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Speaker 1: It's Marcus in the morning, and you know what we're doing.

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Speaker 1: It's a second date update. If you go on a

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Speaker 1: first date you get ghosted, you just call me. We

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Speaker 1: will call your date together and just convince them to

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Speaker 1: give you a second date.

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Speaker 2: Am I right? Ross, is this what we're doing.

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Speaker 3: I mean, that's what we're trying to do.

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Speaker 2: Rightly, we can make that happen.

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Speaker 4: Tell me all about Janelle, Like, what did you guys

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Speaker 4: do on your date? I know you met online.

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Speaker 3: I mean it was a really strong first date, Okay.

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Speaker 3: I met up at this Caribbean restaurant out in Oakland,

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Speaker 3: you know, near Lake Merritt, Okay. And it was the

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Speaker 3: perfect place because it was the kind of joint where

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Speaker 3: the music is playing is loud enough, but it's not

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Speaker 3: so loud that you can't have a conversation.

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Speaker 4: Sure, I'm sure the food was hitting too.

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Speaker 3: To the food we were we were at Jerk Hick

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Speaker 3: and Plantains. We had drum drinks, like everything was fire.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 3: But it was just like a great date. I mean,

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Speaker 3: she's really beautiful and we were just talking back and forth.

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Speaker 3: She has some great stories about working in tech, and

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Speaker 3: then she also volunteered with a local youth program, which

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Speaker 3: I thought was really cool. She just seemed like a

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Speaker 3: like a a great person here.

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Speaker 2: Sure, I get it.

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Speaker 3: There was a lot of laugh in which I thought

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Speaker 3: was a good sign.

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Speaker 2: How did it end? Did it end? Okay?

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Speaker 3: I mean like I might have lost because I thought

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Speaker 3: it was great and as at the end, you know,

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Speaker 3: we we took a little walk around Lake Merritt before

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Speaker 3: going home, and then she actually, you know, gave me

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Speaker 3: a hug at the end of the day, and I

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Speaker 3: thought that was cool. I thought that meant we were

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Speaker 3: on good terms.

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Speaker 4: And she's ghosted, like she's gone.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. The next day, I texted or nothing. I waited

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Speaker 3: another day not to just you know, keep I didn't

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Speaker 3: want to. Yeah, hit it with a ton of texts,

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Speaker 3: but I waited. The next day, texted or nothing.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, like I said, we're gonna call her. So

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Speaker 2: take a deep breath. It's gonna be all right. Ross.

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Speaker 4: You ready to call Janelle and see why she ghosted?

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Speaker 3: As ready as I'm ever gonna be.

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Speaker 4: Say, go ahead and meet your phone. Let's give her

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Speaker 4: a shout. Here we go.

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Speaker 1: Hello, Hi, I'm looking for Janelle. This is sure, Hi Janelle,

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Speaker 1: this is Marcus calling from Star one one three.

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Speaker 4: Good morning, Hi, good morning. Do you I don't suppose

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Speaker 4: you listened in the morning, do you?

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Speaker 5: I do not. I usually sleep it.

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: Hey, you know what, allow me to plug the podcast,

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Speaker 1: which you can listen to whenever you want on the

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Speaker 1: iheartratop set a preset for Marcus in the morning, please

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Speaker 1: and thank you.

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Speaker 4: Okay.

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Speaker 1: The reason I'm calling so we do a thing on

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Speaker 1: the show called second Date Update, and two people go

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Speaker 1: on a date. One person maybe ghosts, maybe not, And

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Speaker 1: so then the other person calls me, and then I'm

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Speaker 1: trying to figure out basically what they did wrong. And

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Speaker 1: I'm wondering if you have a second to talk about

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Speaker 1: your date with Ross, because he's feeling like you ghosted.

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying you did, maybe, I'm asking did you

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Speaker 1: ghost on Ross?

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Speaker 5: Okay? Wait? So Ross.

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Speaker 2: Me.

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Speaker 4: Yes, he'd been trying to get a home out.

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Speaker 5: Oh I didn't even okay wild did I? Yeah? I did?

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Speaker 5: I mean sure? Yeah. The honestly, like the end of

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Speaker 5: the day was so out of pocket.

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Speaker 1: Uh oh god, are we going to skip all the

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Speaker 1: good parts? How was it at the beginning?

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Speaker 5: It was good?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it was no, no, no, it was. It was that

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Speaker 5: was why the end was so weird. No, dinner was good,

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Speaker 5: moving out to this place by Lake Merrit, conversation was good.

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Speaker 5: He seems very smart and he's funny, and he he

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Speaker 5: was easy to talk to, So that part was great.

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Speaker 5: But the weird part was the second half when we

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Speaker 5: were walking around the lake.

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Speaker 4: How do you screw up a walk around Lake Merrit?

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Speaker 5: I don't know did he tell you did I don't

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Speaker 5: know how much information he gave you.

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Speaker 2: He didn't tell me much about I.

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Speaker 1: I mean, we talked about the food, and he thought

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Speaker 1: you were amazing, and then he said you went on

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Speaker 1: a walk around like Merrit.

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Speaker 4: And then that was really it.

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Speaker 1: And then he got a hug at the end and

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Speaker 1: now he's just now and now you're gone.

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Speaker 5: Okay. So we were walking and we passed this group

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Speaker 5: of street musicians, you know, like playing drums and buckets.

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Speaker 5: So this like little crowd had gathered. A couple of

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Speaker 5: people were dancing. I love that kind of stuff. I

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Speaker 5: think it's like such good energy. And so stopped to

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Speaker 5: watch and then I do not know what happened, but Ross,

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Speaker 5: I guess decided that this was like his moment to

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Speaker 5: shine this guy jumps into the open space where people

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Speaker 5: were dancing, mind you, and he starts what I think

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Speaker 5: he thought was break dancing.

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Speaker 4: What does that mean?

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Speaker 5: Break dancing? It? Did you watch you know that Australian

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Speaker 5: chick Reagan I think is.

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Speaker 4: From the Olympics.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, okay. Do you remember you remember how cringe

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Speaker 5: that was?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: It was worse than that.

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Speaker 4: Do you look like he was having a medical issue?

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Speaker 5: Yes, it looked like someone trying to remember I moved

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Speaker 5: from a YouTube tutorial from like ten years ago.

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Speaker 4: Sure.

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Speaker 5: It was like a two minutes two minutes of like

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Speaker 5: solo dance. At one point he tried to spit on

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Speaker 5: the ground and he didn't really like he didn't quite

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Speaker 5: finish the move, and he sort of just rolled onto

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Speaker 5: the pavement and then like popped up like it was

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Speaker 5: like you meant to do it. And meanwhile everyone has

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Speaker 5: stopped playing and dancing and they're just watching him, so

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Speaker 5: there's no there's no beat. And then he wraps up

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Speaker 5: and he bows and then he comes back over to

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Speaker 5: me like beaming.

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Speaker 4: Okay, and then what did you do in that moment?

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Speaker 4: Did you say something?

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Speaker 5: I just sort of smiled nicely. The ick hit me

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Speaker 5: so fast that I didn't really I didn't really know

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Speaker 4: Just was kind of like, well, he lets all that out.

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Speaker 1: So what I honestly, what i'd like to do now

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Speaker 1: is he's actually listening. That's part of oh good, yeah,

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Speaker 1: hopefully learning.

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Speaker 2: So Ross, are you there?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: You left all This phone call could have been a

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Speaker 4: lot shorter.

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Speaker 3: First off, I'm shocked. I don't that's why I'm being ghosted.

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Speaker 3: It was a fun, spontaneous moment. I don't even understand.

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Speaker 5: How do I God, no, I'm Spontaneity is awesome. I

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Speaker 5: love that. But there's you turn the just like peaceful,

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Speaker 5: really sweet walk into this weird like personal dance recital

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Speaker 5: moment and I don't know you made the band stop playing.

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Speaker 5: You know, they were doing their thing. You know, I

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Speaker 5: don't know that was weird.

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Speaker 3: I think you need to relax and quit being so uptight.

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Speaker 5: Okay, I think that you need a little more self awareness,

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Speaker 5: if we're being honest.

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Speaker 2: All right, So we've got some clarity here, Janelle. Is

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Speaker 2: there any shot for a second date?

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Speaker 5: Certainly not with that last comment, you know, honestly, like Ross,

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Speaker 5: I wish you well man, but that I know