1 00:00:00,280 --> 00:00:02,680 Speaker 1: You've got a seventeen year old who really wants to 2 00:00:02,720 --> 00:00:06,800 Speaker 1: meet his biological father. You have said that this guy 3 00:00:06,840 --> 00:00:08,480 Speaker 1: is a horrible guy in and out of prison. You're 4 00:00:08,480 --> 00:00:12,240 Speaker 1: not even sure if he's in prison right now. When 5 00:00:12,560 --> 00:00:15,800 Speaker 1: your son was two, you got remarried, so there is 6 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:18,919 Speaker 1: a man in his life who's been raising him a 7 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:23,720 Speaker 1: loving father. Leah, you don't want him to meet his 8 00:00:23,840 --> 00:00:29,320 Speaker 1: dad though, is real dad? He's trying hard, right, Oh yeah. 9 00:00:29,120 --> 00:00:32,360 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, he's trying. He really wants to meet him. 10 00:00:32,360 --> 00:00:37,520 Speaker 3: But yeah, the thing is, like this guy is exactly 11 00:00:37,720 --> 00:00:40,960 Speaker 3: what the last caller was saying, is that, like Jules, 12 00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:45,479 Speaker 3: I'm protecting I'm protecting my child because I know this 13 00:00:45,520 --> 00:00:49,760 Speaker 3: guy is never going to change. He's a horrible like 14 00:00:49,840 --> 00:00:51,480 Speaker 3: I don't want to use these words on the radio, 15 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:54,240 Speaker 3: but like he's a d bag. You know, he's like 16 00:00:54,320 --> 00:00:58,280 Speaker 3: a total disgusting He's done such awful things. 17 00:00:58,320 --> 00:01:00,880 Speaker 2: Like I can't put my child in that position. I 18 00:01:00,920 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 2: want to protect him. We'll save him from that. 19 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:08,959 Speaker 1: Yeah, So the question is, am I the a hole? Melissa? 20 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:11,000 Speaker 1: Which always sounds a little harsh. I feel like this 21 00:01:11,080 --> 00:01:14,160 Speaker 1: isn't like a hating thing though, it's just a name, 22 00:01:14,959 --> 00:01:19,280 Speaker 1: but Anyways, though, Melissa, it's are you is she is? 23 00:01:19,319 --> 00:01:20,520 Speaker 2: She not? And you say she is? 24 00:01:20,560 --> 00:01:21,120 Speaker 1: Why is that? 25 00:01:22,520 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 4: Because? You know? For me, my mom withheld who my 26 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:30,480 Speaker 4: father was from me, and she let me believe someone 27 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:33,640 Speaker 4: else was my father for almost forty years and she 28 00:01:33,840 --> 00:01:36,440 Speaker 4: just recently told me two months ago who. 29 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:37,480 Speaker 2: My real father is. 30 00:01:38,120 --> 00:01:42,360 Speaker 4: And as a child in the situation, it felt like 31 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:46,160 Speaker 4: I was robbed of knowing my rights of knowing where 32 00:01:46,160 --> 00:01:50,120 Speaker 4: I came from. I feel like we deserve to have 33 00:01:50,200 --> 00:01:53,520 Speaker 4: that choice. And I totally understand like where you're trying 34 00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:57,160 Speaker 4: to go with protecting him, but I agree with Jules, 35 00:01:57,160 --> 00:02:00,360 Speaker 4: like it's going to create resentment, It's going to kind 36 00:02:00,360 --> 00:02:03,320 Speaker 4: of damage your relationship you have with your son, you know. 37 00:02:03,600 --> 00:02:06,640 Speaker 4: I would say, maybe when he turns eighteen, give him 38 00:02:06,640 --> 00:02:10,120 Speaker 4: that information and allow him to figure it out on 39 00:02:10,200 --> 00:02:13,480 Speaker 4: his own. I obviously, if you're saying he's a bad person, 40 00:02:13,520 --> 00:02:16,720 Speaker 4: he's in and out of prison, I wouldn't be trustworthy 41 00:02:16,880 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 4: of his real father to say, oh, yeah, you can 42 00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:21,680 Speaker 4: have him and take him wherever, Like maybe a supervised 43 00:02:21,760 --> 00:02:25,720 Speaker 4: visit would be more appropriate in that situation. But as 44 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:28,399 Speaker 4: a child in the situation, I think he does deserve 45 00:02:28,520 --> 00:02:31,800 Speaker 4: to know and if he's asking you for that help, 46 00:02:31,840 --> 00:02:33,520 Speaker 4: you should definitely facilitate that. 47 00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:34,640 Speaker 2: And he's going to end. 48 00:02:34,600 --> 00:02:37,799 Speaker 4: Up doing it anyways without you, because there's so many 49 00:02:37,919 --> 00:02:41,680 Speaker 4: resources out there, like ancestry that people find these things 50 00:02:41,720 --> 00:02:45,440 Speaker 4: out on their own anyways. So whether, yeah, whether if 51 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:48,079 Speaker 4: you give him the information or not, he's going to 52 00:02:48,160 --> 00:02:50,839 Speaker 4: find it and if you don't give it to him, 53 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:52,320 Speaker 4: it's going to create resentment. 54 00:02:54,760 --> 00:02:57,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like it's a little different because he's 55 00:02:57,800 --> 00:02:59,040 Speaker 3: known his whole life. 56 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:02,000 Speaker 2: He's not you know that his dad is not his 57 00:03:02,120 --> 00:03:06,280 Speaker 2: real dad, his biological father is out there, you know, 58 00:03:06,400 --> 00:03:09,160 Speaker 2: so like it's only just become a problem. I feel 59 00:03:09,200 --> 00:03:11,400 Speaker 2: like he's just you know, being a teenager trying to 60 00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:14,320 Speaker 2: with Belle, I don't know, trying to be in. 61 00:03:15,400 --> 00:03:17,680 Speaker 4: I feel like maybe it might be a form of 62 00:03:17,760 --> 00:03:22,240 Speaker 4: curiosity and just wanting to know where he came exactly. 63 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:24,239 Speaker 5: He just wants to know his background when it comes 64 00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:24,880 Speaker 5: to that side. 65 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:27,400 Speaker 1: Of seme Melyssa. Thank you so much for calling in 66 00:03:27,440 --> 00:03:29,919 Speaker 1: and sharing your story. I want to hear more about you. 67 00:03:30,160 --> 00:03:32,520 Speaker 1: I always whenever anyone calls in, I just want to 68 00:03:32,520 --> 00:03:35,119 Speaker 1: interview him. I want to figure out more. Benji, who 69 00:03:35,160 --> 00:03:38,000 Speaker 1: I absolutely love Benji's always watching us on Twitch, which 70 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:41,480 Speaker 1: you can watch us live every morning search Joe Show Sucks. 71 00:03:41,520 --> 00:03:45,840 Speaker 1: Also on YouTube with Live with Joe Show. Benji, We've 72 00:03:45,880 --> 00:03:49,640 Speaker 1: got a mom who doesn't want her son to meet 73 00:03:49,960 --> 00:03:55,200 Speaker 1: her his biological father. What do you think I'm going. 74 00:03:55,160 --> 00:03:56,960 Speaker 5: To try to keep together you? This really hits home 75 00:03:57,000 --> 00:03:59,400 Speaker 5: for me. First of all, just like Julie said, I 76 00:03:59,400 --> 00:04:01,240 Speaker 5: would never I'm out of to try and protect her 77 00:04:01,280 --> 00:04:03,840 Speaker 5: child in ahole. So I don't think this should be 78 00:04:03,880 --> 00:04:05,960 Speaker 5: an NI to a whole segment should be and my 79 00:04:06,160 --> 00:04:10,400 Speaker 5: mother segment. But when I was four years old, my mother, 80 00:04:10,520 --> 00:04:14,520 Speaker 5: who was on drugs and alcohol and everything, took me 81 00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:18,480 Speaker 5: and my brother to a bar completely naked. My brother 82 00:04:18,520 --> 00:04:20,400 Speaker 5: and I were completely naked except for a T shirt. 83 00:04:20,760 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 5: She got arrested and then my father took us to Florida. 84 00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:27,719 Speaker 5: And now I've never met my mother since then. Twenty 85 00:04:27,760 --> 00:04:29,920 Speaker 5: five years later, well, when I was twelve, I tried 86 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:31,640 Speaker 5: to meet her, but he refused to let me know 87 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:34,800 Speaker 5: who she was, where she getting everything? Twenty five years 88 00:04:34,800 --> 00:04:37,960 Speaker 5: when I was about twenty five thirty. Sorry, I'm trying 89 00:04:38,000 --> 00:04:40,880 Speaker 5: to keep together here. I finally had the finances and 90 00:04:40,920 --> 00:04:42,480 Speaker 5: technology was where it was where I could try to 91 00:04:42,480 --> 00:04:44,599 Speaker 5: find her. By the time I found her, I found 92 00:04:44,640 --> 00:04:46,600 Speaker 5: out she had passed away. So that was the only 93 00:04:46,680 --> 00:04:51,520 Speaker 5: time I knew her is by a gravestone. So then 94 00:04:51,560 --> 00:04:53,520 Speaker 5: I reached out and realized I had two other brothers, 95 00:04:53,839 --> 00:04:56,359 Speaker 5: and well two brothers and the sister that I'm getting 96 00:04:56,360 --> 00:05:01,279 Speaker 5: to know him just now forty years later, So he 97 00:05:01,400 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 5: really needs to know his dad, regardless of it of a 98 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:06,880 Speaker 5: good meeting or not. They really need to connect. 99 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:08,440 Speaker 3: Wow. 100 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:14,359 Speaker 2: I mean, yeah that I'm sorry for your story like 101 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 2: that is that's really. 102 00:05:16,200 --> 00:05:20,400 Speaker 1: Awful, you know, Leah, I don't want you to make 103 00:05:20,720 --> 00:05:23,159 Speaker 1: a decision like change your mind per se. I know 104 00:05:23,200 --> 00:05:25,520 Speaker 1: that some people will say, well, listen, we need to 105 00:05:25,520 --> 00:05:28,080 Speaker 1: get some closure with this immediately. I don't think this 106 00:05:28,120 --> 00:05:32,480 Speaker 1: is immediacy type of thing, And I think this is 107 00:05:32,760 --> 00:05:36,599 Speaker 1: you know, Benji's life story is probably a good one 108 00:05:36,640 --> 00:05:39,560 Speaker 1: to end on, just so you could think about it 109 00:05:39,800 --> 00:05:40,160 Speaker 1: in the day. 110 00:05:40,160 --> 00:05:42,760 Speaker 2: It's yourself. Yeah, you know, I haven't thought about it 111 00:05:42,760 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 2: from that point of view at all, So that does 112 00:05:46,440 --> 00:05:47,599 Speaker 2: give me something to think about. 113 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:51,960 Speaker 1: Okay, all right, thank you, Thank you for trusting us 114 00:05:51,960 --> 00:05:54,920 Speaker 1: to call in, and we hopefully we'll talk to you soon. 115 00:05:54,960 --> 00:05:58,800 Speaker 2: Okay, Leah, all right, thanks so much, Benji. 116 00:05:58,839 --> 00:06:00,800 Speaker 1: I know that was a tough story to tell, but 117 00:06:00,839 --> 00:06:02,720 Speaker 1: I think that you got her. 118 00:06:03,120 --> 00:06:07,280 Speaker 5: You know, it takes as one person. I thought that. 119 00:06:07,360 --> 00:06:08,000 Speaker 5: Thanks guys. 120 00:06:09,400 --> 00:06:10,440 Speaker 1: How you feeling. 121 00:06:11,960 --> 00:06:16,839 Speaker 5: Uh uh pretty good? I mean, uh, tickets would be great. No, 122 00:06:16,920 --> 00:06:24,040 Speaker 5: I'm just I'm glad I could tell the story. I 123 00:06:24,480 --> 00:06:27,120 Speaker 5: hope that if, if, if it didn't change her mind, 124 00:06:27,160 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 5: somebody out there, it's mind. 125 00:06:28,279 --> 00:06:29,719 Speaker 2: Changed, Benji. 126 00:06:30,080 --> 00:06:32,440 Speaker 1: I love you, man, and I really do you. You 127 00:06:32,560 --> 00:06:34,480 Speaker 1: brighten up my day every time I see your name 128 00:06:34,560 --> 00:06:37,120 Speaker 1: on Twitch and we have some fun on there, so 129 00:06:37,680 --> 00:06:39,839 Speaker 1: you're the reason why. So thank you, buddy. 130 00:06:41,040 --> 00:06:41,880 Speaker 5: I have a good day, guys. 131 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:47,320 Speaker 2: You to love you, man, move on, see some moments 132 00:06:47,360 --> 00:06:50,560 Speaker 2: it's not it's not gonna be all sunshines and rainbows 133 00:06:50,600 --> 00:06:50,960 Speaker 2: in life. 134 00:06:51,720 --> 00:06:53,479 Speaker 1: No, I was gonna say, sometimes we're not talking about 135 00:06:53,480 --> 00:06:54,279 Speaker 1: like sex or. 136 00:06:58,440 --> 00:06:59,520 Speaker 2: Sex and for jokes. 137 00:06:59,600 --> 00:07:02,040 Speaker 1: Next, No, no, you're not next.