280 --> 00:15:04,200 Speaker 2: So you had a good day. Everybody was nice to you. 264 00:15:04,360 --> 00:15:05,640 Speaker 2: That's nice. 265 00:15:05,960 --> 00:15:07,960 Speaker 4: Yeah, I know it was nice. I had a great day. 266 00:15:08,240 --> 00:15:11,480 Speaker 4: So you get two minutes of sleep tonight. Maybe I'll 267 00:15:11,520 --> 00:15:14,880 Speaker 4: be you have to get up at early tomorrow. 268 00:15:14,560 --> 00:15:16,640 Speaker 2: Morning and ask you before you go, how come you 269 00:15:16,680 --> 00:15:17,200 Speaker 2: can't sleep? 270 00:15:18,760 --> 00:15:22,520 Speaker 4: I don't know. I don't sleep anymore. Nobody sleeps anymore. 271 00:15:23,520 --> 00:15:27,280 Speaker 2: Interesting, Well, thanks Priscilla. That's an interesting concept. No one 272 00:15:27,360 --> 00:15:33,440 Speaker 2: sleeps anymore. I sleep a lot. I'm getting it. I'm 273 00:15:33,560 --> 00:15:38,480 Speaker 2: so into sleep. It's so delicious. You know, when you 274 00:15:38,520 --> 00:15:41,640 Speaker 2: wake up and it's cold outside and cold in the 275 00:15:41,760 --> 00:15:44,680 Speaker 2: room in here, cozy on the air covers. If you 276 00:15:44,800 --> 00:15:48,000 Speaker 2: get up, it's going to be freezing. You just say, 277 00:15:48,480 --> 00:15:50,600 Speaker 2: you say, you can say to yourself, what could I 278 00:15:50,680 --> 00:15:55,040 Speaker 2: possibly do they would feel better than this super cozy 279 00:15:55,440 --> 00:15:59,440 Speaker 2: under the covers business. Let's get back into having noticed 280 00:15:59,600 --> 00:16:03,680 Speaker 2: any rudeness or increase rudeness in any of these areas. 281 00:16:03,960 --> 00:16:10,640 Speaker 2: How about driving more aggressive, driving, tailgating, honking, and how 282 00:16:10,680 --> 00:16:13,640 Speaker 2: do you feel about this as related? I think it's 283 00:16:13,680 --> 00:16:17,120 Speaker 2: called filtering, and I think it's actually legal some places 284 00:16:18,440 --> 00:16:22,440 Speaker 2: where at stoplights motus scooters are allowed to go between 285 00:16:22,600 --> 00:16:25,600 Speaker 2: the traffic lanes and weave in and out to get 286 00:16:25,640 --> 00:16:28,400 Speaker 2: to the front so that they leave the light first. 287 00:16:29,840 --> 00:16:36,280 Speaker 2: Should be should that be legal? Do you hate it? I? 288 00:16:36,280 --> 00:16:39,280 Speaker 2: I don't. I don't like it. Maybe I shouldn't mind it, 289 00:16:39,320 --> 00:16:47,120 Speaker 2: but I can't stand it. Not letting pedestrians cross, talking 290 00:16:47,160 --> 00:16:52,360 Speaker 2: loudly on speaker phones and buses and trains. Oh yeah, 291 00:16:52,400 --> 00:16:56,600 Speaker 2: taking up this is a big, This is huge. Taking 292 00:16:56,680 --> 00:17:03,320 Speaker 2: up extra seats with bags, man, that drives me wild. 293 00:17:04,480 --> 00:17:08,159 Speaker 2: Get you on the MBTA, get your bag off that seat. 294 00:17:08,600 --> 00:17:12,639 Speaker 2: People want to sit down and sometimes I'll say something, 295 00:17:12,680 --> 00:17:15,159 Speaker 2: if you know, if they look like they won't shoot me. 296 00:17:16,560 --> 00:17:23,440 Speaker 2: Retail customer service, Like when you go into retail, do 297 00:17:23,520 --> 00:17:26,120 Speaker 2: you get snapped out by people who work there? Or 298 00:17:26,440 --> 00:17:29,560 Speaker 2: do you see other people being mean to the people 299 00:17:29,560 --> 00:17:38,080 Speaker 2: who work there. Workplace. Workplace is interesting. I don't know. 300 00:17:38,680 --> 00:17:41,240 Speaker 2: I don't really run into many people in any workplaces 301 00:17:41,240 --> 00:17:43,679 Speaker 2: anymore because I come in the studio here at night 302 00:17:43,720 --> 00:17:48,280 Speaker 2: and nobody's here, which is fine. I wonder maybe you 303 00:17:48,280 --> 00:17:50,840 Speaker 2: can tell me if things are the same in the workplace. 304 00:17:51,800 --> 00:17:58,280 Speaker 2: Digital manners, this is a big one. Interrupting conversations to 305 00:17:58,359 --> 00:18:04,080 Speaker 2: scroll about that zoom etiquette. I don't think about this much, 306 00:18:04,080 --> 00:18:09,400 Speaker 2: but camera off, multitasking talking to others. Oh yeah, if 307 00:18:09,480 --> 00:18:12,320 Speaker 2: somebody realize is doing something else when you're speaking with 308 00:18:12,359 --> 00:18:17,320 Speaker 2: somebody else, speaking with somebody is an insult. Neighborhood complaints, 309 00:18:17,800 --> 00:18:24,879 Speaker 2: noise complaints are increasing, not acknowledging neighbors. Here's one letting 310 00:18:24,920 --> 00:18:27,520 Speaker 2: dogs walk off the off leash where they shouldn't be, 311 00:18:29,760 --> 00:18:35,080 Speaker 2: blocking driveways and sideways, stealing people's spots that get they 312 00:18:35,119 --> 00:18:38,200 Speaker 2: shovel out. And here's one. I might as well bring 313 00:18:38,240 --> 00:18:40,720 Speaker 2: it up again. I gotta bring it up because this 314 00:18:40,840 --> 00:18:47,000 Speaker 2: is the most insane rudeness. It's disgusting and anyone who 315 00:18:47,040 --> 00:18:52,280 Speaker 2: does this, there's something wrong with you either. You are 316 00:18:53,000 --> 00:18:54,120 Speaker 2: super duper. 317 00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:57,400 Speaker 5: Clueless without a clue, Like, how do you get through 318 00:18:57,400 --> 00:19:01,919 Speaker 5: the day clueless or you know better and you just 319 00:19:01,960 --> 00:19:04,639 Speaker 5: don't care and you're rude, which would make you a 320 00:19:04,840 --> 00:19:05,639 Speaker 5: bad person. 321 00:19:06,640 --> 00:19:09,520 Speaker 2: So this is significant. If you do this following thing, 322 00:19:10,119 --> 00:19:14,800 Speaker 2: it is a signal that you are just there's something 323 00:19:14,840 --> 00:19:17,879 Speaker 2: wrong with you, either ignorant or bad. And that is 324 00:19:17,920 --> 00:19:23,600 Speaker 2: the following. Dog owners and I love dogs so much. 325 00:19:23,640 --> 00:19:27,320 Speaker 2: I love them with all my heart and soul. The 326 00:19:27,359 --> 00:19:31,840 Speaker 2: owner is not so much dog owners who have dog 327 00:19:31,880 --> 00:19:37,040 Speaker 2: bags and the dog does the business and they scoop 328 00:19:37,040 --> 00:19:40,639 Speaker 2: it up in a bag and throw the bag on 329 00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:48,199 Speaker 2: the ground or tie the bag to a bush. I 330 00:19:48,240 --> 00:19:52,919 Speaker 2: go to Blue Hills. I love it. I love it 331 00:19:52,960 --> 00:19:58,440 Speaker 2: in Blue Hills. It enrages me. My blood pressure goes 332 00:19:58,440 --> 00:20:01,520 Speaker 2: to the roof. I want to scream and do something 333 00:20:01,600 --> 00:20:05,199 Speaker 2: about it. I want to hunt down the perpetrator and 334 00:20:05,240 --> 00:20:09,320 Speaker 2: speak to them when they throw their doggie bags that 335 00:20:09,400 --> 00:20:13,720 Speaker 2: are full on the ground in a beautiful trail, and 336 00:20:13,800 --> 00:20:17,240 Speaker 2: I must, I must let you know that is not acceptable. 337 00:20:17,680 --> 00:20:28,119 Speaker 2: That is the height of badness. Don't do it, and 338 00:20:28,160 --> 00:20:31,080 Speaker 2: I need to if there's anyone who does it, I 339 00:20:31,119 --> 00:20:34,560 Speaker 2: will suspend be rating you if you just tell me 340 00:20:34,640 --> 00:20:38,119 Speaker 2: what is what is your reasoning on that? How do 341 00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:41,639 Speaker 2: you think that's better. Why bother putting it in a bag? 342 00:20:43,480 --> 00:20:47,480 Speaker 2: If you if you just did nothing, it'd be better 343 00:20:47,520 --> 00:20:52,760 Speaker 2: because the rain would wash this mess away at some point. 344 00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:55,560 Speaker 2: But that bag is going to sit there and then 345 00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:56,560 Speaker 2: get collected with. 346 00:20:56,560 --> 00:21:01,280 Speaker 6: Other people's bags. If you're on a trail, just kick 347 00:21:01,320 --> 00:21:05,840 Speaker 6: it off the trail, not the bag, the original substance. 348 00:21:05,920 --> 00:21:07,880 Speaker 6: Just take a stick and move off the trail. Don't 349 00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:09,080 Speaker 6: leave this bag there. 350 00:21:11,000 --> 00:21:17,320 Speaker 2: I can't. You can tell that. And these people they 351 00:21:17,400 --> 00:21:19,919 Speaker 2: probably think that just the best, that. 352 00:21:21,640 --> 00:21:25,520 Speaker 7: They're ecologically and every other way doing the right thing, 353 00:21:25,600 --> 00:21:29,040 Speaker 7: and they're recycling in there. Oh they just you know, 354 00:21:29,080 --> 00:21:33,720 Speaker 7: they put little rubber things on their dog's feet, but 355 00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:37,480 Speaker 7: they throw their dog full dog bags on the trail. 356 00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:41,520 Speaker 2: You that is so rude. I have and right after 357 00:21:41,520 --> 00:21:44,560 Speaker 2: the break, May in Lynn looking forward to speaking with 358 00:21:44,640 --> 00:21:46,240 Speaker 2: May and Lynn on WBZ. 359 00:21:49,080 --> 00:21:53,359 Speaker 1: You're on night Side with Dan Ray on WBZ Boston's 360 00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:54,040 Speaker 1: news radio. 361 00:21:54,520 --> 00:21:57,000 Speaker 2: Brother j for Dan. Thanks Dan Watkins for the news. 362 00:21:57,880 --> 00:22:02,440 Speaker 2: I'm asking you, have you noticed an increasing rudeness lately? 363 00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:06,200 Speaker 2: I certainly have, and I have. I think I've really 364 00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:11,240 Speaker 2: figured out why it's post pandemic, but I'm not convinced 365 00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:13,919 Speaker 2: that the pandemic had anything to do with it. You 366 00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:19,200 Speaker 2: wouldn't just lose your manners in eighteen months of pandemic survival, 367 00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:23,560 Speaker 2: would you. I wouldn't think. We have May and Lynn? 368 00:22:23,680 --> 00:22:24,640 Speaker 2: How do you do? May? 369 00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:32,640 Speaker 8: By? Good evening? How are you this evening? Excellent? First 370 00:22:32,680 --> 00:22:35,359 Speaker 8: of all, I'm giving you a warm greeting, and that 371 00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:39,679 Speaker 8: is what is missing today. It's folks being able to 372 00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:45,760 Speaker 8: speak in public. They think I'm actually something's wrong with me? 373 00:22:45,920 --> 00:22:49,240 Speaker 8: Call security? Why is she talking to me in a store? 374 00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:53,359 Speaker 8: Why is she asking me what my thoughts are on 375 00:22:53,400 --> 00:22:57,359 Speaker 8: a product? Or just saying hello? Is it's wrong? 376 00:22:57,520 --> 00:22:59,920 Speaker 2: So? Is this different? Is this new? 377 00:23:01,240 --> 00:23:05,320 Speaker 8: I find it? It was beginning far before the pandemic. 378 00:23:06,040 --> 00:23:08,280 Speaker 8: I just believe it's a lack of customer service. You 379 00:23:08,359 --> 00:23:12,120 Speaker 8: hit a key on. Prior to the break, you had 380 00:23:12,160 --> 00:23:18,760 Speaker 8: mentioned customer service, customer service, speaking to others, acknowledging folks 381 00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:21,720 Speaker 8: looking up from your phone, look up for people, Just 382 00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:27,200 Speaker 8: look up. Things are happening above your eyeline. Say hello 383 00:23:27,280 --> 00:23:29,480 Speaker 8: to folks, A. 384 00:23:29,440 --> 00:23:32,919 Speaker 2: Brand upbeat person. Now you So you are outgoing? I 385 00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:37,280 Speaker 2: try to be outgoing too, And most significant part of 386 00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:40,199 Speaker 2: the time it pays off. You make a kind of 387 00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:46,240 Speaker 2: a but on the other hand, you're right other people, and. 388 00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:47,800 Speaker 8: So is apathy. 389 00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:51,720 Speaker 2: The other people look sometimes people look at you like you, 390 00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:53,200 Speaker 2: what are you talking to me so much? 391 00:23:53,280 --> 00:23:56,280 Speaker 6: For you're weird right right? 392 00:23:56,880 --> 00:23:59,760 Speaker 8: And years ago I had an aunt who just passed 393 00:23:59,760 --> 00:24:02,040 Speaker 8: a little her who was ninety two, and she could 394 00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:05,240 Speaker 8: go into a store and get away with anything, and 395 00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:09,199 Speaker 8: folks would hold the door, come right on in and 396 00:24:09,320 --> 00:24:12,320 Speaker 8: laugh at whatever she said. If I followed the same 397 00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:16,400 Speaker 8: routine word for word, they would think I'm crazy because 398 00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:20,280 Speaker 8: I'm fifty four. So do you think there's not quite 399 00:24:20,320 --> 00:24:20,840 Speaker 8: there yet? 400 00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:23,600 Speaker 2: Do you think there's So you're saying that the older 401 00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:26,040 Speaker 2: you get, the more you're able to get away with being. 402 00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:29,000 Speaker 8: Sure, really sure. I think I'm going to put on 403 00:24:29,119 --> 00:24:32,720 Speaker 8: a silver wig and a pair of real thick spectacles 404 00:24:32,760 --> 00:24:36,439 Speaker 8: and see see if I can get a scooter in 405 00:24:36,520 --> 00:24:37,080 Speaker 8: the stores. 406 00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:39,640 Speaker 2: And I would have thought it might go the other 407 00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:42,560 Speaker 2: might go the other way that people were agist and 408 00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:44,600 Speaker 2: didn't want young people didn't want to talk to you. 409 00:24:45,040 --> 00:24:48,080 Speaker 8: Have we got an act? If you got an act 410 00:24:48,119 --> 00:24:51,920 Speaker 8: in a sense of humor, you're in You know, I 411 00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:54,879 Speaker 8: believe that that's still left. That people are looking for 412 00:24:55,040 --> 00:25:00,800 Speaker 8: wisdom because there is wisdom within our human vanity still, 413 00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:04,440 Speaker 8: and it can be saved, and I'm hoping you can't. 414 00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:10,359 Speaker 8: That's why contagious. It is contagious to be happy empathetics empathetic, 415 00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:14,600 Speaker 8: but so is an apathy, and unfortunately that happens to 416 00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:19,159 Speaker 8: spread far quicker. Okay, And I just don't get it 417 00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:22,720 Speaker 8: at home, even I have friends occasionally. All I have 418 00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:26,280 Speaker 8: is my Chloe, the kitty, So maybe that's why I 419 00:25:26,320 --> 00:25:32,040 Speaker 8: talk a lot at home. But she's a good listener. 420 00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:35,159 Speaker 2: So when you go out there, I'll try to engage folks. 421 00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:36,160 Speaker 4: I do. 422 00:25:36,480 --> 00:25:41,040 Speaker 8: I do, Yes. I actually kind of enjoy having my 423 00:25:41,119 --> 00:25:44,640 Speaker 8: own self solitude as well. So maybe I'm one who 424 00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:49,080 Speaker 8: lends to the to the problem. But when I am 425 00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:51,920 Speaker 8: out there, I do enjoy talking to folks. 426 00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:56,040 Speaker 2: Well that's gat. Yeah. Now have you noticed any of 427 00:25:55,760 --> 00:25:58,440 Speaker 2: the rudenesses that I've been mentioning? 428 00:25:59,680 --> 00:25:59,920 Speaker 8: Yeah? 429 00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:02,920 Speaker 2: Us, Yes, any particular particular ones. 430 00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:07,800 Speaker 8: Mostly mostly it is folks look not being able to communicate. 431 00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:14,480 Speaker 8: For me, that's my main thing I really do. It 432 00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:20,520 Speaker 8: starts at home, and the customer is always right. Customer service, 433 00:26:20,520 --> 00:26:24,040 Speaker 8: they say, Disney World, Disneyland, greatest place to work. You 434 00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:27,840 Speaker 8: might deal with one hundred and ten degree heat inside 435 00:26:27,840 --> 00:26:30,760 Speaker 8: those costumes. But you're gonna learn everything you need to 436 00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:34,280 Speaker 8: know about customer service. And I do agree with that. 437 00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:37,320 Speaker 8: I worked at the age of fifteen years old at 438 00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:42,440 Speaker 8: a dunkin Donuts and it was the great the counter service. 439 00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:45,000 Speaker 8: You'd wipe it down the counter for them. Can I 440 00:26:45,119 --> 00:26:47,240 Speaker 8: reheat up your coffee for you? 441 00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:48,240 Speaker 4: Give me a heat up? 442 00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:51,080 Speaker 8: I asked the other day at McDonald's. Excuse me if 443 00:26:51,080 --> 00:26:54,440 Speaker 8: I if? I wasn't supposed to say the vendor's name. 444 00:26:55,440 --> 00:26:59,120 Speaker 8: But I was there in the morning, hadn't been there 445 00:26:59,160 --> 00:27:01,520 Speaker 8: in years that if or six am, but happened to 446 00:27:01,560 --> 00:27:04,879 Speaker 8: be pulling by. Figured I'd go in and get a 447 00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:09,240 Speaker 8: McMuffin or whatever and mix something. And there was a 448 00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:12,080 Speaker 8: couple of older folks, and even they thought I was 449 00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:14,400 Speaker 8: a little crazy, like, Hi, good morning, how are you? 450 00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:17,480 Speaker 8: And they just wanted to put their head in the newspaper. 451 00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:20,399 Speaker 8: I can understand that, but a little bit of common 452 00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:23,640 Speaker 8: courtesy of Gee, the weather's cold and you're. 453 00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:24,320 Speaker 4: In a McDonald's. 454 00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:26,439 Speaker 8: You're in a public spot, aren't you there for a 455 00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:27,280 Speaker 8: little communication? 456 00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:28,720 Speaker 2: I get. I don't know. 457 00:27:28,800 --> 00:27:32,640 Speaker 6: I would be it would go to the drive through 458 00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:35,320 Speaker 6: if you're not perfect. 459 00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:37,920 Speaker 2: Thank you very very much, and I hope you enjoy 460 00:27:38,040 --> 00:27:39,400 Speaker 2: tomorrow and Lynz. 461 00:27:39,040 --> 00:27:40,960 Speaker 8: Well, thank you. And it was great. 462 00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:41,280 Speaker 4: Talking with you. 463 00:27:41,480 --> 00:27:43,040 Speaker 2: Oh great talking with you as well. 464 00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:43,320 Speaker 3: Mate. 465 00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:45,360 Speaker 8: I take care, bye bye. 466 00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:49,239 Speaker 2: I don't remember talking to May before. All right, now, 467 00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:52,879 Speaker 2: I'm going to give you what I think is the 468 00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:56,640 Speaker 2: reason that things have gone down well, and multiple reasons, 469 00:27:56,680 --> 00:28:02,719 Speaker 2: just like anything else. It's not one reason. And the 470 00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:05,960 Speaker 2: pandemic maybe one. I don't know why the pandemic would 471 00:28:05,960 --> 00:28:10,639 Speaker 2: make you lose your manners. I wonder did it become 472 00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:12,960 Speaker 2: fear of other people that they were going to infect you? 473 00:28:13,280 --> 00:28:16,360 Speaker 2: Did you get PTSD or some I shouldn't I shouldn't 474 00:28:16,400 --> 00:28:20,080 Speaker 2: dilute them phrase PTSD with this kind of thing. But 475 00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:24,080 Speaker 2: did you get skittish about other people because they might 476 00:28:24,119 --> 00:28:28,200 Speaker 2: be carrying disease? Was it that don't touch me, get 477 00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:31,280 Speaker 2: away from me? I might you might give me your disease? 478 00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:37,199 Speaker 2: Does that have something to do with it? Here are 479 00:28:37,240 --> 00:28:40,360 Speaker 2: some of the things, and I agree with May. People 480 00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:45,000 Speaker 2: have no clue about manners anymore because they don't practice them, 481 00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:49,080 Speaker 2: because they don't see each other. And let me let 482 00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:53,720 Speaker 2: me give you a quite an exhaustive list of things 483 00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:58,640 Speaker 2: First of all, distance learning. You learning on the computer. 484 00:28:59,000 --> 00:29:01,400 Speaker 2: There are a lot of good things about distance distance learning, 485 00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:06,560 Speaker 2: but you're not interacting. You are isolated in your room 486 00:29:06,720 --> 00:29:10,959 Speaker 2: looking at your computer. There's one former way people learned 487 00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:15,320 Speaker 2: how to be in each other's presence. That doesn't that 488 00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:20,080 Speaker 2: it has been reduced. Here's another one, take out, take 489 00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:23,240 Speaker 2: out food, and you don't even get it. You don't 490 00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:26,720 Speaker 2: even go pick it up. You get it delivered. I 491 00:29:26,760 --> 00:29:28,680 Speaker 2: don't do that. I don't I'll do takeout, but I 492 00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:38,680 Speaker 2: don't get it delivered. Much used to be. You'd be 493 00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:41,480 Speaker 2: in a restaurant, could be people all around you. You 494 00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:44,120 Speaker 2: have to keep your conversation down. You have to be polite, 495 00:29:44,480 --> 00:29:49,960 Speaker 2: polite to the server, polite to everybody. You learned how 496 00:29:49,960 --> 00:29:55,440 Speaker 2: to be polite. Then there's you don't go to work, 497 00:29:56,160 --> 00:30:00,720 Speaker 2: tell a commuting. A lot of people go to work, 498 00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:03,760 Speaker 2: but a lot less go to work. So a significant 499 00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:07,880 Speaker 2: portion of the population doesn't go to school but does 500 00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:12,280 Speaker 2: distance learning. Does take out and doesn't go to work. 501 00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:17,040 Speaker 2: Three huge areas where you would hone your interpersonal skills. 502 00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:19,960 Speaker 2: Here's another one. Who goes to the movies. Really some 503 00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:24,160 Speaker 2: not so much. You said, sit at home and you 504 00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:31,360 Speaker 2: watch a something on streaming service. Don't go to house parties. 505 00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:37,160 Speaker 2: Do people have house parties? Not so much. Here's one 506 00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:41,440 Speaker 2: people don't go to church. That's important for two reasons. 507 00:30:42,880 --> 00:30:47,200 Speaker 2: One church is a place to hone your interpersonal skills. 508 00:30:47,600 --> 00:30:51,120 Speaker 2: But also they're teaching you how to act in church. 509 00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:54,960 Speaker 2: They're teaching you whatever problems I have with various religions, 510 00:30:54,960 --> 00:30:58,720 Speaker 2: and they are a lot. They are good to the 511 00:30:58,760 --> 00:31:01,480 Speaker 2: degree that they will teach you the difference between good 512 00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:04,840 Speaker 2: and bad, the difference they teach you to be kind. 513 00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:11,680 Speaker 2: Being kind is dead or dying. So we add on 514 00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:15,840 Speaker 2: to all this, all these former places we would learn 515 00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:18,800 Speaker 2: to end act. Then we go to zoom zoom instead 516 00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:23,160 Speaker 2: of hanging out zoom, instead of a meeting, zoom, instead 517 00:31:23,160 --> 00:31:31,320 Speaker 2: of a lot of interpersonal experience. Now here's where these 518 00:31:31,360 --> 00:31:37,680 Speaker 2: other things are huge computer huge contributors as well. This 519 00:31:37,840 --> 00:31:41,680 Speaker 2: is probably the biggest and it can be fixed and 520 00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:44,480 Speaker 2: it would change the world instantly. It could happen in 521 00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:49,040 Speaker 2: one day. It probably happened in one hour. The social 522 00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:54,000 Speaker 2: media algorithms relead reward the outrageous instead of the reasonable. 523 00:31:56,120 --> 00:32:00,959 Speaker 2: The social media algorithms push the worst of the worst 524 00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:04,800 Speaker 2: to the top, so what you're seeing is people being 525 00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:08,719 Speaker 2: rotten to each other, and it becomes the norm, it 526 00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:13,560 Speaker 2: becomes normalized. And to make the world a better place, 527 00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:19,760 Speaker 2: significantly better and very quickly, you would need to force 528 00:32:21,080 --> 00:32:26,320 Speaker 2: the social media oligarchs to flick a switch that simply 529 00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:31,680 Speaker 2: rewarded the reasonable, the kind, the good, the do unto others, 530 00:32:32,720 --> 00:32:37,960 Speaker 2: instead of rewarding the painful, the meanness, the death, the destruction, 531 00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:45,240 Speaker 2: the dismemberment, the pain and suffering. Just flick that switch. 532 00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:49,520 Speaker 2: You want a better world. Do that. You don't want 533 00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:52,680 Speaker 2: those folks, they don't care about a better world, in 534 00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:56,760 Speaker 2: my opinion, if they did, they would do more, and 535 00:32:56,760 --> 00:33:02,400 Speaker 2: they would just reward the reasonable or the kind. Flick 536 00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:06,880 Speaker 2: that switch. And then you get this when you have 537 00:33:07,080 --> 00:33:15,720 Speaker 2: political leaders who are rude, are really really rude, like 538 00:33:16,520 --> 00:33:19,480 Speaker 2: so rude that if you acted that way when you're 539 00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:22,400 Speaker 2: a kid, when we would get you'd just completely get slapped, 540 00:33:22,680 --> 00:33:26,080 Speaker 2: you know, you'd get kicked out of school. And these 541 00:33:26,120 --> 00:33:29,840 Speaker 2: political leaders say, hey, this is cool, it's cool to 542 00:33:29,840 --> 00:33:33,160 Speaker 2: be this way. Look at me, I'm this way and 543 00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:35,120 Speaker 2: that got me I got to be president this way, 544 00:33:35,760 --> 00:33:39,360 Speaker 2: so it will work for you too. So they're a 545 00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:44,280 Speaker 2: number of things that are happening, this confluence of stuff 546 00:33:45,520 --> 00:33:49,960 Speaker 2: which is making us just a making the world a 547 00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:52,880 Speaker 2: really ugly place to be. It doesn't have to be 548 00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:59,960 Speaker 2: this way, hopefully, Just like people are turning away from digital, 549 00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:04,240 Speaker 2: is digital music turning towards vinyl because it's substantial, because 550 00:34:04,240 --> 00:34:08,360 Speaker 2: they realize that something to it. Vinyl record shops are 551 00:34:08,480 --> 00:34:13,080 Speaker 2: killing it, their son, they're making bank because people want 552 00:34:13,160 --> 00:34:19,120 Speaker 2: something real, something good, And hopefully a new generation will 553 00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:21,600 Speaker 2: come along and say, I don't I don't want to 554 00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:26,719 Speaker 2: be this way. I'm gonna put down my phone that 555 00:34:26,760 --> 00:34:29,719 Speaker 2: teaches everybody to be mean to each other. I'm not 556 00:34:29,760 --> 00:34:32,799 Speaker 2: going to do the social media thing any anymore. Maybe 557 00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:38,200 Speaker 2: they'll get bored, Maybe they will want real experiences. Maybe 558 00:34:38,239 --> 00:34:42,680 Speaker 2: AI will become so persuasive, so pervasive that the only 559 00:34:42,800 --> 00:34:45,680 Speaker 2: way that you can be sure that you're speaking to 560 00:34:45,760 --> 00:34:50,480 Speaker 2: a real person is to be in person. I'd say 561 00:34:50,520 --> 00:34:54,240 Speaker 2: you get twenty years, you get to that point where 562 00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:59,840 Speaker 2: there'll be no way to know. But with that an 563 00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:02,319 Speaker 2: anything you see on the Internet is real or not. 564 00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:06,880 Speaker 2: So there you go. I'll showed you the problems to 565 00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:10,560 Speaker 2: fix it. What do you do well? I guess you 566 00:35:10,640 --> 00:35:13,920 Speaker 2: try to encourage actual going to school, but that can 567 00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:18,319 Speaker 2: be expensive distance learning. I understand it can be the 568 00:35:18,360 --> 00:35:21,880 Speaker 2: only way to get a degree. But go to a restaurant. 569 00:35:22,560 --> 00:35:26,239 Speaker 2: Don't get takeout, you gotta pay a tip. Anyway, you 570 00:35:26,320 --> 00:35:30,000 Speaker 2: might as well go to the restaurant, go to a movie, 571 00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:34,759 Speaker 2: go to work. I like going to work. I like 572 00:35:34,800 --> 00:35:39,120 Speaker 2: coming to the studio. I like interacting with people. Have 573 00:35:39,200 --> 00:35:43,239 Speaker 2: a house party, and I'll tell you this. Try going 574 00:35:43,280 --> 00:35:46,720 Speaker 2: to church, even if you don't believe, just for the company, 575 00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:52,839 Speaker 2: just for something different. Pick a church, any church, don't care, 576 00:35:56,640 --> 00:36:00,839 Speaker 2: go there for the fellowship and you can. You can 577 00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:07,360 Speaker 2: debate with them and meet in person instead of a 578 00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:12,040 Speaker 2: zoom social media algorithm. That's nothing you can do about that, 579 00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:16,879 Speaker 2: except you could boycott them until they promise to fix 580 00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:20,840 Speaker 2: their algorithms. I'll tell you what I'm doing to change 581 00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:25,279 Speaker 2: my personal life, and it is working. I have them. 582 00:36:25,400 --> 00:36:28,359 Speaker 2: I have a system now that's working, and I will 583 00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:30,200 Speaker 2: share with you that with you Right after. 584 00:36:29,960 --> 00:36:30,360 Speaker 4: This on. 585 00:36:31,880 --> 00:36:36,560 Speaker 1: It's Night Side with Dan Ray on Boston's news Radio. 586 00:36:37,800 --> 00:36:43,439 Speaker 2: Continuing on the topic of rudeness. Recent rudeness last since 587 00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:47,160 Speaker 2: the pandemic, but probably the last decade. And I've outlined 588 00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:52,000 Speaker 2: already the problem and the reasons that I see for it. 589 00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:56,080 Speaker 2: And but if you missed any part of it, maybe 590 00:36:56,120 --> 00:36:58,920 Speaker 2: you didn't. Maybe you missed the reasons. You can certainly 591 00:36:59,280 --> 00:37:03,160 Speaker 2: listen to any of these night side shows anytime by 592 00:37:03,200 --> 00:37:07,920 Speaker 2: googling Nightside on demand. That's easy. And do remember that 593 00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:11,680 Speaker 2: you can listen online to these shows if you happen 594 00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:14,560 Speaker 2: to be somewhere, but it's not a radio, by going 595 00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:20,680 Speaker 2: to the I Heart app. Now Here's here's how I 596 00:37:20,200 --> 00:37:25,040 Speaker 2: am increasing my socialness, you know, when reduced during the pandemic. 597 00:37:25,120 --> 00:37:29,480 Speaker 2: But now it's healthy. It's to be social. It is 598 00:37:29,640 --> 00:37:34,319 Speaker 2: mentally unhealthy to be isolated like we have become. It's 599 00:37:34,360 --> 00:37:39,560 Speaker 2: not good for you. It will shorten your life. It's 600 00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:45,160 Speaker 2: it's documented. So here's what I do. I walk, and 601 00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:49,960 Speaker 2: it's not just walking. On one day I walk. I'll 602 00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:55,319 Speaker 2: take the tea to Port of Square and walk, say 603 00:37:55,560 --> 00:37:59,120 Speaker 2: save to Bookline Village. That's a long walk. And on 604 00:37:59,200 --> 00:38:04,640 Speaker 2: the way, I'll stop at various various places and make conversations. 605 00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:06,920 Speaker 2: I go to a clothing shop where I know the 606 00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:09,120 Speaker 2: guy and I hang out. Maybe I buy something, maybe 607 00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:12,480 Speaker 2: I don't, but I'll chat for twenty minutes. I'll sho 608 00:38:12,560 --> 00:38:18,520 Speaker 2: up and chat. Then I'll walk past Harvard Stadium getting 609 00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:20,840 Speaker 2: into Brighton. They'll go to Mister Music, the music shop. 610 00:38:21,520 --> 00:38:24,680 Speaker 2: Chat with them. They have a lot of stories. I 611 00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:27,840 Speaker 2: think Bruce Springsteen went there one time. Then I go 612 00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:31,239 Speaker 2: down a little bit more to the international food shop Barezka, 613 00:38:32,200 --> 00:38:34,680 Speaker 2: and there's a woman there who is very interesting. I'll 614 00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:38,319 Speaker 2: chat with her about the Patriots. Then moving on down 615 00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:44,399 Speaker 2: Harvard Street. It is actually very interesting street, and I'll 616 00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:46,640 Speaker 2: end up AT's a restaurant I like. They have seven 617 00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:49,239 Speaker 2: dollars and fifty cent my ties, which is part of 618 00:38:49,239 --> 00:38:53,120 Speaker 2: the reason. But I'll make a point to converse and 619 00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:56,000 Speaker 2: get to know the staff. I asked them their name, 620 00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:59,000 Speaker 2: and when I come in, we chat. It's a very 621 00:38:59,040 --> 00:39:01,800 Speaker 2: social experience. Makes me feel good and I can tell 622 00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:05,640 Speaker 2: it makes me feel healthy. Then on another day, I 623 00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:08,600 Speaker 2: will go to because I have the time and I 624 00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:11,279 Speaker 2: love it. I love that I have the time. I'll 625 00:39:11,320 --> 00:39:14,240 Speaker 2: go another direction. I'll go to the South End. Actually 626 00:39:14,400 --> 00:39:17,400 Speaker 2: I've been visiting a friend in a hospital, actually a listener, 627 00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:20,520 Speaker 2: very sick. I'm not going to say his name. I 628 00:39:20,520 --> 00:39:22,520 Speaker 2: don't know if he would want me to. You do 629 00:39:22,680 --> 00:39:26,760 Speaker 2: know of him. He's a frequent caller very sick. Pray 630 00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:32,920 Speaker 2: for him if you can, without knowing his name. Then 631 00:39:32,920 --> 00:39:35,600 Speaker 2: I'll go visit my friend who runs an eyewear shop 632 00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:38,520 Speaker 2: over in the South End, hang out there for actually 633 00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:41,360 Speaker 2: an hour. Then I'll go to a bar where I 634 00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:44,040 Speaker 2: know there's going to be another guy who you know, 635 00:39:45,280 --> 00:39:48,480 Speaker 2: he's a record guy, a boss, very well known record guy, 636 00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:51,320 Speaker 2: he did the records for like mission A, Burma, et cetera. 637 00:39:52,080 --> 00:39:53,440 Speaker 2: I know he's going to be at this bar at 638 00:39:53,440 --> 00:39:56,839 Speaker 2: a certain time, and I spend an hour with him, 639 00:39:57,400 --> 00:40:00,919 Speaker 2: and I'm going to cultivate. I'm going to do that more. 640 00:40:00,920 --> 00:40:06,920 Speaker 2: I'm going to make more relationships that I can stop 641 00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:11,480 Speaker 2: off on these walks that really works for me and 642 00:40:11,520 --> 00:40:13,440 Speaker 2: maybe it's and it's it's something that you could do 643 00:40:13,480 --> 00:40:16,840 Speaker 2: as well. And I do like one on one walks 644 00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:20,440 Speaker 2: in the woods, like I do like Blue Hills. I 645 00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:22,440 Speaker 2: go out there with Craig Fitzgerald, who's going to be 646 00:40:22,440 --> 00:40:25,680 Speaker 2: our guest on Monday night, the car guy wonderful. Well, 647 00:40:25,719 --> 00:40:32,719 Speaker 2: spend three hours walking and talking. So you know that 648 00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:37,200 Speaker 2: how I outlined the problem nothing you know and probably 649 00:40:37,239 --> 00:40:40,239 Speaker 2: agree you can do things to counteract that and try 650 00:40:40,280 --> 00:40:43,839 Speaker 2: to be social. The more social you are, the more 651 00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:47,960 Speaker 2: you will hone your skills and try to do that 652 00:40:48,000 --> 00:40:53,279 Speaker 2: with your kids, because you know that's hopefully they'll just 653 00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:56,879 Speaker 2: get bored with the screen and at some point come 654 00:40:56,920 --> 00:41:02,240 Speaker 2: to rediscover this wild thing called hanging out in person. 655 00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:05,200 Speaker 2: I loved speaking with you guys. Thank you so much 656 00:41:05,200 --> 00:41:07,120 Speaker 2: for having me in for Dan today. Thank you to 657 00:41:07,200 --> 00:41:09,520 Speaker 2: Rob Brooks. Thank you to our guests, Michael Coin, Michael 658 00:41:09,560 --> 00:41:13,440 Speaker 2: Christopher Carter, Allen, et cetera. Had a great time. Tomorrow, 659 00:41:13,560 --> 00:41:17,880 Speaker 2: Chachi will be in Chachi Leprette from WBCN and more. 660 00:41:18,520 --> 00:41:20,520 Speaker 2: He is a Beatles expert and he's going to come 661 00:41:20,520 --> 00:41:24,279 Speaker 2: in because February is a huge Beatles month and it's 662 00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:26,759 Speaker 2: going to be Beatles, Beatles, Beatles for the first couple 663 00:41:26,800 --> 00:41:28,239 Speaker 2: of hours here on w be Zy