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Speaker 1: Maddie Damon Power of Recovery, as teased, are here in

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Speaker 1: the studio. What's up, gentlemen already know not much, Maddie.

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Speaker 1: I'm looking at you right now, and I see you

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Speaker 1: have a power of Hope sweatshirt on. Congrats on the

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Speaker 1: grand opening that I was not invited to. But it's okay.

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Speaker 2: Apparently he doesn't have social media. It's broken.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I know we're not really welcome. Did you

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Speaker 3: see that. I think there was several invice.

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Speaker 1: No, I saw a post of everyone celebrating at the facility.

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Speaker 2: So you didn't see the month and a half leading

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Speaker 1: So you just don't follow us. And I had my

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Speaker 4: Okay, So say that I wasn't paying attention, Maddie.

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Speaker 2: Sorry I missed you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, but it looked amazing.

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Speaker 2: I appreciate that.

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Speaker 3: I think we are the ones who should be offended.

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Speaker 3: To be honest, I believe he just didn't show up.

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Speaker 1: This is not true. See how it turned on you though,

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Speaker 1: But also, when can I get a power of hope

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Speaker 1: sweat I'm wearing my power of recovery.

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Speaker 3: Yeah you so fly in the flag man. We love that.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna have to bring one next month.

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Speaker 1: I get a lot of compliments on this sweatshirt that

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Speaker 1: that's a nice it's a really nice one. It fits

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Speaker 1: me good. I have like three different ones. This one

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Speaker 1: But I lost a little weight to the Okay, I've

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Speaker 5: Hard, guy, I haven't.

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Speaker 3: Then pepsides, you look fine, you look great. No, dude,

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Speaker 3: he's eating like a pig.

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Speaker 4: Man.

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Speaker 3: It's it's disgusting. Well you would know, yeah, I mean

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Speaker 1: Are you okay? Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Well somebody gotta eat breakfast.

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Speaker 1: Are you hitting the gym at least?

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Speaker 3: Dude, you're breaking up with these headphones?

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Speaker 3: No, dude, he's like you. He he's in conjunction. So

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Speaker 1: I fail that so much.

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Speaker 1: No, No, he's not had he never had meat, has

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Speaker 7: But I.

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Speaker 3: Have a new best friend, haha, Maddie.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm on the outs with I always find myself

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Speaker 1: so Power of Hope is open. It's a a adolescent

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Speaker 1: Yeah. The last time you were here, I think you

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Speaker 6: Love listening, have a good day.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he has to. He has to slide the lint

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Speaker 3: Dude. You can't do that. You can't do that.

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Speaker 1: I have my own corks. Damon probably has. Let's get Damon.

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Speaker 3: What's the number, so uh for power They're gonna call

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Speaker 9: Hi, justin you're doing a great job on your podcast.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I saved this question for when you guys were

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Speaker 1: Way, so damon. So people should know you have four kids?

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Speaker 3: Are they fourteen? I hope I get this right? Fourteen, nine,

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Speaker 3: job is to protect you, and right now I got

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00:18:30,920 --> 00:18:33,200
Speaker 3: to protect you from yourself. You're not making good decisions.

443
00:18:33,240 --> 00:18:35,520
Speaker 3: I took away a lot of his freedom with having

444
00:18:35,520 --> 00:18:37,520
Speaker 3: a cell phone and being able to go out and

445
00:18:37,520 --> 00:18:40,240
Speaker 3: and you know, told him that we'd be monitoring stuff

446
00:18:40,240 --> 00:18:43,240
Speaker 3: and wanted to provide him as much information as I could.

447
00:18:43,440 --> 00:18:46,440
Speaker 3: Myself and my wife are both in recovery, so we

448
00:18:46,480 --> 00:18:48,120
Speaker 3: told him he's a little bit behind the eight ball

449
00:18:48,160 --> 00:18:50,640
Speaker 3: when it comes to stuff like this that you know, uh,

450
00:18:50,680 --> 00:18:54,800
Speaker 3: he might be in a probably a potentially bad genetic

451
00:18:54,840 --> 00:18:57,840
Speaker 3: disposition being that where you know, everybody related to him

452
00:18:57,920 --> 00:19:00,399
Speaker 3: as a little bit of that in him. And and

453
00:19:00,440 --> 00:19:01,879
Speaker 3: then you know, I'll be honest with you. Is one

454
00:19:01,880 --> 00:19:03,159
Speaker 3: of the best things I could have done. Over the

455
00:19:03,200 --> 00:19:05,919
Speaker 3: next few weeks, I saw my son kind of return,

456
00:19:06,000 --> 00:19:07,760
Speaker 3: Like you know, he was a fourteen year ol kids

457
00:19:07,800 --> 00:19:09,439
Speaker 3: want to spend time around his family to begin with,

458
00:19:09,520 --> 00:19:12,760
Speaker 3: but he would either be out on his bike all

459
00:19:12,840 --> 00:19:14,720
Speaker 3: afternoon after he got home from school, which is cool,

460
00:19:14,760 --> 00:19:16,600
Speaker 3: but then he'd come home, go in his room, be

461
00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:18,400
Speaker 3: on his phone, come out for a meal, go back

462
00:19:18,440 --> 00:19:21,640
Speaker 3: to his room. We took all those things away from him,

463
00:19:21,720 --> 00:19:24,800
Speaker 3: and now he's like participating. He's being a big brother again,

464
00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:27,840
Speaker 3: he's a son. Like it's really it's really cool to watch.

465
00:19:27,880 --> 00:19:30,240
Speaker 3: So I think it was an error in our ways

466
00:19:30,240 --> 00:19:31,960
Speaker 3: that we didn't know until it was probably a little

467
00:19:32,000 --> 00:19:34,960
Speaker 3: bit too late, and that you know, kind of maintaining

468
00:19:35,119 --> 00:19:38,479
Speaker 3: some boundaries with some different freedoms that he had and

469
00:19:38,520 --> 00:19:40,720
Speaker 3: then when the conversation comes up, just inform and I'm like,

470
00:19:40,760 --> 00:19:43,159
Speaker 3: I told myself, dude, no matter what y'all gonna you

471
00:19:43,160 --> 00:19:45,600
Speaker 3: could still have friends at school. He's in high school, Like,

472
00:19:45,880 --> 00:19:47,840
Speaker 3: I'm sure there's other kids with weed pens in there.

473
00:19:47,880 --> 00:19:50,280
Speaker 3: There's there's other times he's gonna not be with us

474
00:19:50,320 --> 00:19:55,360
Speaker 3: that he's gonna have to make some decisions in those situations,

475
00:19:55,440 --> 00:19:58,360
Speaker 3: and and I'm hoping he has enough information and enough

476
00:19:58,400 --> 00:20:00,520
Speaker 3: way with all and strength to be able to to

477
00:20:00,600 --> 00:20:02,440
Speaker 3: make the right decision. And at the end of the day,

478
00:20:02,440 --> 00:20:04,679
Speaker 3: I don't honestly know if he's gonna be me either.

479
00:20:04,760 --> 00:20:06,919
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean he could. But here's the thing, right, Like,

480
00:20:07,240 --> 00:20:09,840
Speaker 1: I think that one of the best things we can

481
00:20:09,880 --> 00:20:12,639
Speaker 1: do for our kids is to be present. But on

482
00:20:12,680 --> 00:20:14,879
Speaker 1: the other hand, you know, you have four kids, if

483
00:20:14,920 --> 00:20:18,000
Speaker 1: you have multiple kids, even one kid, the bustle of life,

484
00:20:18,400 --> 00:20:20,600
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, You're very busy, so you're

485
00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:23,040
Speaker 1: present for your kids, but you can't watch everything that

486
00:20:23,080 --> 00:20:25,399
Speaker 1: they do, you know. And that's that's why when you

487
00:20:25,440 --> 00:20:27,080
Speaker 1: said that about maybe you should have done a better

488
00:20:27,160 --> 00:20:30,600
Speaker 1: job of, like whatever, catching it before it happened. You know,

489
00:20:30,640 --> 00:20:33,040
Speaker 1: I understand that because you know, days go by, you

490
00:20:33,040 --> 00:20:34,800
Speaker 1: know what I mean, and like, you know, you just

491
00:20:34,880 --> 00:20:37,040
Speaker 1: you try to keep track and then you know you

492
00:20:37,080 --> 00:20:38,960
Speaker 1: can't always keep track of everything they're doing. But I

493
00:20:39,000 --> 00:20:42,240
Speaker 1: wanted to ask, Damon, does he know your story, you

494
00:20:42,280 --> 00:20:45,639
Speaker 1: and your wife, your history? Yeah, how much of that

495
00:20:45,680 --> 00:20:46,440
Speaker 1: did you tell him?

496
00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:48,200
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't I don't really hide anything. I

497
00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:51,359
Speaker 3: don't think he knows specific details about about you know,

498
00:20:51,640 --> 00:20:53,880
Speaker 3: all this stuff, but he definitely knows without a doubt.

499
00:20:53,920 --> 00:20:57,640
Speaker 3: We have had conversations with them surrounding you know, our history,

500
00:20:57,800 --> 00:21:00,960
Speaker 3: hour story, and you know, how could how could you

501
00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:04,879
Speaker 3: know how that could potentially impact him. And again he

502
00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:07,160
Speaker 3: was informed and it's all real recent. He went from

503
00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:09,600
Speaker 3: you know, he never picked up a vape to to

504
00:21:10,160 --> 00:21:11,840
Speaker 3: you know, he had a vape and then he had

505
00:21:11,840 --> 00:21:13,560
Speaker 3: weed bends. So it's you know what I mean. It

506
00:21:13,640 --> 00:21:16,399
Speaker 3: was a quick transition for us, far faster than we

507
00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:19,600
Speaker 3: thought any of this stuff was was happening, was going

508
00:21:19,680 --> 00:21:20,040
Speaker 3: to happen.

509
00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:22,720
Speaker 1: But you remember these days, those days being young at school,

510
00:21:23,000 --> 00:21:24,000
Speaker 1: all all the kids.

511
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Speaker 3: The difference is, I told him, I said, when I

512
00:21:25,960 --> 00:21:27,600
Speaker 3: was a kid, we used to have that. We stunk

513
00:21:27,720 --> 00:21:30,840
Speaker 3: like weed. We didn't have edibles, we didn't have weed pens.

514
00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:33,000
Speaker 3: We didn't We had to make weed brownies in my

515
00:21:33,040 --> 00:21:35,320
Speaker 3: house to get edibles. Like there was no you know

516
00:21:35,359 --> 00:21:36,920
Speaker 3: what I mean. Like and I go ahead and try

517
00:21:36,920 --> 00:21:39,119
Speaker 3: and work that thing in a house where it's not allowed.

518
00:21:39,119 --> 00:21:41,639
Speaker 1: But you guys are vote kids, right, Both went to

519
00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:42,960
Speaker 1: the vote in Wakefield.

520
00:21:43,160 --> 00:21:43,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, sure do.

521
00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:47,080
Speaker 2: I went to eleven schools in twelve nice los.

522
00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:51,600
Speaker 1: I graduated from the garage in Malden School in the basement.

523
00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:54,840
Speaker 1: So my son is eight years old. I never I

524
00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:57,399
Speaker 1: had no plans on talking to him about my past.

525
00:21:57,480 --> 00:22:01,080
Speaker 1: And for a couple more years, but Uh. Some kid

526
00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:04,120
Speaker 1: in the neighborhood showed him my news thing that they

527
00:22:04,119 --> 00:22:07,960
Speaker 1: did on me, which was upsetting to me because you know,

528
00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:10,080
Speaker 1: it was nice. But he had some questions. So I

529
00:22:10,119 --> 00:22:11,199
Speaker 1: had a conversation with him.

530
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Speaker 5: That's how mine came out right around the same thing.

531
00:22:13,359 --> 00:22:16,159
Speaker 4: I never she had any My kids didn't know what

532
00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:18,000
Speaker 4: I did for work, none of that stuff.

533
00:22:18,480 --> 00:22:21,800
Speaker 2: They knew I helped people in houses. And then I

534
00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:24,120
Speaker 2: was on the That was the cover of the newspaper.

535
00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:26,639
Speaker 4: They showed a picture of me strung out and the

536
00:22:26,640 --> 00:22:27,480
Speaker 4: picture of me clean.

537
00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:29,200
Speaker 1: It's the same thing.

538
00:22:29,359 --> 00:22:32,880
Speaker 3: The writing said, nurse and a vicious heroin addiction.

539
00:22:33,080 --> 00:22:40,320
Speaker 10: Oh my god, what's jad Is he gonna die?

540
00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:40,760
Speaker 3: Well?

541
00:22:40,800 --> 00:22:42,000
Speaker 1: I know the picture. It's one of you.

542
00:22:43,600 --> 00:22:44,560
Speaker 3: It's fantastic.

543
00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:48,880
Speaker 4: Now, like they know that, I don't go into detail

544
00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:52,320
Speaker 4: on anything I did. Now he's a little older and

545
00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:56,919
Speaker 4: he wants a couple like risky stories, So like between

546
00:22:56,960 --> 00:22:58,800
Speaker 4: me and Michelle, will tell him a couple of stories.

547
00:22:58,800 --> 00:23:01,159
Speaker 4: But just like damon my two kids. I see the

548
00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:02,040
Speaker 4: isms all over.

549
00:23:02,640 --> 00:23:04,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, the one more kids one?

550
00:23:05,840 --> 00:23:08,320
Speaker 1: How about this one? You're doing something and not being

551
00:23:08,320 --> 00:23:08,840
Speaker 1: in the present.

552
00:23:09,080 --> 00:23:10,080
Speaker 2: They want to be somewhere else.

553
00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:10,480
Speaker 1: What's next?

554
00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:12,760
Speaker 2: O're the worst, the worst.

555
00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:16,439
Speaker 4: So, like I already see it, like it obviously scares

556
00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:19,359
Speaker 4: you to death. And if this woman calling in knows

557
00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:22,120
Speaker 4: little to nothing about addiction and this is what we

558
00:23:22,200 --> 00:23:25,480
Speaker 4: do and it's scaring us, imagine for a regular person.

559
00:23:25,600 --> 00:23:27,360
Speaker 4: So my advice would be.

560
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:30,360
Speaker 2: It's just education, education, education.

561
00:23:30,760 --> 00:23:34,480
Speaker 4: Saturday night, he's sleeping out my phone rings, it's ten thirty.

562
00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:40,120
Speaker 4: My son's thirteen. Here's the question, Dad, Yeah, painkiller is addictive.

563
00:23:41,040 --> 00:23:43,720
Speaker 4: I go, shit, yeah, And then I hear him tell

564
00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:47,520
Speaker 4: his buddy yelling I told you, I told you in

565
00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:51,160
Speaker 4: their research and his stuff, and tell them alcohols are drugs, right,

566
00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:53,119
Speaker 4: I go, yeah, drug?

567
00:23:53,920 --> 00:23:56,160
Speaker 5: He goes, I told you. I go, hey, he goes

568
00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:58,280
Speaker 5: what I go, so at sugar? Yeah, gony.

569
00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:03,960
Speaker 4: So like he educated on the fact, knock on wood.

570
00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:06,960
Speaker 4: I don't think he's done that yet. I know it's

571
00:24:06,960 --> 00:24:07,359
Speaker 4: a yet.

572
00:24:07,880 --> 00:24:09,840
Speaker 2: I'm not stupid. None of us are stupid.

573
00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:14,119
Speaker 4: Kids are gonna experiment, and just because they're experimenting don't

574
00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:16,840
Speaker 4: mean they're gonna end up homeless on the street like us.

575
00:24:16,880 --> 00:24:19,160
Speaker 3: Three Yeah, dude, And that's what I'm saying too about

576
00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:20,440
Speaker 3: my kid. At the end of the day, I think

577
00:24:20,480 --> 00:24:24,040
Speaker 3: he's in a toughest spot than other kids. But you know,

578
00:24:24,119 --> 00:24:28,440
Speaker 3: again diving in personally, I have a ton of nieces

579
00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:31,280
Speaker 3: and nephews and a bunch of my older nieces and nephews.

580
00:24:31,480 --> 00:24:36,360
Speaker 3: They recreate, Yeah, man, they don't. They live professional lives

581
00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:39,280
Speaker 3: and and good healthy lives. They get children they like,

582
00:24:39,560 --> 00:24:42,200
Speaker 3: and they drink a little bit. They might smoke a little.

583
00:24:41,960 --> 00:24:43,960
Speaker 5: Week and alcohol were made for you.

584
00:24:44,080 --> 00:24:46,439
Speaker 3: Yeah you know what I mean. Like so, you know,

585
00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:49,720
Speaker 3: but again some of that early intervention in the education.

586
00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:51,119
Speaker 3: No matter what, at the end of the day, as

587
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:54,159
Speaker 3: a parent, your kid is gonna be forced into some decisions.

588
00:24:54,680 --> 00:24:56,800
Speaker 3: And the best you can do, I think it is,

589
00:24:57,119 --> 00:24:59,920
Speaker 3: you know, being present and then also you know, making

590
00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:02,080
Speaker 3: sure that they don't feel uncomfortable coming to talk to

591
00:25:02,119 --> 00:25:04,760
Speaker 3: you like they you can't, I don't think personally. I

592
00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:06,199
Speaker 3: want my children to be able to come tell me

593
00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:09,159
Speaker 3: anything in their worst or best situation. I want to

594
00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:11,080
Speaker 3: be their first phone call, you know what I mean. So,

595
00:25:11,160 --> 00:25:13,399
Speaker 3: no matter what they don't like, oh my god, Dad's

596
00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:15,800
Speaker 3: gonna kill me, Oh my god, Ma's gonna come. I

597
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:17,399
Speaker 3: don't want any of my kids to think like that.

598
00:25:17,480 --> 00:25:19,000
Speaker 3: I want them to know, no matter what they're dealing

599
00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:21,199
Speaker 3: with their parents. Are the safe place we do.

600
00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:22,359
Speaker 2: We do the same thing.

601
00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:24,119
Speaker 1: Yeah, ye, open communications.

602
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:25,960
Speaker 2: I think he talks to my wife too much.

603
00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:29,159
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, what do you say. We had lunch and

604
00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:31,679
Speaker 3: meet him and and and his wife and you know,

605
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:34,639
Speaker 3: Michelle and his oldest and I was like, oh that

606
00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:36,000
Speaker 3: was yeah, that was that was fun.

607
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:38,480
Speaker 5: That was different because you're not used to coming from that.

608
00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:40,640
Speaker 2: I don't talk to my parents.

609
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:43,440
Speaker 3: I'm telling you, he's the kids, he's had kids. Mini

610
00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:47,360
Speaker 3: Maddie though, Dude, he's cracking jokes. He's he could wind

611
00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:50,560
Speaker 3: up being a stand up comedian and as a team dude,

612
00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:52,520
Speaker 3: justin hilarious.

613
00:25:52,600 --> 00:25:56,080
Speaker 1: Dude, is it interesting that you and your wife both

614
00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:58,480
Speaker 1: in recovery? Dame and your wife both in recovery? Me

615
00:25:58,560 --> 00:25:59,159
Speaker 1: and my wife?

616
00:25:59,240 --> 00:26:00,879
Speaker 2: Yeah, isn't that crazy?

617
00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:03,560
Speaker 5: Well, you go back to the statistics.

618
00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:07,720
Speaker 4: I think all statistics are bullshit because that's not supposed

619
00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:08,480
Speaker 4: to last either.

620
00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:08,840
Speaker 7: Yeah.

621
00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 2: So now it's sitting in this room. There's three of

622
00:26:11,359 --> 00:26:12,520
Speaker 2: us now the taro left.

623
00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:16,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, all three of clean today. All three have successful relationships.

624
00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:19,840
Speaker 4: So what bat in a thousand in this wild true?

625
00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:22,960
Speaker 3: Oh speaking? Which can we are we allowed to mention

626
00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:26,719
Speaker 3: that the missus got uh oh got one twenty one

627
00:26:26,760 --> 00:26:27,560
Speaker 3: years imagine?

628
00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:29,920
Speaker 1: Oh really wait hold let me do the math here. Okay,

629
00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:32,720
Speaker 1: So I was in a sola house with with Maddie's

630
00:26:32,760 --> 00:26:34,720
Speaker 1: wife twenty one years.

631
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:37,359
Speaker 3: Can we talk? Can we unpack that? Or don't know that?

632
00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:38,199
Speaker 4: So?

633
00:26:38,320 --> 00:26:41,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, because it was two thousand and five, we were

634
00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:45,000
Speaker 1: in the house together. Yeah, so I was in Okay, So.

635
00:26:44,560 --> 00:26:45,880
Speaker 3: So one of your stayed clean?

636
00:26:47,480 --> 00:26:51,120
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, so I was in jail. I got paroled

637
00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:53,840
Speaker 1: out to the Kingston House, which had a shelter.

638
00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:58,080
Speaker 3: Oh that's my spot case. Yeah, I love that place.

639
00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:00,399
Speaker 1: So then I was looking for solo houses to go in,

640
00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:02,639
Speaker 1: and in my head I was like, oh, I have

641
00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:06,040
Speaker 1: to go to the Link House or these houses that

642
00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:08,680
Speaker 1: were they had long waiting lists and you couldn't get

643
00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:11,439
Speaker 1: into right, And the only one that got accepted to

644
00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:15,440
Speaker 1: was the Ryan House, which is on Green Show and

645
00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:17,760
Speaker 1: not in the best area, right, but it was a

646
00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:20,080
Speaker 1: co head house house. So I thought I'm gonna go.

647
00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:22,480
Speaker 1: So I went and it did work for me. I

648
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:24,719
Speaker 1: did stay clean for a little while after that. But

649
00:27:25,119 --> 00:27:27,800
Speaker 1: when I went there, Michelle, who was Maddie's wife, was

650
00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:29,600
Speaker 1: there and she had been there for like three or

651
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:32,080
Speaker 1: four months and she fucking ran the house.

652
00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:35,520
Speaker 3: No, she was not a surprise, dude, she changed.

653
00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:38,880
Speaker 1: It was insane, Like I don't even like, no one

654
00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:39,439
Speaker 1: fucked with her.

655
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:39,760
Speaker 4: Dude.

656
00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:43,439
Speaker 3: She does not play when it comes to recovery. And

657
00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:46,680
Speaker 3: and that dude she's literally with me and him would

658
00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 3: just look up at her like, oh my god, like wow,

659
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:49,640
Speaker 3: Like I get.

660
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:51,200
Speaker 4: To take my hat off to her when it comes

661
00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:54,040
Speaker 4: to the recovery stuff. You know how we veer off

662
00:27:54,119 --> 00:27:56,639
Speaker 4: course every now and then, and you have recovery to

663
00:27:56,600 --> 00:27:57,359
Speaker 4: a roller coaster.

664
00:27:58,119 --> 00:27:58,639
Speaker 3: She don't know.

665
00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:01,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't miss noticeable.

666
00:28:01,720 --> 00:28:04,800
Speaker 3: She's the adult in relationships. She's the adult for all

667
00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:05,200
Speaker 3: of us.

668
00:28:05,320 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 1: Yeah. And she's also a fitness nut.

669
00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 3: Unbelievable dude.

670
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:11,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I follow on Instagram, Like she's in the

671
00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:14,520
Speaker 1: gym every morning, four am routine. Then she does a

672
00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:15,680
Speaker 1: walk later on in the day.

673
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:17,760
Speaker 3: Yes, I got a I got one hundreds. And she

674
00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:19,400
Speaker 3: can suppressed Maddie right now.

675
00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:20,440
Speaker 2: Oh definitely.

676
00:28:20,560 --> 00:28:22,719
Speaker 1: No, she's like for the people listening right now when

677
00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:26,760
Speaker 1: I say she's like, she's fucking ripped, just say what right, damon, dude,

678
00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:27,119
Speaker 1: she is.

679
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:29,399
Speaker 3: She's it's you know, not to get a little you know,

680
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:31,840
Speaker 3: uh hair, nothing, but she looks good.

681
00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:32,800
Speaker 2: He's about to step over.

682
00:28:32,880 --> 00:28:35,080
Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, she she does a lot of

683
00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:36,000
Speaker 3: work on her body.

684
00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:39,280
Speaker 1: She's beautiful. She's beautiful, but from a fitness standpoint. And

685
00:28:39,320 --> 00:28:42,040
Speaker 1: I did see yesterday. I think she was mail prepping

686
00:28:42,120 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 1: Maddie all of our meals. Yeahs, subs.

687
00:28:46,320 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 3: She would dude in a happy she'd jump right in

688
00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:51,040
Speaker 3: and dude, don't get me wrong, he'll do it himself.

689
00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:53,560
Speaker 3: She would do it too. But when he's ready, he's ready,

690
00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:56,680
Speaker 3: and he does it, but she doesn't. There's no what

691
00:28:56,800 --> 00:28:59,720
Speaker 3: he's doing right, there's no what any of the three

692
00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:02,600
Speaker 3: of us of like, oh, I'm having like an off

693
00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:04,800
Speaker 3: day with this. She's like, no, I'm having an off day.

694
00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:07,400
Speaker 3: I'm gonna go do more of this to make my

695
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:08,600
Speaker 3: to get better quicker.

696
00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 5: She has her cheatmails and stops and then that's it.

697
00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:14,680
Speaker 1: She's very controlled, very very focused. Yeah, dialed in, I

698
00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:16,680
Speaker 1: will say though that. So that was in two thousand

699
00:29:16,720 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 1: and five. She stayed clean. I ended up relapsing. I

700
00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:21,440
Speaker 1: got clean in two thousand and eight, but I didn't

701
00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:23,840
Speaker 1: see Michelle obviously. Now when I was in the Ryan

702
00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:26,800
Speaker 1: House with her, we know we weren't working out or whatever. Right,

703
00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:28,160
Speaker 1: I don't know how much she was in the fitness

704
00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:29,360
Speaker 1: back then. I mean you.

705
00:29:29,280 --> 00:29:31,520
Speaker 3: Were still a little unhealthy back then.

706
00:29:31,600 --> 00:29:33,800
Speaker 1: Oh, I was very unhealthy. But for her, I didn't

707
00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:35,880
Speaker 1: see her for many years after. And then what happened

708
00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 1: was years ago, like probably four or five years ago.

709
00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:41,120
Speaker 1: A friend of mine goes, remember Michelle from Ryan House

710
00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:43,080
Speaker 1: because he was there too. I go, yeah. He goes,

711
00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:46,040
Speaker 1: have you seen her lately? Because she married to Maddie Powers,

712
00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:48,520
Speaker 1: And I'm like, really pulled out the picture and showed me.

713
00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:50,959
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, like ripped.

714
00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:52,120
Speaker 2: I'm a lucky guy.

715
00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:53,440
Speaker 1: You're a lucky guy, Maddie.

716
00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:56,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're like people showing pictures of your wife.

717
00:29:57,200 --> 00:29:58,520
Speaker 2: See how he steps over them.

718
00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:04,480
Speaker 3: I'm saying, because she looks good to relax brow.

719
00:30:03,160 --> 00:30:05,440
Speaker 1: He's talking about but I like to look because I'm

720
00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:06,040
Speaker 1: into fitness.

721
00:30:06,120 --> 00:30:10,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, and gonna kill us.

722
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 1: All all right? So Power Recovery dot org for addiction stuff, right,

723
00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:20,200
Speaker 1: power of Hope.

724
00:30:20,600 --> 00:30:23,040
Speaker 3: It's power of Hope. M a dot com?

725
00:30:23,160 --> 00:30:24,760
Speaker 1: Oh don't forget the dot com?

726
00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:29,080
Speaker 3: Why I you'd be that's out of my pay range?

727
00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 1: Who designs that?

728
00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:36,120
Speaker 3: I I think she just left. Oh, honestly, I think, dude, honestly,

729
00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:38,560
Speaker 3: if you want to know the truth, when when we stopped,

730
00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:40,520
Speaker 3: we had no idea what we were doing when we

731
00:30:40,560 --> 00:30:43,280
Speaker 3: started Power for Recovery, dude, so we just like, oh,

732
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:45,160
Speaker 3: we need a dot org. Like we didn't know, dude.

733
00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 3: We just so one said, dude, dot org, and so

734
00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:48,080
Speaker 3: we did dot org.

735
00:30:48,120 --> 00:30:50,240
Speaker 2: I don't even know that. I don't even know it.

736
00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:56,040
Speaker 10: Wait, Matti, what's the Oh my hey, I swear to god,

737
00:30:56,120 --> 00:31:00,000
Speaker 10: he doesn't know the the the radio number, he doesn't

738
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 10: know the actual landline number isn't no.

739
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 3: It's fine. I listen justin. It's a strange things. He's yeah,

740
00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:12,480
Speaker 3: because because he is like like the brains like so

741
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:14,240
Speaker 3: it's tough to take that away. Like I have my

742
00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:17,840
Speaker 3: portion of the brains with stuff like remembering some things

743
00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 3: and good with numbers like and a few other things

744
00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:22,760
Speaker 3: like that I'm really good at like other stuff he's

745
00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:25,840
Speaker 3: he's fantastic at too. It's really what's like the dynamic

746
00:31:25,880 --> 00:31:29,680
Speaker 3: for us is really what's worked over the years. It's crazy, dude,

747
00:31:29,720 --> 00:31:30,000
Speaker 3: like he.

748
00:31:30,480 --> 00:31:31,240
Speaker 1: You guys are a great team.

749
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:33,600
Speaker 2: He got a great spell too much.

750
00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:36,680
Speaker 5: I don't know my where Semi colon goes I don't know.

751
00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:37,000
Speaker 7: No.

752
00:31:37,080 --> 00:31:39,040
Speaker 3: And and just so you guys know, in the beginning,

753
00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 3: the accounting that we did was Maddy would go, more

754
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:44,680
Speaker 3: has to come in than goes out and we'll be fine.

755
00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:48,720
Speaker 3: That is dow is our accounting its level to this day,

756
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:51,680
Speaker 3: my controller will go, I go, prove me wrong.

757
00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:54,479
Speaker 4: Yeah, let this business survive if more goes out then

758
00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:54,880
Speaker 4: comes in.

759
00:31:55,000 --> 00:31:57,040
Speaker 1: I mean it is true, it is true.

760
00:31:57,240 --> 00:31:59,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, But dude, honestly, I'll be honest with you, like

761
00:31:59,440 --> 00:32:01,680
Speaker 3: tip of the cat to the kid, Like he he spaces,

762
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:04,400
Speaker 3: he spends like every week and moment trying to figure

763
00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:06,800
Speaker 3: out how to like improve our system and to do

764
00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:08,920
Speaker 3: better and to do more for the people that are

765
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:11,600
Speaker 3: coming in the building. So like, honestly, without that, you know,

766
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:14,240
Speaker 3: we're nowhere. We're not Chelsea's house, We're not Power of

767
00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:17,320
Speaker 3: recovery're not powerful. None of that's going on without how

768
00:32:17,400 --> 00:32:20,840
Speaker 3: crazy his brain gets. It's frustrating at times because it's

769
00:32:20,880 --> 00:32:23,280
Speaker 3: like he'll at three in the morning he's texted me like, dude,

770
00:32:23,320 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 3: I just came up. I'm like, dude, go to bed,

771
00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:27,479
Speaker 3: Like what are you doing? But like you know, at

772
00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:29,760
Speaker 3: the end of the day, you know we're very fortunate

773
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:31,760
Speaker 3: and all the people, like he said, who's whose lives

774
00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:35,000
Speaker 3: we have a small touch and h super fortunate over

775
00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:35,959
Speaker 3: his craziness.

776
00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 1: I told you that. My wife years ago told me

777
00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 1: that one day she goes you know, she works in

778
00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:43,880
Speaker 1: addiction recovery, and she said it's well known for her

779
00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:46,360
Speaker 1: and the people that actually give a fuck that they

780
00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 1: always refer to power of Recovery. That's the one, like

781
00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:51,600
Speaker 1: everyone knows them, trust them. Becau, there's a lot of

782
00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:52,200
Speaker 1: ship bags out.

783
00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:53,320
Speaker 3: Oh dude, it's gross.

784
00:32:53,440 --> 00:32:54,360
Speaker 2: We have our fault.

785
00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:57,760
Speaker 4: I can guarantee you there's not a better staff in

786
00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:02,880
Speaker 4: the business. The people we have treating our people working

787
00:33:02,920 --> 00:33:05,680
Speaker 4: with us. It makes us able to go out and

788
00:33:05,680 --> 00:33:08,080
Speaker 4: do odd jobs. Like I told you my sponsors.

789
00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:10,400
Speaker 1: I know I was gonna say, you hired your own Yeah.

790
00:33:10,520 --> 00:33:11,240
Speaker 2: God damn right.

791
00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:15,880
Speaker 4: But the truth man, when somebody says, who's treating my kid,

792
00:33:16,160 --> 00:33:18,880
Speaker 4: the same person who's treating me, And I own the place,

793
00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:21,800
Speaker 4: So if his treatment's good enough for me.

794
00:33:21,960 --> 00:33:23,000
Speaker 2: It'll be good enough for him.

795
00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's right, you know.

796
00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:27,800
Speaker 4: Put your mind at ease. I know how people are

797
00:33:27,800 --> 00:33:30,400
Speaker 4: being treated right now. I know for a fact, So

798
00:33:30,600 --> 00:33:32,280
Speaker 4: I can come sit here and talk to you guys

799
00:33:32,320 --> 00:33:33,280
Speaker 4: game and can come sit here.

800
00:33:33,360 --> 00:33:35,680
Speaker 2: We don't have to be over everybody's shoulder. We can

801
00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:36,520
Speaker 2: go do what we do.

802
00:33:36,920 --> 00:33:39,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, And it's literally crazy, like every single person in

803
00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:41,920
Speaker 3: the building, like from people that are like essentially quote

804
00:33:42,000 --> 00:33:45,680
Speaker 3: unquote doing just billing stuff, like clients walking to their

805
00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 3: office and sit down and they wind up having like

806
00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:49,480
Speaker 3: a thirty minutes that they'll be sitting there at the

807
00:33:49,480 --> 00:33:51,200
Speaker 3: desk because they're having like a tough day, tough moment

808
00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:53,560
Speaker 3: and they connected with that person. And and we're so

809
00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:56,800
Speaker 3: fortunate to have those people working with us. Man, we're

810
00:33:56,920 --> 00:33:57,920
Speaker 3: just super us.

811
00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:00,320
Speaker 1: It's funny because remember when I first came to visit

812
00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:04,480
Speaker 1: and Revere to Power and it was before you you expanded,

813
00:34:04,880 --> 00:34:06,160
Speaker 1: and then you were like I remember you told me

814
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:07,720
Speaker 1: you like, yeah, we want to knock down this wall.

815
00:34:07,720 --> 00:34:09,640
Speaker 1: It's gonna be all this flour over here. And then

816
00:34:09,640 --> 00:34:13,120
Speaker 1: you did it. It's beautiful. So Power of Recovery is

817
00:34:13,160 --> 00:34:16,560
Speaker 1: a day center, day treatment center located in Revere, right

818
00:34:16,640 --> 00:34:19,880
Speaker 1: Damon Power Recovery dot org or what's the phone number.

819
00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:24,319
Speaker 3: It's eight five seven five six seven six ninety three

820
00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:25,720
Speaker 3: seven or fifty six Powers.

821
00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:28,960
Speaker 1: So anybody struggling, needs help, doesn't know what to do,

822
00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:31,480
Speaker 1: way to turn they can call yeah, okay. And then

823
00:34:31,480 --> 00:34:34,000
Speaker 1: you also have the sober houses. Is that something you

824
00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:34,440
Speaker 1: want to know?

825
00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:37,640
Speaker 2: It's yeah, that's our baby, that's where we started.

826
00:34:37,719 --> 00:34:38,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, how many do you own?

827
00:34:39,120 --> 00:34:43,920
Speaker 4: Thirteen and either open beds always or there's so many

828
00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:45,360
Speaker 4: beds and there's rotations.

829
00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:47,880
Speaker 2: People graduate and we get you right in.

830
00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:50,440
Speaker 5: Oh really we're full one percent of the time.

831
00:34:50,600 --> 00:34:50,759
Speaker 7: Yeah.

832
00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:54,400
Speaker 3: Yeah. Marie Santos is a intake coordinated that she's a

833
00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:57,560
Speaker 3: general manager. She's phenomenal, but she keeps the flow going

834
00:34:57,640 --> 00:35:00,400
Speaker 3: with all the beds. So it's definitely where console have

835
00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:03,160
Speaker 3: an applications and a wait list. But like Maddy said,

836
00:35:03,200 --> 00:35:05,440
Speaker 3: we have we have so many beds and his flips

837
00:35:05,480 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 3: throughout the week of people either graduating or unfortunately having

838
00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:11,080
Speaker 3: a restart the process that this beds open and she

839
00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:13,719
Speaker 3: manages it so well that you know, uh, we like

840
00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:15,239
Speaker 3: to have as much time as we can, but usually

841
00:35:15,239 --> 00:35:16,640
Speaker 3: within a week or two at the most, we have

842
00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:19,040
Speaker 3: somebody in a bed. And sometimes a lot of times.

843
00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:21,080
Speaker 5: If you call that day, sometimes you're in a bed.

844
00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:21,279
Speaker 7: Ye.

845
00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:23,720
Speaker 1: What do they call for that? Is that the same number?

846
00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:24,760
Speaker 3: No?

847
00:35:24,640 --> 00:35:27,279
Speaker 4: No, no, that one is seven eight one, six six

848
00:35:27,440 --> 00:35:30,879
Speaker 4: six three seven five fine ou.

849
00:35:31,880 --> 00:35:33,320
Speaker 1: Wait, so what numbers that?

850
00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:37,359
Speaker 4: That is Chelsea's house office number and I just happen

851
00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:38,880
Speaker 4: to remember it.

852
00:35:40,080 --> 00:35:41,480
Speaker 1: We take back everything we say.

853
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:42,400
Speaker 2: On let me do it again.

854
00:35:42,600 --> 00:35:46,560
Speaker 5: That is seven eight one six six six three seven

855
00:35:46,760 --> 00:35:47,319
Speaker 5: five two.

856
00:35:47,520 --> 00:35:49,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you gotta be careful because five three is

857
00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:49,719
Speaker 2: the fact.

858
00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:52,799
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, And if you want it's Chelsea's house dot

859
00:35:52,840 --> 00:35:54,520
Speaker 3: com if you want to go, we have an application

860
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:57,680
Speaker 3: process on there that you can do right online and

861
00:35:57,719 --> 00:35:59,239
Speaker 3: then you can call that phone number and talk to

862
00:35:59,400 --> 00:36:01,160
Speaker 3: Mari direct. We should manage all of it.

863
00:36:01,200 --> 00:36:02,920
Speaker 1: And that's the sober living yeah.

864
00:36:02,920 --> 00:36:07,200
Speaker 4: In that and I'm not being conceited. I'm not I'm

865
00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:10,640
Speaker 4: not doooting my own horn. I can guarantee you for

866
00:36:10,719 --> 00:36:13,560
Speaker 4: a fact, they're the best sober homes and.

867
00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:15,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I can, I can, I can back. I'm not

868
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:17,600
Speaker 1: just saying that because you're on my podcast and like

869
00:36:17,680 --> 00:36:20,160
Speaker 1: you know, we work together. That's well known in the

870
00:36:20,200 --> 00:36:24,200
Speaker 1: recovery world in New England. Power of Recovery, Chelsea's House,

871
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:27,960
Speaker 1: two great places, Yeah, fantastic and then lastly Power of Hope.

872
00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:29,960
Speaker 1: So you know we had that woman asked a question

873
00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:33,880
Speaker 1: about she called about her kids teenagers. So this is

874
00:36:33,960 --> 00:36:36,000
Speaker 1: kind of out of my realm. So this is more

875
00:36:36,040 --> 00:36:38,960
Speaker 1: for parents whose kids are struggling with mental health stuff,

876
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:41,520
Speaker 1: right damon. And so if they need help for that,

877
00:36:41,560 --> 00:36:42,160
Speaker 1: where do they go.

878
00:36:42,880 --> 00:36:44,759
Speaker 3: They're going to go to Power of Hope m A

879
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:46,840
Speaker 3: dot com.

880
00:36:46,880 --> 00:36:50,319
Speaker 1: Power of Hope m A dot com. Okay, and it

881
00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:53,359
Speaker 1: is a day center. Yeah, how does that work? So?

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Speaker 3: Okay? Yeah, let me give you a little brief quick

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Speaker 3: thing about that. So where is it? It's Massachusetts, and

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Speaker 3: so quickly like kids that are struggling, sometimes kids are

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Speaker 3: struggling to the point where they can't even be in school,

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Speaker 3: and so they can come there for the full days

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Speaker 3: from nine in the morning till you know, we're open

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Speaker 3: till six pm. The other thing is in the state

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Speaker 3: of Massachusetts, if you get two hours of schooling and

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Speaker 3: during the day, it's considered a full day. So for

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Speaker 3: parents that want to still have their kids take get

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Speaker 3: credit for the full day and still get some of

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Speaker 3: the assignments and some in person work, they can go

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Speaker 3: to school from nine to eleven thirty and then come

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Speaker 3: to us from twelve to six and then still for

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Speaker 3: the parents that would prefer the kid do the entire

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Speaker 3: day at school from nine to say, two thirty. They

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Speaker 3: can still come over to us from three to six.

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Speaker 1: Ah, I got you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so we get it all covered. Yeah, whatever, whatever

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Speaker 3: they need. We're just trying to source it to the

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Speaker 3: needs of each individual, just like any other call.

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Speaker 4: You talk to the ladies over there and they will

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Speaker 4: figure something out.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. But it's open, it's doing good.

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Speaker 2: Running, it's doing great. A lot of kids.

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Speaker 4: Man.

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Speaker 1: Wow, Okay, what's the next power of.

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Speaker 2: It's something, but we'll really yeah.

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Speaker 1: Okay, tell me off the air and when it comes

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Speaker 1: all right, gentlemen, thank you so much. Congrats on everything,

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Speaker 1: and we'll see you next month. Yes, we'll be Remember

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Speaker 1: if you have any questions or comments for the guys,

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Speaker 1: you can send them in. I will save them for January.

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Speaker 1: When you come back in. You can leave it talk

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Speaker 1: back on the after show because sore the guys will

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Speaker 1: love to hear from You's my.

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Speaker 4: Favorite part of the show. So cool, right, don't be

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Speaker 4: scared to call them and ask questions.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, questions, comments, anything you have for the guys,

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Speaker 1: send them in. I will talk tomorrow. What's tomorrow, Wednesday.

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Speaker 3: Something like that.

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Speaker 1: Tomorrow is Wednesday, that's our anniversary twenty Yeah, twenty one years.

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Speaker 1: You do something big for Michelle.

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Speaker 4: We'll We're going to match Coach for Kids Drive and

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Speaker 4: Revere Drift tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, coach another thing I'm not invited to. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I go.

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Speaker 3: I'm just it's eight o'click. It's like six or seven

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Speaker 3: at night. You're in bed, dude, Dude, I go to bed.

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Speaker 1: Seven.

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Speaker 5: We're going to dinner and then we're going to Coach

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Speaker 5: with Kids.

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Speaker 3: Magin invited me to the anniversary.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Dame's coming to anniversary dinner with me and my wife.

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Speaker 1: Oh really, well you want you know, it's a work wife.

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Speaker 1: He's like your work wife.

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Speaker 3: That's what I am.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Anyway, bye everybody, Bye bye