WEBVTT - 5 year plan on the first date?

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<v Speaker 1>Back with second date update. Literally trying to help you

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<v Speaker 1>find love. The more I talk to people about dating,

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<v Speaker 1>the more treacherous I hear that it is.

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<v Speaker 2>So we're here to help. If you go on a.

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<v Speaker 1>First date and let's say you're date ghosts, we will

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<v Speaker 1>call them with you on the line to try to

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<v Speaker 1>figure things out, see why they might have ghosted you.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, sometimes it works out in a second date.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's see if we can get that done for our

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<v Speaker 2>guy him. Are you there?

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<v Speaker 1>I am, Hey, Hey, so I want to hear all

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<v Speaker 1>about this date. Tell me about Eli. How'd you guys meet?

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<v Speaker 1>And then what'd you guys do for your first date?

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<v Speaker 2>All?

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<v Speaker 3>Right? Well, we we met on grinder, Okay, but it

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<v Speaker 3>wasn't an immediate meet.

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<v Speaker 2>We like, it wasn't like a right away.

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<v Speaker 3>We talked for a little bit and then we met

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<v Speaker 3>a couple of days later for tacos and margaritos.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, because correctly, if I'm wrong with like, grinder can

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<v Speaker 1>be immediate, right, it can be like sitting ten feet

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<v Speaker 1>to your left, let's go.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, pretty much that's what grind grinder usually Okay, but

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know. We we got to chat him and

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<v Speaker 3>we decided that we wanted to see if it would

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<v Speaker 3>be more than just kind.

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<v Speaker 2>Of a grinder slow play. How often does this happen?

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<v Speaker 2>Not very? Okay? So, how was the date?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean it was really it was really awesome when

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<v Speaker 3>we booked on musical theater and we both we both

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<v Speaker 3>cry at the last ten.

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<v Speaker 2>Minutes of so go, I mean, who doesn't, right?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? No, I thought he was really sweet and funny

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<v Speaker 3>and like he was really honest. We we really we

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<v Speaker 3>really had a lot to talk about.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Well, and he just ghosted, just gone.

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<v Speaker 3>He just ghosted. I haven't heard from him.

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<v Speaker 2>Huh.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, let's call him. I mean, that's why we're here.

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<v Speaker 1>We're gonna call him. We're gonna have you on the line.

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<v Speaker 3>Hello.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello, May I speak to Eli? Please? This is him Eli.

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<v Speaker 2>This is Marcus from Star one on one three iHeartRadio.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, what is the did I win a conscious with up?

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<v Speaker 2>You don't listen to the morning show?

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<v Speaker 4>Do you heavy? Now? And then? But not like often?

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<v Speaker 2>Not religiously.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, we're doing second date update right now? Does that

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<v Speaker 1>mean anything to you?

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<v Speaker 4>It does not.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So I got a call from a gentleman that you

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<v Speaker 1>went out with not too long ago, went out with

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<v Speaker 1>for for tacos, and his name's Hyman. He's saying that

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<v Speaker 1>you ghosted him, and I'm just calling kind of on

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<v Speaker 1>his behalf to try to figure out why if you

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<v Speaker 1>ghosted A and B, what happened?

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<v Speaker 2>Did you ghost?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah? I did?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, did he do something wrong?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, on it, I'll say this. The date was fun.

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<v Speaker 1>But because so here's here's what he told me. He

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<v Speaker 1>told me that, like and I wrote it again. He

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<v Speaker 1>told me that the date felt really honest.

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<v Speaker 4>So that's the problem. It was too honest. Like but

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<v Speaker 4>he was literally he was talking about like planning ahead,

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<v Speaker 4>like his few games. He gave me his five year plan,

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<v Speaker 4>and it was like when he meets the right guy,

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<v Speaker 4>he wants to get married. He wants to have like

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<v Speaker 4>a house in Berkeley, he wants two dogs, a share closet.

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<v Speaker 1>Like.

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<v Speaker 4>He was telling me all that before we ordered Keto,

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<v Speaker 4>and then he reached over and like touched my wrists

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<v Speaker 4>and said, I can tell you fall in love quickly

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<v Speaker 4>as well, and I'm like, no, I don't like I mean,

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<v Speaker 4>don't get me wrong. He was a nice guy. He's attractive.

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<v Speaker 4>Like the conversation was good, but like it was just intense,

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<v Speaker 4>like really intense. He kept correcting my spaniss like when

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<v Speaker 4>I was ordering something, he would like correct me, which

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<v Speaker 4>I thought was kind of annoying.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh I wasn't ask you if you thought that was annoying.

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<v Speaker 2>All right.

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<v Speaker 4>The first time was cut, but the second time I

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<v Speaker 4>was like, okay, I get it Spanish is my first

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<v Speaker 4>leg was like this is getting kind of a bit much.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, Okay, So basically like he was too fast, too furious,

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<v Speaker 1>kind of.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, like he was telling me about like what the

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<v Speaker 4>dog's names would be just a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>Sure here.

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<v Speaker 1>The thing about it is is that time is actually

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<v Speaker 1>listening right now. We'll try to use this as a

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<v Speaker 1>teachable moment. Sorry, I'd love to bring him on, if

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<v Speaker 1>that's okay?

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<v Speaker 3>Sure him?

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<v Speaker 2>Are you there?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? Hey? Hi?

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<v Speaker 1>So, uh you can see how this might be a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit accelerated, right, Yeah, I.

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<v Speaker 3>Mean, I mean I was joking kind of. I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, as I said, grinder is usually wham dam.

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<v Speaker 3>But since we were actually going on dates. I figured

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<v Speaker 3>it would be funny to joke about, Hey, we've done

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<v Speaker 3>the whole get grinder immediacy and now we're clearly ready

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<v Speaker 3>for a future together. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, I'm gonna be honest with you. It didn't

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<v Speaker 4>seem jokingly to me, Like it seemed like you were

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<v Speaker 4>just genuinely looking for like something more and I'm just

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<v Speaker 4>trying to have fun. I'm not looking at that road

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<v Speaker 4>down the road. I'm not looking for relationship or dating

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<v Speaker 4>or boyfriend or anything like you're on like a whole

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<v Speaker 4>other level. And I respect that you're honest about whatever

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<v Speaker 4>you're looking for, but I am not, in any way,

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<v Speaker 4>shape or form I'm looking for any type of commitment

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<v Speaker 4>or anything like that at all.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, I don't say that's too bad because I thought,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, if we were actually meeting up and having

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<v Speaker 3>a conversation instead of getting right to.

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<v Speaker 2>Make and stuff.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, sometimes I just want to get dinner, but

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<v Speaker 4>like I don't want to but you were really just

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<v Speaker 4>pushing it.

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<v Speaker 2>Man.

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<v Speaker 4>It just seems like you're really looking for that guy,

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<v Speaker 4>and I hope you find it, but it's just I

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<v Speaker 4>can't be.

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<v Speaker 2>That guy, right, Hang on, you guys hang on.

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